"They try to find an external solution to an internal problem". That is an excellent short answer explanation. It really says it all.
@pretheeshgpresannan4172
Күн бұрын
and they end up succesful externally
@janiced.hatcher1272
22 сағат бұрын
100 thumbs up 👍
@thejavandenberg4509
Күн бұрын
Wow , very bright , clear explanation and it is all true .
@amgc6079
Күн бұрын
They are probably the most inauthentic entity that i know. They even copy their own kids' interests and attitudes without any shame. So stupid
@phoenixrisin2269
Күн бұрын
They get supply from their kids co workers and friends and will even sleep with family members. They are twisted with zero boundaries
@francesbernard2445
Күн бұрын
It is true that people who are narcissistic have unreasonable standards. The narcissist manipulates a person through playing the victim, lying and doing mischief that borders on worse while planting toxic shame and diminished self-esteem and low self-worth in the people whom they are exploiting through then severe emotional abuse and sometimes through physical abuse too. It is a kind of slave owner mindset.
@micheleclark495
Күн бұрын
Exactly right
@angelanicoletti3330
Күн бұрын
@francesbernard2445, Yes this is true. Thank you.
@ΑικατερινηΦραγκου-θ7κ
Күн бұрын
Healing after herendous abuse is a problem... especially when literally your all alone in the world...
@teresacastanedacastaneda6555
Күн бұрын
You are not alone....many of us are in the same space
@vaijayantigulve4883
Күн бұрын
You are not alone. Many are in the same boat. May God heal us all..!! ❤
@pretheeshgpresannan4172
Күн бұрын
"learned helplessness" is the term Sam Vaknin calls this. He would say it was the "learned helplesness" that forced one to put up with a$$#0!3$ in the first place let alone healing from it.
@ΑικατερινηΦραγκου-θ7κ
19 сағат бұрын
@@pretheeshgpresannan4172 ...yes thankyou..you are so right..i follow the professor sometimes..i hope i can find this lecture..🌹
@Deborah-uw5ip
Сағат бұрын
I think I've finally come to terms with the typical narcissist. If they're a "false person" then it's like interacting with a ghost. Not much fun and can be disturbing. Avoid them like the plague. Thank you Danish for your concise explanations, it helps a lot!
@jezelche3456
9 сағат бұрын
Narcissists often live in their ego also known as basically a bubble of delusion that keeps them in the mentality of everything is so good, I’m so great. Except, while the bubble may be soothing their fragile ego. It’s basically leading them to a place where they may as well have no choice but to change if they want to have a better life considering they’re often oblivious to things that may cost them their health, sanity, etc. I kid you not the last narcissist I dealt with got diagnosed with cancer less than a week after I had confronted him and as shocking and as much as I would’ve never wished that upon him. I’m not surprised that this was his fate considering cancer is something that literally makes you have to change in order to get better, much less stay alive or you’ll be 6 feet under in no time.
@donnastitz1497
11 сағат бұрын
" A Narcissist can Never be thankful EVER" U got that right.my friend....unfortunately :( Everything U said is true.....very sad :(
@somewhereinabudhabiUAE
Күн бұрын
They are restless, so they don't do anything consistently enough to excel at it. However, they know a little about a lot of things, which is enough to impress you at a surface level.
@faresalynch4978
Күн бұрын
Precisely correct!
@pretheeshgpresannan4172
Күн бұрын
They are restless because they were not offered a restful place by their parents in childhood for theor pain and emotions to be centered nor they got that restful space from their love-demanding new partners either... They attarct partners who sense possible fatherly-love from the narc (which narcs can supply here and then for they know the love they did not get) instead of seeing the painful condition they are in and risk offering them a safe restful space. We might be a better off narcissist compared to the one he mentions in the video. We must be grateful to not be that kind of narc. Wonder if we were that narc how hard it might be right but lucky us.
@Andrea-HeIsKing
Күн бұрын
People traumatized are restless too. I've been fighting/ flight most of my life. Healing is hard when you are a target constantly. No contact/ no relationship for 6 years but I'm being threatened and harassed by psychopath neighbors and they are raising psychopath children. Yes. It is demonic and they been chasing me for 57 years.
@janiced.hatcher1272
22 сағат бұрын
100 thumbs up 👍
@gemmy1151
9 сағат бұрын
Yes they can. Some of the most degree collecting and rich people I have met have been utter pure Narcissists.
@bailujen8052
Күн бұрын
I haven't watched the video yet, whatever this video has, I'm glad I broke free from Narcissism and my mother's intentions on me (trying to turn me into a narcissist like her)
@LittleLulubee
Күн бұрын
Very accurate description! Thank you 💙
@sunnycatc6491
Күн бұрын
This is all so true thank you.
@tamihunt3659
Күн бұрын
This is all true He wasn't wanted in childhood. He was nothing to the mother. No self of self..a mixture of parents, family, and brain damage.
@BuckleyThompson
Күн бұрын
Sexlessness. Sharing a bed with someone who doesn’t acknowledge you are a sexual being hurts so much. I was in a sexless marriage for years. Being a woman with a high libido, I felt inadequate. Worst I feel invisible. The man who was “supposed” to want me, just didn’t. We talked about it many times, more than I can recall now. It was always me. I wanted too much - once a week was too much for him. I didn’t initiate - he was always complaining of headaches, stomaches, always stressed, always tired. I was too sexual - when being subtle doesn’t work, what is next? Explicitly saying I wanted sex. Oh but then it was not appropriate. Conversations would end up with him saying he didn’t feel desired or I made him feel emasculated because he didn’t want sex as much as I did. Yeah, it was always me. I could never win. While we were dating we would have a decent amount of sex, it was good. The first huge red flag was not having sex in our honeymoon - which I ignored. It rapidly decrease to once a week, then every other week. Years gone by it was months in between, by the time we divorced it was over a year with no sex. I cried myself to sleep more times that I can count. I didn’t understand what was wrong with me. Was I that undesirable? Was I repulsive? After those conversations, I just stopped trying, initiating, mentioning sex. We were still loving - holding hands, hugging, kissing - but sex was off the table. He then cheated on me. Swore he had sex only 4 times in a year (or more) long affair. It didn’t matter. For years my self worth was damaged by him, years of low self esteem, years of feeling less of a woman, the marriage that was more than over, waiting in hospice, really ended. Funny how things are, I asked him for a divorce, he manipulated me into staying, next day his infidelity came to light. I was out as soon as I could. Best thing of my life. Additionally, That feeling when your partner cheated and you don't have the courage to leave him / her so you just death with the pain and live everyday asking questions about your worth. This pain is different from the cheating one_living and seeing him everywhere anticipating when he or she do it again. The best thing is to hire a private investigator digitalinvestigate@gmail. com to help you spy on their cellphone remotely just like he did for me...
@Acc-eh8pp
Күн бұрын
Gimme a call.hehe
@audrablue515
Күн бұрын
I feel your pain. I had almost the exact same experience. We weren't married or living together but he strung me along with those promises. When he would come over, he would complain of being tired and he just couldn't do anything. He always turned away from me to sleep, feigning an injured shoulder that he couldn't sleep on and it was the shoulder that he would be lying on if had to face me. He told me that s3x woke him up instead of making him sleepy like 99% of the population. I always thought that was weird. He would only hug me with one arm and when I complained he'd put the other arm around me, but only half way and then move away after a few seconds. He never kissed me properly. And when I would start physical stuff with him, he lay there stiff as a board, completely terrified, holding his breath and he would inevitably experience extreme ED. He either couldn't get hard at all, or he would get semi hard and then it would disappear almost immediately. It always baffled me why he was this way when I'd never had issues with men finding me attractive in the past and he managed to have 3 children with his ex wife. I didn't find out until recently that a decade ago when we were together, he was cheating on me with women half his age. That explained the date nights that he constantly had to disappear from to deal with "stuff at home" and him never wanting me in bed. I'm friends with his ex wife now and she told me so many things about what he's really like and it explains pretty much everything. She told me he cheated on her a month into their marriage and she walked in on him face down in her female cousin's crotch. When she confronted him, he blamed her for driving him to it. There were other horror stories about him and she even experienced a miscarriage which she still cries about 20-odd years later. He never grieved with her, in fact, he just kept running around with other women, leaving her to deal with the grief and loss and the health issues she had after it all. And the worst part is, she told me that I got the worst of him. 😮😮😮☹☹☹😳😳😳
@justman4891
Күн бұрын
I should've married you!! I'm in same situation as you except not married but it's hard for me to leave, tied up finances, small child. I'm highly sexual and it never happens at home. Twice last year and twice this year. I'm seeking that outside of the relationship now. Just being honest. I don't feel like I'm in the relationship with the narc anymore
@HamletsMill1969
Күн бұрын
Stay strong! You never deserved any of their negligence. Take care of yourself and realize you are the strong one here!! You will gain more mental clarity as days go by. Attach to your happiness, let go of the pain. Try dark chocolate, Sunshine and exercise to stay strong and happy!!
@closingthedivide1187
Күн бұрын
These people hire THE best storytellers. 😂 That said, if there was any modicum of truth to the female that was featured in the story, cheers to her! 😅🎉
@Supernaturalluck777
Күн бұрын
Danish, thank you.
@081hannah
Күн бұрын
Crazy thing in that is.. you start to think you are narcicist and they are okey.
@pretheeshgpresannan4172
Күн бұрын
So if they begin to think they are the narcissist and suffers thinking about being the worst person in the universe with his mind torturing him with heart ache that he deserve hell compared to "all good" others then he/they must be not a narcissist?
@loriw1189
Күн бұрын
Thank you Danish
@janinemccartha1811
Күн бұрын
Hi Danish. Why do narcissists always want to argue & always choose the negative behaviors & situations over positive? Peace ✌️, love, Miss Janine💯🌴🧸🫶⌚️
@HiddenJewelz
Күн бұрын
Not really. They're great at acting. If they can keep a job they're great at pretending. It's the personal relationshipa they suck at
@yuu_miran
Күн бұрын
Yes, they r often v competent at their jobs
@gemmy1151
9 сағат бұрын
Been around some lovely old money people Salt of the earth and nice to everyone. But I have met far too many new money strivers who are textbook narcissists and truly enjoy themselves. So rich and cozy and powerful narcs are different than frustrated and poor ones.
@karenzilverberg4699
17 сағат бұрын
Thanks, Danish.
@barbaragottwaldt9739
Күн бұрын
Unfortunately we cannot send them to the desert alone... and they always seem to find supply somehow.... Wondering how will their collapse happen ?
@gemmy1151
9 сағат бұрын
I am now old enough to not pin ANY hopes on a narcissist collapsing who has 1. Power. 2. Money. 3. Army of flying monkeys. One of the worst died couple years ago at 97 ! His obituary makes him sound like a Saint. Net worth 36 million. Meanwhile he got rich by legally taking all of the property of his clients when they died and using a criminal laundering auction house and heirs ended up with 1/1000th the value. The stories I could tell. But I favor my head on my shoulders. A wing of a school being named after him. I heart Danish, but I think it's so important to just do everything possible NOT to dwell on anything regarding the Narcissist and HOW their life is going well or not. If they take you or your kins' money, Get what you can back from them, but quickly move on and concentrate on YOUR life.
@vikitorres5285
22 сағат бұрын
Gracias, cuando estás perdido en el torbellino de la maldad narcisista sientes perder el piso y todo a tu alrededor es un caos te aferras a la cuerda dorada del amor a Dios y ruegas con toda tu alma. Gracias por recordarnos que gozamos de ese vínculo con nuestro Creador. He esperado justicia 42 años, ya no importa ese tiempo perdido porque ahora se que encontraré la paz anhelada en Dios. Bendiciones
@DL-ip4im
Күн бұрын
They are impostors
@LittleLulubee
Күн бұрын
FRAUDS
@micheleclark495
Күн бұрын
You just explain my husband soon to be ex husband. I made a big mistake by talking to him again and now he is starting to act a fool again and driving me crazy. I don't know what to do now because he just keeps pushing and I'm loosing my mind and I just want it to stop for good. Please pray for me.
@nicmacmahon5697
Күн бұрын
Hi danish. Hope you re well
@noreenhussain2837
Күн бұрын
Can I ask....what if you see that your child has a narcissistic trait? How do you make sure they don't turn up like their dad?!😢 I feel my daughter is like that. So I am so lost.
@Hawaiiansky11
Күн бұрын
Narcissists’ overdeveloped sense of smell is because they are animalistic and this do not have complex brains like humans. Yet they are human in that animals are rarely diabolical.
@Blue-m4s
Күн бұрын
Sehr interessant! Perfekte Jäger also! Die machen scheinbar Jagd auf reine Herzen😮
@somewhereinabudhabiUAE
Күн бұрын
They are often deeply calculating and aware of how to manipulate human emotions, making them far more complex than animals. It’s their combination of impulse and calculation that can make them so dangerous.
@Everythingismeaningless344
Күн бұрын
This is crazy. The narc in my life always had an insane sense of smell. COVID lessened that, but it's still pretty decent. Crazy how similar narc's are.
@bradmcewen
Күн бұрын
Reptilian in every way.
@Anu-th2cg
Күн бұрын
@@Everythingismeaningless344mine has super crazy sense of smell.
@HamletsMill1969
Күн бұрын
They know it all! Yes Danish!! Is THAT grandiosity or what? 😂 Oof!! 😮
@pretheeshgpresannan4172
Күн бұрын
We know it all about the narcissists however and we are sure we have zero bits of narcissism in us, the heavenly people, us (?)
@HamletsMill1969
Күн бұрын
@@pretheeshgpresannan4172 well, the dark empath does exist
@ClothedinRighteousness-w6h
Күн бұрын
"Highly incompitent"!!🤭 Yes i agree very much.!!😶🌫️ I can think of MUCH more than📼5📝 reasons.📸, "you know" Really nice MESSAGE thou, that everyone soon will know. Mr.Bashir. THANKS 👍 Keep keep Keep keep on blasting the TRUTH 👍 🐬👔👮
@lamoon1525
Күн бұрын
These guys are the devil incarnate. If you find yourself involved with one - get un-involved.
@jennifernelson9980
15 сағат бұрын
They are funny!! They will say" I dont need you." " I dont need anyone." I can live on my on." You will need me before I need you"
@katechisham9345
Күн бұрын
I was very sick with severe asthma and would not take me to the ER
@pretheeshgpresannan4172
Күн бұрын
learned helplessness? Sam Vaknin would say so "I am entitled to my helplessness'. I don't want to say so though...
@rinisusilowati848
Күн бұрын
Dr Danish..can they change become normal human being change they behavier?
@Nisha-vh2mr
8 сағат бұрын
I feel like i dont have these qualities am i a narcissist 😢...my husband said iam a narcissist and he left me and my daughter alone.....only after he says i started searching about NPD Am i really a narcissist
@FaithWorksHealing-z3p
Күн бұрын
I see so many people in the comments expressing deep pain and struggles. As someone who has fully healed-thank God-I urge you to seek help from a coach or mentor. The sooner you reach out, the faster you can heal, and they can guide you through the process more effectively. I currently offer coaching programs and have created a resource that can help support your journey. It doesn`t have to be me but please, find someone to help you. It took me 10 years to heal from trauma, and I know I could have healed faster with the right guidance. God bless you all on your healing journey!
@gemmy1151
9 сағат бұрын
But many are very good at doing anything thing they can to get money and become rich. A court ordered guardian robbed me as remainderman of my father's estate. He had done this for hundreds of other clients. Corrupt courts in a state of th East Coast allowed him to do this. I know he is ENJOYING his riches. He has a vast army of flying monkeys. He has managed to destory the lives of not one but 4 people whose family members he took as captive clients. Don't underestimate how just collecting things and going on lavish trips totally fulfills Narcissists. You're a deep and lovely and sensitive person Danish. But some people operate on a level where they regularly get their narcissism stroked and rewarded and never really feel down or fail on a purely external and materialistic level. I finally faced that the ONLY thing you can do is concentrate on YOU and not what happenes to the Narcissist.
@Blue-m4s
Күн бұрын
Danke🎉❤
@b8akaratn
Күн бұрын
10:31 🤔 may i please add that if a third party were to become present -- say, a child comes home from school? -- the tone changes, so that in front of the new person, your Narcspouse may become a thespian! 🎬🎭
@LocustaVampa
Күн бұрын
I believe that narcissists are all too human.
@ConnieMitchell-k3n
Күн бұрын
The 😈 fell from heaven talking and doing just like a narcissist.
@suja7129
Күн бұрын
CORRECT Danish
@Gina-el8kn
17 сағат бұрын
Do they believe in their own made up self image,or are they aware of and intend harm on others?
@wookieiam1
Күн бұрын
My narcissist makes a lot of money. I am one of his renters.
@pretheeshgpresannan4172
Күн бұрын
Maybe ask him to be a loser instead so we can certify him as evil and have a non-narcissists party.
@pretheeshgpresannan4172
Күн бұрын
How about succesful narcissists?
@gemmy1151
9 сағат бұрын
All of the narcissists I have been exposed to except one, were or ended up rich and powerful with flying monkeys. That's why I no longer try and check in on google search or social media to see if they've had a downfall. I gave up when the worst one died at 97 and was lauded as one of the finest humanitarians. GTF0 is the only answer.
@abhilash7381
Күн бұрын
But my enemies who are the biggest narcissists I have seen are top busines people How did that happen?
@pretheeshgpresannan4172
Күн бұрын
He might be indirectly guilt-tripping people who are crippled by trauma and end up as social losers while narcs are having fun and great social success.
@abhilash7381
Күн бұрын
@@pretheeshgpresannan4172 People who have too much fun will have to pay the price one day as well
@gemmy1151
9 сағат бұрын
@@pretheeshgpresannan4172 @abhilash7381 I live near one of the most popular cities in America which is also close to a nice beach resort. I think Danish is great, but nearly all the Narcissists I have been exposed to since I was young all ended up rich, powerful, with an army of "flying monkeys" (meaning people who protect them here in the States) I decided to STOP dwelling on them or hoping to follow their lives and see them fall down. The straw that broke the camel's back was when a horrible narcissist who legally stole all his clients' trust and will property when they died finally died himself at 97. People acted like a saint and king had died. His obituary lauded him as a great humanitarian. Net worth around 36 million. All from spending decades liquidating estates and keeping it for himself via secret accounts and channels. He used to be a judge and had too many people protecting him. So yes there are many successful Narcissists who never collapse from out point of view. Better to ONLY concentrate of yourself and extricate yourself away from these enemies. If you can start a new life, business, move that is the best answer. I did and I am well and happy and now have a comfortable life.
@SaminaQazi-q8c
Күн бұрын
No 1 can better explain Danish😢
@ColleenHogan-v6p
Күн бұрын
👂
@kennethgriffin1978
13 сағат бұрын
1000
@laxmisen6658
Күн бұрын
To deeply understand ....... Hindi help us more.....
@HeavenlyRainPath
Күн бұрын
Just remember Danish. Saul before he became Paul was a Narcissist. A lot of these gang bangers were Narcissists. Jesus does the impossible when we give our lives to him.
@dalebattaglia
Күн бұрын
Paul never changed. Do your own research about that. 🤔
@pretheeshgpresannan4172
Күн бұрын
@@dalebattaglia Even if he changed I won't allow or agree because my narcissist mind won't allow the possibility.
@Enigma-y3l
Күн бұрын
Do you think Modi is a narcissist?you are a Muslim by your name,how you are surviving in kashmir budgam?
@pretheeshgpresannan4172
Күн бұрын
He is channeling his narcissism into an activity that is worth serving for him such as being a leader and protecting the nation rather than torture himself by calling himself a narcissist 24 hours or marrry and make kids knowing the reality--he channeled it as he saw his helplesness in now going back and receiving proper love and nurture in childhood.. He shows love to his own narcissistic-tendencies rather than pretend
@Enigma-y3l
20 сағат бұрын
@@pretheeshgpresannan4172 you are talking about danish or modi? Who is this He? If he is modi than an empath cant cause a massacre of gujraat. Like hitler cant be an empath And like netanyahu cant be an empath And if He you are referring to modi G mahaan than go and check his interviews in one of his interviews THE GREAT MODI G EVEN CONFESS THAT HE IS NOT EVEN A BIOLOGICAL HUMAN BEING. THIS IS CALLED GOD COMPLEX,SUPERIORITY COMPLEX AND NARCISSTIC PERSONALITY DISORDER.
@Enigma-y3l
16 сағат бұрын
@@pretheeshgpresannan4172 really? Gujrat massacre and a sense of taking and grabbing whole power and control over masses and media indicates dictatorship in the mask of democracy like narcs wear masks and only improve images through continuous media controlling tactics like youtube and facebook are designed to erase certain comments which are not following the agendas of political powers.
@Enigma-y3l
16 сағат бұрын
@@pretheeshgpresannan4172 well i can write dozens of essays on this subject but only if media control agencies dont erase the content and comments which dont support their political agendas.
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