We are bombarded with so much info on social media that lead us to question our entire lives. Even when we make conscious efforts to not compare ourselves to others, once we see something that we’d potentially aspire to, our automatic thoughts is to question why we’re not there yet.
@leanaam.5385
Жыл бұрын
Well said dear!
@Not_yourMOM
Жыл бұрын
Facts!!! 👊🏾
@boma7960
Жыл бұрын
Yea, I’m in med school and live in an under developed complex that I cannot wait to be able to afford to move out of. An associate of mine who moved here at the same time I did recently moved out. She openly brags about this on social media which to me ofc I’m happy for her but it was a blow to my heart the way she was doing so. Anyway, I’m taking a break from social media. My life is real, can’t bother with the fake!
@stormyzee5272
Жыл бұрын
Well said, so so true 💯 😭
@essence____beauty_92
Жыл бұрын
💯💯💯 !!!!!!
@prettybrown6247
Жыл бұрын
Social media has brainwashed 95% of society and it’s sad. People have lost their individuality and are just way too influenced by aesthetic, having your body done, and being this baddie role. Nothing wrong with working a regular job and living your life for you. To me, social media isn’t sustainable and being a content creator/influencer is very up and down with the algorithms constantly changing. Be yourself and live life the way you see best fits. Falling into trends and trying to rush the course of your life will really make you lose yourself.
@13ikea
Жыл бұрын
Same everything. Tape ins, coffee, decor, jewelry, bags. There’s no originality on SM anymore.
@prettybrown6247
Жыл бұрын
@@13ikea Hell yeah like everybody real life does not live like this! 😂😂 It’s ridiculous. Im also tired of soft girl era, clean girl makeup, and feminine energy. Everybody is NOT spiritual and connected to their femininity like they try to portray.
@13ikea
Жыл бұрын
@@prettybrown6247 okay and mean af in real life.
@TheRgirl597
Жыл бұрын
You are so right, I cant agree more
@alyxbeats444
Жыл бұрын
Yes, I think that content creators can do 'too much' when they follow trends and their aesthetics. They can promote their viewers to have exactly the same life as them because they think that's what's best for them. Honestly do whatever you want, there's no point in following in everyone's step. i also think KZitem should be used with moderation so that people don't wake up everyday thinking they should do better, and better, and better and wondering why these KZitemrs are better. I love you all and hope you understand my message
@caseyjones1548
Жыл бұрын
I work out a couple times a week and only have 3 leggings, 2 sweats and a couple random t shirts. I was considering buying some more because I felt weird wearing the same gym fits every week. You made me realize it's normal and we go to the gym to sweat not to look good
@MsSavyy
Жыл бұрын
you're even better, I have one pair of old leggins and 1 pair of shoes, work out like 4 times a week :)
@KL-gv1rk
Жыл бұрын
Girl i keep mine in rotation too! I sweat in them and get gross.
@muahchelle21
Жыл бұрын
Don't feel bad, most of us have the same rotation but if you do get a few fits you can mix and match for the days when you need a boost or you feel really good and need to exude that confidence. It helps. Get everything on clearance, I don't spend more than $10 lol
@itsjustJemima
Жыл бұрын
OMG!! My thoughts exactly! I have been hosting live workouts on my channel and been feeling like I have to spend money to get more 'cute' outfits, just to make a statement but quickly talked my way out of that thought haha!
@NatalieeeJayna
Жыл бұрын
@@muahchelle21 princess diana wore the same outfit to the gym every day, you're just royalty 😎
@Seia894
Жыл бұрын
I got rid of most of my social media because it was effecting how I viewed my body so 7 months later I feel like a GIGANTIC weight has been taken off my chest. I interact with people who I want to and don’t need to compare myself with others. It’s great and I recommend it to everyone.
@mylucybenson12
Жыл бұрын
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@dave1T
Жыл бұрын
Damn insecurities. Sorry to hear.
@sirahhudson1826
Жыл бұрын
I got rid of Instagram 2 years ago and many if not most of my physical insecurities have disappeared. It’s only when you’re out of it so you realise how much of an impact it has
@youresinningtoo3996
Жыл бұрын
I feel this! I got rid of my social media, best decision ever, but even now sometimes I go back on social media randomly and it's crazy because I can feel the insecurities starting to come back. All these body/clothing/household item trends blow past us faster than most can afford, it's pointless. So grateful I have learned the strength and willpower to know to when step away and that it's probably heavily edited, and they've got thousands to spend on their body. It's so unrealistic, and we're real over here! 🎉
@simpsoniris
Жыл бұрын
Lucy, your video really hit home for me. Social media does set unrealistic standards, and it's easy to get swept up in that. It's important to create and share content that is genuine and not just for the 'gram. I've been using boost app social, and it helps a lot with keeping things creative and authentic, but still engaging. Cheers for sparking the discussion!
@davis.robert
Жыл бұрын
Been using it too. The story templates are just 👌. Good for when you want to switch things up a bit!
@sevennineteen9514
Жыл бұрын
I got off IG at the start of the year to take a break from it because Instagram in particular will flood you with advertisements and will really make you feel like you need things that you probably don’t even care to have. I wanted a break to figure out what I REALLY LIKE instead of being influenced by everything we’re constantly shown. IG is fun but sometimes you need a break to come back down to earth cause in real life people are normal af and to me that’s so much more relatable and just nice to see. Love this video ♥️
@MyLucyBenson
Жыл бұрын
Good for you sis. Whatever soothes your mental , i am proud of you ❤️
@adriana-jc6iv
Жыл бұрын
i've been taking a break since the new year too
@lotannaagbaegbu4238
Жыл бұрын
Same
@TC4loveandlife
Жыл бұрын
I barley even know how to talk anymore because of social media
@victoriababawale4942
Жыл бұрын
That IG app is not for the weak
@Afrodite96
Жыл бұрын
Yes! Please keep making videos like this. Luxury all the time is not affordable for everybody. I saw some influencers have a towel warmer in the bathroom after doing their luxury shower routines….. if you don’t throw that towel in the damn dryer and call it a day😂
@Randomperson16-q4j
Жыл бұрын
I can't lie a towel warmer sounds really nice. Especially in winter.
@UnconcealedCEO
Жыл бұрын
I screameddd!! 😂😂😂😂😂
@jazbrehaut
Жыл бұрын
My thing was, are y’all not already hot AF after getting out the shower?! Lol cause I be burning up. The last thing I need is for my towel to be even hotter.
@toyosi4541
Жыл бұрын
Towel warmers are actually quite common in the uk and aren’t a luxury things to us but it’s not common for us to have dryers 😭
@Afrodite96
Жыл бұрын
@@toyosi4541 haha wow! Thanks for sharing. Different parts of the world do have different ways of doing things and standards of living.
@tarahbruno3793
Жыл бұрын
This was a breath of fresh air! I’ve been off of SM for 4 years and will not look back! My life is precious and I refuse to lose myself over social media.
@RoseSimeus
Жыл бұрын
100% agreed with everything said! People look at me crazy when I say I don’t have TikTok. Everyone wants to just be a content creator it’s almost too much now! I love doing it as a hobby and love my stable 9-5 income. Great insight 😊
@Joy.W.
Жыл бұрын
Same, I deleted TikTok when people here in the US barely recognize it because I started to see the craziness and toxic side of it THAT early before it became viral and the craziness overload.
@historiqueafricaine
Жыл бұрын
I don't have tiktok, twitter or snap chat and I'm fine💯I use to have a personal ig but I felt like people were mostly spying/watching my every move rather than genuinely be happy for me or checking me out once in a while🙅it did affect me emotionally so I deleted it and kept an ig page for my passion (historical articles) and I'm happier👍 folks don't even know how to enjoy going out without taking pictures anymore and it's sad😕 over sharing isn't good from a spiritual perspective too (for all my fellow christians❤) people with negative/dark energy or who go visit medium/witch practitioner can literally save your picture or the picture of your spouse/kids to destroy you (it happened to countless of people)
@hereiam1041
Жыл бұрын
I don't have a tiktok either. It is quite refreshing tbh.
@naturallynadine5897
Жыл бұрын
I don’t have tik tok either, until I want to create content there. I have KZitem, Instagram and Facebook already. And Tik tok videos are shared on all three so 🤷♀️
@Diamond9ice
Жыл бұрын
I don’t have a TikTok too, and I refused to get it.
@csmithdfw
Жыл бұрын
I NEEDED to hear your comments on apartments. I'm over here looking for apartments based on aesthetics when NOBODY visits and NOTHING is being filmed. Girl, thank you for the reality check.
@KelanJ29534
Жыл бұрын
Quitting social media (Twitter, Instagram and Snapchat) was one of the best decisions I have made. My mental health has improved so much.
@toniacarroll1027
Жыл бұрын
me TOOO ❤
@BrieLani
Жыл бұрын
Same !
@true4585
Жыл бұрын
I’m not on social media like that-except KZitem (and even this app has me questioning at times), but oh weee, this video just changed my life. Thank you so much. You gave me a dose of reality. I was feeling really inadequate. Thank you so so much. Yes please make this a series! I would love it. It truly helps to regulate the mind in this age.
@mylucybenson12
Жыл бұрын
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@jennn348
Жыл бұрын
Same I only do KZitem
@today8488
Жыл бұрын
I understand, KZitem is social media and has a big influence, I have to be a bit more careful of how much time I spend on it and what I watch. Reels and comments can just introduce you to such weird spaces and ways of thinking (manosphere etc)
@NatalieeeJayna
Жыл бұрын
Girl I have been wondering why NO ONE has a 9-5 type job like me, this video made me feel so much better about myself I was wondering why I couldn't keep up with the girls online & even my friends my age doing the rigorous morning routines, time consuming workouts, I realized it was because these ladies online didn't have jobs away from home, & many of my friends haven't started working, as opposed to me who got into the workforce & college thing early
@itsbranna
Жыл бұрын
As a business owner social media was a huge help at first but now it’s becoming a burden because people just want content constantly and it’s tiring because I’m in business to be an esthetician not a content creator
@216flypearls
Жыл бұрын
Yea that’s a great point and the time it takes create the content… and is the outcome just for you to like and comment or actually purchase the service?
@Iquey
Жыл бұрын
I'm GLAD though because honestly I don't want every esthetician to be concerned with doing social media. I would rather they are focused on their profession and doing it skillfully and safely!!! I saw a local like Russian med spa near me has a TikTok channel and honestly some of their videos are concerning! 😬 Like one video this woman was doing microneedoing with a handheld pen shaped device and it looked like so much blood was coming out of the patients face and she was just smearing it around! I wouldn't want to be getting that done.
@tianna8462
Жыл бұрын
Definitely needed to hear this! Social media isn’t authentic anymore. As a young women it’s so draining to see how everyone’s living such “perfect” lives. This topic needs to be talked about more! Thank you. ❤
@skyedavie3927
Жыл бұрын
This was so refreshing. I was just talking about this with someone today. And I try remind myself that I’m doing the work and it’ll pay off. It definitely creates room for self doubt and instant gratification. It can be dangerous and draining if you don’t use social media with caution.
@InTrex00
Жыл бұрын
This vid was a literal touch grass moment. Sooooo needed, cause society, more importantly social media pressure. Thank you so much for making this, subconsciously it can make you feel less than
@frumpusnumpus
Жыл бұрын
One word: consumerism. Brought to you by the very generation that has the most to say about capitalism. Even those 'minimalist' aesthetic are expensive and over the top, but also bland. This whole nonsense can also be applied to relationships. Everything on the internet is so concentrated, that people take the same mentality to the real world. They keep seeing reels of men or women acting foolish online, then they use that same anger and mentality to treat random men and women in the real world any type of way, then wonder why they can't find their 'soulmate'. It's exhausting. We really all need to get off the internet and go touch grass. We need to stop over sharing. I will never understand the need to show and tell random strangers 'my shower routine every morning with 5 body scrubs, 6 moisturizers, 2 body oils'. You would think they are bathing a horse. I don't understand how people have time for all that. I am so angry and petty about this madness, that I have taken to clicking do not recommend on any 'influencer' that does this type of videos. I also like to watch a bit of hoarders or TLC after seeing those influencers be as unrealistic as possible. It brings me down to earth. 😂
@LoveAndSnapple
Жыл бұрын
Oh my gosh, yes! I guess so pissed off because they’re wasting water and you know that after the Second scrub and first moisturizer everything after that is just a waste of product. Especially those cleaning TikTok where people will toss in a whole bunch of cleaning products onto services that are already immaculately clean.
@christypassy
Жыл бұрын
The reason we don't see the traditional route (going to law school, med school, getting a degree etc.) of getting a career anymore getting pushed is because many people realized that it's not the only way to become successful. A lot of content creators make more money, get experiences that many with a 9-5 will provably never experience, so now nobody wants to do the 9-5. I am of the generation that truly regrets not jumping on social media from the start in my 20s because with 2 degrees and a 9-5, I cannot say I'm fully financially stable. And many people are like me.
@boop5287
Жыл бұрын
What isn’t shown also is how many people fail at social media and waste a ton of $$
@yougotgamesonyourphone6947
Жыл бұрын
It doesnt matter how early you joined social media. If you don’t have the look society wants or didn’t create content people don’t care to see, you would be still be in the same boat as you are in now. Not only that, but people are getting degrees in useless fields then wonder why they can’t find jobs anywhere. There are plenty of people making great money with 9-5s, folks are just trying to keep up with all these luxury influencers instead of just trying to be average.
@whenyouwishuponastar6643
Жыл бұрын
Saw a documentary style video talking about how so many influencers go into large amounts of debt trying to become a content creator. People also fail at that or can’t keep it up long term.
@vegannn7178
Жыл бұрын
People who are in tech and healthcare fields are definitely making more money than your average influencer so you’re definitely being fooled. If you choose to go to school and accepted debt then you need to go into a lucrative field
@ninagrace-lee8323
Жыл бұрын
Girl don’t be fooled at all. Used to be a content creator and it’s very hard to be successful. You have to be mainstream attractive (meaning, traditionally attractive but not too much to make everyone jealous of you). And you need $$ to make money. Companies only want to work with women of color who are already rich usually
@ngozichukwuneke7863
Жыл бұрын
My sister !!!!! the collection part almost had me in a chokehold... I used to blog about makeup and building a collection was damn expensive. Then came perfumes and the need to smell every fragrance. Omo, I had to mentally remind myself that I don't need more than 10 bottles to smell nice...... Instagram will magnify every fickle interest until you think you need to have everything to feel good about yourself.
@Themosunmoluwa
Жыл бұрын
That content creator part tho😂😅 Lucy you didn’t lie! Loved every part of this video, people are still thriving in their careers and jobs and that’s perfectly fine
@nietah325
Жыл бұрын
😂 true .like almost nothing for corporate career
@lotannaagbaegbu4238
Жыл бұрын
So apt! Just when I took an IG break, I’m now learning to sit with myself and figure out what parts of my life have been influenced by social media and what parts aren’t, slow and steady IG got me thinking I need everything 😂😫
@dualahazel5992
Жыл бұрын
The fun part ,9-5 is in the disguise of being sidelined but if you look well enough you'd realize even the "entrepreneurs" still need corporate workers. To me it's just the time for the word entrepreneur to shine and at some point corporate will shine too. It take turns
@ennythingelegance
Жыл бұрын
You’re so right. Exactly why I don’t even like to spend time on social media. Even created an anonymous account to only engage with accounts I actually want to learn from 😅😅 Originality and being true to ourselves is so important.😌
@naa.odo_
Жыл бұрын
I feel like social media, especially Instagram, has become about performance and not authenticity. I feel like TikTok is more “normal” and authentic and people can be themselves a bit more on there.. but sometimes it can be scary because I wonder how all of these pressures to fit in and all is affecting young children…Especially when they are so much into social media. We really need to remember that we all have our different journey, path and purpose that has been ordained by God. Life is not one size fits all
@miminaomi9844
Жыл бұрын
tiktok to me seems like its one of the least authentic social media apps hahah, filters galore, the algorithm only pushing certain people (who fit the western beauty standards and are wealthy) into the spotlight, fake morning and nightly routines, made up story times, etc. I work with children, and i can see first hand how tiktok affects them, it's scary fr. their attention span is so so low, they're mean (like really shallow), focused on aesthetics, looks and how people dress and lack empathy (probably because you can see really horrible things on tiktok and then just keep scrolling) etc : (
@ntsakisikopano
Жыл бұрын
@@miminaomi9844tiktok is worse😂😂😂😂😂
@miminaomi9844
Жыл бұрын
@@ntsakisikopano yess exactly I agree :')
@reeofsunshine92
Жыл бұрын
I was slowly starting to feel ick about my non aesthetic popcorn ceiling apartment until I watched this video. You have humbled me and reminded me what’s actually important in life. And what’s important to me right now is staying in my apartment, that is shockingly well priced bc rent in LA is no joke, continue to stack our cash and live my life until we buy a house. I will make the best of it! I am so grateful for everything I have because I remember what it felt like to have nothing. Social media is actually scary how it can manipulate our mind. Thank you for the reminder, I just subscribed! 😭❤️❤️❤️❤️ I also took a 6 month break from social media back in 2020 and it was the best thing I could’ve done for myself. I think im going to have to do it again
@kionawalker6880
Жыл бұрын
Ok I do believe that our clothes don’t have to be designer but fast fashion ain’t it👎🏾 just bc a shirt is $7 don’t mean it’s worth it. I’m almost never comfortable in fashion nova, shein or PLT…nobody wants to be pulling at their clothes all day bc they’re so cheaply made that it’s riding up or a button is about to pop. Not to mention if you wash it once it’s over with😂 So yes if that shirt or dress is $60-$100 and I like it I’m getting it. Invest in yourself ladies✨💅🏾
@tessy28
Жыл бұрын
Pretty little thing clothes are always awful. Badly made, cheap and bleach constantly.
@miminaomi9844
Жыл бұрын
I agree 1000%, and if you don't have the money to invest into sustainable brands, buy secondhand. theres so many options and you can always resell or give it to friends if it doesn't fit or isnt your style anymore. people who buy everything second hand always look the most cool and unique anyways imo
@ChampayneCole
Жыл бұрын
Many of these hot takes lead me to believe people are responding to the POV they see online VS actual friends + family. I've never seen or heard someone outside of the sphere of social media mention looking down on 9-5 jobs, brands, etc. A few "influencers" mention what they like or don't like & puppets follow. The same issues are just being recycled at an accelerated rate in new ways.
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Жыл бұрын
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@makeupboxfyi
Жыл бұрын
I REALLY appreciate this video! The topic of living having a normal 9-5 being deglamorized hits SO hard!! I love my company and don’t ever dream of leaving it for social media as a full time content creator. It’s a constant struggle in the beginning for making sure you give your audience what they want, but at the same time being true to yourself AND your budget🤭 You can get caught up really quickly but trying to live a persona online that is not real! Appreciate your take on this conversation 💗💗💗
@TheBanjoProject
Жыл бұрын
You are so right and touched on a lot of issues. Times are moving so fast that I fear for human mental health. The sad thing is the influence it is having on the younger generation.
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Жыл бұрын
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@olasubomiojo
Жыл бұрын
I love this video because of what it address…….I am tired of seeing those things on instagram especially. It makes me wonder what the next generation will be……there will be liars everywhere like 99%😮 I was also gonna ask you this question “ as a hair influencer, how do you dispose of the wigs you do not use?” Please film more of this series🎉🎉🎉🎉
@kemisjourney
Жыл бұрын
I love this series Lucy “it’s not the norm “ a lot of things are not the norm and you literally spoke the hearts of so many people and I am elated that you shook tables in this video .❤.Thank you.We all need to work on our mental continually cos we are all guilty of falling for these societal expectations.
@TassyMaee365
Жыл бұрын
I literally haven’t posted or been on IG in months. I work hard and I live an amazing life. If there is something that can make me question that I don’t need it in my life. Thanks for this video! Looking forward to the rest of the series!
@bigsisterology
Жыл бұрын
I’m so glad you mentioned about being a corporate woman and loving your 9-5 b/c I feel the same way I love my job and will never quit unless it makes sense for me to quit like if I get marry and my husband wants me to stay at home with the kids then yes, I will consider it but at least I know if I were to ever leave my 9-5 and come back my manager will not have an issue and will hire me on the spot. Also when it comes to hair, I am so happy I have locs. I get a retwist every two months and only spend $85 for wash and style. The luxury bags, I was never do it again. I remember buying a MK bag for $300 and I love it at first but then I regretted it like now why the heck I spent $300 on this purse and now I don’t have it anymore because I threw it away. I only want Aldo’s bag which I like better b/c they are close to luxury yet very affordable. As far as perfume, that’s something I would not mind spending b/c I love to smell good and normally receive compliments on my fragrances
@anarecinos1590
Жыл бұрын
Girl when you mentioned the insane amount of products from one category that content creators have, I was nodding along. I have thought about content creation for skincare but back out every time because of that fact. I don't want to have too many items of skincare. I have the few products I use too and would rather not put on my face products that may harm my skin.
@MsLashun
Жыл бұрын
I watched an influencer video of organizing her makeup collection; I was floored at the amount of products she had! She had more products than Ulta and Sephora! It was ridiculous
@Sephora_Sade
Жыл бұрын
@@MsLashun Does she ever throw any of it out?? Like..doesnt make up dry up after some time..
@MsLashun
Жыл бұрын
@@Sephora_Sade I would think so. She did say she give a lot of away to friends and family!
@crustycrabpizza4581
Жыл бұрын
you saying "they are recommending Dior blush?!" in the most perplexed tone was the reality check I needed
@Linda-dc7rl
Жыл бұрын
Great video Lucy! However I do think we are moving into an era where people are waking up to the illusion of social media. I would say that 10 years ago the jet set lifestyle was really held as the aspiration to strive for, however I see a slow shift happening where people are waking up. I think it’s because over the past decade so many have tried and failed as entrepreneurs/ influencers and have realised it’s not really as easy as it’s made out to be.
@simplyshetou
Жыл бұрын
Lucy Benson is the little voice in my head and I love it, I love you 😭 literally took words out of my head
@MyLucyBenson
Жыл бұрын
Sis lol🤣
@solomonvictoria5432
Жыл бұрын
You’re too wise Lucy,I’m never going to stop watching you,always anticipating your videos ❤
@AntonetteShay
Жыл бұрын
WELL SAIDDDDD UGH I LOVE THIS! I really think as people we have to subscribe to what we actually enjoy. I enjoy a mix of all things but there is nothing wrong with living in reality. Great video girl.
@Lifejourneyat47
Жыл бұрын
At 47, I don't have time for social media instead I'm taking care of myself.
@cheyennertanner
Жыл бұрын
THANK YOU! Some people need to know that it’s okay to not keep up with social media. I really appreciate this video!
@theraeexperience3756
Жыл бұрын
They literally put “luxury” on everything. I have a regular apartment but it’s decorated very nicely.
@mylucybenson12
Жыл бұрын
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@therealai777
Жыл бұрын
The bible was right when it said that in the last days people would become lover of self
@kasketbase8741
Жыл бұрын
In my adolescent years I substituted having a social life for looking up celeb/social media stuff. I did that because I wanted to understand the world around me and have something to talk about with my fellow peers, but was too shy to make conversation. I’m 18 and out of high school and I regret this. I didn’t live a normal adolescence since I didn’t make friends. I talked to people but I never had any actually friends except for one but after freshman year, she moved and I didn’t get her number. Point is, it’s better to go out and talk to people rather than make your whole life the internet
@CAI.DREAMS
Жыл бұрын
I feel this way. I didn’t most of my adolescent years on social media and I wish I didn’t.
@JodyMay05
Жыл бұрын
It's the spice jars and refill tik toks that kill me. Everything is in a glass jar
@mylucybenson12
Жыл бұрын
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@kathryncoursey8066
Жыл бұрын
Yes. Regarding gift-giving, we were struggling financially at the time, and a few friends were having baby showers in the same month. I couldn't afford anything more than a pacifier on any of their registries and didn't want to show up with just a pacifier. So I went to my local thrift store, and they had a sale on halo sleep sacks, which were on their registries and in great condition. I wrestled for a long time on whether or not it would be acceptible to bring something that was thrifted. I ended up buying the sleep sacks, washed them, and refreshed them (even ironed them!). My friends seemed very appreciative, and I ended up feeling pretty good about it afterward. Gifting thrifted items should be more socially acceptable.
@Jackiesdaughter84
Жыл бұрын
❤❤
@charlottelisewilliams
Жыл бұрын
I see people even leaving corporate jobs to be a content creator they just don't know that if they do not work there is no pay here😅
@Diastemakay_luxurybyestyle
Жыл бұрын
💯Well said, I believe contentment and having a healthy self esteem comes in handy once you know who you are and what's necessary and meant for you but most people choose to get carried away and ignore reality. ❤️Love your contents.
@Niqquesjunknjournals
Жыл бұрын
I really enjoyed this because we are getting to worked up with trying to be that girl when it’s totally fine just being you
@ie-hubconsult-tv5xp
Жыл бұрын
I can relate to the 9-5 life. As much as I love being a content creator and would love to have my business in future, I love being known as the 'corporate girl '. At least for the sake of experience. Thanks for this video though, I really love it❤️
@mylucybenson12
Жыл бұрын
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@reconnu3126
Жыл бұрын
Can you make a video talking about your current career and how you got there? Personally, I'm about to become an adult and hearing how various women are finding success is helping me understand what I should be aiming for. I'm sure that other audience members would find value in a video about your career as well. But of course, it is a bit of a personal topic, so I understand if you are not interested in it.
@pelumiadelaja
Жыл бұрын
Seconded @Lucy Benson
@eniola6082
Жыл бұрын
Thank you Lucy for this..... this social media tension has affected me like,I will just off my phone and start thinking about my life,it got to a stage that I had to go off social media for some time.... the pressure is just too much
@adriana-jc6iv
Жыл бұрын
i'm sorry but me personally i like variety so for the gym i like to have enough sets or gym clothes to rotate i don't like wearing the same thing constantly i like to switch it up and i just think it's cute not just because i see influencers on yt have it!
@QueenHan
Жыл бұрын
This is the best video I’ve ever watched. Don’t get me wrong I do enjoy some few luxury things and i just happen to be a content creator but one thing i pride myself is being my authentic self on my platform. The low exposure, matte black & beige aesthetic is not for me and it’s just not original. When i see people and their apartments are literally identical to other influencers & wake up make the same ice coffee / matcha etc it’s sad tbh
@Usergloria14
Жыл бұрын
This video was very much needed. Thank you so much for the clarification as it’s so easy to fall into that whole “lifestyle” everyone is portraying us to have. Loved the vid ❤
@boop5287
Жыл бұрын
This is how I feel with almost everyone on social media living in large luxury apartments. Especially in the US. Like sis that just doesn’t work for everyone! Especially when rent is so high
@Jessie_bernard
Жыл бұрын
You hit the nail on the head with this video 😂😂😂…..thank you for this video,can’t wait to watch the whole series ……especially the luxury part
@dave1T
Жыл бұрын
It's all comes down to HUMAN NATURE. we can't help comparing ourselves to others. We are naturally competitive. We are naturally envious. Social media is just social media. Neither good nor bad. It's just is. It's up to you to take personal responsibility for how you react to what you see. It's all about you not about what someone posted. Focus on your life.
@VhonieR
Жыл бұрын
we needed this, we losing touch with normality
@toyatee1077
Жыл бұрын
Yes! All of this! I closed my IG account and Deactivated my Fb to not lose my photos. On my birthday 2/1. Social media has been mentally draining. It is overly consumed with beauty and brands. It’s really sad. Folks are really living a facade and, making life altering decisions to please temporary people.
@LatoijaJ
Жыл бұрын
It is what it is. Get in, fit in or get out. I say if you’re lazy you’ll lose. If you complain get a job. It is what it is.
@bookwormchats
Жыл бұрын
10:50-13:19 I have to say, I'M SICK OF PEOPLE COMMENTING ON BODY SIZES! Hear me out, if someone has a bit more on they get criticised if you're skinny, like me, they get criticised. There is NO such thing as a perfect body. Being different isn't accepted much nowadays. Urgh it's unnecessary we need to love and accept ourselves. I'm working towards that and in doing so making sure I follow people like Lucy where I feel good, All I say is STOP FORCING PEOPLE TO LOOK A CERTAIN WAY! If you're not confident in your skin don't tear someone else down.
@Born_A_Star
Жыл бұрын
The funny part is also the influencers are under pressure to live the best luxury life. Some literally moved apartments every year because nothing is ever good enough
@mylucybenson12
Жыл бұрын
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@penelope_sunshine
Жыл бұрын
This is just like some women back then who aspired to be a housewife or a tailor but social pressure (like magazines showing what's power women in the 80s etc...) made them to doubt their "backward""abnormal" choices & work in the corporate world.
@nrmf
Жыл бұрын
Another thing about trends was peoples pseudo spirituality journey, or their perception of spirituality feels so delusional. And they own it with no shame, you see titles like “be delusional to get your desired reality” “your thoughts create your reality” blah blah blah… and NO, reality doesn’t always go your way and THATS OK! and from someone who has mental illness I’ve had to actively seperate myself from my thoughts and let go of the belief about what I thought my thinking means. It’s doesn’t mean anything or reflect my character and we need to collectively snap back to reality.
@mylucybenson12
Жыл бұрын
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@stephaniegermain2088
Жыл бұрын
Loved the video. I love makeup and i had to calm myself down on wanting 5 foundations at the same time and stressing out about not having the money to buy all of them😮💨
@Destinykatherina_
Жыл бұрын
I also feel like it’s not just about a matter of being able to afford it or not. Some people just prefer a more minimalist lifestyle and don’t want more “stuff” I don’t think the way someone shows how they live always has to tailor back to where they are financially. I love this video for sure 👌🏽
@euthanizemyself6972
Жыл бұрын
“Everybody dresses like influencers in the gym,” - period. I’ve never, and will never, spend money on gym clothes; I spend $$$Moneyyy$$$ on my night looks. When my friends invite me to the gym, I look a mess… I’m walking the treadmill in old loafers from high school bc IM NOT BUYING TENNIS SHOES-
@murielmoloney1043
Жыл бұрын
A lot of influencers are supported by the bank of mummy and daddy which they never never acknowledge
@Princessmiz
Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much, because I was feeling left out…
@PRETTYPINKZOEEE
Жыл бұрын
Wow. This is amazing this was meant for me to see! The main thing I have learned is that JUST BECAUSE I SEE IT ON MY SCREEN DOESN’T MEAN I HAVE TO BE THAT WAY! The fact that you say “ yes they have those collections because they are an influencer, they are dressed that way in the gym because they are making videos” that helped me a lot! I am not an influencer that is not my job lol I can be normal!!!!!!! A thing you did not mention but is HUUUGGEEEEE FOR MY AGE GROUP OF GEN-Z is University!!!! So many people think it’s worthless or we need to become entrepreneurs like work for ourselves at home somehow making money ! We have no representation of people with careers . We don’t watch lawyers doctors professors electricians plumbers service men corporate etc! We don’t see any of that ! It’s like those real world jobs aren’t shown in the media world so they don’t exist. Problem is we exist in the real world not the media world so when we get to college we are lost . We don’t know what to do!! Like mm yes becoming a veterinarian seems fun like I can be passionate about it but if I think everyone else is out having fun living “the life” I want to do that too and now pursuing veterinary medicine seems like a waste of my life. But no! It wouldn’t be ! I wish WORKING AND MAKING TOP DOLLARS FROM BEING EDUCATED AND TRAINED WAS NORMALIZED AGAIN! I feel like back in the day people who had luxury lifestyles were educated professionals . So yes they had the high-maintenance routines, designer or well dressed clothes , went out to nice places because they went to school young and worked for it! Nowadays it seems like we see so many young people who did not work for the money they have or lifestyle since social media paid them and so we also do not want to work because they don’t!!! It’s all really weird how we want to be like people online! Back in the day television was for entertainment and social media was for friends! The combination of the two has warped things and makes it hard to tell the difference between real life and online fantasy! Thanks for the video I lovedddddd it!
@Cherie0019
Жыл бұрын
I know this might be off topic but I love your top. It's giving skims. Plug?
@Themosunmoluwa
Жыл бұрын
Omg that skincare and makeup? Needed to be addressed... because! Whew
@MyLucyBenson
Жыл бұрын
Girl 😩
@Medicalmythsandmysteries
Жыл бұрын
Lucy you didn’t even talk about the biggest one- dating! And using men for money. My sister pls do a part 2
@lurismulla
Жыл бұрын
This is one of the realest vlogs I have heard in the longest time. You have just made me realise how influenced I have become by watching influencers on youtube. Don't get me wrong, I like nice things and like to live a good life, but you are right that we are being pressured to live a certain way to be accepted. Thank you for reminding me of REALITY.
@Rebelliousrefinement
Жыл бұрын
This is a great topic! I find myself just like so many others falling into the trap of scrolling and comparing all the time. I’ve tried deleting my social medias but I eventually come right back to it and then I’m right back to the scrolling and comparison game. It also doesn’t help there’s so much fakery on there raising the expectations that much more. It can be so toxic. Loved this video❤️
@Gooeybrowniebaby
Жыл бұрын
The bragging culture is toooo real. Fake AF and toxic as hell for people who are vulnerable. I used to scroll down and see freinds’ IG, thinking them got it susses. Husband, children, a happy family life. Then I got to know that many still have to ask their parents’ to pay for their children’s nursery. I’ll keep being child-free for the time being thanks.
@LatoyaClark
Жыл бұрын
Girl this is the conversation that needed to be had ! Social media is really a gift and curse . You have to use it strategically and try not to allow it to suck you in and turn you into someone you don’t recognize . Great video !
@britneybij3997
Жыл бұрын
None of this shit happens in New England, specially in RI where I live. Must be a west-coast and Florida thing
@foyinlolasworld6072
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing ☺️ a much needed video💕 Contentment is key if not we will just be giving ourselves unnecessary stress ,we should obviously aim higher not trying to become other people then in the process become a fake version of oneself
@gabigracee
Жыл бұрын
You know what I deleted Instagram and TikTok a few days ago and I can already see a difference 😂😅
@blaqdiva82
Жыл бұрын
Don't know how I landed here, but glad I stayed and watched it through. I agree with every point. I am over excess and 'doing too much' . We must all just relax. This is why most of us are one emergency away from financial ruin and gofund me funerals.
@mylucybenson12
Жыл бұрын
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@H.A.Tshabalala
Жыл бұрын
The gym part. Why are people wearing makeup in the gym??😭😭
@13ikea
Жыл бұрын
Social media has made ALL these things seem normal. I feel bad for Gen. Z I’m sure they’re feeling the most pressure growing up in the internet era.
@mylucybenson12
Жыл бұрын
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@Allaboutsarah28
Жыл бұрын
Hi Lucy thank you for this video I’m a shein babe My life now is all about if I can afford I get it if I can’t I look the other way I use to feel guilty to shop at shein,I always get in my head but for now I don’t care anymore I found out a way to get good quality stuff for an affordable price Alibaba,AliExpress, Amazon and Shein those are my go to and I’m satisfied with it Much love
@Allaboutsarah28
Жыл бұрын
Used to be easily influenced but now I’m not really interested I just pray to God to give me a life I can afford for me and my child
@mmia828
Жыл бұрын
You said this perfectly I had to delete tik tok because I got tired of the black girl luxury lifestyle videos popping up . These influencers are lying there a lot of influencers that do have 9 to 5s they just don’t say anything or they are turning tricks if you know what I’m saying which is their business. And then there are a lot that do make their money from influencing but I say a small amount . My advice is to delete social media and work on your self specially specially tik tok ( that app to me needs to be Ban ) or watch videos that you can relate to. I watch week in my life 9 to 5 because I can relate to that . Stop watching people you can’t relate to . And stop believing these people they are lying
@mimi_mavuso
Жыл бұрын
I relate to all this so bad , I had to differentiate between this facade and real life . I an content with who I am now and I love that for me
@queenofhorror29
Жыл бұрын
I think a lot of people in our society has made social media their whole world and they don’t value the real world as much. I don’t come from a wealthy background but I even see my own family members going “all out” like buying so much birthday gifts or Christmas gifts for their children and immediately posting it on social media. Meanwhile they were complaining about how they’re gonna afford gifts. We put social media on a pedestal to the point where we let it dictate how we live our lives and what we can and can’t show.
@aeiou0123
Жыл бұрын
I personally do not want expensive gifts from friends. It is ok from a lover but not from my friends. From friends I want you to show up for me when I am ill, need emotional n moral support. Those r more meaningful to me
@mylucybenson12
Жыл бұрын
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@GraceFidel
Жыл бұрын
Great content hun, the body part enhancement thing ehhh hummm is getting crazy in Nigeria I hope Africa is safe . The way we copy things ehh
@Atfirstlady
Жыл бұрын
You won’t see the cooperate side on social media because they’re too busy at work; if they’re on social media then it’s because they’re content creators as well.
@Nwakaego_
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video!!! Because me I’m tired!! E Don do!! Enough of this social media aesthetics life. Bring authenticity, being your own individual person, and originality back!!! Thank you for this video, Lucy!!
@divinechinye1513
Жыл бұрын
Someone needed to say this😩 and I'm so glad you did,nothing is normal in this world anymore Much love Lucy😘
@oluchiprecious27
Жыл бұрын
Sis.... I'll be truthful, this video made me subscribe to your channel. Thank you for your honesty Much love ❤️❤️❤️
@ray83baby
Жыл бұрын
Can we talk about clean Tok, Clean IG? Some these folks have all the cleaning gadgets? How many vaccums does 1 house need? I got carried away with skincare and my skin was so messed up. Now if I can't find my skin care product in walmart/amazon/ target. Forget it.
@guardianoftheduat
Жыл бұрын
Fun fact loreal make up has the same formulation as Chanel make up
@naomibagshaw1427
Жыл бұрын
Thank you Lucy cos I really needed this. Sometimes I feel like I need too many stuffs especially hairs and clothes to fit into a particular shit! 😂😂😂. Please keep making these videos. God bless you
@b.raedani7692
Жыл бұрын
You not lying. I'm a youtuber myself and I feel so insecure posting my content and not getting views because I don't post what people dim as normal... Which is unrealistic exceptions that society puts on us because of social media.
@myraclejoy
Жыл бұрын
This topic is one that needs to be talked about more ! So glad I found this type of video. Social media definitely has it good and bad !! But for sure being on social media can warp your perception dramatically
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Жыл бұрын
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