Ended up watching this and realized: “Yep! I am 100% just overthinking my relationship again”
@ShuuIsHot
Жыл бұрын
Yup, same here ☠️
@alicia234
Жыл бұрын
@@ShuuIsHot I bet there’s going to be a lot of people who realize that if they’re looking for validation that something is wrong. Especially considering since this channel can be used for education on mental health a lot of people with mental health issues may be here.
@e1s21
Жыл бұрын
OMG so glad I'm not the only one
@ShuuIsHot
Жыл бұрын
@alicia234 Well, thing is, I am currently in a LDR with someone, and considering we started dating recently, I am overthinking my actions as I don't want to accidentally do the wrong thing. Thing is, I also have trouble recognizing social cues, so I also sometimes can't tell when they are joking with me, or being genuine when it comes to certain topics. Luckily, I told him this, and found out he has the same issue, and we found a compromise 👍
@alicia234
Жыл бұрын
@@ShuuIsHot I’m in almost the exact same situation, except we didn’t just start dating.
@SweatyAsUrPits
Жыл бұрын
I watched this in the perspective of someone I'm finally getting over. This pretty much described her, and showed that she wasn't in love. Which oddly enough, is comforting to know.
@Psych2go
Жыл бұрын
What were some signs that made you feel like she wasn't in love?
@SonClownku
Жыл бұрын
When she mentioned the Door to Darkness
@geemail369
Жыл бұрын
@@Psych2go It was always about her. she was talking a lot even about very private stuff so i felt a sense of trust, but never about her feelings regarding us or what we had. She was envious whenever i spent time with other women but barely made an effort herself to develop our relationship - it was pretty much always me pushing for closeness, contact or fun things to do together. I've come to call it the "princess syndrome" - even if her initial feelings were genuine, she wasn't willing to make any effort exploring them.
@monajandali3489
Жыл бұрын
@@geemail369 literally my "crush"
@jujuoof174
Жыл бұрын
Good job on getting out of that relationship, it wasn't easy and you did it, so you rock💖
@fresh.prince7472
Жыл бұрын
The thing i love about this channel is there's no negativity you can be you and nobody can judge you ❤
@Psych2go
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for the kind words! We try our best not to judge anyone but strive to help people understand themselves. So your comment means a lot :)
@fresh.prince7472
Жыл бұрын
@@Psych2goyour very welcome that means a lot to trying to understand ourselves when some people never do your videos are so good because you tack every subject from mental health to everything else❤
@raeplaysval
Жыл бұрын
you can only judge yourself
@SonClownku
Жыл бұрын
Say fellas, did somebody mention the Door to Darkness?
@saoirse1337
Жыл бұрын
I don’t want to hurt my girlfriend, but I see some of these in me. Thank you Psych2Go
@SH4RK-SUPR3M4CY
Жыл бұрын
its always good to realize and make amends while you still can, you can do it!
@gentlenoob2576
Жыл бұрын
@@SH4RK-SUPR3M4CYI heavily agree I was taking a really long reading test and I skipped some of the questions and that doesn’t sit right with me. So I swore to myself, I’d never do that again and when it was time to take my social studies test I did the impossible and got a 100%
@gentlenoob2576
Жыл бұрын
56 questions to
@gentlenoob2576
Жыл бұрын
It’s possible you just have to be able to realize when your doing something wrong
@DibbzTV
Жыл бұрын
As someone who’s lied whole relationships - trust me, it’s not worth it. You think it’s okay, and you’re happy, and they’re happy, and that’s all that matters. But if deep down you know it’s not true, let it go. Less so for yourself and more so for the other person. Also, the longer you wait to wait for true love, the worse it gets. Just my experience
@jujuoof174
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for the advice!
@TheHmminator
Жыл бұрын
These relationship videos are really helping me realize ending my last relationship was the right call. A toxic relationship isn’t the right relationship.
@jujuoof174
Жыл бұрын
Yep! Good choice!
@A55a551n
Жыл бұрын
Timestamps 1). It's all about you 0:32 2). Avoidance 1:04 3). Flaws are annoying 1:53 4). No sacrifices 2:20 5). Don't care 2:49 6). Just receive 3:14 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
@A55a551n
Жыл бұрын
@TheRoyalWe07yeah hope you like it
@davidcatlett4052
Жыл бұрын
@@A55a551nThank you for posting this.
@sava898
Жыл бұрын
Thanks!
@A55a551n
Жыл бұрын
@@sava898 not a problem happy to help
@batmanbruce9266
Жыл бұрын
if my pal @A55a551n here were to compete in real time typing update competition the trophy shelf will be filled with every competition's 1st position award a round of applause for this true legend here 👏👏👏
@rosettesionne9139
Жыл бұрын
The flaws are annoying part gets me, I grew up in an environment where my personality was constantly criticized, I felt like I couldn't be loved for who I am, that I didn't deserve to be loved for who I am so I learned to hide part of myself, especially my flaws so as to not upset people and make them attack me.
@thecorrupted3217
Жыл бұрын
Glad to know, it was actually love. Wish things would have been better. Circumstance weren't there but glad it happened. Enjoyed it and grew stronger from it.
@Psych2go
Жыл бұрын
It's too bad that not every love works out the way we want... but you're right, we do grow stronger from it. If you don't mind my asking, what were some reasons why the love didn't work out for you?
@Zoeli_toma_caldo
Жыл бұрын
I wish I was you man, I really do.
@Snowball_Maltese
Жыл бұрын
This is a dangerous video for people in relationships bc they might realize something they don’t wanna realize 😅 Love the video as always though! The quality of these videos always amazes me
@Psych2go
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for the kind words! Yes, truth can certainly be unpleasant. However, I believe that it's much better to face the truth earlier than later. :)
@Snowball_Maltese
Жыл бұрын
@@Psych2go that’s definitely true! Also you’re welcome!!
@societalwizard
Жыл бұрын
sign 1: you clicked on this video. Trust your intuition first, and remember you receive the love you think you deserve!
@mr.hidden9242
Жыл бұрын
How do you grow love in a relationship where you're afraid you aren't giving any? How do you learn to love?
@samiscebba4332
Жыл бұрын
Love yourself first, so you can then listen to your partner with all your heart, not blinded by past pain... I'm no expert but i just got dumped and this video was eye opening..
@5-fabianalejandroescobarri646
Жыл бұрын
It's kinda sad that I was doing some of these things in my last relationship, "Love is about giving, not receiving", i wonder when did I forget this important part of being in love, anyway, it's a little bit late for us, we broke up because I wasn't being fair, I mean, she was giving me more than I used to give her, or that was my feeling inspite that she told me that she liked he experience and that stuff. Just hope that she finds someone to have a mutual love. In my side, I'm still not sure of what I'm looking for... maybe for that reason I've been afraid of having a partner again, not be emotional enough for someone.
@grand-dadmiral
Жыл бұрын
I regret I was a victim of this sort of thing, having loved someone who was never truly in love with me. Being strung along and ditched isn't something I wish on anyone.
@batmanbruce9266
Жыл бұрын
Timestamps 1. It's all about you 0:34 2. Avoidance 1:04 3. Flaws are annoying 1:54 4. No sacrifices 2:20 5. Doesn't Care 2:50 6. Just receive 3:14 Keep Learning guys 😊😊😊
@Psych2go
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for the time stamps!
@dfsw
Жыл бұрын
I've noticed they have stopped time stamping the videos so you have to watch the whole thing rather than the parts that are relevant.
@no-vt2tz
Жыл бұрын
For the ones who would cross oceans and pull the stars down for your partner, listen to this video, it may save you from a lifetime of heart break because you are the perfect partner for someone selfish. 😢
@batmanbruce9266
Жыл бұрын
@@Psych2go You're welcome 😊😊😊
@baibhavkumarmohanty7636
Жыл бұрын
Went through my break up 6 months ago yet i still look back on it and try to learn from it... what we had wasn't love but selfish love and infatuation.... Your videos help me a lot for reassessing and what to look for in my relationship.. Also these videos help me understand myself as a person!! Keep up the good videos guys ❤❤
@arsenic5703
Жыл бұрын
I’ve been coming to terms with the fact that I’m Aroace, and this video really helped me realize that I like the idea of love more than actually wanting to be in love. Ty
@e1iias
Жыл бұрын
Sadly I was in this sort of relationship for the past month. Thanks as always Psych2Go, all your videos have been a huge help to me overall, as becoming a better person & becoming aware of what too look for/not to look for in a partner.
@onnie1036
Жыл бұрын
I'm sorry about your recent experience, but it's great that you've found value in Psych2Go's videos. They can be incredibly insightful when it comes to personal growth and relationships.Wishing you all the best on your journey! ❤
@SonClownku
Жыл бұрын
Say fellas, did somebody mention the Door to Darkness?
@AtrixAtr
Жыл бұрын
i like how the artist included kana and aqua
@Karr.2e
Жыл бұрын
Pysch2go is like a mind reader. She ( assuming ) knows whenever I have a problem and makes a video about it
@sophiaisabelle01
Жыл бұрын
Never been in love. Probably I'm selfish, but there's no way I could confirm for certain if that's really the case.
@Infact77
Жыл бұрын
just because you've never been in love doesn't mean you're selfish. I haven't even had a "crush" for anyone in over 8 years, and that was my only "crush". I don't even know what I liked about her.
@djblueu7608
Жыл бұрын
If you don’t love love anyone your not selfish
@astalavista5328
Жыл бұрын
To actually say you've never been in love makes you far from selfish you infact sound adorable
@Infact77
Жыл бұрын
@@astalavista5328 sometimes I don't know if people are saying my name or just saying "in fact" 🤣 could be talking to either of us tbf have a good one though xD
@jjaa_joyjoyartist
Жыл бұрын
Not to be that person (because labels alone can dismiss somebody's actual feelings) but... Honey there's an entire romantic identity for that: aromantic
@Miss_Vee993
Жыл бұрын
I have been guilty of being the one who acted selfish, few years go. I admit it ! It took me few years of self - reflection to open my eyes. If any of you are like this, dont be be hard on yourself. It probably might be because of your chuldhood traumas. Just continue your journey of healing , You have got this !!! 🥰
@jujuoof174
Жыл бұрын
Realising this is great! Good job! And thank you for the encouraging message!
@Miss_Vee993
Жыл бұрын
@@jujuoof174 💓 Thanks love
@MegaVGmaster
Жыл бұрын
So i was in love at one point.... that's bittersweet. But im kinda glad it happened even though it ended.
@SweetGir12
Жыл бұрын
Had to watch this because i just recently paused a relationship with my boyfriend. Something felt off because when it was his birthday, I didn't feel as giddy about giving him something as I used to before meeting him. I met him after my very painfull time in life and a very emotional, heartbroken state. I was giving so much love to everyone around me and after getting broken completely by one person I loved, I stopped loving entirely...So even though this new boyfriend of mine is the kind of person I should be with, kind, caring, comforting, it felt like I was drinking away his love selfishly...
@7_Lenn
Жыл бұрын
I know u probably heard this a hundred times before,but ur voice is comforting and relaxing. Thank u for this advice. I'll send it to someone who needs it! ☺️
@Psych2go
Жыл бұрын
Thank you! Amanda's voice is known for its soothing quality ;)
@electricoverlord3122
Жыл бұрын
Really great video! When I’m with someone i would want to make sacrifices here then just to be there for them, i try not to make everything about myself and i listen to them whenever they need to talk about important stuff, this video helped me understand so I Really appreciate what you guys do! and to be honest I try to do these things for my friends because I like making friends and making long lasting bonds, and now there’s this one girl that i really like, we did track together in spring, and i really like her personality I talk to her here and then, so first I will just take it slow, and right now we can just stay friends and i will try to get to know her better. Oops! i kinda got off topic but again great video!!💛
@MissSirenita
Жыл бұрын
I watch these because I’m always confused. I’ve never felt this before. All my life, I thought I was gay like straight up. Then this adorkable doofus shows up in my life and my heart flutters. Like all I want is his happiness, even if it’s not with me. My love language is gift giving, but more giving than receiving. The look he has on his face when I get his gift right is like a child in a toy or candy store. It’s cute, it’s warm, and it makes me incredibly happy. ..but it’s also confusing
@jinchuriki7022
Жыл бұрын
So does he like you?
@jahrose76
Жыл бұрын
Watching this I realized these were red flags I should have seen my children’s father. For example, when I wanted to talk about my medical diagnosis, treatment and how I felt, he shut me down. Saying he is not interested in learning more, but as long as I feel good about my treatment that was what was important. When I was working on acting projects that I absolutely loved, he told my kids that I just wanted to be with my “new” boyfriend or I just like to talk a lot and that’s the only reason I was doing these projects. The day he destroyed my soul was that he told me that all of these “things” are not important since I wasn’t making money, it didn’t matter if I was good at. I had to choose between my passion for a career path of his kids and I couldn’t do both. That was 2018 or 2019 and I’m still not recovered from that painful period. Yeah, I thing this video was more triggering then I expected it to be.
@RainaWilkins
Жыл бұрын
Having fun and doing what God wants you to do is the most important and not makeing money
@Agentdouble007
Жыл бұрын
Man where was this video a month ago when I needed it
@ailurii
Жыл бұрын
I don’t see someone avoiding emotional vulnerability as them not genuinely loving their partner, or as them being selfish at all. In fact, I see that as kind of disrespectful to people with avoidant attachment styles and/or past traumas that make opening up scary. Unless you specifically meant them denying their partner opening up, but if that’s the case, being specific is better than saying being scared of vulnerability in general is a sign of a lack of love.
@picklefingers1502
Жыл бұрын
I have noticed these signs with my bf but I have really thought it over, but I prioritize him way more and love him truly now, realizing is the biggest step
@brb6769
Жыл бұрын
Thats so Great! im now in same situation as you and still trying figured out 😅
@picklefingers1502
Жыл бұрын
@@brb6769 keep pushing it's worth it! 9 months later and I've never been happier. He's so sweet, just gotta make sure your partner has your back
@izzy7998
Жыл бұрын
Just think: "How would I feel if my partner was like this towards me?". That should be the first and most important step, realizing that something is wrong or missing between the two of you.
@vory2hard
Жыл бұрын
Thank you, enjoy yalls day 🪼✨
@Psych2go
Жыл бұрын
You too!!
@Carolyn_Cannon
11 ай бұрын
I watched this RIGHT after a breakup cause the whole time something just didnt feel right in the relationship. I didn't relate to this at all, actually quite the opposite, but I didn't think much of it. Now I'm coming back later watching it again its its finally clicked that HE was never in love and it was just selfish. It sucks cause I really did love him but that's just the way things go sometimes
@Integrity-j2o
Жыл бұрын
It's nice to know how selfish people are in relationships before you enter your own. You just have to be careful with choosing your crush
@15Mars51
Жыл бұрын
Good video, I'm gonna talk with my female friend this weekend about my feelings to her, so it's nice to know that for sure it isn't selfish love. Hopefully it isn't temporary infatuation and she reciprocate my feelings
@Over-Packed
Жыл бұрын
Good luck
@15Mars51
Жыл бұрын
Thanks :)
@Over-Packed
11 ай бұрын
@@15Mars51 how did it go?
@15Mars51
11 ай бұрын
@@Over-Packed Thanks that you ask. I could sum this up as "It's complicated". Long story short, for now i can still call myself as friendzoned. She doesn't want label us as more, because she doesn't have strong romantic feelings towards me. She first want us to know each other better, start as friends and then possibly build something more. We had conversation like that 3 months ago, conclusion was exactly the same. Back then she asked me first about feelings, so now it was my turn to surprise her with that question. I guess we need more time, I see slow positive change in her behaviour towards me and our overall not typical friend relation.
@AndreaChavez-sl9lo
Жыл бұрын
Right now I'm not in a relationship but this is surely going to teach me how make a good one. Also love their videos. Keep up the great work.❤
@onnie1036
Жыл бұрын
That's a fantastic perspective! Learning about the signs of a healthy relationship can indeed prepare you for a future one. Keep up your positive attitude, and best of luck on your journey toward a healthy and loving connection when the time is right! 😊👍
@AndreaChavez-sl9lo
Жыл бұрын
@@onnie1036 Thanks you to.(:
@jujuoof174
Жыл бұрын
Omg I LOVE the thumbnail and art, amazing work!!
@nessmess500
8 ай бұрын
I hate to admit it but I'm getting over a woman now who for the longest time I thought was my soulmate. But she checks off every item on the list in the video. I was always the one to make the effort to reach out and communicate. I always try to understand her, but it seemed like my efforts were rarely if ever appreciated. I literally told her that I'll let her reach out to me first for a few months and she never reached out. But one time she happened to see me dancing at a bar with two other woman. Now keep in mind that I'm single. Instead of approaching me and having a conversation she sent one of her friends over to say that I had a girlfriend (which is not true), and tried to play pathetic little mind games. On top of that, she didn't even reach out afterwards. It's like she is a little girl who has a toy that she rarely plays with. She'll only reach out to it whenever she wants to play with it, ignoring whatever damage she puts on the toy. Yet if she sees any other kid interested in playing with it, she won't let them have it. It sucks because she's genuinely someone who I admire in other ways. She is running her own independent business at a young age and I genuinely want to see her grow and support her. But it's tough continuously supporting someone when they don't acknowledge your efforts or reciprocate them consistently. I need love too. And now I realize that I wanted to give love and didn't know how to receive it, and she only wants to receive love and not give it back.
@RaveTheMemer
Жыл бұрын
My ex that I just can’t get over was just like this, so she didn’t actually love me
@Bucky_Winchester
Жыл бұрын
In my last relationship everything only revolved around my bf. It was mostly obvious whenever I had a really bad day and he managed to make it about himself. Always trying to best me at feeling horrible, if you want to. Always had to take care of him and console him but as soon as I had a meltdown, a very bad one even, he only patted me on the head and 5 minutes late changed the subject to how bad of a meltdown he has out of the sudden. The only person who was allowed to receive sheltering and positive affirmation was him. 😢
@usagiroxie
Жыл бұрын
I'm sorry you had to go through a narcissistic relationship. They're truly the worst...
@SonClownku
Жыл бұрын
Say fellas, did somebody mention the Door to Darkness?
@s1mplykake
Жыл бұрын
First! You're vids are inspiring! Keep it up! ❤
@Psych2go
Жыл бұрын
❤ Thanks so much for watching! What did you think of today's topic?
@s1mplykake
Жыл бұрын
@@Psych2goIt's great! It's very helpful for people who feel like they are n a toxic relationship
@AWKWARDCONFIDENCE
Жыл бұрын
So glad I’m single
@rheuzic8271
Жыл бұрын
Walked into this video looking for motivation to move on. It just made it more obvious that I'm in love (we're close friends and agreed to never date each other lol)
@sunburstshredder
Жыл бұрын
Damn, that Psy plushie is sold out every time I look
@CMStrawbridge
Жыл бұрын
Love is a skill. If it's selfish, it's NOT love
@angelfaithparba9940
2 ай бұрын
this just clarifies my feelings... I REALLY LOVE "....", AAAAAAAAAA-
@peachnecctar1658
Жыл бұрын
i came here to make sure i was still in love but im leaving here kinda feeling confirmed in the belief that maybe he doesnt love me.. I think if he didnt have my apartment and car to use freely he probably wouldnt be here
@kenangowari
Жыл бұрын
Can't relate myself to this about my relationship, but I think that some points can be also related to friendship, in which I've had a lot of moments like this people treating me like this (not talking to them anymore anyway)
@bribee_
Жыл бұрын
i sometimes get a little embarrassed by my partner’s quirks. i thought of this when you mentioned that finding flaws annoying could be a sign. this was the only thing a could kinda relate to in this video, but i don’t find my partner’s flaws annoying, i just (as someone with very low self esteem and social anxiety/insecurities) feel like people will judge me about their quirks. its not that i don’t like their quirks cuz being completely honest i love them and they can be my favorite part about my partner but in public situations they can be uncomfortable. i know for a fact that we both truly love eachother and have a healthy relationship for countless reasons, but i just thought i mine as well mention this
@jennifergray6433
Жыл бұрын
I didn't mean to be but I've been the listener and healer. Been shoved aside and taking advantage of. Not that it's a good thing, but I do deserve to be a little bit selfish......😢
@RubyLine
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for the video ❤ Quite sad to understand that's how my partner has been treating me since I've known him.... Guess it's truly high time to move on from whatever the hell this is.
@bettycherrypie
10 ай бұрын
This applied to platonic love too for me. It aligned with a dying friendship I'm in. Much appreciated I realise I need to end things.
@joetan3863
Жыл бұрын
I realized that whenever I give special treatment to a person I love, I end up treating any other people the same way. And the "special" treatment no longer feels special. I hate how I'm just such a people pleaser.
@elsaaforges
Жыл бұрын
I think people who aren't able to give (and receive) love is because they were never truly loved (at a deep emotional level) by their parents during their childhood so they managed to carry on relying exclusively in themselves.
@missstranger7697
Жыл бұрын
I remember my mother had the bad habit of selfish love and unfortunately I inherited it, but with fear and avoidance, not by interrupting what the other person might say to me.
@Hellixie
Жыл бұрын
What can I do to face this selfishness? And most important how to face this fear 1:04 / 0:34 ? (I can also relate to sign 5. Doesn't Care 2:50 and maybe 6. Just receive 3:14) . I know I am selfish. This problem I have since begining of my life. Trough several friendships I still could not listen to anyone´s else problems or feel like I helped with someone´s problems. I want to know how to face those selfishness and fears. Or if is it something I have to find by myself how to face. I am glad that you made this video because it opens my eyes of what my problem was all the time (I knew already I am selfish but I still wasnt sure about what does it mean). Now I just need to know what do next to become better person and dont hurt myself and anyone else.
@lululolo200
11 ай бұрын
I think it‘s normal to not love all of their flaws all of the time after the „honeymoon phase“ and to be annoyed by them sometimes. Or should you always love all of their traits? And when they talk about their interests that I don’t share in (very technical) detail do I have to care about the same things and listen?
@rimf8clan164
Жыл бұрын
With the all about you one if you have a autistic partner when you’re talking about your past or problems of your day we will often bring up something similar to relate and it’s how we show we understand and care and listening. it can be hard to catch when we do it sometimes
@dudeman1347
Жыл бұрын
I liked my own comment
@imagoobinbell
Жыл бұрын
Got your priorities straight! Have a great silly goofy day:O)
@chinita_sisters4731
Жыл бұрын
YAS SELF LOVE YEEE
@fjmackin
Жыл бұрын
In the book, 'How to Be an Adult In Relationships: The Five Keys to Meaningful Loving' David Richo identifies that love is based on five 'A's': acceptance, affection, allowance, appreciation, and attention.
@annietang100
Жыл бұрын
Now I feel super bad because at some point of the relationship i was all of these... it must've really hurt him
@Warriordan44
Жыл бұрын
Its not nice to call people selfish.. Someone trying to progress aww their selfish..
@shenaesanders8160
Жыл бұрын
It'll be 4 days until my birthday!
@Q-Gamez
Жыл бұрын
Happy bday for then my guy!
@makaylarae1000
Жыл бұрын
Happy belated birthday🎉🎉
@fresh.prince7472
Жыл бұрын
Happy early birthday
@Zoeli_toma_caldo
Жыл бұрын
I just fucked up the whole thing a couple of times cuz I was feeling uncomftable with their behaviour, but I was never able to tell them exactly what bothered me and now we are in a terrible place and i want to be with them, but I also think I have been acting really selfish and probably am not okey enough for a relation, idrk.
@LunarArsonist
Жыл бұрын
I see some of this in a crush I had at someone, I recently found out I’m aromantic it and I’m so happy I didn’t hurt him because he was a really good friend. I really just wanted to be normal.
@chironjitpalontim1539
Жыл бұрын
I was expecting most of the comments to be made by victims of selfish love but it seems those who acted selfish are commenting more. In my case i was the victim. The girl i really cared for broke up with me because i was upset she forgot my birthday and was showing her signs of my agitation. I couldn't seem to come to terms that she is longer with me but after watching these, little by little I'm convincing myself that it was a good thing she left on her own cause I wouldn't have the heart to ask her to end it.
@Tsukkiii
Жыл бұрын
Loved the Oshi no Ko references ❤
@nicepacete1729
Жыл бұрын
Me and my partner had this conversation 😭 and its me is the problem damn . It worked out once we talk it all out.
@heavenlyhaha2899
Жыл бұрын
5 signs you’re not truly you when you’re hungry, here’s a snickers
@d3l_nev
Жыл бұрын
Guys, this was an INTROSPECTION video, it's for YOU to realise YOUR MISTAKES, not your exes mistakes. Please, some things are your fault, be responsible.
@hungrylearner9110
Жыл бұрын
There is nothing has true love, if there is something you want in each other, they come close and our brains make us feel good, that is the what real love according to my understanding
@Daybreakhasme
Жыл бұрын
I have a friend whose in love with me, and I care about her to a certain degree..but im not in love. Don't want to be.
@galaxyangel176
Жыл бұрын
I like this channel on my old account and it always have me things and it always shares good tips and or advice. Plus it's soothing to hear 😊
@MARStheFORSAKEN
Жыл бұрын
What if you have all of these things,you joke with them,you care about them, you show weakness to them,you express compassion and empathy towards them,but in the end you would never endanger your own life for them? You would rather save your own skin then there's given the choice? To me that doesn't sound like love,can you care for someone but not care at the same time?
@RainaWilkins
Жыл бұрын
Well it sounds like you care about yourself more then them and you don't make even little sacrifices to make them happy .
@MARStheFORSAKEN
Жыл бұрын
@@RainaWilkins I sacrificed more then you know in my relationships but yes I do always look out for #1 first and what's left to spare I give to others,I feel that's rational as you should never be fully submissive,vulnerable,reliant or dependent on someone else but it's also very difficult to fall in love if you dont,hence My confusion,seems like falling In love requires you to have your cake and eat it too.
@Lurker1991
Жыл бұрын
@@RainaWilkinsYou're supposed to make compromises, not sacrifices, in relationships. Compromises takes into account both sides of discussion, forming mutual agreements. Sacrifices are always one-sided and will cause resentment in due time, especially if either one ends up being the one who sacrifices more then the other.
@RainaWilkins
Жыл бұрын
@@Lurker1991 I forgot about that... I guess I am so used to making sacrifices, I forgot what I wanted and only about what everyone else wanted...mabey I have the opposite of Selfish love which is only giving love even if I am not getting any...
@RainaWilkins
Жыл бұрын
@@Lurker1991 you are right I am sorry about what I said 😞I was wrong
@7_Lenn
Жыл бұрын
Also, cool oshi Noko refrence 😎
@anonymous_g001
Жыл бұрын
As an Autistic Male, I can be like this sometimes, especially since the age of 12, I'm alienated by everyone because of my Autism.
@sharonrachel9487
Жыл бұрын
Awe, yeah I think it's more challenging with autism. I'm AuDHD and I have to really be aware of these things. I don't mean to do them, but I do some of them. It's about becoming really aware and having someone who is very understanding by your side and knows you aren't trying to be self centered and that it's more the way we relate to the people around us. ((Hugs))
@brisbreathing
Жыл бұрын
i’m so glad i saw this comment! a few of these apply to me too, but i think it can be considerably different when you’re autistic. you don’t always realize how your way of being might be perceived by others, and sometimes it’s inaccurate to what you really feel inside.
@scp173...
Жыл бұрын
I'm also autistic it's difficult for me too. For all people like us
@pockychu887
Жыл бұрын
The thing is, I want a relationship and i want to be loved, but every relationship ended with me not loving the person, while they're in love with me. I dont think i can love anyone really. Its as if im living in a completely different world feom everyone around me.
@ClawsAndTeeth
Жыл бұрын
I've never been in a romantic relationship, and one of the biggest reasons is because I KNOW I'd only act like the descriptions here. I know that no one should have to put up with a romantic partner like that, so I just avoid it.
@okkotsuzs
Жыл бұрын
this is how my parents are
@NATBEAN111.
Жыл бұрын
Hi I love your Chanel have a good day
@piegirl8263
Жыл бұрын
I need to take notes
@Aperson10110
11 ай бұрын
I do tend to talk about myself alot so I really try to avoid that but its hard, and when comforting someone its like idk what to say anymore
@Leadlight280
Жыл бұрын
I want to convince myself I didn't care, it isn't working.
@udderbuttr7913
11 ай бұрын
Cant right past wrongs, but I can at least learn from my mistakes. I do miss her tho, I hope she's doing ok
@rinzler12345
Жыл бұрын
the only person i truly love is me, myself, and i
@Lurker1991
Жыл бұрын
And that is okay
@rinzler12345
Жыл бұрын
indeed
@RainaWilkins
Жыл бұрын
I had a crush on a guy that came to my school and he seemed to like me and to and flirt with me. We were good friends we would talk all break(he would talk and I would liston and I would sometimes comment.we had fun but I had to go to a different school for a year and when I came back well, things were different he had made more friends and I felt like he didn't need me...I still liked him and when I told him he said he was working on school and his walk with God and he said he was not looking for a romantic relationship and I understand and support his decisions. I still like him but I try to just be a good friend.
@nuestrasvoces-ocal4618
10 ай бұрын
Thanks ❤
@JustAnInnocentLamb
Жыл бұрын
Dear Psych2Go, thanks for you content. I want to be a psychiatrist when i geow up and this is helpful getting me a head start. I'm 13 but i love psychology
@Psych2go
Жыл бұрын
Wow, that's wonderful to hear! Why do you want to be a psychiatrist when you grow up?
@the-best-weirdo
Жыл бұрын
Im happy i dont have any of these signs
@FokiuUuUuh2834
Жыл бұрын
I have been fulfilling the first one now that I see it, the truth is I have tried several times to avoid talking so much about myself if my self-esteem describes me as a stupid and boring person... and well, in those cases I try to always remember to ask him about his day, my boyfriend... he doesn't like to talk so much about his problems and I would like to listen to him but lately I have been through very bad things... maybe because of having told him everything What happened to me made him hide his negative feelings when we chatted. I try to make an effort, I even make an effort not to self-mutilate every time I feel like I hate myself, sometimes I thought about ending my life before he decides to break up with me for being so annoying... I just feel sometimes that I lose track of everything that surrounds me and has sentimental value so much, that I think I'm not keeping my promise, not giving him my love, my understanding or comfort
@FokiuUuUuh2834
Жыл бұрын
I don't want to be selfish If I can't stop being...He will deserve someone and something better than me and I won't be able to object at all
@southerncatlady
Жыл бұрын
I worry about this often! I have a person who is BEGGING me to let them love me. But I have been through hell the past few years, I have learned to love being alone and on my own, and I am trying to heal all the damaged parts. This person refuses to leave my side, as they understand and know ALL of this. I know this is the kind of love that I WANT. But I am not sure if my questioning is just because I am still in some pretty crucial healing stages (and doubt from having been terribly hurt before), or if maybe I really can't love this person the same way!
@gentity8589
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this.
@insertwordshere6952
Жыл бұрын
I feel like this, and i'm not even in a relationship.
@Grateful4time
Жыл бұрын
Very true!!
@JTheWeatherMan
Жыл бұрын
3 videos in one day? Take a break, dang
@RayPeng-07
Жыл бұрын
Im' glad to hear that most of those didn't fit to me when I was in love. IO means that the other persons wee ungrateful and selfish. Although they made me feel so back then so mostly I had to be the one yo leave without giving them the last word...
@salvianaazzahra200
Жыл бұрын
1:56 aqua x kana is real
@inthedetails5467
Жыл бұрын
The only critique I have with this is that sacrificing in a relationship is not a good or healthy thing to do. You can accommodate and mutually compromise, but don’t sacrifice. Sacrificing just leads to resentment, keeping score, playing games, and manipulation-even if it’s not meant to cause harm at first. If you’re sacrificing yourself, then that might be a sign of incompatibility more than a personal issue between partners.
@Flesmus
Жыл бұрын
No... I would sacrifice leaving my city just to be with him, but I can't... for many reasons.. Can't drive, dont want to live in a homophobe country state and no job... I hope we at least meet once one day.... just once...
@onnie1036
Жыл бұрын
You bring up an excellent point! Sacrificing in a relationship can indeed lead to negative outcomes, such as resentment and unhealthy dynamics. Healthy relationships are built on mutual understanding and compromise, not one-sided sacrifices. It's crucial for both partners to maintain their individual well-being and happiness while finding ways to accommodate each other's needs. Your insight is valuable in highlighting the importance of balance and mutual respect in relationships.
@Wolfgangblood1408
Жыл бұрын
What if you’re in the receiving end of the selfish love?
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