Anyone who's in a relationship wants to know the secret recipe to making their love last. And while everyone's relationship is different, there is something to be learned from those who have managed to keep the spark alive for years or even decades.
We’ve been married come November, for 24 years. In those years, our love has been nearly perfect. Doesn’t mean we haven’t had arguments, doesn’t mean we haven’t considered divorce. Doesn’t mean we haven’t grown weary or tired, but our love for the life we’ve built. Our love for each other and our commitment to God held us down.
The secret for us isn’t just having a religious moral compass which is important. It is also having a commitment to the promise we made before God to hold each other on high regard. Never in those years, have we ever accepted the lie that our emotions tried to tell us, that our circumstances overshadowed the characters of our parents. We kept in mind that who we married. We kept our perfect love in the center.
Here are 6 non- negotiables we feel are the key to success and longevity in marriage.
1. Marry a person who wants you as much as you want them. I don’t care how good you are to a person, you’ll never be good enough for a person who doesn’t want you the way you want them.
2. Be friends. When love weans, as it sometimes will (you’ll always want to talk to your friend)
3. Safety and Respect. A woman needs to feel safe. She needs to know that you want harm her, cheat on her, belittle her or damage her self esteem. A man needs respect AT ALL TIMES!! You wouldn’t expect a man to stop loving you when he’s having a bad day, you should no more withhold respect for your man when you are having a bad day. I wholeheartedly stand by this! Love your woman at all times, when you want too and when you don’t. And respect that man even when you feel like he doesn’t deserve it. If he is a good man… He Absolutely deserves it!!
4. Communication. Grown people, communicate - period. You will not have a successful marriage if you don’t learn the art of communication. Study it. Learn how to better communicate to your partner in a way that “they” can hear, and learn how to express yourself without judgement, criticism or accusations. Communication is not only key to successful marriage, it’s critical!
5. God. No explanations needed for us. In our house we consider God in all things. It is never lost upon us who brought us together and it is not lost upon us who will continue to keep us together. If you don’t have some type of spiritual foundation, your relationship will suffer. Let me just say this also. A man who is concerned about God’s heart, will most certainly take care of yours.
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6. Have sex. Have lots of sex. It binds us together in a way that no other event can. Chemistry is created outside of the bedroom believe it or not. If you practice perfecting tips 1-5, number 6 will be a breeze. Ladies and gentlemen, love is a privilege. If you have it, do everything in your power to honor it and take care of it. ❤️ #Shelton&Shica
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