Been dealing with this for all of our entire marriage. I honestly don't think I can do this anymore. Something has snapped and I don't feel anything towards him except anger and disgust. I can never have an intimate relationship with him anymore.
@laurenm9563
4 жыл бұрын
This is exactly were I am at rite this second! I will never forgive him. Idk why, but I fucking hate him for hurting me so bad. I feel like a huge fool. I tried everything, and porn won over a 12 years marriage. Fuk him. I got him bak.
@basedon3334
4 жыл бұрын
Same here, I have already started moving on now. Before asking for divorce.
@ashleywilliams9423
4 жыл бұрын
Damn me too, I feel helpless.. im too embarrassed to speak on it to family
@harrisn3693
3 жыл бұрын
@Shell Cshells Well, did you ever love him? Don’t hate but show love. At least your husband is honest and you know you can help him out. Be thankful that he isn’t sleeping around with other women, only shooting a load every now and then. Show true love and companionship regardless of what he is doing. Think about it, don’t women read romance novels on kindle in their beds? That is a type of addiction all on its own. Be his angel and truly work with him with your heart as we men when it comes to sx tie it deep with our self being. We too want to be loved unconditionally while being given stages to achieve to be closer to our lover. Heck, I am struggling from porn addiction myself and tbh I have been trying to slowly wean out of it so that way I can truly love the woman I marry in the future. In my case, it is being solitary 90% of my week (doing my master’s degree) where I have no one else who can show companionship, hence where the porn addiction is getting to me. That being said, I know that if I were to have a wife who knew about my issue, I would cherish her for holding on to me as I recover.
@harrisn3693
3 жыл бұрын
@@ashleywilliams9423 don’t feel ashamed. Work on it with them. At least he ain’t sleeping with your friends.
@keshiawagner9575
7 жыл бұрын
You may have just saved my life with this video. I'm so emotionally low right now from constant criticism and self doubt that I feel helpless. I love my husband but the man I married would have never tore me down verbally and here recently made veiled threats to my safety after confronting him again ahout lying about porn. I pray he will open his heart, mind, and ears to getting help because I have to at this point for my own well being. Thank you for making these videos available to those lost and seeking help!
@ElevatedRecovery
7 жыл бұрын
Keshia, we appreciate the comment. Please know that you are NOT alone in this. We do more than shoot videos- we offer 1: 1 email, phone and Skype support if you need it. In the meantime, do all you can to educate yourself about the process of dealing with a partner with a porn addiction. There is hope- for both of you.
@tevans1455
5 жыл бұрын
I didn't have a problem with it til I realized all these signs weight gain lazy no affection sexdrive grouchy withdrawal. He says he didn't know what it was doing to him & me. I wasn't eating staying in bed . He's a very smart man I don't believe him. it's really damaged me.
@JahlenJohnson11
5 жыл бұрын
Keshia Wagner how are things now?
@juancarlosfigueroasolis2464
4 жыл бұрын
Keshia Wagner grow up honey
@keshiawagner9575
4 жыл бұрын
Juancarlos Figueroa Solis -Please explain to me how my comment portrays the lack of maturity to you on my part?
@angelanetherton8240
5 жыл бұрын
They don’t realize the deep hurt they cause by doing this.No one understands until they are married to a porn addict..It’s abuse!
@Alicia-us5ip
5 жыл бұрын
Angela Netherton Yep. And it hurts.
@thefayemichelle
5 жыл бұрын
My partner hasn't seemed to get how much it hurts, no therapy, no meetings, no help. He says it, but doesn't actually do it. Any tips?
@laurenm9563
4 жыл бұрын
I want the fuk out. He won't stop. 12 years. Before the addiction, he treated me very well. After, he has a hardened heart. I hate him. In my eyes he cheated on me, so I cheated bak. So hurt. I cheated in real life and I'm glad. I'm so damn bitter!
@thefayemichelle
4 жыл бұрын
@@laurenm9563 It is cheating!!!!!!!!!!! I'm suffering PTSD from this still. I have not been able to date normally, it's a silent crime that destroyed my mental health and well being. Please get out, if it's 12 years thats far too long, could have gotten help but no.
@thefayemichelle
4 жыл бұрын
@@ibankharmujai4342 Iban I wish this were true. I left him maybe a few weeks after my comment was posted, he's still come back for another chance and I've managed to catch him three times again. I am suffering from severe PTSD after my encounters with a porn addict, it has scarred me. Me being 24 him being 45 there's not a single excuse I could possibly buy. I am praying your husband finds help rather than hides it.
@charlotteortiz1233
4 жыл бұрын
What about when they lie , accuse the wife of having too much in her head , says she is looking for things , yells ," I Am Not Doing Nothing!" Never will admit to anything.
@storyvi9530
3 жыл бұрын
My ex was addicted to porn. The secrecy created trust issues. His porn addiction made me see him as less of a man and more creepy. He lost his ability to perform unless it was something that made me feel uncomfortable unnatural. It also affected his social skills, he became angry and creepy. He just became a disgusting monster. I dumped him. I pretty much saw the way all the other men were treating their women and realised that if I was to be with someone that I needed a real man, not a loser.
@SherrieB7979
6 жыл бұрын
This has ruined me. I don’t know what else to do. It’s killing me literally
@stuflikethis
6 жыл бұрын
Never withhold sex as leverage. This is manipulative. If you do have sex and he is distant, have that conversation with him. Tell him how it affects your sex life and by extension, the rest of the relationship. Its not fair to you just as using a vibrator or flirting with other guys wouldnt be fair to him. At the end of the day, men need to want to change for themselves. He cant just cut it from his life to make you guys a bit closer. He needs to identify himself as someone who doesnt watch porn because he realizes the toll it takes on the rest of his life. Porn slows your brain and kills motivation much like pot. I highly recceomend the Pornreboot youtube channel.
@SherrieB7979
6 жыл бұрын
stuflikethis thank you for your response. I will check it out. We have been together for 15 yrs. I’ve tried everything and it just doesn’t seem to help. I will not ever cheat, but I am thinking of leaving. I just want to be held and be flirted with again. I miss that so so much. It is destroying me inside slowly. I get attn from guys all the time but I only want it from him. He has had help but now resorted to porn yet again. I cry after we have sex which is very far between. Because I know it won’t happen again for a very long time. I try to cherish every moment. I have talked to him he knows what this has done to me. He has tried but I don’t think he will ever change. I know a relationship is more than sex. I do love him and that’s what’s keeping me there. I just feel like I’m getting older and I’m running out of time to explore that side of me. I’m in my sexual peak, and there are days where I’m so sexually frustrated. I try to be alone but he’s always there and catches me. It’s embarrassing
@lednahandel
6 жыл бұрын
Pink Stars, Pray to God in Prayer and He will help you.
@brigettekellyramos-murray4960
6 жыл бұрын
My seen porn on my husbands phone too , I’m not sure what to do he lies but it’s something he searched them
@tevans1455
5 жыл бұрын
I'm going through the same thing godbless you there's nothing worse than feeling replaced
@tiffanyweber3028
3 жыл бұрын
I've been trying to find connection that relate to this topic. Most of the blogs out there put the blame on the women.... I'm sickened by what's accepted and how are feelings are invalid
@tevans1455
5 жыл бұрын
Boundaries can become a trigger I refuse to babysit his habit
@birdie2219
5 жыл бұрын
exactly - they just piss you off even more.
@jenniferjennifer1740
5 жыл бұрын
It doesn't just work
@laurenm9563
4 жыл бұрын
The bastards refuse 2 stop. It's like they do it more when they know it bothers you. When U ask them 2 stop, they go at it even harder. They hate us for wanting them 2 stop.
@ruggedlifejewelry
3 жыл бұрын
Especially if they hide it
@laurenmorgan881
3 жыл бұрын
Damn rite! Mine hid his, and when I would ask he would lie about it. The more upset I got, the more he wanted to jerk his little pecker to more porn! When I would back off, giving no fucks that's when he came wanting the sex. I don't appreciate his cruelty. It's abuse when he refuses to b honest, and keeps doing it to hurt me. Also, mine pays for aumth called "premium porn" on pornhub. Can U or anybody on here plz tell me Y he would PAY for this monthly when porn is free in all forms! Y does he pay and for wut?! Make it make sense. Wut is premium porn?!
@EankiEtAl
Жыл бұрын
This is great. Been dealing with this for 18 years. I believe he is a sexual deviant at this point, with no boundaries. It’s really true that the longer they are addicted the more perverse they become. I’m finally done. I’m taking myself out of the cycle.
@jessicaknight7464
6 жыл бұрын
Video tip... don't shoot with the light behind you. Can't see your face. Also check your audio. There's so whirring going on somewhere. Thanks!
@arbitrarylib
4 жыл бұрын
Its ok
@birdie2219
5 жыл бұрын
what the hell does setting boundaries mean. what boundaries? they are selfish bastds that sneak around jerking off showing their dks to girls and guys old or young on the web and exchanging smut. This also happens at work and then he gets behind and is a manager! getting up at 5am to fiddle about with porn site and at work late at night whatever and then think nothing is wrong. Except you are not getting any attention for years but didnt realise it ...time to move on life is short he has already stolen the best years. Piss him off and make sure you get more than you are owed financially. You have plenty to blackmail him with now.
@curseofsasuke
5 жыл бұрын
Addiction stems from a lack of connection.
@jennifermasih3791
4 жыл бұрын
Sometimes men are addicted cz they don't really love
@BasicBachelor
2 жыл бұрын
I find this wrong in my circumstances. I had the urge to "knock one out" when i had more sex with my partner.
@jenniferjennifer1740
5 жыл бұрын
I did all you said but became worse..it's 6 years
@waleedshaheer4332
6 жыл бұрын
What kind of boundaries? Should we stop sex?
@sponcela
6 жыл бұрын
i am in that same feeling :/
@spacecat5517
6 жыл бұрын
I'm disgusted at my husband and have completely lost interest in that.
@ShawnaHill83
5 жыл бұрын
@@horrorqueen3577 you're not alone! My skin crawls sometimes and when we do have sex he cums within 5/7 mins and I get so upset but hide my frustration. I left him after 7 years because I just can't take how ignorant and selfish he has become!
@birdie2219
5 жыл бұрын
@@horrorqueen3577 yes I absolutely get this - putting up with same right now. see all my comments above,
@brigettekellyramos-murray4960
5 жыл бұрын
The only thing has changed is our sex life I’ve gained weight and it’s been hard on me it’s like we don’t have sex anymore. He’s very fit and works out all the time I use to but stopped. He does look at porn I seen it on him phone he has to do it when he’s at work. He don’t do it at home I have full access to his phone. He deletes things but not all the way
@amygarcia2728
5 жыл бұрын
My husband does the same thing to and lie about it even hen he gets caught . And blame me saying I need help not him.
@birdie2219
5 жыл бұрын
@@amygarcia2728 same here said he would stop but cancelled his account and opened another one is different name. what a jerk.
@robertgross9580
5 жыл бұрын
Maybe you should be respectful enough to get on shape. Not only are you physically unattractive, but the disrespect of letting yourself go is particularly repulsive to men.
@amygarcia2728
5 жыл бұрын
@@birdie2219 wow that's crazy men are so negative and stupid they don't know what they have until it's late.
@amygarcia2728
5 жыл бұрын
@@robertgross9580 I am in shape I have a nice body but I don't what he wants.
@WybleFamilyAdventures
4 жыл бұрын
I'm in the cycle I need help
@sarahlove9830
4 жыл бұрын
I know of a powerful man who can deliver your partner from every spirit of addiction
@tony2timez40
4 жыл бұрын
My dad introduced me to porn as a child insisted self gratification is the only way ....thX dad
@leifleifsen8913
2 жыл бұрын
Funny my wife watches open, but any info you find about wives watching open gets blamed on husband. Always excuses for women, but men are just bad.
@leifleifsen8913
2 жыл бұрын
They need to start talking about wives watching open.
@vicxthemw
5 жыл бұрын
Hey counter my answer ...real sex does not give that much of pleasure so what now where should men get that amount of pleasure real sex is boring And why women dont maintain themselve that much.. in reality women cannot compette with porn . they always give excuses to their men that i m not in mood etc etc and they blem on their husband and porn industries..and now how a man will fulfil his kink ??
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