Comment down below where you are watching from (Let's push this algorithm) 😎
@KatyWithAWhyyy
Жыл бұрын
Middle of America - suburbs of Kansas City (:
@audbod4140
Жыл бұрын
Glasgow
@lana9788
Жыл бұрын
Dorset, UK
@lucindakennedy7966
Жыл бұрын
Ireland
@LissaRes
Жыл бұрын
Ohio
@scotttully8572
Жыл бұрын
I always thought in a healthy relationship we discover depths and faults in each other. Not so with a narc: the more you know about them, the more they hate you. You’re not supposed to figure them out.
@samuelfoston4556
Жыл бұрын
Just another fella making stuff up and acting like he’s knowledgable, whilst simultaneously demonstrating what little value there is in his knowledge. Standard behaviour for a Grannon victim.
@kandebabou
Жыл бұрын
@@samuelfoston4556 if you have ever experienced being in a close relationship with a narcissist (family members, friends etc.) then you would know that the above comment is accurate. You don't need to have a PhD in psychology to understand the damage done by narcissists - you just need to have live through it.
@catshouse6192
Жыл бұрын
No, we are not supposed figure them out, in their minds we are stupid and weak, and not at all that we are kind, caring and patient too much for our good. We rather delude ourselves for a period of time than admit that these kind of creatures can exist. When narcs get figured out by us, their ego can't bare the fact that stupid and weak are actually them.
@clevelandwilliams5922
Жыл бұрын
They have an agenda and it’s all by design. So no sympathy whatsoever.
@Alabamasparra
Жыл бұрын
Totally true fed up of narcassism!! xx
@NettieKay
Жыл бұрын
When I finally couldn’t stand it and wrote a long text telling him how he hurt me and how I thought he was narcissistic, he blocked me and told me he didn’t trust me. He didn’t like that I saw through him. I’m now a threat, to exposing him for who he is.
@freedomwarrior5087
4 ай бұрын
I told my ex years ago that I had figured him out and that he couldn't lie to me anymore, so just give it up. He then packed a suitcase and left and never returned, not even for the rest of his stuff. Of course little did I know at the time his new supply was all ready to go.
@jcbanbury
4 ай бұрын
Same! TWO of them blocked me instantly! Anyone innocent has no reason to disappear!
@jcbanbury
4 ай бұрын
@@freedomwarrior5087you are lucky! They disappear when caught!
@nexult5733
5 ай бұрын
Yes please who lack self worth and respect. They are unable to achieve success …and are jealous of people who have WORTH!
@SJ-ow7ui
20 күн бұрын
@nexult5733 So on point.
@ttp7819
Жыл бұрын
If the Devil can't get to you, He will send a Narcissist. TRUTH!!
@kat-75
Жыл бұрын
A snake or rapist too. Or a mask wearing liar in different forms.
@pamelaprivette5361
Жыл бұрын
OOHHHHHH! So that is what my whole life has been about! I MUST be something SPECIAL! I have no choice but to finally ACCEPT that now! Thank you!
@milicaboric303
Жыл бұрын
that means the devil is always around us
@RossMaroc
Жыл бұрын
The devil send his workers and if he cant get to you through them! then he comes to you disguised in human form as a Narcissist!!
@clintkiesling8149
11 ай бұрын
"That's the fact, Jack!"
@kimberlymorrison4880
Жыл бұрын
When he was caught red handed cheating and others were witnesses to it....he broke a 10 year sobriety and had to go to rehab. In his 30 days he was FORCED to look inside with intense therapy, no drugs, no alcohol and no family. He came home a different man BUT then the mask when back on and he returned to who he was. I left him in May. It's been such a painful journey but I know there will be a light at the end
@justsomeguy5417
6 ай бұрын
Im so so sorry. I know that pain :-( trying to find the 9
@private755
Жыл бұрын
Once you see their patterns they really don’t seem that smart
@jennyadee913
Жыл бұрын
They become a predictable bore for anyone remotely recovered from a BPD or just plain old healthy having a first encounter with one. They are a house of cards I recently engaged with a covert narc. It has been a fascinating unravelling . The disengagement was swift and graceful on my end. . Now the narrative is imploding as efforts at triangulation and reality checks are setting in. Still…. Disappointing I will miss the philosophical chats and psychological and esoteric shares. Never should have made love after a year of talking and listening. The cues were there . My empathetic ass showed up only to show me empathy is a foil . A tin foil hat for us “weirdo” different folk who seek affirmation when we are having a motivation / creative block. Procrastination is an invitation for these types. Just saying,, Idle hands Idealism Idolatry Idle minds The Id. God save the ego
@christinehawkins1382
Жыл бұрын
@@jennyadee913 It was kinda hard to follow most of your comment but the end was interesting, then I read it again and it became very clear , I too have empathy and allowed it to be used and abused , I know my heart and dont need to prove how understanding I am , Big difference between *having* emphathy & being a full blown empath ...A narcissist will also have a hard time with intimacy = into *me* See
@blinkyy1088
3 ай бұрын
@@jennyadee913 So you knew he was a narc and you let him lay all that pipe in you anyway huh? Kinky
@banderson6470
Жыл бұрын
Do the thin skinned narcissist always have “health issues”? I can’t get over how many health issues this person had. From nasal passages being clogged to gout, and heart burn. If I ever said I have some health issue like I’m really tired or a pain somewhere (which was rare) within minutes or hours without fail he came up with some problem himself. It was like he always had to be in pain above me, the attention was all about him. It was exhausting, I felt more like his mother than his gf.
@hughlindsay540
Жыл бұрын
So close to the bone.
@jelkel25
Жыл бұрын
I would say a Narcissist is more likely to at least imply that you are whinging about your own health problems before one upping you. A sick partner is too good an opportunity to miss because you are vulnerable at the time. If this guy didn't try to make you feel worse in some way then not a Narcissist, even a fragile. Maybe just an unfortunate attention seeking hangover from childhood.
@charshill2978
Жыл бұрын
I found that no-one was allowed to suffer or endure more pain than him..I used my pain or illness "as a way to gain sympathy" , even when I hadn't told anyone that I was illl...but he had felt genuine, life ending pain that he found his own way out of...
@Rabswood296
11 ай бұрын
The narc i know always has health issues, it was a way of getting more attention because he would get looked after and pandered to. He would go to the doctor's/hospital for tests everything would come back OK. Also anything that he did have was the 'worse case the doctor had seen'.
@lolololololollol4793
5 ай бұрын
the narcissist is knew always had an issue with everything he needed a bubble but he was also overweight and didnt take care of himself
@justsomeguy5417
7 ай бұрын
Richard, you, BY FAR, are the BEST source of information on NPD that I have come across and the level of understanding i have been able to achieve thanks to you has been a blessing and a lifesaver
@brendalhunt9720
4 ай бұрын
Richard, I just realized that because I had an experience with a narcissist this was a big gap that I was missing in my personality to be able to deal with the world now I’m a completely different person. I’m so strong now I feel so adult and courageous.
@redridgemedia3771
2 ай бұрын
I agree. Slightly similar Story here... I was massively triggered by the abuse from a female Narc... and I mean, I caused a shit storm lol.. She ghosted and spent the next few months on cloud nine, fully fuelled from my emotional Narc supply. I spent the next 18 months figuring out why I allowed myself to be triggered to such a degree (abandonment trauma) and then shone the light on all of that... and then educated myself on NPD... Now, when I'm out in the wild, it's like having vision like the matrix haha... you see people's code, and dodge those bullets just like neo 😂. She has wandered back into my life via a triangulation, and is full of rage because "I'm not the person she thought I was" haha... All she gets from me, is cold, hard silence, and a thank you for healing a part of myself. Take care
@JamieLynetteCoaching
8 ай бұрын
Telling people to give up hope on a narcissist that they can change can sound bad in and of itself, but actually can save someone from wasting so much of their life on a person who will only continue to cause damage and wreak havoc month after month, year after year whilst waiting for the change that will never come.
@LauraSitler-wz5zy
9 ай бұрын
I am just learning about npd and am shocked that the person that says they love you can be so cruel. My stories are exactly what all of your videos say. They truly never think they do anything wrong, and lie lie lie even when the truth is in their face. It’s painful because I wanted to be loved so much that I looked past all the negative behaviour for years.
@chrissemenko628
8 ай бұрын
Keep learning hun, and make your getaway plan. Good luck. Christi
@nickywk8419
Жыл бұрын
I absolutely agree that our current societal 'norms' have created the conditions that allow narcissistic behaviours to exist largely unchecked. My ex-boyfriend was a classic case in point - he much preferred his online life as it allowed him greater control & manipulation over others than his real self ever could 😥✨
@Tified967
8 ай бұрын
So true. 'My' narc was my cyberstalker - much easier to do when you're sat behind a keyboard hacking someone's phone & accounts. It was literally a living a hell. He has his own KZitem channel (how I met him) where he props up his ego given the sheer banality of his own real world existence. He's about 30 & im in my late 30s; no way would've I been sat on social media all day at his age, like, get a life.
@marketing-geek
Жыл бұрын
9:13 pointless trying to get them to wake up… tried marriage counselling with mine. Made it much clearer that it was time to leave.
@invisibly679
Жыл бұрын
I am pretty sure that my ex is both covert and grandiose. Within our relationship, he'd act like he was the smartest man alive, I and the children were beneath him. He'd talk to me as if I was incapable of doing anything on my own. But with others, he would be very humble. He'd act like the victim, tell his family that I was emotionally abusive, that I trapped him, that he does everything, and I do nothing. Any sort of criticism was met with hostility. He'd idealise any new person that came into his life, bosses, acquaintances, members, and leaders of a religious organization we used to be a part of. Literally, anyone that he liked something about was idealized. Once he saw some flaw with them, he quickly dropped them and ghosted them. He did the same with me. When we first met, he idealized me. As soon as he saw my flaws, I was devalued. He presented this false persona of being humble, kind, helpful, the victim of circumstance, and the black sheep of the family that no one wanted to talk to. He would pay for others when he first met them (even if we didnt have the money to do so and without talking to me about it first), when we first met I had to put my elderly dog down and couldnt afford the cremation costs, my mother refused to lend me the money for it, so he offered to pay. I accepted and he held that over my head when I tried to leave him after he'd become emotionally abusive. He told his family that I used him for his kindness, that I was emotionally abusive, that I'd trapped him by getting pregnant (despite our children being planned and he was the one that brought up us having kids together first and how much he wanted to be a father). Everything I'd say or do was eventually held over my head. He deflected, projected and in some instances simply lied in order to look like he was a good guy who was trying to be a good father and partner despite having a partner that treated him horribly. In reality it was the other way around. He once told me that he was so critical of me because he was very self critical, that I didnt deserve respect because I wasnt a respectable person, he would hone in on my flaws and insecurities and make fun of me for them. When I pointed out his flaws he got mad, he got so mad. He made sure I was wholly dependent on him, I had no money of my own, everything was in either his or his parents name, I wasnt allowed to work (he threatened to sleep with someone else, and take the car I was using from me), whenever I would try to leave he'd take my car keys, my phone, my bank cards, anything I'd need to be independent. I had nothing that was my own. Everything revolved around him and what he wanted. My wants and needs were unimportant. If i voiced any concerns, feelings, opinions, I was told that I was too emotional, I was always looking for something to be wrong, I had no idea what I was talking about, I made him miserable, I simply couldnt be happy. He often told me it wasnt on him to validate me, that me seeking reassurance and compliments was annoying him. Every time I started to pull away he'd act wounded and hurt, and do everything I'd been asking for, only to devalue me again once he was sure I was reeled back in. Trauma bonds are vicous in so many ways. Your entire perception is warped, there is nothing outside of the narcissist, you lose your sense of self, your entire identity. It took me a couple years to realize that and gather the strength and courage to leave.
@shasha2608
Жыл бұрын
Absolutely, they have created this world around them that they really believe is real. But it is all in their head. Their flawed connection to reality leads them to understand the world only on their terms. They get frustrated when you don't submit to their world view, because it shows your strength and their lack of reality. They envy your ability to live in reality and manage the issues that come with life. They cannot accept what challenges them. It is like watching a petulant child having a fit. To a certain extent, they are annoying.
@thecustodian1023
Жыл бұрын
A petulant child with adult-level resources to throw around at will.
@parrymylogicthen290
Жыл бұрын
@@thecustodian1023 so much truth to this! My narc gf will literally go through our money some days! I don't trust her with our money at all.
@crystalclear5397
Жыл бұрын
Man you're good! You described my ex that took me years to 'See'. I look back and think 'damn, am I stupid' but at the time when that occured I had allot going on with much limitations to resolve them. Now I look back that I was meant to go through that as a life's lesson. Life is like that, you repeat lessons until you get it right. And when you look back you will be proud of what you went through and learned from that can Help others.
@tammywallace5611
Жыл бұрын
I was thinking this morning about how bizarre it was that I couldn't see it when I was in it and I had no awareness of the changes in myself. It's not us! We didn't look for it because it's not how we think or feel. I'm am coming to the belief that it is demonic!!
@thecustodian1023
Жыл бұрын
Same here but it was my parents. Ones is dead now but the one that is alive has gone off the deep end over nothing that is real because they want to have control of things that are not theirs to control.
@crystalclear5397
Жыл бұрын
@@thecustodian1023 I can understand what you're describing as it sounds similar to my mother. I could never figure out if she was this kind of person (narcissist) or the trauma she went through before we were born. 'Family' can be found all around you of course though, from friends to acquaintance (just wish more in the world could realize this)
@thecustodian1023
Жыл бұрын
@@crystalclear5397 Yea, my friends have been awesome through all of this, but the family is either brainwashed by their BS and does not want to look at the mountain of evidence I have against them now. Or they just want to stay out of it in hopes the narcs don't come after them next if they do take me out. The rest seem to have no clue any of this has been running out for nearly two-plus years, which says everyone in the immediate family has put a lot of effort into making sure this all stays under the radar.
@StoneyBolognaReacts
3 ай бұрын
One of the best at talking about NPD . This information is GOLDEN
@monica5024
Жыл бұрын
You just described the entire police department I worked in. Needless to say they destroyed my life and livelihood.
@dchart6500
15 күн бұрын
Love this lecture 🎉.. I just left a narcissistic boss.. Never understood his behaviour.. His eyes are always dead.. I never felt comfortable with him.. I was always afraid, exhausted, i won't be able to sleep... Till now, I still carry those pains in my neck for the past 5 months... It's so stressful and exhausting
@sweetmintkiss
12 күн бұрын
Exactly about therapy working for them! Only and only if at the lowest moments they're forced to look at themselves and it seems that they can change....but you putting your hopes up will end in another heartbreak - as soon as they feeling better, they will hurt you again and hard. Also, I've noticed with my ex narc, when he'd spiral down into mortification, after he gets out of it, his grandiosity would raise to immensely high levels for several days, and that's when they're most dangerous
@lainiewarren3911
Жыл бұрын
The narcissist in my life is from South America and his family is very tribe like and I noticed over the years that they support his narcissism. They are not allowed to talk about feelings or it’s not supported
@squirrel3244
Жыл бұрын
i dont think im narcissitic but i do think i have attributes/tendencies like most people do. grew up with both sides of my family being narcisstic. i knew at a young age that something wasnt right but couldnt ever really put my finger on it. i knew that the way i was raised wasnt right and made a vow to my self that i will not treat my kids the way i was nor the people around me. i do want to better and understand my self as i do see some of the things mentioned in your videos actions of my self. i really appreciate your time and efforts that you put forth to educate.
@black_sheep_nation
Жыл бұрын
6:30 Narcissistic mortification: if that small window of opportunity opens, of the narc's total collapse and abandonment of all support and flying monkeys, they may be open to seeking some feedback or therapy. But my experience showed me it's like a rubber band. The awareness is temporary. It stretches enough to self-soothe and but snaps back to their normal.- MAGAville, Pennsyltucky
@pipwhitefeather5768
Жыл бұрын
I totally agree, it truly does take a village to bring up a child. If we have no where to turn for what we need those needs go unfulfilled, and that leads to a messy head!
@louiseventer6580
Жыл бұрын
I was with who I suspect was a covert narcissist for 4years. He always played the victim, always someone out to get him etc. It has been 4 months since he left me and I now realise that I knew basically nothing about him. We never lived together, cause my parents lived with me as my mom was very sick. She died last year Oct., I became depressed and between him, my grieving dad and my kids, he started complaining I wasn't paying enough attention to him. My explaining my depression, my other responsibilities fell on deaf ears. He didn't try to help, or actually showed much empathy. So he started a month long online affair with a woman on the other side of the country, while still telling me he loves me until the day before she packed up her life and moved with her little daughter to live with him. (Think she has issues too). From what I have heard his personality has done a 180° degree turn with her, suddenly he is in incredible debt etc. It just boggles the mind🙄
@INDIGO11369
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for the work you do and the effort that you give in the process. Brilliant Conversation. I believe, just as you pointed out, the power of numbers in small groups forces accountability. Not everyone has Integrity. I say this out loud quite a bit, that if there had been a third party present in the majority of arguments regarding morality with family members, friends and significant others, those disagreements would have ended much sooner, and with less resistance. Exceptionally less gaslighting for sure. Unfortunately my dichotomy always has me feeling sorry for the aggressor because I realize it is in fact not their fault, but a trait that has either been passed down through generations (and/or) caused from trauma. This has always led to giving eternal forgiveness, yet always being the only one to ever apologize.
@Prometheuspredator
Жыл бұрын
Don't feel sorry for them as they know exactly what they are doing as they know right from wrong as society dictates this. Feeling sorry for them makes you an easy target by a narcissist. It lays your life wide for a narcissist to come in and invade and destroy your life. You have to hold them accountable as this will prevent a hostile takeover of your piece, happiness, and causing total destruction in your life.
@nickm.f.roller8962
Ай бұрын
This is the most profound and accurate discussion I've heard... Honestly maybe ever... And intellectual conversation has always been a passion of mine... WOW!!!! Thanks for sharing this life changing and saving information!!
@eduardosella9764
Ай бұрын
The aspect of the tribal culture where you can find different authority figures is very interesting. I myself had a fallout with my family during my teenage years and luckly found people on the internet who did not marginalized me. There's a chance the trauma of being alienated from my family would've turned me into a narcissist, thank God it didn't happen. Thank you and I'm watching it from Brazil
@earthlingsunscripted5849
Ай бұрын
So lucky to leave in this kind of community I. Brooklyn were we all parent our kids together it is much much better
@juleslu8403
2 ай бұрын
the second part of the video is golden! the human psyche and emotional needs are not adapted to the modern lifestyle. we evolved to live in small, close-knit bands. watching from Germany 🇩🇪
@allisonpayne2097
6 ай бұрын
I actually understand what your saying about them getting off on reactions,much appreciated 😎
@cavedancesinc.6775
Жыл бұрын
My wife and I have been separated two years now. Her mother was the last person propping her up with supply and she passed away recently. She has been showing signs of mortification. I appreciate you mentioning this because it’s the first time I’ve heard the term. She indicated willingness to attend counseling and is completely defeated, saying things like, “I died.” I’m taking your warning to heart as well, I can’t hold much hope she’ll change, but she has agreed to marriage counseling so maybe the doors open for change. 🤞🏼
@oldboy-g8y
Жыл бұрын
thats good that she agrees with counseling . nice to hear
@IevgenMatiagin
Жыл бұрын
No don't believe in that she will change. She will use the psychiatrist as a source of temporary supply (she will try to manipulate the psychiatrist). Then when her empty fuel matrix has been recharged to a minimum to restart the false self, she will start hunting for new long term supplies- you are just another source if you return. Did you watch the movie Dracula with Keanu Reeves? When Dracula was weak he was mortified when he was being transported in a coffin but recharged after...
@sophiestevenson2421
Жыл бұрын
Watching from New Zealand 🇳🇿
@lisajay4737
Жыл бұрын
Fabulous video.....very much enjoyed the content. The ideas put forward are thought provoking. Thanks.
@mytinyvictories
Жыл бұрын
The person I know could not and would not watch horror films; ride roller coasters; and slept all throughout the day. Now I know why he was so exhausted...all the lying, living a fake life and hyper vigilance made him really tired.
@thelatebloomer4748
11 ай бұрын
Yep. Afraid of the dark, so they stay out all night. Destroyed a 4 decade family business gambling and such. Sad stuff....I saw some soul peek out here and there, but quickly overtaken by this demonic stronghold called narcissism, but it's certainly as much spiritual as it is psychological.
@MikeG-2022
4 ай бұрын
From my experience a TRUE Narcissist could Care Less about EVERYTHING EXCEPT 1 THING.....REPUTATION! Without its Grandiose Reputation it can't Weave its Evil Web
@PrettyIndependent1
Жыл бұрын
This is completely fascinating how he’s talking about how narcissism grew because of industrialization and people becoming less connected to each other where they could hide it. It makes me think of all the houses in the hills in LA how that may have started with wealthy rich narcissists being able to hide the things they are doing a way from the rest of the world. Then it became a trend associated with status and then therefore weird narcissistic traits just seemed excusable as that’s just how rich people act.
@jennifergriffin5467
Ай бұрын
Richard, you are so right! In a tribal community, we are accountable to each other. We have lost this accountability. Thank you for bringing this out.
@psyience3213
Жыл бұрын
I would have to imagine it’s incredibly difficult to develop that false self when you have so many eyes on you seeing and hearing everything. You couldn’t just say something happened that didn’t happen, everyone else saw it too. Everyone knows everything about everyone
@Noname-oo9gn
Жыл бұрын
That's why they isolate you from friends and family.
@jordanferguson2254
Жыл бұрын
You know, I don't know about that. There are so many situations like with church rapes, family abuse, toxic bosses, corrupt politicians, etc etc, where everyone knows, but turn a blind eye and just walk the other way. At the end of the day it's about people deciding who they are. Less about oh we're less communal or isolated. If people just had their priorities straight simply because that's the right thing to do, the world would be a better place. But people aren't like that. It's always, what's in it for me? Will this good act put me in an advantageous or disadvantageous social position and what have you.
@psyience3213
Жыл бұрын
@@jordanferguson2254 that is very true my friend I’ve seen that for myself as well.
@cndytie
9 ай бұрын
But they have a bunch of flying monkeys agreeing and nodding; and justifying most of these monsters.
@psyience3213
9 ай бұрын
@@cndytie it’s so true. I’ve even seen it in my own family it’s just hard to imagine. It’s like a tour of psychosis
@deborahdawn7002
Жыл бұрын
Truly informative and enlightening. Thank you.
@Tified967
8 ай бұрын
This is gonna sound weird but does anyone find Richard attractive? I have to say being attracted to someone other than a narc is like blessing to me at the moment lol. I usually find very intelligent men & women attractive which he is; this is so refreshing! Sorry Richard, I still love your content 😊
@johannahypponen6270
Жыл бұрын
Watching from Finland❤️😍 Amazing video thank you so much🙌‼️🙏❤️🥰
@lemondropzs
6 ай бұрын
Great video! For me there was nothing to find out, I could tell all of this already, from the very first interaction, however long ago it was and even when somebody starts to lean into developing a narcissistic personality if they weren't one before. As someone who grew up very quiet, being observant is like my middle name. It's effortless and very easy to read people, good people and bad. I have had my fair share of narcissism directed my way and everything you said is on point. I see them watching and copying me even though they act like I am insignificant. However much they think people rate them, I know they believe I rate them way more way more than I actually do, and that is not at all. The very decision they make to obsess over you just to hurt you shows that you are all they think about which is in itself, ironic.
@calibrepersonaldevelopment
Жыл бұрын
اخوة بالرضاعة ❤❤❤ I’ve lived in Saudi and this man is 100% on point
@jcbanbury
4 ай бұрын
❤❤❤
@TheVaultwest
10 ай бұрын
I’m learning so much from your videos, Richard. Deciding right now which course of yours to take first after being discarded a month ago. I’m actually stunned at how much this hurts.
@lena-mariaglouis-charles7036
Жыл бұрын
Hello from New York City🍎
@alaskansurvivalist4874
11 ай бұрын
You're an amazing person Richard, I'm incredibly grateful for the content that you've been producing. I previously thought I was going insane and that the whole world is out to get me type thing but now that I've become aware of narcissism it makes all the sense in the world. They are the energy vampires people talk about. I think it is brave of you that you are outgoing about your sexuality, I personally don't think it's a matter of black-and-white gay or straight type scenario that there is a huge spectrum of different sexual preferences and dispositions. I consider myself mostly heterosexual, but bisexual under specific conditions. But I have found it not an easy thing to be on but about or share with people without misunderstandings or something like judgment. You're a great man and I'm grateful to have come across you and your work. It's funny that I get the impression that these narcissist or not even human and the same way I am if that makes sense. I am an empathic sigma infj so to me these a narcissist sociopaths and psychopaths seem like literal demons
@pixinotdust4925
Жыл бұрын
Good one! Useful. Thanks.🙏🏾 Listening from Germany Cologne 🧚🏽♂
@Doom_Buggy_Nerd
Жыл бұрын
Never really heard of narcissism in the 60’s,70’s and 80’s. It probably was there with abusive husbands. Did the internet bring it out more with people and self absorbed or the knowledge of the internet? Grown men age 65 ish are narcissists, did they experience trauma or idolizing from parents in the 50’s and 60’s?
@ashleyallen3522
Жыл бұрын
Narcissism was alive and well always. It was just not widely understood or talked about back then. With the internet and social media we have so much more access to information and the ability to share it than we did previously. Before, if you were living with a narcissist you probably just thought You were the crazy one and had no one to turn to for help.
@charshill2978
Жыл бұрын
They need the false self, and it is their need to uphold that that causes all the $hit!! If they dropped that, it'd be so much better for everyone.
@PatricaKing
11 ай бұрын
You are helping so,so, much!! Watching from Indiana. God Bless you🎉
@lisas1625
Жыл бұрын
NZ Rasta here ❤️❤️💛💛💚💚
@nocomments5029
Жыл бұрын
Oooo I connected and have a label for the thin skin hysterical aspect for my narcissist now.
@NothingCompares2U
Ай бұрын
Yeah the cannibal spirit that begins with a W from Native American folklore. I have always loved the idea of tribal communities, what I had growing up was the Covert would break down and I would eternally walk around endlessly in NY, just can't talk to anyone and the streets are empty. You feel unwanted by everyone, as you get older you can see the dilemma which we have and how strange it feels to talk to a young child by themselves, but back then all people seemed to do is reject us, oh well.
@lareinadeloslagartos3991
Жыл бұрын
Greetings from Argentina🇦🇷
@ForNika
Жыл бұрын
You just described the whole Human Society including yourself.
@opticalman6417
Жыл бұрын
My family have a delusional sense of what my narc mother really was who pasted away this year they paint her out to be something she wasn't which go to show how good they are at pulling the wool over people eyes
@Miami904
Жыл бұрын
They will do.
@clevelandwilliams5922
Жыл бұрын
Out of design they calculate what personality traits they can manipulate to obtain a saintly image. Other personality types they know they cannot manipulate they put forward a true self. Not meaning they are true but they’ll be assholes towards these people.
@Miami904
Жыл бұрын
@@clevelandwilliams5922 is that why they scapegoat the scapegoat
@clevelandwilliams5922
Жыл бұрын
@@Miami904 yes
@clevelandwilliams5922
Жыл бұрын
@@Miami904 They need reactions from people to be able to feed on and make you out to be the bad guy. On the other side they manipulate others to make themselves look innocent. This is why the best way to beat a Narcissist is simply “grey rock” technique and they will expose themselves eventually.
@mahboubauhren9551
Жыл бұрын
I RECOGNIZED how my ex alway creating situation even we in the hart of our sleeping, if I pull the blanket, he will woks up like ghost and kidnape the blanket ! it's cold in Canada during the winter
@emilykathleenn
Жыл бұрын
Mine too
@avatar4926
Жыл бұрын
I have actually witnessed mortification (did not know then what it was). It was very, very strange and uncomfortable to see. I struggle to see how you would be able to reach the person when in that state…
@Miami904
Жыл бұрын
How do u get them mortified
@avatar4926
Жыл бұрын
@@Miami904 I am no expert, cannot annswer there. I didn’t do the mortification myself, I just saw it. His ex was the reason for it.
@Miami904
Жыл бұрын
@@avatar4926 cool. I’m not gonna try and do it. I’m really tired if drama with my mum and I think she actually revels in getting a rise outta me. It’s best to just leave as quickly as possible.
@ZLLi661
Жыл бұрын
You cannot. It’s like a very spoilt kindergartner who does a screaming tantrum for 20mins, then another 10mins then finally comes to the realization- at 4 years old they cannot get away with their bad behavior and screaming and crocodile tears won’t work, But with an adult narc it’s worse- they can hurt or kill in a tantrum. Unfortunately such ‘episodes’ have been ‘justified 🤮🤮 or mitigated in a court of law by deceitful manipulative Defence counsel of which the magistrate/ judge fall for so the violent narc gets a reduced sentence or one that never fits the crime. If only karma would always work swiftly. 👍🏼
@beeman7711
11 ай бұрын
@@Miami904 You expose and humiliate them publicly in front of people they value, it has to be something they can't talk or excuse their way out of. A narcissists greatest fear is to be publicly humiliated, rejected, and abandoned.
@nikola1268
Жыл бұрын
When I listen to all these talks about narcissistic behaviour, I realise that my ex was one of ....but I think that I am one aswell
@nikola1268
Жыл бұрын
My question is :is it possible to heal yourself?
@allonesea
Жыл бұрын
You have to go deeper.
@gee8883
Жыл бұрын
If you think you are one , congratulations you are already on your way to healing .....be gentle with yourself , observe your behavior and write down your thought patterns ....identify your naec traits by one by one and change slowly ...much love to you ❤❤❤
@tommiselenius8673
8 ай бұрын
I have seen twice after that "system shutdown" a difference in that fantasy. And I think atleast this one changed that fantasy and her needs towards that subject which was just before reboot. But it might be just a coincidence.
@marietjiestapelberg8230
Жыл бұрын
Marietjie South Africa They are actually very predictable as well ..
@jr5389
Жыл бұрын
Yes When you Fully Understand NPD 100%
@jaibhagwangiri2985
7 ай бұрын
I found this video very informative about NPD .Thank you so much for explaining very clearly and which is scientifically correct.
@phyllistouchstone7136
Жыл бұрын
Hello from Laurel MS
@SandyBrowne-tj1vh
7 ай бұрын
Home. Sandusky, Ohio
@maryjensen1888
Жыл бұрын
Loved this discussion! Well done Richard and thanks for your dedication and research🎉
@lionspirit360
21 күн бұрын
the indugenious guys from amazon rainforest offered to kill Klaus Kinsky while making a movie there 😂
@Glitter504
Жыл бұрын
Listening from Chicago ❤❤❤ you ! Thank you !
@luciabellamore
Жыл бұрын
Thank you very much for your work and compassion!
@revheimliliam1305
7 ай бұрын
When we were in Versailles we went up the baack stairs from the farden, and he asked where the vench eent in- a orop from the nivue "Desirëe" from Disney😊
@sheilagilleland4312
Ай бұрын
Very interesting!
@maryjensen1888
Жыл бұрын
Watching from State of Queensland, Australia
@lovepeace2137
Жыл бұрын
Products of our environment.
@healthandenvironment2998
4 ай бұрын
It's kinda sad. I have seen a narc old aged person reach this point.
@arthurcurry7688
6 ай бұрын
Great content video Richard!!
@Groundwater24
7 ай бұрын
I wonder if they used palo santo to cleanse folk with that ‘W’ inside of them. The alienation from your kids was one of the worst parts of the discard. It ripped my insides out😢.
@meggznham
Жыл бұрын
You're a beautiful soul btw. Watching from NY
@robertataylor5794
Жыл бұрын
The Pacific Northwest, on the Olympic Peninsula, WA
@amalali504
Жыл бұрын
On wet-nursing which is the term for breastfeeding a child you didn't birth, as a female, if a woman breastfed me as a baby, her sons become my brothers its forbidden for us to marry in Sharia Islamic Law. As a custom generally, its across cultures and was also a practice in the UK.
@CobaltLobo
Жыл бұрын
Your videos have been a life saver for me man thank you so much Also side note, I had a dream about you a few nights ago where we were dating and it was quite wonderful haha I think ive been watching your videos too much 😂
@TheRelaxationZone1
Жыл бұрын
😂
@nellynelly8203
9 ай бұрын
oh my goodness yes hysterical
@luckyjaff855
10 ай бұрын
watching from california!
@lilredheaded1
Жыл бұрын
Thank you!!!
@michael8129
Жыл бұрын
My name is Michele... Im in tje middle if this hell! Im stuck here at this time cuz we are homeless living on the side of the road along with other homeless people. The street is lined with homeless individuals. My car is broke down, he stole my bank card from me and im needing to reorder another one but need a physical addy, he has made it look as thou im the crazy one therefore i have not many friends SO IM STUCK AT THIS MOMENT. What I need to know is how to deal with this so that I dont go CRAZY...
@rockstarofredondo
11 ай бұрын
“You’re Bill now.”
@michael8129
Жыл бұрын
Sacramento CA
@happymoo4694
Жыл бұрын
I was just going to mention Middle Eastern culture which makes sense as to why I / my situation not just me live apart….in fact California is a hub for Middle Easterns.
@delicatevenusflytrap9091
Жыл бұрын
Ontario, Canada
@msmusiclover4658
10 ай бұрын
Hi Richard, this particular video of yours has stirred me to comment. The 5 weaknesses, I agree with. I do not think I would understand life if I was not surrounded by NARCISSISTS and NARCISSISM! Just to speak of the NARCISSISTIC supply depletion for a moment and you have described what is occurring to my NARCISSIST partner right now. Off the cuff, he has started referring to his awful childhood and recognized that it was HELL, BUT, he then went on to say that, "Fortunately I haven´t been traumatized! I have just got on with my life!" Something is stirring but the delusional, independent, adult male image that he has of himself is in no danger of coming apart! The voice asking about societal narcissism!!! I am writing about just this in my books and on my blog. I left the UK in my teens (mid 1980s), to go in search of REAL HUMAN BEINGS. I had known the odd one or two in the UK but without a shadow of a doubt, the British society has been NARCISSIST for many millenia! MAN-KIND is NARCISSIST! That is my theory! There is a clear difference between MAN-KIND, a kind of man and a male HUMAN BEING. This is about modern humans versus ancient humans. EVOLUTION is at the root of this. Having done a lot of kilometers in my search for HUMAN BEINGS, I discovered that the African continent was filled with them. Yes, MAN-KIND has ever been a rapist and sadly, the ancient hominids (man-kind), returned to Africa, Asia and South America and have introduced their genetics into the modern human populations of the Southern Hemisphere. I spent some weeks with folk from the WODAABE ethnic tribe. Now Richard, I went looking for these folk in particular. Many days and nights were spent in the Sahara Desert with the ethnic Toureg nomadic peoples too. NARCISSISM does not exist amongst the ethnic peoples that I met. The WODAABE though are my ultimate role models. The single males live in family clans and the single females also live in family clans. They live separately as males and females whilst single. They cross paths frequently but do not speak until after dark and to quote my favourite troubadour Mark Knopfler: "The midnight bargains have been struck between the seven beaus and their belles!" They are very sexual females and the males learn how to be seductors. It is a fantastic culture. I think I may have to head back there myself. The males of these ethnic tribes are gorgeous and so well learned in love-making techniques. WOW!! Where you have MAN-KIND you will have NARCISSISM. Because MAN-KIND is a stereotype. MAN-KIND is a delusional entity. MAN-KIND are those born from ancient genes who have resisted human EVOLUTION. The inferiority complex, dramatic cowardliness, total lack of feeling for any other than themselves, are some of the hallmarks of MAN-KIND! Hence the need for a STEREOTYPE for males to try and emulate. MAN-KIND must be a violent, mentally sick, depraved, hideous creature who does HIS MALE master´s bidding. Who keeps women under lock and key and gagged as well; lest we reveal his truths. Because yes, sad to say Richard, when you have known as many guys as I have in Europe, you realize that NARCISSISM is pandemic! Families have begun to EVOLVE and be more caring but to combat that, our MAN-MADE societies which are still led by MAN-KIND, are making a concerted effort to ensure that female equality does not happen. YES, NARCISSISM is now being openly taught to all new young recruits. The SPARE PARTS as I think of them. More TOOLS for the MAN-MADE machine that protects MAN-KIND´S TRUTH!!
@Cat-and-mouseyjdm
Жыл бұрын
Really fascinating.
@meggznham
Жыл бұрын
They look pathetic after you heal or reach a point in healing. I hold him/them in dual perspectives. A pathetic child, but also a scary alien like monster.
@HannahMickunas
11 ай бұрын
Spot on
@carolovesteven
Жыл бұрын
Brooklyn NY. The rotted 🍎
@lainiewarren3911
Жыл бұрын
What if the tribe is narcissistic and acting also as a cult.
@machstem2536
Жыл бұрын
Great video, very interesting and you got right to the point.
@prvivozac
3 ай бұрын
The name of the spiritual disease Richard is talking about is Wetiko.
@Teremoanabrockbank
Жыл бұрын
So this person I know whos been smearing my name claims to have bipolar. I can identify that it is CLEARLY covert narcissism because they given the bipolar sob story etc. She is so sneaky its actually unbelievable the change in her. She struggles with not having attention.
@Bethgunning
9 ай бұрын
Aboriginal families raise children jointly and if young or old women lost a husband they were taken in by a family to the benefit of the community
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