You’re the first person I’ve ever heard talk about intrusive thoughts, and I have struggled with them too with each of my 3 children. I didn’t realize they were tied to postpartum initially, but looking back they were always the most intense shortly after having each of my kids and then about a year postpartum they lessened. There’s a lot that happens postpartum that doesn’t get talked about, and personally I felt under prepared for the immensity of ALL the postpartum things. The support system (and also maternity leave!!) for new mothers need a major revamp, hahaha I could go on for days about the ways moms need WAY more support after having a baby. I’ll stop my ranting here, LOL, and a huge congratulations to you making it 6 months! Josie is adorable, you look wonderful and are doing a great job mama! I love supporting you and your channel!!
@shaeden77
2 жыл бұрын
I have two daughters and boy I remember those early days after having them. It’s hard but I’d do it all over again in a second. Josie is blessed to have you as a momma. Looking forward to your future content 😊
@ginnyburley9552
2 жыл бұрын
I was a stay at home mom for 8 years and am still grateful that I was able to stay home with my 3 babies. My second baby had a breathing disorder that didn’t allow her to sleep longer than an hour and a half at a time until she had surgery at age 3. I was barely hanging on to be very honest. I know that is an extreme situation, but many families have challenges that would make return to work at 6 weeks a nightmare. That little Josie is a doll!! Worth all of the struggles.
@YT-bv7ke
2 жыл бұрын
I agree…America needs to get it together on maternity & paternity leave. I had to go back to work after 6 weeks after having my second. And I had to use all my vacation days so even some of it would be paid. Otherwise, it would be 6 weeks of no pay. I had my 3rd and final baby in July, & I’m so thankful I get to stay home with this one. You are doing amazing!
@hannahstoelb4781
2 жыл бұрын
I live in Washington state, and they just started a program last year for paid family and medical leave. If you work so many hours in Washington state, you get 12 weeks of paid leave if you have a serious health condition, need to take care of a family member with a serious health condition, have a baby, or adopt a child. You get an extra 4 weeks if you are the one who gave birth, and 2 extra weeks for birth complications. There are 8 or 9 other states in the US with similar programs. I wish the whole country would just get on board to do this! I don’t even think 3 months is enough time, but I’m definitely grateful I love in a state that at least has something!
@KimJimenez
2 жыл бұрын
More of these videos, please! Loved hearing your story. ♥️♥️
@sarahh9903
2 жыл бұрын
I'm a Nanny & have all of these intrusive thoughts regularly.... It helps to take a deep breath & remind myself that these thoughts are an indicator that the kids are important to me & I can do my best to keep them healthy & safe but I can't control every circumstance. It's still not easy but it helps to ground my mind in reality & not get too wrapped up in horrible scenarios.
@kimscott7269
2 жыл бұрын
Oh she’s so precious!! My kiddos are all 2-3 years apart each except for the last two that are 6 years apart. There are 5 of them total and my only regret was not having more (but just between you and me, I didn’t love some aspects of pregnancy or recovering afterwards). But babies are the BEST!!
@annaa2200
2 жыл бұрын
I have three kids, two are now 13, and the intrusive thoughts never completely go away. It’s like once you switch that protective motherly instinct on, you can never truly switch it off again. There is always a little “what if?” voice in the back of my mind, predicting possible scenarios and outcomes.
@natalyasalowich8401
2 жыл бұрын
Intrusive thoughts-spot on!
@laumarlopez8417
2 жыл бұрын
I know how you feel. 15 years ago when I had my daughter I felt bad when going back to work. I felt I was going to miss out on her growth. I regret not have extra money to stay home longer.
@angelamelum4304
2 жыл бұрын
I really appreciate your outlook (? Attitude?) towards the baby weight/losing weight thing. Too often we focus on getting back down to pre pregnancy weight too soon which can effect your milk supply. While I nursed my kids, I never lost all the weight until after I was done nursing. That is something no one told me. Everyone told me how easy it was to lose the weight when they nursed and that never happened for me.
@AmandaJohn
2 жыл бұрын
I'm just going with what my body needs right now! I know so many women struggle with body image, so I'm thankful to have a healthy mindset about it.
@lanettazappala6624
2 жыл бұрын
My son is 11 now, but when he was an infant, I would have these visions of horrible things happening to him. One of mine was also the stairs, I would envision myself falling with him in my arms and crushing him. Those thoughts are just awful. I think one of the hardest parts of motherhood that not many people talk about is the crushing worry, anxiety, and vulnerability that comes with having your heart walk outside of your body. And that never fully goes away. The postpartum sudden flashes/visions do, but I still struggle with anxiety related to something happening to my son.
@Zoeleii
2 жыл бұрын
Hi Amanda, I too am struggling with intrusive thoughts postpartum. Meditation helps. You women in the USA are warriors, I cannont imagine going back to work after only a few weeks! In Croatia, you have a fully paid maternity leave until the baby’s first birthday! And if it is your third child and more, then you get 3 years! And you cease working weeks before due date, sometimes even a few months before! In Germany, you cease working 6 weeks before due date and you are not allowed to get back to work 8 weeks after the baby is born! This period of 14 weeks is called Mutterschutz ( mother’s protection) and it mandatory by law. If you wish to go back to work afterwards, you can, but you can have maternity leave up to 3 years. First and second year are paid. The men can also take 2 months of paid paternity leave. I honestly don’t know how you guys do it, I would hate to miss the precious moments with my baby. I don’t understand why the women in politics in the US don’t work on changing your conditions. Going back to work so early is abuse, and you should be put on throne for bringing a new life, not whiped to work! You are all my heros!
@dlady4
2 жыл бұрын
OMG I'm love with Josie 😍😍😍 Every time you show her on Instagram you make my day! She's the most adorable baby. I love love love how serious and pensive she looks most of the time. It's like she is thinking about things really hard. I've never seen that in a baby. She's like a little Socrates. I love her! 💗
@cathyhanson5885
2 жыл бұрын
Hi Amanda, Josie is so precious, enjoy this age, they grow up so fast.
@gabbagooll
2 жыл бұрын
5 weeks?! That is INSANE. Many people I know have started to work for companies that offer 6 months of maternity leave or 6 weeks of paternity leave. I can’t imagine anything less than 6 months (even though my job offers only 12 weeks). Even at 3 months, your baby needs every part of you. I hope more and more companies start moving toward these generous leaves.
@AmandaJohn
2 жыл бұрын
I know it's honestly horrible! And that's in the healthcare industry, too. I'm os thankful I was in a position to be home with her
@lynetter6850
2 жыл бұрын
I'm not going to touch the politics of longer maternity leave, but I do hope that more women are inspired to work for themselves or just come home when they have kids. I've done both, but now with two kids I am "just" a homemaker and I love it. This has always been my dream. We made it work even through my husband's 5 years of grad school on a very low income. I love your content! I also love birth stories, so if you do chose to post/film I'm here for it!
@erinnrobertson
2 жыл бұрын
My sister had to go back a week after their baby was born because of high blood pressure too! She almost didn’t go to the hospital, but had a dream the night before about dying and not wanting to leave her husband alone with their 2 kids. I’m glad you went and got checked and I’m sorry to hear that is a part of your story. It was so hard seeing my sister go through that. Praise God she is off her blood pressure medicine though now. Hoping you will be soon too
@Tosca767
2 жыл бұрын
My son is 18 and I still get those intrusive thoughts…my mom says it never goes away if you are a mother…you just learn to deal with it…moms will always worry😂🥰
@AmandaJohn
2 жыл бұрын
So true!
@gidget_
2 жыл бұрын
True. I just turn 40 and it's really cold and icy. Snow coming this week. Anyway my mom calls and tells me to stay home. Do I need food, do I have water, candles, blankets ready if I needed them. She is so scared something will happen. Even if I'm driving far she wants me to check in and call when I'm at my destination. Puts $20 in my glove compartment just in case. Sweetest but sometimes annoying. I know it's all a "mommy thing". I wouldn't trade it for the world. 💜❤💞
@NikkiCox81
2 жыл бұрын
I don't have kids but when I hear my friends talk about having to go back to work so soon after having babies it makes me so sad. I just feel like it would break my heart to have to leave my tiny baby. Some days it makes me sad to leave my cats I can only imagine it would be a billion times worse with a baby. I know every woman is different though.
@ambushxo
2 жыл бұрын
I totally agree with maternity leave being terrible in America! Not all companies even give paid maternity leave. As a teacher I get 3 months (in addition to summer if you plan it right lol) I work with someone from Spain and they get a minimum of 5 months! And child care prices 🤯 honestly those two things are what keeps me away from having kids still!
@gidget_
2 жыл бұрын
My mom would put her hand on our chests to make sure we were breathing. She said she was so scared she would drop one of us or we would slip through her hands. She would go through all these awful thought and trying to prepare on what she would to if it came true. She said that worrying is a given as long as your a mommy.
@dianejohnson7235
2 жыл бұрын
Wow Amanda, Little Josie is so, so precious!!!Motherhood has agreed with you!!!
@ashleyturco2350
2 жыл бұрын
I’m current 2mpp with my second daughter and the intrusive thoughts are so real. I had them with my first too and just thought I was having some anxiety. I would be holding her upstairs or on the stairs and could literally picture myself losing my balance or falling and dropping her over the railing. It did get better over time but they are still there, almost like picturing a worst case scenario in your head. I am having them again with this baby but not as bad, not sure if they are less severe or I’m just used to them at this point. But so true that they aren’t talking about. I think it’s a version of post partum anxiety.
@demetra1170
2 жыл бұрын
I had high blood pressure after having my baby too. He was born 9/2. They wanted me to go back to the hospital. I was there for 6 hours before they even came to check on me... I left because they wouldn't let my baby back with me. It was really tough - I have no answers either! thanks for speaking up on this. It was really scary and unexpected.
@jessicasmoker7389
2 жыл бұрын
I love to hear birth stories! 😊
@lonegamers7826
2 жыл бұрын
I had the same thoughts and feelings about stairs. I would seriously catch myself staring down at them and seeing myself fall and where my head would hit. Crazy and scary
@luzbelitausa
2 жыл бұрын
Omg. I had the thoughts about cars running off the road too! I also had some where my fear was to fall asleep and drop her or roll over her. Those thoughts are real. They do go away but holy cow post partum anxiety like that is real!
@AmandaJohn
2 жыл бұрын
Yes, I was also scared of falling asleep too or my husband falling asleep!
@themousehouse.
2 жыл бұрын
Would love to see a birth story video!
@mdh-hw1ng
2 жыл бұрын
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@mfg18pink
2 жыл бұрын
I actually experienced intrusive thoughts with both of my postpartum experiences and postpartum anxiety. I felt crazy. When I would nurse in the middle of the night I would stay up concerned someone was going to try and kidnap my baby. We live in a safe area with a security system, but those kinds of thoughts caught me so off guard after having my babies
@AmandaJohn
2 жыл бұрын
It was something I never heard others talk about, so I also thought I was crazy too!
@southernsass7624
2 жыл бұрын
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@laeahglez5538
2 жыл бұрын
Intrusive thoughts 🤔 I never knew what to call them, I just felt as if a layer of protective skin had been peeled away leaving me more vulnerable to worry, anxiety, emotions. Totally agree with you on the maternity leave issue. It should be minimum 3 months. At the time I had I believe 9 wks and I took 2 vacation weeks for a total of 11, so almost 3 months, and I have to tell you, it would have been impossible to go back before. He started sleeping the night just the week before I started working. Before that it was all a blur or feeding, changing, cleaning and worrying if we were doing things well. As my husband put it caring for a newborn is a full time, overtime, all the time job 🤣 and about baby # 2, yes I think you have the right idea. It is one of my regrets that I never had another. Back then I thought it would take attention away from him, but now I see that on the contrary, a sibling would have been a companion for him, not take away anything.
@pamb2868
2 жыл бұрын
I had the same problems with my first pregnancy. My blood pressure was higher than yours. And I held a lot of water. I was induced early also. It’s not fun. They took my blood pressure every 15 minutes. And the cord was around my daughters neck. So they were turning me and I was so tired, from not knowing what was going to happen. I was so glad when all that was over. My daughter is healthy. She wasn’t much of a sleeper. She got her Day’s and nights mixed up. I could barely function on almost no sleep. That was over 42 years ago. And I still remember it like it was yesterday. But let me tell you. She has a younger sister that came along two years later. Not one problem at all. And my younger daughter started sleeping through the night very young. My oldest daughter is still a pain in my butt. She now has seven kids of her own. She’s crazy like my mom was. Because I’m the youngest of seven. She just had my last, I hope it’s the last, granddaughter in October. Her kids ages range from 23 to 3 months. But Josie is adorable. And if she sleeps you’ve got a great baby there.
@taralll
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing! ❤️
@AmandaJohn
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching!
@jamiekelley1172
2 жыл бұрын
My girls are close in age when my oldest turned 1 I was 3 months pregnant. I wanted it that way and I think it was easy. For example clothing as soon as my oldest daughter grew out of them my youngest could wear them same with potty training. It was almost like having twins. My girls are older now and those baby days are behind me. Enjoy every minute cause it will fly by.
@cdow9032
2 жыл бұрын
Hi! Haven't watched in awhile. Enjoyed your amazon finds, then started watching this. I feel it's important to talk about things, so wanted to add. Had my Son in 87. I too had intrusive thoughts. It got as bad as sometimes I was afraid I would drown my Son as I was bathing him. I was fully aware I wasnt going to,so why was I having these thoughts. I could tell no one as I was afraid they'd take him away from me. I did seek the help of my Dr, and Therapist, but never told either about that bad thought. Actually, I dont think I ever told anyone until now. There wasn't as much known about ppd then. I was put on Ativan and a mild antidepressant. I was back at work, so not breast feeding anymore. The thoughts are anxiety based, and hormonal as well. They never got any worse, and eventually subsided. I still have them occasionally. During a bout of tremendous stress recently, I sought help as I was having them. Not dangrrous thoughts, more fear. That's when I learned they were called intrusive thoughts, and felt much better after talking to my therapist. It just was not my usual response to stress, and it scared me. So thank you so much for being brave enough to talk about this. Hormones can be little crazy makers lol I have found- in any situation- that just when you think you're the only one, you're not.
@mlaine2
2 жыл бұрын
I have two kids. I can’t say I ever “mourned” my “previous” life. I was too excited to have a family and the challenges that come with it.
@AmandaJohn
2 жыл бұрын
I'm glad you didn't! We all have different experiences.
@mlaine2
2 жыл бұрын
@@AmandaJohn true enough. The reason I wrote that is not to downplay your experience, but to remind other moms to be of exactly that - we all have different experiences. On the other hand we ain’t all that different. I want to add an encouraging 2 cents. We tend to hear a lot of negatives as far as motherhood is concerned these days. The pendulum swung in the opposite direction too much. Your daughter is beautiful ❤️
@abbiejoliec3133
2 жыл бұрын
Have you asked your Physician if you can take Biotin for hair regrowth?
@luzbelitausa
2 жыл бұрын
Enjoy breastfeeding, I miss it. Connecting with your little one like that is beautiful. And put down the phone, lol. I wish I had done that
@jennifercho4878
2 жыл бұрын
Would love to see a birth story on KZitem as well! 😀
@chellejack3480
2 жыл бұрын
I actually fell down the stairs with my newborn. I took the brunt of the fall and fell backwards with my baby on my chest. It was so upsetting, that we moved into a one story.
@AmandaJohn
2 жыл бұрын
Omgsh I'm so sorry to hear that! I'm so glad you and baby were ok.
@holleyveatch2628
2 жыл бұрын
Where do you purchase CBD? I'm interested in a nursing friendly option.
@AmandaJohn
2 жыл бұрын
This is the brand I’ve had a good experience with but I don’t currently take it with breastfeeding. There isn’t really any research on it yet from what I’ve seen! bit.ly/3d9ADWu
@MD-bv5xq
2 жыл бұрын
1 year maternity leave in 🇨🇦 with 52% of your salary.
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