the problem is, the manipulative person is inside your home and has already convinced everyone else that they're the victim🙄
@Steffanie.27
2 жыл бұрын
Felt 😂
@lyntex001
2 жыл бұрын
Lil brother lore
@thisislilj
2 жыл бұрын
fr
@Dev.Yadav.
2 жыл бұрын
@@Steffanie.27 tu sentido del humor es genial!!
@PRDGY_Plyster
2 жыл бұрын
Fr
@Gridkeeperr
2 жыл бұрын
I really love that you have Amphibia characters as it is a perfect example of toxic friendships and this is one of my favourite TV shows. One of the toxic traits did include Sasha being the manipulator of the group so she keeps the friendship under control, while she does care for her friends, her methods were pretty harmful. Good intentions or not, I learned to stand my ground.
@jacquelinelowe6324
Жыл бұрын
Oh I never noticed it's one of my favorite TV shows too
@jameskaazaeros7087
2 жыл бұрын
As someone who was early diagnosed with autism, I had to learn how to be human over time. I find these helpful in checking myself to ensure I am not being inadvertently hurtful to others.
@underthebridgegrimm
2 жыл бұрын
my parents used every single one of these tactics on me my whole life to exploit me in LEGITIMATELY every way possible, emotionally, physically, sexually, and financially keeping me silent, isolated, and confused. you have no idea how much i appreciate this channel spreading awareness and education. Thank you.
@actuallynotaratkid3670
2 жыл бұрын
I feel sorry for you but wtf, how did you get sexually exploited ? I feel so sorry for you, hope you're better now.
@keiron.4612
2 жыл бұрын
@@actuallynotaratkid3670 it can happen very easily if you have no where to go you're trapped no way out and nobody listens to you even if you try talking to them
@keiron.4612
2 жыл бұрын
I'm sending you the most heartfelt prayers your trauma was never your fault be been traumatized to it dosent leave you even f people say it gets better you just live with it best you can
@DanielSelk
2 жыл бұрын
My parents did all these too. I used to think this was normal until I found it was toxic! Disillusioned much!
@gayatrirk4965
2 жыл бұрын
@@excripto1 Same, my mother is a narcissist and an excellent guilt tripper, my father has anger issues, but luckily I've learnt how to live with it.
@HannahMarieee
2 жыл бұрын
I wish everyone who is in any relationship with a manipulative person the strength to resist their manipulations 🙌🏻
@friendlybendy2070
2 жыл бұрын
Pfft, it wouldn't be enough honestly... It's not like all of them r the same type and scale of manipulative
@HannahMarieee
2 жыл бұрын
@@friendlybendy2070 probably true, but from my experience knowing one’s own values and worth helps immensely with handling manipulative people:)
@SRHisntSilent
2 жыл бұрын
I pray they get out of that toxic relationship
@darkhound7965
2 жыл бұрын
Except the manipulators themselves
@kween5600
2 жыл бұрын
My narcissist ex was like this, i broke up with him and then everyone turned on me so i had to act like i was joking…I continued to suffer just to not lose some ‘friends’…now all of them are blocked. This was when i was 15, now im older and hopefully wiser.
@dustingaethje1332
2 жыл бұрын
My grandmother does all of these and every time anyone calls her out, she pretends to be all insulted, then goes behind their back and gossips about them to everyone else (as if we all don't know she's doing this with us too). She also denies her issues and pretends they aren't there (for example, her loneliness and isolation) even when I call her out to try getting her to do sth about it. She also constantly gaslights me and my siblings into trying to think badly of our other grandmother. It's REALLY starting to piss me off.
@lorranycarvalho9432
2 жыл бұрын
Are we cousins or is it a grandmother thing? 😂 Jokes aside, my grandmother is just like that, I just didn't take years to realize because my mother is a incredibly intuitive person so she has always noticed my granny's behaviour. But yeah, I know how you feel, it sucks when it's someone from your family.
@sacraficedpapercrafts32
2 жыл бұрын
Holy shit are we siblings? Like bro, my Grandmother is the exact same.
@alonymelony8047
2 жыл бұрын
@@lorranycarvalho9432 it is in fact a grandma/mother thing.
@t.k.5088
2 жыл бұрын
My grandmas on both sides do the same and the worst thing is my parents learned from them. Every time there's a family phone call in the vicinity I feel like I'm surrounded by snakes. I legit have a horrible example of their toxic, gossipy crap. I have a trans ftm cousin and during new years eve my mom went from talking smack about him to my grandma on the phone to calling him with a smile on her face and misgendering him all the damn time in front of his girlfriend to hugging us at midnight and mocking him behind his back again to calling his mom/her own sister and talking trash about him next... all in the name of God. As if religion didn't teach about acceptance, just prejudice. As if my cousin living a miserable life for the sake of keeping someone else's status quo would be fair to demand. There's just no way to claim it's all for pity or LOVE or morals or his "own good" and say the horrible, mocking things they said. I was so grossed out that night, so much I vividly recall I had to muster the courage to hug my mom back on new years, and did so solely because I've been living rent free at my parent's during these difficult times. I relate to my cousin's situation a tiny bit because, although not transgender myself, I've also repressed a lot of my identity because of my parents. My personal space is so violated in this house that I can't even trust my sketchbooks aren't being looked into when I'm not holding onto them. My mother often walks into my room without knocking, snoops into my stuff, modifies furniture when she knows I'm not around to say no, got money from my wallet, opened my mail and medical files, all behind my back. To avoid getting kicked out, I simply hide my shit even further and talk less each day. I never even got a tattoo I wanted because I don't wanna deal with their nasty comments. Having an unexpected hairstyle, not being clean shaved, wearing different clothes, all of those could lead to awkward family situations. I'm 30 years old. That's 3 decades of self erasure for the sake of others and I'm not sure I can tolerate another. You know what? More power to my cousin for being brave to live his truth. If he'll have to put up with bullshit anyways, might as well live his life to the fullest. Y'all go live your lives to the fullest, too. Til this day they just can't respect him and my mom will repeatedly bring up his deadname when talking about him. That's not what you do to someone who was part of your life and family, who grew up with/near you or under your care, who you claim to love. Even if he changed his clothes and name, he's still the same person we knew for so long. He's not killing anyone, he's just trying to live his best life and stay true to himself. My dude legit did nothing wrong and I feel so bad for him. And I know that me being one of the few (cousins) who respect his identity won't ever make up for the fact that his own mother, aunt and grandmother never will. And they know, that's why they test my/our patience every single day. That's where they take their power trips from, pissing people off and knowing they're the ones who will remain seemingly calm and collected before the backlash, so they can keep claiming that we're the problem. They only ever react poorly or act "guilty" if caught in the act and if we're lucky enough to earn an apology or unsolicited gift, it's usually because they want some favor from us later. It's gotten to a point where it's _really_ hard to even love them back.
@SopalinUltradoux
2 жыл бұрын
Same here. And my other inherited it. That was also the same with the grandma and parents of my ex. The time when her grandma said to her in my back out of nowhere that she won't die in peace if she's still with me when it will happen... One if the most worst words I heard in my life. Just because I felt around good people and with my soulmate so I haved taken my courage to speak about my family's past for the first time (i have PTSD) after the grandma encouraged me to do it, "I see you're in some kind of pain Don't let it in you, you can talking about it with us." she said. What she did after that with her girl was the start of the end of our mental peace and very loving relationship. I can't still believe something deeply disgusting like that can happen. Completely destroyed me for two entire years and still doing at some parts.
@khalilahd.
2 жыл бұрын
There’s nothing worse than a gaslighter especially when it’s someone you love 🥺
@wulfdoesathing4515
2 жыл бұрын
Cheers bro I'll drink to that
@friendlybendy2070
2 жыл бұрын
@@wulfdoesathing4515 if I can, i'll gladly do murder for that gaslighting...
@chelsea-20980
2 жыл бұрын
that’s true, but we have the power to change that
@eishaakhter4300
2 жыл бұрын
@@chelsea-20980 how?
@SRHisntSilent
2 жыл бұрын
Honestly
@n908qd7
2 жыл бұрын
I was recently in a toxic relationship. Both sides were in the wrong honestly. I just realized that we were basically manipulating each other unknowingly. Shit now I need reevaluate.
@ddddddd3432
2 жыл бұрын
same tbh
@mxb1585
2 жыл бұрын
@@ddddddd3432 I am sad that he left
@ddddddd3432
2 жыл бұрын
@@mxb1585 same fren but we gonna get through this be strong and let yourself feel those needed emotions💓💓💓
@mxb1585
2 жыл бұрын
@@ddddddd3432 need hug
@aluminescence
2 жыл бұрын
2:25 sasha and marcy from amphibia !! :D
@frizallstar
2 жыл бұрын
2:12 Fairly Odd Parents 4:33 Cooking Companions 3:06 Doki Doki Literature Club 5:06 Danganronpa I looooooove the references please continue putting them in, and also I love the videos!
@brandonplayswastaken
2 жыл бұрын
Also Amphibia and the owl house
@fuunori
2 жыл бұрын
so it wasnt just me that immediately recognized Monaca in 5:06, cool
@RandomNaaames
2 жыл бұрын
Wasn't expecting to see a DDLC or Danganronpa reference in one of these videos, much less a UDG plot twist reference
@Bunny_Bill
Жыл бұрын
I noticed cooking companions and lost it
@ilgazkayili
Жыл бұрын
4:07 Foster's Home for Imaginary Friends :]
@wallaceribeiro8164
2 жыл бұрын
I've been on a relationship with a manipulator who actually admited being one and also proud of it. I was too innocent to see how that was a really big red flag, and now I'm struggling with emotional dependance. I've also found out after my breakup, that a friend who I considered one of my best friends, was also manipulative, so now I'm taking my time and putting those people aside. Luckly I still have great real friends who are supportive and have been helping me since my breakup.
@friendlybendy2070
2 жыл бұрын
At least that relationship partner is aware of that fact, too many of the worse off manipulators r in eternal sefl-denial
@friendlybendy2070
2 жыл бұрын
But regarding that friend though... Sigh... It's one of the reasons why I dislike interacting with outside peeps
@wallaceribeiro8164
2 жыл бұрын
@@friendlybendy2070 it's hard, I'm still deciding how to answer and tell her I don't wanna be friends anymore.
@wlwlwlw3908
2 жыл бұрын
Every manipulator is extremely insecure, their cognitive functioning is compromised, their brains are broken. Always good to emphasize this And to help them rehabilitate, we can encourage them to maintain healthy habits, go to therapy and introspect, rethink their life choices
@xioxialt
2 жыл бұрын
it's scary how similar of a situation i was in a couple of years ago. said "best friend" and partner were both extremely possessive of me and hated each other. i stuck with the best friend, only to realize a while after they were both just as bad as the other. i don't associate with either anymore.
@lowoli
2 жыл бұрын
Take care of yourself everyone 💗 1. Charm 0:39 2. Silent Treatment 1:23 3. Coercion 2:06 4. Reason 2:57 5. Regression 3:50 6. Debasement 5:00
@khalilahd.
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you!
@gudessthebird1571
2 жыл бұрын
Omg! Amphbia and The Owl House references! I love how you guys always include so many different references to different shows and other topics!
@GalaxyChoke
2 жыл бұрын
ikk right, i was like "HOLD UP AIN'T THAT ANNE AND HER MUM?" when i saw that scene lol
@teamblack204
2 жыл бұрын
0:13 The fact that they used Belos and Hunter/Golden Guard for the animation though... 0:46 Anne and her mother 2:21 Sasha and Marcy
@number1star
2 жыл бұрын
As someone that has "manipulation" and "manipulator" as the worst trigger word due to past trauma, this helped a ton. Well, I was accused of being a manipulator many times, I get that I regress a lot but that has to do with childhood trauma and me sometimes just.. being in a tiny mindspace. That aside, I don't think I'm a manipulator.
@user-qc7tv8xy1e
2 жыл бұрын
So nice to see this channel constantly growing 😊 🌱
@HannahMarieee
2 жыл бұрын
So well deserved 💕
@ItsMy149thTimeHereHelp
2 жыл бұрын
All the references to my favorite shows~ SO GREATTTTTT LOVE YOU ANIMATOR OF THIS ONEE
@sbplankton_1999
2 жыл бұрын
Fairly oddparents, Amphibia & lot more!!!
@Martyn_Wolf
2 жыл бұрын
Irony is we all manipulate people everyday in some way shape or form. Often it's tiny unassuming things such as: You made me feel... (this statement is more self victim blaming, no one controls how you feel except you period! It depends how you react to things) You know you love me... If you love me you'll do... I did this so, you can help with... I covered for your shift last time... Many more. Most of the time it's something we pick up from our parents, grandparents, siblings, friends, shows etc we then espouse it. Anything can be viewed as abuse or manipulation. It's mostly about the intention behind why it's said.
@Imptile765
7 ай бұрын
I said "you made me feel..." A couple of times before. For me, it's normally how I tell someone when they hurt me, and just my way of expressing the impact whatever they did on my emotions.
@MadAliceInWonderland
2 жыл бұрын
Charm + Debasement was my mother's go-to. "You're our little angel," she'd say. Her back and knees would supposedly be hurting but then she'd bring in a couple grocery bags and over-exaggerate to make me feel bad for letting her do that. Sometimes even starting things without telling me and saying, "I didn't want to bother you." As if she was worried I'd somehow say no to helping, even though she knew I'd always say yes. On the outside to many people, the way she'd act towards me made it seem like she was lifting me up. Instead it was all pressure, all responsibility. Responsibility for taking care of and essentially parenting my parents. There were so many "thank yous" but they were all hollow. After any achievement it was quick onto, "ok but what about this." This 'nice' kind of emotional manipulation definitely made me feel crazy. It made me feel bad for even considering the abuse my parents put me through. "Oh they're not that bad" I say to myself even though I was put into foster care as a child because of their neglect. Thankfully, I'm out of that house and doing so much better now. I rarely talk to them. At one point I just had it and told them everything I was feeling and they have kept their distance since, which I'm honestly thankful for. Man I revealed too much in this comment. But I feel like that's kind of what this channel is for.
@iinanomaniac6746
2 жыл бұрын
This video has existed for 2 weeks? How strange…
@ReznikStealthShadow
2 жыл бұрын
They re-upload videos to respread the info so that new people can see it & get the advice & get the info to seek help. It's a good tactic. I'm glad that they keep up at it to help those in need.
@ramixnudles7958
2 жыл бұрын
"You haven't taken out the trash, YET?! You've got time to sit in the chair after work, tho'."
@furrymczplayer18
2 жыл бұрын
2:33 the way that its sasha and marcy 😍😭
@savannahallen8590
2 жыл бұрын
Really appreciate this upload ❤️
@Kill2Kiss
2 жыл бұрын
Love the Amphibia reference
@flapjack1158
2 жыл бұрын
Fr!
@sbplankton_1999
2 жыл бұрын
And Fairly oddparents reference!
@DanielSelk
2 жыл бұрын
ALL these were what I thought "parenting" was, cause that's how it was growing up. Then I found that was all toxic and wrong. I was very disillusioned when I found out.
@ejakaegypt
2 жыл бұрын
Yikes, I use the silent treatment one. I essentially like being left alone and when someone does something mean or something I dislike, I do my best to avoid them because I feel if I see them, I’ll get angry again 🥺
@immasadbish
2 жыл бұрын
I do the silent treatment in the same way you do. I'd say in our case it's similar to ghosting and lacking confrontational skills. :C personally I get very nervous with confrontation and communicating in the moment so I avoid people for quite a while before we talk and sort out the issue.
@sillygoobersupersilly
2 жыл бұрын
plsss why the 🥺 emoji
@SequencerMannot49
7 ай бұрын
That's called taking a step back. Silent Treatment is used to intentionally hurt someone.
@ejakaegypt
7 ай бұрын
@@SequencerMannot49 meh, oh well then
@sammylane21
2 жыл бұрын
I love listening to this channel before going to sleep.💗 So relaxing.
@planetlttie9521
2 жыл бұрын
Love all the references ❤❤
@todorokitouyadabi
2 жыл бұрын
0:13 toh reference 😆
@holly._.4387
2 жыл бұрын
As they say, my best advice is to always stand your ground, but do it in a polite and compassionate way. However if they get very persistent; e.g. cursing, getting aggressive, you can always walk away or then really make it clear that you’re not tolerating their disrespect. Hope this is helpful to anyone who needs it, and if anyone has different ideas, please share!
@PRDGY_Plyster
2 жыл бұрын
I can’t my dad is the horrible guy and in the eyes of the court we got a court order to stop dad from taking me but he’s hurting me emotionally same as my nana they say I sound gay and say i look pregnant just because in lock down I gained weight I’m now really really skinny because of them like unhealthy skinny
@2litandy
2 жыл бұрын
We don’t stroke no Ego’s around here holly I couldn’t even escape the shit I was in somehow, I was damned if I do and damned if don’t no matter how the situation unfolded The people that do very hurtful and disgusting acts take advantage of the weakness of those who are struggling, in those situations there will be no ass kissing
@youtubecommentergal4346
2 жыл бұрын
When I was a child I kept being told I was manipulative. I'm not sure if I still am. I don't do all of this.
@edshane3324
2 жыл бұрын
I know some people who are going through this. I shared it on my Facebook page. Thank you
@alexandrialeonora6542
2 жыл бұрын
My sister uses the coercion one, usually - yes - in the form of threats. (ex: "Do this or I'll break your computer." or "I'll shout in your ear so you can't sleep until you keep arguing with me.") As for another one, my mother should be the poster child for silent treatment. She gave me and my sister the silent treatment for years when we were in our 20s. Literal years. One time it was 3-straight years of her not speaking to us at all. I still don't know what we could possibly have done to warrant that punishment from her. She started up the silent treatment again with me a couple of years ago, after I said something she "didn't like". It hurts so bad when it is family you still love...
@melonmode4128
2 жыл бұрын
My younger sister tries to manipulate the rest of us all the time, but I'm the only one that seems to realise it, so I usually play her at her own game. It's quite entertaining to see her think she's genius IQ and a master trickster all for it to fail when she tries to pull it on me.
@friendlybendy2070
2 жыл бұрын
@@melonmode4128 good for u
@friendlybendy2070
2 жыл бұрын
Leonora, that blackmailing first part is disgusting, find her weakness and maybe manipulate her back, trust me, a large proportion of manipulators will *NEVER change forever*
@xmissbelieberx
2 жыл бұрын
Aw that sounds awful, I really feel for you :/ I pray that God fills you with his Love during this hard time
@cjhilton694
2 жыл бұрын
Wow, that sister sounds like she has a vicious evil spirit. Your strongest defense would be to pray it off her. Rebuke that evil in the name of Jesus!
@0ceanicify
2 жыл бұрын
0:42 I don't remember ever complimenting someone just before asking them for something.
@escherichanja8522
2 жыл бұрын
That´s how manipulators talk to make their victim believe and the world around it, that their view is correct, not the real story: "well I guess you realized your point and flipped it because anger is all you're presenting but that was your initial Point right? I know your anger has nothing to do with me. So yet again I'm going to follow doctor C's advice. And just let you deal with your own anger because it has absolutely nothing to do with me. And if you think I'm wrong here's dr. C to tell you that I'm not. I know you won't watch the video because you are going to refuse any logic that would contradict your own strong internal core belief."
@YummyUnicornOfficial
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for all the videos when I need help
@ninjaghost83321
2 жыл бұрын
How did I used to say it sometimes??? Oh yeah I ain't beat no one with a chair from across the room I must be having a good day. While simultaneously being gass lit
@Cee1003
2 жыл бұрын
I was accused as a "nagger" because my ex never got round to jobs I'd asked him to. So we bought flooring to replace some damaged boards during a week we couldn't afford it. Over a year later, job was not done. I only revisited the reminder when it was the only item left in the garage when I moved out. There's nagging and there's laziness. I didn't dare go up and say "oh you're on your video game" or the arguments would start. Even his son asked for help with his personal problems but the game was more important.
@phoenixrisen3077
2 жыл бұрын
Yeah, that part of this video was especially confusing for me. I don’t understand how asking someone to follow through on what they said they’ll is manipulation.
@serene3175
2 жыл бұрын
@@phoenixrisen3077 same, i don’t get that either. if you’re supposed to do something important and you don’t do it for weeks then that’s on you, especially if you promised to do it
@elliannabowani
2 жыл бұрын
One time me and my friend made a promise that we wouldn’t take FaceTime photos of each other, a couple days later we were on call and she FORCED me to turn on my camera otherwise we wouldn’t be friends, but atm I had rlly bad makeup on, few minutes past she asked to play Roblox, so she said while she does something I will join the game. Right when I join she started taking photos for “blackmail” but later that night she was spamming ALL of my ugly photos in my group chat & embarrassing me. (My gc has 13 people) I kept asking her to stop but she kept doing it, and five minutes later I had enough of her bs so I kicked her. A couple seconds later she messaged me if I added her back she would never do that again and delete the photos. (I trusted her cause she was my closest friend) so I added her back, and once again, started spamming a bunch of photos of me & someone else in my gc kicked me so I couldn’t remove her. I immediately messaged the friend who slammed the photos saying if she kept it up, I would drop her. She added me back & FINALLY STOPPED, couple seconds later she sent a video of her crying and how I was mean to her meanwhile she just embarrassed me in front of my whole chat (side note: my crush was in the gc too) since that day I’m still mad at her & that’s why I always leave my camera off in calls.
@fandujapon
2 жыл бұрын
My past best friend was using two of those manipulative things : - first she would use the silent treatment. She never really thought about her wrong doings. For her, I was the bad person no matter what and she wanted me to feel guilt and make the first steps. - secondly she would hide behind her mental health to excuse her actions so that I feel like I was not good enough as a friend. When she didn't get what she wanted by using those methods, she would come back to me saying "I'm sorry" adding "BUT you should put yourself in my place... " or things like that. The worst thing is she didn't even realized it was manipulation. I tried my best to understand her and be on her side, but she didn't give back... It took time for me to realize our relationship had become toxic. And even though it hurts to break a relationship, in the end we have to do so in order for all of us to live better. No matter what your friends did in the past, no matter how long you knew them, if your relationship becomes to eat your self confidence or if it brings the worst in you : then it means it's time to end it.
@runawaymasterpiece5008
2 жыл бұрын
Finally someone understand me My bestie is a manipulator too and I get so mad when I see she manipulating inocent people who don't know.
@fandujapon
2 жыл бұрын
@@runawaymasterpiece5008 Maybe you should talk to her then? By using the right words. And if she still doesn't reflect on her actions maybe you should consider something else.
@runawaymasterpiece5008
2 жыл бұрын
@@fandujapon Thanks, I will try it :]
@SopalinUltradoux
2 жыл бұрын
That's some of things my mom, grandma and uncle used to me the major party of my childhood and teenage years. One another thing for example was to made me feel like a bad person and that I don't care of them if I forgot to say happy birthday or if I forget the mom's / grandma"s day after waking up. Few years later when I was gone, they continued to do that but differently. If I forgot then my mom automatically holds on any money for me from my family until I said those words with excuses. Even if I needed it badly or if it was my birthday. Fun fact : since few years now my uncle never remember my age and want to quit every call from me quickly because "he don't like talking by phone" but talks a lot more with my brother. And the fun part is even if he said that he can be passive aggressive saying something like "well I will have news from you the next year I guess". I lived with people being super manipulative, toxic, narcissic and even violent at some parts. Brings me PTSD and takes me years to realize and seeing good professional. I was so lost and in silent pain so I did or said wrong or very bad things to people who was kind and lovely with me each time my past knocked too hard in me without understanding what happened to me. Like my conscious was blinded or gone for a quick moment until I woke up and realized what I was doing and feeled immediately so bad. I cannot recognized me and I still don't really do honestly. This person wasn't me and I can't close my eyes on all of that, like I'm not a good person anymore. Not the one I always wanted to be. That's hurt. So you haved done the right thing for you and don't hesitate to see a professionnal if you feel like you haved been deeply hurted. Don't let it eats you in silent if you don't want to eventually regret it later when it's too late. This sh*t have the power to grab you until you change time to tome in a terrible way, making a battle with what you really are deep inside you and what you lived in the past.
@raine_rainegoaway
2 жыл бұрын
I'm so sorry, you must've gone through a lot there. I used to act like your past friend and am currently trying to change to avoid situations like this and stop hurting people, and honestly looking back doing manipulative stuff like that is such a shitty move, especially with friends or people considered close. Good on you for leaving, especially because friendships like that are very toxic.
@sallylemon5835
2 жыл бұрын
From a sincere, straightforward person who could easily be manipulated even by a non-manipulative person, to a person who now would join the manipulator's game only to manipulate the manipulators (while remain sincere and straightforward to those who don't manipulate). The journey was tough but possible, we have no option but to rise because evil won't stop grow in society and we gotta hold them under control.
@tugatomskanimation6370
2 жыл бұрын
0:50 Nice Amphibia reference. ;)
@sbplankton_1999
2 жыл бұрын
2:10 Yeah, and Fairly oddparents reference ^^
@SaganTheKhajiit
2 жыл бұрын
Sometimes I kinda do a silent treatment on people, but only when I'm so mad that I need to shut up or I'll say things I don't mean. And even then it's not with one person, it's actually being completely silent until I calm down.
@sharon_rose724
2 жыл бұрын
That's more taking a step back so you don't say something you'll regret. That's wisdom. Silent treatment is staying silent to hurt someone when you know they want to talk about something, usually something hurtful that person did.
@peterbelanger4094
2 жыл бұрын
My mom and sister do the silent treatment all the time. It drives me friggin CRAZY!!!!! They KNOW they don't have a valid logical response to my arguments, so they just clam up to get me to act more emotional and use my emotional reaction to invalidate my logical argument. It's using emotion to defeat logic. It's a manipulation tactic to get me to dig myself in deeper. Someone goes silent on me, I have a tendency to keep pushing until that silences gets broken. The silent treatment can bring on anger. be careful how you use it. You are likely just making things worse.
@friendlybendy2070
2 жыл бұрын
@@peterbelanger4094 which is why I'm almost ticked off to use actual physical means to permanently end the problem...
@mau345
2 жыл бұрын
@@peterbelanger4094 im with you that theyre wrong but i think its better that you regulate your reaction to their silent treatment as well. Logic is nice of course but it’s half of what makes us human. You can say no to their stance but practice not to let if shake your whole soul for a good amount of time only to destroy your day and likely your relationship. Say no and walk away and set that boundary if you think its a boundary that will keep you sane. If you fall out of it, so be it, but chances are good that you guys will just learn to live with each other’s boundaries
@SaganTheKhajiit
2 жыл бұрын
@@peterbelanger4094 Someone told me here that what I do isn't silent treatment because I don't do it to hurt anyone, I do it as a way to control myself so I don't give an emotional reaction. So if anything I would advise you to do the same when your mom or sister give you the silent treatment. Just stop talking, take a step back and refuse to give that emotional reaction that will bring logic to ruin.
@gamerninjask6746
2 жыл бұрын
every amphibia fan in the comment section : YAAAAAAAAY! LETS GOOOOOOOOO!
@emilyplummer9131
Жыл бұрын
One time my ex girlfriend thought she was pregnant because she was 2 days late on her period. On my vacation with my family, I was on a call with her in the hotel with my parents and sisters. She kept telling me to ask my older sister to buy her a pregnancy test because her grandma wouldn't let her. Although I said "No" multiple times, she kept bugging me about it. I finally told my sister then she got mad and told my mom, then my mom told the rest of my family members and still talks about the incident that happened last year. All my family members hated her after that and begged me to break up with her. I eventually did 2-3 days before Christmas and honestly, it was the best decision of my life. Other things she did was lied to me about being abused, cheated on my by saying she was poly when both of the people she didn't even know was in real life and also tried to get me to be in a three sum with her and a guy she knew when I told her months before dating that I was lesbian...
@dustindraws3519
2 жыл бұрын
Love the references
@sbplankton_1999
2 жыл бұрын
Amphibia and Fairly oddparents as Well.
@Onwiththeseasons
2 жыл бұрын
I’m so thankful for a scholarly backed up KZitem channel on psychology. There’s a lot of misinformation and it confuses me.
@nick27march
2 жыл бұрын
OMG ! I am speechless. Lips sealed. I won't blame them..but I blame myself. May be after watching this video they might be blaming me. soo... I take the blame on myself before they curse me.
@oreomaster5873
2 жыл бұрын
Bro my mom has used these phrases...omg im so mad rn- ik I've been mad at her lately and I assumed she used me sometimes but now ik its true 💀. That's crazy She has used charm on me a lot even when I've said I didn't feel safe doing something, she's used reason on me, she's used regression a bit when it comes to my chores even tho she barely does any of the simple ones around the house to the point im stressed and then she's used debasement on me and acts like she's too tired at times to do stuff just for me to do it instead
@baeldaikokuten_yj6792
2 жыл бұрын
Sometimes there is a reason like she wants you to learn how to do things on your own
@oreomaster5873
2 жыл бұрын
@@baeldaikokuten_yj6792 it isn't just that at this rate to be honest
@oreomaster5873
2 жыл бұрын
@@baeldaikokuten_yj6792 she used to just say it was just for responsibility
@oreomaster5873
2 жыл бұрын
@@baeldaikokuten_yj6792 but now it's gotten to the point for if I even ask for a break or that I'm too tired to do it, it's either an attitude, I'm forced to do it or she uses a tactic on me
@oreomaster5873
2 жыл бұрын
@@baeldaikokuten_yj6792 I wish I could say it was for ur reason, but it sadly isn't anymore
@nerd9347.
2 жыл бұрын
Albeit unfortunately, my immediate family use a LOT of these. Thanks for the explanations. Love your videos. Keep it up!
@Milena-mz5xk
2 жыл бұрын
Loved that DokiDoki reference on 3:08!
@sbplankton_1999
2 жыл бұрын
2:10 there also Fairly oddparents too
@Idklol2866
2 жыл бұрын
2:21 Amphibia reference
@catsplayharryholmes9482
2 жыл бұрын
3:51 My mother used to do this tactic of manipulation and so did I to her 😅 Unfortunately, I have become similar to my mother in behavior Sometimes I feel like I have a mixture of my parents' bad qualities
@mau345
2 жыл бұрын
Most moms are like this 😂 i think its not that much of an issue in the long run. Probably in another video, youre the one thats toxic not the regressor
@catsplayharryholmes9482
2 жыл бұрын
@@mau345 For real? Even though my mother started asking me all the time when I was 5 if I wanted to go to a children's home?Or she kept trying to kill herself? When I was a teenager she once claimed that I was her imagination and that I supposedly didn't exist. Is it any wonder I moved away from her?(sorry if my english is weird and i'm sorry if it sounds aggressive just i'm angry at my parents for various reasons which are not so easy to explain)
@nicklittle8399
2 жыл бұрын
I feel like I may be resorting to regressive tactics unintentionally to try and encourage my partner to do things. He doesn't speak with me about the plans or expectations, so other than encouraging him to communicate, what can I do to better voice my thoughts?
@Panos839
2 жыл бұрын
Honestly I was using charm on a person when I was younger and I did not realize that I was manipulating them, I thought that I was just trying to convince them .
@GlaceonStudios
2 жыл бұрын
While they're similar, I think there's kind of a difference between persuasion and manipulation. Persuasion is intended to argue for a point of view or an action; manipulation is meant to persuade someone else into doing your bidding. There's a difference between saying "Come to the amusement park, it'll be fun!" and "Take out the trash, you're so good at it.* Using charm on a parent is okay every once in a while, so long as the intent is innocent. It's okay to try to charm someone with power over you, but trying to charm an equal is kind of worrying. There should be enough trust in that relationship that manipulation isn't necessary.
@wulfdoesathing4515
2 жыл бұрын
Who hasn't used charm to unknowingly manipulate there parents? Looking back I did that a lot. I still wait for my parents to be in a good mood to ask questions, but for a slightly different reason.
@jamolasalut6931
2 жыл бұрын
Okay the info is so amazing and how u present these ideas is so good but let's just talk about u're voice girl so relaxed omg how u make u're voice so soft wanna know plz🙏🥺💫
@UnknownRager96
2 жыл бұрын
I love how serious of a topic this is and Amanda's still so bubbly and happy
@WhyD0I3xist
2 жыл бұрын
I noticed there are no comments about this but some of the characters in this look like the ones from amphibia
@bagelgeuce
2 жыл бұрын
This video is wild. The 6 is literally what lead me to 2. It's not to punish people, but to protect myself. When communication gets you nowhere that's how it ends. And I haven't been able to get myself out of that since.
@teknos_
2 жыл бұрын
same here.
@Imptile765
7 ай бұрын
Its actually called talking a step back. Silent treatment is used to intentionally hurt someone.
@StrangeAndMarvelous
2 жыл бұрын
They also will either Praise themselves acting like they do so much for you already and it's the least you can do, Talk about how mistreated they were/are and get you to feel guilt fir them and their past/present forcing you into doing something you don't want to do, and make themselves out to be the victim and somehow twist the story to where even you believe your the bad guy making you seem "indebted" to them.
@super_xz9924
2 жыл бұрын
Had a friend who would record whatever we did in games, not in a funny haha way, more of a "I will use this against you when i have the chance". Too bad im too stubborn to get manipulated...
@randomname3080
2 жыл бұрын
It's the amphibia and owl house refinances for me
@firstlast4389
2 жыл бұрын
Manipulation is a very common trait honestly feel like it’s part of human nature or it could have been ingrained in are society. And like everything else it has its good side and bad side.
@user-tr3jw1df6q
2 жыл бұрын
Omg was that an owl house reference??
@artsy_asethics1107
2 жыл бұрын
Pretty sure
@bxbbles8712
2 жыл бұрын
Where??
@bxbbles8712
2 жыл бұрын
Oh I saw it!
@comicallychrome8941
2 жыл бұрын
Huh how did they comment a week ago
@achromatic.stardust
2 жыл бұрын
@@comicallychrome8941 i have the same question
@melonmode4128
2 жыл бұрын
I remember my sister and I were home alone and she confided in me how she's aware that she's manipulative, she seemed quite proud of it all, going into detail how she uses some of the things listed in this video (among other things I can't presently remember) to manipulate our mother and sister. She seemed fairly taken aback when I said, "Yeah, I know. It's pretty obvious". I've always been fairly observant when it comes to people, not like Sherlock Holmes or Patrick Jane, but enough to realise when people are trying to be manipulative or are lying. I've also found myself using some of these manipulative tactics myself, but only on those who do it themselves, like my sister. I've just had more practice. Coercion, reason and debasement are some of her favourites. Bribery also, though she's realised that we all see through that bullshit when she's clearly incapable of holding to promises, even my mother and other sister. Coercion: "I'll tell (our sister) that you ate some of her snacks if you don't buy me ____" "You *could* do that, but she knows I don't like her food, I'd be happy to tell her how you ate her chocolate though, and who is she more likely to believe?" "Fine, I'll get some myself" Reason: "Hey, you need to take out the recycling." "I've just come home from work and need to have a nap, could you do it for me? Working with kids is soooo tiring and you've had a day off" "I'm sure taking out the recycling wouldn't be too much more energy for you, but if you don't then we know who mum will blame when she gets home" "Ugh, you're so lazy. Fine, I'll do it then." Debasement: "My knee is acting up again, so you'll have to bring the shopping in" "Not so bad that you can't bring your own shopping in though, go back and we'll both get the rest with (sister's name) while mum parks up" "No, I need to go do some work for my exams" "The exams you've already finished?" "I have... more exams." "Get outside and help"" "Fine" Bribery: "Mum says you have to get some milk from the shop" "I heard you both on the phone earlier, she asked you" "I'll give you some chocolate if you do." "I already ate some of it while you were at work, and I already got the milk" "You stole my chocolate!?" "You just freely offered it to me as payment" "But you already took some!" "Because I knew you'd pull this trick and then decide not to give me any" "Greedy bastard" All are true stories.
@melonmode4128
2 жыл бұрын
She also used to try regression, since it used to work. Whining and screaming and throwing a tantrum when she didn't get her way, but we've all wised up to that and given a flat "No" each time.
@friendlybendy2070
2 жыл бұрын
@@melonmode4128 heh, at least u can handle it... I'm almost way too close to absolute physical meltdown of my despair...
@friendlybendy2070
2 жыл бұрын
And believe it or not, NO ONE is on my side... I seriously doubt even most here would trust it
@melonmode4128
2 жыл бұрын
@@friendlybendy2070 for me it helps that she's my younger sister, so I can see the humour in her attempting to manipulate me. Not sure what your situation is like, but I hope everything turns out okay
@mercenarygundam1487
2 жыл бұрын
0:54, 2:23 Featuring Enn, Soosha and Moarcy from Amphibia
@EpicParsnips
2 жыл бұрын
Most people: use this video to avoid manipulation Me: uses these as tips to make the most evil and manipulative villain for my game of dungeons and dragons
@Chipsanimation
2 жыл бұрын
Loving the owl house and amphibia reference lol
@brandonplayswastaken
2 жыл бұрын
Same
@socheata643
2 жыл бұрын
I mean sometimes it’s hard, but I’m sure we all try our best against it! 🇰🇭🇺🇸💗💙🙏 Edit: well if we try.
@icebear492
2 жыл бұрын
I love the amphibia references
@sbplankton_1999
2 жыл бұрын
And Fairly oddparents too.
@waterfall3739
2 жыл бұрын
i had a friend when i was younger that when i first met him he was extremely nice and calm he was extremely fun to play games with until he had to move schools and then when i moved schools i was in his school in the same class and this time he had a huge attitude and a giant ego he was also smart and he knew how to play with my mind and control me like a puppet until i met someone that know what manipulative people are and i pretty much learned how to say “no” properly and how to get more brave and soon he just stopped he tried to ignore me to try and get me to go back to him but i kinda just forgot about him then i met him again and he tried to manipulate me trying to correct me trying to intimidate me trying to get me to praise him but he knows that he already lost
@Shadow-bw8qf
2 жыл бұрын
On and off for months the silent treatment has worn me down... can't take it anymore.
@starkiller7278
2 жыл бұрын
Great, now I don't even I know if I'm doing it...
@m4ck3r3l
2 жыл бұрын
THE ANIMATION REFERENCES. THE REFERENCES. THE. THE. AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHH.
@mefenamic
2 жыл бұрын
Here's a video idea, "how to counter manipulation tactics"
@FrostyNate888
2 жыл бұрын
9s ago and already 22 views wtf
@f0z1la
2 жыл бұрын
same but 52 seconds ago!
@Y0uTube_User_1
2 жыл бұрын
nice analysis
@dominic.h.3363
2 жыл бұрын
You call it debasement, I call it socializing. Like when I ask someone something they most probably know that I could easily google, but instead of doing that, I take the opportunity to engage with someone socially to provide them with a positive experience, and can easily segue to other conversational topics after that. Not everything is manipulation for one's own interest where you feign something. Just like it isn't a lie when you aren't spelling out that you are attracted to someone but instead beat around the bush and give hints.
@missspectra
2 жыл бұрын
Okay, that's a fine enough point to make, except what you explained has nothing to do with debasement. Asking someone to figure something out on their own is different from making someone else do something just because you don't want to do it for no good reason.
@dominic.h.3363
2 жыл бұрын
@@missspectra No, there is no difference. It's still a social interaction that gives the other person the positive experience that they are needed, that they can be relied on. If that other person experiences this as something negative, a nuisance, that's their problem.
@MadAliceInWonderland
2 жыл бұрын
Definition of debasement (from google): The action or process of reducing the quality or value of something. Usually in psychology referring to self-debasement, which is making oneself look lower or less than to manipulate someone into doing something. It is inherently talking about it in a negative sense. It is not referring to you trying to give someone a positive experience, this is about negative intentions. There is definitely a difference. Both intentions and methods matter. Lumping them all into, "well this isn't so bad because..." is ignoring the problem that is specifically labeled to pinpoint the problematic version. That's like saying, "Oh, the silent treatment isn't that bad. Sometimes I take a moment to be silent so I don't say something I'll regret." When that isn't what the silent treatment is, it's being silent in a moment related to contention, but not the silent treatment. Same with this. The video is talking about debasement. Which, if you're talking about something positive, you are not talking about debasement.
@dominic.h.3363
2 жыл бұрын
@@MadAliceInWonderland We are talking about the same thing. I don't agree that it is negative, period. Don't quote me definitions when you don't even understand what you argue against.
@SequencerMannot49
7 ай бұрын
@@MadAliceInWonderland They're always gonna insist they're right anyhow. Think what OP is doing is manipulation in itself? Trying to gaslight you?
@kaikornahrens1412
2 жыл бұрын
Oh god, I use some of these subconsciously. Not even to manipulate, but to win debates
@Kanna_Kizuchi
2 жыл бұрын
I liked the Amphibia and Owl house references
@PRDGY_Plyster
2 жыл бұрын
My dad uses all of these on me 😢😢
@Fatima-bl7cb
2 жыл бұрын
What should we do if we can't avoid negative toxic people...because they are our family.??🙁
@chelsea-20980
2 жыл бұрын
try spend as much time outside the house as possible every single day, take a journal with you & write down how you feel every day. in my experience, a therapist speeds up the process cause they know specific things they can do to target where trauma is, but ik not everyone can afford one. so if you’re not able to afford one, you can journal
@Fatima-bl7cb
2 жыл бұрын
@@chelsea-20980 I will try,thank you so much.💖💖
@zoro1627
2 жыл бұрын
I feel like my parents are the people who actually manipulated and gaslit me the most (probably for most of y'all as well)
@sea2sky
2 жыл бұрын
I work with a narcissist. They have refused to acknowledge their manipulative tactics when I was being polite. I have regressed to using the silent treatment because after multiple mediation meetings they have never taken any responsibility for their actions. Now that I have identified them as a narcissist I am no longer even trying. Sometimes there is nothing you can do except protect yourself.
@neverwas01
2 жыл бұрын
Omg you watch the owl house!!! EEEEEEEE!! I love toh so this is awesome 🤩 Edit: (for those wondering it’s on the TV😊)
@nereidsvsunicorns
Жыл бұрын
We live in a society that it is frowned about to ask for help. Covert manipulation is common place but I do not think it is deliberate. Becoming aware of this behaviour is amazing but not being hard on yourself for realising that you are not meant to do everything on your own & being clear about your needs is the only way to get what you want/need ❤
@Kosmicc.K
Жыл бұрын
Just realized I do a lot of these because my mom made me feel like it was normal
@piotraugustyniak6591
2 жыл бұрын
Great video 👍👍
@hneyflwr3807
2 жыл бұрын
I always thought this was like- Something that a lot of married couples and couples do. Nagging. My ex constantly nagged me to make a tiktok account but I wasn’t okay with it. Almost every day for a whole month; “Did you make the account yet?” And eventually she just said “you know what? You’ll never do it. Never mind.” And so many other behaviors of narcissism. But I didn’t think about it because I was in love. Well, we all learn at some point!
@hochspannunglebensgefahr5339
2 жыл бұрын
Fortunately or unfortunately, I actually identify with the manipulative tactics here
@evoevannismo8141
2 жыл бұрын
Yep I have been emotionally manipulated by my ex-girlfriend (Which thankfully she's no longer part of my life anymore) and sometimes my father. This is why when I move on with my life, I am cutting people like my father off just like I did with my ex-girlfriend.
@sk8razer
Жыл бұрын
Wait. So it's not okay to ask for help and explain why you need help? Like, I feel like the one about taking the trash out requires you to assume that the other person has self centered motives, rather than offering the benefit of the doubt. That's fine in situations where there's a pattern of the other person consistently acting self centered and refusing to participate in a pattern of fair reciprocation. But it seems bonkers to slap the manipulator label on anyone who says "I'm not feeling well. I know it's my turn to do [insert task]. But will you do it tonight so I can go rest, pretty please? I would appreciate it so much." I mean, as long as they don't act like an ahole if the person refuses. Maybe the pattern is supposed to be implied. But this is just asking for an abusive and/or victimhood complex to start flinging the "gaslighter" and emotional abuse accusations around in response to a genuine request for assistance. Especially since this video takes a binary approach that a person is either a manipulator or not a manipulator with the implication that manipulator = bad human, even though basically everyone is guilty of being manipulative sometimes (even if they are very mature emotionally). Framing the script such that the viewer is automatically in the victim role and is not a manipulator is also problematic. Psych education should be dual function. It should help people recognize when they are being treated unfairly or harmfully, but it should also have a self reflective function. Assigning any and all viewers to the victimized perfect person role makes personal growth much more difficult. "Behaviors That You May Not Realize are Manipulative" is a much more responsible angle that would better serve the audience.
@sparkyleah9223
2 жыл бұрын
Everyone else: "Thanks, I was in a relationship with a manipulator and this happened." Me: "Hey cat from a fanfiction of a book series I loved as a kid, you are in a toxic relationship, want it to feel more realistic? No? Too bad!"
@programix8432
2 жыл бұрын
yeah... My best friend is in a relationship where her bf is doing all those things in very fucked up ways, we talked wtih her but because this is her 3 horrible relation she thinks that's all her fault and thinks that while her bf has some problems he's not "that bad"... I feel so angry at myself that i cant do anything about it.
@aerodylluk2543
2 жыл бұрын
Some of these things are fairly normal aren't they? How do you know when they become abusive? I think jumping straight to abuse isn't accurate. It is arguable that manipulation is used by everybody every day, for example therapists often manipulate their clients, but for good reasons. The context of the situation is important, you cant just go manipulation = bad.
@charlimander5683
2 жыл бұрын
Do you watch The Owl House or/and Amphibia because you used the characters like Belos and Hunter and Sasha and Marcy perfectly.
@SinhaApurva
2 жыл бұрын
My mom and older sister are both manipulative. On top of that my sister is narcissist, rude, manipulative, she lies to get what she wants, she would make up lies about me and put me down in front of my parents in order to be the "Better" kid. She makes up her grades in front of out family and acquaintances to seem more intelligent and likable and she copies me a big time. I think I'll go crazy if I associate with her anymore.
@couldntcomeupwithausername
2 жыл бұрын
Amphibia references: Anne and her mom - 0:42 , 0:53 - 1:01 Anne's mom - 0:50 Sasha and Marcy - 2:22 - 2:43 The Owl House reference: Belos and Hunter - 0:14
@Shadow_Skye
2 жыл бұрын
I think almost everyone i know in my life and even me that i have contact with almost every day used one or two tactics on me same as i did on them and i feel guilty
@justafriend1451
2 жыл бұрын
I already knew that my friends always used manipulative in their words while talking to get what they want from me but I still helping them cause I can't say 'no' .Is this a good behavior?
@eurika297
2 жыл бұрын
Why do people think too negatively about 'Silent treatment'. You basically silent treatment people you know who are toxic or people who are using you.
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