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@miraclesblessings5044
Жыл бұрын
Ms Lex... I love your channel and I make sure that my nieces and nephews watch EVERY video. I was wondering if you have ever done a video on the history of makeup for black women? Also I have a niece that is gay and she is really struggling with embarrassment and Im not sure what to tell her...do you have a video on the history of black lesbians? Thanx in advance. May God forever bless you and your future endeavors.
@RobinTheMetaGod
Жыл бұрын
You should be ashamed.
@miraclesblessings5044
Жыл бұрын
@@RobinTheMetaGod Why? Because I don't want my niece to feel alone and rejected from her own family? Whether or not I agree or disagree with it is irrelevant...I LOVE HER and I never ever want her to not be able to come to me nor question the fact that I love her unconditionally.
@RobinTheMetaGod
Жыл бұрын
@@miraclesblessings5044 My comment is addressed yo IM, kid. The slut cosplayed as a character a love and I am saying IM should be ashamed.
@lofi-lila
Жыл бұрын
This is a bit off topic, but I really appreciate you putting subtitles in the video 🧡
@copperblaze22
Жыл бұрын
"Some beauty salon owners complained that afros would ruin their business, while others rushed to accommodate patrons desiring the style." History stays repeating itself.
@bmwjourdandunngoddess6024
Жыл бұрын
Yup, the same thing is happening the music industry. People say the music being not long and fast is all new but the same thing was happening during Motown and all that during the 60s. Nothing is new! Black people also remain the blueprint! Not surprised!💅🏿
@chickensalad3535
Жыл бұрын
@bmwjourdandunngoddess6024B lack people have absolutely had a lot of influence on American culture, but you guys are not 'the blueprint'. Pretending that black people are the basis for everything ignores the countless other cultures that have shaped American culture. Yes, even white people.
@nolipoli430
Жыл бұрын
Fun fact: black women caused the stock market to crash in the 1970s bc of their natural hair
@copperblaze22
Жыл бұрын
@nolipoli Do you know about the Hindenburg, asteroids, and UFOs? It all happened from our wash-n-gos. 🤣🤣😅
@MelanatednNature
Жыл бұрын
Exactly it truly does
@coilyheadedbby
Жыл бұрын
Girl this could’ve been 3 hrs long and I would’ve enjoyed every minute of it.
@IntelexualMedia
Жыл бұрын
Aw thank you
@DeeDaKaang1
Жыл бұрын
Definitely.....Please do one about black men's hair next.
@crystaljanai2229
Жыл бұрын
@brittanyedeh1331 a fact!!
@I.am.arig_
Жыл бұрын
Same babe. ❤
@robmoney
Жыл бұрын
@@DeeDaKaang1if she does will there be at least 5 minutes of dunking on young Drake in Degrassi?
@carayj
Жыл бұрын
What a fascinating topic: Black women in hair, I have had it all, Jheri Curl, press n Curl, relaxer, Virgrol relaxer, lost hair to chemo treatment, now growing my hair back been natural 13yrs now
@IntelexualMedia
Жыл бұрын
Sending you love
@carayj
Жыл бұрын
@@IntelexualMedia thanks ❤
@heathertea2704
Жыл бұрын
Caray, I remember Vigorol Relaxers well. Nearing adulthood in the early 80s, family & friends were beginning to use relaxers more frequently. And MANY lost LOTS of hair.😢 I even had a Full weave in the 6th grade, in the mid 70s because Mama wanted to "try new Styles." 🤣
@Lizzy_Beth8082
Жыл бұрын
Congratulations. I hope your hair journey goes well.
@carayj
Жыл бұрын
@@Lizzy_Beth8082 thank you I having growing my out the past 4yrs almost back to where it was a ❤
@Kiki-bo9en
Жыл бұрын
Three defining hair moments for me: 1) I was young, maybe 5, not old enough for relaxers yet, and my mom, trying to detangle my hair to hot comb it, full on BROKE A HAIRBRUSH off in my hair. It was probably just a cheap brush, but I felt embarrassed at the time and didn't know why. Like my hair was a problem. 2) A hairdresser left relaxer in too long when I was 11. It burned through my skin and I had scabs and bleeding for weeks and damaged scalp for years. I knew I wanted to stop then, but felt like I didn't have any other choices except braids, which took 4-8 HOURS and because I'm tender-headed, could be excruciatingly painful. 3) Getting locs at 19. My mom had gotten them a year or two earlier and encouraged me to try it, but I was afraid of not liking them and having to cut them off and have- GASP: short hair. A fate worse than death, I know, but I was young and still under the influence of the "good hair" thing. But in the end, I got the locs and when I say I almost cried, I am SERIOUS y'all. Realizing that THIS is what my hair had been trying to do my entire life and that hair I pursued with braids and perms ("straight," lays flat, and the unreachable INEXPENSIVE and EASY TO MANAGE) was what my hair already was all along, it blew my mind. I still have those locs today, never cut them except to trim and shave one side, and I love that my hair feels very personal to me now. I'm the one who washes it, twists it, and styles it. When it gets rough, I go to a loctician, but that has been rare. I still think people should do what feels right for them, straight, natural, however, as long as you feel good about the relationship you have with your hair and enjoy and appreciate how it makes you feel.
@ElisiasEvolution
Жыл бұрын
I haven't looked back either with my locs, only difference is I was 36 when I started, I also feel free with my locs as well. Best thing I have done for my hair.
@donnag7908
Жыл бұрын
Omg! Same thing happened to me. My grandma broke a brush while doing my hair. After that she sent me to one of her neighbors who was a beautician. That woman was so frustrated with my hair being so thick and curly. She would yank and pull at my hair with a comb; all the while yelling at me to sit still! I remember getting burned with the hot comb. Naturally, according to her it was my fault because my hair was so thick and I wouldn’t sit still.
@ImaniAlchemy
Жыл бұрын
My defining hair moment: I was around 7 or 8 yrs old and I decided to take down my box braids by myself when no one was paying attention. I quickly got impatient by how long it was taking and got the idea that if I just cut at the root it will be faster😩. Not realizing I was cutting my own hair lmaooo. My mom was sooo upset. Not angry just sad lol. And I ended up getting a shaved side and braids on the other side and I loved it😭
@IntelexualMedia
Жыл бұрын
Lmao this was literally me watching That’s So Raven! 😂😂 thanks for sharing
@spacebar9733
Жыл бұрын
that sounds like it was meant to happen i wanted that hair style growing up omg.
@coilyheadedbby
Жыл бұрын
Girlllll so for whatever reason when my sister and I were younger, my mom would literally make it a point of duty to for us to help her take down her braids. So my sister and I got really competitive betting on who would finish taking down a braid first. Typically my mom would cut the braids in advance so we wouldn’t have to do it.But because I got frustrated that my sister kept beating me, I was cutting the braids even shorter without my mom knowing. But I swear I had no idea I was cutting off her hair lmao 🤣 she was LIVID 😂It’s a wonder I lived to see another day!! 😂
@ImaniAlchemy
Жыл бұрын
@@coilyheadedbby lmaooo what goes through our child brains that makes us believe our hair just magically disappears when we put braids in 😂🤷🏾♀️
@ImaniAlchemy
Жыл бұрын
@@spacebar9733 yesss I loved it!
@tonyagibbs1963
Жыл бұрын
I'm so glad you're saying aloud how conflicted we can be about our hair. And how it's political even though none of us asked for it. I constantly go back and forth about whether to cut it off. 💜 Stay strong!
@user-gb5ml2rb3n
Жыл бұрын
The struggle is real!! I did my hair earlier was just over it!!!
@miram2053
Жыл бұрын
Chile I cut mine and have been free ever since. I had lots before I cut it but was just craving a hair cut. Do what you feel is right for you. Forget them other folks.
@babyitsjanell
Жыл бұрын
Don’t cut learn it’s beautiful the curls!
@diadiaa892
Жыл бұрын
I remember when I was a kid and my some girls where perming their hair. I asked my mum for a perm and she said “no, your hair’s long and healthy, you’ll just damage it”. ‘Long’ these days was that your hair was at neck length. My mum would always complement my dark type 4 hair. Saying i looked cute, and that ‘i would thank her later for it’. Relatives often complimented it too, and my mum would always do her best with the limited information she had in the mid 2000’s to style and protect my fragile strands in ways i see them being done on TV! As the natural hair movement became more popular, i was becoming more exposed to hair that looked like mine, and I can’t lie. I fell in LOVE with my hair. I’ve always liked it before, but these times I was really starting to appreciate it for what it is! I would definitely say my natural hair icon was Zurie from Jessie on Disney channel. I’ve always wanted my hair to look as full, long and bouncy as her’s! I still remember in secondary school when waiting for my bus in the morning these blonde white girls in a red car, roof down shades on and everything literally stopped in front of me and marvelled and expressed how ‘pretty’ i looked with my afro hair in space puffs. That amongst many other compliments definitely did influence my positive view on my hair! I’ll admit, i’ve had a lot of good experiences around my natural hair. And my mum has always been a pillar of encouragement of my appreciating it as it is. Plus my dad never made any remarks to it, which I know affected some young girl’s view on afro-textured hair not being ‘feminine’ growing up. Maybe if I had more negative experiences it could have been different. But i’m so blessed to have been surrounded by my family’s encouragement and appreciation of my natural. Looking back at it, my mum always complained how she wished her mum never permed her hair, because it was so damaged. I guess she wanted me to love what was unfortunately taken away from her. She still deals with the damage of all those perms she had to this day! Her scalp is burnt, and she also deals with benign-growths in her uterus (which i suppose now with the research done _may_ have been a result of the relaxers). While at 19 years old its safe to say that I’ve gained a lot more knowledge on natural hair than my mum, if it wasn’t for her, i may have not become as curious and loving to my hair as she was to it! So, I guess she was right, thanks mum!
@BTheTrue
Жыл бұрын
Wonderful!!
@angelyse4061
Жыл бұрын
Same story here with the Bantu Knots. It was 5th grade I felt so cool ! Sure enough I was made fun of . I took them out a day later and had cute curls then two girls from my class came up to me and asked why I took them out and they liked them. Yeah, childhood 🙃
@KeeKeeSoto
Жыл бұрын
Ugh I didn't want this one to end! So many memories... The hot comb, perms, finger waves.. I remember burning my hair off trying to straighten it myself at my grandma's beauty salon. Remember those hot combs and curling irons that went into the metal plates? Well I forgot to let it cool off 😂🤣
@majdoumunyu7092
11 ай бұрын
As a non black woman who teaches in a school where many of my students are black, I compliment them everytime they Switch their style, crochet, braids, afros... They honestly always look good and I think it is important to build their confidence, academically and as individuals
@kamyrahbrown5994
11 ай бұрын
I promise you they will remember tht forever thank you for taking time iht of your day to be kind for the next generation of us to be more confident in our hair ❤
@majdoumunyu7092
11 ай бұрын
@@kamyrahbrown5994 thank you !
@deebutterfly19
Жыл бұрын
I always had mid-back length hair until I got a fresh perm and got in a chlorine pool, and ignorantly didn’t wash it out. ALLLLLLL my hair fell out. It was traumatizing. I didn’t achieve that length again until 8 years later when I went fully natural at age 19. I’ve never looked back. My hair has never felt, looked, or been as healthy as it is now. It was astonishing how quickly and fully my hair grew back.
@IntelexualMedia
Жыл бұрын
Love this for you!
@coilyheadedbby
Жыл бұрын
Omg this same exact thing happened to my sister! I could tell how much it affected her self esteem back then.
@deebutterfly19
Жыл бұрын
@@coilyheadedbby yes, as black women, we hold our hair on a pedestal. It was really hard, I was just entering middle school, and had no confidence. Glad that our generation is taking healthy hair more seriously. 🙌🏽
@Tiorg-g1u
Жыл бұрын
Girl I was on the swim team in high school and had relaxed hair, my little head didn’t stand a chance. I was walking around without edges for most of junior and senior year; its funny to look back on now but at the time the teasing did a number on my self esteem. I’ve been natural since 18 and my hair is so thick and healthy now, can’t believe I was once on that frustrating struggle bus.
@deebutterfly19
Жыл бұрын
@@Tiorg-g1u swimming was literally a traumatizing experience for black women 😭 and all because of our hair !! These things need to be published and talked about more.
@AntoinetteChanel
Жыл бұрын
Elexus this video was amazing. I loved seeing all your pictures 😍I, like you and so many other Black women, have struggled with my hair all my life. My mom relaxed my hair when I was young and I stayed with it until a few years ago when I was just done with the hassle of having to her new growth touched up. I wear my natural hair now, but there are days when I don’t like it. I think the most tragic part are the beliefs that get planted within us about what we “should” look like and what’s “professional, appropriate” etc. These days, at 38 almost 39 years of age, even though I have off days with my hair, I refuse to internalize my hair texture as being difficult or ugly or undesirable. It grows out of my head this way, and that can’t be wrong. I do enjoy my hair vacations though (braids, wigs, hair pieces) 😉. I wrote a children’s book called A Book for Black Girls and made sure the illustrator showed all variations of Black hair on the little girls. 🥰
@rudetuesday
Жыл бұрын
Mom's hairdresser did her hair until Mom passed away several years ago. Their friendship was in place my entire life, and Miss Sadie came to school events and funerals, we knew her kids and her siblings. Really important relationship. I have a really complicated relationship with my hair, but can relate to so many of the things in your video. The most important thing I did was to cut it all off, which was a huge deal in the 1980s. All of a sudden, I had a bunch of confrontations from all sides, about sexuality and gender.
@cyrus6186
Жыл бұрын
My grandma has gone to the same old lady for YEARS and after her shop closed, we'd still go to her personal home for hair care. It wasn't till she passed where my Grandma started doing her own hair and a close friend of my grandmas recommended her hairstylist for me since i wanted braids!
@belindarosegold
Жыл бұрын
Loved this video! Really shows how hair care for black women is much deeper than people think. I tried all kinds of things and was not happy with my hair or how I maintained it for a really long time.
@lesliea9548
Жыл бұрын
Alllll of this!!!!! As soon as I stopped using weave glue and relaxer, there was no more dandruff or irritation! This natural journey has been an adventure, because I'm still learning even after 10 years!
@ichasepaper954
Жыл бұрын
My mama lost her job back in the 90s for having braids. I'll never forget that as long as i live
@danieldionne9709
Жыл бұрын
White dude here -- all the trauma and discrimination for your hair, especially the personal stories in the video and comments, breaks my heart. I never had to deal with any shit like that. I never even once got teased or bullied for my hair, let alone been denied a job or fired. You all are strong, that's all I gotta say. Thanks for the amazing video
@kamyrahbrown5994
11 ай бұрын
Thank you for trying to understand our history it means a lot ❤
@hikariluanGC
Жыл бұрын
This was such an interesting watch and it got me emotional. I'm white, but from a mixed Brazilian family (most of us live here in Brazil). I understood the struggles of people with curly hair going from my mom (biracial married to a white man) and every other women in her family who was born with either curly or kinky hair (especially the dark skin women, that struggle was so fucking bad and sad, I watched most of my dark skin aunties hiding their hair in one way or another). It was very evident something was weird when even my white aunties straightened it out and bleached their hair blonde to look whiter. I also was shocked when I let my own hair grow and it was called "bad hair" or "it doesn't fit you" as in it doesn't fit the color of my skin because it's curly and a bit kinkier, that happened for most of my teen years even though I'm clearly white as fuck. It was traumatizing and I remember pursuing ways to make it straight so I could fit the white stereotype until I got educated on how wrong that was. It got me emotional to hear the stories of how these things happened all over the US and it reminded me of how important it is to support black people with any choice of hairstyle they pick and what it means to them, especially black women.
@SavoX597
Жыл бұрын
I gotta say, I just clicked this video because I thought it would be shorter, but your content kept me engaged and I didn't realized it was an hour long! I live in Mexico, but your content has made me interested and has shaded new light on issues and culture of Afro-america.
@Mialamorena1
Жыл бұрын
Girl…. What do you think about doing a segment on black women in rock music, black women fans of rock music?
@bdouglas9723
Жыл бұрын
Yesss! I'd love to see her cover that, I feel like we really need to revive interest in that part of AA history.
@kaylad4486
Жыл бұрын
You called? All my life. I hid it for a while bc of what was said about me but now I embrace it
@Mialamorena1
Жыл бұрын
@@kaylad4486 No more in the closet my dear😃😃
@Mialamorena1
Жыл бұрын
@@bdouglas9723 I think it is more than historical 😄
@AditiMittalYT
Жыл бұрын
Yet another incredible video by Lexi. 🤲🏽❤️
@jacquelinehawkins524
Жыл бұрын
My first defining moment was getting a relaxer at 13. My mom made me wait so long and I used to feel self-conscience about my hair because all the girls in middle school had more "grown-up" hairstyles and the last defining moment was when I cut all my hair off to rock a fashionable short style in 2010 then deciding to go natural after that.
@skinni_the_P00hBear
Жыл бұрын
Ooooh I love me a good history lesson. I've really been on my black history lately, I'm so glad I found your channel again (I subscribed a long time ago not I swear KZitem is unsubscribing me from channels and not sending me notifs👀)
@monet6104
Жыл бұрын
I got my first relaxer when I was 3, too. My mom did it because she was tired of trying to figure out my hair every morning as she rushed to get me and my brother ready for school and arrive to work on time. I didn't finally stop getting relaxers until I was 18. I then started getting alternative straightening processes like Keratin treatments. I finally did the big chop just before my 21st birthday.☺️🥰 Hair was so important to my family. My mom and I went to the salon every week on Saturdays. We'd be there for hours it was like another job. I was thinking of my mom telling the story of her taking out her clip in ponytail after a long day of work. The clip was aggravating her scalp as we were headed home, and my brother and I bickering in the backseat wasn't helping. So, she grabbed it and threw it in the passenger seat. The car went silent as my brother and I stared in shock. We yelled "Mom you're wearing a wig!?!?!!!" We thought it was her real hair😂 I don't think she ever wore it again
@t3tsuyaguy1
Жыл бұрын
I'm so happy to have the opportunity to watch this video. I've never wanted to ask a black woman about her hair because I figure they're tired of people talking about it and making it an issue. As a man, my 3b hair has given me a whole ass journey emotionally, but I haven't experienced nearly the scrutiny I see applied to black women.
@Monaedeezy
Жыл бұрын
Shout out to Nannie Helen Burroughs for her observations, timeless.
@IntelexualMedia
Жыл бұрын
What do you think about her statement when paired with Assata Shakur’s 2nd quote?
@Erinestrella71310
7 ай бұрын
Your going natural pics are amazing! We went through it around 2009 and it was devastating and scary! Now I’m a pro ❤❤
@nezzylearns
Жыл бұрын
I love how you bring a comprehensive history to all of your videos.
@ajayqueensshunter7436
Жыл бұрын
This was so beautifully written and well researched, I throughly enjoyed this👏🏽👏🏽
@IntelexualMedia
Жыл бұрын
Glad you enjoyed it!
@brivonn5222
Жыл бұрын
For years I have struggled with wearing my hair out natural. I used to be so scared to wear an afro. And now I get sooo much positive compliments with my afro that it's actually encouraged me to continue wearing my afro out. I ultimately want to get locs but I'm trying to grow my hair out s certain length before I get them.
@stevensheegog3942
8 ай бұрын
You are truly a knowledgeable and entertaining historian.
@Boahemaa
Жыл бұрын
This was great. You covered it all. I get Angela Davis' feelings. I found out about her because of the hair feature but I know more about her now and I like her even more.
@EvieMarsh
Жыл бұрын
This was intense, thank you so much for this.
@selwatchesyt
Жыл бұрын
I love your work. I was looking for stories of black women that moved out west after slavery and I wished you could make something about it. Especially to push back from the colorism used in that forgettable western (that really didn’t need to be based on real people at all) that cast a light skinned, thin, and feminine, Zazzie Beats, to play a 6’0 tall, dark skinned, big body icon so she would be acceptable as the male character’s love interest.
@CosmicGardener
Жыл бұрын
For context: I studied alot of anthropology especially history, culture(mostly ancient) and I love the day to day parts of it. This is things like food, the significance/meaning is clothing/fashion, how people set up and lived in their homes or what their homes might be. Everytime I see content on hair I am so interested in it. Hair feels like a big part of identity and history, esp for black people. It's almost like a second face for lack of better term. Clothing means something about someone but it changes far more frequently than hair does. I've always loved learning about culture and history and hair feels like it can often reflect or tell the story of those things. Idk I jsut feel the need to express how well done this video is. It seems to be in depth in a way that people who experience and live these stories can connect with it but I'm someone who has never had any of these experiences and I don't feel lost. I feel as though I can really understand the story of the history. I'm someone who believes it's really important to at the very least make an effort to understand others so that you can have real experiences and conversations with people bc idk like were all so incredibly complex in so many ways. Now I'm just rambling so I'll leave it here
@CosmicGardener
Жыл бұрын
Ok one last thought
@CosmicGardener
Жыл бұрын
Ok one last thought Trends and preferences tend to run so much deeper than we talk about
@JenzJoe
Жыл бұрын
You should be a news caster. I swear…. U have the voice and flow!!!!
@ays2778
Жыл бұрын
I've always had my natural texture bc my mom gave me the choice to get relaxer or not when I was young (her hair was relaxed). I chose not to cause some of my favorite styles (twists and braids) were only possible because my hair is curly. I also knew that I could just get it straightened if i wanted to wear it like that. I really enjoyed the diversity of my hair, and my mom took very good, consistent care of it. I did have some heat damage in early high school, but i took care of it until I could get it all cut off while retaining most of my length. I did a big chop at the beginning of 2021 (I've always wanted to cut mg hair) and it's been another learning curve as it's grown out. Taking care of mg hair takes a lot of time and dedication so I can understand why someone would chemically treat their hair. I think cutting mine really helped me to appreciate myself without my usual hair styles, and it allowed me to better understand my relationship with my hair. Now days, I usually go w my natural fro, but I still love doing small twists and braids (they just take forever 😭) -there were times when other people hurt my feelings like when my friends told me my twists made me look like medusa, or when people call me mixed when it looks silky when its straight. Or when other kids would tell me to take out my ponytail bc they didnt believe that I could naturally have long hair. I love and know my hair and myself more than those people, so I didnt let it bother as much as it could have. Also my mom was always there to hype me up too
@corps3punk
Жыл бұрын
Having growing up as a an AFAB person (now self identifying Transmasculine person) , I had to endure years of relaxers and such. I remember I wanted to dye my hair red and was told it was too grown. If it rained on me, I let was a not only a bad hair day but a horrible day over all. The turning point for me was when it rained on me and a friend at a local Reggae festival. When I got back to her house, I was staying there for the weekend, i texted my mom asking if I could cut my hair. Of course she said hell no. But I took some scissors, went to the bathroom and chopped off my hair. I’ve been natural ever since (13 years).
@smarti1144
Жыл бұрын
❤ “before you offer suggestions, I’m not asking” I’m glad Queen Latifah is a hair icon. A hero! Maxine Shaw had braids though. And who didn’t know Erika’s had fake dreadlocks..?
@Julisa_Monique
3 ай бұрын
Have yall seen the movie flowers in the attic?! The grandmother put black tar in her granddaighters hair forcing her to cut it off because she disobeyed her
@flintinterpreter7306
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for saying that. Thank you for recording and posting this.
@donnag7908
Жыл бұрын
My hairstyle hero would be an older woman at church who advised me not to relax my little girls hair. . Now hearing all the stories about the affects of hair relaxers I’m thankful for her advice. I have to say, sometimes it wasn’t easy. It seems some people just can’t refrain from commenting on a child’s natural hair. Sad part is a lot of the comments were from other Black folks who thought I should straighten her hair.
@BobbyPen
Жыл бұрын
It’s obsessed with your channel. Bravo, beautiful, intelligent, articulate black woman! 🎉❤
@loumoon7660
4 ай бұрын
Wow this girl is extremely cool.
@Julisa_Monique
3 ай бұрын
As someone who grew up in a majority white place i was always feeling insecure about my natural hair and just wanted to cover it up with straight long hair..I hated my natural hair. I didnt love myself. Black woman were taught to hate their natural hair.. it was never really accepted and these days all you see is black woman wearing long silky hair that dont look nothing like what naturally grows out of their head. Little girls that aint even hit puberty grow up seeing mom put all this fake hair in her head to feel beautiful and now they think unless they have fake hair in they dont feel beautiful. They feel like natural hair is ugly or and too nappy to maintain because they were not taught how to properly take care of it..they weren't taught to love their natural crown. Its so sad. Im 24 been natural for 5 years and im seeing through all the bs. Im learning to make time for my hair and learning so much about it... LOVE YOUR NATURAL CROWN CAUSE ITS BEAUTIFUL ITS YOU!!👑🫶🏾✨ weaves aint protecting nothing btw..its harming it. Thats the lie I believed to. This gon definitely go above some heads and trigger folks but it is what it is stop lying to yourself about what it aint!
@mytruecrimelibrary
Жыл бұрын
Very interesting, learned a lot as a metis woman. Keep up the great work💗💗💗
@hannahcrossett3415
11 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for this video! I have been curious for years and here are the answers.
@ashleyb.8217
Жыл бұрын
My defining hair moment was getting my first fade. My Hair Hero IS Chrisette Michelle
@griffinjenn85
Жыл бұрын
This is my second time watching this video & I didn’t get a chance comment! Where do I begin with my hair journey, my GAWD! I’m Black & Puerto Rican and my hair is thick. As a child, I had long hair that my black aunties adored & they warned my Puerto Rican mother who had European straight hair (or white straight hair to make it easy) to NOT PUT IN RELAXERS in my hair or my little sisters hair. My mom struggled styling my hair and one day allowed the neighbor to put in a relaxer. IT WAS BAD! My mom & aunt fought in the streets because of my hair. 😮🤦🏽♀️ Another memorable moment was when my real hair was braided & I saw a music video with a girl group who had short braids. I wanted short braids, got a hold of a pair of scissors & cut my own hair! I got a serious butt whooping from my black auntie because of that. Talk about trauma! 😮🤦🏽♀️ After that, I was addicted to relaxers and I was doing my hair & my sisters hair so that we don’t get picked on at school. I got my last relaxer on May 2015 & haven’t looked back since. It took years to accept my natural hair as I was still blowing drying & hot combing my hair to mimic the relaxed straight hair look. I finally did the big chop on October 2021 & I’m so in love with my real hair!! ❤❤I love me a hair hat aka wigs & braids as they’re my favorite protective styles as my natural hair grows. I’ve been hesitant to color my natural hair from all of the previous damage before the big chop, so I’m good with my colored wigs for now. This video has helped me appreciate my hair journey and to love the versatility of black hair! THANK YOU LEX! ❤❤❤❤
@teejay305
Жыл бұрын
ever since I can remember, my mama was put in my hair in braids and have my auntie fry and lay my hair to the side. We was going to the African ladies for the quick box braids. luckily, my mama never puts a relaxer in my hair, though plenty of heat damage 😂 it wasn’t until I turned 21 that I started to wear my natural hair the way it grows out of my scalp
@allysonswonderland
Жыл бұрын
Loved this video so much! Would love to see a history of black beauty in skincare/makeup beauty products!
@lexxlovelyness
7 ай бұрын
Lex, can you do black women’s Nails History of Black nails in America 😄🙏🏽
@lexxlovelyness
7 ай бұрын
Like this if y’all agree 🥹
@octopussy888
7 ай бұрын
Hmmm… That’ll be really interesting
@christaphobia1613
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this well thought out and informative history of black women’s hair. The braids in the pre colonial hairstyles were so stunning and creative. I hit that subscribe button so hard.
@lettabrown4007
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video. I've been natural since 1998. I had a fro until December 2021. Now, I'm loc'd and loving it. My hair has grown so much!
@starrsmith3810
Жыл бұрын
I can safely say I didn’t go natural until I was a full blown adult and it was like 2022. ……that’s a lot of years growing up getting a hot comb, perms, shitty hair products, damaged hair, straightener because I hated the fact that my hair couldn’t be tamed hardly, constant criticism if it wasn’t done a certain way before I got it cut short, and in general hating my hair. That straightener also gave my hair heat damage and in general I had VERY severe lack of education about my hair. It took me years to even realize that there was products particularly for black women.
@msjkramey
Жыл бұрын
This was really informative and interesting. I knew some of it but this was really eye opening. Thank you for sharing and I'd love the ten hour version you mentioned on day!
@Housewarmin
Жыл бұрын
I went natural 10 years ago, even in 2023 older women don't see my hair as "done". I find myself still feeling like i have to "do" my hair in order to be beautiful, especially when I'm around other black women. I love my hair, but I still feel self concious when my edges aren't laid, or my braids are frizzy after 6 weeks.
@mariahawkins8876
Жыл бұрын
Amazing video. I enjoyed every single second of it. Thank you for this. ♥️
@aimeer9835
Жыл бұрын
Excellent work as always, I loved watching this. My hair heros were Scary Spice and Jill Scott. I always wanted big hair but my mom would never let me wear my hair out in public when I was a kid, always in a ponytail . I remember being picked on in school because everyone else wore straight hair and I still was the only one without a relaxer until 7th grade. Finally went natural again over 10 years ago now. I’ve had everything from short cuts to locs ! Black women have come a long way with our hair and self love and it’s beautiful to see. O and I remember those hot comb horror days fondly 😅!
@ThatGirlNoli
4 ай бұрын
I had to stop half way through because I was becoming triggered. I am mixed and pretty light skin however I have 4C hair. Don’t ask me how this happened even my own half sister (who is not mixed) has less kinky hair than me. Growing up I constantly was told I had bad hair. I heard “you’re so light. Why is your hair so kinky” as I would have my scalp demolished by “Just For Me” kids straightener. Then when I moved into high school Bullying with the kids who were darker than me was actually worse than the white kids (as an adult I no longer view it as bullying, but as a product of colonization and internalized oppression). Due to the home life I had I couldn’t handle being the “strong loner” And so to my detriment, I fit in with the white kids. Though, no one in that crowd ever told me to straighten my hair I knew that I needed to do so in order to fit in as I would constantly be told I was “too black” to date. I also have PCOS and I have often wondered if the relaxers and perms that were in my hair since the age of two have anything to do with my medical diagnosis. This video brought a lot to the surface that I really feel needed to come up for me to heal. Ty tyvm
@israsaleh
Жыл бұрын
Just finished watching the Moon Girl episode about hair and it's got me feeling some type of way... basically I'm extra ready for this one 😂❤
@eminempreg
Жыл бұрын
My hair hero would be my own mother. I have so many memories of sitting down for hours in front of the TV as she braided my hair and I cried cuz I was tender headed. (Main reason it took hours and not 40-60minutes). But I loved coming to school every other week with new beads and baubles on my braids and all the other little girls being so impressed and us laughing at the noise it would make when I shook my head. I also think about when my (ex) stepmother decided she didn't like my hair and gave me a perm. Like she was almost out of a movie or something they way she fit the "evil stepmother" stereotype so well. Constantly calling me dirty, or my hair hair dirty, she was the first person in my life to ever tell me anything like that and she was a black woman! Anyway, she took it upon herself to give me a perm without telling me, she just said she wanted to do my hair. I was crying saying it burned but she just told me "no it doesnt" (she also told me I was fine when I chocked out that I couldn't breath when she was washing my hair in the sink as the water was running straight over my nose and mouth..like). Time passes qnd I finally get home, my mom sees my hair and we're immediately back in the car driving to this woman's house, I didn't join but all I know is my mom chewed this woman out. Sadly years later I did fall into a slight "good hair bad hair mindset" while I didn't view other black women's hair as undesirable. I thought It was pretty. I just didn't know how to manage my own and I saw all my peers with easily maintained straight hair so I started straightening my own. I'm last that now but all of that to say. I'm glad my mom never caved to society with my hair, she cared for it in its natural state and wanted me to be able to express myself however I chose.
@deewynn
Жыл бұрын
I fought my hair and my hair won. I now have over 3ft of naturally formed Locs. I took my braids out 15 yrs ago and never looked back. I don’t not miss Salons at all. Especially all the money I was spending on my hair. I feel so free. No more bad hair days! My Locs are everything.🥰
@theworlddobhellacraz
Жыл бұрын
Could you… could you make this into like a mini series? Honestly, I could watch like 5-10 more videos just on this topic because I’d like to binge it as a topic.
@user-kj8yj5en6g
Жыл бұрын
This was so fun and educational to watch. I never get sick of learning history about Black/ African hair and just general conversation about it. As it is important, always relevant and just yeh fun. I have locs myself and it is legit a personal journey and it's taught me how to fully embrace how my hair just grows when I leave it alone. I especially appreciate the fact that ion have to comb the knots out my hair anymore thank goodness. 😭 I also believe your hair your choice..the point is to have the power to choose wtf u wanna do with what grows out your scalp. Of course I'd rather we just ditch relaxers altogether for the benefits of our health but u win some u lose some. At least there's more research and info out there for folks to access if they wanna come to the decision to ditch em. Overall Brilliant video!!👏🏾👏🏾
@mikailagray
Жыл бұрын
I’ve been going to the same hair stylist since I was like 12. I’m 27 and she has seen me through 2 strand twists, presses and even started my locs. I love her and I would follow her anywhere! The Carowinds mention was unexpected but funny! We used to go basically every summer.
@Nmendenh-rl6ej
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for shouting out locs!
@jahvonnad1738
5 ай бұрын
Taliah Wajiid and Design Essentials for me. Love Brandy, I still have my dolls with only the Christmas one out of the box. Then Alicia Keys with the wooden beads My brother's hair hero was Allen Iverson. My mom was THE hair braider for cornrows.❤️🖤💚
@rehlimited9578
Жыл бұрын
I just wanna say I appreciate you & your videos we has a culture need this on our internet SO THANK YOU 🫂
@IntelexualMedia
Жыл бұрын
I appreciate that
@rehlimited9578
Жыл бұрын
@@IntelexualMedia -💐
@omowhanre
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for your hard work and research.
@presidenttogekiss635
Жыл бұрын
As a Brazilian, it is very interesting to me how similar our colonial society, specially when it comes to topics of miscigenation and colorism, was to that of Louisiana. It is very common for black-mixed women to explicetly wish their daughters be born with straight hair.
@nyiaunique4798
Жыл бұрын
This video is so thorough & so good. I see you sis 👀
@Jacquale345
Жыл бұрын
I loved this video! Thanks for researching and providing this for us.
@IntelexualMedia
Жыл бұрын
Glad you enjoyed it!
@ALove29
Жыл бұрын
They gave Mammy a relaxer 🤦🏽♀️
@MagicPlants
Жыл бұрын
This is some of the best and most important content on KZitem today. Bravo! Please keep up the excellent work!
@DyvercityPossibility
Жыл бұрын
There must be a global black hair conference. It brings identity, image, physical looks, cultural, religious, emotional, historical, and diversity discussions. As black women we need to take more control and ownership of our beings.
@TechnoGlowStick
Жыл бұрын
18:59 "Look your best. You owe it to your race." Me: 🥺
@luvpurple95
Жыл бұрын
You would think that by today we would have a greater appreciation of our hair, but our mothers and their mothers didnt even treat out hair with love. Our hair was tolerated. And of course slavery caused this harm and truly this is some shit we gotta heal from fr. I still go to salons and they act like my hair is the problem and they dont know how to comb it its so annoying. I tried to go to a "curly stylist" and I tried to book an appt and they told me that they couldnt do 4 type hair cuz it hurt their fingers im like wtf
@mcrwfd5
6 ай бұрын
It’s the edge control for me😂… I can be natural but my edges need to be white? Come on now! I’m 52 and I just went natural 3 weeks ago… it feels so freeing.
@euro8029
Жыл бұрын
So glad I found you! Love your videos and content ❤ Thank youuuu!!
@crystaljanai2229
Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing this and for being so open about your own hair journey
@queenj.a.3311
Жыл бұрын
This video was so educational and entertaining I learned a lot of new things thanks to you and it´s always nice to learn more about our hair I am definitely subscribing
@Msjoocy1029
4 ай бұрын
Watching this when I SHOULD be detangling and washing my hair 😭🤚🏽
@karendrives970
Жыл бұрын
I've tried to tell younger folks that many of those perfect fros they saw from the 60s and 70s were actually wigs and perms. I was called a liar. I got a perm in the 70s because I told my mom I wanted a fro and my hair didn't do that.
@CandyCoated96
Жыл бұрын
My mother and her sisters had perfect fros, lol. I seen pictures of them and was so amazed at how beautiful women looked them in their natural state. My aunt wore her fro into the 90's. My father said in the 70's were he grew up, you got made fun of for not wearing your hair natural. I still love looking at old pictures of my mother. I truly don't care how people wear their hair. But I would love to see more natural hair styles. Nothing beats our beauty in its natural form. I love my curls. I look like a completely different person with my hair straight.
@karendrives970
Жыл бұрын
@@CandyCoated96 you'll note I said many not all.
@fbsmileyface
Жыл бұрын
i straightened my hair every two weeks without fail in high school but then went natural the second i graduated. i don’t quite remember what flipped the switch but i literally tried my first wash and go the week after graduation
@septiceye_3706
Жыл бұрын
Growing up as a South African in Germany, I used to envy my white peers for having straight hair for a while. Especially my adoptive mother's hair, since she could do all sorts of things with it - tie it back into a ponytail, put a hair clip in it and put it up in a tied-back type bun, French braids, one or two small buns, etc - and I felt like I didn't have as many options. (She tried her best to get creative with my sister's and my hair styles tho.) Around 7th grade was the time when I stopped wanting to have straight hair - mainly because the relaxing cream that was always used for my sister's and my hair burned the scalp and even left scars on my sister's scalp - and my hair had enough time to grow out and I started wearing it out without anything in it. I've chopped it all off a couple times now, but as of right now I'll keep letting it grow. I'm glad that I'm no longer in a love-hate relationship with my hair, no matter how often people wanted to touch it because "it feels so funny" and told me that touching it feels "like sheep's wool". Luckily I've learned to say "no". (Which took a while but now I'm there.) Luckily I'm no longer letting people touch my hair because they feel like it. This is such a fantastic, well-researched video!! Highly informative and it's lovely to listen to you talk, this could've gone on for hours and I'd have stuck around!!
@SimberPlays
Жыл бұрын
Your videos are always so full of historical information! It's great
@kisw.7141
Жыл бұрын
Girl! Your videos are so tastefully done!!!
@alyadventure
Жыл бұрын
I could go on and on for DAYS about my hair stories. Goodness grscious, the hot combs, the relaxers, the years in high school of straightening my hair, my white family making fun of me, AND plenty of people at school too... sheesh mane
@sweetsharie66
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video! It is comprehensive and well done. 😊
@IntelexualMedia
Жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
@JanieBee
Ай бұрын
48:52 THREE??? Damn 😭😮💨 you didn’t even get a chance
@IndiaMonetspeaks
Жыл бұрын
I just changed my hair color from many shades of red over a decade to blue. It’s Vincent van Gogh, inspired. The best part of black existence is our hai The people!
@SpiritBringer92
Жыл бұрын
I had a huge afro as a 5 year old and my mom(who has straighter natural hair) gave me a perm and my hair broke off and my scalp was burned badly. Im 31 now and my hair ia just starting to become healthy :')
@itsorange6879
Жыл бұрын
You killed it with this video. Excellent job!!!
@treesawittmann4075
7 ай бұрын
What an eye opening video on so many levels. I think societal perspective still has a long way to go in embracing ethnic hair. As women I think we ALL should have the option of doing our hair in any way we choose, not what conventional society dictates.
@Rasengan0101
Жыл бұрын
so glad to hear lexual does the 90s is otw!
@ewee4735
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this great video ❤
@skinni_the_P00hBear
Жыл бұрын
I always learned that Garrett Morgan invented the traffic light but I had no idea he was in the hair business for a minute👀
@Andrea-rw9tf
Жыл бұрын
I’m from Charlotte too, I’ve gone through a lot with my hair. I started locs this year.
@IntelexualMedia
Жыл бұрын
good luck with your journey! and thank you for watching and commenting
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