Everything in our lives has come together by or, around 60. All the people we loved so much aren't here to share it with us. You want your loved ones here to see your accomplishments, share your joy, eat a meal with.... & they're gone. Yet all those years while we were working so hard at a full time job/career, we didn't have the time to see them. Now we have the time, they're gone & we're alone. I guess that's what I didn't expect or, see coming so soon. I think that's the grief while trying to enjoy the new chapter in life for some of us.💞🥰🐾
@LittlePoet
Жыл бұрын
You are so wise and you captured how I feel....
@njcruickshank6974
Жыл бұрын
Such a true fact. I feel exactly the same.
@mindymarie3379
Жыл бұрын
You put into words exactly how I feel. It's nice to know that someone else feels the same way.
@carollee6963
Жыл бұрын
I know exactly what you mean. I retired and then lost my best friend, mother, and dog within 7 months. I thought my best friend, Laura, and I would be doing things together and it wasn't meant to be. I retired and two months later she died at 58. It came out of the blue and caught me off guard. Next, my mom died three months later at 94. Then, in August, I lost my dog Pumpkin at 12 years old.
@annahayes1007
Жыл бұрын
@@carollee6963 that's a lot of grief for one person to bear....I hope you have a good support system in place. Your mother lived to a good age! That is a blessing. I lost my big fluffy cat, "Buddy" in November, to cancer, and it's been so hard to deal with. He was more like a dog than a cat, such a pal. My most sincere condolences to you.
@Wendysnostalgiclife
Жыл бұрын
Some challenges I am learning to deal with are looking older, wanting someone to talk to, and missing the old days.
@gardenbun
Жыл бұрын
My thoughts exactly! And having so many cute outfits from my career gal days but having no where to go to wear them!
@guambyguambelle1864
Жыл бұрын
@@gardenbun I've started purging much of my work wardrobe now that I'm retired. But still keeping a few outfits!
@loriwise3177
Жыл бұрын
Moved to a new state and having trouble getting out to find someone to talk to. Everyone seems very private since Covid. I also think about how simple life used to be…it is hard learning new things that are difficult. I am starting to understand why people are moving to simpler places. I am also 68 and feeling lost some days in this world. You want to make me try harder and I will.
@guambyguambelle1864
Жыл бұрын
@@loriwise3177 I moved to a new town just in time for COVID, so I've been very isolated. I live with my adult daughter, at least, even if it wasn't planned. (Was in a layoff.) I know what you mean.
@Alicia-hf7zb
Жыл бұрын
The loss of family ! In the pass 3 years I lost my husband , sister,and cousin/sister! I moved from a city back to my small hometown . I used to love to decorate. I have little interest I used to love to garden. I have little interest ! My golden years are not the way I expected . I am lonely and tired all the time . I am 68 years old.
@pa5203
Жыл бұрын
Challenge #1 accepting broken relationships I have no control over Challenge #2 standing in my truth without judging a world that is going crazy Challenge #3 accepting the aches and pains my body feels in the morning that weren’t there a few years ago
@deniseb2571
Жыл бұрын
Same! 🤔
@tanyajohnston8262
Жыл бұрын
Yup
@lindafrazier8092
Жыл бұрын
❤beautifully said!
@proverbs3150
Жыл бұрын
Couldn’t agree more!
@mariabolt3881
Жыл бұрын
Ooh yes I can relate to that! I'm in my 50's, my Knees I think are in their 70's!
@sherrieatkinson5410
Жыл бұрын
I think my biggest challenge as a 67 year old single woman for 12 years is loneliness along with a certain amount of fear. I fill most of my time with gardening, crafts, volunteering once a week and, Eastern Star. However, once or twice a week when I lay down at night the fear and loneliness hits me and at times feels overwhelming. Yes, I still have self-esteem issues at 67 and thinning hair and the aging process itself does not help.
@cathybrotman9878
Жыл бұрын
I understand the loneliness, it chokes me at times, can't believe how hard it is to make friends!
@ginamcdonald7854
Жыл бұрын
Loneliness is a big part of my life. At 64 I’m still working a full time job, and I’m the oldest in the office. The younger women in the office go out to lunch and after work sometimes. I’m not invited and find out when I hear them talking. My good friends live about 90 minutes away, and with us still working it’s difficult to get together sometimes. We’re going to be fine, and we’re stronger than we think!
@rhonda6791
Жыл бұрын
The second I feel that overwhelming bad feeling I immediately say to myself, I’m alright. I say it a few times until it’s true.
@CherylAnderson0
Жыл бұрын
Try to find a good church in your new town. I loved your video and will comment more later when I can articulate what’s on my mind better. Love from Pensacola
@kelleyrancher
Жыл бұрын
Walgreens has women's minoxidil Santa purple and white box it's about 20 bucks and it really works then fix all your thing here on the top of your head and the front I've been using it for a long time it worked
@gailbreen279
Жыл бұрын
I think my biggest challenge is to live for the moment without looking at thé limited years I have left on this earth. My second biggest challenge is to stop feeling shame over the mistakes I made in the past. Remember that we don’t get a do over for yesterday. So live for today.
@janetsalter9606
Жыл бұрын
I'm in the process of buying myself a home at 69 yrs old. It's an exciting and nerve wrecking process but I'm passionate about having a house. Been renting for almost 12 years and rents are so high now I feel owning a home of my own I won't be subject to rising rental rates in the future. Believing everything will go smoothly with this process and my future will be a happy one!😊
@davisholman8149
Жыл бұрын
Bravo, Janet!👏🏼 Hope you find the best deals or your perfect items to make your new abode feel delightful.🏡
@LittlePoet
Жыл бұрын
Oh yes! My mortgage here is less than my rent by $200. if not more because they raised it every single year! I bought a home that my Social security could pay for so I can retire....I am sending you well wishes and hugs!!!
@janetsalter9606
Жыл бұрын
@@LittlePoet Thanks! That great! Happy for you and me😃
@paulapirpignani4802
Жыл бұрын
@littlePoet please talk about buying a home in your Sr yrs. I wouldn't know where to begin. Ive rented my whole life.
@ginamcdonald7854
Жыл бұрын
Congratulations on your decision to purchase your own home!!! I’m so glad I didn’t sell my house when I divorced years ago. There are things I’m changing now that I have some money put back for improvements. I’ve recently put in new flooring and new lighting, and there are a few more things I want to change! I’ll be 65 next year, and I’m looking forward to retiring soon so I’ll have more time to plant flowers and spend more time outside!
@franzone70
Жыл бұрын
My husband passed ten years ago after 40 years of marriage. we were just starting a new life, bought a retirement home by the lake, and had so many plans together. Now I have to plan by myself. and I to,sit in the screened porch that I had installed after he died and thinking how much he would have loved it. You have helped me a lot, but my biggest challenge is trying to make my house a home. Because when your by yourself, it doesn't feel like home.
@streaming5332
Жыл бұрын
It's really hard, having no one to share the beauty with. I don't dress for my age, I wear what suits me.
@marymogckmishmashmary
Жыл бұрын
I am 72 soon to be 73. I lost my husband of 43 years 7 years ago. My biggest challenge has been finding who I am at this stage of my life and adjusting to the changes in my social life. Life goes on, but it is so different than I had expected ❣️
@liabeachy
Жыл бұрын
❤ what did you expect if you don’t mind me asking ? It makes stuff be hard losing someone after such a long time . I’ve been alone most of mine
@lorihaya2021
Жыл бұрын
I think she didn’t expect to feel the grief for so long. Is it the internet that is making us feel like we’re missing something? Did our mothers/widows feel as alone as we feel? Maybe they did but did not want to share it. Thanks for sharing. Sharing is caring.
@lindauribe6872
Жыл бұрын
Night sweet dreams 😴 Turning 80 next January is my challenge now. You have no idea how the 70s change you.
@sabinekoch3448
Жыл бұрын
That’s what challenges me!😁
@margierousu468
Жыл бұрын
Well I was diagnosed with breast cancer the fall of 2021 had a DMX that December 1st with 5 months of chemo after then 2 weeks after that 6th round of chemo I started caughing up blood and ended up in Hospital in ICU for 12 days it took all last summer to start feeling human and with no hair or boobs it was not easy! So my main challenge is to not think about the future and not dwell whether I will have to face some of those same health issues again!Thanks to UTUBERS like you who make down time more interesting and give us something to take our minds off our own problems❤ I am 72.
@juliefizpatrick513
Жыл бұрын
Margie~that was a lot to go through-and yet thank the Lord you made it through it all. 🙏 I’m 71 and I was very young at 55 but just don’t know where the years have gone! Susan you look fabulous for 68 and I love how you dress and how you talk about ur feelings. I worked out in my yard last week and I guess from using clippers and scissors my thumbs are so sore I can barely move them! I mostly just buy new lipsticks cuz for some reason I just can’t wear foundation. It makes me feel 🥵! I used to be such a fashionista but now I hardly ever dress up. So glad ur enjoying ur home and getting more done. Everything really looks beautiful including you and Desi is such a cute dog. 😊🤗🩵💜🙏🌸🌺🌼
@carrimoser122
Жыл бұрын
Bless your heart Margie. I will send prayers your way.
@patricia753
Жыл бұрын
God Bless you!!! 😘🙏🌈🌱🦋
@janetstraw191
Жыл бұрын
😢💕🙏💕💕‼️
@redsloane9905
Жыл бұрын
Same cancer here, though I'm a fair bit younger. Sure changes your perceptions and you discover who really are your friends. Hope you will continue to recover!❤
@elaineparker8538
Жыл бұрын
I couldn't believe you brought up how grief sneaks up on you when you are in a happy place. That has started happening to me too! I thought I was alone in this feeling. I'm sorry you are feeling it but am glad to hear it's not just me.❤
@nigella4me
Жыл бұрын
No, it's not just you. I can be so happy in one moment, and then the next, a memory will just bring me right down, a lot of times to tears. Memories can be VERY destructive to our heart, soul, and mind. It's a battle that I'm finding out MILLIONS of aging people deal with. I'm also finding out through therapy that many, many aging people "pretend" to love living alone, or are at peace with getting older, when in reality they are suffering deeply but don't want to deal with their real feelings so they "hide" it by putting out a brave face to the world and pretend they're happy and content. I hope things get better for you!
@kcampbell867
Жыл бұрын
As I read your post, the song line "it's so hard to say goodbye to yesterday" popped into my thoughts. I wonder if in our later years, we are beginning to mourn what might have been and wonder what Life has in store for us as we head toward the finish line?
@brendawahlberg7341
Жыл бұрын
Not just you🤗
@gailots
Жыл бұрын
This channel is helping me so much as I’m going through divorcing my husband of 39 yrs. Found out most of those years were just lies. You help me stay composed and connected to what really matters.
@stephaniedegange2737
Жыл бұрын
I am so sorry gailots for your pain. keep faith in the Lord...
@lindafrazier8092
Жыл бұрын
❤
@judijudd2129
Жыл бұрын
💚🙏⚘🌻
@phyllisbooth3395
Жыл бұрын
You are so smart to reach out. Keep reaching; there are a lot of wonderful, kind people to meet and appreciate you.
@sandischorling1055
Жыл бұрын
You are stronger than you know. You will discover new things about yourself. Trust me. I divorced mine after 37 yrs. It's been 9 yrs now. Keeping it together for the kid's. Abusive marriage. Little did I know my daughter would believe all the lies he told her. Now she hasn't spoken to me in 8 yrs. Through it all, we somehow find the courage to put one foot in front of the other. Take one day at a time. Learn from it. He has since passed. I send you peace & love. You are blessed You are awesome You are strong 🩷
@kalezi
Жыл бұрын
My biggest challenge as I turn 70 in about 11 days is a challenge that even the young face. That is acceptance. Accepting the changes my body is going through, accepting the pain from an aging back, accepting that I will someday no longer be here with my family, and accepting the hardship my daughter will face as she ages to death and has to leave a beloved total care daughter. There are so many “acceptances” that I can’t name them all. But grief is one of the biggest. I pray to God that he grants me acceptance.
@Dawn_DDH
Жыл бұрын
Happy Birthday! 🎂🎈I hope you will do something on your day that brings you joy. Is 26:3 : )
@lucieweaver3324
Жыл бұрын
Happy Birthday Karen! Your comment really resonated with me as am in my 60's and the realization of aging... what I have done, should have done, etc... I too pray for acceptance and peace!!
@06snydernancy
Жыл бұрын
70 is a really big change. A lot of adjustment. You might need a little therapy for tools. You’re not going to die though just because you turned 70. You ll think about it for 2 years without even looking back at the day you turned 70 and realize you are still very much alive. There’s a difference between your 60s and 70.
@kalezi
Жыл бұрын
@@06snydernancy Are you speaking from experience? Have you been through your sixties and are you now into your 70s? I am in therapy and have been for many years. I’m almost to the point of not needing it, but you have given me the idea to continue for a while. Especially as you have almost scared me that more difficulties are definitely coming as a number changes! 🤣
@06snydernancy
Жыл бұрын
@@kalezi I’m saying 70 is unique to the 60s. The tools for 70 are therefore different. It sounds like you are already entering with fear and I wrote that you should not fear your 70s. But you do feel a physical change at 70 that duu it don’t feel before so this is the time where your know your own personal limits yet work on remaining strong. You should take into account that these developmental points of elderly adulthood and that 70 begins coming to terms with your decisions. Another thing is that we who are in our 70s came into it after feeling threatened by Covid for the last three years and so we may have some residual ptsd from death chasing us during that time. It hasn’t exactly been a free experience and so there may be some time needed to securely accept the changes under best conditions.
@trishalou592
Жыл бұрын
I love your channel because you bring up topics that women of a certain age are all thinking/feeling but really don't talk about. You open up a discussion on it in the comments. I hope you realize what a great service to women you are!
@valerienelson3296
Жыл бұрын
I am so glad you talked about this! I have days I look in the mirror and don't know who's looking back. I think it's important to keep ourselves up when it would be so easy to let ourselves go. I just turned 61 and watched my Grandson graduate from the same school his mom and I graduated from and became so emotional. I swear that was just me, where did all the years go? Gratitude is what saves me when I get in those moods. I have been married for 41 years to an amazing man and can't lie it's seems to be creeping in my mind more & more about a day he is alone or I am alone, so I try to just live in the moment and have gratitude for each day I am living. ❤
@kerryjames6312
Жыл бұрын
Value I can relate
@cathleensmith4717
Жыл бұрын
Sounds like a plan Valarie 👍
@judybard9500
Жыл бұрын
Well I haven't spoken before but you seem like a baby to my 77 self...you have years left and my biggest goal is to stay healthy as possible....so far so good BUT there are things harder to do now than 10 years ago...so girl just "live" and enjoy being with you
@ashleybergstrom8934
Жыл бұрын
I hear you Valerie! I relate.
@nenameza2982
Жыл бұрын
Ladies, I admire everyone of you, you keep me busy and positive. You are not old as I am, I am over 81 and after working 44 years in Real Estate, I retired 3 years ago. This year I decided to go back to work and am loving it. I have been married for over 55 years. Yes, I am worried about what is going to be of me or him when the time comes, but I have to be realistic that is going to happen weather I worry or not. It is nothing we can do about that. So be happy every day 🎉and grateful that God has given us so much and let’s keep sharing our thoughts with one another. ❤️❤️❤️🌹🌹🌹🙏🙏🙏
@binkybergsman4699
Жыл бұрын
This is my first KZitem comment ever and I watch it a lot. Happiness can definitely be chased by grief. It happens to me regularly. Today I was so happy working in the garden. All of a sudden I was hit with sadness and grief. It took a couple hours of wondering why and I realized then that it was the anniversary of my mother’s death. This happens to me all the time. Once I know why, I can be happy again knowing I had that person for a part of my life.
@LittlePoet
Жыл бұрын
I am so glad you left this comment...you helped me understand a bit better why this happens when we are so happy...I so wish I could show my Mom my new house...but I like to think she does see it....and knowing that makes me feel stronger. Happy new week to you, Susan & Desi
@ashleybergstrom8934
Жыл бұрын
I can totally relate to what you said. Photos of my family do the same thing to me. I love looking at them, remembering how lovely those times were, and then sadness washes over me that those days are gone. For a first you tube comment, I am sure it has resonated with many of us.
@cherylthepearl4085
Жыл бұрын
Same here. Yesterday was the 7th anniversary of my husbands passing and I miss him but try to remain forever thankful that we found one another and I was lucky to have him as my friend, lover and husband for 32 yrs. ❤️
@angietiller2332
Жыл бұрын
Amen girl
@karenself3399
Жыл бұрын
You are as old as you feel ! You are Beautiful and Talented ! And you know what you want to do. I think you have it going on ! You should feel so proud of your self . 😊
@nanetteprusakowski2058
Жыл бұрын
Your story was so meaningful. I’m 68 and a widow now for 17 years. I live with my son and family but I feel like I have no identity. I saw you have two beautiful benches in your yard. I hope you fill them with friends and joyful conversations. Don’t forget the wine 🍷.
@ashleybergstrom8934
Жыл бұрын
Love your comment about the benches and joyful conversations! Beautiful.
@hsoderberg6505
Жыл бұрын
Is it for a financial reason you live with your son or could you strike out on your own? You could decorate your space to express your personality, surround yourself with things you love.
@nanetteprusakowski2058
Жыл бұрын
@@hsoderberg6505 Living with them was the only way I could retire. But I do believe God has me where I’m supposed to be. I will move forward. 😊. We all adjust daily. It’s part of getting older.
@barbaracapes8816
Жыл бұрын
Loneliness, lack of purpose and knowing I am running out of time. Regrets and trying to figure out how to go forward. I love your vlog so much!!!
@deborahanneohara9386
Жыл бұрын
"That's my daily, 24/7, 365 days a year battle"!!!!! "I was always strong"!! HAD TO BE! Now, "the once beautiful, vibrant, funny, desireable, popular, outgoing, many friends girl, woman..... has "isolated herself for 11 years now." "Having my son living with me is not good". 💔I have no choice financially. As in "my marriage", and "all long term relationships" since.....💔I'm trapped💔 have several disabilities, CAN'T DRIVE......💔I would have never ever imagined this is how I'd live out my final years.💔. 💔. 😓😓 💝Realize how lucky you are, Susan, Desi, and the rest of you fabulous, independent, vibrant women are!💝
@BedfordFalls7
Жыл бұрын
I feel the same. Always thinking I'm running out of time to live the life I want. It's scary and depressing.
@Angie-fe8yd
Жыл бұрын
@@BedfordFalls7 You're not alone🤗💕 Best Wishes 🌠🙏
@monicabasoa172
Жыл бұрын
Dear Susan, my name is Monica. I turn 53 this July. I am a Basque-Spaniard-European who has lived in the US since 2005. Since I was a little girl, I was taught that attitude is everything. I buy a lipstick 💄 because I like it. I don't really care that much about what others think of the lipstick. One key to happiness is doing things that matter to you regardless of what others think. I don't photoshop pictures, but I walk almost everyday and eat a lot of produce and protein. I think I look healthy and that attracts people. As any other woman, I have my own issues. I work in a very difficult profession that deals with a lot of toxicity. I am close to retirement, but sometimes 4 years seem an eternity. So that is my issue, working in a job that breaks you apart. I am an empty nester and I am married. I have been successful as a parent not so much as a wife, but I have learned that happiness cannot come from the outside. The best metaphor I may use to explain is the following: you cannot order a ribeye in a McDonald's. A person cannot give you what they don't have. Understanding this simple wisdom has allowed me to be happier and patient. You are doing pretty well, Susan, doubts are necessary for self growth. There is no happiness without moments of sadness. There's no day without night. There is profound wisdom in this. I love you ❤, and I am looking forward to your next videos. Thank you for your fabulous channel.
@stephaniedegange2737
Жыл бұрын
Monica you have learned a lot in your life
@lindavernon8051
Жыл бұрын
“Not 100% of my energy can be geared towards making everything perfect in this home. I gotta go out I gotta make friends, I have to find a new jazz club”. Boy did I need to hear that! You are so right. Since my husband died, I’ve been almost frantically involved in making the house nice, like I want it. Today I was washing windows at 7:30 am and gardening and rearranging. (And don’t even get me started on my new passion-contact paper!! (I can’t paint. I’m horrible at it.). And at 4:30 this afternoon, when I couldn’t think of anything else to do as my contact paper hadn’t arrived from Amazon (LOL), I went downtown and walked around. I walked by couples having wine and eating with chopsticks and I thought. I used to do that. That used to be me and my husband. But you gotta keep going. And then I came home and found your video and it was somehow very comforting. Even tho I don’t have any answers or can really put my finger on my challenges. My challenge is life! Ha!
@cinnamon-spice
Жыл бұрын
Oh to have your energy! 🙂
@lindavernon8051
Жыл бұрын
@Patti R Ah! Thank you Patti! And you keep being you!
@lindavernon8051
Жыл бұрын
@@cinnamon-spice I think I’m running on nervous energy. I guess I want to be totally exhausted by the end of the day so maybe I won’t have so much trouble sleeping.
@lose999
Жыл бұрын
I can relate to everything you've said in this video; my challenges are: grief (my ex passed last October); I'm lonely with no friends nearby; and @ 70 years old I feel invisible. I used to be pretty and have always looked younger than my age but lately I feel so unmotivated to even leave my house. I don't recognize my reflection in the mirror. My hair is white now... I love your content. I wish we could be friends.
@JayP-kd5rc
Жыл бұрын
@@Mollygurl29 Lost my husband of 30 years in 2021, and I can so relate to what you are saying. At 74 now it's hard to start anything over. I still miss him so.
@scrapperrn
Жыл бұрын
I would say my biggest challenge over 60 had been to prove to myself "I can do it", no matter what that involves. For so many years I was told that I couldn't do this or that, mainly by my husband. After 43 yrs of marriage came a divorce and I was forced to do a lot of things I never thought I could do! I bought a car on my own, figured out how to fix things that broke, carried things that where heavy by myself, made big decisions. I do look at myself in the mirror and think, yes, I am getting older and it's showing, but I am also growing wiser!
@rhonda6791
Жыл бұрын
Yay you!! Good luck.
@melindalabombard804
Жыл бұрын
So well put!
@wildhorses6817
Жыл бұрын
Yes, I can relate, divorced in recent years after 35+ years married. Physically I cannot do what I always did in the past and there is no one to help.
@giovannamoro8564
Жыл бұрын
What a great comment . Good luck with and enjoy your wonderful new you .
@omaizzy
Жыл бұрын
I'll be 73 in August and my biggest challenge is my mobility, which has been affected by an 'oops' during knee surgery 13 years ago, and another accident 5 years ago. My challenge is to stay positive and not feel sorry for myself. I keep reminding myself that there are people with problems that are much worse. I use a stick to get around (but not in my house or out in my garden), but at least I CAN get around. I have a little house that reminds me of yours, with flowers that make me smile, and a rescue dog, Daisy, who's always happy to be with me, I have family and friends nearby and, even though it often seems to take more effort these days, I can still throw a great party. Our biggest challenge at our age is to enjoy our lives NOW - who we've grown to be, not bemoaning the fact that we're no longer young. Sometimes I have to work at it, but I do it. I'm loving being 'old'!
@patriciaeisert8483
Жыл бұрын
Well said Omaizzy❤
@peterpatton2867
Жыл бұрын
The way your life is makes you feel that way and that's wonderful! Meanwhile, someone else is having different life term's. So as you can see, it's all circumstantial.
@carolwaite4343
Жыл бұрын
I learned to be a strong, independent woman from my mother. I have 2 sons & I now live with one of them & his family. At 76 that is my biggest challenge. I'd been on my own for over 30 yrs, owned my own homes & moved back to the east coast for 13 yrs. My family is there. Now I'm back on the west coast that I hate & I'm in a 450sq ft apartment attached to my son's home & I miss my space & privacy. I'm still very independent in spite of bad knees & other issues, but I just finished painting my bedroom by myself. Took a little longer then usual, but I did it. The other challenge is the breakdown of my health. I don't handle that well. I do my best to persevere in spite of it. Thanks be to God for many blessings.😊❤
@deborahanneohara9386
Жыл бұрын
I am beyond heartbroken that I have to depend on my son. He's an only child, very selfish, self centered........ I can't go anywhere, couldn't afford to live on my own. I would have never dreamed, with the once wonderful, popular, busy, life of the party woman I always was....I'd end up "here". 💔. 💔. 💔. 💔. 😓. 😓
@marshiathomas8804
Жыл бұрын
My biggest challenge is wanting to live. It has been so long since something good has happened in my life. I have to watch every penny, my two best friends died in the past 3 years and my ex completely alienated my sons from me. I haven't seen them in 12 YEARS, which, I haven't seen my grandchildren either! I look forward to your posts so much, thank you for making me FEEL like we are friends and I am not so alone. I love you and Desi's matching outfits!
@patricia753
Жыл бұрын
You are not so alone Marshia! Thank you for sharing. Blessings and Love to you ❤️🙏🌈🌱🦋
@marshiathomas8804
Жыл бұрын
@@patricia753 thank you SO much, it means a lot to me
@anneedens3202
Жыл бұрын
I always think I can do more than I actually can. I am re-doing my landscape and bit the bullet and paid to have it done. I actually enjoy painting, but paid someone to do it because I physically can’t at this point. I love DIY, but have had to change my expectations. The biggest suck is that emotionally/mentally I still feel 30, not the 69 I actually am. Enjoy every minute in your new home. I have enjoyed watching your videos.
@gardenbun
Жыл бұрын
Exactly! I think that all the time: that mentally I still feel as if I'm in my 30s but after mowing my lawn I'm done for the day (and sometimes for the next day, too). It sucks.
@elainerobertson7329
Жыл бұрын
I was all set to paint a large bedroom and bath. The more I looked at it, the bigger it appeared. I hired someone to do it; I'm so happy I did that. ☺️
@omaizzy
Жыл бұрын
I'm now a big believer in paying someone else to do the things that I wish I could still do, but can't - snow removal, painting, some heavy gardening. If you can afford it, do it - life becomes so much easier and you get to enjoy everything else!
@texasmimi5566
Жыл бұрын
I am 67 currently. I have already started a list of things I will need to have help doing in the future and will pay someone to come into my home to do it for or with me. Flipping the queen mattress is one, and changing sheets, with the thick, heavy mattress and deep pocketed sheets, is another. That mattress is heavy.
@cinnamon-spice
Жыл бұрын
I've begun to pay people to do the jobs I now find too difficult. I always did everything myself; decorating, heavy gardening etc. Now I sit back and enjoy the results of other people's labours.
@tynaedwards8452
Жыл бұрын
"No one will remember the handbag that I bought, the high heels that I wore or the lipstick that I chose. But, they will remember the love that I gave, and they will remember how I made them feel." So well put and how I live my life every day. The best gifts you can freely give.
@tamaralerette3669
Жыл бұрын
My biggest personal challenge is that I don’t feel relevant anymore. I’ve always had introvert tendencies but it’s just so hard to put myself out there in a large new city at 62. I am committed to try! When I had my small yard, plant shopping was truly my happy place!
@LittlePoet
Жыл бұрын
I know had those feelings too this week...I sometimes struggle to keep u with all the new tech stuff...but we will prevail and be oh-so-relevant!!!!
@Elizabeth-arb22
Жыл бұрын
Yes, I can relate to not feeling relevant anymore. I'm also an introvert, and I understand -- it does seem harder to reach out. Wishing you the best in making new friends and participating in fun and renewing activities!
@annahayes1007
Жыл бұрын
Not knowing where you are living, but most large cities have Meet-up groups. These are not to meet up with men! They are categorized by special interests. Dog-walking, knitting, fine dining, hiking, everything you can imagine, in a large city, there should be a meet up group. There might even be some for meeting and making friends. Just google "Meet-up" and the name of your city. Good luck!
@tamaralerette3669
Жыл бұрын
@@annahayes1007 thank you ! I’ll into that. I’m in Honolulu.
@teresaskinner5401
Жыл бұрын
Please rejoice 62 is a beautiful age, you said its hard to put yourself out there oh my, but it's possible in the future you may not to be able. I don't know ur life but can you drive, walk alone, or take walks? If so then you have never been this young. Start weight lifting and sweat off the ppl that have gone. Susan just made the point what do you want to experience before you go..if nothing else Tell yourself every hour that you are mortal..we all are. By physically telling yourself "I'm mortal" your body and mind actually speeds up the healing process, like why you think 62 is old bcuz 82 is a blink away and your body knows it!
@proverbs3150
Жыл бұрын
When I’m listening to you I feel like I’m replaying all the thoughts I had the previous week. This has happened so many times I start expecting it. I was unpacking old books today for my new home and a receipt fell out of a book. I started crying about the memory that the receipt brought to mind. Thank you for making me feel normal!
@lorieborges4845
Жыл бұрын
This is my first time commenting on your channel but I watch it regularly! My biggest challenge is that the 2 people I was the closest to (my mother and my husband) are gone and I have no one to regularly share my thoughts with. It's a loneliness that I have never dealt with before. But it causes me to talk more with the Lord and I even write to Him in a journal. I love your channel - thank you for being here
@LittlePoet
Жыл бұрын
oh I think I know how you feel.....after 13 years I still want to call my Mom and make her laugh,,,,we cope...and we go on and make peace with it....but love is love..my doctor told me to turn that love inside out and love myself more....I never have tried that...it s random....love to you, Susan & Dez
@marianneharrington4499
Жыл бұрын
My biggest challenge right now is looking forward to the future and knowing I can handle the changes. I am fortunate to have my husband but he is fighting cancer. That uncertainty is very scary. I have two friends I am very close to and that means the world to me. I am 75, and one friend is 79 and the other is 72. Of course there is children but they have their own busy lives. I also have a dog the size of Desi. My body is not as cooperative as it used to be. It is hard for me to accept growing old. Are we ever prepared. I enjoy our time together and sometimes you really hit the nail on the head.
@wildhorses6817
Жыл бұрын
@@LittlePoet yes, Susan, very good advice and I am focusing on loving myself also. We are so accustomed to loving others so this is a new and valuable Process. Thank you for your kindness 💞
@seaglasskaz6314
Жыл бұрын
@LittlePoet I feel exactly the same. I lost my lovely mum 10 years ago and I miss her as much as ever, I just long to talk to her. I love your channel Susan, and seeing you and Dez always lifts me. Love from the UK 🇬🇧 Xxx
@carolynraimondi2052
Жыл бұрын
Susan, I am over 60 I will be 79 in three months. I keep myself up love makeup and wearing flattering cloths. I have a widow for almost 7 years, had a wonderful marriage and 2 great sons, I have 7 grandchildren and 1 granddaughter in law. I don’t have a man in my life but I feel blessed to have my family. I really miss my husband for things like grandkid’s graduation and special times, we keep his memory alive he was loved. I keep busy but need to be driven around I have macular degeneration and no longer drive, that is the worse. I do volunteer work and have many friends and I am blessed. Life is good and I feel blessed.
@juliefizpatrick513
Жыл бұрын
Susan:). I love when you say “ it’s a deal”! The hardest part for me is not having a friend near by that I can get out and do things with. All my friends have moved far away or have passed. I do have my son who is always there if anything happens but he’s very busy. He did help me get my house looking so good after being flooded and June 1st the season has started again. My biggest fear is to have that happen again. But for now I’m very happy and grateful and have learned not to take anything for granted! I thank God for my blessings everyday🙏🌹
@texasmimi5566
Жыл бұрын
I can relate to not having a "friend". I now only have acquaintances. Friends are those you share a past with. At our age today everyone's past is so different that we "bond" using today's social norms. I have several "friends" but have nothing in common with them relating to our past lives and even childhoods.
@barbarawaite5395
Жыл бұрын
Some of the challenges we face at over 60 are here to stay--health issues, mourning the loss of family and friends, the struggle to recognize the face of that "old braod" in the mirror. Acceptance is not always easy. But right now, my biggest challenge is a temporary one. I became legally blind in 2009 and eventually had to go on disability in 2013. At that point, I began my second chapter and started writing. I published a few steamy romance novels and then fell into a side hustle I love--editing for other self-published authors. My mother, who is 89 and has been in nursing home for nearly ten years, told me last year how proud she is of me for giving up, for continuing to find purpose in my life. What a powerful emotion that evoked in me. So, a few months ago, I began writing a novel, not a "smutty" one this time and one that will be published with my "real" name on the cover. Whether I sell one single copy of the thing, I don't care. I just want my mother to have that book in her hand to wave around at the staff and her visitors. I know she'll say, "look what my daughter did!" Her health continues to fail and I'm racing the clock. That's my challenge. Oh, and a funny thing is--a major theme of this novel is grief and moving on. Go figure. lol
@cinnamon-spice
Жыл бұрын
I'm so happy for you! You, go girl! I have advanced glaucoma and wonder what the future holds, if I'll lose my sight? The type I have is difficult to treat as they don't know what causes it. But I take strength and hope from your positive post. My dog is also totally blind from glaucoma and, like you, he just gets on with living his best life. 🙂
@peterpatton2867
Жыл бұрын
The best to the both of you, good wishes and much success with your writing's/novels!
@catz2505
Жыл бұрын
My biggest challenge is me and depression. All alone except for my dog Lacey, but depression is kicking my butt. I do all I know to try and move past it, but it is hanging on and I'm struggling.
@peanutcampbell
Жыл бұрын
I’m going thru that too … let’s try and love ourselves and find some joy somewhere.
@suzannemeade6335
Жыл бұрын
❤ I feel you!
@deniseb2571
Жыл бұрын
I've been there too and it's very hard. Sometimes just talking to someone can help. 🙏
@terrispencer7608
Жыл бұрын
Make an appointment with ur doctor and tell her/him about ur depression. They can help u. ❤praying for u
@llyndrake8604
Жыл бұрын
I want to pray for you and your struggle....I think we all deal with the depression....some more than others.....for some reason your comment has touched me and I feel like praying for you and your triumph over the depression that has you down.....
@monagould1829
Жыл бұрын
You are beautiful inside and out, and you seem to glow more and more each episode. I think the hardest thing for me at this age is regret- and forgiving myself for wrong decisions.
@texasmimi5566
Жыл бұрын
Don't look back, that is not where you are headed. Your future is bright in front of you (pun intended). When my mind goes into "the past" with all of it's angry and sad moments of my life, I shake my head and say "moving forward" and focus on something else to get my mind "out of the gutter".
@deborahanneohara9386
Жыл бұрын
That's a BIG ONE for me!!!!
@marysmith861
Жыл бұрын
We've all made mistakes. I've made some doozies. It's not like we have a life manual. But I sure would like to write one somedays, lol. My dear, you would not be who you are... warts and all, if you hadn't made those mistakes. We do better, when we know better. So, forgive yourself. Starting today. Acknowledge you did some stupid sh*t. You've learned from that experience. And... you're not going to do it again. Me too. Welcome to the club, Mona. I'm not trying to downplay our foibles. We did it. But we don't have to do it anymore. Thank God, everyday we have a new start. Did you know the Bible says God's mercies are new every morning. And if the God of heaven gives us a do over why should we?
@monagould1829
Жыл бұрын
@@marysmith861 you are so correct! And thank God for his Grace. I would be nowhere without it. I think my lack of self forgiveness is a punishment I put on myself. Thank you for the reminder. I am a much better person now than I ever was, and humbled by my past choices
@sheenaderry2659
Жыл бұрын
@@marysmith861mo
@tonihendrix6652
Жыл бұрын
Dear Susan, I find myself thinking of that amazing woman, Helen Keller, whose struggles surpass anyone I’ve known. She said, “What we’ve once enjoyed we can never lose. All that we love becomes a part of us.” So, of course you carry family, friends & Bill into this new home…memories that shape, form and walk you home. Love…and grief always walk hand in hand because they fulfill our life purpose. One of my maturing struggles is allowing myself rest and a tiny change so that I can go back to a hard, alone task later…refreshed. I don’t like to admit I need that time to rejuvenate now, but It makes a big difference when I do…even in the way I feel about me. You’ve been through a lot lately, Susan. Well, maybe…just maybe…shut the little house’s door behind you and sit by the lake with a good book. It might be just the way to turn the next page with a clear view! Here’s to this stage of your new walk, my dear friend❣️ Love and prayer, Toni
@hannahrosa5485
Жыл бұрын
I get it. I've been a widow for 9 years, since I was 61. I quickly learned that focusing on my appearance or my losses don't serve me well. So I volunteered at a place that feeds homeless people and going to Art gallery openings, and meeting other people who own dogs, and going to agility classes with my dog all helped me to get out of myself and see that there is a place for me outside of my home. My home is important but it's nothing like the mansion I have prepared for me in Heaven where nothing rusts and no one can steal it. There will be millions of people to get to know and we'll all be young and vibrant there. This experience is to prepare us for the eternal one. Jesus is a husband to widows and I don't even have to do his laundry. Life is wonderful with an eternal attitude. Bless you.
@kimharris6649
Жыл бұрын
A Big Amen! Jesus is my everything, and the Holy Spirit gives me comfort and hugs!❤
@realliving7340
Жыл бұрын
Amen my sister ❤
@susanramos6473
Жыл бұрын
Loved this Hannah!! thank you! Jesus is our all in all!
@sirtedricwalker2979
Жыл бұрын
Amen! Looking forward to my Heavenly home and new body.
@alisatjaden3906
Жыл бұрын
Loved the no laundry comment!!. Thanks for the Belly Laugh 😅
@dianejohanson98
Жыл бұрын
I’m 69 and in a couple months I’ll be 70. That really scares me. I spend most of my time trying to please my husband of nearly 50 years and my grown son of 39, who lives with us and has recently had spinal fusion surgery to his neck and can not walk very well because of nerve damage. His recovery will be very slow, but hopefully he does recover most of his mobility. He can’t sleep in his bed right now because of his neck collar, so he sleeps in the recliner sofa in our living room and doesn’t want the lights on so he can sleep when his meds kick in. My husband does what he can to help me, but he is almost 73 and had a heart attack last year and a triple bypass. So I’m the housekeeper, clothes washer, dishwasher, cook, nurse, barber, ❤care giver, dog groomer, the whole nine yards. Sometimes I just want to sit down with a book and a cup of coffee or tea and just read and relax in peace and quiet. That doesn’t happen very often. I feel overwhelmed a lot of the time and tired because I also have insomnia. You can probably see this is being written at 3:30 am. I also feel like I’ve lost my identity because of taking care of everyone else’s needs and not my own. Getting old, as they say, is not for sissies!
@deniseb2571
Жыл бұрын
When I was young I remember laughing with my mom saying "it takes me twice as long to do half as much". Oh boy is that the truth! Loosing muscle and strength is my challenge right now. Have a put more effort into building muscle 💪 so that I can do some of the things that I want to do. Love you Susan and Desi, have a good week 🌞
@alevan1
Жыл бұрын
My biggest challenge of turning 61 next month is keeping my skin healthy and my weight at normal, I don't care what others think I care what I think about myself, biggest challenge is accepting the aging process losing are looks and becoming someone totally different than I use to be...I loved being beautiful back in the day and now comes the change in finding I am still beautiful at the age of 60...I need to feel more beautiful on the inside than the outside and know I am more than who I look to be....sometimes it is a challenge...
@antoniafoster8264
Жыл бұрын
I totally understand. I turn 60 this Thursday and it’s hitting differently from previous birthdays. It is difficult for me too, to see a different me in the mirror, but I have also realized I’m harder on myself than others. People tell me they can’t believe I’ll be 60. So, I need to be kinder to myself. You too. 💕
@mollizi2131
Жыл бұрын
Growing apart from your spouse and wanting more from life, all the new physical aches and pains and wanting to do the things I used to enjoy.
@jayemowrey1416
Жыл бұрын
Yep we ALL go through it...learning to accept our new limitations and keeping up on physical exercise.. Keeping in the best shape we can is the key...to mental health as well..
@sandraplamondon5033
Жыл бұрын
@@jayemowrey1416 😊
@LittlePoet
Жыл бұрын
oh yes....our base line changes and it seems " its always something"....yes I know that feeling! I have ot just tell myself... shut up Sue and just live..ignore the pian and maybe it will ignore you...easier said than done I know!!! Sending you lots of love and prayers! Susan
@patjordan4958
Жыл бұрын
I heard once. Grief pays no mind to time. You never get over it you just get past it. 1:31
@detphemale
Жыл бұрын
Actually, I'm more confident about my looks at 61, than I EVER was! I love the real talk on this channel. You are so inspiring!❤
@sandrafulton4351
Жыл бұрын
I grew up in a house that had one whole side planted in white spirea bushes. As a child, I grew up under those bushes - thinking and pondering life. I hope your grandkids have that opportunity.
@LittlePoet
Жыл бұрын
so pretty!!!
@Floppyearsmomma
Жыл бұрын
Friday I went to a huge "super" Dollar Tree an hour from my home in Tulsa. I wore a simple, but very pretty yellow shirt with delicate purple flowers mostly because it was clean and hanging up in my closet. I didn't wear any make-up, and I have a really bad haircut from a new stylist. I turned 61 in March and have been pretty apathetic about my appearance in recent years. An 18-ish-year-old girl approached me and said, "I love your shirt! It's so pretty!" On auto-pilot, I said, "Honey, thank you so much." I turned to walk away. Suddenly, as if she broke a spell off of me, I turned to really look at her. I said, "Sweetheart, you made my day! Most of the time, I feel invisible." She said, "Well, I see you, and you are beautiful!" My challenge is countering the forfeiture of my femininity. My daily affirmation now is, "I woke up as sexy as hell today!" 😎
@LittlePoet
Жыл бұрын
This was beautiful to read,,, feeling attractive can be easy on some days but sexy for me is impossible! That's why I am going to give your tip a whirl!!!!
@Floppyearsmomma
Жыл бұрын
@@LittlePoet you are all that and a bag of chips as my students would say! 🎂
@1955missellie
Жыл бұрын
Hubby passed away over 10 yrs ago.... I didn't even know how to operate a riding mower, but a friend came over and showed me how. I ordered a new mattress the other day.... that kind that comes in a box.... compressed in a box. I dragged that 90 lb thing thru the house all by myself! I am 68 as well. Yes, there are challenges.....every day!
@jacquelinedonoghue2135
Жыл бұрын
Like you Susan I like to dress up and buy new makeup…it does give a boost to how I feel. You’re doing just fine in the new house ….just look how far you’ve come in such a short time with the decorating….big pat on the back. Lots of love to you and Desi 🌸
@LittlePoet
Жыл бұрын
You are so sweet! Thank you so much for kind words...a very happy new week to you, Susan & Dez
@FaithyandOtis..Massachusetts
Жыл бұрын
Oh, my happy place also❤❤I just planted 3 more lavender plants on Friday..ordered lavender bee balm, fireflie sunshine yarrow and marvelette blue catamint, my gardens are my happy place, not withstanding Otis🐶.. my biggest challenge I believe is when someone dismisses me because I am 72. It seems to happen infrequently, but when it does, it really bothers me 😡and in the past I would’ve never said anything, but now I speak up.❤ I know my way around the computer I always have.. I have an Apple iPad /phone for many years.. I don’t have cable I got rid of it, I stream everything ..I workout three days a week with upper body weights I do leg lifts six days a week and I walk 3 miles six days a week weather permitting with Otis, amongst many other things😊
@vickylee5579
Жыл бұрын
Thanks Susan. ❤ My health problems are my biggest concern. I would love to be able to walk without hurting are getting weak. Never take walking for granted ❤
@apropst5867
Жыл бұрын
And all the people said....Amen!
@TheDawgies
Жыл бұрын
What a powerful video. I began to think about answering your question, but became engrossed in the comments below. My goodness. I can’t add more to what has been said, but feel comforted by a bunch of caring people I don’t even know. You and this “family” have touched me deeply. For now my biggest challenge will be “feeling the feelings” and learning from y’all. Sincerely, Robin
@karent3004
Жыл бұрын
This happens to me too. I love the comments so much I end up deleting my own stupid ones sometimes. 😂❤
@deborahpellerito6117
Жыл бұрын
The community of women on Little Poet are fantastic you help me so much I love everyone❤
@loriwhinery3210
Жыл бұрын
Yes my challenge is looking in the mirror and not recognizing myself, I will be 65 in august and I think how did I get here. Lots of aches and pains. Watching my city tacoma Washington turn into a place I don’t recognize. Trying to find joy in the small things!❤️💜
@heidipurcell7606
Жыл бұрын
I am a hairstylist, I have been in the beauty business for so many years. I am soon to be 62 next month . I have a wonderful life, fantastic husband, so busy and full , with grandchildren, our grown children and an elderly mom. I talk to women everyday that are going through transitions. We need to enjoy what we have right now, we are not promised tomorrow. As we get older we realize we need to enjoy the precious moments. The days are bittersweet, I have lots of love around me and yet I worry about things changing and loss of what I have. Never give up, each day is a beautiful gift!
@jgator6694
Жыл бұрын
I’ve been divorced…and I have been widowed. I bought my own place…and have become independent. It is amazing what you can do when you have to do for yourself. I used to have men get my car inspection…take out the trash…get an oil change…assemble a piece of furniture. Now I do all of those things…and more…myself. Which has given me a new sense of self esteem. It feels good to be independent and self sufficient. I enjoy outings myself…I love to read, craft, antique, etc. The challenge of being over 60 is mostly how others perceive me. I feel the same on the inside as I felt when I was 20…my body is just aging. I still feel attractive…even with a few extra pounds. 😒. The challenge…the goal…is to be gentle with myself…to age gracefully and not to be bitter but to feel blessed.
@sirtedricwalker2979
Жыл бұрын
Good for you.
@gailkellas2147
Жыл бұрын
If we are not aging, we are not living. Embrace and enjoy yourself! We are all beautiful no matter what age we are.❤
@cindyleavitt8948
Жыл бұрын
You just accomplished a major life event, YOU did it. Its only natural you want to share it with Bill. Remember to let others, your son, etc help you, ask freely, when we refrain from letting others help us, we take away blessings for both them and for us!!! Aging isnt easy is it.. what a lovely community is here on Little Poet to share with each other. I can tell you everyone else I know 68 and up gets new aches and pains that make the wonder ... Friendship is so key as we age!! It is soo not corny new lipsticks, new outfits, keep them coming! Live, while we are living every day, with gratitude and excitement for each new day and for what we will choose to do with it!
@angelawacky2716
Жыл бұрын
Biggest challenges for me: I love to garden but my body won’t let me do what I used to. Second- letting go of sentimental things and collected things and thirdly, following through on things I always dreamed of doing like illustrate a book or learn piano.
@paulapirpignani4802
Жыл бұрын
My biggest challenge is myself. If I could get out of my own way and let life happen things could be different I suppose. The older I get the more fearful I become. It's easier to stay home where no one notices than to go out and think someone cares. I'm trying to find a purpose these days. Something that will afford me the joys of life. With that said Sue you are always a welcome pleasure someone to look forward to stopping what I'm doing and listening to how you feel. Truly one of lifes joy...much love and admiration 🤍 🐾 ☘️
@christinaslate1865
Жыл бұрын
I can really relate to your comment ! I’m just 50 but since getting divorced 7 years ago I’m afraid to even leave my home . It’s hard when you feel invisible and are content letting life pass you by … I hope for both us , we turn it around ❤
@paulapirpignani4802
Жыл бұрын
@@christinaslate1865we can only hope we will ...each day brings us closer to being a kinder gentler soul to ourselves whereby we can see and begin to see the joy of happiness and serenity each of us deserves. I can't be a better person to someone else if I cannot be that person to me. We all deserve to experience life that's why it's a blessing to have found Sue. 😊
@angieornelas7231
Жыл бұрын
I fight loneliness, find myself crying more often then not, and it’s not feeling sorry for myself, it’s what do I do now with my life? I am not in the best of health any more so finding out door activities is hard. I do find peace reading my Bible. Thank you for listening 🙏
@ravenraven966
Жыл бұрын
Angie, I just said a pray for you sister... I feel your pain🙏💙
@angieornelas7231
Жыл бұрын
@@ravenraven966 thank you so very much, for your kindness, you just don’t know how much that means to me. 🙏🙏
@michelethornton9102
Жыл бұрын
You're in my prayer too, Angie! When you feel like crying, know that someone is praying for you. Think about your friends brought to you through Susan :)
@cindyp.7123
Жыл бұрын
My challenge is to not be sad when your video is over. They are too darn short! 😢 Love seeing your home and the decorating, the soothing music, beautiful nature and all things “girlie” that you reflect on in your photography. Your channel is the best!
@Dawn_DDH
Жыл бұрын
YES!!! And waiting for the notification for the next post : )
@janetstraw191
Жыл бұрын
👏👏👏 I SO agree! Susan’s videos are relaxing and uplifting, and then - all too soon - she’s saying “goodbye!”🙋♀️🥰‼️
@ashleybergstrom8934
Жыл бұрын
You know I almost weld up with tears when you put that phrase up. You have so much down to earth wisdom. You hit it spot on when you said happiness can definitely be chased by grief! Happy and sad all mixed into one. I cannot express just how happy and blessed I am to have found you awhile back. You have such pearls of wisdom and such gentleness and love. Thank you! Loving your new home.
@CH-vf5ys
Жыл бұрын
I am 66, but feel like 35! I have fewer challenges now than when I was working and raising a family. After 40 years of teaching, I am very grateful for my pension, so no financial issues. Retirement is heaven! I’m very healthy-spend my time taking long walks with my husband or girlfriends, enjoying the grandkids, exercising, reading, yard work, etc. Of course I have wrinkles and grey hair, but that’s part of life. Love your channel and your sweet disposition.
@trishrichardson4263
Жыл бұрын
I’m 66 also and a retired teacher. I feel very lonely and bored a lot. I volunteer at a Humane Society 2 days a week, I read, do a few crafts, but no grandkids, my girls aren’t married. I need new friends. Mine all have grandkids and families they spend time with. I have a spouse, but he’s into baseball and I’m not. He’s older than me and frankly no fun any more. I need motivation !
@redsloane9905
Жыл бұрын
You're very very lucky indeed.
@cindymills8990
Жыл бұрын
My biggest challenge is trying my life back after suffering a stroke two years ago. I will turn 65 this September and I just dont know anymore. I try my best to keep a positive attitude but some days are harder than others.
@tjo1491
Жыл бұрын
You know, I’m 61 and divorced in late 2019. Starting over in the middle of the pandemic. I started a new career and it takes me on a twelve hour work day due to travel times. This is the roughest time in my life. My faith has helped me through it. I swear everything you said I get! It’s like you’re in my head. The loss of both of my parents in the last year and a half causes me to feel that joy and grief at the same time. 🥲 I love that you share your inner thoughts. It’s so brave. Thank you. You give me hope. 🪴
@carolthrasher
Жыл бұрын
You both look so cute in your little black and white today! I don't think you realize how much happiness you and that little dog brings to a bunch of us every week, but you do!! I love you both to pieces!!
@pegprather84
Жыл бұрын
Once again you have written my story. I think we were twins separated at birth. At 68 I have so much joy in me. Friends, my own home, volunteering, water aerobics. There’s no reason for me to stagnate. I’m still growing and learning and laughing!
@kathleenmetcalf6767
Жыл бұрын
68 years old and taking on the care of our 8 year old granddaughter. Her dad committed suicide and her mom (our daughter) is incarcerated, so it was our care or foster care. So many adjustments, so much uncertainty. Life is not linear - it's circular and nebulous. Focusing on the love she has brought to our lives, and hoping to live up to this next important chapter of our lives.
@juliemoore6957
Жыл бұрын
Those red velvet pumps are to die for! Great video! Our age is just a number! We'll never be 23 again, but we can always take care of ourselves and improve what we've got!❤
@deborahanneohara9386
Жыл бұрын
OMG.......those beautiful shoes have my name written on them....somewhere, right? 😄. 😄 Where did you get them? Not at Goodwill, right? xoxo. ❤👠👠
@laurindamclean7510
Жыл бұрын
I''ve struggled with low self-image my whole life and there were times I thought I had it licked then it would crash down on me again... Like now...turning 65 this year and I'm struggling AGAIN.... It's because we want to be young again and give up knowing that we can't ever be. Instead we need to fight to be the best we can be at the age we are! Thanks!
@70sladyalways25
Жыл бұрын
What an open, honest and encouraging message! I’m 64 and I’ve learned life is full of the unexpected challenges. I do my best to press on and look for joy and happiness all around me. I try to encourage others as we navigate this path called life 😊❤
@maryallen3170
Жыл бұрын
I miss seeing Hal.Hope he's doing well
@tweetybird4347
Жыл бұрын
I miss Hal too and am wondering when he is going to visit Susan.....
@cherlgolja5402
Жыл бұрын
I’m a widow and love this verse! Psalm 68:5 This verse says God is a “defender of widows in His holy habitation.” In other words, even from heaven, the holiest place in the universe, God looks down and takes heed of widows. He makes defending them a priority. In ancient Israel, widows were not highly favored.
@sylvias4899
Жыл бұрын
Earlier today as I was out and about I picked up my phone to check the time. I saw my reflection on the screen and thought "oh my God, who is that woman and what has she done to my face?" I Iiterally wanted to go home, I looked so awful. Then I looked around and realized, these people don't know me and don't care what I look like but I do. I felt down. I'm 63 and I'm getting to a point where I don't want to wear makeup anymore or color my hair. But when I do these things I feel amazing and young again. Self esteem is something I've always struggled with. I watch your videos and you always seem to touch on what I'm going through. You lift me up and make me realize that I'm not alone in feeling the things we do as women as we age. Thank you Susan. Next time I venture out that woman in the reflection is going to look damn good. Luv to you and Desi❤
@annewhitney8809
Жыл бұрын
Bridalwreath spirea? My greatest challenge is giving myself permission to let go of people,places and things that are no longer relevant.I rented an apartment in a house and have all the niceties without the responsibilities. I was advised to buy a place when I left but it didn’t feel right. I asked the universe for a fenced yard,a sheltered outdoor space,a good location,small garden and most of all kindness. Dreams can come true at any age.
@caryinfante8013
Жыл бұрын
You are not alone with those feelings. I feel the same ... it's called loneliness. 😔❤️
@patriciaheath1894
Жыл бұрын
Marketing in this country often emphasizes on a younger demographic. Advertising for seniors is often geared towards medications and health issues. That in itself can be a little demoralizing. Age does not define us but memories do. We have to tread carefully on those memories of the past.🌹
@murialpack5350
Жыл бұрын
I just want to point out a fact of my life…I feel more alone when my husband is home than I do when I am alone. The wrong person can be worse. Sadly I know that many of you know exactly what I’m talking about too. Much love and many hugs to all of you here 🥰
@barbarakelly1916
Жыл бұрын
Thinking back on my former marriage, I can identify with that experience. And thinking about life with my new partner, being together in the same room without either person saying a word is "enough". Vive la difference!
@pattyallen5313
Жыл бұрын
Susan, I can relate so well to you. I will be 68 this month and am struggling with getting older being a single woman. I lost my dear husband 8 years ago this month. I miss him so much and get really upset when I can't do something and need to ask someone to help me when my husband used to be my sweet handyman. I have made many changes in our home and yard since he passed and at times am so happy but then the grief overcomes me as I wish he could be by my side to enjoy so many wonderful things with me. At this point in our lives, it is so very important to keep active with exercise ( I walk several times a week with a girlfriend), and to seek and find the things that bring joy and meaning to our lives. If we can only CHOOSE JOY each day, our lives and those around us would hold the beauty that God intends for us. Every time I see your sweet Desi, I smile or laugh at his cute little face !!! God Bless you both !
@deborahanneohara9386
Жыл бұрын
There is just something so deeply, beautifully, unique, special about Desi.......at least to me. Susan, Desi is so lucky to have you!! Look at the wonderful life you've given him! 💝✨✨✨
@ivonnevermeer3600
Жыл бұрын
I have a lot of pain right now because I broke my foot for the 3th time. I try to do what I can, but I feel older than 59 🤷♀️ Still enjoying my backyard with the birds and my loved ones, thank you dear Susan and Desi for lifting me up ❤️
@christinesoria6158
Жыл бұрын
I'm facing alot of challenges & sometimes I wonder am I going in the right direction. I feel sad alot & always wonder how can I change my life. I love watching you & Desi.
@annpimentel5198
Жыл бұрын
God's promises and his Holy Word are a comfort to me when I am sad and feeling lost. His word is a lamp unto my feet. He will never abandon us nor forsake us! And the peace He gives us surpasses all understanding. He loves us with an everlasting love. Draw near to Him, and He will draw near to you. May God richly bless you!
@roxy4158
Жыл бұрын
No happy place for me anymore. Many times wish life would end. Not suicidal just overwhelmed with life.
@angelajanelomax5540
Жыл бұрын
I remember my Grampy volunteered he made lunches for old age pensioners. I'd talk to him, he lived 5 hours from me on the phone was our communication. He was 86, he made people's lives. Miss him passed in 2011. XxX ❤️ ❤❤🐶🐾🐾 Hey Desi 👋 xx
@mkbrown3902
Жыл бұрын
My biggest challenge is caring for my elderly parents. It's exhausting and isolating. I adopted a new dog, "little orphan" Annie that is a princess now. I miss Cora everyday but Annie is so sweet and we're loving getting to know each other. Thanks for sharing your story about spirea. Brought back memories of my grandmother.
@ireneturner2944
Жыл бұрын
So sad you feel this way! Mk Brown about your parents.
@mkbrown3902
Жыл бұрын
@@ireneturner2944 My mother is extremely abusive and my dad has alzheimer's both are immobile and I care for them alone. Please don't judge unless you have personal experience of this. I'm 69 they are 95 and I've been caring for them full time for 5 years. It's 24/7 and very isolating and exhausting.
@lisavaden1118
Жыл бұрын
Pls hang in there I know how hard it is I took care of both of mine too some nights all I could do is pray to God toget me though it.. don’t listen to justment fro others I sure they do much of nothing for thiers ❤❤❤
@mkbrown3902
Жыл бұрын
@@lisavaden1118 thank you.
@cathyandresiak
Жыл бұрын
Oh Susan, I can so relate. I had myself convinced I was going to be needing a knee replacement soon. I also have grieving moments from people I was close to in my past! IThis has been new to me lately, these grieving moments. I was unaware that it was a part of aging, no one ever told me this when I was Younger. I have come to the conclusion that we will meet again!
@deborahanneohara9386
Жыл бұрын
Why do generations and generations keep all this stuff so secretive???? The FBI has CONFIDENTIAL documents everywhere, but we men & women feel so much "human" life experiences, feelings, tragedies, joy, "must never be spoken of"! 🤔. 🤔
@cathyblock6197
Жыл бұрын
“When I am the happiest, that’s when grief will hit me from behind.” So true and happens much more often than we can bear. Grief changes us forever.
@lisabanta6353
11 ай бұрын
Having wasted 25 years of youth in a unhappy marriage now in my late 50's I will accept my journey as a single woman and live the life I have left on this earth . There is peace in being alone. My biggest challenge is not ever being in the presence of male energy ever again . I am not alone with this being single status We ladies are strong enough to go it alone !!! ❤️💪
@tracythomas343
Жыл бұрын
This was a much needed video. I can so relate to much of what you’re saying. My challenges have been learning how to live with less, less money, less resources, etc.. Being somewhat newly divorced, how to do/repair/find others to help me on my own. How to build a life as an older single woman in her 60’s.
@deborahanneohara9386
Жыл бұрын
For the most part......it REALLY, REALLY, REALLY STINKS!!!!!
@corimcewen4536
Жыл бұрын
Oh my gosh! I could have been the making the video or making each response! It seems that I have felt , at one time or another.. everything that everyone has mentioned! 1. My first frustration and realization is along the line of the stuck window! In my pre divorce life… I did basically do everything on my own, but knowing that there would eventually having backup show up by after he came home from work. Now… it stings a bit to know that there is no backup, no help, no Calvary coming to save the project! It is me, only me. 2. Keeping myself up!!! Right now… I am in the “ why bother” stage. I don’t want to be noticed, asked out or even to have a guy pal. I am just not there yet. My ex threw me aside for someone, younger, prettier and skinnier. I was a size 10 at the time. I let him make me feel that I would never be good enough… no matter what I did. I feel today.. at 61 almost 62…. That I do not have anything worthwhile to offer anyone. I struggle to make ends meet on a day to day basis. My children rarely invite me places as they know I am financially strapped. I struggle with the expectation of others. My garden is my happy place😍. I find joy in the birds, butterflies and hummingbirds that hang out with me!😂😂. I actually have seen 2 new yard occupants.. they are Fence lizards and quite beautiful! I do not know how they came to be in my neck of the desert as they are normally found around the beaches of California! They have a beautiful copper and black pattern! They inspire me to go beyond the expected set boundaries of one’s own environment!!
@suzanthrasher2447
Жыл бұрын
68 and a widow for 7 months here… loved him for nearly half a century… realizing that sharing life with someone is part of living abundant life… it just doesn’t seem very “abundant” without him to share it with… and also… I desperately miss intimacy.
@valeriephillips9048
Жыл бұрын
I’m 79 so a lot older than you but I still remember something I heard long ago. “ do what you can with what you’ve got” and I fix my hair and put my lipstick on and feel better. If I’m feeling sad I take out my teeth and smile at myself in the mirror. Makes me laugh every time ha ha
@jayemowrey1416
Жыл бұрын
Susan I just wanted to thank you, You have never ever gotten political !!! I think you're a very smart lady and realize that you would lose half your audience whatever you did... It's too bad everyone, with a platform like yours🎉 doesn't understand that !!!
@LittlePoet
Жыл бұрын
I think politics can be very toxic and we all love each other here so much...we are all about sharing our lives and love, survival and being the best we can be...we ladies have no time for such negative pain. We all need a hug about now...or at least I do...my love to you! I do tell folks to go out and Vote! LOL...xxo Susan & Desi
@marypucci6814
Жыл бұрын
I totally get what you’re talking about. I feel the most accomplished and proud of myself than I ever have. Because I am alone @ 67, I miss sharing my life with someone. The kids are so very busy with life, and I’m challenged to be happy with myself. My identity has always been someone’s daughter, wife or mother. I’m hopeful that my life will change. Doesn’t it always change??
@jayemowrey1416
Жыл бұрын
Sue said days come and go this is normal for all of us as we age in our mind we can do more than we physically can do we feel more beautiful than when we look into the mirror and realize we're not the same... But remembering that we all go through this helps sometimes... The mental workout with new people... Not isolating yourself... And keeping as physically fit as you possibly can that is a key!!! So it's 75 I can't work all day in the garden I'm lucky to last an hour I'm 75... I burn easily and must wear long sleeves and a hat because I've had skin cancer and this is from a girl who grew up in California on the beach enchant her whole life... The wait around the middle I can't seem to get off I had to adjust my clothing, but still look smart.. keeping your appearance up definitely helps... We all do the best we can do and learning to accept the changes gracefully is truly a gift.
@coinkydink3984
Жыл бұрын
When I moved to the dusty central California valley, I had to give good-bye to eye makeup becasue of allergies. Because of diabetes I say good bye to most red meat, shoes with heels, And a lot of activities i used to do. In 2020 Covid and all took my husband and 6 of my friends. I'm going to be 80 in February. I spend a lot of time sorting things and giving them away. I sell on EBAY. I work in my garden and I try out new veggie recipes. I paint still. Can't dance anymore but I can play my music. My little dogs love it here in our new home. I have a gardener who will help me with a lot of little chores. What a lucky woman I am! I've learned that when you feel greif, plant something. Also remember that 68 is still young! So is 79! 😍😍
@christine1373
Жыл бұрын
The challenge of “unsticking the window” is so difficult for me because of my physical limitations. At those times I get a bit angry at my husband for (dying) leaving me alone but at the same time, I’m learning to adapt.
@jayemowrey1416
Жыл бұрын
Adapt is the key !!!
@dgatespc
Жыл бұрын
I also have physical limitations. It has recently come to point where Drs are recommending surgery or live in a wheelchair. I am afraid to have the surgery because it won't help that much and could have more pain after the surgery. So I am in a wheel chair now. Earlier I was on my front porch and suddenly had to sit down. Then I couldn't get up. Luckily I had my phone with me so I called my husband in the house to help me get up. It was so painful on my knees and ankles. I get so sad that I can't even help myself.
@pattyallen5313
Жыл бұрын
@@dgatespc God Bless you for what you are going through ! At least you have your husband to help you. I pray you can find a doc who can give you encouragement about a surgery that could be a real blessing in helping you to be more mobile without the pain . May God direct you in this decision for your health .
@christine1373
Жыл бұрын
@@dgatespc ❤
@marymartins1533
Жыл бұрын
I love listening to you . What you say makes lots of sense . I also try to take care of myself even when I don’t go out . The makeup and my perfume is always a must . Plus let’s not forget my 💅 I do it for myself 💕 Desi is adorable 🥰 🐶 He must feel like a king in that yard being able to run around .
@lindafrazier8092
Жыл бұрын
I feel the same ❤
@carrimoser122
Жыл бұрын
So what is your go to perfume. Mine use to be Beautiful. I haven’t worn any in so long I know what I have is not any good.
@janicemiller4788
Жыл бұрын
Perfume and lipstick a must here too!! I’ve worn Coco Chanel for 3 years but can’t smell it anymore! On the hunt for something new
@marymartins1533
Жыл бұрын
@@janicemiller4788 I have 3 favorites Hypnotic poison by Christian Dior, Cashmere Mist and Her by Burberry
@janicemiller4788
Жыл бұрын
@@marymartins1533 love love Poison!!!
@sirtedricwalker2979
Жыл бұрын
I am thankful for the age I am (61) and am blessed to be retired in my little home with my spouse and my twin who moved in 2 years ago. My challenge is to get my 10,000 steps on my Fitbit which I love walking it makes me feel so good mentally and physically. I've always be a "mover and shaker"....in the afternoons I like to listen to my body and relax in bed on KZitem. Also, I enjoy cooking so My twin and I cook a lot. We all enjoy the birds in backyard and fill the bird bath serveral times a day. My challenge is to walk and eat quality food and stay healthy. Going to go thru closets on those Hot Southern summer days and purge some things. My money now is spent on good food and vacations. Getting an e-bike so I can enjoy rides with my spouse while twin is not interested in that. Will celebrate our 41st Wedding Anniversary in a few days. Each day is a gift and I want to be the best 61 year old that I can. Jesus is my Rock in a shaky world. Yard looks wonderful.
@deborahanneohara9386
Жыл бұрын
WOW.......your life sounds wonderful!!! I'm jealous....... "In a good way"! 💝💝💝✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨
@mickycooper355
Жыл бұрын
Your biggest challenge is getting your steps in? Reading the room might have helped you to be more compassionate toward others that are not as fortunate.
@sirtedricwalker2979
Жыл бұрын
@@mickycooper355 Have a blessed day.
@kittymoore2776
Жыл бұрын
This has to be my favorite video that you have done. I am 75 years old and a recent widow. I am in good health, financially stable, and have wonderful friends. What is the problem, you ask? Often, grief overwhelms me to the point that I lose sight of really living. You have addressed so many issues that I needed to hear. I don't look my age or act my age, I am impeccable when it comes to looking elegant, but I still feel that I am lost in this world. Your well chosen words always make me feel better. Thank you, sweet lady.
@lindavernon8051
Жыл бұрын
I’m recently widowed too. I totally understand what you’re saying. Everybody thinks I’m doing fine. And that’s the way I want it. But it’s the hardest thing of all.
@texasmimi5566
Жыл бұрын
This isn't our world any longer, we are 2-3 generations behind it now. I am old school and I decline to "go with the flow" and have all the new ways of life forced on me. I have BTDT and know what I want and what I will put up with. I purposely bought a non-smart TV. Yes, non-smart technology is available but society pushes all the new, expensive, all the bells and whistles on us and people don't know any better.
@lindavernon8051
Жыл бұрын
@@texasmimi5566 I got rid of my TV. I only use my ipad. Otherwise I couldn’t be on KZitem. I love KZitem though. It connects me to all the wonderful women who go to the same channels I do. Like this one!
@ms.miriamhealthcraftandmor7415
Жыл бұрын
I just love your channel. Also I just turned (65), May 23rd. and my challenges are... excepting my single life, learning to love 💗 myself, and keeping busy with decorating my apartment. Last but not least, making time daily for “God”. Thank you for your message. 💕
@deborahpellerito6117
Жыл бұрын
Amen
@rosemaryburford7607
Жыл бұрын
Susan, I loved how you and Desi matched with the black and white stripes. My mother is dying. We had to get Hospice to help my sister and I to take care of her. I am 64 years old and I am losing my best friend. I keep thinking about how am I going to live another 20 plus years without her. I also think about my own mortality and knowing I am next in line. The older I get the harder life seems to be. Life can be beautiful and it can be cruel. I have a beautiful daughter and granddaughter and I am going to focus on living a healthy life for them and me. Love to you and Desi ❤
@LittlePoet
Жыл бұрын
Oh Rosemary I am so sad to hear about your Mom...how beautiful your last line and that's how i feel too...I just want to stay healthy...I don't care much about the rest...you grow up and yu age and you start thinking..what can I give back to this life...not what can i take...let me know how you are doing..xxoo Susan & Dez
@daniellereid01
Жыл бұрын
Dear Rosemary, my Mother died from cancer when I was 16. I say this not to point out this difference, but to say that I don’t think it matters when your Mum dies because, whenever it may be, it does always feel as if you’re losing your best friend. You are so right to live your life for your daughter and granddaughter, but don’t also forget to live life for you. The happier we are with ourselves, the more joy we bring to others. I wish you so much love as you go through this sad, difficult time and also wish that you bring the same joy to your loved ones as your Mum brought to you ❤
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