Maya Angelou said that, 'when a person shows you who they are, believe them the first time'.
@reallyaprilstarr
Жыл бұрын
YUP YUP! Dr. Angelou originated this saying and Oprah repeats it frequently. This saying really helped me some years ago when I was starting to heal from childhood. And I tell clients this frequently.
@natashahardin9324
Жыл бұрын
Correct! Well- known Maya Angelou quote!
@VeryAnnaBerry
Жыл бұрын
Yes, Maya said it and she was so right!
@thescreencommunity5933
Жыл бұрын
@@charzemc yep I have been going through this - its like a psychological thriller that you can't get out of. They are so manipulative that everyone believes them.
@almohvn33
Жыл бұрын
Quote it all the time.
@STELLA-YANN
Жыл бұрын
Narcissism is a bootcamp type of spiritual warfare 🥵 if you survive it and escape it, you level up to a spiritual gangster 😂💪
@AmandaCoates-x1e
9 ай бұрын
Amen
@edithflood631
8 ай бұрын
More like promotion from foot soldier to cavalry… you are out of the mud and can see the lay of the land so much more clearly from up there.
@LastMinuteMinistry
8 ай бұрын
Love this.
@merithmoon2501
8 ай бұрын
A chevalier right
@lesliehayes8987
7 ай бұрын
Yes!
@GodsChildTM
3 ай бұрын
The worst part is remembering that you are not dealing with a normal and healthy person. They have a way of making us feel sorry for them and the way they use our empathy is disgusting. Once you can realize how disgusting and evil their manipulation is, it's much easier to walk away.
@gillianfrances
2 ай бұрын
So true
@denisegassama6016
2 ай бұрын
Facts.
@VivoVivo-un5zj
26 күн бұрын
they're charm,but we don't want crazy/ nervous
@Asiacares4000
26 күн бұрын
Amen to that
@miharu00
18 күн бұрын
YES! I finally get it too, how unattractive they are! They have no power if they lose their charm and delusion.
@f.frederickskitty2910
5 ай бұрын
Hello fellow survivors. If no one told you today: you are loved. You are enough. ❤
@kipliethurlow9091
4 ай бұрын
Today all I wanted was a kind word . Understanding. I need humans.❤❤ Thank you for thoughtfulness. A mom
@Oceansgreen
4 ай бұрын
Thank you… you are loved too, and needed ❤️
@Heal..Restore..Moveforward
4 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing and for your kindness....much much needed. You are loved...you are enough too. 😊🙏🪷
@proudamerican2133
4 ай бұрын
As are you😊
@Yachtclubn
2 ай бұрын
I’m crying. Thank you, beautiful soul 🙏 much love to you 🙏
@kimberlygiovanelli6230
5 ай бұрын
They are never sorry, and they never quite remember anything..
@DawnPrawn101
4 ай бұрын
After the “love bombing”/grooming phase was completed, in which I did feel seen and heard, I felt completely unheard and unseen!!! OMGosh, I even confronted him once and asked him if I was merely a prop in his life!! THANK YOU THANK YOU so much for validating my experience. PLEASE direct me to your course to break the trauma bond. Please 🙏 🙏🙏🙏 I’m 6 months out but I’m still struggling with the bond. PLEASE direct me to your course to break the trauma bond. Please 🙏🙏
@hiraghafoor9151
3 ай бұрын
Right when you catch them in a lie they don’t remember anything and they have the best memory so it must have never happened. What a joke these children are.
@juliagoolia5604
3 ай бұрын
Drives me CRAZY . It really really does. Took me forever to start trusting myself again
@holynationclub
3 ай бұрын
Oh they remember, only act like they don’t. I have tested one. She kept deliberately “forgetting” so I asked her with compassion, “do you have memory issues? I’m asking because I worry about you very much!” Suddenly, she remembered everything! She hated the compassion I showed her - it probably made her feel pitiful, so she needed to get back from that.
@rebeccamoody74
2 ай бұрын
Never sorry never. Empathy comes naturally 🙏
@jodishadle8114
Ай бұрын
"Abandon hope, all ye who enter here". --Dante's Inferno. A relationship with a narcissist is like falling into the abyss. And getting out is damned hard work.
@GodDOESNTCHANGE
4 күн бұрын
My ex used to tell me “ I love you deeper than the abyss “ smh
@johnmckenna1776
Жыл бұрын
I can see why leaving a narcissist is so hard. We naturally want closure, a feeling of completion, of resolving things in a fair & equitable manner, but this will never happen with a real narcissist, as they simply can't give us what we want or need. It's like a puzzle that can never be solved because many of the key pieces are broken or missing!
@camille9803
Жыл бұрын
it took me 12 years, just now, to accept this.
@patrickholland5478
Жыл бұрын
Great, comment. This is so true, and the realisation I'm having to accept now.
@andrewsmith3257
Жыл бұрын
@@cppray1 yep they are simply evil turds not masterminds or geniuses 😅
@johnmckenna1776
Жыл бұрын
@@cppray1 You may be right but from my experience I would say no because what I want is not something they even have. You can't give to others what you don't have. Just my take on this, but you may be right with some of these individuals.
@jackboots-u6g
Жыл бұрын
Stop asking others for resolution. It’s like walking on the street and asking for family
@tricialoftus3588
Жыл бұрын
I’ve found you at the right time. 😢 I was married to a controlling man who I was with for 32 years to finally escape straight into the arms of a narcissist! He has destroyed any faith I have in men but everything you have said here is spot on 😢 I’m in complete limbo feeling hurt rejected confused angry and worst of all violated. They are true wolves in sheep’s clothing! True demons !
@thebatmom
Жыл бұрын
My heart goes out to you!!! Are you safe? Praying for you, it's hard and people who don't understand just make it harder when trying to understand what just happened to us
@nancyfc5002
Жыл бұрын
I relate with you. Remember it is NOT you. Sadly they used us. But it is not YOU. You are amazing, that is why you were chosen. Right now we have to stay on the path of recovery. You CAN do it, and you WILL do it, even if you don't believe it right now. Hug yourself and love be yourself. YOU ARE AMAZING!!
@jsimon7737
Жыл бұрын
This world is full of evil, manipulative, self-serving people. Take your time, share less, learn as much as you can about personality disorders, set boundaries with people. Mostly trust what you feel and not what you see.
@mami-e2q
Жыл бұрын
Satan on Earth, the devil itself.
@iramsavir5631
Жыл бұрын
Exactly same happened to me.😢 I am going through the discard phase now. There was a real monster behind the mask, pretending to be the best and most wonderful man in the world.
@katherinehess5233
Жыл бұрын
This is exactly how I feel. Sometimes I feel like I am mentally hostage, by trying to figure out what the hell just happened.
@Whit0087
Жыл бұрын
Same. It's exhausting
@Greydog184
Жыл бұрын
Right. I literally took care of her when she got the flu at Christmas. Bought her and all the children gifts , then Christmas was over and she went back to work - it was as though she was wanting to be with someone else , but ashamed because it would of made her look like a cheater / betrayer. So she tried to turn me into the monster.
@JacquelineSanders-zb3jm
Жыл бұрын
Yes 7:52
@actionpls.
Жыл бұрын
I feel completely violated. It's going to definitely take a while to shake this experience. Their degree of mental illness is beyond comprehension. You cannot have a normal relationship or conversation with a lunatic.
@Clevelandsteamer324
Жыл бұрын
@@Greydog184standard play
@Deeliciousss
2 ай бұрын
“You don’t exist to them,” that actually made feel good. I feel so much better knowing that. I feel free now. ❤
@annapalcic9762
Жыл бұрын
After you heal… you laugh. 😊
@brusselsprout5851
Жыл бұрын
I cannot imagine that. But okay.
@Hy-Brasil
Жыл бұрын
@@brusselsprout5851 having recovered from physical injuries that made laughing excruciating, i felt like i never would again. My doctor told me i had to do it. Good for your lungs. The same applies here. Emotional healing is the same. What i struggled with, during the emotional healing process was how foolish i felt. It was like believing a hoax or prank. "How could i fall for that??" Gotta do it anyway. Laughter is the best medicine. Also, narcs HATE IT when you laugh.
@yb2112
Жыл бұрын
@@brusselsprout5851 same
@Jobless-r4w
Жыл бұрын
Looking forward to the day my ex gets kalmar after 38years of an abused marriage and woken in the last 6months to being under the spell and I'm scared to death of meeting anyone else as I have only ever been in 1 relationship 😢😢😢😢😢
@annapalcic9762
Жыл бұрын
@@Jobless-r4w same… Thx for sharing.) I don’t have to feel like I’m the only one that’s been faithful to a fault… aka only one relationship.
@SJ-ow7ui
27 күн бұрын
He told me he was damaged. I should have listened to him. You cant save someone unless they save themself. Yes i was thrown into the matrix. I became a person i shouldnt have been through stress and exhaustion like you said. I gave up in the end and now i am mentally fit enough to study full time. I have only one wish and that is for him to get help.
@miharu00
18 күн бұрын
yes damaged and mentally disabled person cannot love another or even himself. So I know they have the saddest life. We are not rescuing them or anyone, as they have to feel that they want to be better first by themselves. I had conversation about this with someone recently and I heard that there was a doctor who was great at treating mental disorders but even this doctor shut patients off if they did not want to get better. So there is my answer too! I have no interest in helping anyone unless they want help.
@rwarren108
Жыл бұрын
The day I pissed of the narcissist enough and it was finally over, I felt so totally drained washed up, spit out, and kicked to the curb. The next day he had a date with someone else. Two months later they were engaged. Hellacious experience. It was really hard learning these types of people exits. I was forever changed after that 5 year experience. He wanted to destroy me.. Nearly did. Was very rattled and on a deep level, and extra sensitive for a good while. Took nearly a year to feel less broken. Harmful, dangerous people
@teaganonabudget
Жыл бұрын
Yep I feel u
@jeanannedupratt7075
Жыл бұрын
Only 1 year ? It took me 20.
@datingandlifeadvicechannel7534
Жыл бұрын
Yes
@gina1280
Жыл бұрын
I am so glad you survived. I have similar experience and I felt like he was trying to destroy me too.. I am proud of you!
@edithflood631
8 ай бұрын
The way they work from a script is bizarre. Idealization (check!) Love bombs away, grappling hooks engaged, haul in the prey. (Check!) Degradation (check!) Turn on Narcissistic Fog Machine (check!) Establish secret harem (check!) Discard (check!) then Start Smear Campaign (check!). Prepare Flying Monkeys for take-off (check!). There is something so weird about the similarities of everyone’s experiences. There is a ridiculous or absurd clockwork element to it (like they are naughty little wind-up dolls) such that their predictable machinations elicit an involuntary chuckle here and there in between the heart-wrenching sobbing of the victims.
@KatherineGrey-pz9on
2 ай бұрын
Being with my ex narc for the past 8 yrs. made me observe this very pattern. I think they wanted to feel very important in a way that is disturbing. Instead of building trust with their intimate partners, they destroy the trust that they built with you (in that case lying when they tried to put you in their pedestal). Once they have a committed partner, they can’t stand being loved authentically by one person. Instead they go on and prey on other women that is susceptible to their love bombing. My ex narc was a compulsive pursuer in a relationship. He would go back and forth to the women he were involved before or try to meet women in complicated situation so that going public isn’t an option while having you as their main supply. In the end they destroy the very person that loved them. They are like toddlers testing your love for them. Showing and telling them you love them isn’t enough, they will cheat on your face to make you feel inadequate even if you are more than they deserve. They want to test your love for them so they keep hurting you and when you have enough of their abuse, you leave. Then they tell you, ‘you never loved me because you abandon me’. Well in fact it’s their actions and narcissistic behavior that made you leave or in other cases they discard you and will give silly reasons of the discard. Mine would use, ‘she’s crazy’, ‘she’s a nega-star’, ‘she insults me’, ‘she cheated on me’ et al. So with this pattern of infidelities and emotional abuse (who knows what else) it’s better to walk away. I did walk away and is now rebuilding my life with our daughter. We are struggling financially because I’m not earning enough to provide for my daughter but now we get to laugh and bring with us sunshine every day. No lies, no abuse and no fake love. We only live once, forgive yourself and move forward but never forget the lesson that narc abuse taught you. That is to respect yourself to walk away from what’s hurting and destroying you. That you deserve a life of solitude, happiness and love. Hugs*** :) Additionally I hired a private detective Barryinvestigation@gmail. com. Once I knew what the narc was up to, it got easier to get over that lying, cheating, sack of doo doo, loser. I didn’t need closure from the narc, I paid for it. Best money I EVER spent!
@jillschmidt8701
Жыл бұрын
I am moving 500 miles away tomorrow. Up north to a tiny town. I can't get rid of him any other way. This relationship has been the worst experience of my life. I started setting this up months ago and lied (pretended I was him lol). Anyway, sometimes desperate measures need to be taken. I am sure I have been replaced already. Thank god I never had kids with this guy. You only live once - change it up. Move on.
@christinebeames712
11 ай бұрын
Hi I hope you’ve settled in up north , Im Near Manchester , it will feel odd on your own for a while but you deserve better , xxxxx
@dreaboo3216
7 ай бұрын
I want to move away
@sleepydoppy8516
5 ай бұрын
I moved 871 miles away. One of the things I did that was right.
@yeswing10
5 ай бұрын
Yes, moving 10 hours away was the best thing. Also, no Facebook. They are a wretched curse!
@marigoldmirror5194
5 ай бұрын
When you are healing… contact even gray rock text communication sends you into a trauma hold. Get away! Run! Escape!
@3pm341
2 ай бұрын
Narcissists are nothing to be afraid of. They are actually putting on a persona to hide their true weaknesses. They often act in a childish like manner. If you're a good person you'll see it but try to change them or help them. Don't. Walk away without a word. Your life will get much better
@jackiep5009
Ай бұрын
Domestic violence often happens in the end. They can be dangerous
@Leah-i1e
Ай бұрын
@@jackiep5009I agree. Narcs are unhinged.
@miharu00
18 күн бұрын
yes! if you are not attracted to what they have, they have absolutely no power over you. This video is so good and true. They see you as an object and you are under their toxic world so you just stop playing the role they assigned to you. They are the most disgusting human beings I have ever known but I am not going to use those words anymore to describe anyone. It is because I am not in their world where you have to describe people this way!
@Renee-p3y
3 күн бұрын
They are human beings incapable of being human
@thebatmom
Жыл бұрын
I realized that I was just as at fault as my abuser, because knowing deep inside that he was crazy I still stayed. Always waiting for the person who I fell for to come back, leaving was literally (literaaaaally) like mourning several people in one. It's amazing how you knew each one of their personalities. Thanks for traumatizing me further with the freaking eggs in brain thing... ugh
@mrsc2983
Жыл бұрын
You were groomed....
@quantummechanicalengineeri7016
Жыл бұрын
It’s a scare tactic , like look what the power I have. Trust me it is dumb, always is always has.
@ThrivePurpleHeart
Жыл бұрын
I would qualify first that you are not at fault. That said, we are responsible for remaining within reach. It was when I chose that perspective, I was able to get out. But before I left it wasnt for hope, but utter fear that I had stayed. My life is still being dragged backward by him and his parents after 4 years out, second time leaving after being forced back using a false accusation of Grand Theft Auto of our family vehicle to force me out of the DV shelter with our children. So I will not take blame for the systematic abuse and crazy making, smear campaign, but I take responsibility for my mistakes and for not having been willing to get out at ALL COSTS. The price gets steeper the longer you stay, and the longer it's drawn out in separating. I suggest swiftly and do not try to be honorable and fair, staying near. Flee far away. They only use your fairness as a wedge in the door to break you. more.
@thebatmom
Жыл бұрын
@Jen Stevens I'm 2yrs out, iam so sorry for what you have and will continue to deal with , the emotions and psychological effects is long lingering , much longer then the physical abuse. You feel alone even when your around lots of people . If you ever need someone to talk too please don't hesitate to reach out. Prayers for you and yours
@cor3944
Жыл бұрын
Stop devaluating yourself. Every human being needs companionship, approval and love. The natural needs for that made you stay. Think about the fact that babies need human touch to literally survive. ❤
@ty-le4bf
4 ай бұрын
my therapist is on maternity leave so every time i "miss" him i just sigh and pull up one of your videos to talk some sense into me haha. two weeks no contact wohoo! this is the third time i broke up with him so looks like third time is the charm🤡
@annaa6259
Жыл бұрын
16:00 - spot on - no morals , cheat and lie and expect you to be perfection
@miharu00
18 күн бұрын
exactly, that's who they are. I found those videos and comments are so helpful. I aligned with most of them and it is very encouraging that those words have more power over me than whatever that cheater and liar said.
@lynndupree1205
2 ай бұрын
Once I figured out the game I found more peace. Now I can stop trying to make this work, and just accept that this is the way he's always going to be. He is out of my heart for good. Now, I just have to figure out how to get him out of my life physically.
@juiceknot
Жыл бұрын
It’s the story of the turtle 🐢helping the snake 🐍to cross the stream, by riding on the turtle’s shell. When they get across safely, the snake bites the turtle. The turtle is shocked and the snake replies “I’m a snake “
@adimeter
Жыл бұрын
Unknowingly I was friends with a snake for 67 years. I am her godmother to her daughter. Now we do not talk. I am finally glad.
@hiloknowsall7462
Жыл бұрын
Not nitpicking- but i believe the fable is the scorpion 🦂 and the frog. Snakes 🐍 can swim - but more importantly, this allegorical / didactic fable that i keep salient ❤ it’s a story / message that i can vividly recall that reminds me - why narcs do what they do…it is their “nature” - they aren’t people, they are like Escher’s works - except he was an amazing artist - but the narc is one dimensional, yet appears (to the outsider) to have depth and dimensions which are simply simulacrum of dimension/ 3d whole people…truth is that they are - not people, people have humanity and compassion and empathy - the narc shows their public simulations and for the high level ones, are so often beguiling and totally 💯 believable - but they aren’t actually people. Treating them as such has been my biggest mistake.
@korenbrigham5922
Жыл бұрын
@@hiloknowsall7462yes, thank you. It is the fable of frog and the scorpion.
@roberttruman8444
11 ай бұрын
@@hiloknowsall7462 I totally get where you're coming from and I suffered needlessly for 25 years in an on/off relationship (longest 'off' period was 12 years) with a covert narcissist. Our last relationship went on and off for 7 years and led to me having a nervous breakdown. That became the catalyst for becoming self aware and rapidly extended to the realisation that I'd grown up with a narcissistic mother, and then realising that I had been drawn to narcissists and both my best friend and ex girlfriend had the disease. I like your reference to Escher and can definitely apply it to the female narcissists I've had in my life. For my best friend who is male I am thinking more of the artwork used in Pink Floyd's 'The Wall'. I think it's unfair to think of these people as not human, but I can understand the pain and distress that is behind such hyperbole. I prefer to think of these people as emotionally diseased and unfortunate, because they had to suffer abuse and indignities during their formative years to become narcissists, and despite their masked appearance and dishonesty I found that their sadness and weakness was very noticeable at various times. Hatred is a very strong emotion that actually takes a great deal of effort to hold on to and can cause you further emotional and even physical health problems later in life. Hatred is strong, but sympathy will always trump hatred and it has an neutralising effect on your soul. It's impossible to feel hatred for someone you sympathise. Sympathy for someone also prevents them from being attractive to you. So it's a perfect way to approach the narcissistic ex.
@newhorizons1970
5 ай бұрын
Its the Scorpio asking the turtle to get him across the river. The turtle then sais: as long as you wont sting me…. Ofcourse I won’t, the scorpio sais, cos if I do, I will drown as well. The turtle being being convinced by this logic, takes the scorpio across. Halfway down the river, the turtle feels a sting and knows the scorpio has stung him. While they are both drowning, the turtle with his last breath asks the scorpio: but WHY? And the Scorpio replies: I cant help it, its what I am…
@nenitapahilangco3738
Жыл бұрын
At last, I was able to leave and discard my narcissistic husband after 28 years of bondage and abusive relationship after I got out from this bad relationship, it is like waking up from a worst nightmare and you wake up into reality, realizing everything.😅
@imageinfomood
Жыл бұрын
I would argue that narcissists view all others as LESS than objects, considering the ones I've experienced are extremely materialistic.
@f.frederickskitty2910
5 ай бұрын
Selfish and greedy too
@alicemcduff3416
4 ай бұрын
Absolutely true!
@DavisMultiverse
Ай бұрын
They likely more than just viewing other people as objects, but they view others as obstacles
@ritugaursharma7966
2 ай бұрын
Moving on is the best revenge!
@miharu00
18 күн бұрын
I totally agree, and I am very happy and determined to do so. This high is the power that I defeat the narc and cut all ties to this horrible being.
@norasheridan4469
8 ай бұрын
Hi Richard. I left a 30 year relationship 9 years ago, and it has taken me this long to finally feel like I'm seeing some light at the end of the tunnel. The final thing I've realised is that you're never, ever, going to get closure or justice from the narcissist, so there's no point trying. This, in itself, I have found very liberating, as it has allowed me to finally silence his voice in my head. Thank you
@Sweetbong_
5 ай бұрын
I left just two weaks ago after 15 years and I feel more teriible than ever…
@kimrobinson6285
4 ай бұрын
@@Sweetbong_It will get better...it's something we've all gone through. ❤
@miharu00
18 күн бұрын
It is hard for sure, it took me more than a decade too but as I see all the comments on the topics, I realized that they do exact same things so I have way less interest in them and have no feeling towards them or their words. If it is generic, I have no interest and it seems like the narcissist I have been dealing with is also cookie clutter one who just fit into the type. It is the thing with me that if it is general, I have no interests nor reason to look into. They are like same staple merchandise, which they can only think and write like AI, manipulated, non organic anti-human...their true self is so boring. The Narcissist I have been dealing with have no creativity any longer that he keeps repeating like broken record. The same thing over and over....I am so disappointed that the narc I was so into became such a boring specie. I will have nothing to say anymore to them.
@jodishadle8114
Ай бұрын
Bruised is it exactly. I've told him: I feel beat up on the inside. He totally dismissed it because he hadn't hit me physically. The complete double standard! The hypocrisy! Yes, spot on.
@miharu00
18 күн бұрын
yes! Physical abuses and mental abuses work same almost. It is because once you are stuck with the narc, you start believing his words as truth so if he started to damage you, it means you are damaging yourself. So you can just walk away as if you did not see that narc. As if he did not exist at all. They deserve that.
@kathrynanderson6854
Ай бұрын
We are objects to exploit or a place to dump their negative emotion
@miharu00
18 күн бұрын
yes! so let them take care their own garbage and mess!
@slayerofsatan1049
Жыл бұрын
What you said about the spider eggs flying in and hatching is spot on. Today I accidentally got baited into a convo with a group of narcs, they baited me in by complimenting my hair and asking questions. I went home regretting letting them bait me in bc they were so nasty and horrid. Lesson learned. Say thank you and walk away.
@kswear
6 ай бұрын
This is insane. Married for 8 years, Confused for 8 years, and this last year I’m seeing things I never thought I’d see. Blatant. Brazen. Inexcusable. Twilight zone, the sky is red-things. You are saying EXACT word for word situations that have happened. It’s crazy. It’s crazy making. Your videos are tremendously helpful and also, what insanity this can be. Thank you 🖤
@pupper5580
Жыл бұрын
I've been following Richard for years. And ever since I started following Richard's work, I've been able to untangle my life from all the abusive lies that have been binding me. Nowadays I have much less abusive situations and abusive people in my life, let's say the amount of abuse in my life has reduced into 5% of what it was 5 years ago.
@customera7945
29 күн бұрын
I've had 2 long-term relationships with these people. They chose me (independent, happy optimist capable of making decisions and getting things done) and proceeded to suck all of the life and joy out of me leaving me an empty shell. I'm just starting to claw back from the 2nd one. They were both bullshitters who love bombed me. They didn't have their own personalities and leached off of mine.
@melissaholsonbake20
Жыл бұрын
One someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time-Poet Maya Angelou
@GmaMom
21 күн бұрын
For 17 years…..absolute crazy making. The rage, the accusations, the not remembering anything. I’ve said for years there is something wrong with him…. I wish I’d known this sooner.
@teresagalvin6233
Жыл бұрын
Ive had a confession then gas lighted saying it never happened 😂 omg please god give me strength to forgive myself for allowing a lunatic stay in my life for sooò long😮🙏🙈❤
@rosetinnefeld5526
Жыл бұрын
Me 22yrs!!!
@paulagreco2960
2 ай бұрын
You are very expert in your knowledge of the narcissist. The spider eggs are lethal. What vile humans.
@Zerostatik
Жыл бұрын
This came at the right time. You're completely spot on. Finally realized I was dealing with a black belt narcissist. Beginning stages of removing them from my life. Luckily they are very transparent so no one that matters believes anything they say.
@thebatmom
Жыл бұрын
Wishing you the best!
@tmc1564
10 ай бұрын
Sounds like the narc was too stupid to even be narc. Sorry you had the horrific experience of encounter such demon. They are sheer evil 😢
@epis8613
4 күн бұрын
What an opening. I am so thankful to have other traumatized people in my life who can laugh with me about how horrible some things are. It really is a blessing.
@fifilafleur5555
Жыл бұрын
The trauma in my body from narcissistic family abuse gave me a hypertensive crisis (life threatening high blood pressure) and now stage 4 metastatic cancer... among many many other physical health & mental health problems. The body truly *does* keep the score. These toxic family members ostracized & shunned me for over a decade. Basically left me for dead. When I was diagnosed they all flew back in! Pretending to want to “help” me. 😈😈😈
@insertmyidentityhere
Жыл бұрын
Oh my goodness 😢 I am so sorry to hear that. I am 45 & just finally went No Contact with my family last summer. It is hard enough in this world, without not having a family for emotional support. I feel so alone, especially on holidays. Just letting you know you are not alone in your struggles & pain…. 🙏🙏
@andrewsmith3257
Жыл бұрын
No contact with either of my parents for over 10 years. Hit em where it hurts
@iramsavir5631
Жыл бұрын
I got cancer from the relationship. All the years of suffering heartbreak, and stress took its toll.
@steel811
Жыл бұрын
I’m the same way. Diagnosed with high blood pressure at 17. Doctors ran every test they could to try to figure out why and nothing would explain it. Fast forward a couple of years and I’m just now learning that my mother is a terrible vulnerable narcissist and I was living with my nervous system constantly engaged drowning in cortisol. Also suffer with addiction to cope with the abuse. These people will kill you from the inside out
@alicemcduff3416
4 ай бұрын
"The Body Keeps The Score" was written by Bessel Van der Kolk, not Peter E. Levine. 😉 Peter E. Levine wrote "Awakening The Tiger" and developped Somatic Experiencing (SE)
@SusKa22
5 ай бұрын
Narcissistic abuse disorder is no joke! The narcissist brakes you down at the worst manner.
@miharu00
18 күн бұрын
exactly true. We need to heal ASAP. Once you realize what damages they did, it is recovery curve. You are not listening to him / her words only. This video helps because you have another way of thinking which is detecting the narc's lies. If you know that they lied all the way, you can reject everything they told you, including about yourself.
@jennyadee913
Жыл бұрын
Timely. Fell for a covert narc during the plandemic. After months of text and conversations. Intimacy is just fodder with these a holes. I ran the other way so fast. Tried to maintain the friendship. Impossible. Quite possibly the most disappointing test of my metal. I don’t feel bruised , I just felt like I took a pop quiz and passed in spite of my anxiety about it. I threw myself into productive projects to break the trance of late night talks that were sucking me into lack of sleep and fruitless mornings. The only closure is getting ones goals and projects accomplished without the escalating needy demands of the Narc. My ADHD brain was simultaneously attracted and ultimately repulsed . It was so draining until I engaged and refocused on my own necessities. Spell breaking
@juliaaap922
10 ай бұрын
So impossible!! Great passing the test!! Proud of you
@tonieasterday6370
7 ай бұрын
I don’t know you but you make me laugh out loud …. Literally!!! I am so blessed to have found you. You not only bring a smile you remove the Vice off my head!! All glory to God for you Richard!! 🙌🏻🕊🤍
@colbertwatcher706
Жыл бұрын
Richard- I LOVE LOVE LOVE the way you communicate this very difficult material. Your humor makes a painful subject easier to digest. You are always spot on. Thanks for all you do. I feel validated after listening to you
@lizknight128
Жыл бұрын
Ditto!
@miharu00
18 күн бұрын
I agree! His videos are one of my favorites on this topic. I never thought I could find videos that spoke so much of the truth. It made me so encouraged that I don't believe the narcissist is the only and best who I can count on...what a disastrous thinking I had. As you open up, you find way more decent people and people who you are more aligned with other than the narc!
@magsmccombe6863
28 күн бұрын
Thanks Richard x Trauma is stored in the body, things that helped me release this was, meditation and raising my vibration, energy work, breath work, Thai chi, yoga. Shadow work and learning to be in your own frame. Also admitting to myself these family members will not change, they will take as much as you give, restrict contact or cut off altogether if possible. Concentrate on your own self and grow as a person. Never stop being caring and don't let the cruel people of this world ruin your happiness ❤ stay strong and know your worth x
@energyisenergy
Жыл бұрын
_"I've had a recent experience and I only in the last couple of days woke up to exactly what this person was doing..."_ ... Wow. Mad respect for being so open with us.
@fullgallupfarms
4 ай бұрын
Same! 22 yrs, got a clue the last 6 months! I'm over it! He can kiss it! I've got this,and he's out, just doesn't know it yet lol but he will!
@QX-xq5uj
Ай бұрын
You said it very clearly, thank you Richard for helping me get it. It took very long for me to accept the truth about my ex. The loving part of him made me believe he was wonderful and really cared for me. But the "bully" in him was so nasty and remorseless that I finally got out of his direkt power. Now I'm trying to heal but sometimes still grieving and doubting about my part and if I co- narzissistic bin!
@estherb4938
Жыл бұрын
If anything, everything YOU've gone through really helps those who have been there!! Don't be so hard on yourself Richard for being such an kind person!!! Please keep on going helping us to NOT go back for closure! Sending you Wisdom and Love!
@Lidiya111
9 ай бұрын
That's true 💯 Dear Richard, thank you! With this video, I finally got My closure.
@coqui8164
2 ай бұрын
It wasn’t funny 16 years ago when I got out of the relationship but it’s good to be able to laugh now. Sometimes those horrible 14 years I was with the narcissist seems just like a horrible nightmare…
@kikiLafleurGlam
Жыл бұрын
I literally had just gotten out of my worst experience with a true energy vampire narcissist. Then another man came along a started to court me heavy. like Heavy heavy, we are exclusive on the first date heavy..... He filled me up with everything he felt he studies about me and for a good two months it worked. But I believe in the saying. When people show you who they are believe them , right! So the moment I realized that he was only seeing me as a gate way towards his success while telling me that it's all about me. I RANNNNN AND NEVER LOOK BACK. and it only took me one wake up call. I listened and learned Fast. and the more I listen to videos like this and study them...I am picking up on all their tactics... I swear I go back to some videos astonished at the accuracy.
@maureenbanks3702
5 ай бұрын
You're killing me! You ARE "the expert"! "Yes, i was there when you told this person what would hurt you the most".
@abigailwhite7848
Жыл бұрын
I remember one particular line he said not long after I met him. He said‘I’m damaged’ Naturally I wanted to know why he felt that way and therefore continued to ‘try’ to make things better, and easier for him! Not me..him! I should have believed him. The damage is deflected onto you. Yes my soul is badly bruised. You make so much sense in this matter. Thank you
@gl4285
Жыл бұрын
Yep! I was told from him directly that he was an "absolute nightmare". I felt at the time that it was on me to prove to him that he was a better person, a more worthy person than he deemed himself to be. Unsurprisingly, I got metaphorically hammered for my trouble.
@Deeliciousss
2 ай бұрын
He told me he’s an alcoholic, selfish, and doesn’t need anyone. He’s just fine all by himself. I documented each of these confession in my head and my gut, then I said to him “I bless you with love and release you. You’re free and I’m free.” ❤
@LuvliexXJazzieXx
18 сағат бұрын
THROWING THE PHONE!! I’ve NEVER wanted to throw my phone ever before this and now All the time!!! The spider eggs are real!!!!! I have severe nerve damage from this break up. Cognitive dissonance “somatic dissonance” IS REAL & TERRIFYING!!!!
@vester7457
Жыл бұрын
I have a deeply narcissistic sister 18 months younger. I'm 64 now. In November 2013, at age 55, I was at her house. Long story short, her behavior was so awful, something inside me snapped. I'd had this behavior for decades. I abruptly left the occasion and made up my mind I was done. I started researching the net and figured it out: she's a narcissist. I was like Saul on the road to Damascus. The light of understanding finally turned on. Now I listen to Grannons videos. He has said things which I've said to a friend verbatim. I just nce told a friend, my sister has no horizontal relationships, only vertical. You can't believe how fun it was for me to hear Richard Grannon say the exact same thing.
@GD-DiDiano
5 ай бұрын
Do Narcissistic want you to be with other people? I say that bc my 12yr relationship she cheated on me. Multiple times over the years. She was under the impression I cheated back. Which in a sick way made her want me. I finally came clean and told her I NEVER cheated on you ever. And she’s been distance ever since
@hannahbell8537
2 ай бұрын
The more I watch the more understanding I get
@CamiLeft
Ай бұрын
word of caution, careful how much you even want to understand. this is VERY dark. And I LOATH dark. Understand enough to get that they are not even all human in my opinion. Part evil spirit, or they are worshiping one (or more) to survive. Be happy you found out at all. Some DIE in these relationships. Dare I say Nicole Brown Simpson and Ronald Goldman?? I said it! And YES, BLACK and Latin. RUN. "Understand" only enough to heal up, NEVER carry it into a new relationship, and move on FROM all of it with your life, and your sanity in tact. Prayers!
@palapalak.8907
2 ай бұрын
I got a new kitten. She is number 1 in my life now.... I go to the vet..setting up appointments...surgery. She has taken his place. I was crying and kitty licked my tears. Got a cat tower, toys, u name it... I am focusing on her health and mine. Dont think about the lying cheating Narc too much.
@robertamorgan4149
Жыл бұрын
Thank you. This is difficult to hear, but after 38 years, it helps. It's all switched up here, though. I need him to leave my house.
@Mika-kq1qd
7 ай бұрын
People treat us the way we allow them to and if we have low self worth self concept and little or no boundaries we invariably allow the Narcissist to treat us however they want to.. Accountability is in realizing how we are giving away our power energy and very sanity. Yes there are victims but there are also survivors.. victims refuse their own accountability actions/inactions in perpetuating this toxic dynamic/relationship.. survivors educate themselves hold themselves accountable for their own actions and decisions work on healing and breaking the toxic cycle by leaving
@Cool_Change
Жыл бұрын
Love you Richard! 😂❤ You described a narcissist no other than a Demon in disguise. My ex narc had a car rego that ended with 666!
@jacquelinetillyer8666
Жыл бұрын
OMG❤
@MarkLewinsohn
4 ай бұрын
Brilliant. I’ve read a lot. You’ve nailed it. Thank you . If I was in any doubt about my narcissistic traits .. yes. But she is the NARC. And will never admit it. Good bye. Good luck. Thank you for the memories & lessons
@adimeter
Жыл бұрын
You are right Richard. When I learned I had the right to say no, and when I implemented it I healed up a great deal. Growing up I was never taught that I could say anything remotely like NO.
@sonja-silva
15 күн бұрын
I have a feeling that the people who say that you are demonising the Narcs, have never had a relationship with a true Narc.... Actually, The way you explain everything is so spot on, so good...
@notayoutuber09
Жыл бұрын
I had severe anxiety, especially with my curent gf. Then I started listening to stoicism and other philosophy quotes regarding life and regulating your mind in troubled times. Stoicism quotes from Marcus Aurelius and the other man i forget his name have really helped live in the present and stop the ruminating going on.
@meriemmimi104
Жыл бұрын
That's tomporary , i remember being in your place no stoicism will rescue you when she becomes one perse in the end only running away will help you
@notayoutuber09
Жыл бұрын
@@meriemmimi104 i totally agree you need to run away, im just saying in the moment for those going through severe anxiety and rumination, thats what has helped me
@karinbernhardt8747
Жыл бұрын
@@notayoutuber09 big hug from Holland. You are good and save now. karin. 👍✌💜🌼🎈 Love your comment.
@roberttruman8444
11 ай бұрын
I recently discovered Stoicism and find it very valuable. Yes it can help you as part of a coping mechanism. But unfortunately narcissistic relationships have nowhere to go but down, and you cannot alter the trajectory. I applied stoic philosophy and newly found knowledge of attachment styles to a narcissistic relationship before I knew it was narcissistic, but if I found a way of reducing anxiety and copdependence she would work to find new ways to counteract them. For example I was getting so anxious about how she would read my messages but not respond for many hours at a time. She would try to make excuses for this and I was always torn between wanting to give her the benefit of the doubt, and calling her out on her lies. I decided to turn off read receipts on my phone, and she even noticed and questioned why I did this and I told her it was to save me from my anxious mind. She reduced communication a lot after this and stopped answering her phone and pretending that she was always too busy. Definitely keep up with the stoic philosophy, especially if you have always been, or have developed 'rejection sensitivity'. I think it was Marcus Aurelius who talked about how it's not the insult that hurts us but our interpretation that hurts, which is so true. I would get really affected by close friends and family when they criticised me for "always' doing this or that. But now when I hear an 'always' statement I impersonate Michael Parkinson and politely ask them to list the times when I "always did...........". Maybe they'd get 1 time, but I'd ask for another and another and watch their petit argument crumble before asking them in a slightly condescending tone if they thought 1 or 2 was the same as 'always'.
@brigittecuthbertson7197
Күн бұрын
I couldn’t have found this at a better time. Something as simple as pointing out the Narcissists behaviour had caused another person pain was enough for the mask to completely fall off ! I was accused for being the source of drama and creating situations what wonderful projection! I have learned to remove myself from drama and toxicity and feel this “ friend” envy’s that, what does a Narcissist do with someone that would rather be alone than surrounded by unhealthy?
@suetrollope6245
Жыл бұрын
I love that you have said it's not a merit badge!!!!! We are expected to tolerate so much bad behaviour nowadays.
@pratibhatiwari6992
2 ай бұрын
The thing is that i saw the red flag first time and i believed (understood) but i had not enough strength to leave that person or to be alone. I had to grow and strengthen myself in order to leave that person. It happens when you have your parents narcissist. You don't know anything emotionally you to grow your self emotionally starting from a child to your current age. And it takes immense amount of inner work. Its like breaking your self and then arranging in correct order.
@HalyeyFlaUK
6 ай бұрын
Omg the truth, you’re so amazing… … the story i have is soooo long, like many others over a year long affair the lies the gaslighting to me and our toddler , the fake trips , the fake work itineraries the gas lighting constantly. He even lives with the 3rd party but text me 2 weeks ago saying “please take the dog I’m done, i would have a been a great dad, blah blah”,, the next day i said “are you ok?” and he said “ I”’m fine i was in a mood” … !!! the pain and hovering and breadcrumbing is insane. He was my best friend for 10 years. He surprised me with a “house” would send 100 red roses to my work and then ripped the carpet and my life from under me and now looks at me like I’m a piece of shit on the ground… he and the other woman laugh at me .. he will do it to her too
@Oceansgreen
4 ай бұрын
Yes, I’m a piece of shit too to ex narc husband… who the hell do they think they are???
@ashshaunts6989
9 күн бұрын
Just found your channel a couple days ago n awsome ty for your words of wisdom. Just getting out a 5 yr narrcist discard n I've had it. Discarded like 4 times n he moved out on me for the last time in April n still trying MSG everyday n help out financially can't wait till I can stand on my own to feet again. Having kids thrown in the mix is not good for anyone. We r free now n it ain't happening again.
@AnimaMea1111
Жыл бұрын
I’m going to listen to this video at least two more times. Only those who have felt “it” know it’s depth. If I can envision the “badass” it will take to emerge from “it”…I’m gaining ground, slowly…so very slowly. Great job! Very moving.
@luciderr
Жыл бұрын
Definitely. Everyone could listen to it, but without the direct experience it's like a color blind person listening about colors. It takes suffering to actually believe that it is exactly as described.
@lreevesnyc21
Жыл бұрын
@@luciderr EXACTLY. For those who have not experienced this, they cannot relate AT ALL.
@edainari
21 күн бұрын
OMG I JUST escaped my narcissistic ex-spouse. When Richard describes the victim's reaction of panic and exhaustion at the prospect of or actual interaction with the narcissist, he 1000% described what I'm going and did go through. I needed that vindication, that reminder b/c I was the one who filed for divorce. My brain sabotages me with guilt, b/c I'm a big hearted person who loves to love and a very moral person who was taught divorce is wrong. But then (esp. with Richard's help) I remember how my body suffered increased panic and exhaustion, especially towards the last and still is, it grounds me SO much. It shatters any illusions my brain tries to create and exonerates me. It jars me OUT of the trauma bond, a step towards healing I desperately need. It also reminds me why I no longer hold a traditional job and can no longer go back to a traditional workplace, employer/employee situation, not even to gain a much-needed economic survival (my spouse was the primary earner), because over the past decade +, EVERYWHERE I worked I ended up severely abused by narcissistic bosses.
@tammyhollis1519
Жыл бұрын
"Looking for clues...trying to fight for reality..." that slapped me in the face.
@landed1111
4 ай бұрын
ALL my Pennie’s literally dropped! I’m virtually broke!! My mental lights are switched on! THANK YOU @richardgrannon I cracked a laugh after months of crying, mourning, grieving after years of NPD abuse! First subject expert that I’ve listened to where I don’t feel clinically spoken to! Keep being yourself 🙏
@yagushka
Жыл бұрын
Took me 6 months and 2 operations to get fixed after 18 months with one of those. Lunacy is a very good word for him. Just seen his profile on an online dating site and want to scream to warn other women but for him I feel nothing. I’m so glad I’m out of this fantasy.
@hannahbell8537
2 ай бұрын
Thank you Richard. I feel confused and crazy thinking about it but Watching your videos I feel less confused and crazy
@CampmywayBC
Жыл бұрын
My Brother, you Sir .. are SO BANG ON. I can not even begin to tell you how Grateful I am for this wisdom you share with us today. Much RESPECT from the backcountry mountains in British Columbia Canada. Thank you Brother.
@chrisallen5257
Ай бұрын
I have a Narcissistic Personality type in my life uninvited. He is wealthy from a wealthy family with power. This guy is special forces. He purchases his ability to be near me. He tells people he is my husband. He stole my truck and filled it with my things and ran it off the mountain. I have scars. I do what I can to stay sane. What saves me is that we have not had a relationship. I did not need him for emotional support. I do not take responsibility for his stuff. He comes to see me every day. We have the same content every day. He is normal for 1 minute. He lies within 5 minutes. He bullies me within 10 minutes. I say leave. Hundreds of times. My things will be stolen. My car windshield broken. And on and on.
@naegarner
Жыл бұрын
Lying mouth noises 😂 so very accurate 💯👏🏾
@SA-un8nn
27 күн бұрын
4. This is beyond true.. and so creepy that you can call this. I thought it was a secret thing I was doing; being kind as an example in the face of whatever meanness he was dishing out.. but I didn't know that anyone could be that mean - anyone that I would let get close to me. I used to think that there must be a human being in there, if I just stay calm and don't give in to the aggression, he will see/hear me eventually. He just saw my lack of aggression as weakness, and got worse towards me.
@Heal..Restore..Moveforward
4 ай бұрын
I'm recovering from narcisstic abuse...it is very very hard going but the past few days I've felt like I want to laugh out loud at how ridiculous it all was..how ridiculous the narc was. The games...the manipulation...the set up...the devaluing...the blame...more games...it just went round and round. Thank you for sharing all your knowledge. 😊🙏🪷
@frankly1744
Жыл бұрын
Amen: The consistent GasLighting is brain damaging, Literally. I am in trauma counselling and it is daibolacal who I had to become to stay in it. Reason would say if you leave and you will be OK, that is not always the case. But on the Topic of what is funny.... I got to get away, those who are have NPD have to live in their skin FOREVER. So, the best revenge is Leave, you get better, with age (hopefully), sadly, they get worse. That is enough for me. Thank God for the beautiful Strength that self empathy gives, and the courage it takes to leave. I found I am smarter than I had been told, Stronger, than I ever knew, and am becoming better daily.
@LilKRN80
Күн бұрын
I love your quirky sarcasm out of the blue plus your intelligence.
@everythingispose-able2543
Жыл бұрын
4:15 “When someone shows you who they are believe them the first time.” ― Maya Angelou
@Changemylife-m9n
Ай бұрын
I can't help but laugh as I listen to you Richard. I feel a degree of hope for the victims thanks to you. It's not that I don't think this is an horrendously serious matter for all concerned. However, if the way you deliver can help people like me who are struggling in relationship with a post NPD victim, to have insights into their horrific world & therefore love them all the more for their bravery in trusting us ( me) with their fragility, then you are doing a mighty fine job. Keep forever coming with your teaching & support.Because I need it as much as the gorgeous guy I have fallen in love with .
@Littletots-cc1st
Жыл бұрын
I wish I’d known this before . When someone shows you who there are then believe them. I have learnt the the hard way. I was in a horrible narcissistic relationship where eventually I was physically hurt, although the emotional abuse , gaslighting and smear campaign was so much worse. I’ve gone no contact but I still feel stupid and completely done in but I wasn’t aware of this disorder at the time . This relationship has totally destroyed me and I’m struggling and I don’t know where to go for help. I feel like no one understands this sort of abuse.
@joematters1982
Жыл бұрын
I am letting you know majority of the Global stage has no idea. Certain laws passed down are literally Made to protect the narcissistic. We breathe it, consume it, see it, bad taste in one’s mouth just str8 rag doll
@The_Will_Brown_Show
10 ай бұрын
Sir, I would absolutely love to see you do a video on the CHRISTIAN NARCISSIST. 🙏
@Discerningthetimes777
Жыл бұрын
Leaving them I discovered me. I chose me. Relationships are like mirrors that allow you to see what's broken in you. Therapy wasn't for them but for me to heal the trauma from my childhood. My life is 💯 percent better now. I have time to live my best life now that it's not being consumed by their trauma.
@susanseip373
Жыл бұрын
My husband was married to a NPD who used him up and left him a shell of his former self. Turned his children against him and continues to play her vile games all these years later. We have set firm boundaries with her and it has made her crazy. Or crazier than she already was. These are very destructive chameleons. These videos have help me so much begin to understand the sick idealism my husband showed for years towards her despite her vicious ways. Thank you for this enlightenment.
@nicholecornes1915
7 ай бұрын
I'm so sorry 😢 the are the most evil people walking on this planet 😢😢😢
@lazycatdayz4ever905
Жыл бұрын
Richard, so grateful for your wisdom. Thank you for using your experience to help others extract themselves from the matrix. I am almost 11 months NO CONTACT. He still sends me letters. I see every manipulation clearly now and actually it is quite fascinating. I have grieved, destroyed my childish fantasy of relationships, and grow stronger every day. Becoming an emotionally literate badass!
@gwendolynwehage6336
Ай бұрын
This is exactly right! Having lived all my life with a narcissistic family system I know how damaging it is to the target. These people never are sorry for what they do on a regular basis thinking they have a good reason, but it is they who are doing all the rot not us. God has taken out of my heart any desire at all to be around them. When I think they are coming for a visit I pray for strength to deal with them and I even pray that they will not come through His orchestration.
@thebatmom
Жыл бұрын
I was going to check myself into the psych hospital because he made me believe, and even made it look like everyone else even all thought I was crazy, and demon possessed .. knowing in the back of my mind that he was the crazy person.. but God the brainwashing and the fear we have from being trained to cowar was so hard
@cc1k435
Жыл бұрын
I thought I had ADHD or early dementia. Turns out, he just needed to be gone. 😂
@thebatmom
Жыл бұрын
@cc 1k 100% omg yessss!!!! Unfortunately I'm still 2nd guessing everything, but atleast the stuttering is not as bad as it was when I first left
@kikikiki3216
3 ай бұрын
Good thing you didn't. Them bastards! God will judge them.
@cirrusism
Жыл бұрын
One: if it's your mother, you will have to make sure that if you want freedom to make sacrifices. I have not talked to siblings in 6-7 years after leaving my mom. Also helps that my eldest sister is a sociopath.
@maytheforcebewithyou4313
11 ай бұрын
Same - entirely NC 6 years from fam. Mom moved goal posts, never was going to release me and say "I am proud of you" I set myself free, who is anyone to hold my life hostage? Grrrrr! 😂😠
@gloriannehamm5610
6 ай бұрын
Omg! You are so right! So glad I found this. It is absolutely craziness. Over two years on a rollercoaster.
@michellelarsen2772
2 ай бұрын
That is a quote by.. someone 😂 OMG, I f*cking love this guy. Thank you, thank you, thank you for all that you share ❤❤❤
@rozibj
Жыл бұрын
Richard, you are an absolute lifesaver and I will be forever grateful for you sharing your wisdom and helping me pick myself up from rock bottom. This is my favorite video on the internet right now. Thank you thank you thank you.
@joannabelghith8195
2 ай бұрын
I left 2 years ago... then I started to learn what narcissism is. One year in of my learning journey and I'm refusing to have all contact with them. My life never been better. We have 2 kids but I still don't communicate with him I'm just communicate about the kids everything else I don't respond to... he still try, but ut just makes me laugh now.
@tuscanyldy
11 ай бұрын
I recently ended the nightmare just 3 months ago. I wish I would have found your videos sooner....there are lots of videos on the subject...but the way you explain everything is so clear and like you are a fly in the wall of daily routine of life with a narcissist. But I have escaped hell and I'm grateful and relieved and learning each day not to judge myself too harshly for not ending it sooner. I love your videos! Thank you. 😊
@jodishadle8114
Ай бұрын
I wish I had got this info and advice 35 years ago. My kids and I have endured so much abuse, and I feel guilty about keeping them in the situation while I tried to fix it. 😢
@Lizditz
Жыл бұрын
I’m loving your book ! I’m short lived in the narcissist world so I’ll move on soon. But I thank you from the bottom of my heart for your compassion wisdom and dedication that has helped me heal ❤️
@marisolorosco4345
Жыл бұрын
Hi Richard. Just found you a few days ago and I am honestly hooked on your videos! I am in the process of leaving a very toxic narcissistic marriage and when I feel the sadness and self doubt, your videos have been bringing me back to reality and common sense. He never cared for me, i was ALWAYS a tool for him. I am a genuinely, caring and giving person in my nature and this has been a difficult process for me but I watched your video about the dual mothership and it really all makes sense. Plus, your sense of humor while speaking on this very serious topic is refreshing to my soul and I am so grateful for that. I'm understanding that I am not crazy (although, isn't that what the Narcs swear). Thank you for all that you do. Bless you.
@daftmarto13591
Жыл бұрын
Your whole channel means the world to me right now, thank you so much for sharing your experiences and advices, it's incredibly helpful.
@kelly450
Ай бұрын
I really like the "venomous spider eggs" in your brain description..! PERFECT that's EXACTLY what it feels like!! They ARE Spiders!!🕸🕷 SO PRECISELY ACCURATE!! Grey Rock...🪨
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