Betrayal Trauma After Narcissistic Abuse: www.emotionalabuserecovery.com/livevent
@survivorjourney
2 ай бұрын
Stuck in trauma bond.. 😢😢
@m.e.l9482
2 ай бұрын
Is there a recording of this by any chance?
@dandelionofjudah5302
3 ай бұрын
Pay attention to the way life feels so lonely with them...thats a telltale sign.
@baisalimitra4865
3 ай бұрын
My god, you are so right 👌👌👌
@Healing_Oaks
2 ай бұрын
Yesssss
@anithakonreddy4698
2 ай бұрын
Exactly in a nutshell
@jacquelinemarie1078
15 күн бұрын
That's the truth!!!
@monanaheed1333
14 күн бұрын
Dam right
@a.williams9
3 ай бұрын
The fact that narcissists overly play being "nice, kind and helpful" is to bait you. They're awkwardly invasive wanting to know everything about you to use it against you later. Everything they do has an agenda. "Think the worst and you'll be certain" always works with them. Never trust them but your own self. Thank you, Danish 🙏🏻
@priyamadhoo7266
2 ай бұрын
Exactly...They so fake.
@elkebanhart7045
2 күн бұрын
Very well said, exactly 🙏👍💪🙋
@davashorb6116
3 ай бұрын
I grew up with narcissists and had to learn awareness and resistance much later.
@finster1968
2 ай бұрын
Yes! Same here. My father was a textbook narcissist. It left me with some emotional scars, but at least I healed and learned very early on in my 20’s how to spot them a mile away.
@PassionateFlower
3 ай бұрын
How to lose a narcissist in 10 seconds or less: Act completely indifferent and apathetic to anything they say or do. They feed off your emotions. "You're so emotional! You don't even care at all do you?! Why are you so angry?! You never loved me! I don't have time for your feelings! You think you've got problems?! You're not listening to me! Everything is always all about you, what about me?! You don't even care how I'm feeling! I need to get some sleep! I don't have time for this right now! You're so sensitive! You're not fun anymore! Please stop harassing me leave me alone, you're crazy! You tricked me! You're nothing like the person I first met! You're fake! You're a liar! You don't know what love is!" It's all bait. All of it.
@lc4972
3 ай бұрын
"I'm tired of your feelings!". "Is not all about you!". As I was thinking it's actuality supposed to be my relationship too!!!! Was awful 13 years. Now married to a wonderful guy where none of these things are an issue!!!! They are out there. But have to sort through many haystacks to find that needle!!!!
@roseinharlem8152
3 ай бұрын
The way you are so spot on is frightening.. this is demonic.
@777lucifero
2 ай бұрын
The problem is, that comes when you're already involved.
@LauraSchendel-ko1qk
5 күн бұрын
@@lc4972 Seems more like a hay field than a hay stack! FunnyNotFunny!
@Lucky-tl9vn
3 ай бұрын
It is very rare to find genuine kind people these days, its a scary world, majority of the people are jekyll & hyde
@VisibleTimes
28 күн бұрын
But when you honestly examine yourself, what do you find?
@samiXharb
2 ай бұрын
You mentioned staring…it’s so darn true. I remember this stare, it feels like they are invading your soul through your eyes. Studying every single reaction and dilation of your pupils.
@Lyrielonwind
3 ай бұрын
Here is a topic; how to detect and avoid induced conversation. I have noticed they show up or approach you very nicely to in some way reject you. For instance, they will ask you how you are or how were your holidays to leave or interrupt you when you are answering and leave you in the middle of the first sentence. Thanks, Danish. ❤
@myopietaz1260
2 ай бұрын
Correct. And then ask what were you saying? 😂
@luminyam6145
3 ай бұрын
You are so right about this. They cannot help their controlling nature.
@samcarrs
3 ай бұрын
I am a NARCHOUND . I can smell them a mile away.
@SpikeLover1863
3 ай бұрын
Hopefully more and more people will be able to sniff them out when they find Danish's videos.
@phoenixrisin2269
3 ай бұрын
Be careful; DPD, NPD, BPD, HPD, covert, intellectual, and malignant all present differently. Although they eventually exhibit the similar behaviors on a spectrum, they all wear different masks.
@MC4EXPLOSIVE
3 ай бұрын
Can I borrow your nose?😂
@debra8883
3 ай бұрын
Wow, yeah can I borrow your mind, too?
@debra8883
3 ай бұрын
@@MC4EXPLOSIVE too cut for such a sad situation, Glad that you can laugh about it now.
@mallariculp3551
3 ай бұрын
That look is unmistakeable. They don’t blink. They don’t have a smile or scowl. They just stare intently, like a tiger that thinks he’s spotted movement, but isn’t yet hunting. They are studying you to look for a weakness. Normal people give them a pass, and when your eyes meet, might give them a smile to relieve that mild discomfort. You’ve caught them, and their smile return is a second or two too slow. Just run.
@thrasher2753
2 ай бұрын
Yup. The night my female narc used sex as a weapon, she gave me this odd "come hither" stare. It was as if she was peering into my soul and knew she could provide what i wanted. Sure enough. The devaluation stage happened a few days after we had sex.
@amitk2017ak
3 ай бұрын
Omg, I thought it was just me, I didn't know this was a thing! Thanks for validating this.
@PreetSingh-dj4un
3 ай бұрын
Leaving Narcassist is the only option.
@BeardedGuy_Tawhid
2 ай бұрын
I don’t want to go into details but I can relate to how hard dealing with narcissists and selfish or crazy people can be. Let’s just say my family are.. very difficult and hard to bear except for a few.. but most of the good ones are all passed away now. I have God and He is sufficient for me, I give Him all my complaints and ask Him to guide and save the errant I know. We are only here to be tested and to worship Him alone without partners.. anything we have or have achieved is only by His mercy and provision.
@halhelmboldt7739
3 ай бұрын
I am glad you made this video. It has been difficult for me to put my finger on what is taking place with helping a woman who is caught up in a horrific abusive marriage. Her husband broke the arms of three of their children, locks her in the house, takes her phone away from her, rapes her, yells at her, stalks her... and she has been emotionally beaten down for 20 years of this abuse. Yet, there is another person who is trying to "help her" (a female "friend") who has been triggering terrible unnerving feelings inside me that tells me she is a "flying monkey" who really doesn't have this poor abused woman's best interest at heart. My gut is telling me she is undermining the escape process, messing with the mind of this abused woman as though she is protecting the abusive husband, instead. It is very uncomfortable to consider this is likely true, and I don't know how to expose her true motive, whatever it is. She is very clever, but I have caught her in half-truth's and on several occasions she avoids questions I ask her by changing the subject. She told me that she remains in contact with the abusive husband because she is "playing him" to gain information on him that she can use to manipulate him more... for the sake of this horribly abused woman's "benefit." What I sense is a triangulated situation where the poor abused woman is being secretly exploited and set up for more ongoing abuse. I don't understand what the motive is. I don't understand the "flying monkey" pay-off to deliberately manipulate a woman who is suffering at the hands of an abusive overt narcissistic monster. Moreover, I don't know how to intercede to expose this flying monkey and her motive, or her real connection with the husband. I think there might be a hidden relationship between the flying monkey and the abused woman's husband. But I can't expose it. I don't know how to do it. So, I stand back and watch what is happening as I try to gain as much information as I can in an attempt to crack open this flying monkey's true motives. It's a mess. The police have already been involved several times. The husband already ended up in jail once. But his abused wife turned around and bailed him out immediately after he was arrested. I'm at a loss with this situation. But your video definitely struck an instinct inside me that correlates with what you describe. I don't know how to help this poor woman anymore.
@Groundwater24
3 ай бұрын
Get her to watch some of these vids and warn her about this other woman. If she’s wanting help, then she will reach out. If she doesn’t take your advice and keeps her around. Then you need to look after yourself brother.
@halhelmboldt7739
3 ай бұрын
@@Groundwater24 Thank you. I know you're correct. It's painful.
@GingerLemley
3 ай бұрын
This is exactly what it feels like! Very accurately described.
@yourbodyandu
3 ай бұрын
Thank you. Hindsight is 20/20.
@nikkid1038
3 ай бұрын
Ur so right!!! That look!!! I always wondered why my mother and older sister were LAWAYS staring at me. Then they hurry n look away. I’ve mentioned that my entire life. Super creepy!!!!
@nmHispana
3 ай бұрын
They are paranoid and accuse you of doing something your not even doing, then from way over there they disrespect and instigate a fight with you, so when you defend yourself and challenge them back what do they do? Still from way over and because they are so mature, they are throwing you the middle finger, while telling you to shut the f up, then run off like cowards to go call the police to accuse you of this ridiculous thing that they have absolutely no proof of you doing. It's also absolutely mind boggling that these chorizos don't have more important things to do and a good thing that there's security cameras capturing it all.
@gessrinky9129
3 ай бұрын
My narc MIL. I can definitely resonate with the pressure feeling. She’s ALWAYS telling us what to do. “Go walk the dog. Go play a game. Go do this. Go do that” while she sits on her ass. She’s also extremely judgmental. I tense up immediately being around her.
@brettdean-v5z
3 ай бұрын
Great lesson Darnish! Thank you
@tamarasanders5264
3 ай бұрын
Got it. Thank you very much. I'm out of my Narc relationship
@EvaCFricke
3 ай бұрын
Around covert narcissist you feel something but can't pinpoint what they're doing.
@judiezell4306
3 ай бұрын
All I've learned is watch their eyes 👀 Then I'm gone!!
@francesbernard2445
3 ай бұрын
The first time I met first narcissist who duped me was at a college open house demonstration while I was in highschool at the time. It was when he was saying that his electronic device was not working at the time while asking if anyone present could figure out why. I right away told him what might be the reason as to why it was not working at the time. Which may have been only a ruse. Then only weeks later he showed up at the restaraunt nearby our high school where another classmate of mine introduced me to him by name. I didn't add up all that until much later when he was attempting to destroy my life while trying to take the assets I had helped him build on an acereage sectioned off of my uncles farmland in what is called now this metropolis called Edmonton, Alberta Canada.
@lorrainemarcone6912
3 ай бұрын
When I’m with a narcissist I don’t react to their triggers. I make a joke about whatever they hope will hurt me and show them that I don’t take them or their point of view seriously. Laugh at them. They usually think you’re laughing “with” them. Nope! And then you win
@zenawarrior7442
2 ай бұрын
Best one yet thank you. Feeling into your body first, the control, all about them etc. What is on your finger lol
@muddyshoesgardener
3 ай бұрын
Narco- meter. Priceless!
@VisibleTimes
28 күн бұрын
Born to the creatures, although didn't know what it was until recently. Always knew something was off but family denied it. Later encountered in workplace and last in a dating arrangement.
@ErickSande-hb1kd
2 ай бұрын
Amazing and insightful 🙏
@ravensthatflywiththenightm7319
2 ай бұрын
Just discovered your channel. Subscribed!
@BenBuda
3 ай бұрын
My horses wanted to trample the narcissist
@SpikeLover1863
3 ай бұрын
Animal's instincts are never wrong. If your horse (dog or cat) doesn't like someone, you shouldn't either!
@sandrathomas2893
3 ай бұрын
My cats would attack and bite my narc Mom but nobody else. Lol She'd tell me how I should get rid of them 🤣
@cyndi8783
3 ай бұрын
You described my experience exactly!
@deepaligupta9753
13 күн бұрын
The personality is that of Dr. Jekyll . With the whole world he remains as Mr. Hyde
@ginevragali2981
2 ай бұрын
Wouldn’t it be nice if someone invented a little device that you could wear on your finger that could detect Narcissists? We could call it “the Narcometer”!🤳🏽 Kidding aside, Mr. Bashir, thank you for your very comprehensive description of a narcissist’s personality!
@DaughterOfTheKingdom16
3 ай бұрын
I wish narcs werent so attracted to me now im Survivor of npd abuse for decades and didnt even know because im an empath and i never had overt narcissists but the vulnerable covert narcissists
@payalrc123
2 ай бұрын
My FIL look as if the predators you mentioned when I used to have my lunch . I used to get the feel but ignore. That what my mistake and got hit badly
@jenniferp5996
2 ай бұрын
What type is the one who completely IGNORES You in a room. Even a spouse or partner? but they want to be with you so they say.
@lightsinthesky2627
2 ай бұрын
Malignant Narcissist. The closest one to a psychopath.
@Cucurigu813
2 ай бұрын
Superb
@AlexandertheGreat-y7p
2 ай бұрын
My gf and her dad act exactly like this.
@theresaelizabethelijah117
3 ай бұрын
Oh yes you are so right Danish I'm actually dealing with a female narcissist, every time we have an appointment she projects and when she's done she would call me "a princess " I'm dealing with her since 2021 I always knew something is off with her but I couldn't put a finger on it bcuz she was very subtle with her toxic behavior and in 2021 I had just discovered the narcissist personality so I wasn't educated well. But this year I could finally see behind the mask 😮 she would project her BS on me then call me "a princess "at first I was confused 😕 but then I relaxed bcuz I know she is a narcissist and she has no idea that iam aware of her toxic behavior. I've to cooperate with her in a business situation but now that I know who she it's very easy for me to manipulate her and when am done with mine business I will drop her like a hot potato 🥔 😂
@benjuneau
2 ай бұрын
although some things you say are insightful (you used the word 'vampire' - I've always thought of this word when I met someone who was trying to live off me) - on the other hand, I'm wondering if you're Machiavellian yourself - you seem to be encouraging everyone to trust no one !!!
@rodahmusyoka831
3 ай бұрын
Thankyou so much ❤
@Freekoismus
3 ай бұрын
But it's much more than 10 seconds sometimes
@PaXeGo
3 ай бұрын
XD actually how strong is that clip of that microphone ? ^.^ looks kinda uncomfy :D
@TeboasticJockseraphen111
3 ай бұрын
🫦"Insatiable 🤑depravity" is what i sense ,with close contact🗣️😱
@enikobenak5783
3 ай бұрын
My biggest red flag is, when you're on you're on your own you love yourself, and when you're with a narc you're insecure...you should never ever feel insecure when you're in love! That person doesn't deserve your love! Please run for the hills while you can and never look back!🙏
@RavenMoon1989z
3 ай бұрын
Yup
@lilu6766
3 ай бұрын
Great comment. Thank you!
@wandahastings8470
3 ай бұрын
I tried running for the hills. He just lives down the street unfortunately and kept bugging me on my phone and wanting to stop by. He used any excuse 😭 I wish he would move away.
@enikobenak5783
3 ай бұрын
Yep, I'm still working with mine, and they are bullying me with my narc boss hand in hand. I'm in the middle of a huge fight having to spend all my free time writing emails after emails trying to prove my right, because they are the best at looking the best. And although they've got nothing on me, it's still very daunting having to explain myself for something I haven't done and all the bullying I've been putting up with in the past few years. I just want to do my job, and you just want to live your life! I guess we both learnt our lesson for life. I wish you the best and that you'll find a way out of this impossible situation one day...hopefully sooner than later 🙏
@enikobenak5783
3 ай бұрын
@@wandahastings8470 And yeah, ultimately it's too late for us, hence we've ended up here trying to help those who can still be helped while we're picking up the pieces for our mistakes. 😔
@Jason-Moon
3 ай бұрын
Sadly, there's no doubt in my mind that narcissism is now the norm in the society I live in (USA).
@joymarie3326
3 ай бұрын
Agreed, even my church is 90% narcissists. My son came into large service & he said everyone looks so mean & nasty, why are they in church if they’re adults. I told him they think it’s a get out of jail / hell free card 😅
@daniell9129
3 ай бұрын
So true. And it's only getting worse. I feel for the up and coming generations.
@suparnasaha1869
3 ай бұрын
Not only in your country..Bro… it is in every country….. in every society… n in many many homes.. where one is being manipulated randomly by a narcissistic personality…. who is satiating his or her narcissistic demands , rage n attitudes…!!
@Jason-Moon
3 ай бұрын
@@suparnasaha1869 I've done plenty of traveling, and your comment rings true. I hope the human race can evolve beyond lust for selfish dominance into love of ourselves and each other before we destroy ourselves completely. Humanity has been dividing into groups and attacking itself since before recorded history. It's high time to develop our conscience.
@judiezell4306
3 ай бұрын
@@joymarie3326 I can't remember the exact verse in the Bible but God is warning His People to get out of the our churches asap. My people will perish from lack of knowledge. No church building is required for Salvation. Plus all churches are controlled by the Roman Catholic Church. If you want to add anything? Please do! God bless and have a blessed day 😊♥️😇🙏
@nickf2170
3 ай бұрын
Tell them "No". Narcs have a viseral reaction to the word NO. Second best way is give them silence, while maintaining a lock on eye contact.
@joseenoel8093
3 ай бұрын
Yup told mine no to popping out second one so soon, it didn't work, didn't even get an orgasm out of it, nothing new there!
@KJDogluv
3 ай бұрын
Agree
@InvisibleWarrior279
3 ай бұрын
💯 no one should be that upset about you expressing a boundary ..
@Lyrielonwind
3 ай бұрын
I have read that it's best to smile when you say no. I don't know why seems to bother them more.
@Me_di
3 ай бұрын
I agree
@julibear2329
3 ай бұрын
The stare is a big sign! It feels creepy...like it makes your skin crawl. That's the best way I can describe it.
@bellakrinkle9381
3 ай бұрын
Yes, especially when he's across the room, and a stranger! Like they cruise the room looking for some naive female to take his bait. Being young is challenging unless you can protect yourself with the 6 MONYH RULE...🤔😵😳😦😂
@Dollsteak69
2 ай бұрын
The state combined with the smirk.
@IsabellaPiesch
2 ай бұрын
Dead stare (like sharks have).
@thrasher2753
2 ай бұрын
Yes. She gave me this odd stare and come hither look that nobody ever has done to me.
@VisibleTimes
28 күн бұрын
Creepy staring for long periods of time.
@helpinyerdasellavon
3 ай бұрын
Also praise someone else in front of the narcissist and see what happens 😅
@carolynbennett2735
3 ай бұрын
Fireworks and not in a good way!!!
@karlareadstheclassics217
3 ай бұрын
YES!!! I've seen a grown ass man become visibly uncomfortable when someone was praising a skill that a CHILD had. It was sick!!
@celiajames600
3 ай бұрын
This is a good one 😂
@BubbyorBubs
3 ай бұрын
Oh absolutely! My former coworker she would have a literal tantrum at work if someone asked me how was my vacation! Folks look at her like she crazy. One coworker told her about her self and she still had a tantrum. Selfish woman who has so much but is empty.
@prophet1782
2 ай бұрын
@@carolynbennett2735 Or Complete Silence ! !!
@RhondaPorter-y1p
3 ай бұрын
Also if you feel the need to defend yourself, or defend what you say~run!
@geraldinebyrnes3298
3 ай бұрын
Exactly and keep running never look back
@tanialeslie1807
3 ай бұрын
❤ yes I agree 💯I have made a comment in the heat of the moment that was my truth , (I actually apologized for it , and as I wouldn't/didn't justify why I said what I said) Omg the tantrum that happened, from them and the discard of me 😂🥳🥳🥳🥳 yahoo 😆🎉freedom 🤣) thought well yep that's nice ,gotch ya 😂😂 I count that rejection as gods protection 💯🙏
@husqrok
3 ай бұрын
@@geraldinebyrnes3298this is properly introduced. The no looking back, there's a big reason why the leaving took place, it takes a lot to leave. Do not feed the wolf...
@ll-cu9db
3 ай бұрын
This exact situation happened to me yesterday! The Lord answered my prayers and set me free.@@tanialeslie1807
@nmHispana
3 ай бұрын
Yes, because they are always paranoid instigators accusing you of something ridiculous that you are not even doing and because they believe themselves to be a badass whose entitled to be disrespectful the moment challenged is when they run off like cowards to call police and accuse you without proof like they did with me yesterday afternoon.
@janedoe5229
3 ай бұрын
I live in a small town. There are a couple people in town, who, when they show up, everyone runs. These people are VERY nice, and seem harmless, but they are angling for something, either now or later, and those who have known them for a while, don't mess with them any more. They run. They can't put their finger on it, but I think they are covert narcissists.
@heathermixson1265
3 ай бұрын
Never discredit your intuition
@amyperry3671
3 ай бұрын
After surviving a 43-year relationship with a narcissist before, I finally Left, after two children, and a lifetime of pain and suffering, I really wish this was stuff that was taught in high school. I wish there were classes for young people, not just relying on friends, family, whatever. If there were relationship classes, it would help to alleviate so many miserable relationships. If my kids were younger and unmarried, I would shut them down and make them watch, read, learn about red flags for narcissism, trauma, bonding, all of the things to look out for so that they could be happy in their relationships.
@debprobst330
3 ай бұрын
Same if I'd known this information in my 20s I could have saved myself from a lot of abuse.... I'm 62 now better late than never 😊
@priyankasingh-mq2mv
3 ай бұрын
Same here 😢
@CalebManCity
3 ай бұрын
Totally agree, there needs to be more awareness in schools and for parents to educate their children on these types of toxic people. Prevention is better than cure. Once I get my life back on track I’m going to somehow lobby for this for the UK.
@klejjxd
3 ай бұрын
I am really glad and thankful that i'm only 25 and already out of my almost 8 years of on and off relationship with my narc ex and that i had the priviledge of going to therapy (because i am borderline but i also learned a lot about narcissism there) and that i have an aunt who is a psychologist that i can talk to about everything. For a long time i thought that if im honest and have good morals then everybody is kinda the same... Oh boy i was so wrong. Now i can also wish every victim of any abuse will finally be free and happy and spread my knowledge and experiences with my friends and other people on my way so that they can be more aware and wont waste any time more with predatory people with masks on their faces. I really wish you all the best, no matter how old are you, you deserve it!
@klejjxd
3 ай бұрын
It is really sad we have to educate ourselves on the most important topic in our lives: emotions and relationships. It is awesome that we have internet nowadays, but still, most of the people dont even care to read anything that would definitely help and better their lives. Also, not everybody have access to these info. But we all know that schools dont teach us what is really important in life and its super sad
@blaa1
3 ай бұрын
and then survivors are called indecisive when they just feel pressured into doing something that is only an advantage to the narc and not for themselves
@Lyrielonwind
3 ай бұрын
Because they want you to get their bait. They accuse you of being a coward. They do it often to make you feel like a fool in front of others.
@Deannaa100
3 ай бұрын
The narcissist definitely acts possessed, like a demon
@ekdaufin1485
3 ай бұрын
Yes, unfortunately that can only be seen by those who see them turn in and off the charm in a big way!
@Reubin2878
3 ай бұрын
I told him his jinn likes staring at my aura and he agreed !
@roksannastephens4375
3 ай бұрын
They are demons!
@RavenMoon1989z
3 ай бұрын
Yeah the first time my ex went into a narcissistic rage at me (and for literally no reason,I hadn't done anything) it was absolutely terrifying and it looked like he was going to beat me, thankfully he didn't. But the rage and pure hatred towards me and his whole demeanor was scary. His eyes turned black and he looked and acted like he was possessed.
@TrevorHamberger
3 ай бұрын
My brother is definitely possessed. One time I saw him run away screaming from me. I wasn't even doing anything but he was terrified of me. I'll never forget that look
@yudhajitmanna2005
3 ай бұрын
Regardless of all the personality traits and meta communication.. The greatest indicator that you have while communicating with a narcissist is your own body.. Trust it..
@InvisibleWarrior279
3 ай бұрын
Yes. Something immediately feels off but you can’t quite put a finger on what it is. That is your intuition sensing danger. If you continue to spend time around this person well we all know the stages your body, mind and spirit go through. Your body absolutely senses danger. But you want to believe in love. Thus the battle for your soul begins ..
@enikobenak5783
3 ай бұрын
I agree 💯! You can be insecure without being with anyone, that's when you need to work on yourself, go to therapy if you need to, but when you become insecure whilst with someone, that's a very bad omen.
@LS-fs6nc
3 ай бұрын
Conclusion:there is no love at first sight...
@Jason-Moon
3 ай бұрын
There's definitely lust at first sight though. Too many people get confused between those feelings.
@prophet1782
3 ай бұрын
I agree.@@Jason-Moon
@yuu_miran
3 ай бұрын
Probably. However I can still get charmed if faced with my type of a person, in appearance and manners.
@debra8883
3 ай бұрын
We were either too much in our heads or hearts. Romanticizing the relationship.
@bellakrinkle9381
3 ай бұрын
No, but there IS physical attraction that allows us to jump in with our eyes shut tight. Just remember the 6 MONTH RULE
@justChrisjones
3 ай бұрын
Turn around quickly and catch them in a jealous sneer.🤨
@TrevorHamberger
3 ай бұрын
I have extremely good peripheral vision so I can always see that one. There's also another stair that they do. I call it the doe eye stare. They look at you with almost a look of wondrous amazement in their eyes but you know that's not actually what the look is really saying. This one's more common in women than in men. I first saw it with my sister. Since then I've seen it on a number of women
@sarikasingh6537
3 ай бұрын
I have seen it many times
@justChrisjones
3 ай бұрын
@@TrevorHamberger with Meghan Markle.
@TrevorHamberger
3 ай бұрын
@@justChrisjones I wouldn't have thought of that but that's probably the perfect analogy for what I was trying to say
@myopietaz1260
2 ай бұрын
😮This is real! And they always walking behind you while shopping 🛒
@Agheel963
3 ай бұрын
When you tell them no they question it. Not everything needs an explanation yet they want to know the reason why they dont get what they want.
@tarey05
3 ай бұрын
Yes!!!
@makaylaforbes6719
3 ай бұрын
For sure. They act like you're breaking the law when you refuse their request (demand) even if you have a very reasonable and urgent need to say "sorry, not tonight I HAVE to do this instead"
@IsabellaPiesch
2 ай бұрын
Yeah and they can always have it with explanation (no problem for me at all). They don´t like the word NO at all. (That´s just it).
@donnaT-ti8vj
3 ай бұрын
Trust your instincts. We were given this gift for a reason. Let no one break it
@Groundwater24
3 ай бұрын
You get it,donna! Once the realisation hit me that we were chosen for this mission, although the suffering that came before that realisation……just wow!!
@bhavyasharma8091
3 ай бұрын
This explains why I avoid being the centre of attention. That predatory gaze is unsettling
@nickf2170
3 ай бұрын
Tell them the word "NO". Narcs have a real problem with the word no. The second best way, is to give them silence and maintain eye contact. See what happens.
@marion5198
3 ай бұрын
👍🏻
@Leila-salim
3 ай бұрын
Very true 😂
@TrevorHamberger
3 ай бұрын
This guy at the gym went nuts when I told him no after he asked me to do something
@김수빈-r3l
3 ай бұрын
Wow 😅
@tair0ne
3 ай бұрын
The silence thing is golden. About a month ago, I called my narc wife out on her behavior and called her a hypocrite. She lost her chit! I than stayed quiet while she packed up her belongings and went off on me, my family, etc. People that didn't have anything to do with the conversation, just to get a reaction out of me... Well it didn't work on me but it did work on her teenage son, who then in turn attacked me for "disrespecting" his mom by not speaking to her. Needless to say, they are now homeless and begging to come back since no one wants them around. I wonder why
@IsabellaPiesch
2 ай бұрын
Be careful of people who need attention and are always in the center of a group.
@76482
3 ай бұрын
Huge blowout with my narc tonight. He tried every possible narc tactic including SCREAMING that my only sister who's been dead for TWENTY years hated me..and her at the time 2 & 4 year old babies hate me too. I just laughed and said "you have no idea what my relationship was with my sister. She actually tried to warn me against marrying a weak man like you".
@goopat7009
2 ай бұрын
Please be careful and get away asap
@khadijahoneybadger1
2 ай бұрын
Ouch!!!😂😂 Run girl!
@KBM20111112
27 күн бұрын
Ru OK?
@76482
27 күн бұрын
@@KBM20111112 , I surely am OK. Narc misinterpreted my politeness & kindness for weakness. I'm an internally strong person and he had no idea who he was messing with, now he knows. I separated all of our finances and ignore him. Keeps trying to draw me back into complacency but that is not gonna happen. Thanks for asking! 😚
@Ridhi-h2f
27 күн бұрын
@@76482 Wow good..Stay strong n happy always✌🏻😊
@cherylberk4593
3 ай бұрын
Danish, you have exactly described these narcs literally pushing their way into your home. I have learned the red flags from you, knowledge I never got from therapists or drs. It is both wonen and men who show up an hour early at your door when it was a planned meeting at a restaurant. It is walking through your house uninvited criticizing everything in sight. It is filling every space with junk, computers, boxes, sports equipment, etc.in your home. Because you have educated us I noticed the excessive compliments (love bombing), mirroring (they like everything you like, went to same school, same birthdate, no end to this trick) It is scary. I have also noticed that glazed stare. If you call them on it, they gaslight you and will deny actions/words spoken minutes earlier. They will also steal thingsfrom your home as simple as items in your bathroom like decorator paper towels,candles etc. Talk about crazy making! I have begun to think they are actually dangerous if left unchecked. I notice some exoerts have added sadism to the dark triad. Our only defense is knowledge, going no contact, dont open the door, and stick to your boundaries. These people are vampires. I would be interested in your opinion as to how, why this appears to be a fast growing phenomena of epic proportions. Thank you again.
@suzanneoldfield921
3 ай бұрын
I think they have always been there, but no one really talked about it....There wasn't a label as such.
@ThreeDogsTwoCats
3 ай бұрын
My narc mother literally stole a fork from my house! 🙄
@drvee1983
2 ай бұрын
Answer: Social media and cell phone cameras. It feeds their ego driven illness.
@jennymartin6456
3 ай бұрын
I met my narcissist when I was only 18 and fell in love. We were married for nearly 20 years but in the end it was not bearable any more and now I have been married happily for 35 years to just the best man I could hope for.
@l.5832
3 ай бұрын
I was married to a narc. We bought a home, and in the living room we had a stereo system, which my husband owned remarriage. The tape deck died and you couldn't buy them any more. I remembered I had one and while he was at work I bought it out and wired it in as a surprise for him. He was furious. He told me I was not 'allowed' to have that in the living room. It was not to stay there. I knew if I kept it there, he would break it as he had done so many of my things. I am so glad to be divorced. And guess what I have in my living room.......My tape deck!!
@seagirl1100
Ай бұрын
No respect for my things, never occurred to me that’s another sign of who they are.
@reneesoli5345
10 күн бұрын
@@seagirl1100 they have rage like a spoiled toddler.
@RR-oo2wf
3 ай бұрын
They Are Most Charming , Confident , Joyfull Person At First Glance
@ericb8413
3 ай бұрын
Wow! This is so accurate. You can feel something is off at the beginning and that feeling gets stronger as time goes by. It reminds me of a woman who came into my church who started pressuring me to get involved with her business. I did some research and found out it was an MLM. I abruptly put a stop to her pushy attempts and kept solid boundaries. That was 2 years ago. Last week she tried to push a new product on me, and I said I’d look it up on the internet when I got home. It was another MLM 😮. Narcissistic people are very money 💰 hungry. Beware. Has this happened to you? And thank you Danish for educating us. MLM is multi level marketing. Pyramid scheme.
@shellbell8062
3 ай бұрын
I had a granny-like lady come up to me at church and tell me how she was adopting children from Africa whose parents were millionaires but are now deceased. It was an incredibly long and complex story but after listening for hours it boiled down to her needing £300 for needing to release millions of these wealthy inheritors funds. Sound like a scam? All along while she was talking I was aware of this weird feeling in my body - like I was being coerced and couldn't possibly refuse. I remember that feeling from childhood. After that I sent an email to the leadership at church and informed them that she was trying to con money out of the congregation. Turned out she had scammed a few already - this cherub looking granny who smelled like marshmallows. They come in all shapes and sizes.
@Akasanaesp
3 ай бұрын
What I wished I was taught at an early age was that the people who don't change and won't change are the very people you have to take out in your life. My optimistic and empathic nature became my downfall. I always gave second chances, third chances and benefit of doubt. I always was hopeful that a person of destructive nature can turn their life around. That all changed when I became the victim. Zero tolerance.
@IsabellaPiesch
2 ай бұрын
You are a good person with a heart. So sure you give chances. But if you are with a narcissist you have to learn to say NO - otherwise they will take everything from you.
@shivangisikka9109
2 ай бұрын
Same happened with me too.
@Ridhi-h2f
28 күн бұрын
@@Akasanaesp Same here
@Akasanaesp
9 күн бұрын
@@IsabellaPiesch to go against one's genuine and kind nature was the hardest thing to do. But a necessary step in order to obtain peace and keeping the demons away. Because kindness equates to permission and opportunity to the narchole. I wish everyone set powerful boundaries to reclaim their peace! Appear cold if you need to.
@helpinyerdasellavon
3 ай бұрын
This is so helpful, Danish. True, there's a pressure and doesn't feel quite right. The narcometer within your body never fails, trust your gut. Thank you ❤😊
@CeeGusts_49Waves
3 ай бұрын
Please STOP clicking that CHIME button that you wear on your finger. It is a VERY annoying sound!!!
@mariep4018
3 ай бұрын
I spot narcissist because immediately they show their control personality. Letting you know that they are the ones that are going to be in charge. And I am right 99.9% of the time. The only difference is I didn’t know about narcissistic abuse until a couple of years ago. I didn’t know what it was called.I just know there’s a lot of people out there that are manipulative, and controlling and downright selfish and evil, and have no regard for anything but themselves. And that’s my take on it.thumbs up👍
@buddybeetle
2 ай бұрын
Marie you are so right. I could have written this myself. You are not alone
@hikerhobby1204
27 күн бұрын
Yes! The moment someone says “you should,” I’m gone!
@elise-beth-mihael
3 ай бұрын
Narcometer working 💯
@RavenMoon1989z
3 ай бұрын
Lol I'm gonna steal this phrase
@khadijahoneybadger1
2 ай бұрын
Narcometer! That is a good one😂
@tenningale
3 ай бұрын
If someone suggests they're doing something wrong or says/does something that causes them shame, they attack...
@tammybandy5000
3 ай бұрын
I always thought the narcissist stared at me because of my disability. Now I know he was staring at me because he looked at me as prey. How sick?
@Ballpython77
3 ай бұрын
Being with a covert for 15 years and educating myself for almost a year...Now I can smell narcs miles away! And they are everywhere!!!!
@Krlowanigu-mg6eg
3 ай бұрын
Yes! You can find information on the internet that they make only around 5% of population (which means 1 out of 20) but personally i think it is much more, at least 20%.
@VisibleTimes
28 күн бұрын
That's the scariest part.
@christineschlosser3526
3 ай бұрын
Why does this clip keep having dings/ring notifications in it?? I love your utube clips but found these regular interruptions very frustrating as they broke the listening experience and sent me into an alert state rather then peaceful knowledge.. thanks
@mikeburr3441
3 ай бұрын
As a longtime viewer and fan, and as a person for whom giving criticism does not come easily ( *because of* narc abuse) ... the sounds; chimes and dings, are a negative for me. "Just sayin'" ;-) Thanks for your content. You've been a source of help for me.
@enduringhope6859
3 ай бұрын
Still learning...finding I am still falling into the traps of narcissists. Thank you.
@cherylberk4593
3 ай бұрын
Dont feel about not being able get it all at once. This takes time bcs you cant think like them. If you feel someone is moving too fast, too many compliments, etc start by identifying the love bombing stage. If they like everything you like, from food, movies, music, etc. that is mirroring. You just identified 2 red flags......cool it That is 2 out of 5, how many more? You just need to develop the confidence in your own good judgement. God bless❤️
@joliearanda3848
3 ай бұрын
Why you think so?
@tonewilhelmsen2425
Ай бұрын
You might be a magnet for them. It tales a little time to know someone. Dont hive up, just use the time that You need ❤️
@c.sexton4819
3 ай бұрын
Extremely good advice. Thank you.
@audrablue515
3 ай бұрын
I am so against ANYONE coming into my home that there is no way I would allow a narc to trick me into giving an invitation. My home is my sanctuary and that is one thing that is impossible to breach. There's only two people who are allowed in and one of them is 6 years old, so I'm pretty bullet proof when it comes to someone bamboozling me that way. After a decade of narc abuse from my ex, I know he would want to push his way into my life again but since going no contact earlier this year, I'm not expecting any trouble from him. I know that sometime in the future I'll be crossing paths with him again due to things out of my control, but as I've been working on recovering from the abuse and my exhaustion surrounding it, he doesn't stand a chance. He really ruined me from having any kind of relationships with anyone, apart from my work colleagues who are all decent people. I'm not sad about that because I cherish my alone time and my solitude and I realise that I don't need anyone apart from the handful of people I have now who love and care for me naturally.
@1stBorn538
3 ай бұрын
I've met some like what you're describing, but I've also met the more cunning ones that don't move too fast don't want to invade your space but insist that you invade theirs. They can now control your environment. It's also a way to control the discard when it happens. Now you're dependent on them and at their mercy.
@Krlowanigu-mg6eg
3 ай бұрын
When they accuse you of invading their space make full stop and end the story.
@1stBorn538
3 ай бұрын
@Krlowanigu-mg6eg When I say they insist that you invade their space: meaning they want you to live in their home under their rules and control. But you are right, it should end once this is being done
@EMichaelBall
2 ай бұрын
@1stBorn538 The problem is, my red pill awareness … I don’t know how to say this without sounding like a loon. But I’ve read so many stories where the guy moves into her house, life, etc., and it doesn’t work out well. I’m not sure how possible it is to have a healthy relationship without the woman turning on her man. Some of these stories are absurd. He does everything right, and she goes bonkers out of nowhere. It’s like they need to be controlled, but is that harmful to her? Maybe. It’s just sad.
@IsraelXOX-gh9mr
3 ай бұрын
There are many different signs. These include spending time on phone that was not spent previously, withholding sex from you, withdrawing in communication with you, agitation or anger over Petty stuff or making up situations to get angry or agitated over, lying, being secretive in any way, randomly spending more time caring for and pampering oneself such as putting on makeup or wearing cologne or coloring hair etc. Any type of changed behavior that is not aimed at pleasing or benefiting your relationship. With all of that though, follow your gut. your gut is telling you that something isn't right and it's telling you that this could or is happening, therefore listen to it. Just Free yourself from all of it! Run and don't look back. Go 100% no contact. The mental and emotional abuse is not okay at all! Do not bring anything up to her. Don't try to rationalize or have a conversation about anything. Don't let her know that you know she's in narcissist. All of that can cause a narcissistic rage. If you have not yet witnessed one of those just trust me that you don't want to! A narcissistic rage is beyond any rage I have ever seen or witnessed in my entire life. I am an army combat veteran and served front lines for a year and afghanistan. I have abuse going back from as long as I can remember, the first time in my personal memory is 2 years old. With everything I have been involved in, and my rape, other sexual abuse, their physical abuse, etc in narcissistic rage is by far the worst! If you need to contact your local police department and start a new contact order. No one can protect you like you can! free yourself from it all and move forward in your life. The minute you run and go no contact is the minute your life begins again. If need be seek out professional help. Therapy is the best thing I did for myself. The best gift I gave to me! The abuse is so deep and overwhelming that having a professional guide you through the steps of the healing process is extremely beneficial! Just remember, there is great strength in asking for help. There is great lack and strength or no strength at all in putting on a mask and hiding behind the opinions of society and pretending that you are okay! As human beings we all witness A Time In our lives where we are not okay! Those that heal, move past, and move forward, and have a brighter future are those who ask for help and do the work that is needed through the help! I'm so sorry you are going through this and I wish you the very best! Good luck! Always remember that you are stronger than you believe you are, you are worthy and deserving of better and always, and you are enough just the way you are and who you are today! Take this time for you! Get yourself again. Fix that meal that you're all time favorite, rent that movie you've been wanting to see, have a guys night out with your best friends, remodel a room in your home, go purchase that item you've been wanting to for so long, just do for yourself! Self-acceptance, self-love, and being able to forgive yourself is far more important than what anyone else can give to you! Believe in who you are! You deserve nothing less than that! You're not alone! Feel free to tag me in any other questions that you have! I'll help if I can. Additionally you can hire a cyber expert to help you get remote access to their phone so you can track them and monitor all of their activities without them knowing. You may locate the top cyber specialists locally at digitalinvestigate@gmail.com where you can engage a well-trained professional to assist you..........
@debra8883
3 ай бұрын
Hope that you are on your way to healing. You don't deserve that kind of treatment. They really do seem like they are being influenced by demonic forces and seeking other people in their destructive lifestyle. Mine was cheating on me with hookers and men (I figured out later). He was sick with smelly diarrhea, STDs sores, and crabs when I left him. Thank the Lord that I had not been intimate with him for more than 10 years (20 year marriage). I escaped with my life from his daily and nightly rages.
@ANGELSVEN
3 ай бұрын
God bless you! Thank you for your service and for this post. Yes, no contact is the only solution because the prognosis is poor to zero.
@remarkable937
3 ай бұрын
It was about 8 months before he started showing any of this and then it just didn't stop.
@enikobenak5783
3 ай бұрын
My narc ex is still my colleague and the smear campaign is immense and the battle I'm fighting is eternal. One thing I also found very weird at the beginning, that I always loved asking people for help if I was stuck, and was looking forward to learn something new through all the information. But when it came to ask him about something, my body refused, and I was getting really anxious. Because somewhere deep down, your body knows you're aiding a narc's ego with asking for something he knows and you don't! And it's the last thing anyone wants to do, to feed into their egocentric false self. It was genuinely a natural body reaction...very fascinating!
@peterknight7987
3 ай бұрын
💯 i knew from the beginning, i had red flags and a bad gut feeling and ignored it ,i blame myself what was to come ,i still havant recovered for 4 years and have cptsd
@dulceoliveira3601
3 ай бұрын
I have known narcissists and now I can always tell if someone is watching me. It's that simple people please pay attention to this whether it's a narc or sociopath or just someone who wants to take advantage of you
@Aochic
3 ай бұрын
Butterflies in my stomach? More like sick to my stomach, so I guess I'm good!
@POLECE1980
3 ай бұрын
So very true "force Entry", "try to charm", "act strict or busy yet forcing moves", "no eye contact yet someone gazing when i least notice"
@sisterkamilah4373
3 ай бұрын
What is that annoying video game sound?
@Puglover4life1
3 ай бұрын
OMG yes. When you are in the presence of a narcissist, you will feel like they are trying to get a pulse or temperature check read on you to determine how they approach you. This is chilling to feel and it’s so creepy to know. I’ve called out my ex when I’ve felt him do that, he denied it of course, but got quiet sometimes too. But this does happen OMG ! Yes, my ex would tell me I’m crazy when I would bring up things, and it just added to the clouds in my head. So thankful I can see it now 😵💫
@beauthentic7493
3 ай бұрын
Those loud notification bells in background are annoying.
@kristinelindsay4581
3 ай бұрын
I can’t believe how many there are around! It’s frightening!
@EricZumbusch
5 күн бұрын
Take a look at human history. It all appears in a new light if you add narcissm to the equation. Yes, it's somewhat frightning. We are however attaining a new level of understanding, which is paving the road for a better world.
@andreaarchambeau9499
2 ай бұрын
Not every actor is a narcissist but every narcissist is an actor.
@imbalancedstatus8824
3 ай бұрын
Narco-meter ....I will be using this one henceforth
@bumblebee_ms
3 ай бұрын
The last 10 years narcs have tried to invite themselves over to my house and I never realised why they were targeting me only.
@CynthiaSchoenbauer
3 ай бұрын
This explains why I always felt "pushed" all my life but did not know where it was coming from. It means for me now that the interaction has not enough motivation for me.
@ShelleyKennedy-m5d
3 ай бұрын
How do you set boundaries with these types of people when you know, they don't care?
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