In August of last year, we had to say goodbye to our beloved chihuahua mix named Brandi. We had her for 15 of her 17 or 18 years of life. As Brandi slowed down, had kidney disease and frequent UTI’s, we knew the end was near. Even with all that, the grief was more than expected. It took two months before I knew I would be ready again. The following month, we welcomed a 1 year old shih-tzu named Smokey who was a rescue. The early transition was not easy, as it took quite a few months for him to settle in. Almost a year later I’m so glad that we took Smokey in and he knows that this is his forever home.
@impurrfectlife
11 ай бұрын
Oh I'm so sorry about your loss of your beloved Brandi, I have no doubt your new love Smokey was brought into your lives at just the right time. I'm glad you found joy again. Thanks for watching and sharing!
@AnthonyG.Cameron
5 ай бұрын
“Before humans die, they write their last will and testament, give their home and all they have to those they leave behind. If, with my paws, I could do the same, this is what I’d ask… To a poor and lonely stray I’d give my happy home; my bowl and cozy bed, soft pillow and all my toys, the lap, which I loved so much, the hand that stroked my fur, and the sweet voice that spoke my name. I’d will the sad, scared dog shelter dog the place I had in my human’s loving heart, of which there seemed no bounds. So, when I die, please do not say, “I will never have a pet again, for the loss and pain is more than I can stand.” Instead, go find an unloved dog, one whose life has held no joy or hope, and give my place to him. This is the only thing I can give… The love I left behind.” -Author Unknown
@impurrfectlife
5 ай бұрын
So well said! Thanks for sharing. So true!
@RachelStokey
4 ай бұрын
This is so beautiful thank you for sharing
@kateausten6450
8 ай бұрын
I feel like I will never get rid of the guilt...
@impurrfectlife
8 ай бұрын
I understand completely and know how you feel. This may help kzitem.info/news/bejne/lqVrmqmPkGh9rKg
@19Neil67
3 ай бұрын
I feel the same way, today we went shopping for a new dog we’re getting I felt as though I was betraying my Reggie 💔
@cathyarmato7132
9 ай бұрын
These are great steps to consider. I adopted my current dog before I got through grieving my beloved dog Phoebe. I probably should have waited until I had grieved more fully. Hopefully this will help others not make the same mistake I did. It's been a year and I do love my new dog Jessie but I brought her into our home too soon - both for me and for my other dog. We were both grieving, going through the trauma of losing Phoebe unexpectedly.
@impurrfectlife
9 ай бұрын
Thank you and thanks for sharing your experiences, as I'm sure you are not alone in adopting soon after losing your beloved Phoebe. You are so right about our other pets understanding grief as well. It's an adjustment period and time for healing for everyone in the home including those with paws.
@SKL194
8 күн бұрын
My one beloved cat died. Next night another beloved cat gone missing. Left the house. I am waiting since 3 days. He has not come back yet 😢😢😢😢😢😢... I am missing him soo much. I don't know where he has gone and will come back or not
@impurrfectlife
8 күн бұрын
I'm so sorry for your death of your furbaby and I hope your other beloved cat returns soon!
@rascalandluci
Жыл бұрын
I just went through this! After my loss of my cat Rascal my grief was so bad. I could also tell my remaining cat was also grieving. She had never been an "only" cat in her existence, and when Rascal passed, she just moped around, and then started becoming very needy, demanding my attention every chance she could. After several weeks after Rascal's passing, I was looking at a cat rescue site, and saw an orange tabby cat, that looked a lot like Rascal. Long story short, I adopted Leo. I admit, I still haven't fully processed my grief, I miss Rascal every single day. I've gone through the slow introduction process of introducing Leo to Luci, and after a month, they are now starting to play together. I'm not sure if I was "ready" to adopt another cat, but having Leo around sure has helped me focus on something else besides the guilt I feel over Rascal's loss. Leo also seems to have helped Luci from being so mopey. She's starting to play with another cat. They aren't all cuddle buddies yet, but neither cat is showing any signs of aggression, so I'm very pleased I took at least a month to introduce these two the right way, and it's given me another cat to love in the process.
@impurrfectlife
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing your testimony and I'm sorry about the passing of your beloved Rascal. (Love that name) Yes, I understand. Everyone's timetable to adopting another pet differs and some people have a stroke of luck or unforeseen timing and adopt sooner than anticipated where others never adopt again. It's all part of the healing journey. It was fate that Leo came into both of your lives as it sounds like he's helping both you and Luci find healing. :) Happy for you things are working out for the positive on your healing journey. :)
@rascalandluci
Жыл бұрын
@@impurrfectlife Thank you. Yes Leo really is helping to fill a void. I honestly believe that Rascal sent him for me to love.
@rylm76
6 ай бұрын
Can I ask what is the age difference when you adopted Leo?
@rascalandluci
6 ай бұрын
@@rylm76 I adopted Leo when he was just under 3 years old. My cat Luci at the time just turned 2 years old. now, Luci is about to be 3 and Leo will be 4 in July.
@PoochParkWear
9 ай бұрын
Great video and food for thought. I waited 3 months after losing Baby and then rescued Layla, I could not handle coming home to an empty house plus so much more and it was the best decision I ever made.
@impurrfectlife
9 ай бұрын
Thank you! Everything in divine timing!! Love that Layla came into your life at the right time. Baby's watching over you both!
@thetailwagwisdom
9 ай бұрын
These are vital signs! So well done! It is a bit confusing when to step back into adopting a new furry friend. These signs are a great guideline! And yes, pets do grieve. My last horse, Macho, grieved for over a year (well, he probably never really stopped) when his coral mate, Hank died unexpectedly. Macho and I leaned on each other. It was a strange world without Hank. He was the dominant one with an over-the-moon personality. It really did help me to have Macho. I sure hope I helped him as much as he did me. Excellent vlog! I'm sharing with all my dog parents.
@impurrfectlife
9 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing your experiences and sharing.
@FiveSibes
9 ай бұрын
All very good heartfelt tips. It's not easy to move forward...and always a great reminder to others that it is a lifelong commitment. Having lost dogs in the past and then welcoming another, I know this is not an easy step. One day, I hope to welcome more dogs into my family once again as it's just not the same now that I've lost my FiveSibes. As each one the passed, they were so bonded, and they did grieve for the losses, so I agree 100% with you that you have to consider the surviving pets. I knew mine were not ready to welcome another into the home. Sending out hugs to all who are preparing to do this.
@impurrfectlife
9 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing and I feel the same. When the time comes to adopt again, it's best to happen organically in your own timing. Thanks for watching!
@Cadence__1700
11 ай бұрын
In the beginning of this month, on the 3rr, I lost my 13-year old cat Spike. He was my sole momento as he was my first cat, and he was with me my whole childhood. I have never stopped crying myself to sleep everynight knowing he can't sleep beside me, or on my head anymore like he used to. I knew he had a parasite, but I was financially struggling so we had no way getting meds and pluz, vets where I am don't even do their jobs right. Six months since he got sick, he lost weight drastically but acted normal besides peeing blood and became desperately clingy and his fur was becoming unkempt and smelly. He came to me when he collapsed that morning and I sat there with him for the whole eight hours he laid there, heaving. I knew he forgave me for pushing him away when I was upset knowing he was dying, because he wanted me by his side in the very end. Love you buddy boo, and I know you're laying there beside me now. 😢 Mom suggested when I'm ready I can meet this client of hers that she cleans for since she's a maid, and just so has it, she has Tabis so I want to get one, but scared it's too soon or I am replacing him in some sort of way.
@Cadence__1700
11 ай бұрын
I just want to be happier again. I mean, I've my pitbull, but yk I want a cuddle buddy since my pit Macy isn't. She's a sweet girl and she comforts me when she knows I'm down, but she's not a cuddler. Till I get one, I'm just using her as my therapy 🤍
@impurrfectlife
11 ай бұрын
I'm so sorry for your loss of your beloved Spike. Everyone's journey dealing with grief looks different and feelings of guilt is normal. Our pets understand our love for them and the pain that comes when the end is near for us (and them). It's soul crushing for us pet parents. As for adopting or getting a new pet, everyone's time table is different. Some sooner than others. Do what feels right for you. I applaud you for self -reflecting and thinking if it's a way to cope or if you are truly ready. When in doubt, take a pause to let yourself process your loss, give it thought and proceed from there. Wish you healing, comfort and peace in the journey forward. Spike will never be forgotten.
@Cadence__1700
11 ай бұрын
@@impurrfectlife Thank you, and I'll be sure I know I'm truly ready before committing to the excitement about the thought of another cat. Spike's memories and his spirit will never leave me, nor replaced, just making room for a new feline that has yet the chance to live and ik if animals had the ability to talk, Spike would say he would want me to be happy and find another furry friend. I feel as now my pain isn't bad since I don't feel too emotional talking about this, and I've not been afraid to come talk to someone when I do and you said the same thing my friend told me about it being on my personal decision because it's not like I'm following a rule about the stages of grief and how long is what's "necessary" before moving on cause you can't "move on" with a pet loss it hits different; you just live with it, make room for it, and seek help in any way saw fit for you. Even if it means getting another pet as long as it isn't all about your own selfish needs. I need to be clear if I'm thinking of the cat's needs instead of mine. Once again, thank you for the nice thoughts. Spike and I both appreciate it❤️
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