Reminds me of a quote I saw once: "If you spend your time chasing butterflies, they'll fly away. But if you spend your time building a beautiful garden, the butterflies will come. And if they don't, you still have your beautiful garden."
@Dereksilver0
2 ай бұрын
thats actually a really beautiful quote, definitely gonna remeber that one
@athgowla687
Ай бұрын
Sitting alone in that beautiful garden doesn't seem nice to me. Actually, not 'seem', but 'is'. I háve a beautiful garden. It attracts butterflies, but no girls.
@focus0000000
Ай бұрын
@@athgowla687a garden for girls is a ferrari and a diamond chain
@user-eh7fb5yo9f
Ай бұрын
@@athgowla687 idk if you already did but try to pray about it.
@athgowla687
Ай бұрын
@@user-eh7fb5yo9fThoughts and prayers. If it works equally as it doesn't for victims of mass shootings...
@braskabani8011
2 ай бұрын
100% of women today want the same men. Top 1%.
@KyxLimitless
2 ай бұрын
Soon it will be .00001
@renjiaow3742
2 ай бұрын
@@KyxLimitlessSoon? It already is mate.
@ojbeez5260
2 ай бұрын
read my comment! yup agreed.
@marketinsights7667
2 ай бұрын
Word
@blackzilian83
2 ай бұрын
And they cry to be cheated by the top1%... 😂
@deadlykilla39
2 ай бұрын
hey, remember when dating someone online was considered weird and creepy? Pepperidge farmer remembers.
@noobsmoke79
2 ай бұрын
I think mainstream feminism thinks dating apps are safer for women somehow.
@bigbeargaming7608
Ай бұрын
@noobsmoke79 It's not that it's safe. It gives women more control over men.
@ceeIoc
Ай бұрын
Okcupid in 2015 was the shit. Was getting tons of dates easily
@JohnPickup-CDHS-ze6qd
Ай бұрын
😂😂 Pepperridge farm Remember when you hit that guy in your car and just drove off?
@bigbizbo4965
Ай бұрын
@@JohnPickup-CDHS-ze6qd Pepperidge farms ain’t gonna keep it to Pepperidge farms self free of charge. Maybe you buy some of our cookies and this whole this just disappears.
@scouthatesrainbows
2 ай бұрын
This has a very comfy vibe for what is essentially a black pill video lmao
@Dereksilver0
2 ай бұрын
lmao actually i can see that
@YTguySmithy-lk6go
2 ай бұрын
Given Derek, an average looking guy, said he got 7 to 12 matches per day... that's hardly evidence of the black pill. Had Derek got zero to 5 matches in three months...that's proof of a black pill reality. This video is the complete opposite of black pill.
@EpicMinecraftFail
Ай бұрын
@@YTguySmithy-lk6go how many of those matches led to dates?
@ThePlainNsimple
Ай бұрын
And how many of those dates were marriage material?@@EpicMinecraftFail
@MMOplayeerr
Ай бұрын
@@YTguySmithy-lk6goI just started the video, I dont know what pictures he put up or what country he is from. First: He is definitely above average, definitely Second: He probably had good pictures, okay bio Third: I dont know the country he is from yet, but the country where I am, the average and even above average guys get 1 match a month.
@soadman777
Ай бұрын
The biggest problem is that a lot of low value women now believe they deserve a high value man due to all this attention. I've seen women with 3+ kids, no degree, low income job talking about wanting a 1% man.
@sselemaNrM
Ай бұрын
Yeah dating apps have made some women very entitled.. Because they get so many matches and men outnumber women by a significant margin in almost all of them. It makes sense to be picky of course, but within your means.
@lionedheart
17 күн бұрын
A woman that was about 40 years old, “Indian” but looked Italian. Location “Orlando, Florida” said she earns a lot of money, business owner, and is looking for a Multimillionaire to marry to “split the bills” 😂. Explicitly stated “no offense” to other men but it is what it is. The confidence on that woman was BIZARRE. Conservation went like: Me: The odds of getting a rich man is very low. Her: You never now Me: It’s too late now, you should have gotten that rich dude in your 20’s! Her: 🤬🤬😡😡😡😡 She was angry
@GearinSuper
7 күн бұрын
Yeah, exactly right man. Low value women looking for something they don't deserve, and 99% of them on dating apps are a real life mess. Social media has destroyed everything.
@WomenAreRottingHoles
6 күн бұрын
@@sselemaNrM they have always been entitled they are now just more open about it
@worldkho
2 күн бұрын
@@lionedheart hence why most men are retreating to video games and masturbation
@jeramydavin4061
2 ай бұрын
yea, I checked out of dating. maybe if I meet someone in person, but nah, I aint doing any online shiiiiit. dating to marry in this culture sucks man. i really like your last point about stopping the chase and taking time to think about the kinda woman you wanna marry, and becoming the kind of man that SHE would want
@Dereksilver0
2 ай бұрын
yeah its kind of like im good off the modern dating scene but still idealistic about love through building myself up
@KRYMauL
Ай бұрын
I met a girl like this, she was talking to multiple other guys and kept making it seem like she was interested. In my experience, most women my age act high schooly. That said I still hear rumors that she never did get over it as we had a one-night stand.
@jaundremarais8787
6 күн бұрын
Rather talk to women in real life buddy and hit the gym get ur style up ur money up ur confidence. It's an actual date that u on . U will see they won't reject u
@KRYMauL
6 күн бұрын
@@jaundremarais8787 They might "reject" you in that you think it's a rejection, but they're actually just testing you. It's immature, but it happens, see above.
@jaundremarais8787
4 күн бұрын
@KRYMauL bro I said when u talk to a women in real life it's an actual date coz u like what u see . U can go interact and make new friends all that she can say is she does have a bf. But this will boost ur communication skills !!! Or u can just stay on dating apps and wish or hope for match from a fat overweight ugly single mom who is playing games with u . In real life a women will never b rude with u .she will still tell u politely she does have sum1 . Unless she's a total bitter asshole
@pm5312
2 ай бұрын
2 years straight dating apps all closed. Say goodbye.
@brandonsupreme8380
2 ай бұрын
Dang how much did it cost yoh im curious
@pm5312
2 ай бұрын
@@brandonsupreme8380 I hardly spent over 100 for 3 years before I closed. Most I join are free.
@pm5312
2 ай бұрын
@@brandonsupreme8380 I didn't spend too much because none of them reply back.
@ati_guy7
Ай бұрын
if relationships cant be formed from dating apps how are we supposed to find a gf
@pm5312
Ай бұрын
@brandonsupreme8380 don't remember. I didn't spend much due to most don't match with me.
@Anon-nd1ek
2 ай бұрын
Pornography is "free", but you pay with your soul.
@Dereksilver0
2 ай бұрын
💯
@DavidToback
2 ай бұрын
Bro, hostess at a restaurant asked me to take her number, we grabbed coffee the next day. The following day this b said she needed a new winter coat and asked if I wanted to buy it for her 😂
@Dereksilver0
2 ай бұрын
💀how bad was she 👀
@DavidToback
2 ай бұрын
@@Dereksilver0 Not bad enough 😎
@Muhluri
2 ай бұрын
Bruh
@johnhathaway735
2 ай бұрын
Women love to do this mess. Lmfao it’s like naw? Who do you think I am? 😂
@cobrakaiisback4709
2 ай бұрын
Tell her after 6 hours of bedroom fun.
@MicrocosmicExperience
2 ай бұрын
The best is when you're messaging a girl on a dating app and she asks for your instagram, sees that you don't have a lot of followers and then ghosts you.
@Dereksilver0
2 ай бұрын
broo i literally talk about the same thing in my video about loneliness; ive had girls ghost when i tell them i dont have ig 💀
@MicrocosmicExperience
2 ай бұрын
@@Dereksilver0 Happens to me a lot. I think it's because they either think we're losers with no friends, or they think that we are cheating on our gfs and that's why we won't give out the IG.
@melonytoni9016
2 ай бұрын
Had a date with a girl and she said she almost didnt meet me because she thought it was creepy that I only had 25 followers.
@handsomeX
2 ай бұрын
Bruuuutal
@jayc5248
2 ай бұрын
@@Dereksilver0 there was a time 10 years when having IG was a red flag cuz the guy would be following other girls. If he didn’t have IG, that meant he wasn’t looking at girls on there 😅
@donramon2501
Ай бұрын
Simps really screwed this dating game
@Leukick
2 ай бұрын
Out of all videos based on this topic, this is the best. You've covered nearly everything and made it so well said. I think another video idea would be visually showcasing the results girls get on these apps, like what sort of dudes are matching them, etc, like the things you mentioned in this video that you saw in the experiment. Also maybe another video discussing some solutions we can do to better navigate this modern online dating world, if any.
@tigerbear3038
2 ай бұрын
Women who get all that attention but still complain about their dating woes should be shamed
@EverythingLvl
2 ай бұрын
"women should be shamed" - average modern male wondering why noone wants him
@topy706
19 күн бұрын
they will choose a 9/10 chad out of their 200 daily matches, get railed and dumped then complain on reddit how all the men just want sex and abuse them. LMAO
@Juanito-yv3nf
21 күн бұрын
I think that something that is overlooked a lot by us men is realizing when it's time to put yourself in situations where you'll be able to meet girls that have similar interests as yourself. I'm a 26yo with 2 jobs with a great income, athletic, with friends, savings, mature, outgoing and easygoing but I've been so focused on bettering myself that I didn't even look for dating opportunities because I thought the "right one" would just fall in my arms. Like everything in life, if you want it, go and get it. So this year I'm getting into dance and cooking classes, boxing gym, going on trips, maybe a running group...and yeah some dating apps here and there but put yourself in situations where you'll have the opportunity to meet someone that has similar interests as you, this makes the approach much more natural.
@Dereksilver0
20 күн бұрын
Great point 💯 and an underrated approach that isnt really heard as much
@Jeremy-ql1or
7 күн бұрын
Just a heads up, all those classes and activities you are planning on joining are going to have signs up and maybe even make you sign something that says you understand this is not the place to try to meet women and get dates.
@ViolentNin
2 ай бұрын
A lot of these problems are actually because of men. Women desire attention. Men these days throw it out non-stop (Social media, simping, OF, etc). Stop giving attention to people who don't deserve it and learn to walk away the second you're disrespected.
@Dereksilver0
2 ай бұрын
💯
@nikhilchugh2339
Ай бұрын
This will never happen as sex is wanted by every man and they're always ready to do anything possible just to get sex! This is why men rape and pay for onlyfans as they want sex but they're unable to get attention and this market is never going to die. You can just remove these guys from being called men but they're still men in the eyes of the world
@CassieStone-wr4bg
Ай бұрын
Kinda betmale white knight comment though. Although you're partially right even the guy who said "I dont' blame them" is a being a white knight cuck because in the end women need to take accountability for their actions too and with this mindset, how will they ever do that if men are saying it's okay or ultimately that it's our fault? lol If I had 100 options, I'd def go with the one who with the best personality but that's just me.
@assimmaxime
Ай бұрын
100%
@DualPeacemakers
Ай бұрын
If men were being chased like the majority of women are, there wouldn't be a problem. The men are not asking for ridiculous expectations like 6 ft, six figures and a six pack. Men are more family driven, that's why when we make more money we say now I can start a family. "Women:" Now I have to find someone that makes more money than me. Men don't care if the woman comes from nothing. It's clear 70 to 80 percent of divorces are initiated by women. This is why only 6 out of 1000 men are getting married these days.
@Therealmattchong
2 ай бұрын
Love this video mate. So I also conducted a similar experiment with a 9/10 white male model and a 9/10 white female model. The female model got 100 likes a day for 5 days straight The male model averaged 2-5 likes a day. The crazier part was that the white male model did very similar to me, which was actually a massive confidence boost. That being said, I’ve still struggled to find anything meaningful on the apps x
@yzma6142
2 ай бұрын
Women can usually tell when a profile is fake vs men
@saintejeannedarc9460
Ай бұрын
Woman that are looking for meaningful relationships have just as hard a time as men finding them. I've always heard that more men than women go on the dating sites, and that's part of the reason that women get so much more attention. Plus, like the guy acknowledged, it's part of male nature to pursue. I was a young looking, slim and a bit above average mid 40's women when I last was online. I got lots of mail and clicks and all that, but a heck of a lot was younger men looking for a cougar hookup. So many guys would send likes instead of message, or attempt to chat. Then there was lots of creepy guys just looking to get laid and wanting video hookups and sexting kind of correspondence. Lots of players, lots of too bold and no sense w/ women. It wasn't about money or the best looking or best resources. I wanted an average guy who had a healthy idea about women, dating and relationships. That was still pretty hard to find. I made a few friends that would ask my advice and help, and was ready to just delete my account in defeat, when a sweet, awkward and shy man, that still had confidence and knew that he wanted to settle down came along and was persistent and consistent enough to get me to date him.
@topy706
19 күн бұрын
@@saintejeannedarc9460 better be seen as sexually attractive than as a cockroach when you're a man below 4 on the looks scale
@gregkareem9824
4 күн бұрын
@@saintejeannedarc9460proof ?
@youtubesucks3882
Күн бұрын
@@saintejeannedarc9460 Women who look for meaningful relationships on OLD also fish for the best value man. I very recently went out with someone who wanted to take it slow and build a relationship, which I was 100% on board with as I'm not the type to take pleasure in chasing. The date went extremely well, our lifestyles were very similar, our passions were 1:1. We even set up a second date afterwards. Not even a week later (3-4 days after the date), she sends a message telling me she found someone better. Capitalism and internet technology has corrupted the concept of love and courtship, both of which require time. Everything is taken as face value. Nobody has the patience to know a person properly. They look at the appearances (looks, hobbies, lifestyle) and make their judgement after the first 3-5 hours of knowing the person.
@aaronwatley9973
2 ай бұрын
Dang ok, this made me feel better 😂. The real thing is to not even care. Swipe only when u just bored fr
@yolojabromeo-xw8ft
2 ай бұрын
I got ghosted for 4 years. Never even got a coffee date. I got muscular and had 8 dates scheduled within a week of updating my photos. People like to then say that the apps are a looks contest. That didn't stop the executive HR lead at the billion dollar company I work for touch me in the elevator. She broke all the rules - an executive, the lead HR person for 20+ years. Been at the company since it was 4 people. Women will treat you like a king if you are attractive. Only men who have known the opposite and got there will understand. If you aren't attractive you get treated like garbage, like you don't exist or that your existence is an inconvenience.
@PB22559
2 ай бұрын
Correct. I've always been told I'm attractive by women but I recently got in the best shape of my life. I'm 45. I'm getting more stares, smiles and attention from random women (especially young women) than I did in my 20s and 30s.
@herono-4292
2 ай бұрын
@@PB22559 insane how look matter so much...
@yolojabromeo-xw8ft
2 ай бұрын
@@PB22559Great that you can see a difference even in your experience. Just imagine how life changing it is for a man who has known nothing but body language signs of disgust, discomfort, etc just at your presence. Not only body language but little to no communication, and low quality communication if there is any at all. Its just how the world works.
@jcransome5616
2 ай бұрын
@@PB2255945… dude theye re just being polite
@user-gh8sg7oc9r
2 ай бұрын
@@PB22559And people in the West _hoo_ and _haw_ and wonder why ultra-patriarchal cultures exist. Many times you really can't take the average woman seriously
@Mortalsrk
2 ай бұрын
online dating scene now is not real.
@christiansnaturestudio6599
17 күн бұрын
IRL dating is a scam too
@phile04
2 ай бұрын
What shocks me everytime, is that there still are more men than women on dating apps. Speaking about guys checking out. Not really. Simping should be considered a crime
@excessivemedia9295
Ай бұрын
There’s more women then men on dating apps and it’s proven
@TheMikeD428
2 ай бұрын
The dating apps are full of busted people. Imagine the women you can meet who are outside and NOT on social media.
@Rn-pp9et
2 ай бұрын
Even the ones outside are busted. Just focus on you and enjoy the decline.
@TheMikeD428
2 ай бұрын
@@Rn-pp9et Agreed, focusing on self health, both physically and mentally is the top priority.
@MonroesArtStudio
Ай бұрын
People too afraid to get rejected in person nowadays, sadly 🙃 I blame social media for changing that mindset of online presence vs going outside and talking to someone. 🙃
@albertwesker2k24
29 күн бұрын
Trust me there are plenty psycho chicks outside too
@alexbeboolin7002
22 күн бұрын
Lmao
@BrianWaller-qe7gr
2 ай бұрын
I completely gave up and officially retired from dating. It’s such a bunch of bullshit
@itzgxlxxi
2 ай бұрын
fax 💯‼️‼️‼️
@Kyle_Fall
2 ай бұрын
What exactly have you tried that hasn’t worked?
@Someguy0525
2 ай бұрын
Dating apps don't work anymore you have to pay for everything, and I personally can't meet any in person because I'm not outgoing and confident enough.
@zuesjackrussell9675
Ай бұрын
@@Someguy0525 Confidence comes from getting rejected over and over funny enough. Fear of rejection is much greater than the rejection itself. And alcohol always works.
@Someguy0525
Ай бұрын
@@zuesjackrussell9675 Rejection is the worst thing when you have low self esteem lol.
@eh8706
2 ай бұрын
Im average also and have been on dating apps for 4 years. Zero matches and zero dates
@Arejen03
2 ай бұрын
yeah im 5,7, it was a dead end
@itzgxlxxi
2 ай бұрын
i’m 6’2” n still can’t get women they ALL WANT THE SAME THING
@ragequitter
2 ай бұрын
5’9” and girls ask me out in real life. It got me thinking I was good-looking. In reality, I’m like a 6/10. Zero matches. I got 2 likes from one trashy looking girl and one super ugly girl.
@fxfundedfxf8776
2 ай бұрын
are you white@@itzgxlxxi
@FakeAndTrolled
2 ай бұрын
The 80/20 rule still applies in real life simply because most men won’t approach, on the apps it’s like 98/2 at the minimum.
@energyclown58
2 ай бұрын
He is actually quite good looking
@fantasy8833
Ай бұрын
you a guy?
@energyclown58
Ай бұрын
@@fantasy8833 Yes
@Kai_Stone
Ай бұрын
Tbh he's very average. I'm actually very surprised he had matches. I'm Asian and average like him, no matches, maybe 1 from a bot. Yet this guy got a boat load of matches. He must live in some very liberal place like Canada.
@Japhu
Ай бұрын
@@Kai_Stone No the harsh truth is he looks just better than you.
@jose131991
Ай бұрын
@@Kai_Stone”the only way this guy had a chance was because of the liberals” 😂 people will inject politics into anything.
@nathankurz
Ай бұрын
Get off of social media and dating apps immediately. Go outside and do what you love. Social media and dating apps can be toxic.
@gb747gb
Ай бұрын
there's also a phenomena where the more options you're given the more you regret the decision you made -- with the grape jam example, with only 2 options you would feel confident in your choice -- with 200 options, once you finally make your decision, after a while you will begin to regret it and think the grass is greener with one of the other options you didn't pick
@Dereksilver0
Ай бұрын
thats a good point, i actually havent thought of that before 🤔
@gb747gb
Ай бұрын
@@Dereksilver0 it's called Overchoice or choice overload
@_Juukbox_
Ай бұрын
Paradox of choice. There's an actual book on it.
@nickem6556
Ай бұрын
Women can get 12 messages per day from different guys and one can be more richer, prettier, older or younger than the other one. There is literally no reason for them to ever stop this train until looks will fade
@gregkareem9824
4 күн бұрын
@@nickem6556ur everywhere
@miguelg51
2 ай бұрын
Great discussion big dawg. As an average man in the USA, I will give 0 attention/validation to these modern women. Whether its online or in person they just don't deserve my money, time, or personal feelings. I found a passion in traveling the world, pretty soon I will be in country # 20( not a passport bro!). In addition I focus on growing my business, reading, hitting the gym, being healthy, becoming the best version of myself. Whether or not women show interest, I am happy being single and accomplishing my personal goals!
@Dereksilver0
2 ай бұрын
keep goin up bro🚀🙏🏽
@ishyameru6232
2 ай бұрын
That's the goal
@kendralhunt4296
2 ай бұрын
You telling the truth man these women in America aitn shit it's time to move on get a woman that not only looks good but has the drive to build with you, good personality and loves you for you unlike these American women.
@CommandoMaster
2 ай бұрын
Totally agree with all your points. The only way to solve this dating market in balance is wait for realistic AI female robots to come out, so they all the men who cannot s3x/intimacy will be able to, and women will not be given all this free attention/validation/money and will actually lower their standards and have to put in effort to compete for men.
@Kumari_44
2 ай бұрын
The reason why that is such a stupid idea is because its a band aid cure for a problem thats *a gaping wound!* which is the lack of genuine, real, human companionship. No AI sex bot will ever be able to recreate that. Wishing for robots is just a losers way to cope. Its basement dweller mentality. The real solution to the dating problem is societal. Bring back two parent homes, that wont leave children traumatized leading them to be promiscuous as adults. Champion modesty morals & values again as a society and shame & destroy any kind of sexual degenerate media/ideologies. This is a good start. Remember, women werent naturally like this. They were brainwashed into being like this through media indoctrination. Brainwashing that became twice as strong because they already came from traumatized childhoods in single mother households where those single mothers were also traumatized and brainwashed themselves (Which is often the reason they pushed the father out of the home in the first place) Address those two things and we’re well on our way to being back on track. Sadly though, thats not the agendas plans. So its only going to get worse. But sex bots wont solve shit, as We cant undo our biology and every human being wants true genuine love & companionship.
@2Gales
Ай бұрын
The dating market, just like any market, is always in balance. Equilibrium, economics 101.
@onceuponarevenant9409
18 күн бұрын
We will be dead soon before that happens, and even if we werent, how much will it cost?
@Alcyoneus__
12 күн бұрын
@@2Gales I love economics
@mr.ironmindset1973
2 ай бұрын
I love your content it is pure wisdom, real-life experiences and profound knowledge.
@Dereksilver0
2 ай бұрын
tryin my best haha i appreciate it
@ronylee11
2 ай бұрын
quality content bro, subbed
@nealmccoy5727
16 күн бұрын
You hit it out of the park with your description and prescription of/for dating apps and women. Every average dude needs to watch this and need the advice you give
@onceuponarevenant9409
18 күн бұрын
So if you are average guy, you are basically screwed.
@Dereksilver0
17 күн бұрын
Not completely screwed, just significantly more challenging especially on dating apps. Within your local communities probably a bit better depending where you live but still more challenging lol, dont give up
@onceuponarevenant9409
17 күн бұрын
@@Dereksilver0 there is hope then, we just have to be realistic
@msinna6433
2 ай бұрын
Idk, my viewpoint is a little different. I mostly ONLY date women who message me first or show very high interest, but most women I’ve met in dating apps have problems, low self esteem, BPD, baby daddies that make so they have to sneak talk to me, that’s why I don’t reccomend it. Luckily I happened to find a regular women on there, her only baggage is she’s been cheated on but it’s starting to come together now, hopefully
@Dereksilver0
2 ай бұрын
love hearing success stories, best of luck bro
@KRYMauL
Ай бұрын
The whole idea behind PUA is that you start focusing on yourself, the problem is most dating advice comes down to not talking to the other sex just focusing on yourself. Also, dating apps want you to be single, so you can keep using them.
@silenthill1035
Ай бұрын
Thank you so much for making this video. I had the same experience on those apps, and really felt terrible not only about myself but also about women in general. Only after quitting those apps I realized, neither I am so bad nor are women in general. Its just the nature of the beast that those apps create in the heads of both and women. The longer that beast has lived in someone's head, the more hard it would do to that person. Another thing I can relate with you was the short attention span of women on those apps. A person like me who takes one or two days to respond to text messages anyway can never survive in such an environment. Those apps are good only for those top 10% men, but for the rest of us mere mortals its terrible !
@wekings9073
3 күн бұрын
I am on a huge grind. End goal is to bench 265lbs at 165lbs bodyweight. As Derek says... the less you care the better it is. Focus on your goals and magic will happen.
@KunimunduR
Ай бұрын
Good video! Made me finally realise that these apps are a waste of my time. I got convinced I should join and I was very active for a while, and I did get a handful of matches but all went nowhere. So from now on I'll just put all the eggs into approaches and going to fun events to meet potential women, I'm done with these apps, and not just dating apps, I mean it's all just pixles on a screen, not real life.
@jcransome5616
2 ай бұрын
IT NEVER GETS BETTER
@bmorehemi392
16 күн бұрын
Never
@caribbaviator7058
5 күн бұрын
Moving to the US 9 years ago has made my chances of dating much slimmer. The job I’m perusing will allow me to travel so that’s a plus.
@user-fj6fm6rw4x
Ай бұрын
You're absolutely right, although i live in Russia i am currently facing exactly the same situation as you and i came to the same conclusions as you: 1) stop chasing 2) self improvement (nowadays I'm working on my physic in the gym + growing beard with your American minoxidil + mewing etc.) I think the main point is to never give up so that one day you can see the results of hard work.
@nickem6556
Ай бұрын
Все кончено чувак
@coryleblanc
Ай бұрын
stop chasing but never give up?
@zuesjackrussell9675
Ай бұрын
Never improve yourself to get or impress women. Do It for yourself. If your going out of your way for a woman you won't find the right one. And dating apps just go on looks nothing else anyway.
@Alcyoneus__
12 күн бұрын
@@coryleblanc Stop chasing women, but never give up on self improvement. Yknow the whole beautiful garden phrase.
@ishyameru6232
2 ай бұрын
My plan is to Get my fishing license and learn to swim this summer. Oh DATING? yeah idk about that one dog
@Iceman19852003
2 ай бұрын
What I've learned throughout my life is that the current dating culture can be compared to the chicken or the egg analogy. Most men learn simping from how they grew up, usually by a single mother. And we base our dating choices (subconsciously) from our mother. Because she was your blueprint on how you love because she loves you. So you look for your mother in your partner. Most guys nowadays had no father, no one to model masculinity and therefore adopt a feminine approach when it comes to mate selection. Your mother and most influences in your younger years are FEMALE, so they tell you how to woo a girl based on how THEY would've wanted the men they were attracted to (bad boys), to woo them (tell her she's beautiful, buy roses, etc). Problem is, the bad boys pumped and dumped and they ended up a single mother, now she raises you to be what he was never for her.... chicken or the egg. Then the cycle continues to where now society is so flipped, generations of boys grew up with no father... Add in the advent of technology and now you have the perfect storm.
@nickem6556
Ай бұрын
females with no father want someone cold, abusive and pretending like he doesn't want her, once he changes his behavior her dopamine rush ends and she hops on another one
@lessthantom2
Ай бұрын
The height thing is a weird modern issue. I’m not even short but it’s so off putting. You will be talking with a girl for days and right before the date 50% of them will ask me how tall I am. I know if I was short they would just cancel the date, and these are girls who have invested time talking to me not girls I just opened.
@JSHardrocker261
27 күн бұрын
Thanks for speaking up for men and viewing society through an honest lens! First video I'm seeing of yours, but your content is very much needed 🙏🏽 Men and women need to open their eyes to the truth of dating
@WHAdeku
Ай бұрын
Dating apps should be deleted off the internet.
@Superlegofighter101
Ай бұрын
Dating apps are not the wave. Originally for hookups taken over by desperate women seeking relationships and then demonized it. Live in the physical world, work on yourself, enjoy your peace. Because even if you do get a match and go on a date they might not be it. Expanding your circle is a great way to find someone.
@richardakers6851
Күн бұрын
Ay bro , Straight Facts . Preach brotha . Realest smartest shit I’ve heard in awhile . Got my subscription and I hope these mofo’s listening
@massimiliano_bartolini
Ай бұрын
You are on point man, keep up the good work 💪
@thebutterflyking
Ай бұрын
As a 28 year old average-slightly above average guy I agree with you. What women will have pain realizing in the next 10-15 years is that looks fade and a hookup and a man wanting to invest in you long term are twl different things...
@nt3353
16 күн бұрын
Thats ur problem u believe ur above average lol
@thebutterflyking
16 күн бұрын
@@nt3353 I'm not obese. I have a six pack. I made over $50k last year. I sleep with women. The average guy gets no pussy. You are a troll. Haha.
@thebutterflyking
10 күн бұрын
@@nt3353 said the coward hiding behind a false profile. Incel
@gregkareem9824
4 күн бұрын
@@nt3353cope look at your pfp
@ELdASenSei
Ай бұрын
35m here. I gave up a long time ago. felt burned out from all the rejections and jestering
@eskimogamer2493
2 ай бұрын
Good video bro big facts when I swiped on everything I hit hella matches 😂
@FromDkWithLove
Ай бұрын
Don't relate to this at all. To me it's not worth it. If you're not happy, just don't date. I gave up on finding anyone with similar core values more than a decade ago. Tried going on dates exactly 3 times before that, then quit. If you keep failing, but repeat the same motions regardless, well, you know how it goes, insanity and all that.
@jose131991
Ай бұрын
How old are you now ?
@gregkareem9824
4 күн бұрын
U didn't answer the question
@FromDkWithLove
4 күн бұрын
@@gregkareem9824 It's that important? The comment wouldn't have made much sense if I was in my teens or twenties after all. I'm 36 now. Stopped dating around 23 or 24 I think.
@ryancarrel5191
20 сағат бұрын
lol wtf I dont need to hear this pessimistic attitude. Cant believe I stumbled upon this bs. Foh
@FromDkWithLove
15 сағат бұрын
@@ryancarrel5191 If anything it's intended to be liberating. I have absolutely no regrets. Sorry if you didn't get that, but that's you reading into it.
@1bosstv
Ай бұрын
A dating app match isn't a match until you met in person and smashed.
@cripbk2147
Ай бұрын
I smashed over 8 woman using online dating apps in a period of 10 months
@justinsmith9851
Ай бұрын
Dude I was a serial dater in apps. I had dozens of matches in a short time span. With that being said. 0 matches is a blessing it saved you from head ache and heartache and and possibly an std or an unwanted pregnancy.
@liveahappylife1
2 ай бұрын
Those prompts you were quoting from girls profiles had me DYING, gotta look outside the U.S now
@STEPHx1911
Ай бұрын
Idk what to think of the modern dating scene. There’s too much conflicting info coming from all sorts of different angles and our individual experiences either validate or discredit whatever discourse
@saintejeannedarc9460
Ай бұрын
That's good to be dubious about what you're being told online. Watch out for the supposed red pill sites, because they are really black pill. You're going to hear the worst of the worst about women, and these are jaded and bitter men. Of course we're all sick of feminism, but try to balance your views by looking at the other side and listening to women and what they are looking for and their issues too. It's always best to get a balance. The truth is somewhere in between. I found the worst first date story clips had interesting stories. Most the really bad stories were from women and it reminds you of what women truly are dealing w/, which is definitely not what the red pill guys are mostly saying.
@jirimakovsky6619
2 ай бұрын
Basically all you said I figured out a fewe months back. Especially the competition I think is the root of the problem. Right now you easily compete against thousands of people in you live in a city.
@HiRiotByeQuiet
Ай бұрын
You nailed it. I’ve been around for longer, before the apps, & it’s not like online dating’s ever been amazing per se, but nowadays? Holy hell…
@Dylan-ox5fb
2 ай бұрын
Wow, I agree with your video so much! I also think if you have to entertain women on apps and pull levers in a particular way just to keep their attention, you were never compatible to begin with, especially if they always have other options available. I don’t even think it’s worth trying to “game” the system to get more matches - you’re probably going to be wasting your time anyway. Too many options = inflated sense of their own self-importance. I believe it comes down to these exploitative dating app companies - they’re the problem.
@Makzy_1
Ай бұрын
As someone who has stopped chasing for a while now, I've been the best person that I've ever been. Self reflecting and improving is key.
@------.
Ай бұрын
cope
@benluciano4980
Ай бұрын
Cope Harder. You are simply trying to deal with the fact you will never be able to propagate your genes.
@nt3353
16 күн бұрын
Sound like u gave up
@WhiteTigerVII
14 күн бұрын
This video is so comforting! Thanks, man.
@404nonexistent
Ай бұрын
I'd say I'm definitely average. 5 foot 7, no abs, 165lbs, round face, exercise regularly in spring/summer but go into a laze/hibernation for fall/winter. Ended up joining the army, and I'd say that was very likely the only reason I got an uptick in matches from maybe one or two to at most 5 to a dozen on any given dating app, and still being only average looking. You hit the nail on the head with this vid - from the double standards to the lying about how much looks genuinely matter and subsequent overinflated emphasis people put on looks, whether men or women. *Everyone* seems to want the 9 or 10/10 matches in looks, and no one seems happy/content with the simply average demographic, which is a huge part of the problem. Doesn't help that *every* dating nowadays is pretty much tailored to keeping people lonely with their algorithms purposely keeping all the eye-candy profiles at the forefront while Joe/Jane Schmo is left to wither. Nor does it help that people purposely self sabotage themselves by staying unhealthy whether physically or mentally, surround themselves with yes-men/women and then wonder why others don't like them. Dating would be far, far simpler if PC culture didn't go overboard by invading personal lives to the point where we all now live in HR world. Can't ask a woman out in public anywhere anymore because it's now an "over-stepping of boundaries" which leaves it all up to the women, who by sheer numbers/statistics aren't going to ask men out. Whether its asking out a co-worker, approaching someone at bars/clubs or even walking dogs. Then again the kind of people trying to find love at bars/clubs highly likely aren't the kind of people to find solace in long-term relationships with in the first place, but that's neither here nor there. Dating apps became the norm, and it shouldn't be that way. Thanks, PC culture and SJW's. Real bang-up job. And thx Silver for this vid.
@user-ki6qf6lq7v
2 ай бұрын
Maybe I was thinking we could save the expensive restaurant for like the 10th or 12th date.
@saintejeannedarc9460
Ай бұрын
That sounds perfectly sensible.
@andrewevans7992
Ай бұрын
@@saintejeannedarc9460it’s sensible but wont get you anywhere with all these other simps out here giving her 10000% up front just cause he met her
@samsabuncu
Ай бұрын
You are one eloquent dude. Sub earned. 👊
@Dereksilver0
Ай бұрын
🙏🏽
@koinglmao4059
Күн бұрын
Im gay and Im pretty average. Even if you get matches, people think you're not interesting or just block you without explaining. It's better to stay single and just take care of yourself
@MozzieLionel
Ай бұрын
I genuinely liked this video. Good content bro. Funny mentioning passport bros 😂
@saintejeannedarc9460
Ай бұрын
I'm so sick of hearing from the passport bros. They think all the women in their country are trash, but that's because they have impossibly high standards. They complain about women just being after money. What do they think they are getting when they go to a third world country, where a woman is willing to date outside her race and culture (which is frowned upon over there)? It used to be pathetic to get a mail order bride, which is pretty much what they are doing.
@Cristianoronado7
Ай бұрын
if this dude is average im fucked
@Dereksilver0
Ай бұрын
nah bro, give yourself more credit, or the future you more credit
@djchakir
2 ай бұрын
Good advice 💪 What mic are you using❓
@Dereksilver0
2 ай бұрын
at2020 usb
@RAGWT
Ай бұрын
Great video bro moral of the story just don’t care you’ll be much better off
@MrHarry1
2 ай бұрын
You just walk up to them on the street and say hi.
@animestarlord9021
29 күн бұрын
In Washington DC I've had ladies reject me for being too short. I'm 5'11. Does not matter in the chick is only 4'8.
@mssn3166
12 күн бұрын
5.11 is fine, don't worry. But it matters for us ladies cos we want our kids to be tall. 6 ft ++ is perfect.
@animestarlord9021
11 күн бұрын
@@mssn3166 I don't want kids and have been very open about that for years.
@Jakensik
7 күн бұрын
@@mssn3166 you are stuрid if it's matters to you
@Jeremy-ql1or
7 күн бұрын
@@mssn3166 "But it matters for us ladies cos we want our kids to be tall. 6 ft ++ is perfect." Then a lot of you are going to be in harems with an average of six other women because only 1 in 7 guys are 6' or taller.
@mssn3166
6 күн бұрын
@@Jeremy-ql1or my minimum is 5.10 though. If past a certain age, 5.9 but I’m aiming for 5.10, 6 and + is perfect. I’ve met guys who have the height I like
@poloking3478
26 күн бұрын
Aye bro you are hilarious 🤣 I was just tryna find some tips and stumbled on this
@tjtanner9311
2 ай бұрын
I'm leaving dating apps alone. Meeting other single people at events is where its at.
@saintejeannedarc9460
Ай бұрын
You have a great attitude. I also love how you say, "single people", instead of women, which to the red pill crowd, is generally a slur now.
@tjtanner9311
Ай бұрын
@saintejeannedarc9460 Well, I'm technically bi😅, hence the "people".🤭
@nateclipps
2 ай бұрын
I'm so happy im gay during these times. Ya'll seem to have to hella ruff nowadays
@JohnnyAllan-vj7sj
Ай бұрын
Come to think of it, "If you can't handle perfection" would be a pretty funny thing to say on a dude's profile. I might use that
@Congnhan.NailtoclabonthathcNGU
2 ай бұрын
so how many matches did u yet?
@Mturner450
29 күн бұрын
I think I'm gonna die alone
@WhirlingMusic
14 күн бұрын
Better than being with someone who cheats on you
@civicboi96
2 ай бұрын
Great job ladies. Your gold digging is literally unraveling society. Well done.
@Dereksilver0
2 ай бұрын
some, not all; we love women
@patnor7354
2 ай бұрын
They don't care. They have their Chads for an evening and money from ordinary men thanks to government redistribution...
@CitizenLUL
Ай бұрын
Nothing new here, but still a good video. I liked how you structured it.
@vissal4505
Ай бұрын
Well articulated facts Wolf.
@schahrzadmorgan
2 ай бұрын
Free dinner? Only simps lead w their wallet!
@bench3885
2 ай бұрын
Simple .. be handsome and dont be ugly .. how hard is that
@kendralhunt4296
2 ай бұрын
Very hard if you already ugly or got bad genetics then you have to accept being ugly unless you got hundreds of thousands for facial surgery
@nathanchilton8917
Ай бұрын
@@kendralhunt4296 becoming handsome is impossible if you weren't born with good enough (note: good enough =/= good looking) starting facial features. plastic surgery ain't magic, yo.
@13sprintuser
2 ай бұрын
Everything you say is so true. But damn. As a 38 yo guy who is starting over dating, going back on the online dating apps and dealing with all of this makes me want to vomit
@Dereksilver0
2 ай бұрын
its not impossible though; but you definitely gotta maneuver through some bs lol
@jipenghu
16 сағат бұрын
You just cured me, thank you from all my love.
@EP_1990
2 ай бұрын
It’s even worse as an Indian. We are at the bottom of the dating pool.
@PB22559
2 ай бұрын
😂 dont worry brother. We're all getting a raw deal.
@Redy656
2 ай бұрын
Bro we're all in the same sinking boat lol
@VR-oy3fu
Ай бұрын
Im indian too. I got about 50 matches in the first month on tinder when I moved to a new city just outside of Houston, TX in the beginning of December. If you would have told me I would get this, I would have said thats awesome! A few girls even opened. What came out of it? All ghosted after a while or when I suggested a date. 0 dates as of March 2024. Im 6'1'' and used a shirtless pic for the first pic (im in good shape with a six pack). Now the matches are slowing down and its pretty much over. Ive given up. Unless a girl messages/opens first in person or online with high enthusiasm, Im done pursuing. Im focusing on intimidation maxxing now for life in general and trying to get as jacked as possible to at least be physically dominating in public to show all the people that think indians are weak and feeble that if they fuck with me, they'll get beat up. It is what it is and life goes on...
@JoblessJoshua
Ай бұрын
@@VR-oy3fu how a currycel like you gets matches in the first place, except for with your own race, is beyond my understanding. I'm saying this as a brown rice-cel
@nt3353
16 күн бұрын
Asians n blacks are at the bottom of dating pool
@WanganRacer5
2 ай бұрын
After years in dating apps with absolutely nothing. I'm finally accepting that I'm meant to be alone
@Dereksilver0
2 ай бұрын
nah dont say that lol you wont be alone
@user-up7yh7fl7m
Ай бұрын
think of this period of your life as a character development arc in ur favourite anime
@mastermindrational1907
Ай бұрын
The best ‘luck’ I had on dating apps was when I was mean to a girl because I didn’t like her and thought she was an arrogant prick. She talked to me more than anyone. Makes no sense. Literally the girl I didn’t like that I treated like crap liked me.
@nickem6556
Ай бұрын
They are being turn on by abusing behavior because of the experience in the past with father or other boys, then they will ask to do non consensual stuff roleplay
@lovely-shrubbery8578
28 күн бұрын
Ha welcome to female psychology
@jackholt6860
10 күн бұрын
What you say about most matches not leading to anything is so true and kills my motivation to use the apps every time. For a guy I have an okay match rate but 99% of my matches don't message me first and if they do it's just a 'hey' so I have to figure out how to carry a conversation with all of them and then like 90% of the girls I message stop replying :D. Think I need to do what you do and not take it too seriously because right now I have 16 matches I haven't messaged and 46 potential matches on Hinge because I worry too much that if my messages aren't perfect they'll stop replying. :(
@charlesg5085
Ай бұрын
I am a 6' 2" white male that was making over 100k and I had to take a project in Mexico to find a wife. They cheated on me constantly. They were boring, dull, with a really low IQ. Meanwhile, they all thought they were straight 10s. This was nearly 2 decades ago... I feel bad for guys now. Holy crap.
@zatilaqmar3427
2 ай бұрын
As a girl on dating apps I am tired of the amount of time being asked if I want to hookup. My likes might be alot but most of them do not want to date me or get to know me as a person.They're making feel like I am a protistute and unworthy of love. But yeah I agree when a guy show off a bit too strong especially when we only chatted for a few hours, I would be turn off as well.I have a guy who said he wanted to marry me although we never met...
@KandaEzana
2 ай бұрын
I think that's because of redpill content. According to redpill content creators, going on dates is for "betas" and that women only want free meals and free attention on dates. They also teach that women don't need to go on dates for the men they're truly attracted to. She'll come over to your place if she wants you, no need for dating. Some of this is kind of true, as I've experience this myself. But I know not all women behave like this.
@k_da_menace23
2 ай бұрын
@@KandaEzana Women do want free meals n free attention tho.
@jeremybeaverson7167
2 ай бұрын
Honestly every time I’ve ask a girl hay can I get to know you they ghost after two texts mind you I’m 6ft2 180lb I’m shape so idk 🤷♂️
@ramalellison9205
2 ай бұрын
@jeremybeaverson7167 I'm sorry but if this happening "everytime", you doing something wrong.
@jeremybeaverson7167
2 ай бұрын
@@ramalellison9205 it’s called not being a 10 and my best conversation I’ve had have been by being mean then nice then mean somehow that gets numbers and snaps and IG
@arwic3503
29 күн бұрын
Really smart of you to make a female to check out the competition. Thanks bro!
@Bladex2105
25 күн бұрын
Well said man, everything you said 100% true...
@castroislivingonearth
Ай бұрын
If you're average , then I'm finna retire.
@JimiJames528
Ай бұрын
He hsn't seen the stats on how undesirable Asain men are on the dating apps. 😂😂😂
@user-up7yh7fl7m
Ай бұрын
yeah he actually is good looking
@DavidRodriguez-kr2hp
Ай бұрын
Now you could try cold approach for three months and see what happens.
@marianpe5773
Ай бұрын
End in prison 😂
@troy8093
25 күн бұрын
Really informative vid man!! I recently re-downloaded a bunch of the main apps including Tinder, Hinge and Bumble. Spent about $500 combined because without the boosts and etc, it’s a complete waste. I get a match every 2 or 3 days I’d say on average and usually it’s a girl I’m not interested in at all. Can get pretty demoralizing for the average Joe like myself. I’m probably middle of the pack somewhere on attractiveness. I think my best bet is to go out into the wild and find a cute girl to approach and maybe you can get ahead of the hundreds in her messages. This really is a problem though and it makes sense since we as a nation are in rapid population decline.
@Jeremy-ql1or
7 күн бұрын
The problem with meeting girls in the wild is that if she uses dating apps, you will just get shuffled in with those other 1000 guys and forgotten about.
@jayfel104
Ай бұрын
The worst part is that dating apps give you limited likes unless you buy premium. So it limits your potential matches, if any at all.
@shin-ishikiri-no
2 ай бұрын
You made an appeal to biology that gender roles are set in stone (i.e. men must initiate, women are incapable of initiation) but then you went on to say men are giving women too much free validation, as if men can really control this impulse. I would argue that simping is mostly wired into men as well, and I think society needs to build guard rails around human nature. These dating apps as they are currently structured shouldn't even be legal in the first place.
@VRNocturne
Ай бұрын
Not about gender but who you are as an individual. Even if it's 100% biology "programmed" this, we are also creatures of learning and adaptation, etc. You can control impulses. Even dogs can learn self-control and human minds are much more competent. And yes, biology made it that way. Love it when people blame biology for disadvantages but ignore the advantages biology also gives humans that we often don't take advantage of. I agree that the legality should be looked at, but that doesn't absolve us of making our own choices.
@shin-ishikiri-no
Ай бұрын
@@VRNocturne You give humans too much credit. As an example, ask yourself why women cannot bring themselves to date men much shorter than themselves, or why men and women are instinctually driven to be biased against men, both automatically and unconsciously. Clearly we aren't in control of many of our instincts.
@nick19988
2 ай бұрын
online dating is fkd up, better to approach in real life that is what i learned. Most guys don't approach girls in public anymore so you got a big advantage over guys on dating apps and social media
@Dereksilver0
2 ай бұрын
thats actually true; with the rise of social media and technology, people would much rather dm or message from the comfort behind a screen than actually go up to a girl
@Chester-mz2ep
2 ай бұрын
I remeber talking to this 1 girl and 3 days into talking to her she asked if I could help her pay for her cosmetology equipment lol
@ArisenMind
Ай бұрын
🤣 Bro what. Lol.
@callumdavies6473
Ай бұрын
Silverwolf to be honest I've given up with dating I can't pretend to be a guy I am not to entertain a girl with an ego issue who doesn't even know what her true value is I do want a girlfriend but at this point I accepted I can't comepete with a tall dark and handsome guy who can just hit her up anytkme of the day I have no idea how people are insecure 24/7 when it comes to their relationships even can cheat thanks to online dating
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