Narcissists do not condone or allow you to express valid emotions or reactions and, therefore, NEVER validate your emotions, thoughts, or feelings.
@FJBravo381
11 ай бұрын
How true, they are most certainly soulless 💯
@marti8641
11 ай бұрын
Yes!!! Exactly!!! My gosh❤
@JesusIsTheFinalTruth
11 ай бұрын
Me getting hurt by something demeaning or straight up mean he would say to “correct my character” was apparently always another “reactionary response” that he was afraid of would happen again. Before I realized he was a narcissist I don’t know how many times I tried to explain that humans have feelings and you can’t just go around saying whatever you want and then be surprised when someone gets hurt. It’s like the most basic thing isn’t it, but it was like he never got it. Now I know why.
@norcal1009
11 ай бұрын
@JesusIsTheFinalTruth That is a very telling description of the narcissist's lack of empathy. It holds true for ALL the narcissists I've ever known over the years. Although subtle in their approach, nothing can be more clear that narcissistic behavior is mental illness acted out on others.
@Foxtrap731
11 ай бұрын
@@norcal1009 well said and true.
@sushmayen
11 ай бұрын
They also will be absent when you need them the most
@silvia22d
11 ай бұрын
For instance, when you give birth to your child.
@norcal1009
11 ай бұрын
THIS is their trademark. The narcissist does not give anything, especially when they know you need it.
@hannahhughes4801
11 ай бұрын
Aww yes I can relate to absent when needed most and kick a horse when it's down, disgusting cruel monsters and a pro at lying.
@direstraights
11 ай бұрын
@@norcal1009and they still want stuff from another - Life suckers, vampires 😮
@dakoderii4221
11 ай бұрын
@@tracyjohnston5899 That's my case too. They weren't absent. They always showed up to kick me when I'm down and stomp on my throat. Then they pat each other on the back for being so "loving and caring".
@LittleFrenchHen
11 ай бұрын
OMG throwing tantrums like a toddler. This is so very true. Its all "look at meeeee, LOOK at MEEEEEEE, why are you not paying me attentionnnnnn!" Then they go and do something utterly ridiculous - possibly risky even - just to get that attention back onto them.
@earthrooster1969
11 ай бұрын
Yup, yup and yup...so glad they are being called out and many of us were right about them but no one listened...
@LittleFrenchHen
11 ай бұрын
@@Themis419 It really does affect how we trust people, doesn't it!
@judyyates2763
11 ай бұрын
I think a big reason that they can't be alone is because that would leave space for self-examination. They avoid this at all cost because they really see themselves as perfect.
@smustipher
11 ай бұрын
I have a relative who told me that she was "perfect". I saw other signs prior that she was troubled but this statement confirmed it for me.
@LM-ip5yw
11 ай бұрын
That on top of sitting still in silence. No way can my narc not at least have TV on even to eat dinner. Or he is up and out the door like his pants are on fire. Same reason tho.. Avoid any time to either be questioned, confronted, called out, or to make sure they don't reflect on wrong doings that could cause them to even think about feeling guilty
@redherronrecords
11 ай бұрын
The false self is "perfect"; it's a simultaneous protection/projection of how they really feel about themselves...
@enneaf1676
10 ай бұрын
Explains why my narc ex "needs" discord for friendship, tumblr for art, tinder for love, some furry fandom site for creativity, and a shitty hierarchical job for attention in the real waking world. All the while emulating and larping anime characters who were also narcs
@MoulikaMorou-t5u
5 ай бұрын
That’s my mother, she cannot be alone. After exposing herself in the family and basically isolating herself from the people she wronged, she now turned to her Golden son and now she lives with him and his wife and children but wait, she didn’t stop there. She now got the golden child to basically buy more family members to come live with them. A house full of people is fun for the narcissist.
@titasghosh3350
11 ай бұрын
I wanna tell my experience with a narc dad. My daddy criticised my smile. CAN YOU BELIEVE IT! Yes, he rebuked me everytime I smiled and kept saying my emotions disgust him. For my entire childhood I had to go emotionless. Now I'm 20 and I left him a year ago. My life has got its colours back😊
@sheribalsoma9778
11 ай бұрын
✅❤❤❤❤❤
@Nitya-r86
11 ай бұрын
I'm sorry you had to go through all that. I can relate, because I have a father like that as well, and I am sure many others can relate as well. You're not alone. I'm really happy you left him :) Congratulations on getting the colors back into your life :) Live free.
@lj7780
11 ай бұрын
enjoy the seasons of the year
@jjmee2235
11 ай бұрын
😢 I am so sorry to hear that Titas ghosh. Thank God you got your freedom. My family loved music n i sing fairly good. My parents bought me every new Christian songs that came out. After the wedding when I put music on, my evil mil stopped me saying " o papa doesn't like songs and your husband got yelled at when he had music on". That evil witch scared me n stopped the music in me. 2 decades I was scared😢. Now I put the music on so loud that I am sure she ngashes her teeth may be😂😂😂 Enjoy your life, there's only one. They live it carefree at our expense. So go on live free and may you accomplish everything God intended you to have. All the best.
@asiyaalii
11 ай бұрын
Same thing..we were talking on message n having an argument..I sent him lol n he said whoever says lol I make them cry 😂 how cruel they are 😐
@Scorpio.connect
11 ай бұрын
😅My inlaws offered to buy us a new house... we never asked for this ( they're very wealthy)...we werent planning on moving... they convinced us to sell our house... we did, and it sold. After it sold my narcissistic mother inlaw changed her mind. Left us houseless with 3 kids and no plan. We ended up having to figure out buying a new house on our own with no plan.. Now shes offended because I dont want a relationship with her... wants me to pretend it never happened 😂
@norcal1009
11 ай бұрын
OMG, that was life-threatening😢! The way the narcissists abort their 'plans' and play with your major life decisions is toxic beyond belief! I've been in a similar situation, and it has taken YEARS to get back on my feet again. I am healing and in therapy so that won't happen again anytime soon (and hopefully never again).
@angelakeely5859
11 ай бұрын
They are very good at dangling the carrot 🥕 to get you on side, but they have a habit of not following through on what they promise you, they are despicable cretins😏🚩🏃♀️
@direstraights
11 ай бұрын
Future faked omg so sorry...I wouldn't want one either ... crazy narc dead ahead!!!🙄
@kashhoeksma2588
11 ай бұрын
They can throw anybody under the bus😮cos they lack empathy n true emotions 😮
@Salmanaseh
11 ай бұрын
Okay that sounds so scary. I really wish narcissists could see themselves through eyes of normal people, they look crazy and pests.
@Manike-ub2nw
11 ай бұрын
My mother was a screaming witch. It was so scary growing up in that family
@breakthroughmoment1647
11 ай бұрын
Same for my mother. Growing up in that was a nightmare
@Puppylove82-gv3gm
11 ай бұрын
Mine too, mine tooooo.. ughh. It never stops. I'm 41, married with a toddler and my mom STILL tries to scream at me and puppet me. She loses her mind even worse if I don't react and just stare at her and blink once.
@alexismerrilldragonqueen6552
11 ай бұрын
My dad would scream and yell so loud the cops would get called on us, even when nothing physical was happening because my dad sounded absolutely terrifying. Me and my sister would be holding each other shaking. I remember it well and I am approaching middle age. He still can't regulate his feelings and blames everything on everyone around him, failing to look at himself.
@bobbarker1798
11 ай бұрын
I hope you have left that witch behind.
@SweepDailyWin
11 ай бұрын
Yup screaming witch mother too! It was awful. I'm sorry you had to go thru that
@bobbarker1798
11 ай бұрын
My sister, the psychopath, told me through "sobs" about sexually cheating with her best friend's boyfriend in high school. She cheated, then was mad at her friend for being mad about stealing her boyfriend. Typical.
@direstraights
11 ай бұрын
Yes.
@robertcarnegie8919
11 ай бұрын
I wish that the court system was educated about this craziness and how it affects the children in a divorce. The scapegoat always looks like the narcissist and not the victim. They ruin the children!
@norcal1009
11 ай бұрын
Well said brother. I couldn't agree more. 👊
@Teens24
11 ай бұрын
Totally agree
@Foxtrap731
11 ай бұрын
It sucks if the narc is the wife. Men have it tough enough in family court. Getting ripped by a narc in a divorce as a man is a particular kind of hell.
@Teens24
11 ай бұрын
Sorry , have to disagree with that, it doesn’t matter wot sex u r , all narcissists r the same , at home and in the court room , their only mission in life is to make it hell and not let u move on. Hope ur moving on , as I am, the less u think about them , the better u feel 👍
@Foxtrap731
11 ай бұрын
@@Teens24 let me ask you this, do you write a check every month, or open one?
@fruitypopwhickle6806
11 ай бұрын
I could not think about myself. He called me a selfish coward for prioritizing myself and getting away from him and his abusive. His tantrum was insane and repulsive.
@wolveshat854
11 ай бұрын
This man's words are pure wisdom, everything he mentioned happened. I gave everything, lost everything, to live again 💛💛💛
@mtayala
11 ай бұрын
How does a narcissist internally react when they witness you with someone who treats you way better than they ever did? And when they witness you with someone who responds positively to all the same behaviors that the narcissist responded negatively to?
@kimberlylamantia7794
11 ай бұрын
They have a nuclear meltdown while secretly plotting their revenge. Sad, but true.
@margaretmcrae5642
10 ай бұрын
Like a coward
@lolxd9396
11 ай бұрын
Sounds like my dysfunctional parents and siblings, who are in denial to this day. And then my ex spouse was the same. But then I wonder why I end up around narcissistic people. Surely, I was naive and stupid then to let these people abuse me emotionally, psychological and physically. Not anymore, now I have cut all communication with them and am feeling much peace!
@s_r1705
11 ай бұрын
There is nothing you can do about your parents. You never had a choice there. 🙄🙄🙄😔😔
@delaynejacobstribeporter4245
11 ай бұрын
This is my x, the most exhausting 13 yrs of marriage of my life, after much depletion of my own self and many years later, I finally got enough courage to let go and the courage to go no contact!!!!
@vaska1999
10 ай бұрын
Good for you!
@garulusglandarius6126
11 ай бұрын
You are so right Danish, I have a narcissistic next door neighbour and his behaviour is beyond comprehension and my ex wife absolutely used our children as a weapon! Thank you for you and your channel and the comfort you give in knowing that we’re not the only ones suffering these monsters . Your advice is highly valued and comforting 👍
@jeanniek1498
11 ай бұрын
I'm having Major issues with a Narcissistic Neighbor also. Litigation needs to happen, I've contacted an attorney
@bonnielee316
11 ай бұрын
Probably because it can turn into real nightmares quick so no one wants to take responsibility for the unknowable outcomes that could happen. It’s best that each individual act according to their own certain special circumstances. That’s what I think. Because you’re stuck next door. Because they could vandalize your property or worse because it could escalate into murder. Just saying. It’s a particular sticky situation when it comes to neighbors for some reason.
@bronwynsimons7028
11 ай бұрын
Yup. I can sure Attest to that! When I used to react violently to his abuse (i don't do that anymore, now that i know what im dealing with) He would remind me in a very condescending, demeaning way, very calmly " don't you dare mess in my face, it's gona leave scars"
@bonnielee316
11 ай бұрын
@obscurum6, You’ve got my comment mixed up with, bronwynsimons7028. I have watched some of those episodes of, “ nightmare neighbor “ and a lot of the time, the police can’t do nothing it’s disheartening. Perhaps the laws have changed since then. I don’t know.
@beautyinthedark7406
11 ай бұрын
All of this 🎯💯💯. I’m so glad I woke up from the delusional toxic entanglement. Narc spouse isn’t suitable for a tree truck. Just str8 🗑️ him and all his friends and family who continue to enable the BS.
@norcal1009
11 ай бұрын
Now that's right on the mark! It's better to begin to heal from trauma rather than suffer and constantly be triggered by the narcissist and their pathetic enablers.
@Ay-B
11 ай бұрын
Rules for thee, but not for me!!! Part of the narcissist's code. That's how it was with my mother growing up. It's very hard dealing with her.
@warriormom5843
11 ай бұрын
They are the epitome of arrested development, without any of the humor that the TV show of the same name put forth. Actually, a psychological suspense HORROR story. Thank you, Danish, you nailed it again. Awesome video!! 👍👍👍👍👍
@norcal1009
11 ай бұрын
I TOTALLY 💯 agree. Besides the darkest narcissists in my life, horror films capture their demeanor quite well.
@direstraights
11 ай бұрын
Now I'm thinking of the Movie 'Girl Interrupted' with Angelina Jolie +think she was a Narc) ya!
@CoachK10190
11 ай бұрын
Absolutely
@glendaruiz2477
11 ай бұрын
My narcissistic mother does all those things, I remember she would come to my apt. and tell me what to do like to change the channel that I was watching so she can watch what she likes, she would break other people's stuff intentionally, she stole so many things from me when I wasn't home or at the hospital admitted, she always screaming and seeking attention, pretends she's on the cellphone talking to someone, she thinks my oldest daughter is her daughter and my grandchildren are hers, narcissists take everything from you, you are not allowed to have anything they think they are entitled to steal your entire life, I no longer tolerate this treatment from anyone, I speak up, and cut people out of my life who are narcissists and toxic. All my life I had to deal with my narcissistic mother's abuse, I'm done, no contact is necessary for your well being and healing. I wish narcissistic people would dissapear forever!!
@dinahtabbah1990
11 ай бұрын
When I become a target for my narcissist family members’ righteous rage, a coping mechanism that I find useful is to shift into neutral emotionally and physically. I don’t defend or explain or emote…it’s pointless because narcissists are unable and unwilling to deescalate. My emotional and physical safety are of paramount importance, so keeping interactions at surface level help keep the demons at bay. Thank you for providing a safe space for survivors to learn and connect.
@direstraights
11 ай бұрын
I've had a Covert Narc tell me; "It's easier to blame others"!!!😮😮😮😮
@karinandersen8261
11 ай бұрын
"You could just breathe differently " ~ spot on
@Eyeknowbetternow
11 ай бұрын
Everything Danish said . Was how my life was. And if they drink or use drugs. They claim they don’t remember what they did or said . Besides blaming you . They blame the alcohol 😄 .
@vanyabecerra6430
11 ай бұрын
The narcissist I’m married to blamed God for his sins…shocking !! I can’t wait for the day I can finally leave the asshole, meantime I’m working on my inner being so I never have to go through this kind of shit💩🤮
@expressiveexpanse
11 ай бұрын
Or they blame you. My drug abusing ex boyfriend blamed me for using meth after the relationship ended. I was also the reason everything in the relationship went wrong. He could and still does not understand what he did wrong.
@leahwilliams3618
10 ай бұрын
In my first marriage, I never expressed any emotion or boundary to my husband. It was an unspoken rule that I was there for him and his needs only. He was jealous if I showed attention to the kids while he was home. He would start arguments right by himself, even if I said nothing. He demanded perfection. He wouldn't spend any money on me. I would have to ask and ask for basic needs, food, personal hygiene. When I left him he did everything he could to destroy me. I told the lawyers what he was going to do because he had been threatening me for years. They didn't listen and he got away with it.
@shehwarkazi1128
11 ай бұрын
I am speechless! How accurate your evaluation of a narcissistic behavior is
@lorrainebeauregard2210
11 ай бұрын
I wonder if a narcissist watched this video, would they know they’re the one being talked about?
@user-q992
6 ай бұрын
No, they would immediately say it is about you. Especially if you are their spouse.
@bronwynsimons7028
11 ай бұрын
So very very true
@hestercastlemansa2976
11 ай бұрын
Oh yes, exactly as you describe them! I am getting out of a 7 year relationship with one now. Packing to leave on Wednesday. The first 2 years we dated and things were wonderful. I could not find any fault. Then we moved in together and everything changed. The moment he had me (we moved away, changed jobs etc) he started showing his true colours. I was stuck. I tried different strategies to make life with him bearable but none would last. I think he found a new 'source of interest' and therefore he is letting me go. Hallelujah!
@janicemathur5861
10 ай бұрын
This happens everyday. I can’t even ask a question and I’m shouted at so badly.
@sindhugireesan5515
11 ай бұрын
In my life there is no opportunity to speak,only hear,i call some friends or relative and speak to them,and now i feelgood after hearing these videos,it soothes
@earacloud1878
11 ай бұрын
My mom has all of these traits. It's scary to think how messed up she made me
@earthrooster1969
11 ай бұрын
Ufff .. My Mom who i avoided from childhood is now driving every one in my family nuts ..they are her enablers, flying monkeys.. At first i was really upset at her failing health, but now the madness has gone on for si long that everyone is losing patience. While i, the scapegoat child tries to find solutions for her from far away, its getting more apparent that she has become the biggest victim of her own web. In the beginning she started enjoying the attention she was getting due to her failing health, but now her failing health is not letting her get any better... And the caregivers are losing their patience and concern... I feel bad for her but cannot get inside her head and turn off her need for narcissistic supply at the cost of her own sense of well-being
@shellyfoust6812
11 ай бұрын
So so true Danish. They want you to agree to them treating you bad. When I was a child and I will got childhood diseases like the measles or other ailments children get. I rarely got sick. But when I did get sick my mother got furious for me getting sick. I was actually scared to get sick.
@redpillbox1882
9 ай бұрын
same
@HT-sg9pl
11 ай бұрын
Once again you are on point ! Everything you say is what I am experiencing 😅
@Bestisyet2Be
11 ай бұрын
Hi Danish, that’s all in one nutshell the current phase of the narcissistic father of my two children-Divorce has taken a year and I am not yet with 2nd part of mediation done-No assets, no house, nothing to distribute and yet it’s taken this long, and all he is wanting it to have the children with him so he don’t pay child support and keep on using the children as weapon against me. So yes, it’s a living hell, but gets what, I rather know that soon I will be out of hell rather than living the rest of my life attached to such an evil spirit as a Narcissist. Thank you Danish your videos really help me bring so much clarity after living such a traumatic experience with someone who truly doesn’t deserve the better life I am about to become.
@hibbertsh
11 ай бұрын
Thanks Danish. You put so much humour into how you describe the narcissist behavior. It makes it so much easier to digest. Thank you. 12:08
@marymackenzie8916
10 ай бұрын
my son's exactly as you say. best icsn do is shutup and walk away.
@kokoBuSiLiCa
11 ай бұрын
First of all thank you for the content you make, your way of delivering explanations is amazing. Secondly, I'd like to be 100% honest and say that you are the ONLY Indian guy that I've ever listened to repeatedly.
@michealsilvey1124
11 ай бұрын
Thank you. You are 100% on target.
@italianlover2007
11 ай бұрын
That is SO true, they are the biggest hypocrites and you’re right totally throw tantrums like a child!
@marinelalarsen3736
11 ай бұрын
Soooo true. Every word. When he was yelling angrily at me, I was calm because I read everything I could about narcissm and knew exactly why he is yelling. Knowledge is huge power. Tantrums..... exactly like a 2 years old child. In my case, he took me to a small restaurant in the morning and wanted to order breakfast. I said that I'm not hungry at all and I will take one cappuccino and sit with him, make him a company while he is eating breakfast. For normal person, that's totally OK, I am still there with him, enjoying my cappuccino...... BUT his reaction was...... EXPLOSION, he yelled : "OK!!!! Then we will not eat at all!!!!" and started to walk fast and his face was like I killed his mother. I asked later: "Is my cappuccino a problem? I didn't say: You go ahead and have a breakfast alone, I am going to the beach" But he didn't answer, didn't even look at me, angry as angry bird.... Because I didn't do what he wanted. Amazing.
@sophiareijne9873
11 ай бұрын
It's exactly how you tell it. They can't bear not even an expression of emotion from a friend, family member or collegue, as a consequence of their own behaviour. They react always as if they are attacked. Than they start a fight, behave as a victim or go in Silent treatment. When that happens, I mention, without emotion in an e-mail to them, what yust happened. They dont react on that. And after some time they yust go on in the contact as if nothing happened. I than feel for first powerless and than say to myself, that they are mad, and not worthy to give more of my energy. Try to desengage with them and to stay out of the pain. So I can go on with my own Life. In some cases that is almost impossible. For example when I and my siblings had to organize everything after the dead of my parents. Thank you Danish for putting everything on a row and explaining it all so well. I feel less alone and Understood and Supported in feeling an seeing how this all works. ❤️🙏🌈
@gretenaaden7613
11 ай бұрын
To be with under a narcs influence, is to be a prisoner. It can be very dangerous to choose to stand up: what will it cost you/me to leave, what will it cost to stay!!! After leaving, you ( or me) can never say, or deal memories without feeling unsafe... I am so scared for my life, feeling I'm living with all my scares inside me....not be free, only having a look around all the time..
@norcal1009
11 ай бұрын
It is very scary indeed not knowing what the narcissist is going to do next. 'Walking on eggshells' is a prisoner's life, and escaping seems worse when they are already punishing you. In hindsight, the better outcome may be getting OUT sooner or as soon as you can. Once you have a safety net in place for yourself, it may not be as hard as it seems right now. If possible, I hope you can find your way to safety and security soon to be around people who love and support you.❤️🩹💞
@sandradsouza3272
11 ай бұрын
Hi...I don't know U..bt I Jus Wanna tell U to be Bold & Fearless Knowing that God is Always With U & Will Always Protect U & Will Never Ever Leave U. Be Strong & Trust God He Will Fight for U. Don't Let Fear Control U..ok..tkcr & God Bless...❤
@joseenoel8093
11 ай бұрын
#1, being a selfish narcissist is detrimental to anyone and they choose to do so!
@elkebanhart7045
11 ай бұрын
That's it 👍
@emanuelmakonnen72
11 ай бұрын
Very helpful brother. Thank you for your explanation!!!!
@cefcat5733
11 ай бұрын
During the break-up, the Narcissist told me that they had slept with my best friend. My reply was, 'hey, you have good taste.' My best friend found that shocking and hilarious. I used to think that love created monsters, but they were monsters before I met them. No religion, upbringing and schooling prepares you for that. When they tell you their stories about exes.... just know that you will have a chance to be one too, with some new sad stories. They have no special loyalty. The dog which should protect you, will one day turn on you and you will see that you were nothing special, in their life, although you provided everything a person needs to succeed and be healthy. This is a great video to explain all of the chaos, inside of a Narcissist. They can even fake that they have a heart. Pretty good acting eh?
@cefcat5733
11 ай бұрын
@@user-el8nz4yu4t if dogs aren't raised right, then things can go wrong. Some have hunting or killing instincts which are stronger than the power of their owner. Some bite if you go close to their food dish or toy. Some attack other dogs and cats. Some chew through your belongings. Some owners get pulled around by them. If the owner is not confident, the dog becomes the boss. Some dogs run away. You might not be able to live, with the dog you chose. They stay to be fed and sheltered. Not every animal is loyal, especially if you haven't had it since it was a puppy. I've even been made fun of, by a Narc, who said to me, 'you let every big dog jump up on you.' I assumed that the Narc was talking about our relationship. They hint around, obviously to test their power, by devulging truths,which should really be kept secret. This Narc was for sure, the big dog. Biting dogs, will also not protect, but bite their owners and break the trust. Dogs might not do it with joy, but a Narcissist does.
@nicolehayes6020
11 ай бұрын
I’m still in the situation w my narc mother and I’m doing limited contact as much as possible and trying to remain emotionally detached from any situation w her until I get the heck out n make my escape from pure evil. Everything u said is so on point, I did laugh at the one thing u said about throwing tantrums like a toddler lol my god, I remember a few years back, she literally was in the laundry room jumping up and down screaming cuz she didn’t get what she wanted at that exact moment 😂 so I to everyone out there remember ur dealing with a child like entitled something….idk how I can say it but hang in there ❤❤❤
@lsubesteva
10 ай бұрын
I believe most murders that involve men and women in relationships have to do with narcissistic personality disorders! Just my opinion. Dealing with this type of person is infuriating and very frustrating! How can it not be? Dealing with a person that’s not fair and never considers your feelings?
@catherinem4130
11 ай бұрын
Oh my goodness, Danish, ...... this is so helpful..... I cannot expound on my story too much, but I appreciate all you shared. I have gained great understanding from listening to you. I am amazed at your deliverance and ability to share your story and to give advice. Be FOREVER blessed.
@eleanorpitt8190
11 ай бұрын
OMG 😳 A CHILD IN AN ADULT BODY
@lindseytersch4433
11 ай бұрын
Thanks for your videos there spot on. The father of my kids is a narcissist and has ruined my life, he got my kids taken and put in his custody and lied to the judge. Now for 6 years he has had me doing whatever he wants so I can see my kids, he runs my life everyday, and now my kids are older n see what's going on and my son is starting to act like him. I pray things can somehow get better soon
@akhilaraj10c35
11 ай бұрын
sooo accurate
@savitaanchan1120
11 ай бұрын
Me ..I experienced n understood all that u said..still going through..want to escape as soon as possible permanently but very difficult task..mainly if they have stalking behaviour. they won't leave us to live anywhere..😢
@johnmoon4743
11 ай бұрын
My partner had an episode and smashed the clock from down the hallway. She invited me over later that day, the clock was in the bedroom smashed in the corner, I tidied it up and carried on with our day. Later that night I lay down on the floor for a massage and started finding large dagger sized shards hidden under the bed, then all around the room. This is the person that I wanted to marry. So scary because my brother was murdered in a similar way
@christinestewart9734
11 ай бұрын
Gaslighting is intense when they see you are self aware. Just because I put washing out on the line, because it was a beautiful day. My narc husband threw in his opinion of tomorrow weather, oh I Heard it may rain tomorrow. (Me) just ignored him, his trying to get a reaction from tomorrows weather was insignificant to the moment of today. Another warning tactic , they distract you to a reaction abuse. I stayed silent 😶
@ddeuce1847
11 ай бұрын
I thought for sure he had met my narc! Here was a fun experience just the other day. Went to a restaurant the other day, and there was a little disagreement about the order of food that was brought out. When she realized she wasn't getting her way, she went to her favorite tactic of assassinating the manager's character. Something to the effect of what backwoods country are you from where they don't have the class and etiquette to give me what I want? Of course nothing quite that overt, you know leaving plenty of room for plausible deniability in the gas lighting that's sure to follow. This girl got the message right away, wasn't having any of that, and laid into her for all she was worth. The conflict was escalating and causing a scene and the other patrons were clearly appalled at her for attacking the manager's character for her country of origin. She got told off like no one's business and the manager walked off. That wasn't the end of it. The owner came out, heard her out, and ultimately told us both we were being asked to leave in no uncertain terms while all around watched the drama play out. Yes, a truly humiliating experience, however it was very enlightening to see her in action and watch from a third party point of view. It truly validated all the complaints I've been making. Afterwards, I tried to gently suggest that yes dear, you really did criticize her, insult her, and you really did come across as snobbish, haughty, and rude. I pointed out how embarrassing it was for me. How far do you think I got along that line? Another enlightening experience. Should have seen her reaction as she exploded on me. I've never seen anyone kicked out of a restaurant. You might expect some hint of self reflection? No, not happening, however her reaction of injury and panic at being confronted and outed about her horrendously horrible behavior was quite revealing to watch play out. It's not worth it. She's having more and more trouble functioning. We've lost two sets of friends. She's ruining her relationship with her narcissistic daughter. Our relationship is escalating in hostility, and we're having difficulty even going out in public. Of course it needs to end, but it's been a very educating experience. It's a bad car wreck playing out in slow motion, but it's like I have to watch. It's strangely entertaining.
@stopsendingmeemail
11 ай бұрын
Stay strong dude, good luck getting away cleanly. If you have any weapons in the home you may want to make them disappear or be less harmful, and do it before you're in more physical danger.
@carolyncanady8268
11 ай бұрын
I did get all of the anger. When he started to come to me I would ask him not get in my face he looked like a demon
@gretchenhejazi9463
5 ай бұрын
They never truly listen. They take whatever you say and twist it to suit their thinking, including lying.
@arunajovinbenitha3793
11 ай бұрын
On the positive note, we can learn how to connect with our soul more after we go no contact with them. We realise our own value more than ever before. This may be difficult when the narc is a spouse or parent. But with narcs in other relationships, they make us realise our own self worth more than all other people on the planet put together because, they devalue us so much that we hit rock bottom and wake up to our true self by watching videos like this and improving our knowledge about how they suck our soul because it's so very precious.
@tamihunt3659
11 ай бұрын
The narcissist in my life was the crazy black sheep im HIS family. Now i know where this personality. Came from. Would not want to be him on judgment day.
@norcal1009
11 ай бұрын
Right! And they'll make you a black sheep or certainly punish you ritualistically until you sheepishly do what they say. The meanest people ever!
@lynseylewis2493
11 ай бұрын
I remember when i was about 6 and my family were having a little bonfire at the beach..my brother pushed me and i stood on hot coal ..my mother blamed me ..and shouted at me all night for having to take me back to the caravan because my foot was burnt.
@eleanorpitt8190
11 ай бұрын
YESSSS THEY ARE HYPOCRITES FOR SURE
@johedges5946
11 ай бұрын
The man I loved would constantly criticize my hair. He would even pull me over , grab a comb and rearrange it before we left the house together. One day, totally out of character for me, I retaliated! He was bald but very attractive I asked him how he would feel if I teased his baldness. He was furious!! I wished Id kept my mouth shut!
@mariacortez7076
10 ай бұрын
I spoke with a very calm voice. I didn't react. She went crazier! There was never a way to deal with her.
@jamessowder193
11 ай бұрын
My ex fiance was a narcissist to the extreme. Always have to have that control. If they can't control you, they try to hurt you. She was a cosigner on my car. Well I thought she was. This was my dream car as well. When I went out to smoke before we started the paperwork, they went ahead and started. I'm signing paperwork thinking it's a cosign. I eventually found out that she was the primary co-owner. Couldn't handle the person I found out she was, and I broke off the engagement. Went back to my mom's until I found a place. I go to work, a normal day. I get back from my jobs to the shop. My fucking car is gone! She had it stolen from my job! That way I had to go to her to find my car. Well I didn't get back for a month until I got the loan in just my name! In the meantime who do you think had to take me and pick me up from work? Because if I ever worked too late I was fucking somebody 🙄. A narcissist will do the most underhanded shit to get you back around them. If they think they're losing their false sense of control of you watch out! It's hard to shake them off and completely separate from them too. Legal action may be needed! Beware of a narcissist!
@norcal1009
11 ай бұрын
Narcissists really are as you described. Their only source of creativity is figuring out how many ways to burn you. It is all one big lie. Thankfully, I keep my distance from the narcissists I know (now that I know). 👊
@bonnielee316
11 ай бұрын
Danish, another excellent video! 💯 % spot on!
@smorgasbroad1132
9 ай бұрын
Very helpful. And a big YEP to all five. One crazy thing I noticed is the over-the-top "do-gooder" acts, done of course in an attempt to make the rest of us seem cold and uncaring. In my case the narcissist made a special point of visiting the burial places of long dead relatives, for every special holiday. Also making a regular habit of visiting people or relatives in nursing homes who were mostly estranged or just not that close, and now are in deep cognitive decline. This was deliberate performance art to show us what a kind, warm and/or concerned person they are to the world, meanwhile passing snarky judgement on the rest of us for not participating in such activities. I got the biggest laugh the day I realized the only reason this person talks to the graves or visits the feebleminded is that they will never be contradicted by either. Talk about a need for absolute control over a situation. ☺️☺️☺️
@karlahall5614
11 ай бұрын
I was heart broken and my nephew was joking laughing about it, and I got upset and my mom says " Karla everyone laughs at you " might be why I married one for 28 years. Till one day I borrowed out daughters car and run away. I was on the streets for 7 years. I've now been in housing for almost a year.
@Crybaby285
11 ай бұрын
Yes yes!!!! My grandson the rage he has towards me and his mother. I have even been scared of him. I try not to let him know it but I am. My daughter has had to call the police on him twice. Every time we try to address it he immediately starts cussing us so bad and bringing up something we have done in the past. Like 5 years ago. He never forgets anything. I love him to death. But boy I don’t like his ways. We have just 1week ago both decided to cut him off. No more money, no petting him or giving in to him. We are through. We honestly don’t know what else to do.
@stephaniegeorge6444
10 ай бұрын
If I didn't take my mother's "advice" I would be in trouble. It was not advice, it was an order.
@direstraights
11 ай бұрын
Yes, and I see this in total strangers it's so evident...they aren't aware. Anger is healthy and can also protect us but, wow wee wow wow don't get angry at the NARC ...just leave them asasp if you're in a relationship get outta of there, if married take a bit longer as they'll be very selfish in not wanting you to leave even abusive be yee careful. Peace of The Good Lord Be with you all. Amen
@michealsilvey1124
11 ай бұрын
Yes... right off the bat #1 and #2.... wow!!! Haven't even hot to #3
@vaijayantigulve4883
10 ай бұрын
Yes. He used to do it. I have been through. But I fought and argued every time he tried to do something nasty. I told him just put yourself in my shoes...and now he is not violet. But a narc is a narc for ever. They don't change much...
@odreydowdy1547
4 ай бұрын
I've been through this, you can't talk to them. They don't here you. They think there entitled.
@EvaCFricke
5 ай бұрын
Basically, they're never wrong and you cant tell them they're wrong. So you endure hurts caused by them silently. And eventually you become emotionally crippled.
@ladyvee95
11 ай бұрын
I caught on slowly to his narcissist ways but in the middle of us dating after lovebombing me .....he ghosted ..So I waited for a time and confronted him in a public place ....I was very calm but he absolutely collapsed and had a tantrum....I quietly left and never looked back ...as I walked away I noticed after his tantrum he was speechless......and glowing with anger ... ..smh .....
@clintonnagy1662
4 ай бұрын
I did the same 2 weeks ago, but I wasn't nice about it. She lost her mind, screaming and yelling, threatening to get security and call the police. I had to let her know she was exposed for being on a date with another guy. I wasn't gonna go quietly. I went to her house to wait for her to get home but she never did. I guess she stayed with her new supply overnight?? Imagine that?
@stephaniegeorge6444
10 ай бұрын
The tantrums were horrible. After leaving bruises i finally called the cops to leave my home of origin. My mother told me she would tell them i was on drugs.
@lisamariesmith3610
11 ай бұрын
Any reason to fly off the handle and then punish you for any reason they can invent. How do you deal you asked? Make a plan and get out asap before you totally lose your mind.
@clintonnagy1662
4 ай бұрын
No doubt, I totally lost my damn mind. I want it back and can't find it. I think she sex-bombed me so hard she screwed it out of me??? I miss that part but still would be nice to have it back.
@tricialynn8279
10 ай бұрын
Danish as always nails it. I am an unfortunate survivor of this abuse by birth family..I was SCAPE GOAT AKA BLACK SHHEP. Danish makes me feel whole again with this truth 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏God bless you Danish
@stephaniegeorge6444
10 ай бұрын
I used to aquiess/fawn to make the abuse stop until I could finally get away.
@chihuahuadreams1024
8 ай бұрын
My covert narc mother throws tantrums like a toddler. Before I went no contact I had brought my adult son over to her house to show them his work in animation. She refused to acknowledge him and went to the basement to hide. My enabling father chased after her, begging her to come back and look at his work. That day I knew I would never come around them again. Hurting me was my normal but when she refused to say hello to her own grandson, I knew I was done with her toxic self.
@filatnatalia7272
11 ай бұрын
Thanks a lot. I was in all this situations, he even didn't recognize that he behave in such bad way. Only on thing help me ,i take my kid and run from him. We are in differently countries. And he is playing the victim and call me lier, crazy,etc.He all ready told to a lot of peoples wich i know. Before this step, i registered him. Pictures, audios. He don't want yet to gave me divorces and he is trying to manipulate with the kid but not working to much. If i have some new information i tell you.
@annettglass7290
6 ай бұрын
His behavior was like dealing with a very naughty toddler and yet he would act like this was normal. Yet, he could turn it on and off when he needed to. His behavior got worse after he just used me for his own needs and after our children were raised and of course he was doing his own thing and complained about how hard he was working for us and how lucky we are. He didn't take the role of being a dad and a husband seriously.
@heidiewing6566
11 ай бұрын
They ( He in my case) are just the freaking scariest. If he had just touched me once... I could have called for help... That would have been easier ✂
@kimberlylamantia7794
11 ай бұрын
My husband beat me to the point where I felt like I was losing consciousness. He chased me outside and refused to let me in the vehicle. I was going to the hospital to make sure I didn't have a concussion. The neighbors called the police, who said we could both go to jail as I had left defensive marks on him when I tried to get away. I'm sorry to say they were no help....
@raidenewalden4354
Ай бұрын
He likes spiders , keeping spiders inside the house , outside the houses , once you destroy their cobwebs or spiders , he will go mad with you and he rage for anger.
@IMrHumbleWays
11 ай бұрын
Yep I was exposing my narc ex to a boy she was cheating on me with. She flipped into a narcissist rage kicking my car and threw a drink in my face and got me into fights. her monkeys are after me and am just here thinking why I believe it’s the devil now and I got this
@clintonnagy1662
4 ай бұрын
I did the same 2 weeks ago. Now I'm a bigger enemy then her EX because I confronted her at her favorite band Concert around her friends. She gave me the look of contempt, and I could see the devil behind those eyes, but GOD was on my side for exposing her. I thought she was the sweetest woman I ever dated. I was wrong.She is garbage.
@Xianne027
2 ай бұрын
Yes exactly, Danish. My sister goes madly bezirk if anyone notices that she has noted any kind of information wrong, something so trivial as the opening hours of a shop. Back in the day before GPS she was once driving during a trip and went so ballistic when I mentioned that she missed the exit from the highway. This happened often and I really feared she might kill me. Totally insane!! I cut off all contact with her years ago, as the communication with her does not function at all in a healthy, reasonable way. But I'm still not sure about the theory that narcissism is caused by upbringing, because our mother never shamed us for errors, mistakes or wrong information. I'm really starting to believe the theory that it might possibly be caused by head injuries.
@bradlloyd6261
11 ай бұрын
Thank you Danish! 😊🎉Great work to help the world sir!
@stupidusedrnames
6 ай бұрын
Thank you for your videos. They are EXTREMELY HELPFUL.
@addapavan5200
11 ай бұрын
5 Insane things 1) Anger
@marka.8535
11 ай бұрын
My ex wife screamed and threw temper tantrums because I didn’t take her with me to get my haircut; she wanted to coach the barber. I was clothes shopping without her and she wanted me to send her pictures of the clothes before I bought them. I told her no and she exploded. It’s so much better to be divorced than to be married to this entity who probably sold her soul for some temporary earthly power.
@eileenreid5348
11 ай бұрын
I once told him “You contradict everything I say…” and he said “ No, I don’t”…I actually laughed….
@clintonnagy1662
4 ай бұрын
So, my ex is OCD with germ issues. She can be around 500-600 people when she wants to see her local concert, but can't be around 20 people in a club to see my favorite band. Hypocritical. One sided love affair.
@yasminkhan923
10 ай бұрын
I have experienced this when I was young so left home. My family are all narcissists but I only recoginised it through my mother when I was young. I left home and avoided her and kept her behaviour a secret. The only problem is when I did declare it, the entire family attacked me as beign disloyal. Fortunately, I have worked with therapists and my husband is great so I can deal with them and I live on another continent. The pressure by them is still difficult only because I feel guilt and sadness for them. Its is on my mind all the time but I wake up every day and thank god that I recognised it and did what I had to do to save myself at a young age. Walking away took bravery and it has done me well in my career because I do the same to all narcissists even my boss. I would rather work at McDonalds than let anyone treat me the way my mother did.
@vaijayantigulve4883
10 ай бұрын
Your videos are very helpful. Thank you for showing the way. And giving clarity... 🙏🙏
@flowersofthefield340
10 ай бұрын
Everything is always off about them ......... but they cant see that
@rosyrose9827
10 ай бұрын
Gosh, the start of your statement, I just agreed immediately with a sigh 🤦 Everything you said, I keep on saying yes. Anybody who's not in this kind of relationship can never relate. I am truly looking for a support group because every now & then I'm second guessing my humanity. Please help me.
@sistergoldenhair1809
11 ай бұрын
And they’ll do anything, ANYTHING, to avoid accountability. Anything.
@SandipKumar-og6xm
11 ай бұрын
I did the same thing that the Narcissist did with me and destroyed him completely and left him completely and made him alone forever
@eleanorpitt8190
11 ай бұрын
YESSSS they are a Toxic Mess !!!!!!
@brianmccann8572
11 ай бұрын
It's true.Anything ( even casual chats, just to break the silent treatment) I try bringing over to the NARC, is being taken personal and thrown back my in face.
@DaddysGirl949
11 ай бұрын
You are 💯 correct! I’ve personally experienced all of the above.
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