1. I’m sorry, but.... 2. No you’re taking it all wrong 3. I’m sorry that you’re so sensitive 4. I’m sorry you feel that way 5. I’m sorry you think that 6. Ok, I’ll apologize if.... 7. I’m sorry, but I only did it because of you Hope this helped if you don’t have time to watch the whole video
@kingmuizz708
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much, seems like my friend always does this..
@VICMORROWFAN
3 жыл бұрын
Saying sorry is a sign of weakness however saying one is wrong shows security and humility.
@a.cnugget0323
3 жыл бұрын
My step dad does all of this He physically/verbally emotionally abuse's me
@rrrrrr799
3 жыл бұрын
I am a person with low self-esteem I say sorry a lot because I was born into a toxic family I always say sorry like Sorry to bother you. Sorry for wasting your time "I always say sorry, but I" Then I try to explain something What do I do now to make my apology better? Do I start with sorry and then say how I feel? Like sorry I was a bad person etc.
@picklerick4706
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you this really helps for my ADHD
@ives3572
3 жыл бұрын
"There's a difference between saying "I'm sorry," and apologizing." "Never apologize if you aren't really feeling sorry.
@siqxyre8473
3 жыл бұрын
Sometimes you need to just to get people off your back. I'd rather someone feel closure even if its fake, than them waste time trying to convince me to feel a way I never will.
@RedRoseSeptember22
3 жыл бұрын
@@siqxyre8473 Agreed!
@laincoubert9657
3 жыл бұрын
"im sorry" and "i apologise" are the same thing except at the funerals
@FrancesShear
3 жыл бұрын
Feeling sorry for oneself about how error caused personal to you loss is not the same thing as being sorry for doing wrong.
@Psych2go
3 жыл бұрын
Well said :) -Monica
@nicoleonfeels
3 жыл бұрын
Genuine and sincere apologies are essential to successful relationships.
@humblewarrior7593
3 жыл бұрын
So are genuine and sincere changes in actions that should follow by either person involved. Depending on the situation the person apologizing could be the one in the right just not saying it the right way.
@Psych2go
3 жыл бұрын
Well said Nicole :) You truly possess good EQ ;D Username checks out! -Monica
@betterapproachtolife.motiv3265
3 жыл бұрын
With the emphasis on genuine
@goutamboppana961
3 жыл бұрын
yes
@goutamboppana961
3 жыл бұрын
but i think i made fake apologies most of my life :C
@Puppetmistress
3 жыл бұрын
I hate the “but” apologies. If you did something wrong to someone, just own it. If you don’t think you did anything wrong, discuss it in a rational, unbiased manner.
@gnarthdarkanen7464
3 жыл бұрын
The word "but" literally translates to "forget everything I just said, because it's all a lie"... Try the substitution. It works in every case I've seen to date. ;o)
@buckydee1310
3 жыл бұрын
People who make fake apologies either don't feel confident enough to right their wrongs(can be called cowardice) or just wants to be right.
@senecafirst7333
3 жыл бұрын
In literally do this, I need to make sure my SO know I love them, stumbling across this video Hurt me so much bc how is it even in my recommended
@amylee8969
2 жыл бұрын
@ Missy GluffGluff The "but" apology is actually justified in some cases. For instance, I can't stand people who demand apologies but can't offer one themselves for THEIR half of the conflict. It takes two to tango. Altercations don't include one person, they include all parties. BOTH parties need to own up to their mistakes whether they feel victimized or not.
@ICEcoldJT
3 жыл бұрын
“Never discredit your gut. You are not paranoid. Your body can pickup on vibrations that your mind cannot perceive.” ✨
@exray49
3 жыл бұрын
Who else here has before actually meant a sincere apology but they accidentally used one of these?
@Psych2go
3 жыл бұрын
Use this as a learning opportunity :) -Monica
@betterapproachtolife.motiv3265
3 жыл бұрын
@@Psych2go yep .. thats why your vids are good ..we all learn something new..
@Pink_Oof
3 жыл бұрын
Mee
@amulenaspades5856
3 жыл бұрын
@@Psych2go I never knew your name thanks lol
@zion367
2 жыл бұрын
Yes, i did. But even tho i used the word "but". I also acknowledged full responsibility for my actions. Besides the apologies i amde to my mum about coming home too late in my teens.
@dailydoseofmedicinee
3 жыл бұрын
👍A real apology has three main components: (1) it acknowledges the actions taken and resulting pain inflicted on you; (2) it provides an action plan for how s/he will right the wrong; and (3) there is an actual change in behavior proving to you that there won't be a repeat of the past.
@AppleProGamer74
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you!
@nomsamkhize5224
3 жыл бұрын
💯👏👏
@leaharmbruster6047
3 жыл бұрын
very well said!!
@terrywade3696
3 жыл бұрын
THANK YOU! I was about to say the same thing! A true apology requires an understanding & remorse of the hurt/pain caused by their actions. It requires making amends to right the wrong. It demands a change in attitude & behavior that shows they care enough about your feelings and have enough respect for you to never do that to you again. It requires action, not just words. It requires consistency in behavior, effort & commitment to win back your trust. Anything less than that is merely manipulation.
@huehue8318
3 жыл бұрын
I was searching for this. Thanks
@Psych2go
3 жыл бұрын
2021 is coming up so soon! What's your New Years Resolution?
@Lukewarm548
3 жыл бұрын
L
@kirwai8691
3 жыл бұрын
Sleeping
@settesix
3 жыл бұрын
Hii
@ieatdirt1563
3 жыл бұрын
Idk man I’m lost
@totallynotkhobsessed
3 жыл бұрын
To be happy :)
@felixsamueldejesus9298
2 жыл бұрын
I have a toxic mother, and she use all the 7 fake apologies. Doing the hurtful things over and over again.
@Emmie013
3 жыл бұрын
If someone says you've hurt them, you don't get to decide that you didn't. Great video!
@nelliebellie2222
3 жыл бұрын
Exactly
@jengable4888
3 жыл бұрын
Hearing a fake apology is like a slap in the face, so to speak. Do not waste someone's time, for the person who was wronged sees right through the sham ! Take responsibility for your actions, and keep your mouth shut because when you give a fake apology, you are adding insult to injury.
@paulbourdess925
3 жыл бұрын
The best apology is changed behavior. All of these manipulative verbal "apologies" work because people let the weight of words hold more value than the weight of actions. I don't trust "I'm sorry" until I see it followed through
@amylee8969
2 жыл бұрын
And the ones where sides of the party admit to their wrong doings and take turns apologizing to each other while empaizing other sides of the story.
@TailsIsDisappointed
3 жыл бұрын
Easy: 1. Visibly turn on the camera. 2. Sigh 3. "I made a severe lapse-
@northernlights9533
3 жыл бұрын
I should have expected that
@pixxL_
3 жыл бұрын
@Your username I'm sorry you're disappointed in my recent decisions
@tofufu.
3 жыл бұрын
Don't forget the "i didn't wanna make this video.."
@sophiasshook416
3 жыл бұрын
Ha
@moonstone6133
3 жыл бұрын
Don't forget the fake tears
@R.X.V.E.N.Z.E
3 жыл бұрын
2020 is gonna give a fake apology for everything
@NightfallTheNightWing
3 жыл бұрын
@@rebeccadalton7956 holy moly, sorry to hear that.. :(
@RedRoseSeptember22
3 жыл бұрын
@@rebeccadalton7956 Yep this is why I no longer trust hospitals. You can go for a broken limb and they'll say you have COVID.
@Psych2go
3 жыл бұрын
even 2021 is 2020-one... -Monica
@avymationz7024
3 жыл бұрын
@@Psych2go 2022 will also be 2020-too 😑
@varun.shenoy10
3 жыл бұрын
@@avymationz7024 2024 will be 2023-free 😎
@pastelpirate9906
3 жыл бұрын
I often struggle because I use to be a manipulative person, I took therapy and alot of self awareness to stop it. I often apologize "Im sorry, I didnt mean to hurt your feelings" or the "Im sorry thats not what I ment!" But the difference for me is im always aware that the other person's emotions are there reality and its my responsibility for causing them in some way and Its ny job as a good friend or partner to understand and fix the issue. At least that's how I see it.
@jaymanz9779
3 жыл бұрын
You are a sincerely brave person for recognizing that your behavior was hurting others, to take action and do the work to try to change and improve yourself, and to continue to maintain that change. I wish you the best for the New Year.
@pastelpirate9906
3 жыл бұрын
@@jaymanz9779 thank you its a thing i think ill have to constantly be aware of and be careful not to fall back into doing i really appreciate you!!
@yudeesaetang7468
3 жыл бұрын
Real fake "I'm sorry" can be caught when the people who make mistake try to overact on saying only "I'm sorry" to cover their mistake. Even worse, after saying "I'm sorry", they go back to make fun of that "I'm sorry" with third person when you're still hurt. I faced it once and that's a shit of once my ex-friend called "friendship".
@amylee8969
2 жыл бұрын
The worst of all is one side of the party failing to see the error of their own ways but feeling entitled to play the victim like they're the only ones owed an apology.
@theartoflivingoutloud888
3 жыл бұрын
I heard someone say if someone tells you you hurt them you don’t get to decide that you didn’t. Sometimes I rather see people get their karma than a fake apology so they know how it feels. Blaming the other person for being hurt is gaslighting.
@Lonevessel
3 жыл бұрын
I agree
@betterapproachtolife.motiv3265
3 жыл бұрын
Agree .. love the title of your channel .. mutually subscribe?
@betterapproachtolife.motiv3265
3 жыл бұрын
@Pr.incorporated unfortunately it happens all too often in families .. you did well too stand up to it .. you will be branded for that though .. be strong
@Redvibes020
3 жыл бұрын
This is exactly what I was telling my ex when he would say, "I'm sorry you felt ignored but...." I said dont apologize for me feeling ignored because thats not a real apology, thats just putting the blame on me. Needless to say he's past me now. Over a year of having to deal with someone who can't take accountability for anything is bound to result in a failed relationship. Dont ever let it get to the point where you're constantly forgiving someone without them ever apologizing. Don't give them that power over you. Respect yourself and keep strong boundaries.
@michaelokeke4976
3 жыл бұрын
The three words “ I am sorry” doesn’t mean much if the person continues to hurt or offend you. Apologizing isn’t the same as feeling genuine remorse for the deed done or the comment said
@julianhudson9843
3 жыл бұрын
I agree. If they were truly sorry they'd try their hardest not to hurt or offend you in the first place. If they only apologize to shut you up and get it over with, that apology is self-serving. They're not sorry they hurt you-they're sorry you confronted them. It's better to shun them FOREVER. You don't need them!
@amylee8969
2 жыл бұрын
@ Michael Okeke Apologies also don't mean anything if the other side of the party can't own up to their mistakes as well. Everyone involved in conflicts had a role to play to everyone is accountable! PERIOD!!!!
@michaelokeke4976
2 жыл бұрын
@@amylee8969 well said 💯
@CarissaJenkins
3 жыл бұрын
7 Signs Of A Fake Apology 1. “I’m sorry... *but*..” 2. “No, you’re taking it all wrong” (or “i’m sorry you took it the wrong way”) 3. “I’m sorry that you’re so sensitive” 4. “I’m sorry you feel that way” 5. “I’m sorry you think that” 6. “Okay, I’ll apologize if...” 7. “I’m sorry but I only did it because....”
@morningglory.213
3 жыл бұрын
most of the times its also this:- im sorry idk who that person was, that person wasn't me
@jimmyboyzable
3 жыл бұрын
Yep, I'm all TOO familiar with these half-assed apologies becuz they've been told to me so many times I've lost count (especially 3, 4, 5 & 7)
@kalena8339
3 жыл бұрын
Stamps ✨ 1:14 - I'm sorry but.. 1:47 - No your taking it all wrong 2:15 - I'm sorry that your so Sensitive 2:41 - Im sorry you feel that way 3:08 - I'm sorry you think that 3:39 - Ok ill Apologize If...
@narakmar6666
3 жыл бұрын
Here’s another my dad would always say to me. I’m sorry but you where...
@humblewarrior7593
3 жыл бұрын
Either way if you want to know if an apology is sincere then sincere actions will follow, unless the person being apologized to is the one who really needs to change.
@pumpkinjacks6472
3 жыл бұрын
there's a lot of times when people still apologize when they shouldn't have
@nelliebellie2222
3 жыл бұрын
Me i blamed myself for being sensitive to the situation 🤧
@pumpkinjacks6472
3 жыл бұрын
noooo
@amylee8969
2 жыл бұрын
@pumpkinjack s this is where I feel the "but" apology is justified. For instance, "I'm sorry for what I did BUT, I think what you did was wrong too so you apologize for________."
@tropicalcat6952
3 жыл бұрын
The noise in the background is so mesmerizing :0
@SamElle
3 жыл бұрын
im so familiar with these "apologies." There have been so many "friends" that have gaslighted me in the past and I thought I was going crazy and I would always pin the blame of any issue on myself
@tommygunn6901
3 жыл бұрын
I relate to that a lot! And since I've made drastic changes, those who pulled this crap are gone! Going into the new year, my decree is anyone that gaslights or disrespects me will be gone, no questions asked!
@SamElle
3 жыл бұрын
@@tommygunn6901 oh heck yea, that's a greaaat standard to have!!
@tommygunn6901
3 жыл бұрын
@@SamElle truly it is! The only ones that remain are those who bring something of great value to my world! You know what's intriguing? There's quite a bit that we relate to, so I've noticed as of late lol! 😊
@SamElle
3 жыл бұрын
@@tommygunn6901 I think that's super cool that we have so many similarities!!! I find that I get along best with people who also come from or can relate to similar situations!!!
@tommygunn6901
3 жыл бұрын
@@SamElle very true!! Plus it makes it easy for banter 😉 gotta have some fun with it too! So, enjoying the holidays so far?
@bruhh9991
3 жыл бұрын
Let's apply this to all these yt apologies
@Psych2go
3 жыл бұрын
Which one are we starting with LOL jk -Monica
@betterapproachtolife.motiv3265
3 жыл бұрын
There are so many vids on not apologising etc .. but we have an opportunity to grow
@taniaperez497
3 жыл бұрын
i really hate the "im sorry but i only said/did it because you.." it is so freakin manipulative and it really can end up with you watching out everything you say or do just in fear that you're gonna cause the same reaction in other ones
@panlol9516
3 жыл бұрын
A girl hurted me emotionally so bad in a summercamp that i cried for hours, and she only apologized because other people were looking at and she wanted to make a good impression. She said something like "Oh, sorry, it's just that my grandfather passed away reciently and because I was sensitive about it I got mad at you and started saying things I didn't mean" I was still crying, and I was so sensitive that I accepted her stupid apologize. Everyone smiled, and the next day everyone acted that nothing happened. She and some other girls in the summercamp always used to make fun of me, they started to do it again when they saw me forgiving that girl. They were other girls that weren't mean to me but didn't help or deffend me from their "friends". I only made one real friend in that summercamp. The rest of them just were toxic bitches who didn't care about how I felt. At least one of them apologized genuinely days after. Thanks for read my story, I guess. Sorry if my english is not very good
@betterapproachtolife.motiv3265
3 жыл бұрын
What happens to us personally .. i do not believe excuses us from hurting others
@avashattuckmusic
3 жыл бұрын
1:12: im sorry, but 1:47: no you're taking it all wrong! 2:13: im sorry that YOU'RE so sensitive 2:42: im sorry you feel that way 3:07: im sorry you think that 3:38: okay, ill apologize..IF 4:17: im sorry but, i only did it because of you
@sakuraRyn
3 жыл бұрын
Bruh, your username is relatable af X'D Gdi
@avashattuckmusic
3 жыл бұрын
@@sakuraRyn lmaoooo ty-
@misterbig9025
3 жыл бұрын
@@avashattuckmusic thanks for the list
@theafricanselfiestick
3 жыл бұрын
The analogies that the animation presents is brilliant
@Psych2go
3 жыл бұрын
Thanks!! Glad you like it :)
@10062898
3 жыл бұрын
I believe changed behavior needs to go with an apology. Because if you continue to act the same way it didn’t mean anything.
@Mr.Rutledge-Paisley
4 ай бұрын
I tell my students that a sincere apology *begins* with "I'm sorry," and doesn't end until there's a change in behavior. Also, "'My bad,' is not an apology, it's a confession."
@jigglypuff2499
3 жыл бұрын
This channel has THE BEST way of speaking sentences in explanations. Change my mind
@nothingatall2998
3 жыл бұрын
Most youtubers: *sweating*
@charmaine7781
3 жыл бұрын
True
@karimameziane1936
3 жыл бұрын
Omgggg yess like that mukbanger
@YAHOQ
3 жыл бұрын
no 👁️👄👁️💧
@johnreeves7232
3 жыл бұрын
Don't forget some celebrities as well including singers
@ma-yi9ye
3 жыл бұрын
this will expose all these tiktokers with fake apologies for saying the n word or grooming minors
@mgbm8335
3 жыл бұрын
In the end TikToker's stay winning, no matter how screwed up😔
@zengreen7
3 жыл бұрын
Never accept an apology for the N-word.
@fredericmoresmau4303
3 жыл бұрын
ich hab mich nicht zu entchsuldigen...... Ihr habt mich gedroppt ausm Soma, ausm Mio ausm Jom ausm MuWi ausm Physik ausm TSV ost ausm everywhere und davor habt ihr mich gesilent treated um es vorzubereiten....... Ich habe mich nicht zu entschuldigen Ihr habt mich dann succzessive hier in dieser Wohnung vergammeln lassen JAHRE LANG halbe Decade um genau zu sein. Ihr habt diese Dinge getan nicht ich. Davor bin ich zu EUREN Aktivitäten gerannt wieder und wieder, und nochmal, und sobald ich aufhörte wart ihr WEG..... das ist Null Fairenss, it is completely one sided effort... I run up to you, I kis up to you, and the second I stop you vansih
@fredericmoresmau4303
3 жыл бұрын
ND i AM LEFT ALONE
@Francesca-nj3jj
3 жыл бұрын
Psych2go literally exposing the whole beauty community
@RedRoseSeptember22
3 жыл бұрын
Glad I don't watch those stupid channels anymore lol.
@ianpage2509
3 жыл бұрын
Which type of beauty?
@Psych2go
3 жыл бұрын
I love the beauty community though :') -Monica
@bintousylla5443
3 жыл бұрын
ian page makeup
@ianpage2509
3 жыл бұрын
@@bintousylla5443 meant that more philosophical. Which beauty is really Beautiful?
@lazyartist1984
3 жыл бұрын
5:40 1: Think about what you did or said 2: Think about how that goes against your morals or how it hurts the other 3: Then you will feel the sincerity of your apology
@sk57_4
3 жыл бұрын
At 3:18 the picture looks like a scene from the "Life goes on" mv
@whatshouldisayifvaskmeforc5217
3 жыл бұрын
Ikr
@melocotones30316
3 жыл бұрын
I was thinking the same
@leehalsey9962
3 жыл бұрын
It is. they tend to reference things from pop culture a lot. like how it's a SpongeBob kind of theme, and 2020 Corona virus in the video
@l3niwww843
3 жыл бұрын
EXACTLY-
@purviagrawal9462
3 жыл бұрын
I was searching for this comment which says they look like BTS😂
@sstarklite2181
2 жыл бұрын
All great points! “I’m sorry you feel that way” just makes me more angry, because it’s not an apology!
@lia_lovettt8285
3 жыл бұрын
I needed this, on christmas eve I got sick, like really bad, I even was crying bc of the pain, and all my mom could tell me was "take something for the pain, you are ruining christmas for everyone", I already took something, and told her, at the end she cried and played the victim and I ended up like the GRINCH, even if I was the sick one
@ianpage2509
3 жыл бұрын
That similar to my moms side, they’re control freaks. Moving out helped because I could sleep in a different building.
@jaymanz9779
3 жыл бұрын
Oh wow, I can empathize with you. My mom did the same thing to me a few years ago at Xmas. It hurt me so much! But it also opened my eyes to this type of behavior. I will absolutely NOT tolerate people who treat me this way. Be sure to establish boundaries with your mom, and if she protests or violates them, then she has no interest in how her actions affect you. If possible, keep your communication/interactions brief and do not allow her to gaslight you. Be resolute about setting boundaries, and expect her resistance. She will NOT change, so your response to her must be what does. If you need help doing this, seek a professional who can guide you and keep you on track.
@mikey_m114
3 жыл бұрын
my former friends: *apologize for hanging out behind my back and intentionally leaving me out of things* me, who’d heard this apology at least 5 times before and was manipulated into feeling guilty: it’s okay! :’)
@nova-qs6th
3 жыл бұрын
fake friends suck I hope you're okay now
@morningglory.213
3 жыл бұрын
aaaaah i just wanna hug u cuz i relate....
@nova-qs6th
3 жыл бұрын
@@morningglory.213 sending hugs to you bb
@teenshii
3 жыл бұрын
Don’t say “It’s okay” if it really isn’t. You only make it seem like it’s completely okay to hurt you. Answer with something like “I forgive you if it won’t happen anymore”. *sending love* 💕
@RedRoseSeptember22
3 жыл бұрын
So just because they didn't include you they're suddenly bad people??
@INOBT100
3 жыл бұрын
The only thing I can suggest to make an apology sincere is: whenever you apologize, make sure you mean it; otherwise you shouldn't apologize at all. But if you do, have the decency not to say any of these apology additions that video suggests. Cause now one would know whenever you're apology is sincere or not. I know I will.
@INOBT100
3 жыл бұрын
@@bearuwu2191 is it gonna replace Psych2goers?
@rbsmith3365
3 жыл бұрын
My late mother did that. And, I’ve seen lot of people who didn’t apologize and they think that they are right. Not!
@savannahlonzo2738
3 жыл бұрын
Real sorry is said like: “I’m really sorry” Reason why your sorry but for example: “I sorry that I took your rice bowl “
@Psych2go
3 жыл бұрын
Great example! I like this a lot, Savannah :) -Monica
@breadcult-bj2wh
3 жыл бұрын
Y e s. You really should apologize for taking my rice bowl it's an important thing in my life.
@randomvibesbyjasman7
3 жыл бұрын
@@breadcult-bj2wh 😂
@articcats701
3 жыл бұрын
Every sibling ever: of course i know him, the one who fakes apologizing, he's me
@Sub2AJG
3 жыл бұрын
Lol
@racheldixon5528
3 жыл бұрын
As an older sister I can confirm
@ventiilylol
3 жыл бұрын
As the youngest sibling I can confirm
@kaija2205
3 жыл бұрын
If your the oldest forced apologies are a second language, especially with manipulative siblings
@SilveeYT
3 жыл бұрын
I feel like, "I'm sorry if I offended you" should be added too So many of my friends say that when I get genuinely upset. It's borderline guilt tripping, and a complete avoidance of responsibility. 😔
@zengreen7
3 жыл бұрын
People need to understand that there is an etiquette to apologies.
@hope-3-464
3 жыл бұрын
I love how characters are used for every example. The little Saitama is so cute! (0:19)
@rivuuuh
3 жыл бұрын
Thanks Hopia! We're glad that you love it. 🤗✨
@hope-3-464
3 жыл бұрын
@@rivuuuh you're welcome 😊
@sun-wo9vp
3 жыл бұрын
You know it’s a fake apology when they say “i accidentally did that” and don’t even apologize.
@amylee8969
2 жыл бұрын
I also can't sympathize when one side of the party demands and apology but can't take responsibility for their role in altercations and apologize for their errors.
@alelinic7135
3 жыл бұрын
There's this person who apologizes for everything she does and I don't know if it's just in her nature or they're just faking it everytime
@corinnebloom7005
3 жыл бұрын
Usually this sort of thing is caused by a lack of confidence.
@MegaKhelditia
3 жыл бұрын
Maybe she's been gaslit, before, so she covers her bases to defend against her abusers, whether or not they're there.
@pumpkinjacks6472
3 жыл бұрын
maybe it's how they raised? like "not saying sorry is rude, now tell Josh you're sorry that now your toy is broken"
@erinhector9497
3 жыл бұрын
Or when you tell them they did something wrong and they say “I’m sorry if I did that” or “I’m sorry if that happened” “I’m sorry if I made you feel that way” Like there is no IF! you DID do it! It’s like they are not taking responsibility for their actions and making me second guess myself 😤
@squidleystudios277
3 жыл бұрын
My mom goes back and forth between "I'm sorry but that's just the way I am" and "sorry but if you hadn't been a bad child I wouldn't have been a bad mom to you". Either she blames me or acts like her ability to behave is set in stone and she refuses to even try and change that. I'm so sick of trying to talk to her because it's clear she won't ever see reason and actually take responsibility to be a better person.
@squidleystudios277
3 жыл бұрын
@@bearuwu2191 Replying randomly to other people's comments is not a great way to get people to check out your channel, just saying
@alkemyfrost
3 жыл бұрын
Another one is bribery in place of changing behaviour, no "I'm sorry" just gifts and ignoring the problem on repeat. i don't like gift-giving now because I've seen this so many times.
@TheJENJEN1990
3 жыл бұрын
My friend of 12 years really hurt me when she said, "I'm sorry you feel that way" after trying to tell her how hurt I was for her calling me a particular name. I realized afterward that she was saying that to paint herself as the victim and she was being manipulative to make it seem as though she didn't do or say anything wrong. 😞
@betterapproachtolife.motiv3265
3 жыл бұрын
People often do not validate our feelings .. thanks for sharing
@alandavid4370
3 жыл бұрын
I noticed all of this in N word apologies.
@RedRoseSeptember22
3 жыл бұрын
Ah another person who views everything through the lense of race.
@jamesfrancese6091
3 жыл бұрын
@@RedRoseSeptember22 calm down
@adrianolenaz4893
3 жыл бұрын
Saying sorry without admitting what you did wrong or only saying "sorry for everything I've ever done". Is like selling an empty bag of cookies
@whos.aishaaa
3 жыл бұрын
The cat is having the time of it's life 😂: 4:58
@energeticana
3 жыл бұрын
My toxic friend said I’m sorry after trying to guilt trip making us do things that we didn’t want to do, and only cares about herself. I told her that I had to think about it. She used depression against me and tried to guilt trip me.
@3sthvr
3 жыл бұрын
3:12 kinda looks like life goes on MV-
@karimameziane1936
3 жыл бұрын
Guuuuurrrlll yess I was waiting for this comment
@morasilva2058
3 жыл бұрын
Yesss
@yutanakamoto7069
3 жыл бұрын
I'm glad I wasn't the only one that noticed
@zeo1087
3 жыл бұрын
Yup, this confirmed that my ex definitely never gave me a sincere apology even once. (:
@sakuraRyn
3 жыл бұрын
I feel this too hard u_u 2 years and still emotionally fucked 5 months after I ended things...
@eli.willow
3 жыл бұрын
Yeah, it sucks
@misterwolf3817
3 жыл бұрын
When it turns out that you were always fake apologizing: *Wait, we are the baddies?*
@jaymanz9779
3 жыл бұрын
If you do any of these "apologies", yeah, you're NOT being sincere. The apology is not about YOU. It is FOR the other person. Your selfish perspective should be a clue as to why you have an issue with this video.
@felix_a_fiend
2 жыл бұрын
I just in a fight with my mom, and she just checked off every single box on this list. What’s worse is how much she’s trying to make me feel like it’s my fault.
@Sceptice
3 жыл бұрын
Everyone: Talking about the topic of the video. Me: *Looks at the cute little references.*
@tl740
3 жыл бұрын
"I'm sorry, that you're so sensitive" feels like rubbing salt on stab wound they caused
@zalede1889
3 жыл бұрын
Some famous people watching this from their secret account: i- 👁️👄👁️
@Sunflower_that_loves_you
3 жыл бұрын
Ayo Hitman Bang ....
@zalede1889
3 жыл бұрын
@@Sunflower_that_loves_you Ayo! Hitman Bang introduces: Hit It the second audition. Rap, Dance, noraero sangdaebangui giseoneul jeaphae. 😭 Good choice of name btw😊❤️
@Sunflower_that_loves_you
3 жыл бұрын
@@zalede1889 😂😂😂😁🤑 We are so lovely ! Lovely x 3
@Psych2go
3 жыл бұрын
LOL real stuff... -Monica
@kerrellegall4817
Жыл бұрын
@@zalede1889 hey my teacher send this to me saying i'm sorry you felt as if you can't approach me is that a fake apology?
@cherylbohman6518
3 жыл бұрын
The animation and references in these videos never cease to amaze me, no matter who the artist is.
@rivuuuh
3 жыл бұрын
Awwh. I am flattered. Thank youuuu Cheryl! 🤗✨
@pyschologygeek
3 жыл бұрын
A non-apology apology, sometimes called a nonpology, backhanded apology, or fauxpology, is a statement in the form of an apology that does not express remorse. ... Saying "I'm sorry you feel that way" to someone who has been offended by a statement is a non-apology apology.
@pinklotus9684
3 жыл бұрын
When they say " Sorry doesn't mean anything" or " sorry isn't enough". I had to leave a group of people because of that mind set.
@RiaKnight
3 жыл бұрын
How about "I'm sorry you're angry" when I'm not? All I asked my "friend" who is middle-aged like myself, was this question: Why am I the only one calling and visiting, doing all the work? ("Come see me at work; I'm bored.") When I asked her to explain months ago via email, she did not reply. I even went up to her work and left messages with her co-workers, which she knew about but again, chose not to reply. (Who's really the "angry" one here?) Then the other day, she emailed me, wishing me a "MC" and using words like "love", "friend", flattering me, etc. When I brought up the matter again, expressing my confusion and frustration, she wrote that she had "too much self-respect" to "go back and forth" with me. I asked her why would her self-respect prevent her from answering a simple question. No reply. I wrote her saying that I was sorry for expecting "the bare minimum" from her, that I'm glad we met and wished her well, but that I would not bother her again. She wrote back but I did not reply and deleted her email. My heart can only take so much. I know that I make a great friend and that TRUE friendship is a 2-way street. I have no patience for mixed signals and I cannot be with people who do not own their mistakes. I have standards on how I want to be treated and I'm only interested in relationships that I can actually count on. Anyone care to comment? Please do. Am I missing something here? I have noticed that she does not get along with other women.
@sebastianmaker6798
3 жыл бұрын
She tried to make the situation about how YOU were immature when you weren't. "I'm sorry you're so angry" (especially when you're not) is meant to make you feel like you're irrational and overly emotional. Asking her to give a little isn't wrong, and all relationships require that others put in effort. If this is an issue she has with others, it's likely more her than you.
@RiaKnight
3 жыл бұрын
@@sebastianmaker6798 Thank you and I like your name. :) All my life, people have told me how kind and caring I am, so I must be doing something right. Just today, a neighbor dropped off a card with money at my home and I've known them only a year. I'm touched and humbled by such people who truly know and live the meaning of the Golden Rule, as you've implied in your comments. So you can imagine my hurt and confusion with this one person. I don't like to demonize people and I give everyone a chance. When I first met her, she was cool and we had stuff in common. She praised my talents and gave good advice on various topics. She'd buy me a soda when I'd visit her at work and I'd bring gifts for her beauty interests. My mom even did some sewing for her. So, to be fair, she was not untrustworthy or envious or selfish and she was always respectful to my family. But I started to notice how every single girl that worked with her would quit; she'd say that they did her wrong when, in fact, she was the common denominator in every interaction. I just can't hang out with a woman who has no women friends. She has to be Alpha in everything and I do not. I don't want to compete with anyone for anything. And I'm a bit too old to indulge in teenage passive-aggressive crap. We all have faults, so why not own them? I can, she won't. End of.
@shirleybarcilliano8786
3 жыл бұрын
I really like the references, while being educational and genuine
@hanakoandfriends4277
3 жыл бұрын
I feel like i always do this but i dont realize 😶
@articcats701
3 жыл бұрын
Usisgsiasbajsh
@karimameziane1936
3 жыл бұрын
Ayyyyyyyyyyy that is messed up but sometimes you mean it but you dont like you're really are it's really good that this videos are here to make us correct our mistakes
@hanakoandfriends4277
3 жыл бұрын
@@karimameziane1936 yep 😔✨
@sun_flower107
3 жыл бұрын
Other times, they will apologize with buying gifts, helping you with errands and etc. When you accept their apologies, they will go back to doing the things that hurt you.
@tiredly_artistic
3 жыл бұрын
My friend and I had an argument a long time ago and a month ago she apologized and yesterday she got mad at me and called me mean stuff & didn't want to be my friend :( but hopefully I heal & move on :')
@whatshouldisayifvaskmeforc5217
3 жыл бұрын
I also having an argument between me and my bestie we never been contect since the fight it's been 1 month I miss her so much but I don't know if she think the same way as me I'm still afraid to chat her what if she still didn't forgive me. It's really big fight we have argument until 4 a.m. and hurt me so much 😔
@hamallama4517
3 жыл бұрын
My mom did something that probably scarred me for life. She said sorry then told my dad about it like "I had to (...)" and it just frustrates me to no end. You don't have to tell him! She told my sister as well, highlighting something I told her instead of when I was crying and the actual thing, only mentioning that it happened, and they both laughed it off...and I laughed too. Laughter is contagious, and I couldn't not laugh while dying inside. It's like what she did was a freaking joke. Scratch that- everything bad she's ever done in her whole life!!! Especially to _me._ I cry every day. I don't know if it's depression or something, or that Mom always says the wrong things and has absolutely no empathy or sympathy, or both. She also blamed something she did on her having anger issues (as she guessed), like that validates it. She whines every day and I have no choice but to bottle up my feelings since she's like an extremely irrational toddler who so happens to have birthed me. I just want less hate in the world, including from me.
@gracefultrash
3 жыл бұрын
Love how you used mother Gothel at the beginning 😂
@icebear524
3 жыл бұрын
Sometimes people get mad at me and I apologize, but I don't know what I'm apologizing for.....
@sdacegd
3 жыл бұрын
My friend: apologies fakly Me: pulls out this video
@AppleProGamer74
3 жыл бұрын
That’s what I was thinking! 😂😅
@aghomablessing2506
Жыл бұрын
😄😄😂
@turisteandoentexas
3 жыл бұрын
I truly love this content!! Why are not a lot of people making this kind of advice
@Gabriel-lx4bz
3 жыл бұрын
I love how on sometimes they use 2020 and covid as a example
@Done-And-Honored
7 ай бұрын
oh.... No. 4 I get a lot, I never knew until I saw this. Keep up the work, and I love your videos!
@beeclark6196
3 жыл бұрын
Currently mad cuz my ex did all of these but 1 🙄
@anicka9781
3 жыл бұрын
Okay, im recently new here in this channel and while watching vids it makes myself calm.
@gigilap7176
3 жыл бұрын
I love how they explained what is a bad apology by making it interesting(spongebob, the year of 2020 and even life goes on by bts)
@rivuuuh
3 жыл бұрын
Thanks Gigi! We're glad that you love it. 🤗✨
@tocachicken8434
3 жыл бұрын
1. Someone who says this is someone who feels insecure, because they know they have done something wrong, but they are scared to take all the blame, so they put some onto you to take weight off their back. They think it will bring them relief if you are also to blame for the whole situation. They will put you down to make them feel happier. 2. Someone who says this doesn’t believe that they are the wrong one, or they don’t want to believe it at least. They act like you’ve taken something the wrong way to make it seem like they really haven’t done anything worth arguing about. This can make you feel upset too, because it’s making you feel like you’ve upset them by taking something the wrong way. Unlike 1 where they only put some pressure on your back, these types of people take it all of their back and onto yours. 3. Someone who says this is trying to make you feel like the only reason you are upset is because you can’t handle a joke. They will put you off by saying you are too sensitive, when really they have just made you upset. They don’t show any sympathy or empathy for your negative emotions caused from their own physical or mental attacks towards you. They think it makes them seem like the good one if they turn their own bad deeds into just you being over dramatic. They will try to push you into thinking you are the bad one and should fix yourself. 4. Someone who says this is desperate to point out all the ways it’s your fault, and none of the ways it’s their fault. In their mind, they have done nothing wrong. They don’t say “I’m sorry for my hurtful actions” because they don’t talk about how it was there fault. They push you into your own guilt so they don’t have to feel theirs. They know they have done something wrong, so they make you feel the same way to make it somewhat “equal”. They aren’t sorry for their actions. They are sorry for your feeling about the actions. 5. Someone who says this is trying to make you think that you misunderstood their actions to make it seem like they did nothing at all, and you are just claiming they have. It’s a manipulative phrase that gets you under the impression that they are right and you are wrong for thinking they did something that would actually offend you. They know they’ve upset you, but they think if they act like you are just misunderstanding the situation, they can make you think they haven’t done anything. 6. They want something from you, like an apology or for you to admit your “wrong doings” before they admit theirs, because they don’t want to be the wrong one. If you apologise first, it will make them feel like it was partly your fault. 7. If someone says this to you, just like in all the other ones, they don’t want it to be their fault, so they make it yours. They accuse you of doing something to cause their actions. Sounds mean, right? These people can manipulate you into thinking “I shouldn’t have done what I did. This never would have happened if I didn’t.” When really you did nothing at all. All of these are the same in one way- They all want you to take more blame than them - The video in my words -This took me forever
@tocachicken8434
3 жыл бұрын
@Maya Hampton Thank you so much! I’m going to subscribe to your channel
@ScorpionStrike7
3 жыл бұрын
I’ve never spent a day in my life without saying, “I’m sorry.” It’s that I’m told to say it, but I just feel really guilty when I mess up.
@cherylbohman6518
3 жыл бұрын
And I've never related to a comment more than now
@uvonnejones-most9276
3 жыл бұрын
I used to belong to a women's group from my kid's preschool. It was a group of mothers who met on Sundays once a month to talk, to encourage, and to support our growth and endeavors. One Sunday, I got there early and feeling good. The meeting started but when two members came 10 minutes late, that's when all hell broke loose. The topic of the meeting about how disruptive it was when members were late and bashing members on their behavior. My name came up because I was late to previous meetings and I must apologize for being late for, upon reflection, I realized my behavior was wrong for being disruptive and I'm a sensitive person, so I am very empathetic. However, because I'm sensitive my feelings are easily hurt. There was one particular member who made a big deal about this issue. To resolve this, we decided to go to lunch together and I thought we were discussing the issues we had. She was so agreeable and all smiles; she agreed to discussing any issues she had with me in private. However, at the next meeting, she went on a rant about another member and me. A long very angry rant about another disruptive behavior. I just sat there. Unable to move, I stared at her in disbelief and shock. And then I got angry. I wanted an apology. I left the meeting early to cool off. The women wanted another meeting that month to talk about the happenings of the previous meetings. Everyone was discussing whether an apology was need and everyone agreed it was. So, the apology this particular member gave was, “I apologize for upsetting you, but you make it so easy since you’re such a victim,” followed by a series of giggles. It was at this moment that I realized I lost a friend and perhaps we never were friends. I turned to one of my best friends in the group and said, “this isn’t going to work.” I decided to leave the group for she didn’t deliver a real apology. Every time they called me up to meet, I asked them if this particular member would be attending and when they said “yes, she was,” I would refuse to attend. It took 3 years before she gave me a real apology on her own. It taught me to stand up for myself and what was a true apology. Even though, it was a painful period of my life, it was a valuable lesson.
@TurtleChad1
3 жыл бұрын
A Turtle doesn't approve fake apologies
@thesquad9353
3 жыл бұрын
Lol
@octavio2293
3 жыл бұрын
Wise turtle of the ocean, what other wisdom do you have
@matikashu6033
3 жыл бұрын
How I apologize is like this, “I’m sorry that I hurt you and even if I didn’t mean to, I still did. And I’m sorry.”
@sun-wo9vp
3 жыл бұрын
When i missed school for a few days i asked my “friend” when do we have the English test, and she told me we have it on Tuesday or Wednesday( I don’t remember exactly) but it was actually the first day of school on Monday. She did that so i can come to the test unprepared and get a lower mark than her. After the teacher graded our papers, we went to the bathroom and i asked her why she told me that we have the test on Tuesday and she said: “i also didn’t know.” How can’t you know? You were at school. She didn’t even looked in my eyes, didn’t sound convincing and didn’t even apologize or feel sorry about me, it was so obvious that she lied to me. Edit: well, her plan worked tho, she got a slightly higher grade than mine and the teacher was disappointed on me.
@yoamirajahara
3 жыл бұрын
People say I'm too sensitive and it infuriates me
@Talkinglife
3 жыл бұрын
We’re taught from a young age that whenever we hurt someone or upset them with our words or our actions, we should apologize. We need to say sorry for the things we did wrong and ask the other for their forgiveness
@northernlights9533
3 жыл бұрын
... Yet there's still people who hurts others for fun
@strange_okapi892
3 жыл бұрын
._.
@rebeccaliew2247
3 жыл бұрын
Narcissistic ex-friends are professional "apologizers" to manipulate people's feelings. They put in a lot of effort to maintain public appearances of "innocence & wholesome goodness". Whether a close friend/family member call them out on their b.s or maintain silence over it, narcissists believe their fake apologies will get them away scott-free forever from Karma.
@HowellConsultations
3 жыл бұрын
In case no one has told you today, Keep pushing through the heartache, lack of motivation & self doubt. When you feel lost, that’s the perfect opportunity to find a reroute. There’s so much you’re meant to do in this lifetime, don’t give up on it. Hope our channel helps you on your journey ✌
@aseelelwan
3 жыл бұрын
everyone happily reaching their goals me still not getting my goal, it’s 800 subscribers by the end of 2020🥺
@Milo-31shades
3 жыл бұрын
I have a request for this video”what type of careers suits your personality” or “what type of career suits INFJs”
@Psych2go
3 жыл бұрын
Ooooo, I like this idea. Can you please forward your idea to our team by email? It's listed in the description! This would be a fun one to make. :) - Cindy
@Milo-31shades
3 жыл бұрын
Tysm!
@Milo-31shades
3 жыл бұрын
Done!
@Auggiec_ore
3 жыл бұрын
3:14 Like an echo in the forest🎶
@enjoyasipofjesus832
Жыл бұрын
What drives me crazy is “I’m sorry if…” bc you’re denying it what you by and an if when you did hurt them. Its not I’m sorry if you feelings got hurt, it’s , I’m sorry that i hurt you’re feelings.
@jovanaletic6077
3 жыл бұрын
Who else noticed: spongebob, tangled, covid and taylor swift in the animation?
@rivuuuh
3 жыл бұрын
Wow. We're glad you noticed! 🤩✨
@jovanaletic6077
3 жыл бұрын
@@rivuuuh are you being sarcastic or are you serious..?
@rivuuuh
3 жыл бұрын
@@jovanaletic6077 I don't know how to be sarcastic though. 😳
@Psych2go
3 жыл бұрын
Thanks for noticing them, Jovana! Ms Oh is the animator of this video :)
@Adhd_fairyy
3 жыл бұрын
It's so great to see these types of videos and realize it wasn't you who was crazy. People were really doing this
@jordandennis1088
3 жыл бұрын
I saw spongebob on this. Nice touch
@zang2349
3 жыл бұрын
thank you for making psychology more accessible! it’s gonna be my future career soon. ❤️
@Psych2go
3 жыл бұрын
You're very welcome! That's one of our goals! Good luck with your future career. Hope this video helped you! - Cindy
@miastar0814
3 жыл бұрын
dude ur animation is so cute wth
@Psych2go
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you! Glad to hear you like this animation style. Shall we do more of this? :D - Cindy
@miastar0814
3 жыл бұрын
@@Psych2go if you’re happy and want to, of course! it’s so cute and i love the way you put light on these situations with it and educate others at the same time! :3
@Janeway1269
3 жыл бұрын
That doesn't make "but" a "fake" apology. It's a way of approaching a conflict by saying it took two to tango, and honestly that's nothing unusual. It means "I'm sorry for my part in this or that we are having a problem. I'll acknowledge my role in the conflict, but you should recognize your own part in this as well, and in case you don't see it, this is what it is, from my point of view."
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