What situations have forced you finally stay: this is it...you messed with the wrong one?!
@jazzychazzy007
Жыл бұрын
You're right. I am discreet, tactful, and charming, but sometimes, in fact it's very rare, the flame thrower comes out! It's burn, leave no prisoner behind, and move on.
@jazzychazzy007
Жыл бұрын
@@Subliminalsapper Yup!!
@Star-333
Жыл бұрын
When you’ve given someone so many chances and then when you finally confront them telling them how you feel hoping and expecting them to take responsibility for their actions and instead they gaslight you in a major way. Someone who has been gaslit by many people in the past is not going to tolerate it when they realize someone is doing it to them AGAIN. Don’t respect the INFJ? Well, the INFJ respects themselves enough at a certain point to say 👋 BYE
@jerrimenard3092
Жыл бұрын
I am very big into social justice. As a queer/Nonbinary person of mixed heritage, I do not want people using rude language or deadnaming people Infront of me. If I hear racist jokes or observe a disabled person being picked on, I loose it. Also, if I see someone hit a kid, a pet or an elderly person, I want to flatten them.
@R.S-1986
Жыл бұрын
Overtime you learn there's no need to. Given enough rope people will hang themselvs/karma/boomerang, get their energy back, you can call it how you want 😅
@jnl3564
Жыл бұрын
Why does it feel like I'm fighting dirty when I act this way, but when other people do I have empathy. It makes no sense.
@Paris-gl1pm
7 ай бұрын
Same 😅
@BloomingMeadowsCo.
6 ай бұрын
100%
@Justice-tk3dr
Ай бұрын
Guilt.. it sucks sometimes!!
@staciehaneline9533
Жыл бұрын
I recently stopped going above and beyond for the people who don't deserve it.
@queenbeestings
Жыл бұрын
Sarcasm and Dark Humor are a defence mechanism for me. Those comebacks come very naturally to me
@jazzychazzy007
Жыл бұрын
Caan do that too!😀
@littlet-rex8839
Жыл бұрын
I have a catalog of neat little stories and jokes for all occasions 😂
@raft115
Жыл бұрын
Are you an infj
@jazzychazzy007
Жыл бұрын
@@raft115 If I weren't an INFJ, I wouldn't waste my time here.
@raft115
Жыл бұрын
@Swatisingh-vu4vv healthy infjs do not use sarcasm and dark humor
@Candyliz2003
Жыл бұрын
Door-slam on a narcissist is AMAZING! Absolutely no guilt or bad/sad feelings!😊
@raft115
Жыл бұрын
The younger infjs suffer a lot
@amandapanda3
Жыл бұрын
Absolutely!
@yuu_miran
Жыл бұрын
Im 37 yrs old and the suffering doesnt seem to go away
@raft115
Жыл бұрын
Be patient and it is easier than before now , do carefully what wenzes is saying
@raft115
Жыл бұрын
Keep a good time table and avoid bad habits
@yuu_miran
Жыл бұрын
@@raft115 its not that easy... there are always something in the way
@AM08888
Жыл бұрын
That “monster” is something I’ve experienced several times. It’s the shock on the person’s face and their stunned response that clues me in and I’m shocked too because I don’t know where the voice and words came from. I had this experience in a hostile and contentious legal situation and not only did it shut the lawyers up, but they totally backed off.
@staciehaneline9533
Жыл бұрын
I was dimming my light for pretty much everyone. I'm done with that. Now I could have minions, but I don't want them. I want friends who are my equals. I have a few real friends now. Thank you, Wentzes 😊
@spiralweaver7740
7 ай бұрын
Haha minions
@numerologicatarot3333
Жыл бұрын
I’m a Master at playing dumb and out-insulting a person who is trying to push my buttons. It drives ppl crazy and I love seeing the confused faces because it’s clear that they think they can play with me.
@ahm4040
Жыл бұрын
I enjoy playing dumb with some people but the best thing I like doing is ignoring them and not giving any reaction and letting them think if they're ignored or getting mocked or I'm scared I just like torturing them with guessing. Door slamming is my forte just ask me about it 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
@Paris-gl1pm
7 ай бұрын
😂😂😂
@Haphappy298
9 ай бұрын
I drive bullies crazy with my flat affect. I don’t flinch. But this tends to make the bully go even further and become more and more hurtful. My top bullies were a 7th grade teacher, my husband’s grandfather, and my last supervisor. They ALL got the door slam after the confrontation finally went down. I left them in the dust and in shock. I give many chances for people to make better choices about how they treat me. Bullies and INFJs often go hand in hand, until the kid gloves come off. Our strength is in our outward appearance of calm indifference and our ability to sit back and absorb information coming at us with patience, knowing within that we have the bully’s number already. It is a skill of self-preservation.
@Justice-tk3dr
Ай бұрын
I'm so sorry.. I can relate. I had many bullies but the two that really stand out were my chemistry teacher and a girl in 7th grade that would hunt me down just to push me. One day in gym class, she pushed me out the back door and I was outside alone with her and three of her friends. She started taunting and pushing me and that must have been the final straw because I ended up on top of her punching her in the face. Needless to say, I was the one who got in trouble. Now that i think about it, I was in a lot of fights as a teenager... all were after I was pushed past me limit. Is this a normal experience?
@Justice-tk3dr
Ай бұрын
I forgot to say, she never bothered me again....😁😁💪
@sisijames
Жыл бұрын
INFJ motto is “F around if you want! “ Then we unleash the wrath. 😂
@raven4090
Жыл бұрын
It wasn't really an anger thing. It was a pain thing: I'm autistic, and I had a major burn out at the time. The people I was closest to, and had always been supportive of, acted like it was no big deal. Autistic burnouts can be life threatening. Mine was. I realized that none of those people really cared about me, and dumped them all. I'm recovering now. Currently, I just have my animals. I'm sure I'll meet friends that are genuine in the future if I just keep following my heart. 💜 Life is good. I'll use my fancy china, and eat ice cream for supper now and then. 😊 Just because I can.
@merin5230
Жыл бұрын
Yes! Just because we can! 🖖🥲👊
@TeutaTheQueen
Жыл бұрын
We all need other neurodivergent people as friends. My friendships never lasted because I mostly knew neurotypicals...
@yuu_miran
Жыл бұрын
God bless you, my friend. kisses for you
@raven4090
Жыл бұрын
@@merin5230 😊👊🏻✌🏻
@raven4090
Жыл бұрын
@@TeutaTheQueen Yeah, it's good to have people we can relate to. I'm looking into finding a place to live where I can meet more of my kind. NT's are rather high maintenance. They'll think you hate them if you go a week without calling them up, when the truth is you just didn't have anything to talk about. Stuff like that is a challenge.
@jmonie02
10 ай бұрын
Narcissist will literally start a fucked up war with an Inj knowing they will lose.
@Stumpybear7640
2 ай бұрын
True, they can't resist it. Walk away, you don't need it.
@Justice-tk3dr
Ай бұрын
I never lose an intellectual debate. People are assuming and underestimate me because I'm not a braggart. But, I welcome the arrogant, I'm better than you, jab!! Inside I'm smiling as I realize I get to outsmart this person😁😁😁
@atinyarmy4407
Жыл бұрын
The door slam and dimming my light is something I’ve been doing without realizing it. I left behind a group of friends I had for yrs. They looked as me as the quiet one that didn’t stand out and assumed I would be lost without them since they were more outgoing. After I had enough I completely ghosted them. They would tell ppl I’m weird and that they didn’t know why I cut them off. It’s been a few yrs now and they still follow me on social media and see how I’m always traveling and going places with a variety of friends. Sometimes they ask me if I want to hang with them and I always reply with “my month is full because I have plans with 2 other friends”. Thankfully they’ve matured and view me differently now but even tho I’ve somewhat opened that door back, they’ll never get the same me and I only hang with them on rare occasions
@jofromoz
Жыл бұрын
Door slam is my favourite, my default. It takes the least energy and I tend not to dwell on the issues, just walk away. Thank you Wenzes, you have a unique insight. 😊
@lydiagrabner1571
Жыл бұрын
same for me. But recently someone I loved did it to me. This never happened to me before and I'm in shock honestly. It hurts so much. Still I'm glad that I can understand what he did there and the reasons why. Must be even harder if you can't understand what's going on ..
@alexfagnan7469
Жыл бұрын
I agrée.
@NeonDungeon
6 ай бұрын
I usually tell people in one way or another "I'm going to close the door on you" forever whatever reason, cos it's not working, cos you're caught up in yourself, cos this is draining me, cos I'm not getting enough in return for what I give to you, cos you're an idiot, and they don't understand when it happens cos they weren't listening. Which is usually the number one reason I door slam.
@irodirod4679
Жыл бұрын
Wenzes insights are so laser targeted and on point, she is one of a kind. Literally speaking ,there is no one in her category of coaching .Thank you!
@BassGodPantheon
Жыл бұрын
She’s definitely is a self actualized INFJ.
@vivianeprudentiabuelens9142
Жыл бұрын
You are good wenzel smile Love 2:11
@vivianeprudentiabuelens9142
Жыл бұрын
I appreciate her also ! smile 3:43
@JT-cf5ol
Жыл бұрын
Setting boundaries with sociopaths and narcissists is important but always best to record all interactions if you are not able to immediately walk away.
@illiterate_reader
Жыл бұрын
Play that card with an INFJ, and they'll bestow upon you the light of 1000 suns.
@koylejeune4332
Жыл бұрын
Make that a million suns
@DonTrump-sv1si
11 ай бұрын
All shining has taught me is i wont be liked and deep down i really want to be liked/loved.
@robinchina471
Жыл бұрын
I can take all kinds of personal attacks and sit silently. But if people messed with my loved ones, I go all out... I don't care. They got it coming. One of the most useful tactics is silently staring at someone RIGHT in the eyes. They can feel they are being judged and torn into... it shuts most people down real fast.
@sisijames
Жыл бұрын
They look so afraid! They shake deep in their bones. It’s chilling for them and then they know what they are up against. 😂
@user-fs6ou3fk9p
11 ай бұрын
That's exactly what I do.
@Justice-tk3dr
Ай бұрын
I defend my loved ones with a fury but, I'll also defend a stranger if they're being wronged in front of me. I can't comprehend how people can just walk past a crime without getting involved.
@jamjam0409
Жыл бұрын
When I reach the point of door slam I'm so fed up and think that I'm convinced now about the other person and it's easy to cut ties and move forward with my life.
@buddhagoddess1
Жыл бұрын
Lol. I use number 1 all the time! Also, Disdain is on point. I recently (2022) had so much disdain for a supervisor, who was a horrible human being, that I had to quit that job. I couldn't understand why so many people were ok with being treated badly by her. When this supervisor approached me and tried to engage, I wouldn't let her. I kept our conversations strictly superficial and work related. She didn't know what to do with that, so she left me alone for the most part. It was her behavior towards everyone else that was appalling. I once consoled a co-worker after a meeting who was left in tears after this supervisor insulted her in the meeting and she didn't even have the self awareness to know. After everyone on my team quit, I knew I had to get out. I knew that if I didn't quit, the monster would come out and I would be fired anyway.
@theinfjgoyim5508
Жыл бұрын
Damn I have had that exact experience too. May they rest in piss ;)
@buddhagoddess1
Жыл бұрын
@@theinfjgoyim5508 😅
@laraoneal7284
Жыл бұрын
When we are fed up! we show our rage with door slam. When we find out who u really are WE ARE DONE and never look back.
@LevelDroneRCX
Жыл бұрын
As you get older you won’t be getting aggravated by people playing games, they’ll be gone. But I tell you this the people that are incompetent are the worst, I have someone to buffer me thank God for her.
@jackiemasek8302
Жыл бұрын
How do you know me so well?! 😂 My favorite thing to say when someone isn’t playing nice is simple saying “interesting” as if I’m Spock looking at a new life form. Drives. People. Nuts! Takes them aback. Mwahaha.
@Snugos
Жыл бұрын
That is brilliant 😂
@R.S-1986
Жыл бұрын
Infj's don't hate, hold gruge or revenge people, we simply nothing them. If youre watching/hearing someone say something and it triggers you; Stop and try to understand why it does, is that an issue within you or the other person is simply toxic. People will project their problems on an infj. Once you heal yourself from self doubts, outside sources will be powerless over you. What we don't do: We don't insult on purpose. (It needs to be a very rare occasion). We don't invade peoples privacy. (We can recognize certain patterns). Only 15% of communication is verbal (oral) people tend to put most weight on that. 99% percent of people don't know their body is always saying the trueth, even if their mouth is saying otherwise. Any infj that will develop the other languages can increase their observing/reading skill 10x. Speaking about myself for a moment, as a kid I was intrigued by this and, 8 year old reading astrology books (no one told me back then it's mostly fairy tales). That didn't stop me tho.
@MetaTron3693
Жыл бұрын
⭐️For sure. Can so much relate. Over and over again I consciously make amends. Humans will come out with all kinds of stupid things about who they think I am and attempt to classify me as a bad person. I just clarify counsel through their mundane thought and behaviours. I just love them and it’s so disheartening when u form an relationship or you think you have cultivated a peaceful environment. When in fate they were never on board. Betrayal. Is this why they don’t trust you because I can see who they are? I dislike when they attack out of the blue. Unnecessarily. With a twisted perception accusations that are the opposite of the truth. The emotional backlash is intense and I’m working on this. I have to find a way to neutralize the emotions. Thanks for your Post. 😉 💜⭐️💜
@MetaTron3693
Жыл бұрын
Agree I don’t hate hold grudges or revenge…. Not for long anyway 😆lol. These emotions do pass through quickly once I reflect calmed myself. And come to the realization I have been hoodwinked once again. To get along with the Human that are necessary like in a duplex living situation. Seems to be a lost cause. At times I feel every turning moment I’m out on notice …. Don’t shine so bright. It’s the brightness that brings out human’s shadows. … egos. I want to slice it to pieces. I’ve done a lot of work on myself still stepping for that epic balance of life. Much gratitude and grace. ⭐️💜⭐️
@R.S-1986
Жыл бұрын
@MetaTron3693 knowledge is power, and you have the ability to think deeply. Not all people are willing or able to do so. If you encounter people who are generally toxic take a step back. Infj still can't fix stupid and trust me iv learned this the hard way like the rest 😉. Stay strong my friend 🤟👍💫
@raft115
Жыл бұрын
✨true
@1594simonsays
Жыл бұрын
@@MetaTron3693the biggest secret in life that you wont learn in school is people are evil, and this world is evil. watch your back. a world full of deceivers
@flamingomingo9810
11 ай бұрын
That first point is exactly why I get so nervous around infjs as an isfp. I’m autistic, so a lot of the things I say genuinely don’t come out the way I want them to and have COMPLETELY different reasonings behind what comes out than is perceived. I’m scared that one day there will be no amount of reasoning or perceptiveness that can detect the true intentions behind what I say, so then I’ll get the backlash from someone who really knows how to manipulate me and make me look bad, and all I’ll be able to do is try to get myself out of the situation but dig myself even deeper into the hole. Even me attempting to save myself by saying the truth still won’t come out right (due to having to unpeel all the layers of the truth, we’d be sitting here all day if I were to explain it each time it happens) and will be thought of as an excuse or a lie due to the complicated nature of the situation, and my lack of social ability. This stuff affects me a little too much obviously😅
@yopestevens1505
11 ай бұрын
I once was an extremely tolerant INFJ. I've used the "doorslam" method only after years of tolerating bad "friends", probably because it's so hard to make friends in the first place. Walked away after 24 years of "friendship" with a couple that I and my partner grew up with when it became too obvious they didn't care about us at all. Walked away from a 20 year relationship because of a "friend's" chronic lying. And walked away from my toxic cousin and her friends at the age of 14. Three big, quiet doorslams. Since those times I don't let anyone get even close to hurting me, there's no door to slam because it's already shut. And I'm happier for it.
@saracarlson-kringle
Жыл бұрын
Eww...I have people that don't 'get it' when I tell them to stop [firmly but kindly]. It comes to the point where I square off face to face and say, 'Look. I've told you nicely several times to stop this crap. You don't want to me to tell you again.' If there IS a next time, they complain that I'm scary and need therapy. I don't up my game 'a notch' - I up it times 10. [I'll give an example...] In high school I wore a dress one day [I never wore dresses back in the day], and a guy and his friend [a girl] that I knew fairly well [our families knew each other] were sitting across from me in the next row of desks. They decided it was funny to take their ink pens and reach over and quickly scribble on my leg while the biology teacher was lecturing. I told them to stop it. The room was full with no desk to move to, and the teacher was oblivious [in the throws of dispensing knowledge, I guess]. It happened about six times, and the seventh time they nailed my dress [which was a vintage shirtwaist dress from my grandmother]... The next instant, he was flying backwards out of his chair to the back of the room, crashing into a bank of cabinets. His friend [the girl] looked totally shocked. I looked as cool as a cucumber. The teacher came back down to earth. The whole class wondered what they just missed. I had swung around in my seat and backhanded him in the face with my full force. [It was 1981 - we were all Juniors]. The girl hissed, 'You're in trouble now!' and I said, 'Good. So are you.' The teacher said, 'I don't know what just happened, but it better not ever happen again in here.' and I said, 'I don't think it will be necessary after today.' The teacher said, 'I want to talk to you, you and you after class.' and I said, 'That will be just fine.' Turns out, nobody bothered me ever again, and the teacher and I remained on good terms.
@hit2163
10 ай бұрын
I saw An INTJ doing this
@Lola-mt1ne
8 ай бұрын
I know this one.
@angelalabauve9131
8 ай бұрын
I had to do this in grade school. I didn’t plan to do it…just came out of nowhere. It never happened again. I was the quiet one… and it sent shockwaves.
@PLEASEMAKEANOTEOFIT
Жыл бұрын
Thanks! Really opened my eyes up to the INFJ Narcissist dependency thing. Wowsers! BTW, I stopped a customer/narcissist in her tracks. She was harrassing me about my business practices and "Making sarcastic suggestions" on how to do my job better. Finally...I said: "Maybe you should bring that up in Group?" Since then she snapped out of it and was polite and courteous and spent over $350 on our computer services. A rare but worthwhile victory. In Summary: Your presentations are without Peer. And don't take crap from self-absorbed, self-rightious and abusive customers/friends/significant others!
@orangetulip1261
Жыл бұрын
Not every rude person is a narcissist.
@MetaTron3693
Жыл бұрын
What are you jabbering about? ;) not understanding the point.
@OakleyANDSittingBull
11 ай бұрын
@orangetulip1261, *Who* said they are?
@pixel9548
Жыл бұрын
I've always found ways to build people up. Born that way and raised that way. An INFJ brought up by an INFJ. Every now and then, someone will take my little efforts to bring them out as me thinking they are superior somehow. And these folks will run with it. I'm learning to watch the pattern. "She thinks I'm great. I can boss her around because she wants to be like me." (Not true. I can admire a quality without wanting it myself.) These same folks are alarmed if they notice that I treat others that way. "Hey, wait! I'm special!" They start to tear down other people in an effort to be my number 1. I realize what they're doing and ghost them. They then go nuts for a while, chasing me around, trying to figure me out. Just happened again. Hope I see it sooner next time.
@oceanakelley465
Жыл бұрын
So true.
@KingDomsKingdom85
7 ай бұрын
Theres something ive noticed is that we are phenomenal actors, we can initiate it in an instant whenever someone is silly enough to treat us badly. An INFJ never wants to hurt anyone, ever... in an ideal world. We *KNOW* that if everyone were to treat everyone else the way we treat other people, then the world would run smoothly, so when someone is randomly disrespecting us then we let out what we have inside.
@BassGodPantheon
Жыл бұрын
I admit that I give too many people passes because I know that I can destroy them by messing around in their heads when they deserve it. I do this because I know that after I give them what they deserve. I will end up feeling sorry for them even after they’ve done me wrong and got EXACTLY What they deserve…
@shelteredopal
Жыл бұрын
I learned your first tactic not only because I am infj but because I had a lot of family members who would make unfair comparisons between me and my cousins etc, pick apart my growing body, my biggest bully was my grandparents in that regard and once I wisened up I did exactly play dumb and insult them too and they couldn't handle it! I normally hate to do that and would hate to make people uncomfortable in their own skin but they've done it to me so much I just couldn't stand there and smile anymore, I would say my grandmas varicose veins looked like certain things (she didn't wear shorts around me after a while), I knew she hated being reminded of her age so I made sure to include that often, say she looked like the scary green lady from wizard of oz 😂 and I was so nice and respectful beforehand. That curbed their bullying and in response I stopped the whole playing dumb game
@stephaniebell4272
Жыл бұрын
I don’t have many friends. I’ve managed to shock my oldest friendships into oblivion. Door slammed!
@artistocracy
7 ай бұрын
Haha! We just have to, don’t we?! Enough is enough. I have learned at my great age, that most “friends” are users. Narcissist partners, yes I know all about it, are complete and utter users. I simply switch it all off to them
@RexApplegate
6 ай бұрын
It's a sign you've developed and others haven't.
@chibap84
Жыл бұрын
People have always been a little afraid of me and i never know why- I'm pretty chill most of the time :D
@celestial_shed
Жыл бұрын
When I don't want to door slam, I reply to the other person’s dumbfoolery with a seemingly innocent joke that hits the other person's ego in a way that, if they were to show anger, they would also show both me and themselves that there is some truth to it (as mentioned in the video ). And I will also laugh a little too loudly, just enough to make the other person internally question if it was only a joke. This way I have both opened for the conflict and the “showdown”, but also given them a way out. Usually, they just laugh with me. But the point is taken. This is only done in situations where I know I will be met in a manipulative way if I were to openly confront them. I prefer open and honest communication when possible.
@raft115
Жыл бұрын
Sounds like you are a super infj 👏✨
@Natalie-lf7hb
Жыл бұрын
Yes totally true But in the years passing I have learned to mirror them back in a more decent manner but still with the firmness to get the point across. Why do I do this? Several reasons. First I refuse to go down to their level unless it is a vital necessity. I have let go of the expectation that they may learn from it, and I have chosen my own style, which is fitting my level of integrity and values. And some other reasons. I send you a lot of protection within our shared set of high values and integrity and the strength to be yourself no matter how you potentially may be pushed into a form of false submission. And remember that Karma will strike back at them, so overdoing things unnecessary is not necessary. Because Divine Justice and Karma are perfectly arranged. Thank You for your Contribution to the Collective. 🙏
@1594simonsays
Жыл бұрын
HUMAN BEINGS ARE ANNOYING AND I REGRET EVER TRYING FOR THE LOT OF THEM
@debrarouse2794
Жыл бұрын
Thank you...for the 1st time in my life I understand and feel like someone "gets" me!✌
@GothremenBhason
Жыл бұрын
The door slam especially hurts, because we take it with heavy heart, like you said with people we've invested in.
@FirehorseG
Жыл бұрын
As a (much) older INFJ, I've been through the ringer until I stopped trying to fit in & follow my real self. I actually find it amusing when people go nasty. I've had to stifle chuckles when I've been attacked verbally. It really stumped my ex.
@anneheerdt8701
Жыл бұрын
The first time I clearly remember bluntly calling out someone and created a big silence I was about 16. Never felt bad, but letting things go so far to a door slam is something I want to prevent
@paulbourdess925
Жыл бұрын
The way I've worded that monster part to people is that while I'm nice 99% of the time, the 1% where the monster comes out is rare in time...but if there was a way to weigh my nice/monster ... I'm balanced. Meaning that 1% monster time is half of who I am, and so its really a departure from my normal.
@genevieveking7666
2 ай бұрын
My childhood friend thought they knew me so well but they were not in a lot of my life once we got older found that and realized they don't know me at all and is now avoiding me or should i say keeping a distance. But i had made myself so small for so long something came out so I guess my mom was right i knew of the other side of me
@roadtomunchuland1887
3 ай бұрын
I honestly don't like how Wenzes know us so so well. I'm so good with mind games that it scares me sometimes, and sometimes I enjoy it
@lindateuling7862
Жыл бұрын
These Five Points perfectly sum up why people get so freaked out when I get upset, mad, or have simply "had it" with foolish treatment. (#2 and #3 especially stood out, although it was easy to relate to all five) These "comebacks" can be emotionally draining, and as you said, we don't really enjoy using them. But I believe that most of the time when we do, it's because the other person had it coming! Actually, I haven't used this much any more - being older, I've found that things don't bother me as much as before. But once in a while we still have to put our foot down.
@imnedmonton
Жыл бұрын
I am with the force. And the force is with me. Stay safe and be well. ❤
@KL-zg7lu
6 ай бұрын
It sucks when you are simply trying to help them recover their self esteem, and it is assumed you worship them, or something of the sort.
@tarakessinger3648
Жыл бұрын
Wenzes , I think this is my favorite video of yours thus far . I’ve been readjusting the dynamics in pretty much all of my relationships here recently, and this really resonated with me . Thank you.
@ninilustig
7 ай бұрын
I had a moment for a long period of time that I think really NOONE understands me, till I watched this video. I …get to understand myself, I am not weird , I am just different 😅😊for those may feel the same, BE yourself ❤❤❤🎉
@ninilustig
5 ай бұрын
I thank you for the support
@stevel6939
29 күн бұрын
"Ok, we're done." I lost track of how many times I've said that. I've told people, "Don't mess with me" and maybe its in the eyes while saying it because ive backed down people with just that.
@RandyMoe
Жыл бұрын
Once I roared. She had been yelling at me all day. No contact.
@hnnb3193
Жыл бұрын
Thank you Wenzes for you're great message, once I found out about you're channel it litterly changed my life. before, I didn't like my personality because it caused me alot of trouble and pain but the moment i started watching you're youtube channel I learned how to benefit from my rare personality.
@focusrelentlessly8829
Жыл бұрын
Your***
@justinsane7832
2 ай бұрын
ok... i only clicked on this bc of the thumbnail. that look in your eyes 🔥
@maybee...
Жыл бұрын
The force is nothing they want to encounter... They will never let that happen again!!!
@afan1979
Жыл бұрын
Nailed it. Good to see my behavior from an external viewpoint.
@hazirafel
Жыл бұрын
been following you videos for about a year, lately the level of clarity and actionable advice has jumped! inspiring :)
@PenelopePitstop0078
4 ай бұрын
Boy, yes, we can befuddle, bamboozle and blow away snarky ppl. lol, I’d love to be a mouse in the room to witness Wenzes give a jerk a taste of the infj feral lashing. I’m grateful that I have no guilt about door slamming anymore. The synchronicity of this message cannot be denied, for me. Yes, I was overreacting, projecting and began acting just stupid with the younger guy I’ve been “dating”. Man, I was limerence-ing out. I snapped out of it and slammed the door gently, then I slapped myself up side the head and said, “Snap out of it! No limerance!!” So, your guidance is helping me “correct my course” and stop going into a stupid projection of something I don’t even want anyway. TY❣️
@VonKrieg
Жыл бұрын
Wenzes, even when you want to look mean you don't look mean. (Thumbnail) 😆
@Dodgerzden
Жыл бұрын
The first example of the monster coming that I thought about was when the Director of Operations of a very large company I worked for was having a meeting with all of us lowly blue-collar workers about moving our operation to another state. She was asking for questions and I clearly had my hand up, front and center, and I could see her scanning the room and avoiding eye contact with me. I knew she was purposely ignoring me because I had a reputation for asking difficult questions. But the funny thing is, this time, the question was very mundane. And after no one else's hand was up, I jumped into the air and loudly said, "I have a question!" It was hilarious because the reaction of the people surrounding me was like I was an active shooter. I always wondered why I never got in trouble for this but I suppose it was because I was around for so many years and my bosses expected this kind of thing occasionally and that they were going to lay all of us off soon anyway.
@bobbyjackson8120
Жыл бұрын
I'm in a loop. Been in it for four years. Provided living, I don't work, I remain at my desk, till I solve this
@tiggerthecat5525
Жыл бұрын
I feel bad after. but sometimes it just pops out of my mouth before my brain can stop me
@UnexpectedAmy
2 ай бұрын
I've had to learn how dangerous my intuition and empathy is. I end up knowing so much about loved ones that if I get betrayed I know exactly what to say to rip their souls apart. As much as it's tempting in the moment, I've learned it's more important to preserve my integrity than waste emotional energy on someone who has no regard for my emotional energy. Sometimes the door slam is as much to protect the other person from my resentment.
@laraoneal7284
Жыл бұрын
There is such a thing as MALIGNANT EMPATHY. This can cause one vicarious trauma. No more.
@Bar_Bar27
Жыл бұрын
This is one of your best videos for me. This is so relatable these days and the "tactics" you mention here is exactly what i do with these people these days😅 You're amazing!
@ambraiezzi5037
3 ай бұрын
I love this video. It’s great. Basically we are very good at keeping the house/ our reality clean bringing out the trash.
@terrijamison9154
Жыл бұрын
I lean towards 2,3,4 mostly. My monster always just beneath the surface, only unleashed when necessary 😊
@alfdom51
Жыл бұрын
I learned today. I know i am different. I didn't know what INFJ was much less that there are thousands that had these traits.
@tricksietalon2596
Жыл бұрын
I just started this video and I am doing this tactic with ignoring insults RIGHT NOW!! I refuse to be baited.
@MelO_247
Жыл бұрын
Hi @wenzes Do you have any suggestions on how to find a therapist for our personality type? As an INFJ I am looking for a therapist but it has been difficult for me to find someone who can relate on a higher level from my understanding….
@PlentitudeIsland
Жыл бұрын
Yes. I need this answered also. If you find out plz let us know. Tia
@user-fs6ou3fk9p
11 ай бұрын
In my later years now, I've come to not worry so much about how people make themselves feel. I give a stare and then move on past the comment without reacting. It's very freeing.
@lancelotdufrane
Жыл бұрын
I love our ability to spot the game, then make an obvious response of non-engagement. Snide remarks are only last resort for those who are not getting the message.
@dporter-gage9907
Жыл бұрын
That last one hit home, shine bright!
@lunarae8037
11 ай бұрын
Your videos help me to understand myself INFJ can be a super power but also a weight
@KatePamplin-s7p
3 ай бұрын
I am an INFJ that decided when I was 10-11, after reading about Nazi Germany, I made it a point to never put my fear of rejection and fear of confrontation over doing the right thing. I’m getting pretty exhausted by it, and I’m about to go hermit a good while. Except I have three kids and a husband, sooo… idk what that is going to look like necessarily, but I am absolutely done with society. They are for the streets… yes, even most church leaders.
@TroyPosey
Жыл бұрын
Way more situations than I care to count… 🤣😂🤣 I hope you’re having an amazing week my friend! 🙂🌹❤️😘👍🏼
@natassjajonescleve5966
Жыл бұрын
Every video you post on infj's is soooo bang on! Its incredible, thank you
@ericting2020
Жыл бұрын
Respect people
@MikaKapuscinski
7 ай бұрын
I feel like my power play is whenever a coworker tries to bait me with gossip I just say, "oh..." and nod my head up and down then change the subject. I just take in the info and continue to watch. 😂
@fabriciocorrea78
Жыл бұрын
You are just amazing, Wenzes!!!! Your life coaching heals me so much and inspires me to always be myself and not let abusers hurt my feelings.
@reneehouser2925
11 ай бұрын
Yeah, they "never thought" XYZ would happen 😆 and we're ALWAYS thinking...
@spiralweaver7740
7 ай бұрын
Its good to know that after the door slam, they felt worse.
@kayesingh5449
Жыл бұрын
I'm fundamentally lazy and dont want to waste my energy on idiots basically . I try and conserve my energy for more impt things. Once in a while I will shoot but generally I don't bother. But it will be recorded It's more impt to conserve myself than bother about the idiocies around me.
@verntoews6937
Жыл бұрын
How come at times I am an idiot and other times a genius?
@briettasonlen1208
Жыл бұрын
wonderful video. Thanks again, Wenzes!
@danielcann
Жыл бұрын
Does anyone else feel like their external feeling function needs a ‘stone thrown in the water’ just to read the ripples in everyone’s reaction? I’m often finding myself doing or saying something not because it’s necessarily true or how I feel but to get a better read on the people around me… am I alone here?
@littlet-rex8839
Жыл бұрын
It's a military tactic "reconnaissance by fire"
@kayesingh5449
Жыл бұрын
And keeping the harmony around and in me, is most impt to me even if I sublimate myself to whatever.
@Lola-mt1ne
8 ай бұрын
#2 . spot on.
@JodyWestbyHanalei
Ай бұрын
So relatable! 😲
@lilredheaded1
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for creating and sharing!
@jonnyrocket8138
Жыл бұрын
The door slam was part of me until after college, I’ve kind of left it behind because in retrospect it always feels immature of me to let them upset me to that point… though that has resulted in some wall punches which really aren’t better at all.
@bennyregohos1650
6 ай бұрын
You are so right
@jamjam0409
Жыл бұрын
Not worth it. Useful when it happens, but reaching that point means we did something wrong before (like no boundaries).
@ericxb
11 ай бұрын
really needed to hear this a long time ago... but glad i'm here now. thank you so much :)
@ewonnestrand7298
Жыл бұрын
Hahaha the first sentens to explain "us". Thats me, it doesent hapend so often. But, I know these times Im not the most kindest people at all. Now Im going to continue listning. Maybee I cry not lafter after.
@eighthappyfish
Жыл бұрын
You’re always on point! Thank you for being awesome!
@knowledgeispower1369
Жыл бұрын
I always dumb down just so people don't get mad
@321Jessi
Жыл бұрын
❤ Thank you so much.🎉 100% accurate. It took forever to find another real INFJ , on youtube. I appreciate you 💐💐💐💐💐💐💐
@SimpleMandy
Жыл бұрын
I'm curious if this has happened to other INFJs with their monster. I had a final "f*** around and find out" with a former friend and the "monster" came out but I never really put it back in. I've stayed a bit in villain mode and made friends with it.
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