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@llcoolg52001
2 ай бұрын
Hell NO!
@Groundwater24
Ай бұрын
Beware the false prophet.
@user-fo4lo4nm8e
Ай бұрын
kzitem.info/news/bejne/1IuevpOFa4afoYI No
@DarkCrow02
3 ай бұрын
For the forgiveness part, I also would like to add that they view forgiveness as a freepass to keep up their mistreatment of you.
@lakevahopps7120
3 ай бұрын
Forgiveness is an act of kindness towards self, my abusers can’t come back until they are ready to reconcile, reconciliation requires accountability for one’s own actions and that is something they’re not capable of doing because they don’t have a repentant heart, we are commanded to forgive not reconcile.
@sothernsweetie68
2 ай бұрын
So so true! Mine too...i cant get thise wirds out his mouth fOR ANYTHING! thats really crazy! I @lakevahopps7120
@MysticalDyl
2 ай бұрын
Jordan Peterson said something along the lines of “You don’t have to forgive someone because they say sorry, you forgive someone when they repent of their actions and actually change”. But also it seems like most folks don’t have the guts to actually change
@michaelmadsen-yq5kw
2 ай бұрын
They typically believe the once saved always saved myth as well. License to commit all sin.
@yvonnes7412
2 ай бұрын
“Repentance is change of action”- Narcissists don’t understand this concept. If they’re seeking forgiveness, they should change their actions. If they’re not repenting, what’s there to forgive? Now, we can forgive on our end, but we don’t have to forget. If they don’t repent; if they don’t change their actions, then we can hold our boundaries and set up new boundaries to protect ourselves. God doesn’t require anyone to remain under oppression. It’s our God-given right to remove ourselves from oppression. And narcissistic abuse is one type of oppression.
@sleeperno1215
3 ай бұрын
They want you to forgive but they never admit that they did anything wrong. What, then, is there to forgive? Repentance is required.
@kylejuve5494
Ай бұрын
@@sleeperno1215 and to recognize their actions and stop repeating repeatedly repeating…
@Peacocks615
Ай бұрын
BuT if there is no repentance, it must be on you solely to forgive them. The forgiveness they want won’t ever be reached anyhow, so you have to break off to the side, and learn what forgiveness truly looks like, & then do it…bc God forgave us. They won’t ever repent, so your future can’t ride on what they do. It’s what they want anyhow, bc if you don’t actually forgive them, then God will hold you truly accountable. And to some extent, from my experience, I’ve learned that I have an enemy in my narcissist. He truly made me his enemy, and has treated me as such, like I’m a sibling rival. It’s sad and sick. But that’s why I say YOU have to control the forgiveness YOU give. ✌🏼🩶🇺🇸
@gwendolynwehage6336
4 ай бұрын
Amen, Amen!!!! The narcissists accuse us of not loving but are the meanest people of all.
@KayQhosa
4 ай бұрын
So true and so unfortunate.
@mayruthuganda1910
3 ай бұрын
My husband always tells me I don't know how to love neither how to be loved😊. The last time he said it to me I told him...yes, I don't know. Please teach me how
@gwendolynwehage6336
3 ай бұрын
@@mayruthuganda1910 smart answre!
@penelopedyck4217
3 ай бұрын
@@mayruthuganda1910this is almost word for word what mine says.
@JDDemont-dw2zj
2 ай бұрын
So true Whoever they can use to get what they want they will
@myunknownland9272
2 ай бұрын
My former husband and pastor always controlled me with the 'wives obey your husbands''. Even the elders said but God says 'love your wives as Christ loved the church!' but it was like talking to a wall.
@Kelli-ru7yy
2 ай бұрын
They sure do love to ignore that other part of the verse 😅
@susangrisham9657
Ай бұрын
@@myunknownland9272 ... My first husband was a pastor also and used this also. And used my faith against me all the time. He was definitely a wolf
@tricialafrancerougas
Ай бұрын
My ex-husband would tell me I needed to submit to him and obey him anytime we disagreed about something. He said we wouldn’t have anything to argue about if I just obeyed him and submitted. He was so unhappy and did anything to try to take my joy!!! If he knew I loved something, he would withhold it. If I told him something he did hurt me, he would keep doing it. I was never hurt by anyone in my life more than him. I’d rather be single, celibate, alone and at peace my whole life than be with him!
@mrk4972
Ай бұрын
The standard of Godly perfection can never be met, so not supporting your husband is a REJECTION of Christ unless he's a SINNER Wich there is no standard and all that she says is mostly true but if he's trying to live by God's word then what she says is Contrary to the Bible.
@myunknownland9272
Ай бұрын
@@mrk4972 really he beat me in bed while I slept! He cheated with other women, he left me because I wouldn't undue his shoelaces when he came home from work, while I struggled with two children under 18 months. He left me and has a 22 year old daughter to a woman he has never married. From being a pastor (fully qualified) to not believing in God or the devil. I'll trust in the Lord as I know I loved and obeyed him. But he was and is a psychopath as he also tried to poison me 8 weekends in row. God have mercy on you if you support this behaviour. Love your wife like Christ loves the church. You must be a monster yourself to support this!!!
@Kavanah-88
4 ай бұрын
Going on 27 years of Narc abuse. Two suicide attenpts (many years ago) 2 mental breakdowns, plathora of health issues and an awakening to the truth that almost broke me mentally, im climbing out of the madness. Scripture is the help and healing that is mending the mind mess that has been created. One day I pray to be free fully and thriving. Praying for each person who faces this horror, male or female. We all have endured hell on earth.
@Daniel-lv6fl
4 ай бұрын
Praying for you earnestly..be encouraged your not alone in your battle. Not only is Jesus with you others are enduring similar trials..in Christ
@DivineIntervention777
3 ай бұрын
I know exactly what you are going through, 12 years of deep darkness & Spiritual Negativity by my baby mother. I also know witchcraft is involved. God Awakened me with the darkness & brought me into his Marvelous Light & Salvation. He Chose me.
@lynbowman4959
3 ай бұрын
God bless you
@Kavanah-88
3 ай бұрын
@Daniel-lv6fl thank you truly thank you for the prayers and words of encouragement
@Kavanah-88
3 ай бұрын
@DivineIntervention777 praying for you, for us all who have endured this hell on earth
@thenarethechildrenfree
3 ай бұрын
They twist scripture for control.
@roboparks
2 ай бұрын
Sounds like most American Charismatic Pastors. !🙄
@heidigrunwald2145
4 ай бұрын
My ex used to leave notes all around the house for me to find which said "the truth shall set you free" as if he knew something I didnt or trying to imply that I had something to confess to him when in actual fact it turned out he had three other women he was sleeping with behind my back. Funny thing is when I found out this information the Truth actually did set me free, we dont even speak anymore and when I see him I cant even imagine why I was ever interested in the first place, Thankyou Jesus for Setting me free for you are the way the TRUTH and the life and I love you so much Lord Amen
@sherrydickie8459
4 ай бұрын
Yes! Whatever they accuse you of, they are usually doing!
@POS3278
3 ай бұрын
I had a similar situation
@murrismiller2312
3 ай бұрын
sorry, that does sound like you weren't listening.... men who F around like that are Angry - at you !!!
@Kelli-ru7yy
3 ай бұрын
Sometimes what they say to you to manipulate you backfires on them. My ex used to constantly say I was selfish, a bad commutator, that I was illogical. He would blame all our arguments on my period. Well, over time I became generous, good at communication, and very logical.
@myunknownland9272
2 ай бұрын
@@sherrydickie8459exactly
@NLC0413
2 ай бұрын
"Scripture should be in love not a sledgehammer" 💯💯💯
@Vgaf99
22 күн бұрын
TRUE!!!!!
@artgirlmermaid
3 ай бұрын
Truth n lies mixed together... Satan's favorite pastime and weapon.
@Bangbang-gl4xo
3 ай бұрын
That is so true...
@stevev2292
2 ай бұрын
Yeah, I've heard it said that 90% of what the devil tells you is true...so that he can deceive you with the remaining 10%!
@c.fanger5083
4 ай бұрын
When my marc ex wife got exposed for having a three year affair she told me "you can't judge me because you're a sinner too."
@celiamurray
4 ай бұрын
Same.
@melissaculpepper7663
4 ай бұрын
Respond back to her, “Takes one to know one.” The difference is which sinners have repented and surrendered to Christ Jesus? Also, Jesus tells believers to judge among believers and test the spirits. We absolutely are taught and commanded to deal with sin within the Church(Body of Believers). How else can one be cast out of the Church if they refuse to repent? This is a lie from Satan that silences many believers. We are not to condemn another but we most certainly should be aware of what spirit is operating in them. Some will be restored to the Lord or else, at least, they are no longer being allowed into fellowship to spread their evil. A little leaven spoils the loaf.
@stefaniebunner428
4 ай бұрын
@@melissaculpepper7663 My husband always came with biblical advice to me to shut me up. Thanks to knowing Jesus and the scripture I had good arguments I could stand against his manipulations. But he never would have let me convince him from anything that would have lead in repentence. No way! Instead he ghosted me every time he ran out of arguments. While I waited for him to return for talking about our issues and prayed for guidance and wisdom, he came back saying nothing pretending nothing had happened. It is useless discussing. You can't reach out to their twisted mind. You can't encounter a sick attitude in a healthy way of discussion. Just God can convince and heal them. Everything else is throwing pearls to the pigs. Shake the dust of the feet and leave the narcissist up to God.
@Flynow-24
4 ай бұрын
This is the crazy making they do!
@kevinkelley3657
4 ай бұрын
Mark Drischoll is my favorite of all the big online preachers. Mark said that a narcasist uses scripture to convict you, but never themselves. I agree 100% with his statement. My deceased mother in law was an absolute narcky, and every time my wife and I would visit her mother, she always had a list of the peoples who had wronged her in the last week or so. She never looked inwards to herself, no personal analaysis at all.
@lisawells9905
3 ай бұрын
Of course when I was walking away from a narcissist I got the "and you call yourself a Christian " I turned smiled and said "judge not lest you be judged" she had a look of pure shock on her face as I turned and walked away.
@flintwestwood3596
2 ай бұрын
I had a similar encounter with the one I gotta deal with, but their response was a sinister smirk followed by them saying "you're finally learning how this game is played."
@ingridgallagher1029
2 ай бұрын
@@flintwestwood3596 oof! That's way creepy.
@flintwestwood3596
2 ай бұрын
@@ingridgallagher1029 Yeah, I wanted to use Morse code to tell them not to be like that - that is, Morse code using my fist on their face. I controlled myself though so they got nothing from me (grey stone I think the therapists call it).
@katherinegranger1995
Ай бұрын
Grey rock, actually@@flintwestwood3596
@leilaacevedo-dimaandal8418
4 ай бұрын
Yes, yes, yes! I’m SO glad someone else has pointed out the last “twisted scripture,” the “Honor thy father and thy mother.” That is the most misused of them all. In fact, they may have the “honor thy father and mother part down” (or think they do), but they do not read the line that comes AFTER that verse, which is “Do not provoke thy children to anger.”
@anise3564
3 ай бұрын
They twist the word “ honor” to mean “obey,” even fir their adult married children. John Bevere wrote a book called Honors Reward. He says, after much study on honor, he concluded it basically means “to show value.”
@Ax.DaEdge
3 ай бұрын
Giiirll! I inwardly crack up when people attempt to use this one against me and I mentally quote 'THAT ONE'. 😂😂😂😂😅😆😆
@Ax.DaEdge
3 ай бұрын
Also, the original reading states Obey ... "In the Lord". Some verses omit it and the devils jump on it.
@RM-qq5rj
3 ай бұрын
Yep describes my experience growing up and into adulthood...i got yelled at by my dad in my 30's that i wasn't honoring my father or mother every time I had an alternate thought, feeling, opinion, Likes or dislikes, or just tried to maintain my own boundaries and independence separate from their control. They just wanted 100% obedience and subservience, a robot. He'd tell me how disrespectful I was and not honoring them. Heaven forbid i ever said "no". That was blasphemy that unleashed wrath and punishment.
@Vgaf99
22 күн бұрын
Honor them with what you give to them, not what you have to take from them ;)
@dutch_oma1453
4 ай бұрын
I'm aware of a situation where the wife is the narcissist and the husband is the victim. And this was a military guy! I'm in prayer all the time for this family!!
@rosalindr4975
3 ай бұрын
Just met my estranged step daughter in law . She was abusive and some one stole my medication. She’s moving to the area. She wanted to camp in the driveway while she builds a house. Nooooo . Boundaries needed. Hod showed me she’s a theif , liar, and sadly she adopted a child to cure her empty nest syndrome. That child is ignored when she’s not showing her off.
@dutch_oma1453
3 ай бұрын
@@rosalindr4975 so sad...
@JDDemont-dw2zj
2 ай бұрын
Prayers 🙏🏾
@joannerudow337
2 ай бұрын
My son in law - my daughter is a narcissist and so was her father.
@dronecruisers
2 ай бұрын
I think you're talking about me. I met my wife in the military she was military, too. Controlled me like an R/C car. I had a child's cell phone so she could monitor everything and would block my phone from calling her or anyone when she got upset.
@NikkiGRocks4Ever
4 ай бұрын
When a narcissist tries to manipulate scripture for their benefit against me, I prayed about it. I found Isaiah 41:11-12. That is their fate unless they repent, accept responsibility for their actions, and submit to the Almighty God.
@radhakrsnaprema
4 ай бұрын
Loved it. Thank you❤
@penelopedyck4217
3 ай бұрын
I got Commandment 9 thrown at me when I went to some people at church for advice.
@staceyschmidt645
3 ай бұрын
Rebuke Leviathan and Jezebel
@ashleyhuxley3422
14 күн бұрын
@@NikkiGRocks4Ever also 13 🥰😇🥰
@NikkiGRocks4Ever
14 күн бұрын
@@ashleyhuxley3422 Psalm 37 too
@sssttt2211
Ай бұрын
Narcissist will judge you harshly for no reason but will say that you accuse them...
@remarkable937
3 ай бұрын
His past mistakes that needed to be left in the past since he didn't like talking about them can be as far back as 1 minute..."it is in the past, forget about it already!"
@householdlogistics
2 ай бұрын
No one expects to discover they were deceived into a marriage by a wolf disguised in sheep's clothing. To discover that is what has in fact occurred, is incredibly traumatising on so many levels. Unfortunately, there are some denominations that totally rely on these exact twists of scripture, in order to keep women and children in bondage to manipulative abusers, because it suits those in power within those very churches to keep it that way. THANK YOU for posting this video.
@myunknownland9272
2 ай бұрын
So true.
@Ax.DaEdge
3 ай бұрын
"A fool in error is always fast to quote Scriptures".
@lakevahopps7120
3 ай бұрын
Satan knows the word too
@juanderuano8969
Ай бұрын
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
@laurawheeler-px6oz
Ай бұрын
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back
@juanderuano8969
Ай бұрын
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
@laurawheeler-px6oz
Ай бұрын
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
@juanderuano8969
Ай бұрын
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
@TeacherMom80
Ай бұрын
I'm sorry about what you're going through. Praying for peace & reconciliation. I sincerely hope for the best for each of you, regardless of what God's plan is for each of you. God Bless. Be the light that washes away the darkness. 💕🙏🏼😇
@Mountainhippiedude
3 ай бұрын
"Leave and cleave" was used repeatedly by my soon to be ex-wife to try to convince me that I was commanded to cut off all ties to my family and previous relationships. It was a pathetic attempt to isolate me.
@indianiecworld
Ай бұрын
my ex used to say "for the marriage to work, one should always put the other person first", meaning, the other person was always him
@cheryl63...
4 ай бұрын
I think that is the bible my mother reads. She has said all of those twisted scriptures to me many times. Just two weeks ago she texts me saying God calls us to forgive... and forget...I have been struggling on how to honor her. I don't like her. she is evil and downright mean to me! she cuts off communication with me to punish me, I'm tired of it... I am 60 years old and still a sad hurt child... I am a Christian, I just need to focus on the Lord and stay in His word daily... Sometimes I just get stuck in a cloud of depression. Thank you, I certainly needed to hear this today... The twisted bible verses were spot on.
@imago9059
4 ай бұрын
Be like the Bereians. Always double check in your own Bible what she says and seeks solace in Jesus not a human.
@Corinna_Schuett_GER
4 ай бұрын
Cheryl read Psalm 50:16-21 that's the type of persons God HATES.
@donnafranks-oldpathhome
4 ай бұрын
Psalms 27 I think... I had fainted unless I had believed...
@PyrPupMom
2 ай бұрын
Forgive... from a distance. Turn your face away from her to Jesus and the Father, who love you best!
@shawnadinelle1114
3 ай бұрын
Thank you for bringing up “Honour your Mother & Father”. I moved away from my parents with my husband and kids at 38 years of age. I was constantly told I’m not honouring and that I was selfish for moving away. I needed this 🩷
@shellonneechinn8363
Ай бұрын
You got away!!!
@Rhnhfmfjhrnnfgfjgjmgj
3 ай бұрын
I had this. She told me, “I have the Holy Spirit, and if you contradict me, you will go to hell.”
@Rhnhfmfjhrnnfgfjgjmgj
3 ай бұрын
and I had to obey everything she said.
@olw4196
22 күн бұрын
“Honor thy father and mother AND provoke not your child to wrath” Ephesians 6:2-4 Hello?
@CP-gq5fw
3 ай бұрын
I filed for legal separation because I am trying to leave without harm. My abusive husband bashes me with the Bible verse, “God hates divorce.” He can’t stand that I refuse to backdown from my decision to leave him.
@Dagnymarie1
2 ай бұрын
He also hates abuse. He hates the actions that lead to divorce.
@Bill-kj8io
2 ай бұрын
Paul’s epistles list numerous acceptable reasons for divorce. If a believer is engaged in ongoing unrepentant sin of any kind then you may treat them as an unbeliever. If you married to an unbeliever you are allowed to divorce them and remarry. Therefore, if your spouse is engaged in ongoing unrepentant sin against you then you can treat them like an unbeliever. You can divorce them and, if you choose, remarry. “God hates divorce.” Is not the only relevant scripture.
@patienceoyeleye5736
Ай бұрын
@@Dagnymarie1I had some in laws say this to me. And I said God hates liars abusers manipulators infidels...and all of a sudden, I heard so you see we have all sinned😂.... I said wow... no wonder their brother isnt moved by my pains. They just wanted me to go back to his house. After the scripure thing wasnt working (thank God for Kris and counselling), it got to mix of culture and scripture also- honour elders we have begged you over and over. 😳 Then I am asked, whether I even bother about how he is feeding..I was shocked , my mental.gealth that almost got me to a dangerous point was less important... They need me to go care for his sexual appetite ( am I a prostitute 😢)
@Dagnymarie1
29 күн бұрын
@@patienceoyeleye5736 Leslie Vernick is a great resources for Christians in destructive relationships. (Anyone could benefit from her info but she addresses what the Bible really says)
@Dagnymarie1
29 күн бұрын
@@patienceoyeleye5736 I’m so sorry.
@JesusizmyLordandSavior
4 ай бұрын
🙏🏼🙏🏼 know the Truth to detect the lies.
@NikkiGRocks4Ever
4 ай бұрын
John 8:32. You will know the truth. The truth will make you free.
@Garden366
4 ай бұрын
But being able to detect the lies is only 1/2 of the battle. The other 1/2 is understanding how to respond to these lies. In this, the most effective scripture is “Answer not a fool, according to his folly, lest you be like him yourself. Answer a fool, according to his folly lest he be wise in his own eyes.” Prov 26:4-5 It takes great discernment to be able to do this effectively, and to know when to apply the answering of the fool in this case, the narcissist, and when not to answer the narcissist in their continuous and never ending lies.
@user-re9tw3vj8b
2 ай бұрын
So true🙏🙏
@Flynow-24
4 ай бұрын
They also want to lead you into sin. My ex told me he wanted to be the kind of husband that if he came home and caught me in bed with another man, he'd still want to stay together. I was so shocked and disgusted.
@katherineirvin7464
3 ай бұрын
That's a hallmark of the personality of an unclean spirit. Filthy. That's a part of how unclean spirits in the Narcissist moves. Always Always some aspect of sexual impurity however it manifest. Perversion of God's design for s#x / sexuality.
@user-ck8sg7yb1h
3 ай бұрын
That's bc he wanted you to give him the permission back so he could do it!!
@glendawallace2083
2 ай бұрын
How terrible
@sukru6797
2 ай бұрын
I thought it was only my soon-to-be ex who said this. "If I come home and find you in bed with another man, I would close the door, and hope he satisfied you." What?!?!? He said it with a complete straight face and honest tone. Didn't not hear himself? What twisted thinking! He was trying to give me permission to cheat so he would feel better about it himself.
@Flynow-24
2 ай бұрын
@@sukru6797 they are sick in the head!
@jearogers
17 күн бұрын
People are using scripture, twisting it to suit their needs their wants. This is so good! In so many avenues of our life this happens, Narcs are everywhere! Once you see it, you can't unsee it. Literally surrounded. I'm just now starting to understand why Jesus will say depart from me I never knew you. I didn't understand how it could be possible. But never thought about it, that Satan tried to pull that with Jesus. Love these videos.
@andytaylor9107
13 күн бұрын
Trust is given, mistrust is earned!
@franco2b145
Ай бұрын
“Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honor thy father and mother (which is the first commandment with promise), that it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth.” … failing to scroll down to the next verse which states: “PARENTS PROVOKE NOT YOUR CHILDREN TO WRATH” … the hypocrisy is real!
@glorytothealmightycreator
Ай бұрын
@@franco2b145 , yes, yes, yes, yes!!! Thank you
@gabrielaj2066
27 күн бұрын
Yeah I called out my mom saying that you also should not provoke me to anger according to the Bible and then instead of accepting that mistake she proudly screamed at me and accused me of calling her S*!**. She was basically projecting herself to me. And my dad is the same thing. I forgive them but I don’t live with them anymore.
@hugmc
7 күн бұрын
Yes two way street
@pamelaboyd6509
4 күн бұрын
Except when your parents wants you to lie. That's not grounds to obey
@hobertlee7598
Ай бұрын
YOU ARE A KNOWLEDGEABLE LADY,
@dwlsn93
12 күн бұрын
My mom was a twisted sister. She tried to control her children with “Honor thy father and mother” but never went past that to “do not exasperate your children.” She was a harsh, abusive Jezebel - who actually went after (& beguiled) the pastor of the church. What a mess! One of the most overt narcissists I’ve ever met!
@Kimberlyalmond
3 ай бұрын
I can relate to these, but the one my parents used on me to keep me in a very bad place was “rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft “. Being rebellious was the last thing I wanted to do, so they were able to get me to do anything for them.
@rainekay3106
2 ай бұрын
Lol. I love this. I do know the Narcissist Twisted Version! and for Almost everyday of our almost 42 years together. My self-righteous christian husband (who by-the-way says preachers are wrong to devalue the older brother of the Prodigal son, because the older brother had a right to be angry - because the older brother has done everything right) would choose a Bible verse for our daily devotions and point his finger at my nose telling me how I am not up-to-standard on this and better improve. He would do this in front of our children. It took maybe 30 years before I put a stop to this in our daily Bible devotions. Yes, I know, I am a slow learner. But then I came from a narcissistic physically, verbally and emotionally abusive childhood home to just a verbally and emotionally abusive home. I thought I did better. My concern is how it has affected my three children.
@LiveforHim73
4 ай бұрын
The one time he said he was as sorry.., it was soon over and back to his old self. Twisted manipulation. And it was so distorted. To serve him!
@RaE8270
4 ай бұрын
Oh my goodness! He used number 3 every day! Claiming that it was written in that specific order so that the man cannot honour the woman until she submits to him. She must submit first before he will show her respect or honour! This in conjunction with women being the weaker/lesser vessel, the clone, that through which sin entered the world. That being said, I did submit and he still didn't respect me. So glad to be out of that! Thank you so much for this video, I wasn't crazy!
@preacherbarbie
2 ай бұрын
Bless you sister. Women aren't clones, we literally were taken out of Adam's body-"So God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them." (Genesis 1:27). Also, "So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.” (Genesis 2:21-23). Another thing, sin entered the world through one MAN, Adam, not a woman. Eve was deceived but Adam commited high Treason against The Lord-"Because of this, just as sin entered into the world through one man, and death through sin, so also death passed to all men, because all sinned." ( Roman's 5:12). Remember, we are all supposed to be ONE in Christ Jesus, where there are no males that are better than women." There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is neither male nor female; for you are all one in Christ Jesus." (Galatians 3:28). Some men want to use your gender against you (which is an offense to the God who made you) and submit to them the way they perceive what submit means from their spirit of control lense. Our first priority is to submit to God before man, even ones own husband. 🙏
@sstewart6356
2 ай бұрын
I became a widow 4 years ago my husband and I were unable to have children. It has been shocking to me how many people have come out of the woodwork wanting a variety of things from me to serve their desires or needs because I have no husband or children. And using scripture to validate their request. The most frequent one is concerning money to sell all that I have- my home and my possessions and give it to the poor, of course they are the poor that they are talking about. When I asked what they thought I should do if I became penniless their reply has been they have a shed in the backyard without any electricity or running water that I could live in or some more generous- a back bedroom I could live in. Of course I laughed at such an idea . Out of sarcasm I felt like answering them that would be too good for me, don't they have a dog run I can live in but of course as a Christian I did not respond that way. Money hasn't been the only issue, some of them have been about ways in which they can fill my day being their personal assistant taking care of responsibilities for them. Again the scripture be a servant to all. I am very grateful to the Holy Spirit for giving me an answer to these people, and that is - I will ask the Lord if this is something I should do or not. And I do ask the Lord, most of the time I hear no this is a yoke they are putting on you not something I am asking of you. Some of the time I am to serve and I do it willing but with healthy boundaries.
@deebee4622
4 ай бұрын
In Mark 3: 35 Jesus says “ for whoever does the will of God is my brother, sister, and mother”. In Mathew 10:36 Jesus states “ a man’s enemies will be members of his own household”. Narcissists, who are people of the lie and creatures of chaos, do Satan’s bidding in order to keep others from their God given destiny by engineering perpetual turmoil. Focus on Jesus and not on the storm and pray like your life depends on it because it does. God absolutely will carry you through and bring you out from under their controlling influence and the narcissist will become ensnared in the traps they set out for others. Have faith, do not despair, believe and it will be done, for we worship a mighty and just God who detests evil. Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to give you hope and a future”.
@TheHelenhunter
4 ай бұрын
Thank you ❤️
@katherineirvin7464
3 ай бұрын
So good. And here's yet another scripture that needs to be heeded. Thou shalt not have any other gods before Me. Narcissist demand worship. They like their father the enemy, want/demand worship. They want to enslave people.. to bow down to them. For the Christian, this is Idol worship. Idolatry. They're aligned with their father like you say. Continuing to entertain the Narcissists will definitely keep one from completing their God appointed assignment on the earth which is the enemy's goal.
@AChebby
3 ай бұрын
Amen.
@1MNUTZ
4 ай бұрын
We're supposed to forgive them just so they can feel better about themselves and then they can do it all over again and then lay all the blame on us and pount out and twist every single thing from our past since childhood.
@micheles8796
4 ай бұрын
This 100000% grace grace grace. Turn the other cheek a million times and let them do it again and again and again.
@pamelaboyd6509
4 күн бұрын
When you get sick and tired of being sick and tired. It's time to walk far away and stay away
@terilongacre854
10 күн бұрын
This is all so very true. We all dealt with it our whole lives with my mother. I never understood why I felt the way I did most of my life. Talking to my brother when our Dad passed away, asked him if he thought our mother is a narcissist? His response, 100%. We both have gone no contact with her and of course we are the bad ones. Only difference now is, I no longer allow myself to fall in the web. I was in that web most of my life not understanding any of it. It’s mental abuse! It will continue as long as you participate.
@jamesmounce3242
Ай бұрын
I had parents like narcissists. Both never cared but themselves and tried to make me feel bad for stuff thier bad behavior.
@julienatoli8561
4 ай бұрын
EXCELLENT content Kris!! Thank you so much. They truly have an alternate reality. They are empty vessels.
@CoachK10190
4 ай бұрын
Alternate Reality!
@Kris_Reece
4 ай бұрын
Thanks for watching !
@Nancy-yu2zx
3 ай бұрын
Have heard 1 and 2 repeatedly. Yet they will never read the scriptures that pertain to their own bad behavior - like drinking, fighting, lewdness, etc. After several years, I think it is finally time to go "no contact." They will never change. Thanks Kris. Just started watching your videos a day ago. They are the best.
@granth9352
24 күн бұрын
Yes, Im fully awake to Their style of manipulation now, very well explained, Thanks.
@Shasca483
2 ай бұрын
Endured this for 30 years. Never knew it was a mental condition. Always thought something was wrong with me. Now waking up to this new information and trying to heal my wounded soul. 🙏🏻
@robscovell5951
Ай бұрын
"God will provide". Translation: "you will provide everything I want, when I want it, and I don't have to do any work at all."
@juliejen2605
4 ай бұрын
Whenever I tried to stand up for myself, I was given Proverbs 12:1 Whoever loves discipline loves knowledge, but whoever hates correction is stupid.
@deborahwilkerson8103
2 ай бұрын
My family needed to hear this so badly. As mom ages her behavior has really become intense and we need prayers for sure.
@POS3278
3 ай бұрын
The one last night was "Do not Judge" The other day is was "forgive".
@Raffysgrace
4 ай бұрын
FANTASTIC Insight and assessment of scripture violations, Kris Reece. You’ve nailed my parents. Thank you.
@stefaniebunner428
4 ай бұрын
Dito. You nailed my husband.
@mariep4018
2 ай бұрын
There’s a lot of people that make believe that they are genuine and believe in God and around to help humanity when all they’re out is to help themselves only. It’s very sad.
@deborahbraman4667
2 ай бұрын
My ex told me “I’m the man and I’ll tell you what is a sin and what’s not a sin”.
@lisamoag6548
Ай бұрын
You only need to follow those who are obedient to God.
@PyrPupMom
2 ай бұрын
Forgive from a distance.
@annieb749
4 ай бұрын
I find that narcissistic spouses also use #4 to beat you over the head with if you try to draw a boundary to protect yourself from their toxic family. Ex 1 - He told us about their 50th anniversary party 30 minutes before he was set to leave and asked us to come. Drop everything you have planned for the whole weekend and come on a moment's notice, because it's FAMILY and it's my father and mother and we have to honor them. Ignoring a boundary I'd already drawn around that relationship, and after a night out drinking with his buddies until 2 am leaving us no note and answering no one's texts, including his kids'. Ex 2 - His family participated in an attempt to use psychiatric authorities to bully me into doing what he wants. I drew a boundary saying that they are welcome back here only when they apologize for their part in it and commit to respect me as a person, as their grandchildren's mother, and any boundaries I set. Now...I don't know what he told them....he may have communicated something entirely different (probably has, truth is not one of his usual things). BUT, no go. I don't really expect an apology or a change, because these people can do no wrong in their own eyes (and as a corollary, I can do no right). However, he bangs me over the head all the time that I'm not honoring them. Well...goes both ways. And mine isn't blatant disrespect, it's a boundary. One they don't like. Anyhow...just thought I'd point out how else this scripture gets used.
@KourtneyMEmmert
3 ай бұрын
#3 is a big one for my narc husband. He is constantly throwing that one at me basically telling me that no matter what I am to submit to him and let him lead even though that has lead to all our money and savings being spent and our family nearly being homeless. But it’s all my fault because I am a worthless wife who won’t submit
@sidney5383
2 ай бұрын
@@KourtneyMEmmert You would be better served not to repeat his negative words, out loud or in your head. Instead, ask Jesus to heal your memories of those evil comments and replace them with Godly things. And you please pray for your husband, especially when he says things you know are untrue about you. Learn the Hail Mary if you don't already know it. She is our spiritual mother, given to us all as Jesus was dying on the cross for all our salvation. Ask her to give him the Grace to change his ways and you to have the continuing Graces of strength and patience while she works to soften his heart. Mary is a miracle worker ... my formerly verbally abusive alcoholic husband of over 30 years is making astounding changes! I had set aside my Cradle Catholic roots to be with him and endured decades of this type of abuses (and learned to dish out some pretty awful stuff myself in misguided self defense!) But I finally was given the Grace to stand up for myself and put God first. And started praying for his conversion ... a 54 Day Novena. Along about day 52, he suddenly announced that he thought we should have a statue of Mary beside the tiny pond in the middle of our circle driveway!! You have to understand how crazy that statement was ... we're old/junk car collectors in a rural area with no real lawn and certainly no statues. We have dogs and poultry and cars! But you better believe I wasted no time helping him find a statue and there she stands, a visual reminder of her spiritually watching over his progress!!! He had given up alcohol over a year before and truly is becoming a better person daily. He also was willing to Convalidate our civil marriage in the eyes of the Catholic Church. And a few months later, thanks to Father Staples (yes, Tim Staples brother) meeting with him privately for weekly for months to Catachise him, my husband came into the Catholic Church in May of 2023! The Lord has done great things for us and Holy is His name! Hail Mary, full of Grace The Lord is with thee Blessed art thou amongst women and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus Holy Mary, mother of God Pray for us now and at the hour of our death Amen And thanks, blessed Mother, for taking my husband by the hand and leading him to your Son!!!
@goatkidmom
Ай бұрын
But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel. - 1 Timothy 5:8
@YHW77777
Ай бұрын
The one thrown at me by a covert narcissist is, Love covers a multitude of sins”. Complete twist using it as a hush-hush
@anniemarcelin
4 ай бұрын
This really good. Thanks, Kris for allowing God to continue to use you. Many blessings and God’s protection to you
@Kris_Reece
4 ай бұрын
🙏🏻
@aldelgado9343
4 ай бұрын
My narcisist brother just to quote the comandment of honor your parents to make me give my time and money to my mom when i didnt have any, making me feel bad about not helping out, he just to always talk about family unity and he was the first one to throw you under the bus when things didnt go well in the family
@maryalfred4819
2 ай бұрын
Be interesting to hear this narcism in church leaders because people who are trying to submit to authority get confused to the limit of this submission...
@stacyreed1
2 ай бұрын
Why do victims of narcissistic abuse defend and look like narcissists too?
@ThatBerkleySingerPoet
Ай бұрын
That's the really scary part.!
@sarahholt3994
Ай бұрын
This was my entire life with my Mom. So hard to deal with and undo. I’m still on my healing journey with this and having a hard time knowing what is truth.
@robertfoertsch
26 күн бұрын
Excellent Analysis, Deployed Worldwide Through My Deep Learning AI Research Library. Thanks Kris❤
@BryanGardiner
14 күн бұрын
I am guilty of using scripture as a weapon out of anger and frustration
@cr8338
2 ай бұрын
With respect to honoring your mother and father, the Bible also says not to provoke your children to anger. I had to point that out to my narcissistic birth mother. Needless to say, that did not go over very well.
@user-xx3gk3ve4x
Ай бұрын
The accuracy is freaking me out. 😮
@dennismagee9555
4 ай бұрын
Twisting the Bible is simply put a person can have a one sided relationship so they can have the best of both worlds. Example They use forgiveness mercy grace love and compassion from the Bible to avoid consequences and do not get what they deserve.
@winning3329
2 ай бұрын
My golden child narcissist sister does this, she will throw the forgiveness quote at me to try to deflect her accountability for her wicked actions
@corymccutchan5098
Ай бұрын
Yes; the use of the word judging is totaly misused. Reproof, or rebuke are absent in their knowing what it means.
@MYKEYCARD
2 ай бұрын
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@RealInsaneGalvatron
Ай бұрын
The third verse can't be used by the narcissistic wife. She uses the one from 3 verses later to tell me I'm supposed to die for her, and she interprets that as she gets to be in charge because I'm "dead".
@christaylor4728
3 ай бұрын
Amen!!!!! Just like saying Jesus was here to love and bring peace and acceptance. He came as a sword.
@wbooker5723
3 ай бұрын
Sometime they say you have “the spirit of offense”.
@Michelle-to6fg
Ай бұрын
Heard that. “What are you always so offended and unforgiving”…. Abuse, manipulation and affairs as well as stealing form me they wonder why I’m offended?! I do forgive but I’m not fool enough to let them back blindly
@rafikgl
3 ай бұрын
Understanding Narcissism A narcissist lives in a fantasy world where he is a king in his court of slaves. He is superior and in control of them. So, any nonsubmission, disobedience, inattention, opposition, criticism, competition, defeat, disrespect, or even trying to be an equal is not tolerated and he will react with “narcissistic rage”. The Narcissist’s true self is broken and disgusting, and he sees this. This causes him intolerable shame and pain when he thinks of it or if others recognize it. This makes him chronically miserable, and envious of other “normal” people. This second false self of a king is a fake one he invented to mask the true one and stop the pain and shame. Its characteristics are the opposite of what he sees in his true self. It is omnipotent, great, all-knowing, highly successful, beautiful, unique, infallible, enviable, indispensable to others, in control, and charming. This second self is so fragile because it is fake. And he is willing to do anything even murder to hide the true self and show the other false one. Narcissistic supply is the continuous supply he needs from people to prop up this fake image and numb his pain. He needs it to prove to himself and to others that this second false self is real and to hide the true one. Every situation for him is a struggle to get this supply. Having a slave provides him with narcissistic supply. It is in his own interest that you become isolated, weak, afraid, dependent, inferior, broken, and a failure so that you conform to the role of a slave to the king. So, he studies you and then manipulates you to trap and destroy you to conform to that role. To do so he uses isolation, intimidation, gas lighting, Scapegoating, idealization (love bombing)/devaluation/discard cycles, criticism, projection, displacement, physical abuse, humiliation, lying, insults, judging, boundary violation, bragging, smearing, triangulation or giving you the silent treatment. In his eyes you are not a human with feelings, dignity and rights; you are just a source of supply. He lacks any empathy towards you. Imagine a hot air balloon on which an image of a king is drawn with an ugly deformed monkey hiding inside the balloon. It needs continuous inflation, which your job in life is to provide, or what’s inside would be seen.
I had a churchmate who in their bitterness was spreading strife to get all our common friends to be on their side against another common friend. We all discerned that the one who was wrong was actually the one spreading the strife. When that person "apologized", they only tried to justify their behavior and also included a preaching on forgiveness in their apology. I have since forgiven them, but have limited our avenues of contact because i dont want to give them too much personal access to me lest I become their target for supply or of their anger
@TelithaFoster
3 ай бұрын
Some people just don't get it. Sundays are usually terrible days. Hours sitting and watching preachers on TV or going to church only to come home and mistreat people.
@crystalcottrell7518
11 күн бұрын
Another scripture used: get the plank out of your own eye before trying to get the speck out of your neighbors eye. That’s used frequently on me.
@Squrtle12344
2 күн бұрын
My ex gf when i set boundaries and they get offended all she said "Jesus loves me." "Jesus will always love me." Big ome how she want me to be is "fruit of the spirit."
@michellemcmillan5878
2 ай бұрын
I am called crazy for expecting to see her just one holiday in 12 years and that, I need boundaries. She tells me anything I say she does not understand and makes no sense. Then proceeds to tell me what I meant about anything I have said and it is always the complete opposite of what I said or meant. It is usually to try and prove to my older daughter, I have said something against her. I isolate myself from everyone. Because, if I dare let my guard down and think she is being nice...oh my gosh! I pay, royally. Like being told, I didn't ask you about your Thanksgiving because I knew you wouldn't have any plans or dinner. My daughter was compassionate and loving and felt empathy before the situation with her boyfriend.
@deweyjones5497
4 ай бұрын
I got so sucked into my girlfriend's world that she was all I could think about. It got so bad I couldn't even pray period when I could finally see who she really is , I was quickly found in violation . She quickly attacked every aspect of my life including my religion
@sbubb9155
Ай бұрын
My kid told me, You need to carry my burdens. I didn't ask to be brought into this world. You need to forgive ( yet he never apologized ). That Bible ain't gonna help you. Hate the sin, not the sinner. Etcetcetcetc.... I now just pray from AFAR. Never ever will I take him back in my lufe.
@AnoJanJan
3 ай бұрын
I'm so grateful that your video came up on my feeds. Most videos are all worldly based, and it's so refreshing to receive sound counsel based on God's Word. I can't thank you enough & pray that your reach goes far beyond what you had ever dreamed of. Blessings from Australia.
@purplehaze20011982
3 ай бұрын
What about "touch not my anointed one"? That one is commonly used by narcissists.
@drp2473
Ай бұрын
My mom used the submit to each other verse on my dad all the time and never acknowledged the submit to your husband. She also isolated him using the man should leave his family upon marriage and keep only to her. Mind you these are not the proper scriptures but the versions she used. She also used reactive abuse to play the victim and then forgive us our trespasses. My grandfather told be that the devil will redefine words and means for his own means. His example was “Happy wife Happy life” The corrupt meaning is that it is a husbands job to make his wife happy. That is impossible as happiness is a choice. He told me that instead I should find a wife who was herself happy and that that would bring a happy life.
@sunnydays2309
2 ай бұрын
my parents are narcs and use the phrase you have to respect thy mother and father. so they can say do anything they want regardless the consequences and not be accountable.
@mtbmwtb
3 ай бұрын
What about blaming the devil when something is not going their way The devil doesn’t want me to… The devil is trying to…
@destroyraiden
4 ай бұрын
Every time my parent used the honor your parents I'd use the don't nag your kids one and they never accepted it due to that meant they'd have to back off on their inappropriate demands.
@DaDitka
3 ай бұрын
I am a firm believer in playing by the rules of your opponents while never accepting their premises. You did the right thing here, I think- you rejected their premise that you must always "honor" them by doing everything they want you to do, while showing them a passage that effectively did the same thing to them. I'm not saying you yourself was trying to distort or twist the Bible for your own sake. I'm saying that it is fair game to do so in order to show their folly. Remember Proverbs 26:4-5. I hope all is well with you and yours.
@ashleygardner5261
21 күн бұрын
Man, I have so many questions for you. I grew up with a narcissist mother who subjected me to multiple types of abuse. I've been watching your videos all afternoon.
@spilledit
Ай бұрын
Most of the narcissists i have met have been women. Yet I see so many therapists etc. only talk as if it is a man that is the narcassist. We need more info on how FEMALE narcissists manipulate. Most women want attention and seem to be reluctant to talk about that subject.
@mpclepto182
18 күн бұрын
Well most modern western societies are matriarchies now, so just look at how they treat their people and you'll start to see how female narcissists work.
@GaryCameron780
Ай бұрын
My narc father was famous for quoting forgiveness. I went no contact with him 11 months before he died.
@badbro2820
3 ай бұрын
Wow Kris! Yet again, you are 100% ON POINT! Thank you!🙏🏾😃😘😘
@donnahassanin291
3 ай бұрын
Thank you Kris your teachings are so helpful to me. ❤ ✝️ 🕊 🕊 🕊
@ConsciousRelationshipSolutions
2 ай бұрын
Amen! I’ve had an ex in the past always act like a victim, and say “you’ll never forgive me.” “Forgiveness is godly.” Always portrayed as a perfect Christian to others. Once in church she held my hands and said “I’m ready to be honest” “As God as my witness”, “No more of this”. Later that night I asked about why someone was messaging her and she lost it and told me to get out. I wonder why
@daverson1508
Ай бұрын
Great video! I call it "Dodge Bible" like the game "Dodge Ball". Catching and throwing the ball/bible verses at one another..
@spilledit
Ай бұрын
I grew up in church, and i rarely saw a wife submit to their husband. They all treated their husband like they are too stupid to know they are being disrespected.
@lisamoag6548
Ай бұрын
Respect is needed.
@lisamoag6548
Ай бұрын
To submit is to give. Wives give respect to their husbands.
@lisamoag6548
Ай бұрын
Men of honor respect women. Husband love your wife.
@macoeur1122
4 ай бұрын
Every time you say "twisted scripture" in this video it reminds me of the band Twisted Sister....and I can't help but imagine my own twisted sister getting together with other twisted sisters and forming a band called "Twisted Scripture" lol :)))....Forgive me...I didn't get enough sleep last night and I get a bit slap happy when sleep deprived.
@slumberinggiants3440
Ай бұрын
#3 I’ve heard the second half used in the same way to manipulate husbands not only by wives but pastors too
@VictoriouslyTierra
4 ай бұрын
Thank you for this, Kris!!!!!!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 This was an absolute blessing, and it gave me so much more assurance. May God continue to bless you and your ministry!!!! Keep building up the Kingdom Of God!! ⚒️⚔️🗡🛡📖🙏🏾🙏🏾✨️✨️
@williambarrios7824
3 ай бұрын
Thank you, ❤ this helps me remain firmly on my boundaries.
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