It took me till the very end to realise that she never loved me.... She actually loved the fact that I loved her and used that to make me feel loved. Still trying to move on but it's not easy.
@efanalao6446
2 жыл бұрын
I'm in the same boat as you...
@mariog3326
2 жыл бұрын
Yes, totally true. Selfish and manipulative is what it's called. They just seek what was good for them.
@michaelakpabio3303
2 жыл бұрын
@@mariog3326 was in that kettle, Jessica n others opened my eyes. I ended that situation n with a wonderful person now. Totally moved on.
@MZAgru
2 жыл бұрын
MEN YOU ARE THE PRIZE
@Perorworld1
2 жыл бұрын
This is exactly my situation and I have done everything to say I am sorry but no way making me question the love she used to talk about for 6yrs while she was getting her education. Difficult to move on,I cry every night cos this is my first time in love
@isaacaffram9094
2 жыл бұрын
This is exactly what am going through now,I even regret meeting her gosh some people are mean and selfish.thanks for this video
@dennisrobinson8008
2 жыл бұрын
How bad did she mess you up?
@simonmanu5696
2 жыл бұрын
Run for your life bro
@dennisrobinson8008
2 жыл бұрын
Those ones "you wish you never met her" are extremely costly, but you LEARN. Alot of that stuff you cannot allow. Being overly into someone who does not value you is extremely costly and can be life threatening.
@nana1official
2 жыл бұрын
Stay strong buddy,,, I can relate
@SupaSmoothReels
2 жыл бұрын
Me too bro
@t-panda808
2 жыл бұрын
My ex was more in love with what I did for her than me. After watching this video I finally realize that living a single life is much more exiting and fulfilling than being in a relationship. Most relationship nowadays is all based on infatuation and financial/material convenience.
@bobaboitiz9723
2 жыл бұрын
amen!!
@abeikusimonson241
2 жыл бұрын
✌✌
@addae_dr
2 жыл бұрын
@ochomemaurice
2 жыл бұрын
Otek
@oso2935
2 жыл бұрын
Na word bro
@HenryLyons
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your honest commentary. I’m a natural giver who’s been burned too many times by women who just used me for their own needs but left me emotionally drained. Those relationships have damaged my trust in women which puts a damper on my current relationship. Trying to trust again once hurt is really difficult. I’m still learning to read the RED flags. Thanks again
@gsunmola
Жыл бұрын
I'm the same as you, a natural giver. It seems some women target men like us for their selfish gain. I've become more conscious now of reading the red flags and ensuring that I don't condone it anymore 🙃
@kingsam8712
Жыл бұрын
Hello Henry, thank for your comment. I am in the same situation that you experienced. I have been chatting with a woman for a while and she used me just to get her own needs. When I told her that I won't supporting her always with her needs, she stopped talking to me. It been more than 2 weeks she didn't send message to me to know how I am doing. It is difficult for me also to trust women again for another relationship..
@obscurelight
2 жыл бұрын
How can a woman love when she's subconsciously always ready to jump into a better option if the occasion shows up? Use your brain.
@dennisrobinson8008
2 жыл бұрын
That mind cannot and does not love
@hermanlucaslucas846
2 жыл бұрын
Then the point is why even get into so called relationships these days you are a fool if you want to just do for someone and not get anything in return no other relations on earth does that..
@bml2007
2 ай бұрын
Bingo
@morgynmusungah674
2 жыл бұрын
You have one of the most beautiful voices I have ever heard. Warm and calm…you should consider counseling if you are not in it already. God bless
@notoriousm5949
2 жыл бұрын
2 year relationship, and everything you said, she done, besides being jealous when other girls would talk to me, not one message to see how I am, she was dating someone else within 3 months, nice guys finish last, time to play the game.
@evanzdasilva9337
2 жыл бұрын
When u talk... The world listens. keep on educating us.. Respect in all aspects🤙
@kimwillis254
2 жыл бұрын
From Kenya, I love Ghanian people the home of Kofi Annan, Kwame Nkrumah, wode Maya, Jessica, Jerry Rawling there is footballer who made us proud as African during 2010 world cup I forgotten his name but salute this great men. Your city Accra, your famous old school Kumasi. I love you Ghanians one day will visit country. Jessica keep it up your good work.
@quahthamaster
2 жыл бұрын
Asamoah Gyan 🇬🇭
@kimwillis254
2 жыл бұрын
@@quahthamaster thank you brother. Yes Legend Asamoah
@ochomemaurice
2 жыл бұрын
Did Asamoah Gyan make us proud in world cup 2010 or he broke our hearts as Africans.? Typing from Migori in Kenya 🇰🇪
@kimwillis254
2 жыл бұрын
@@ochomemaurice Jambo ndugu once worked in migori county, awendo Oyani okwethi, oriri, kanga, orongo ,isabanie, sirare,tharime, sonu. I served those people 10 years ago
@gsunmola
2 жыл бұрын
My relationship of 5 years which I thought was leading to a walk up the aisle ended today, everything you said in this video was true about my relationship with her, now with the benefits of hindsight. I started watching your videos about 2 months ago, and they gave me insight I needed to understand that I was in a toxic, one-sided relationship and I was being gaslighted whenever I tried to complain about my feelings of not being loved by her. I'm relieved it's ended now, although I have to admit here that I've been used good and proper.
@jonahd-guitarist9975
2 жыл бұрын
This happens to me with d woman I wanna settle with. I so much love dat girl but I have to let her go, she failed me by dating someone, maltreating me, doesn't care about my feelings. I have to let her go, now dey are no more in good relationship with d other person.
@brainyguy6734
2 жыл бұрын
Same here 💔
@empathicparadox6041
2 жыл бұрын
Real talk fam, you probably have already done this but if not block her ass. Don’t give her any way back into your life . Keep strong brother.
@dennisrobinson8008
2 жыл бұрын
How long ago did it break up?
@queendara1277
2 жыл бұрын
Wow same was 4years
@oupapetermathonsi6621
2 жыл бұрын
Complete Truth Jessica.. You always highlight the strong points of every situation people going through relationships and marriages.. Keep showing your passion of helping us.. You are angel.. God bless you and protect you 🙏
@peterkiarie5139
2 жыл бұрын
I think this is the finest African woman on the planet! I love her insights, her looks, her voice, her brains, her caring attitude, EVERYTHING.
@spreadwings7127
Ай бұрын
"Oh my goodness, this makes so much sense. You are a gem. Thanks! ❤️"
@richardmetzger6876
2 жыл бұрын
The cold ugly truth. I will accept this and move on. Thank you.
@ericpalmer8250
2 жыл бұрын
You're going to be just fine Richard.
@iandiru6433
2 жыл бұрын
I walked out of the relationship with a lady who took me for granted its the most painful thing that hurt me so much
@aniexcels
2 жыл бұрын
You're always hitting the right spot in your relationship talks. Thanks so much for your lessons 👍
@tanyasamasuwo
2 жыл бұрын
My marriage ended last year and i struggled for answers and along came Jessica. This video is the best since i subscribed
@leoncomlanhekpazo4386
2 жыл бұрын
Facts! I've been with a lot of women and can genuinely testify I saw in most of them the opposite (luckily for me 😂😂😂) of those signs Jessica described. Love is one the rarest feelings humans beings will all the time find hard to fake. Especially women. Unfortunately, when it comes to feelings the one who cares less is ALWAYS the winner.
@moshar12
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you...I am at the crossroad, but my feelings for her is hard to let go. Need clarity, but your information is valid.
@bismarcknkansah9518
2 жыл бұрын
Honestly this is one of the best videos I’ve watched. Point by point everything is true. Well done Jessica 👏
@yanceytarver5101
2 жыл бұрын
If you didn't hit the nail on the head with this one you never have!!! Case in point there was a woman once in my life who hit every point you made in this video except 2 ( which two aren't important). After a while, I realized that being alone in boredom is WAAAAAY better than being together in misery.
@taivillechamber5203
2 жыл бұрын
This video is accurate and exactly what I experienced in my last marriage. And we had a child but she was so quick to be involved with another the same month she moved out. Love is no longer exist to say the facts and people should just enjoy their singleness
@anana-yy6pz
2 жыл бұрын
jessica you are truly a relationship guru. I will advice any man watching your videos to heed to every point you highlight . They may have practical applications and may be an invaluable source of knowledge for men in their dealings with the opposite sex .
@mockapp6973
2 жыл бұрын
reverse engineering this, I've come to the conclusion that I was never in love with her ---reason why I was unemotionally detached for many years, finally ending the relationship with no contact for many years. Recently I just got a "hey big head " text from her, via her friend texting me. All I can tell folks is just move on, especially if you or your partner aren't exhibiting any of these features in this video. Good video, J
@richardameyaw1821
2 жыл бұрын
This is exactly what happened with my ex, she was just a gold digger
@malusimhleni
Жыл бұрын
This is exactly what im going through 🤦🏽♂️and she ticked all the 11 points is just crazy for me
@Scorpion-rp5sx
2 жыл бұрын
This video really hit home today… thank you… the words I really needed to hear at this time in my life!
@Kats_ronnie
2 жыл бұрын
Am really going through this am literally drained …. Always on and off , never acknowledge anything, only looking at what u promised and delayed , ever considering her own things like birthdays , exclude her self from whatever u come up with ever considering her friends…… i gave up now i smash and move on no commitment. relationships now days are just a whole piece of shit 🤦🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️ am really tired ….
@joshuamwanza3339
2 жыл бұрын
It's difficult to swallow but wow that's the truth and thank you Jessica OS 🎉
@emmanuelofosusarpong7030
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks so much Miss Jessica this really has help me understand a current situation. Thanks
@nathimoleane6931
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you this is really what I needed to hear.
@nana1official
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks a million times for this video Jessy. A lotta guys can relate to this 😊
@augustinedeman2100
2 жыл бұрын
I love my girl , but she don't care about my feelings. This video empower me to let her go , thank Jessica. Much respect 👏🇸🇱
@andreadimille237
3 ай бұрын
Life is beautiful regardless of how good it feels........ Love is a given .......
@elvischikwanda7296
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you Jessica you are the best. I feel so encouraged after having a break up 💔. All that u have shared are facts in what I was going through.
@alvertosb.p.9424
2 жыл бұрын
The trend for many women is to have a "friends with benefits" situation. My experience, women see relationship as disposable douche bags or condoms.Great video presentation, very accurate, insightful.
@marvinpercival4717
Жыл бұрын
It doesnt matter how much relationship a women jump into to dstisfy their ego.the fact is most get use up and discarded in the long run.but men seem to bounce back gracefully.
@tashingasithole9718
2 жыл бұрын
I could feel truthfulness in your points.thank you Jessica
@felixadjei9073
Жыл бұрын
The last point is really hitting me hard....Thanks Jessica
@charismakwesiviksenyagloh
2 жыл бұрын
This is an icebreaker!! Mheeennn! Jess! You're deep!
@tonylopez6723
Жыл бұрын
My ex fiancé of 6 years been pushing me away saying she needs focus on herself but this weekend found out she was having sex and getting serious with a conworker she blamed me when she told me then blocked me and spend the night with him... honestly worse pain of my life and I had lung surgery,lost people, went broke...but this tops it off maybe because I was blind and lying to myself even when it was obvious and that made it worse
@jorgecrowtatsrodriguez4793
2 жыл бұрын
I’m glad this video exist and it’s helped. I recently dated and I got hurt. I wanted to blame her but this video brought clarity. She my ex was honest w me, we still hang out and I’m learning to let go. I feel liberated and also I feel validated. I finally got through a break up without taking it personal. I will definitely use all this info for my next relationship. Much love fellas.
@judebanky1
2 жыл бұрын
exactly what i went through but i have moved on now i really loves this girl so so much , i regret meeting her
@frankcodrington3064
2 жыл бұрын
I truly appreciate this video continue the good work your doing educating people out there.
@spreadwings7127
Ай бұрын
Thank you for opening my hearts, Jessica.
@JessicaOS
Ай бұрын
Any time!
@jerellivey2768
2 жыл бұрын
Wow! Damn it it hurts like hell!
@EvelynAmbrose
2 жыл бұрын
Yay, I’m here today
@djsplice1
2 жыл бұрын
It's so sad to say that only 1 thing you spoke of that doesn't apply to my situation.. but you dead on the the rest..thanks again for your help
@howellspeters1170
2 жыл бұрын
Am playing it back to back. One of your best video ever📹👍💯
@quinaardyl
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks Jessica for this insightful and encouraging foresight. I got carried away in such a toxic relationship years back and everything you mentioned except maybe one was all the characteristics she displayed. With all the initial warnings and red flags, I hanged on hoping it was just a phase, but lo and behold, it got worse. My only consolation were my three boys out of the relationship. It took me years to see clearly, but it's better late than never because my kids were very important to me. But when the unhappiness became unbearable, i ejected myself out of her toxic and manipulative claws years down the line, I mean the disrespect and her aggressions became so obvious and was affecting the kids while her characters, exactly all you mentioned started getting worse and pronounced. #Freenow and never been happier
@jhica5718
2 жыл бұрын
It took u 20 years to leave.......come on...
@shaquillhilton5574
2 жыл бұрын
Your videos are a whole eye opener
@misterPr0x1ma18
2 жыл бұрын
This is exactly what I am going through right now. Thanks :)
@adeisinta5965
2 жыл бұрын
These truths are an eye opener to men outside there ...Keep up Jessica
@sankoelasankoela718
2 жыл бұрын
Hmk, now i feel free after many paradoxes of love and mixed signals from different reasons in my current relationship. I thank you Jessica
@howellspeters1170
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you Jessica. U made my day
@stu3775
2 жыл бұрын
I must say, you have a unique grip on the reality of the situation.
@gsupport5264
2 жыл бұрын
You have done a lot to us aunty Jessica, keep it up!
@headmanhebe6963
11 ай бұрын
Fantastic..... Thanks Jess, You just confirmed a lot of things I noticed, which told me, that I was not loved in the previous two relationships.... I am glad I moved on and now, I have no doubt I am in a love-filled relationship, mutual love.... Keep up the good work Jess
@miracleebuka252
2 жыл бұрын
Madame Jessi , You have said it all , This are words that speaks directly to me , Indeed Bitter truth .
@dhanrajmohan701
Жыл бұрын
Thanks Jessica you are amazing. Continue the great legacy. Peace and love.
@earlytimenews
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks Jess...I enjoyed this video as it speaks to me and a situation I experienced.
@stevecavusoglu163
2 жыл бұрын
Hey Jessica, great video. I have a close friend you went through this. Sometimes the truth can be staring them in the face and they could still be in denial which was the case with him unfortunately. There are always certain Red Flags early on in relationships; the skill set comes into play when you are able to see through this. For example a big one also is are you always the one calling and texting or attempting to make plans-if so a Red Flag then. Do you feel she doesn't feel comfortable getting intimate-even a hug may appear like a friend is giving you one, limited eye contact-another one is not really a good listener!! She only listened if she ever does to say what she wants to say disregarding your feelings and needs. List goes on and on
@saibuyesufu6847
2 жыл бұрын
U re 100% correct. God bless you always
@johnnycalderon9951
3 ай бұрын
This is a horrible feeling to feel after 2 years and so much time invested.
@harryhaizel
2 жыл бұрын
Jessie all I will say Is thank you soo much and God bless you 🙏🙏🙏
@speedoflightmare
2 жыл бұрын
The first two points she did but the rest she made sure to never do so I guess she did😔
@dr.bangura4722
2 жыл бұрын
Fantastic insights, indeed. Cheers. You gave a vivid description of the toxic,energy-draining and materialistic ex.
@AfricanASMR
2 жыл бұрын
ALL these things I realized throughout my past relationship. But she thought she was smart enough to pretend to show minute care thinking that I can't detect her tactical distortion of her selfish patterns. Everything, advice and suggestions she gave to show her "care" were aimed to suit her interests. She a walking Red Flag🚩🚩🚩
@jonahd-guitarist9975
2 жыл бұрын
Same happened to me, now she's finding a way to resolve the relationship, calling me on daily basis but could not apologise but talking with manner of approach now, she's respecting me more and more.
@AfricanASMR
2 жыл бұрын
@@jonahd-guitarist9975 They NEVER apologize. They don't know what that is.
@jonahd-guitarist9975
2 жыл бұрын
Pls check my comment also I need and answer from Jessica and other people. When she apologise wat should I do.
@AfricanASMR
2 жыл бұрын
@@jonahd-guitarist9975 Leave her alone lest you'll live in her prison. Move on. NEVER go back to a toxic woman.
@jonahd-guitarist9975
2 жыл бұрын
@@AfricanASMR thanks bro
@bryanlinville7275
Жыл бұрын
If you have watched About 60% of Jessica videos you should be on your game……No bullshit!!!
@angelbwalyachate
2 жыл бұрын
Wonderful video ☺️ always learn more and more 😊
@charlestyler2716
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for this I appreciate the word I needed to hear this
@Ami55ah
2 жыл бұрын
You got keys 🔑 🔑🔑. I wish I had you back then. I could literally say I have experienced all of what you talk about. I am always related. Sad world, my world.
@papson0072
2 жыл бұрын
So deep 💯😔, you have said it all 💯
@divinemuoghalu9471
2 жыл бұрын
Your wealth of knowledge is immense, I fell victim of everything you’ve just mentioned. How do you even know all this things
@grahamturner1290
2 жыл бұрын
Beautiful and perceptive as always... ❤️
@bajanlandscapes
2 жыл бұрын
Spiritually,a man knows when he is loved by a woman...if he don't feel the vibes...he walks away .
@ezekielnduli5181
2 жыл бұрын
This is solid. Lots of value, many insights.
@SiyaDube
2 жыл бұрын
Sadly is that one can see the signs, however, because one is in love. One tries to convince themselves about the love that is not there.
@MrApedrape
2 жыл бұрын
You are spot on!
@ahmedaslam6080
Жыл бұрын
My wife and i has been married over 6 years. We have 2 kids. Recently i found out that she was cheating on me with her ex boyfriend who also happens to be her cousin. When i confronted her, she started blaming on me. As i wasnot near her when she needed me like that etc. (I am working abroad and she is staying at home with kids). But she never mentioned any sort of issues directly to me anytime. She also has many male friends whom with she has many personal discussions . I also asked her regarding this, she told that they are just friends. She also still close with all her previous crushes/ex . Just when i found about her cheating, She told me that she dont feel that kind of love with me like the way she felt with her other crushes or ex boyfriends. I am a bit of Introvert and her character is the opposite. She also told like, she didnt want to marry me. I didnt meet her expectations she had in a spouse etc. She also compares me with the rest of others also. Later she told me everything she said was in a rage and she is sorry. But she is isnt sorry for the affair. That happenend due to my mistake like sort of.
@youngfosso4370
2 жыл бұрын
Much love Respect 💯💯💯💯
@jameshenderson3497
Жыл бұрын
She sold me a future, but never really wanted one. I have never had to tell someone you cannot bring in people into our problem’s. Until I met her she pretended to be interested in my thoughts or ideas I put on blinders because I loved her. When I would criticize positively looking out for her she would dismiss my feelings
@azeezmustapha5976
Жыл бұрын
You really opened my eyes to many things with you videos. God bless you.
@shemmakanga8390
Жыл бұрын
Even in the previous generations, what Jessica is talking about used to happen big time. The only difference is divorce was not part of the vocabulary then & women were homemakers. Being the sole bread winner gave the man dominance, but most women never loved their husbands, but had no choice but to stay married, with not enough education, no job, no voting rights, they had no where to go. Thanks very much sister Jessica for bringing this subject to light. Bless.
@ronalddaniels5579
2 жыл бұрын
That you Jay I needed this video.. Today, This is true from end to end.. Women do really want what they say they want.. Why is that.?
@sonnykaledi9278
2 жыл бұрын
Africa sees and hears virtue from you paragon! The not so discerning population of loving men out there are unmasked from their own unthinking hearts, thanks for injecting the much needed discernment, it is good for the women population too. May God enrich you Jessica 🙏!
@scwyldspirit
Жыл бұрын
Jessica Thank You for this. I recently heard from this guy that told me that my girlfriend wasn't who she claimed to be. Instead of asking, I did the worst thing I could have ever done. I attacked her in the worst way possible. So now I have apologized and begged for her forgiveness seems like almost daily. She is still having the "TRUST ISSUES" stage, where she still doesn't trust me any longer. Again thank you.
@wobudunduonesmas5912
2 жыл бұрын
Woooo this serious and true point out I love the flow
@ekairialosalumhense3027
Жыл бұрын
Good day Lady Jessica OS, I have been so addicted to ur channel and all ur teachings brings a reflections of my past relationships and one I'm entering into presently. I also want to apply all to every of my relationship to both genders irrespective of situations. I appreciate you so much
@jonesasiamah1861
2 жыл бұрын
This piece is deep! ... been following your content for a while now but this one hit different.... Keep bossing it. You sharp.
@mrtheozzy6227
2 жыл бұрын
This is deep 😌
@jackiedike4077
2 жыл бұрын
Always on point.
@shaarodmahanta2473
2 жыл бұрын
Every point resonates.Going through the same😔
@AnthonySforza
2 жыл бұрын
Weird... I clicked on this to use it as an examination for a specific relationship, but now I'm thinking all of them.
@davidsisson2026
Жыл бұрын
Gives credence to the song American Woman. Joking aside I'm hopeful that with proper guidance and self awareness maybe I'll find the right one. Two marriages of one sidedness proves to me I was a people pleaser.
@SamuelSNtege
Жыл бұрын
Guys, Jessica should be protected at all cost!
@emmanuelsalako7370
2 жыл бұрын
Words of wisdom from Jessica, she brings the facts to life, tells, teaches and makes all things relationship simple and simplifies it... Ask any man who has being there and they'll have stories to tell, Jessica makes it all bare and shares what people spent loads, of emotional, financial and heart felt moments... Wow True love is always so worth it when you find the right one and you know that all the signs and steps you have given shows that your heart is in it. One sided relationship really got me, a guy who does it all, text, call, visit, ghost mode, finally they don't love you and only love themselves.
@sundaymuchika763
2 жыл бұрын
In love with the theme
@HappeeGoLuckey
Жыл бұрын
You a very knowledgeable, articulate, and your eyes are gorgeous
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