@@FelineAdrenaline I'm glad that I'm not alone 🥺🙏🏻
@gsisir8478
2 жыл бұрын
Same 🥲
@FelineAdrenaline
2 жыл бұрын
@@christiantapia5321 Seriously! Knowing that other people might be feeling the same way might boost some confidence and some relief. I've been scrolling through the comment section, and it's humbling to see that so many people are dealing with this.
@Psych2go
2 жыл бұрын
Many people can probably relate..
@casanovacowgurl2156
2 жыл бұрын
7 habits of people with LOW-SELF ESTEEM: 1.Procrastination 0:33 2.Passivity 1:12 3.Negative Self Talk 2:03 4.Isolation 2:44 5.People Pleasing 3:27 6.Perfectionism 4:05 7.Being unable to accept compliments 4:41
@MiriadCalibrumAstar
2 жыл бұрын
Ty.
@___Steinn___
2 жыл бұрын
Solid 7/7 for me...🎉
@noonegirl
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you 😊
@DrBarbequeSauce
2 жыл бұрын
All except the last one
@HighwayHorse
2 жыл бұрын
These pshyc2go vids are way to accurate for me some days 😬😬
@marjoleinewelters1728
2 жыл бұрын
I once did most of these things... taught myself to believe in myself, change my selftalk, change the bar i set, and start to focus on what i am good at/ challenge the old patters of selfdoubt with successes in real life 😄 I can now thankfully say that this video no longer reflects me To anyone still seeing themselves reflected in this video, know that you can get passed it with work and small steps. You can do it 🥰
@Sharunyxox
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks so much!! Much needed commemt!!
@JulianSirian
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for the inspiration... Quick question, what was the first thing you did, on the road to recovery? And how did you achieve it? Thanks
@shaddux9126
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you! 😃
@Arcadius8
2 жыл бұрын
It would be of a great benefit for all of the people struggling with low self-esteem, if you could reveal at least the beginning of the path you took to become better.
@marjoleinewelters1728
2 жыл бұрын
@@Arcadius8 surrounding myself with people who support me. That was the biggest step. No longer staying near people who where unkind. If you have trouble making friends, than finding this online or even a therapist to talk to, to help jumpstart the focus on all you do right and your value etc. At the same time, checking and changing that selftalk, kindly to yourself. Being patient with yourself there. Those two steps where the most important ones
@mamaikea
2 жыл бұрын
It’s a bit upsetting that I can relate to all of this.
@BruceC1
2 жыл бұрын
I can kinda relate. I'm just as disturbed.
@sophiaslater5173
2 жыл бұрын
I’m the same way, at least we’re in this together, it’s not forever though
@chillmuffin4536
2 жыл бұрын
Same, I also relate to all of it
@GhostKnightNo1
2 жыл бұрын
Bruce it don't mean we're disturbed lol
@Taylor-zj7pp
2 жыл бұрын
😩😩you ain't lying
@dark_fire_ice
2 жыл бұрын
I would like to thank everybody involved with this channel, without them I never would have have reached out and got professional help. With a diagnosis of disorganized schizophrenia, schizoid, and ADHD, my medication of methylphenid has actually allowed me the concept of self care and worth, thank you all from the very core of my being. May Laima grant you all her greatest blessings. Albeit, a history of constant parental abuse, may constitute to most of these too
@alejandraguevara942
2 жыл бұрын
Blessings! Wish you the best ❤️🙌🏼
@Lagoonlucas
2 жыл бұрын
This hit hard for me, i think i relate with all the points especially the procrastination, isolation and perfectionism, i need to get better, I deserve it
@gigibanks5258
2 жыл бұрын
💕
@sarahshiham3410
2 жыл бұрын
Same here
@angelaharris1112
2 жыл бұрын
Same here...
@MsShandy111
2 жыл бұрын
Me too!
@anemelia7778
2 жыл бұрын
same
@alma3817
2 жыл бұрын
I struggle with all of these, but am proud to say that I'm getting better at dealing with them 🎉 when I feel low these signs get much more intense and difficult, but I feel more capable of dealing with them
@mudancadecomportamento1615
2 жыл бұрын
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@desperado.1001
2 жыл бұрын
I saw when this video was posted and… I procrastinated to watch it. I procrastinated because I knew it was going to hit really close to home, and it did. I’ve struggled with everything listed here and over the years I’m proud to say that I’ve managed to get to a healthier place! It’s a work in progress though… especially with procrastination, isolation, and perfectionism. If you’re working through these things too, I feel for you and I just know you can improve your self esteem 🙂
@drinasun6984
2 жыл бұрын
I procrastinate, I am passive and I am a perfectionist. In my childhood and adolescence, I had the people pleasing habit and isolated myself often.
@kimchifriedrice8869
2 жыл бұрын
This is exactly myself 😔
@Psych2go
2 жыл бұрын
How about now? Do you feel you still do all those things?
@therealestrealistpessimist
2 жыл бұрын
This was me. I feel awful now
@infinitywinter3151
2 жыл бұрын
TF how did you comment a day before
@drinasun6984
2 жыл бұрын
@@Psych2go I'm no longer a perfectionist or passive, and I don't procrastinate as often.
@EgoKillerPodcast
2 жыл бұрын
I’m honestly shocked. I immediately wanted to disagree that these things were true, but realized that didn’t serve me. Realizing I do in fact have low self esteem actually makes so much sense in the way I experience life. Can you do one on how to increase self esteem?
@JT_Ling
2 жыл бұрын
It may not be possible; but finding happiness is better than trying to fix something that's not really a flaw. Look at the bright side: you're considerate, carrying, thoughtful, smart, and good at things you are good at, even if you don't see it
@ritaaaaaaa
2 жыл бұрын
@@JT_Ling
@Bilbus7
2 жыл бұрын
@@JT_Ling Those are all assumptions that may or may not be true tho
@thisorthat7626
2 жыл бұрын
@Erikilla, pay attention to your "self talk" and stop it when it is critical. Most peoples' "self talk" is not them talking, it is a parent, teacher, authority figure, etc. Stop negative "self talk" and replace it with kind and loving self talk. Also find people who treat you nicely and don't continually criticize you. Be kind to yourself and others. Blessings.
@Fierie333
2 жыл бұрын
I just wanted to share (related to this topic) I finally got into my dream art university. I still cant believe it’s true and I MADE IT!!!! I feel like I’m finally proud of something I did! Although I hated every work I did
@lupitamendiolar5262
2 жыл бұрын
Hey! And that's perfectly okay as long as you don't end up hating the thing you love most.
@patriciapat2106
2 жыл бұрын
Congratulations 🎉👏😄
@mirandatyner
2 жыл бұрын
Congrats! 🎊🎉
@jenaah426
2 жыл бұрын
Congrats!!!!🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳
@Rin-dq7ls
2 жыл бұрын
Congratulations! I'm happy for you(◍•ᴗ•◍)❤
@mysustainabilityjourney9321
2 жыл бұрын
It is such hard work being a relative of someone with low self esteem. All encouragement seems to be ignored, even though you really care about the person and want them to be happy. I feel powerless to help them as they just constantly refuse any encouragement or support, always refusing to go out despite constantly offering them a door to door taxi and paying for it, just to see them happy. I think the only thing they can do is help themselves. I do love them.
@Cottons_.
2 жыл бұрын
1. Procrastination 0:32 2. Passivity 1:12 3. Negative self talk 2:02 4. Isolation 2:45 5. People pleasing 3:26 6. Perfectionism 4:05 7. Being unable to Accept compliments 4:40 Correct me if there's any Typo!
@WatchingTheTimes
2 жыл бұрын
There is a typo at 5th point. It should be 'Pleasing'. Otherwise it was superb. Thanks!
@Cottons_.
2 жыл бұрын
@@WatchingTheTimes oh okay, thanks for Correcting me! ^^ and you're welcome :)
@randomisedbeing
2 жыл бұрын
"Correct me if* there is any Typo" You're welcome XD
@Cottons_.
2 жыл бұрын
@@randomisedbeing I didn't know how that happened but thanks lmao XD
@M_m_24
2 жыл бұрын
Okay I gotta admit I never wanted to admit but I really have a low self-esteem which is effecting my daily life and making me feel bad about myself I’ve been avoiding everything and I’m burnt out I really need to start practicing self positive talk and i should work on my confidence perfectionism is a bad thing we’re humans we make mistakes if we want to improve we should keep trying we should keep pushing ourselves hard and hard to get better i used to be confident about myself but after I grew up I lost it which is a bad thing thank you so much for making this video hopefully i will be able to regain back my confidence
@lesliewells1062
2 жыл бұрын
Great video! The first five definitely describe how I live, the last two--I gave up on trying to be perfect a long time ago and I finally, forced myself to accept compliments. At first it was hard, I would just say thank you, but inside I didn't really believe what the person said was true. But now, I actually sincerely accept compliments and actually believe them. It was a process, but I'm finally able to do it. Love your videos. I think I am going to take this list to my next therapy appt. We've already been talking about a lot of this stuff, but it will facilitate some more good conversations with her. Thank you!!
@SoloSammy2
3 ай бұрын
I have been isolated for 4 years and still am now, I worry too much about the world that I overthink every situation I'm in. This video wraps up almost everything about me 🤧
@yvonnetomlinmiller
3 ай бұрын
So sorry to hear, At least you know have insight, you are not your thoughts you are just observer them so you can choose. This is your gift as a human, practise and respond to in full the thoughts that are coming up! I hope this helps
@jolesliewhitten6545
2 жыл бұрын
I’m retired and now am inclined to procrastinate. Love it!
@PraveenSrJ01
2 жыл бұрын
1) procrastination 2) negative self talk-definitely describes me! 3) isolation-I feel isolated at times when I’m in public 4) people pleasing 5) perfectionism 6) being unable to accept compliments!
@MarianahsTrenchGal1
2 жыл бұрын
I've struggled with self-esteem my whole life (which is probably mostly due to being severely bullied in elementary school from grades 3-8 and having a dad with narcissistic personality disorder) but I was also diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder when I was 16 (although both my parents say they could see signs of that when I was 4). I'm 24 now and I felt like I've gotten quite a bit better, but I do every single thing on this list 😭 just the other day at work I tried to take on a task a coworker asked me for while I was in the middle of something else and a few minutes later she said to me, "Emma, it's ok to say no."
@gigibanks5258
2 жыл бұрын
💕
@userm180
2 жыл бұрын
im sorry that happened to you. i hope you're ok and if u need to talk im here
@emily.k3703
2 жыл бұрын
Please check to make sure you do not have Asperger Syndrome or High functioning autism. - Many people who have your symptoms have these problems.
@indridcold8433
2 жыл бұрын
I have found that staying away from everybody will keep the feelings of low self esteem away. I go weeks without seeing anybody at all. We can not be looked down upon if we stay away from everyone. As for friends, they are just low level enemies. I have no friends. I do not even know anybody. I do not even have acquaintances. If humanity threw us out and mistreated us, we can stand completely on our own. They hate when someone is self-reliant and does not depend on the rest of the herd. Thus, they hate me.
@anemelia7778
2 жыл бұрын
@@indridcold8433 maybe people that are around you right now hate you, but it can't be that the whole world hate you, people can do nice things that make you feel good
@ACleverName4Me
5 ай бұрын
Yes I do. I people please a lot and for the last 3 weeks I have overwhelmed myself because of it. I also am a teacher and I always find myself regretting what I have said during the day or through the week. At the end of every day I always want to hide in my bedroom instead of playing cards with my family which we do basically 5 times a week. It is hard and when my dad or brother tells me they are proud I always look down and feel like I shouldn't be praised because it took me almost 7 years to get through college. I'm really trying to find the steps I need to raise my confidence over time to better my mental image of myself. This video did help me identify things I need to work on so thanks a lot!.❤
@Psych2go
2 жыл бұрын
Comment below if your self esteem hasn't been the best lately and what are you doing to fix that?
@Imnotthisnerd
2 жыл бұрын
Ok
@Rip_DrippyOfficial
2 жыл бұрын
Mine self-esteem is really bad from my severe depression and other things just not doing too well
@xluvmq
2 жыл бұрын
My self esteem is lower than 1% /j
@drinasun6984
2 жыл бұрын
Positive affirmations, self-care and motivation.
@xluvmq
2 жыл бұрын
@@Rip_DrippyOfficial Sorry for you, I am the same as you with more mental illnesses, hang on though. It'll be better!
@rglos8
7 ай бұрын
I, like many of you can relate to most or all of these. While it’s painful to admit, the validation that this video and and your comments provide makes me feel much less like an outcast. Thank you.
@guidancetoislam3071
2 жыл бұрын
As an extremely insecure and a person with low self-esteem,I totally agree with all the points mentioned throughout the video.Hoping for the best in future!💜
@gigibanks5258
2 жыл бұрын
💕
@boyu4570
2 жыл бұрын
Dont worry you’ll make it! whtever your goal is just dont be too harsh on yourself mate 😃
@guidancetoislam3071
2 жыл бұрын
@@boyu4570 Thanks alot for your kind words!🥺Your comment has literally made my day 💜
@wj1731
2 жыл бұрын
It’s amazing that’s you’re honest with yourself and have self-awareness and that’s exactly what you need to start the journey of self-love. Good luck on your journey 💗💗💗
@guidancetoislam3071
2 жыл бұрын
@@wj1731 You are totally correct!I still feel that I need to be more honest and gentle with myself and not just love but also care for myself.Self awareness is undoubtedly the first step to self-love 💜Thanks for wishing me good luck! 💕💕💕
@sage9634
2 жыл бұрын
I always beat myself up for procrastinating, and I’m definitely a people pleaser…. Thank you for helping me be a little more aware of my mental health
@avidhossanmansur9830
2 жыл бұрын
For most of my teenage years, I struggled with self-esteem. And the solution was really simple, having good self-confidence has two aspects, Firstly, You need to do things there intrust you. If you have low self-esteem or lack confidence in yourself, you're probably still young, most of your life has revolved around school and family and you don't have much experience with the great of the world. Which is absolutely fine. Almost everyone has the same story, including myself! Just go out there and do things that you find enjoyable. Just don't do them by yourself find other people who like the same things. Soon enough you'll find yourself becoming part of a community or even a tribe. This brings a sense of belonging or internal tranquillity which I can't quite really explain. You gotta feel it to understand it. Secondly, You need to be a good storyteller. Us humans make sense of the world through stories This is one of those things that you can't really teach anyone and you just have to figure it out as you go. Remember people will forget your name, they'll forget your face but never forget how you made them feel. So always keeping a light-hearted and positive tone in your conversations is usually a good idea. Especially when meeting new people.
@alejandraguevara942
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks you very much. That belonging feeling is what most of us desire. I had the opportunity to feel like that last year and I miss that moment a lot. I just think is time for me to find things I really enjoy doing and sharing with others that are same.
@realt0nse
2 жыл бұрын
i needed to read this
@Rin-dq7ls
2 жыл бұрын
thank you for this :)
@suekelly3744
2 жыл бұрын
Well said Thank you
@c.antoniojohnson7114
2 жыл бұрын
Beautiful statement, and it depends on the people you meet. There's people who look at light hearted and positive people as a tool to be used. Where I'm from being light-hearted and positive is a way to be taken advantage of. That's why I stay to myself and hopefully meet like minded people on my way to and from work.
@nanomachine
2 жыл бұрын
This fits me perfectly. Recently I have been overwhelmed by praise at work and yet I feel like they’re are just trying to be nice.
@larrytolson4135
2 жыл бұрын
My mom called me a procrastinator once. And I said, “Oh, yeah? Well, you just wait…” 🤭
@crxtube187
2 жыл бұрын
Lmao
@juanrubio6132
2 жыл бұрын
Wow, I just got this video recommended to me and describes everything about my life. I am almost at tears. I feel lost.
@jaxweby4343
2 жыл бұрын
I manage to fit into all of these habits, yet I've never considered them all to fall under having low self-esteem (though I've also never considered all of these points holistically). Despite having ideas and the tools to make things, I don't commit to starting anything properly, so I've just got dozens of voice memos and random files of audio and clips of music and I've just procrastinated constantly. Same idea for passivity - I'll take opportunities but only if they're handed to me simply. I keep to myself in my room most days, I always try to please others, I very rarely ever settle for something being less than perfect, I don't take compliments well most times - so yeah, these fit me fairly well. While negative self-talk has been a large part of me before, I think I'm improving there, and I'm trying to improve myself in all these other aspects too. Maybe, now that I've seen these traits as all coming under the umbrella of low self-esteem, I can try to fix them and adapt myself to improve. Thanks for the realisation, Psych2Go.
@matinhero7071
2 жыл бұрын
the art style of these videos you're making is so freaking cute and adorable
@organiseduser7216
2 жыл бұрын
If you were bullied pretty much your entire childhood, is it even possible to get rid of your self-esteem issues eventually? I read so many books about it and it got little better, I feel. I hate it. I can't even meet an online friend in person I've been texting to since three years. I'd act too insecure. It would be nothing but awkward ...
@dawnblair6656
2 жыл бұрын
I was bullied my whole childhood and then I met a narssist which made it worse I managed to go to college and do chef's course which sorted me out, but the head chef abused me and I was back to square 1. Now I feel like you and don't know how to get out of it, sorry that you're feeling that way too😘🫤xx
@thiefbug2
2 жыл бұрын
You can get out of it. While I still have a good amount of symptoms shown in the video, I now try to tackle things head on ... It took me roughly 5 years of therapy to get there, but eventually I did. Trying to think of the options and their effect in the long run is what I do to bypass that now - so if I'm not sure whether to contact someone, I start thinking what the worst case would be ... And usually that is it being awkward and validating what my previous thoughts were. However, not doing anything at all will ultimately also validate those thoughts which will just make it harder the next time (the thought of the worst case scenario will as well and be more present, but the outcome is the same) I know just reading this isn't gonna solve anything in its own, but there are ways ... They all just require a looot of courage
@whatisaheck
2 жыл бұрын
idk man i was bullied all my younger years and people treat me way different now but it doesn’t help the nagging voices are still there. i’m just growing to accept that this may just be a part of me now and just work through those moments when they come up instead of trying to make them all go away
@MissSirenita
2 жыл бұрын
Hi, I’ve been bullied and abused since childhood. All my life, I’ve been abused. And it still even happens now tbh. It kind of sucks. It is exhausting to feel the self hate, and it is painful. You feel like you’re in a room made of bricks with no way out. It’s also lonely. You may even feel guilty finding moments to celebrate in achievements so you self sabotage. Here’s the thing though, I’m going to cognitive and behavioral therapy. And since then, I’ve learned to love myself a little more and then that ends up increasing. There are moments I go back to self hating, but I have now been able to counter it. I can’t give advice on my process because it’s different for everybody. It’s taking me years to accomplish and it felt like it took forever to get where I am now. I’m proud of myself, but the journey was tough and emotional. It is worth it, though. And it is possible to learn self love through trauma therapy and help. Reading books alone is not going to help, but it is a start. There are many resources out there and solutions. I’m nowhere near perfect with the self love part, but it’s a start. I learned to practice boosting myself up even if I don’t believe it because over time, you’ll actually begin to believe it if you say it enough. I also discovered which self compliments I like and don’t like. I am now a brave, strong, and striving individual who refuses to give up. I hope the best for you. And remember these: don’t listen to that toxic “just be happy” positive you see a lot, don’t compare yourself to others because everybody’s journey is different, don’t feel ashamed if you feel behind because that’s okay and everybody’s different, don’t feel bad if you relapse here and there no matter how often as it is not a linear path, and you only fail if you don’t try.
@gigibanks5258
2 жыл бұрын
💕
@sonicfan2403
2 жыл бұрын
This is me! This is all me! I can't ever keep myself to focus on reading everything my classes want me to and can't help but keep myself on assignments even if I can make mistakes.
@aina_rv
2 жыл бұрын
As a person with low self-esteem, depression, anxiety and overthinking I can say that every point is my daily life. But I can handle it so far. I'm okay
@gigibanks5258
2 жыл бұрын
💕
@ssjcybersonic9255
2 жыл бұрын
Perfectionism is what caused me to stop drawing almost entirely. Instead of working on things that need improving, I see those things as lack of skill and just get more depressed at not being able to draw what I envision. Dang it.
@johnloftin2461
2 жыл бұрын
I've dealt with almost all 7 of these since elementary school. Middle and High School were brutal. Here in the middle aged grown up world, it still sucks so bad. Thanks for the video.
@gigibanks5258
2 жыл бұрын
💕
@userm180
2 жыл бұрын
have you tried therapy? it might help heal your inner child. also if you need to talk i'm here
@johnloftin2461
2 жыл бұрын
@@userm180 I've been in therapy with meds for 25 years (My entire adult life).
@keithbrown8814
2 жыл бұрын
For me too the same life experience....and then at 61 add being poor with no money and a dead end job....life can really stink!!!!
@johnloftin2461
2 жыл бұрын
@@keithbrown8814 I'm right there with you brother.
@reinchelseyo_
2 жыл бұрын
Surprisingly, I somewhat relate to all of these, not really into the second one. But, 4:41? - This is one of my biggest struggles. I appreciate all those who say positive things about me, it's just.. where am I even going to start? I can't even explain myself properly. Accepting compliments makes my heart warm, I'm just afraid for those who heard the compliment with me. They might get insecure, or they might even look down at themselves. At the same time, because of my perfectionism, I don't really notice that I actually make people proud, or impressed, since I like everything, to work on how I want it to be.
@shawnaisme226
2 жыл бұрын
I can relate to so much of this the fact is actually kind of depressing in itself. Here are my reasons for being positive I have low self-esteem: 1. I used to be bullied at school about the way I looked and also the way I acted. A lot of other people called me ugly and stupid so many times that I had begun to personally agree with them that it was true. So whenever anyone told me the opposite was true in a compliment, I would often think, they're my mother, grandmother, aunt, cousin, etc. They have to tell me these things. 2. I also had this one person in my family (my Dad), who used to scream at me whenever I struggled with something, most especially math homework that I was left in tearful and sobbing hysterics beginning at a pretty early age. One of my Aunts used to hate that he did this and even tried to push my mother to intervene. But all my my Mom would say then was, "Well what do you expect me to do?" 3. It didn't help at all that even some teachers seemed to be picking on me. Eighth grade was probably the worst school year I had ever had to suffer through for that kind of thing. I kind of hated Mrs. Manzo. 4. I used to get criticized for supposedly 'talking too much about things no one even cares about,' so, I began talking less and less to people in what I believed was a form of self defense. 5. Whenever I dared to express to anyone any dreams I had for my future, I was often told that I would be unable to accomplish that, it's a pipe dream, you'd never be interested enough or have what it takes to carry it through to get it off the ground, or even the always confidence-boosting: shut up, smarten the hell up, and be realistic. Note the sarcasm. So, now I don't express any dreams at all. I just let whatever happens to me happen. 6. There are still some people I know, I won't mention who, who still believe I am too stupid to ever amount to much of anything in life. They even talked about it to other people behind my back. 7. Apparently it's like, pulling teeth, to get me to actually communicate with people. 8. My Dad is the kind of person who always expected me to keep everything bottled up inside and shut away. If I ever mentioned any problem I had at home to anyone at all, it was this massive insult to him and it would be like WWIII at home. 9. My younger sister actually left home after this one massive blowup between her and my Dad occured, back when she was like 17 or 18, and she wants nothing to do with him to this day. I sometimes wished I had just up and left too, and sometimes wondered what might have been if this happened, or that didn't happen, or something happened differently. 10. I don't have many close friends, and am often too afraid to open myself up to making new ones. Probably owing to the fact that I was often told that most people in the world can't be trusted and that anyone who does something for someone, purely out of the kindness of their heart, even strictly among family is a sucker and a loser. A certain someone said this about an aunt and uncle regarding a cousin I have very recently. It's my own complicated lot to bear in life, I guess.
@Directorof07
2 жыл бұрын
I can imagine each circumstance that you mentioned would and has taken its toll on you. It’s okay to feel the emotions that you do and the mere fact that you can articulate the building blocks to how and where you are means that you can (with help) tear those walls down to improve in whichever way you see fit and is healthy. I believe in you. You can do it.
@lisamay5649
2 жыл бұрын
I encourage you to GET SIME THERAPY! It's NOT YOUR FAULT that you feel this way, especially given the LACK OF NURTURING AND LOVE you got from your parents! A therapist can help you process those feelings and help you learn how to POSITIVELY PARENT yourself so you can heal emotionally from your childhood upbringing and to build solid self-esteem. I wish you the very best! 💖
@ashakheewilliams6027
2 жыл бұрын
I relate to procrastinating, being passive, negative self talk, and isolating myself all to well😔
@platinumstilettos4331
2 жыл бұрын
7 HABITS OF PEOPLE WITH LOW SELF ESTEEM : 1. 0:34 PROCRASTINATION 2. 1:12 PASSIVITY 3. 2:03 NEGATIVE SELF TALK 4. 2:45 ISOLATION 5. 3:27 PEOPLE PLEASING 6. 4:05 PERFECTIONISM 7. 4:41 BEING UNABLE TO ACCEPT COMPLIMENTS
@jeizeer4341
2 жыл бұрын
Let us not be hard on ourselves. Appreciate your strength and uniqueness. Love yah!
@Azelide
2 жыл бұрын
My experience with these: 1. procrastination - yes, i'm guilty but always get things done eventually 2. passivity - yes, big time 3. negative self-talk - yes, tho i find it impossible to improve at something if i'm satisfied with how i'm already doing 4. isolation - yes, tho i use it only to recharge and regain self-confidence after something bad happens 5. people pleasing - no, i don't really do this anymore but some people can't understand that unfortunately 6. perfectionism - yes, as i feel that if it's worth doing, it's worth doing well. 7. accepting compliments - yes, as i get like two of them in a year for the things i've put the least effort into
@m3ln193
2 жыл бұрын
bro same... but i can't say i have low self esteem really(??) it just kinda happens sometimes lol
@jarenfromvenus
2 жыл бұрын
Right. She oversimplified people life experiences. Self esteem doesn’t look the same on everyone.
@nehajadhav9684
2 ай бұрын
Same about accenting compliments. I rarely get them about things that I put least efforts in
@adreequeen6326
2 жыл бұрын
OMG Psych2go! I'm so shocked at how accurate this is! This is literally me... I do all of things u guys have mentioned on the list! I'm not a very confident person either. Thank you for making me self-aware! I'll try to improve myself henceforth. Loads of love PS: LOVE your channel... keep up the good work!
@jungersrules
2 жыл бұрын
Yup. I was wondering what was going on with me. This reminded me what is at the core of my issues. Something I've been struggling with my whole life.
@GhostKnightNo1
2 жыл бұрын
Me too...though I became much more aware of it as I got older. It seriously affects my life, particularly when I work with younger people with much more confidence...it totally screws with my concentration
@変態男-o2p
2 жыл бұрын
@@GhostKnightNo1 Same
@michaeltwister
7 ай бұрын
I relate to all of these especially the inability to accept positive feedback and compliments from others because I feel like I don't deserve it at all
@NathalieLazo
2 жыл бұрын
Whoever is reading this, I pray that whatever you’re growing through gets better and whatever you’re battling with makes your situation better as you’re continuing to be a better person each day. I have faith that you’ll turn out great as your circumstances will change. Have a fantastic day! You got this! 🤗💪🏼❤️
@gigibanks5258
2 жыл бұрын
Amen! I totally agree with you!
@jonathanforsyth8422
2 жыл бұрын
@@gigibanks5258 🥰
@umbrascitor2079
2 жыл бұрын
I appreciate the phrase "whatever you're _growing_ through." Whether it was intended to be that word or not, it's a good framework.
@NathalieLazo
2 жыл бұрын
@@umbrascitor2079 Yes, the framework was intentional :) Thank you for seeing the value of the message! I appreciate you ~Love Nat
@NathalieLazo
2 жыл бұрын
@@gigibanks5258 Amen! You're the best, Gigi!
@khalilahd.
2 жыл бұрын
I used to do all of these things but I’m proud to say I’m no longer dealing with most of them (except procrastinating, still working on that 😅)
@monolinny1817
Жыл бұрын
Mind sharing some tips? I've been struggling with accepting compliments these days. Like everytime someone conpliment me, I always go like "No no not really. I didn't do much. [Insert person name] can do a lot better." which personally, it feels like I downplay the speaker's intent. Not to mention I always forget and go back to this habit everytime I'm in a situation.
@YogeshKumar-sk9xm
4 ай бұрын
I'm so thankful for my girlfriend who has made me aware of my issues which include bad communication, low self esteem and being a people pleaser (this one I figured out while introspecting around low self esteem). I really want to change because I know it's needed else I'll be sufferring throughout my life. But I also hope to be able to change before she completed loses faith in us. I wanna be better for myself and for her as well. I hope I'll be able to do it. Either way I'm very thankful to her for making me aware and trying to keep her belief that I can change. I'll always love her for that.
@imsorry3217
2 жыл бұрын
This is exactly what I'm going through; they all resonated. 😞
@serena3673
2 жыл бұрын
I always knew that from my teenage years I had low self-esteem but never tried to find away to improve it and now I'm non social introvert. I even started a book at the age of nineteen that I use to write religiously now I barely write because I hate screwing up, and I over think too much even though I know it won't be perfect I still pressure my self. I wish there was a medicine that I could take to make it magically disappear forever ☺️
@demonmurphy
2 жыл бұрын
My self esteem is virtually non-existent. I ticked every box. Shit.
@casey8454
2 жыл бұрын
I scored 6 / 7, but I already knew my self esteem was almost none now. Coming out of a long term relationship with an emotionally unavailable man left me broken and full of fear. That's 10 years old and I've had very little progress.
@sandybear61
2 жыл бұрын
I'm 61 and am just now consciously working on healing my self-esteem.
@teresapugh5130
Ай бұрын
I can relate...it's a constant effort at 58
@inherglowupera
2 жыл бұрын
i procrastinate everyday, im a perfectionist, i like being alone a little too much, im such a people pleaser, i let other take control over my confidence, i tend to tell myself that i never look good or worse than everyone and i write and plan my dreams and to do list but im always unable to fullfill my needs. i was always known as the person who would help other kids out there rather than doing my own work. at first, i thought it was a good thing but now i can see it.. it's so tiring! i want to heal myself and leave all these habits but idk how to..
@apexpredator6921
2 жыл бұрын
I got scared for a moment, everything that you mentioned in the video has been happening to since i was 8, and it has grown bigger and bigger. I thought it was my personality, but turns out that my self esteem is so deep down and i just noticed it
@dariusmaikko4831
2 жыл бұрын
ckcwu
@GhostKnightNo1
2 жыл бұрын
Why does it say there's a reply here but there isn't? If it's been deleted, the notification part just under the comment it answers to, should not be there
@arifu3351
2 жыл бұрын
The moment they mentioned procrastination first, I felt like I got stabbed in the heart.
@papercut3753
2 жыл бұрын
Very accurate. Thank you for recaping my life
@nekokarenart
2 жыл бұрын
This scared me because everything is true 😅😭
@smashwagon777
2 жыл бұрын
I’ve dealt with low self esteem since 2019 and it hit a rock bottom last year when a traumatic incident happened to me. But after all this time I’ve started to realize that chasing for closure is like dropping your phone in a lake. You can dive in and try to retrieve it. Whether it’s still working or broken, you at least know what happened to it. But if you can’t find it the deeper you dive, then you’re gonna start drowning. As hard and impossible as it seems sometimes, you have to let go. You can’t let yourself drown in the past anymore. you need to look forward and move towards the future, even as hard as that may be. After all we don’t know what the future holds, but at least we can do something to change ours. Let go of what happened and accept what will happen. Detach yourself from the past, accept the present, and change your future.
@gigibanks5258
2 жыл бұрын
💕
@ives3572
2 жыл бұрын
"Low self-esteem is like driving through life with your hand-brake on." - Maxwell Maltz
@tyleramaker2825
2 жыл бұрын
Think this is the first video from this channel where I checked off all the reasons. Usually relate to a few of the points, but this one was too accurate lol.
@rabahfarhat8100
2 жыл бұрын
Today is muslim's Eid (Al-Adha) I wish you guys be happy and healthy ❤️❤️
@Angga-ew1mh
2 жыл бұрын
No, it's tomorrow
@nerdyartist3239
2 жыл бұрын
@@Angga-ew1mh they might have a diff time zone
@lune6713
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you 🥰 Happy eid to you as well and everyone who read my comment 🥳
@sumayyahahmed3587
2 жыл бұрын
Ameen
@rabahfarhat8100
2 жыл бұрын
@@Angga-ew1mh No no It's today in Egypt 😅
@clarissecasuar8398
2 жыл бұрын
Sad reality.. I can relate. I can't help to compare myself to others. Although sometimes, I think I'm okay and I'm not that bad. I just can't help thinking about negative thoughts. 😔
@emilyevans6989
2 жыл бұрын
For everyone out there with self esteem issues, hang in there, because you DO COUNT, and you DO MATTER! Work a little every day on loving yourself more. You’ve made it through ALL of the worst days you’ve had so far, and that’s SOMETHING! Even on the days you think you’re a mess, you hang in there. Self esteem takes PRACTICE! ❤️
@snuppl512
2 жыл бұрын
I've always been aware of low self esteem but it's good to see the reasons. I hope we can find something to help us get better with this.
@morbidme7673
2 жыл бұрын
After being in a very abusive relationship and going through some horrific trauma, I definitely relate to everything stated here. I can say I'm safe now. Working to heal all that crap, so I don't feel this way forever. I love your channel and content. I appreciate you 💕
@Linda-pw8gx
2 жыл бұрын
Me too, but I am trying, learning and growing.
@morbidme7673
2 жыл бұрын
@@Linda-pw8gx proud of you!! ❤️ We can do it 🙂
@Mohammedangel2999
2 жыл бұрын
I was rejected by Felipe
@TelPhi_
2 жыл бұрын
I love the royalty free happy ukulele music playing in a video about low self-esteem, it's such a tonal whiplash lol
@nick27march
2 жыл бұрын
Once a motivating person.. Was absorbed in Low self esteem.. But I promise You... One day I'll overcome 🙂
@変態男-o2p
2 жыл бұрын
Wish you the best until then. 🤍
@nick27march
2 жыл бұрын
@@変態男-o2p Thanks Man. Very soon... I'll be an example to the society. Will set 🔥🚒
@neor1600
2 жыл бұрын
goodluck
@legiontepes3474
2 жыл бұрын
Wow. This describes me down to a t except for the people pleasing trait. I have it but lost it years ago. Everything else is so accurate to be scary. I'm harsh to myself, a perfectionist, and I can't take a compliment.
@kevinkawe
2 жыл бұрын
Im experiencing all the 7 signs as long as i can remember!!! I really dont know how to deal with it. It is really affecting my life in every single aspects
@Psych2go
2 жыл бұрын
Have you been seeking help or coaching of any form for this?
@moneytime1556
2 жыл бұрын
Medication will be a big help for you im on and it and changed my life.
@kuitaranheatmorus9932
2 жыл бұрын
I just love learning from these videos,always so helpful and just very good I definitely relate to this video alot and will try to fellow these steps to make for a better version of myself Hope y'all are having a good and can learn something new everyday
@diannemasters9435
2 жыл бұрын
This is totally me. I’m 69 and been this way my whole life. One thing I have figured out is others pick up on your low self esteem and they add to it. They do nothing to help you. They just keep piling on more and more negativity. And when you meet that one in a hundred who is really trying to help, you tear yourself down, thinking you don’t deserve it or they don’t mean it. At my age, I don’t think I will ever come out of this.
@virabc1267
Жыл бұрын
let go of it. Enjoy life is beautiful. It's not just for confident folks. Each life has the same essense to realise peace and calm beauty of life.
@minghui5199
Жыл бұрын
Stay strong. You've literally made it through.
@halafc1797
Жыл бұрын
all that habits, unfortunately I have it... even as I'm writing this, the habits is there. It's not that I'm surrounded by bad parents nor sibling or even bad friend... it's not that all of them is really success in their life for me to have low self esteem when meeting them. It's just that the feeling of low self esteem is there and when I want to enter something new to challenge myself, all the points in the video above pop up in my mind.
@outlinehappiness
2 жыл бұрын
So much of self esteem comes from how we were nurtured as children. Knowing how to reparenting yourself is so powerful in taking control of your healing and providing for the needs you didn’t have met.
@prod.dreiii
2 жыл бұрын
Wow, the part about isolating yourself, I couldn't relate more
@MissSirenita
2 жыл бұрын
I’m really proud of my journey. While there is still a lot of self hate I have to overcome, it’s not as bad as it used to be.
@ahmedisam4404
2 жыл бұрын
Well the thing about isolating your self is that I want to escape that awkward felling I call the "out of place feeling" because every one I know is littarly the top of the class and people that seems to me like if they are on a different level so I stay away
@paigethompson9931
2 жыл бұрын
Everything you've said has been me my whole life up until now and it's an overwhelming cycle.
@relicofgold
2 жыл бұрын
This is plenty depressing as most of it applies to me. It's been tons of years since the extreme bullying, but that stuff stays with you forever. The loneliness, the doubt, the insecurities never go away.
@Psych2go
2 жыл бұрын
Early childhood experiences like being bully is something that stays with you for a really long time. I find that one of the best way to overcome those negative experiences is to make a name out of yourself. Many of the most successful people were bullied as a child.
@relicofgold
2 жыл бұрын
@@Psych2go Interesting. Unfortunately I have no confidence whatsoever, so I don't think making a name for myself will work all that well. But you've def given me something to think about.
@btevr
2 жыл бұрын
I don't comment on KZitem videos very often, but I just wanted to thank you guys for everything that you do. Your content has helped me a lot in my mental health journey :')
@mrstarfish
2 жыл бұрын
All of them hit hard especially the people pleasing and complements always find myself accepting to go somewhere or play some games when I really don’t want too ended up ghosting my friends sleep over cuz of it and I’ll always regret that since he seemed pretty excited
@samuelebincoletto637
2 жыл бұрын
I can literally relate in all of these points, i have high-functioning autism and i have low self-esteem also because i feel i've been too cuddled because of my disorder and i feel i've never struggled and achieved anything.
@mattrixuseither8187
2 жыл бұрын
I worry I am high functioning autistic. I was raised by an undiagnosed bi-polar single parent, who I believe played a decent part in setting the bar of my self-esteem.
@samuelebincoletto637
2 жыл бұрын
@@mattrixuseither8187 Do something i should have done a long time ago, train yourself to be self-sufficient, this might help you a lot.
@kellyharrison5184
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you! I relate to at least 75% of these descriptions for sure. It helps to have someone articulate these feelings and behaviors and get some insights.
@BruceC1
2 жыл бұрын
I'm by myself all the time....(unless I'm hanging with my son) Girls never say what it is.. yall hit the wrong spot on purpose.. I believebut it's a real problem, . I'm becoming a new person...so I'm figuring this out.
@Shortkonner
2 жыл бұрын
This is very very accurate as a person with low self esteem andi really identify with what's being said. I have identity problems, like who exactly am i and what are my values. Next in therapy i am putting some values cards in order, maybe make a poster so i can see it alot. But I've been procrastinating to do this step. As it will be hard to make decisions.
@DinandHarmen
2 жыл бұрын
I'm the time traveler 👀
@Fl00fyd0g
2 жыл бұрын
👀
@xluvmq
2 жыл бұрын
Whoa-
@plateofpasta835
2 жыл бұрын
What the
@Fl00fyd0g
2 жыл бұрын
Also first reply remember me when your comment is super liked lol
@Cottons_.
2 жыл бұрын
Woah, hello👀
@riveriseverywhere
2 жыл бұрын
Istg I feel called out on nearly everything, also one dumb thing is that I try not to put massive dreams because I feel like I'll never achieve that particular goal, so I just stick to smaller goals to try to motivate myself instead of pushing myself to do something bigger and better because I think "I'll never achieve that" or "I don't have enough potential to do something that big", also because I don't wanna make unrealistic expectations because I know if I do I'll only end up failing and it would take such negative impact on my self esteem that it would just take away the little bit of self love that I'm trying to save, because of how little it is
@calliemoon3337
2 жыл бұрын
Another problem that is common but they didn't mention is constantly apologizing even if it doesn't matter. It's something that I used to do so much that my friends lovingly joke with me that I'm not allowed to say sorry anymore 😅
@bobtiemersma9517
2 жыл бұрын
One of the reasons for low self-esteem is that you always get cut down no matter how good or how well you try to do. I've had it happen in various jobs. I've also had to become familiar with having to make a production out of something just to prove a point. Other times it is when out-of-the-way situations occur and you take the initiative and responsibility to answer it and it takes up additional time.
@dmtdreamz7706
2 жыл бұрын
- We live in a world where the threats that we face are probabilistic: Terrorists might attack. The economy might nose dive, right? These are 'probabilistic dangers.' The problem is, the brain's designed not to turn off the fear response until a danger is gone completely. But probabilistic dangers never are gone completely so we tend to be a little more hyperreactive. So how do you tune up the nervous system rather than having to reach for psychopharmaceuticals? I often define 'peak performance' as getting our biology to work for us rather than against us. What I'm really talking about are the systems underneath what we call motivation, learning, creativity, and flow. 'Flow' is an optimized state of consciousness where we feel our best and we perform our best. The research says there are three tools you can reach for: Gratitude has really precise impacts on the brain and anxiety. I like to write down 10 things that I'm grateful for and I write down each one three times. Gratitude is literally you're just pointing out to the brain things that have already happened that are good. And it tilts this ratio so we're taking in a lot less negative stuff. This, by the way, lets more novel stuff come through. Gratitude can work as a 'flow trigger' that way. The second one is mindfulness- 11 minutes a day of mindfulness practice. You know, follow your breath, focus meditation basically, is enough to really calm down your nervous system, make you less emotional-reactive. Your third option is exercise- 20 to 40 minutes worth of exercise is enough. And if you're exercising for mental hygiene, right, for cognition, and I wanna get into flow, you wanna exercise until basically the voice in your head gets really quiet and your lungs open up. Both things happen because there's a global release of nitric oxide, it's a gaseous, signaling molecule that's sort of everywhere in the body. One of the things it does is it flushes stress hormones out of your system. It'll reset the nervous system sort of back to baseline, back to zero. When I talk about peak performance, we always emphasize 'cognitive literacy': understanding what's going on in the brain and the body when we're performing at our very best. Now this is difficult in the modern world because most of us tend to be a little hyperanxious. Daily problems that we all deal with- anxiety, depression, right? We now know, for example, that a 20-minute walk in the woods will outperform most antidepressants on the market. If you take a walk in a part of nature where you haven't been before, you're not only gonna get serotonin, that calming chemical, you're gonna get the dopamine from novelty and complexity and unpredictability. So you're gonna get some feel good, happy juice and some calm. And these are great tools to be able to reach for in times of stress rather than having to reach for psychopharmaceuticals. On a certain level, we have a drug store in our brain, the neurochemicals that show up in flow: so dopamine, norepinephrine, anandamide, endorphins, and serotonin. If you were to try to cocktail the street drug version of that, right, you're trying to blend like heroin and speed and coke and acid and weed- and point is, you can't do it. It turns out the brain can cocktail all of 'em at once, which is why people will prefer flow to almost any experience on Earth. It's our favorite experience. It's the most addictive experience on Earth. Why? 'Cause it cocktails five or six of the largest pleasure drugs the brain can produce. We're all capable of so much more than we know. That is a commonality across the board. That's the largest lesson that 30 years in studying peak performance has taught me. And one of the big reasons is we're all hardwired for flow, and flow is a massive amplification of what's possible for ourselves.
@nickhayes4169
2 жыл бұрын
I do all of those things, I've upset a few people, including my kids by not being able to accept gifts. I'm okay giving, but I can get angry if paid any form of appreciation or love.
@munkeefinkelbeen5395
2 жыл бұрын
Struggled with each of these at different times, and still do. Thanks for sharing this video :)
@petervanheerden2133
9 ай бұрын
I'm not going to lie if said and still say things about myself that I'd never say to another person. I've always had the opinion that my worth as a person is 100% dependant on my skills (I have little to none), my accomplishments and wealth. As such failures usually cause me to go into saying horrible things,, like "I should just kill myself" or "Everyone would be better off with me gone." I'm extremely insecure as well
@Xennon1117
2 жыл бұрын
My self esteem has being swinging up and down for years now. Sometimes I am full of confident, sometimes I feel so worthless.
@tg9303
2 жыл бұрын
Maybe you guys can start making coping mechanism videos for certain situations? Its a idea that would help alot of people 😃
@Churrozi
2 жыл бұрын
I can relate to all of this especially #5. Even when I don't what to do someone asks me to do, I do it to please them.
@vinu47160
2 жыл бұрын
I suffer from everything you've said in your message. Someday I struggle to even do a straight forward stuff at work. I don't feel I'm very bright.
@raulremesalvanmerode4458
2 жыл бұрын
Well all this sounds like me A LOT! I always feel like other people are always cooler, more interesting, better than me. Sometimes I see myself as a great person, but mostly I feel inferior. It honestly makes me cry sometimes. I just don't know if I'll ever be able to live the life I want to.
@PeterReidJones
Жыл бұрын
I suppose I have always been like this (all points) but even more so from the most recent life events. It's like a switch in the dark of my brain that I'm reaching for, yet can't find it. The bulb turns on only a few days a month and back to dark the rest.
@charlotte_stevens
2 жыл бұрын
I just absolutely LOVE the narrator's voice! So smooth and soothing. This channel offers good content, the videos are not too long so I don't loose interest! I have anxiety and PTSD, I find this channel so incredibly helpful and this woman's voice is devine! Thank you! ❤️🥰❤️
@Lhun-ft6rl
7 ай бұрын
thank you! I literally relate to all 7
@ClefairyFairySnowflake
2 жыл бұрын
It might be a good idea to do a video on how to boost self esteem. I really need that right now.
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