Hi Jeremy. I'm in South Africa. I recently searched Spotify for something helpful when I was (as usual) feeling really down. Somehow you popped up and I cannot tell me what a gift it was that day. You have done exactly what you set out to do, combining your background in psychology and your own life experience. I identify with you so perfectly and you have given me so much peace. I love your frankness and your humour. Thanks for going through everything you did to be able to bring all you do into our lives. Thank you so much Jeremy.
@letstalkaboutmentalhealth
2 жыл бұрын
Hi Jane! Thanks so much for your wonderful message, I’m very happy to hear that you’ve been enjoying my content and finding it helpful! What a kind message and it’s going straight into the ‘Nice Feedback’ folder that I keep on my phone in case I’m ever in need of a reminder why I do what I do, so thanks for putting a big smile on my face this morning and greetings in South Africa, I hope you have a fantastic week! All the best 😃😃😃
@gamzedeniz2507
4 ай бұрын
It can be difficult to have a serious conversation with family, especially when they have strong personalities or tend to dominate the discussion. Setting boundaries isn't easy, and you might face resistance or get told that they know better and you should listen to them. They might not accept their own mistakes and instead shift the blame onto you. One solution is to act like them until they recognize their own faults, because sometimes excessive kindness can lead to more trouble.
@letstalkaboutmentalhealth
4 ай бұрын
Respectfully, I disagree. Yes it is tough to set boundaries, and yes you're likely to face resistance... but that's precisely why boundaries are necessary, and why we need to be prepared for some short-term pain to achieve long-term gain. I will also say that acting like the person is acting will likely cause a wide range of issues; ultimately, two wrongs don't make a right, and a lot of people aren't able to see their own behaviour and/or how it affects others, which is where direct communication comes in. I totally understand where you're coming from, however I just encourage you to be aware that avoiding tough conversations tends to lead to more issues than it solves. All the best! Jeremy 😃
@matt-nz3739
13 күн бұрын
I totally agree on your statement here. I am in a similar situation as yours. Whenever I want to talk about mental health its "no, YOU HAVE TO SHUT UP", type way at home with my mom and my older brother. I spoke recently to a local manager here in NZ at our local pharmacy about my older brother's medication (Olanzipine) and why his life has gotten worse has the years have gone by, and why in my conversation with my support worker, the manager said to me "We'll I don't know how to deal with your older brother's issues". This is telling me their are cracks showing at our local Pharmacy here in NZ, and why the manager does not want to claim responsibility why my older brothers' medication has made life for himself and for our family this year. Just wondering, has anyone on this channel, been given any psychotic medication, and made life worse for maybe yourself or your loved ones. There is much evidence now that Psychotic meds can damage the Brain in the long term. Matt KZitem search Peter Breggin, Psychotic drugs are more dangerous than you think.
@zamahaz1302
10 күн бұрын
What am learning, be kindness can lead to be walked to when you real need help or compassion to very bad issue one have to face. lt all depends what state others are in. of its wrong time, walk away and look for person who real can understand where you are. The question l ask myself, are they right people to when am almost rock bottom state. l learnt too, dont let people judge you or tell you what to shpuld do. As some control people feed to it while they could not be same values as you. True, kindness and compassion are needed on delicate issues otherwise walk away.
@lana2332
9 сағат бұрын
The thing is that my parents have beef since they broke up and and my dad made me live with his mother, who's too abusive , overprotective and controlling . She always insults me , just bcz i look like my mom and she always follows me around in the city.. finally when i left her home and went to village for my mental health, and i told my father abt it i get no response, but when i got back in the city , the thing he asked me was if i would go back to my grandmas home, and he didnt even listen to reasons i had, and when i said that wouldn't, he just got mad and hang up the phone But what shockes me is that my dad knows shes like that , thats why he doesnt stay with his mom but he makes me stay with his mom , despite everything ?? They fight so he should know that she always makes me cry by those things But he still doesnt get me and doesnt listen to me what i have to say He just gets mad im with my mom now , if he loves his mom that much then he can stay with her right. But he doesnt bcz he knows how hes but he still lets me do it, i dont understand whats wrong with him 😢
@zamahaz1302
10 күн бұрын
Am glad l found this when l do need it. Subscribe.
@letstalkaboutmentalhealth
10 күн бұрын
Glad to hear it!
@JovuinaBrown
2 ай бұрын
Thank you it learn me what to do
@letstalkaboutmentalhealth
2 ай бұрын
Glad I could help!
@jacquelinekabugo-raderson1878
3 ай бұрын
Some of these family members ... they don't seem to care even when I've mentioned that they are causing me so much stress 😵💫 Here to learn from you 😊
@letstalkaboutmentalhealth
3 ай бұрын
Unfortunately people tend to put their own needs and agendas first and foremost... so they may not be ready or able to hear that. All you can do is take them where they're at now, be clear about expressing your needs/issues, and then set and maintain very clear boundaries. It's that last bit that is the most challenging (and potentially painful) because it often means having to distance yourself emotionally... but if you give someone multiple opportunities to show you respect and they still don't, you need to be the one to show yourself respect.
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