Yeah, I've gotten that "When was your last period?" at several intakes in the last five years. One was at a Christian funded free clinic and I needed something for a UTI and I told the intake nurse that "I was born intersex and have never had a period." The nurse's eyes bugged out and a look of shock came over her face. I mean she should have come across some other intersex person at sometime in her career--she looked like she had been a practicing nurse for some time. In this area, a lot of fundamentalist Christians are told that there is no such thing as intersex people--they see it as the gateway drug to trans and gay acceptance. The experience had me giggling for a while.
@mx.anunnakiraymarquez6295
5 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video. As a CAH/PCOS intersex man I appreciate this greatly!
@endar777
5 жыл бұрын
Hi Hans, I love the idea of bringing a Sharpie to a medical appointment (or any other "form-filling out" appointment) because it seems like it definitely would be really empowering and allows the person who is filling out the form to control their own narrative and subtly suggest that the particular form in question should be updated. On the question about "When was your last period?"... I am not a medical professional, but my guess is that the reason this question is ask is to help the medical professional begin to determine the possibility of pregnancy. There are certain medications and procedures, like x-rays, that could be damaging to an unborn child, so determining if someone is pregnant needs to be known and recorded in the person's current medical record. Asking the time frame of a client's last period is probably the easiest and least intrusive way to start an inquiry into the potential for pregnancy. This inquiry could then be followed by a discussion about the medical impact and alternatives for certain treatment if the client is actually pregnant. Also, it most likely limits a doctor's legal liability if they at least inquire about the possibility of pregnancy for the individual seeking services and then "statistically" rule out the possibility based on the date of a women's last period (and a few more questions). Even if the assumption is wrong, they have at least tried to cover their legal rear-end. Sorry to be so long-winded. I do agree though, that medical professionals need more training in many areas and it is burdensome for their clients to have to do it, at a time when they are most vulnerable. And yes, forms need to be updated so that medical appointments can be less triggering and more beneficial for the person seeking treatment. I really like this channel and I am definitely looking forward to all your upcoming videos.
@hihellohans
5 жыл бұрын
Hey Marlo! Thank you! Really appreciate your thoughtful comments. I think you're probably right. The weird thing for me though is, they always ask me the period question AFTER they already asked if I was pregnant...? Probably a liability thing, though of course some intersex people can become pregnant, and not everyone who can become pregnant knows their status.
@Sorkabeth
5 жыл бұрын
Yep. They're pretty serious about the "last period/possibly pregnant" issue... I had to have my gallbladder removed last year and assorted doctors, urgent care, ER, surgical prep people gave me 5 pregnancy tests in 5 days despite my stating that I'm Asexual and haven't had sex involving a partner since getting a positive pregnancy test when pregnant with my *5 year old*. But I'm a woman, married to a man so *surely* I'm knocking boots all the time and can't be trusted! 😕
@caseycasas2498
5 жыл бұрын
It’s also to see if there could be other health problems going on. Menstrual cycle stuff can be the “canary in the coal mine” for typically wired people with uteruses (still annoying....so annoying)
@retrro3
5 жыл бұрын
Yay! I want an appointment with Dr. Lindahl please :P On the period question, I usually answer "I have primary amenorrhea". They are usually so shocked that I'm using such specific vocabulary that they don't ask anything else (unless they are looking to be specially annoying)
@christopherjacob2082
5 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this! I'm trans, not intersex, but as you said, these issues often overlap. If it's at an office that already knows you're intersex/trans, I second the pamphlet idea! I also print out an FAQ I've gotten to the point where if they ask an uncomfortable question, I often ask, "Why do you need to know?" If I have a broken wrist, no one needs to know whether or not I have a dick. They'll usually respond with something along the lines of, "It's procedural, we have to ask" and I say, "If it's not directly relevant to my wrist/[insert issue here], I don't feel comfortable responding to questions about my genitals." I would only respond if they give a legitimate reason for asking (which hasn't happened yet, *shocker!*).
@LlanoRiverBlue
5 жыл бұрын
Doing the intersex lord’s work here, Hans.
@dinafulconis1376
5 жыл бұрын
This was so great! Thank you. As much as I am not intersex, I deal with PTSD related to hospitals and doctors so visits are always stressful and very much anxiety inducing (can totally relate to the smell, my god). Visits will probably get even more stressful and confusing now that I am transitioning. I really appreciated your tips and I will be sure to use them next time. You are awesome and I (always) look forward to your next video!
@IntersexGamer
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this. I just found out im intersex 6 months ago and its still kind of really weird for me but videos like this definitely help a lot.
@EuclideanChaos
5 жыл бұрын
This is such a wonderful video, thank you. On the coping strategies front, I've been told that bringing a stuffed animal along (if you have one) can be helpful, a little physical reminder that home's on the other side of the appointment. Alternatively, a good sweater or light jacket that can be bundled up/held similarly if a stuffed animal in public is uncomfortable. "This looks/feels/smells like home, which is where I'll be soon." I love the Sharpie idea, and bringing your own notes and literature to have on hand. Thank you again for the video; your whole series (yes, even the Capricorn bit) is insightful, funny, and oddly soothing? Maybe "playlist to include Hans videos" on that list of coping strategies, too!
@hihellohans
5 жыл бұрын
Thank you! Haha, aww, I love all of these. Stuffed animals can hold a lot of feelings and comforting memories. Big fan, and I definitely sleep with a ton.
@Malgorbia
4 жыл бұрын
What’s ridiculous about this is these people are medical professionals they should be educated enough to know this exists. My mom is a NP/doctor and she has to keep up with current medical information and stay well read and she 100% knows what intersex is already. (She’s in her 60s and been practicing for a while). I don’t see how these docs and nurses are so poorly educated on something that isn’t that uncommon (2-3% of the population is still 2-3 people out of 100, that’s not a small number statistically). Like either the medical education system has failed them or they didn’t bother to actually pay attention. I went to JHU a top medical school in the US (for chemistry) and they definitely brought up intersex as a possible variant. So yeah TLDR I’m appalled doctors and nurses are this ignorant. You went to school for this people!!!
@cajunstacker1376
Жыл бұрын
I really don't know why society makes such a big deal about people being born intersex. You have a such a great sense of humor, you seem much more fun than most male or female people that I know.I love the channel, I hope and think that you will get many subscribers. I just found your channel today and I am a new subscriber.
@crystalhendricks6687
5 жыл бұрын
I’m here for the ice cream 🍦
@flip1242
5 жыл бұрын
This is so great !!!! Im definitely gonna use these tips in the future, as for what to do when the period question comes up I've found a mix between glaring, mumbling nervously, and continuously rambling about how long a story it is typically is a good distraction
@KerbalFacile
Жыл бұрын
"I didn't come to be a sideshow, and I'm not getting paid as a guest lecturer" - I am so stealing this.
@morganxamethyst9884
5 жыл бұрын
Hey I’m mostly not seen as intersex although I am so I haven’t found pamphletts that apply for hormonally intersex ppl in Germany I just say I don’t produce any hormones and if they have any questions they can turn to an endocrinologist I don’t even start the topic of intersex bc that gets a looooong discussion
@hihellohans
5 жыл бұрын
Have you found any good groups in Germany? I think I've seen a few.
@blockieran
5 жыл бұрын
I'm German and am always looking for community and organisations, can you recommend anything?
@hihellohans
5 жыл бұрын
@@blockieran I don't know if that was for me, but the only two I know of are: www.im-ev.de/ www.transinterqueer.org/ Hopefully there are more and someone else knows.
@deannajoseph708
5 жыл бұрын
My being intersex rarely comes up tbh. I didn't know about it until 3 years ago but when we do talk about it they seen very uncomfortaboe
@littleogeechee223
3 жыл бұрын
Just have to say that I love your channel and am so happy I came across it! As someone with Turner Syndrome, this particular video just became invaluable. I hate doctor visits at the best of times, so little knowledge about TS even today., so every one of your tips is super helpful. Thank you so much.
@swoot87
5 жыл бұрын
Ugh I have an appointment with an internal medicine doctor coming up next week that I’ve been putting off for so long! The purpose is to get the referrals to the more important doctors for me (endocrinologist, reproductive endocrinologist). So dreading this visit so thanks for the tips!!! Excited to get ice cream after 🍦
@hihellohans
5 жыл бұрын
Hugs. Hopefully you can treat yourself to something nice after an endo encounter! 💕
@emmap1869
4 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this video! It's true, as medical students we don't learn enough about intersex people, and I am truly sorry that you have had so many negative experiences with medical settings. Videos like these definitely help, you rock!!
@KateAmon
3 жыл бұрын
I've heard quite a few "officially Type B" people rant about the stupid "When was your last period?" question, so often asked in irrelevant situations.
@blockieran
5 жыл бұрын
Can relate. Analog to the period question, I get pregnancy and contraception questions. Yes, I am sure I'm not pregnant. Yes, really. Okay, if you insist you can do the second test in two days. Yes, I know I'm not allowed to get pregnant on this medication. No, I don't take the pill. Yes, I REALLY won't get pregnant. I know. Yes, even at my age.
@lichenwhite
5 жыл бұрын
You are so wonderful. Thanks
@pepperspraykat
5 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your videos, you are definitely educating me. I am an RN who has asked these questions about menstrual cycles for so long without realizing it might not be appropriate. On a more personal level, my wife is intersex. We married when we both assumed she was male. I still adore this person though, I don't worry about which hormones and what body parts are involved!
@lindewhocares1353
4 жыл бұрын
i am intersex, I present as a female, and I am a medical professional. There are enough colleges of mine out there that are interested an want to help. Just give them a chance and work with them!
@vivianigbenedion818
5 жыл бұрын
The question of last period is asked to make sure that you are not pregnant because several procedures can or should not be done while pregnant.
@Sorkabeth
5 жыл бұрын
Someone on my Twitter feed posted this and while I'm not intersex, I am raising a very young trans child and some of these tips I'm sure will come in very handy! Thank you! (Also, I just watched all your videos...informative, entertaining, and *captioned*! Thank you! #AccessIsLove )
@maxens_is_here
4 жыл бұрын
Basically that's a really good video with great advice that would have come in really handy to me last year or the year before.
@melissawardjohns220
3 жыл бұрын
Lucky for me it's all in the doctors notes and most of my doctor's at least ask what pronouns I prefer. I do get a period though mine has been the one from hell cause I was born with low hormone count. Shocker when I gave birth and was told they needed to do the dna test again and it wasn't daddy they were having issues matching. They did it four times before they found a spot to match my son as his mother rather than his uncle. So I found out I was a Chimera first. Your channel has been very helpful. I find grilling the nurse into putting it in the notes especially that you don't wish to educate them they need to read the notes helps. I am also learning about bottom surgery and having the argument over how I wish to be down there being fought with both the medical and religious members of my family . Self care after and memorize the questions and just have it pre filled out seems to speed the misery for me. 👻 Hug for you!
@artichautbarbu4618
4 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for your videos. These tips of self-care are so sweet.
@leafmealoynederpydeu85
4 жыл бұрын
Thanks for making this
@Fishbowlery
4 жыл бұрын
Ice cream gang represent.
@Lenupet
5 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video!!!!!
@WebVManReturns
Жыл бұрын
Heck, I was born an Intersex Male and I get periods. Yes, there will be blood.
@siginotmylastname3969
2 жыл бұрын
Also we're trans, dyadic and German speaking bilingual, the fact sex and gender are literally the same words in many languages shows sex is treated as gender just as gender is treated as sex. We're pre t but marked male with healthcare because that stuff is literally used instead of asking your gender, so we interpret those forms as asking gender not sex precisely because they ask for non medical things and medical things that are highly irrelevant to repro organs.
@deannajoseph708
5 жыл бұрын
I just put female unless I feel like it
@HoloUniversee
5 жыл бұрын
At medical institutions I don't get categorized as male or female, they either select both or neither.
@siginotmylastname3969
2 жыл бұрын
I don't think the period question is purely pregnancy related. They use it as shorthand for a lot of health stuff, unusual repro organ stuff for most everyone probably can point to extreme illness like in anorexia, repro related illnesses like endometriosis, pregnancy yes, bringing it up might also be next to asking about STIs. The fact is though this leaves A LOT of people in bad positions! Trans people intersex people disabled people a lot of people have different experiences to their assumptions.
@hannahmich7342
3 жыл бұрын
I really don’t know how to deal with doctors as there is no way they can comprehend what I deal with.
@VoidCity.
3 жыл бұрын
Do you have to have to be medical diagnosis to be intersex
@hihellohans
3 жыл бұрын
Not necessarily, but it's complicated. I do have a video about that question: kzitem.info/news/bejne/x2qEyGufmH6iaoI
@im19ice3
4 жыл бұрын
ah the bitter irony that in the pursuit of healing one must be subjected to stress >_>
@carolyn111plants
4 жыл бұрын
say you have an iud. That would make it so you cant get pregnant, and its common. Honestly if they don't know your intersex they probably wouldnt know whether you habe birth control. But I dont really know. Its worth a shot 😆
@siginotmylastname3969
2 жыл бұрын
Tbh if nurses want to check on your reproductive organ functioning they could just ask THAT. Have you noticed anything unusual with your genitals, voila question over. Periods are an example of things to check but not the only ones.
@doesnotFempute
Жыл бұрын
I realize this video is years old, but my doctor's office now has an "other" space to write in the s_x area. so I guess that's better than nothing lol
@30110CKs
3 жыл бұрын
Mmmmmmm...new book smell....
@suterfire
Жыл бұрын
I’m really interested in the intersection of white supremacy and nursing. As an autistic person. I’ve noticed the nurses can be really messed up.
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