This makes so much sense and is probably the reason why many people with add also suffer from addiction. Low impulse control. Can’t wait to see what other insight u have.
@sterlingcampbell4394
10 ай бұрын
This is important to know especially for children with ADHD. When I was young I was impulsive. My father made me feel like I had no will power which made me feel weak. I was also physically repramaded for "spare the rod spoil the child". As I got older I got into more trouble because it felt like I just couldn't help myself...and since I was weak it was easier for me to do things I said I would never do. When I tried to impose upon myself self discipline it made it worse because I would always give in which turned into depression...I gave up the will and desire to plan my future and at 14 I convinced I wouldn't live past 21. Then when 21 came I was completely lost. I had no plans no structure. Turned alcoholic which made the impulsiveness even worse. You name it cocaine,sex, porn anything I could do to feel better at the time..which was always fleeting. I'm 42 now and still have the thoughts "what's wrong with me? Why can't I just be like everyone else." I've completely secluded myself from my family since it always feels like I'm being judged for who I am. I'm completely burned out. I have zero energy..no motivation..and I can't find pleasure in anything. Still I'm trying to cover it up, that I'm struggling. Whats worse is I've apparently passed it down to my kids and it's really hard to watch them struggle. I'm supportive because I know what they are going through. And even though they get it..insight does not equal cure. Pay attention to your kids THIS SHIT IS REAL!!!!
@BiPolarBear7
9 ай бұрын
I feel exactly like you but i will never be so stupid to make kids. Why tf u brought new souls into this world with the problems u have?
@robynridd7986
11 ай бұрын
Oh my gosh! I was diagnosed adhd last year (age 51) and have struggled with will power forever. My biggest weakness is sugar in any form. I never thought about lack of will power being a product of low dopamine. New perspective! Thanks!
@meko3089
10 ай бұрын
I have given myself 1 sugar fay a week
@Solitude11-11
10 ай бұрын
I have had to give up sugar altogether (low carb/keto) as I found it impossible to control as I got older (70s) Even non sugar sweeteners will trigger the cravings sometimes. Dopamine naturally drops as you age I think, I’m less impulsive in some ways but definitely find it harder to get the dopamine levels up. I was actually having focal dystonia seizures a while back through it. Vigorous gardening helps! Side effect my diet is generally healthier, and I lost weight, but it does test willpower. I just don’t buy the dodgy stuff 😄
@Solitude11-11
10 ай бұрын
@@meko3089I tried that, but it makes me feel awful now. And I doubt it would stay at one day with me 😂 I’ve had to give up altogether
@SteveZachem
9 ай бұрын
@@Solitude11-11as a bonus, you can get the more natural sugar from your garden!
@jeanneschray1976
10 ай бұрын
Thank you. I like the strengths but understand now the weaknesses. I am 80. My son showed me how I am ADHD TWO YEARS AGO. YOUR shorts give me understand. Again thank you.
@Silly_Wombat
8 ай бұрын
Yes. At 55, I went through watching all 3 of my kids go through it without understanding that I too have it. It's only in the last year, that I've come to realise that I have it. It's kind of startling to look back in retrospect.
@elizabethdarley8646
2 ай бұрын
I'm 61 and I'm in the process of NHS adhd assessment which is a long wait list.
@Tinyflypie
10 ай бұрын
So many people talking about ADHD make you feel like it's all inevitable and you are in it's power. Thank you for going against that.
@usposandman
10 ай бұрын
Your content has had more positive impact on my life than any other single thing I can name. Understanding what's going on and why is so powerful. Thank you!
@modernphil1049
10 ай бұрын
Your channel is underrated. Your videos are 100% relatable and helpful compared to generic ADHD content. Thank you.
@ericabuchanan7260
10 ай бұрын
Complete and utter awareness is absolutely key to getting through an adhd day/life.
@donnaforbes4279
10 ай бұрын
I struggle so much to stay consistent, feel like 2 weeks of good 2 weeks of bad habits.
@magicalpatterns
11 ай бұрын
Thank you 🙏🏼 I am writing everything you say. In my 40’ and finally understanding myself
@MattHare714
10 ай бұрын
I'm 54 and I'm just starting to understand myself. It's only been a few months since I've have learned how much of my behavior is ADHD and I'm shocked that there are other people like me in the world
@michaelhogan2256
10 ай бұрын
Strangely enough, I have found that micro-dosing thc helps quiet the little voice in my head that wants those treats and cuts the procrastination down immensely. 🤔
@emilyb5557
11 ай бұрын
Love this! The struggle but also ways to manage and put responsibility back to us w kindness. Ive trained myself into a lot of stuff and out of other things, so much effort.
@AirFire18
Жыл бұрын
My ADD never stopped me from saying no, I had too much to do. Now as an adult I’m saying yes more out of guilt for always saying no… but we need to remember that ADD looks different in women.
@lyannecb8499
10 ай бұрын
I'm wondering if we also get a dopamine hit from saying yes when people ask us "Oh, could you just ...?" and filling up our lives with busyness?
@1vonehrenkrook
10 ай бұрын
For me, it’s more difficult to say no to invite from people to do things… I don’t want to miss out on a chance to have a GREAT time (even if I know I should do something else)!!!
@jordynensor2081
10 ай бұрын
my ex boyfriend had adhd (so do i) and his low impulse control and my emotional outbursts in response to him crossing my boundaries (not saying you should just be okay with someone crossing your boundaries but i never handled it in a productive or healthy way for either of us) were the downfall of our relationship. looking back we weren’t good for each other anyway as we were too different, but it still makes me a bit sad
@meh_lady
10 ай бұрын
I was able to block most behaviors I didn’t want with brute force except shopping for craft supplies. Meds were a HUGE help with that one.
@YnseSchaap
3 ай бұрын
That's why I've been addicted to just about everything 😁
@jazy3091
10 ай бұрын
I got diagnosed recently (at the age of 43) and the thing you talk in here is something I had to implement in my life earlier just to get by. To not eat trash I stopped buying it - I still sometimes eat a whole bag of crisps at one go if the urge catches me in the grocery, but it happens way less frequent than before.
@MelissaSzarka-cp2cv
8 ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing this. It's very helpful. Setting up barriers & getting rid of junk food at home is a good way to succeed. 😽
@bryangriffin3139
5 ай бұрын
To be true to self, it took me a long time to be comfortable
@KanadianRaven
8 ай бұрын
Ive stopped fighting the so-called addictions (they hurt no one) & feel much less stressed & far happier. Im neurodivergent - so what?! This is me. Im never going to be neuro-typical. Im creative, intelligent, well informed, almost never lonely in my own company, do things at my own pace & I'm rarely bored. How many people can say that of themselves? Ive finally come to love who I am. I've stopped worrying about other people's opinion of me. If others can't accept me for who I am, it's their loss - not mine. Stop trying to change yourself to meet expections thrust upon you! Don't let words like lazy, selfish, or unfocused define you. You aren't: you are an innovator, empathetic, generous, a potential leader.... Stop masking & let your own light shine brightly!
@ablazinremnant539
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this!! I always wondered why I do these things.😊 God bless you!!
@rachaeledwards2782
9 ай бұрын
Strong barriers take preparation too. Had full intention of cooking a healthy dinner tonight. Lost track of time running errands and Christmas shopping (time blindness). No hunger cues till I’m starving and energy is crashing. Suddenly it’s 7:30pm and i don’t have the energy to move let alone prepare a meal.
@deborahdaviesdd-artist1059
8 ай бұрын
It’s 7.27 and your story is my story. I’m going to have a smoothie. It’s the least harm I can do to myself.
@karleemj
10 ай бұрын
omg. this makes me feel sm better. i always beat myself up but it’s like as soon as i have the smallest thought it won’t go away until i do the thing. like it genuinely just won’t go away.
@rayfpdl
10 ай бұрын
Me watching this at 3.30 am when I have to wake up 8 am
@Missninap
9 ай бұрын
These are so helpful!!! 🫶
@palfer213
2 ай бұрын
tysm I now know why I can stay up until 4 am scrolling through KZitem shorts
@rachelfagerburg1695
10 ай бұрын
But how do you train away the impulse to delete the app blockers? Right now, the strategy I'm using is reminding myself of the negative consequences and promising myself that I'll do what I want "later". Example: I want to scroll YT shorts in bed or instead of studying. I tell myself that it will result in a massive time suck if I do, but allow myself something enjoyable that is less addictive like watching a 20-45 minute TV show episode, listening to an audiobook and doing a sudoku, or reading a book. For study breaks, I might watch 10 minutes of videos from my watch later queue. Then I remind myself that I have certain times I CAN scroll YT shorts and that I can do it more when the semester is finally over. It doesn't always work though. For fast food, I try to remind myself that it often results in a stomach ache.
@ManicMuzee
9 ай бұрын
2.2 mile walk this morning for all 3 of us little ADHDers this morning. My goal is to get us up to the 5 miles of walking recommended daily.
@jpisano1212
9 ай бұрын
You are not wrong. I wish I learned it sooner, it's really hard to quit alcohol.
@loriesteck2357
9 ай бұрын
I love these. I have severe ADHD. I won't take ADHD meds because it makes me feel horrible. I am just love being my eccentric aspergers hyper self. Yes, I love hearing someone else with a brain like me. Yes, love dopine levels. Learning self control is hard.
@telepathicmagicshop
10 ай бұрын
Oh man I struggle so much with this and it spirals me in to shame.
@maneyarain
10 ай бұрын
i have the same "coffee machine" as you do 😂
@plsnothx
10 ай бұрын
the struggle is sooo real
@cultureal9544
10 ай бұрын
Please do an short about How to Sleep
@cosmicvixxonalice6795
10 ай бұрын
Good stuff. And great editing, like the tire flip matches the words - nice.
@beckys8164
10 ай бұрын
I really need to do this one. I've been ordering mcdonalds breakfast I've become obsessed and then I feel disgusted I've also been wasting my money on coffees and I tell myself to.stop and then I just do it again. I really need to save my money right now 😔 time to sort it out
@AhmedFaraz936
Ай бұрын
Deleting facebook and Instagram from phone proved to be a game changer for me. Before that I could resist the temptation of unlocking my phone and start scrolling after every few minutes.
@sjdominguez1
Жыл бұрын
I have a huge problem with this one.
@kevenbouchard7973
9 ай бұрын
That's it.. now you've done it.. im subscribing.
@Lisa.B.808
2 ай бұрын
This is such great advice. It's just a matter of us being open-minded and remind ourselves WHY we're feeling the nearly uncontrollable urge to RAID THE REFIGERATOR at night. I've been able to get control of a lot of the things I do that are DRIVEN by my adhd, but this is one I struggle with Every. Single. Night. Even if I'm not hungry, if I can't fall asleep it's like "Well, this is a bunch of 💩. I'm going to go find something small to eat. 😤" And then that "something small" turns into an all-out FEAST. 😂 Then I wake up in the morning and am so pi$$ed off with myself! I know I'll get there eventually, but my willpower is not good at night. 😕 I wake up and start to recall everything I ate, and I'm like "Way to go, IDIOT. 😒🙄"
@emma-511
10 ай бұрын
You are such an inspiration, thank you!
@Tilnaor
4 ай бұрын
two weeks ago I logout almost everywhere after changed passwords. I _could_ log in again, but for that I need a new password because already forgot the new one, 2step identification and confirmation for that - a process that just long enough to cool down the rush.
@Cedcorp
11 ай бұрын
I have adhd and I hate outside
@ILoveMaths07
Жыл бұрын
Hahaha! Thanks, bro!
@rachelbaruh8097
2 ай бұрын
Thank you very much. I also want to give from my knowledge. If you sleep under window , you will be less consantrate all day, according Feng Shui
@kathyrollins9647
8 ай бұрын
I feel you, it’s hard to say no to Rittersport chocolate! 😂
@ashleighAshlee
10 ай бұрын
Discipline....oh man I needed this😅 I'm trying to convince myself that I can do this consistently
@shellys6761
8 ай бұрын
This is called a Ulysses contract. In the Odyssey he has his crew plug their ears, tie him to the mast, and promise to ignore his commands as they passed the siren’s song. Making a choice before you face a point of weakness allows you to be your own strength.
@lilithcampbell2112
10 ай бұрын
This is why I could quit crack, heroin, cigarettes and junk food, all on my own but I can't with alcohol because I have severe insomnia. After 60 hours awake I want to die because I only get sleep 3 hours and when this cycle lasts for weeks, months my body starts to crap out. Sleep pills are a no go because it triggers night terrors and no one can wake me up and end up in the hospital because I won't stop screaming 😮💨
@becky2235
10 ай бұрын
Sounds awful! How long where you in hospital for? I hope you're doing better now
@dryaleah9033
10 ай бұрын
I call it "In self defense" I put it in place to defend myself from myself.
@montycora
Жыл бұрын
Well, that is so easily solved with medication. I know that it is a very different experience to every single person, but as I have almost zero side effects from Ritalin, to me it makes much more sense to take my pills and relax without having to keep an internal fight against my impulses than keeping an internal fight in which I always lose, resulting in me eating until it hurts or buying tons of shit I don1t really need or can afford. I really don't see the benefit in staying away from meds, but suffering from all these things.
@Guarionex5501
10 ай бұрын
I can't take stimulants because I have a history of hypertension. The non-stimulants haven't helped. 😢
@rachelfagerburg1695
10 ай бұрын
Even with medication, I still find myself going on dopamine quests. It's less than without medication and I can sit and focus on things, but I'm still questing.
@Aurora9990
9 ай бұрын
Wow. Good for you!😊
@user-zz3ib6qq1r
9 ай бұрын
It is like having a five year’s old inside your head. Too old to just listen and too young to understand the reasoning for “no”. Literally every situation like that looks like a battle of parent with kid
@denmark98
6 ай бұрын
That’s the best way to make coffee - don’t ever be fooled that there is a better way
@Mushroom321-
11 ай бұрын
" have strong barriers" 😮😼
@baldersn4474
9 ай бұрын
You see my ADHD is completly different from this...I have an almost religious ammount of control in the week, regimented early morning gym sessions , prep meals , healthy eating., early nights sleep If I slip control I'm in trouble..I don't think you can say everyone with ADHD is all one size fits all..
@FirstNameLastName000
10 ай бұрын
that's awesome!
@gorkie6998
10 ай бұрын
i felt those slot machines..😂
@dande_lion
8 ай бұрын
That's my worst enemy.
@logiclight
10 ай бұрын
Okay! Going to bed.❤
@bernadette3479
11 ай бұрын
Which app do u use for app blockers? I find it hard to find a good one.
@nunovurbiznis
11 ай бұрын
God that is so hard to do. I got diagnosed at 50 and I’m so far into the symptoms and habits of hdhd that it’s almost impossible to even get out of bed in the morning.
@elizabethdarley8646
2 ай бұрын
I'm female and I am tempted to look at destracting anything on my screen at night rather than turn out the light no matter how exhausted I am.
@Lisa.B.808
2 ай бұрын
It's SO easy to do this! And the content we watch can definitely F with our minds when we're SUPPOSED to be preparing for sleep. I have no idea how I get there, but sometimes I'll end up watching the "Honor Walk" when an adult or child is wheeled through the hospital halls, lined with doctors/nurses showing respect, as a patient is taken to donate their organs. Then, I'm all stressed out and teary-eyed. It's a vicious, viscous cycle. 🤦🏼♀️😕
@Darkmage1709
8 ай бұрын
I wish they told me that aswell
@MrKrtek00
3 ай бұрын
great advice, I have learned the hard way to not buy big bags of chips or boxes of chocolate
@angpham941
Жыл бұрын
Im ordering food at 2am like crazy recently, purely from impulses
@TinksTravelingFarm
10 ай бұрын
App blocker? I need that!
@therisaalexander4201
9 ай бұрын
Amen
@samanthaq3422
8 ай бұрын
Sir do you have a book on ADHD
@nodametakumi4656
Жыл бұрын
It's difficult to put strong barriers. For me, it's dating apps. The need to talk to someone
@Alexander_z
10 ай бұрын
I have adhd and zero self discipline. It's a crippling combination
@sabrinasetzler689
10 ай бұрын
❤❤❤
@baldersn4474
9 ай бұрын
This is esp true when your drunk lol
@Anelkia
11 ай бұрын
I would binhe eat so much, the only way dor me to stop was to buy almost no snack. It saved me money tbh💀
@zareien2290
9 ай бұрын
I cant control my snacking when there is chocolate in the house. So i do not buy chocolate. Instead, if my craving is reslly bad, id have to walk to the shop JUST for the chocolate, or i will find something a lot healthier in the kitchen, that will sort of meet the craving
@Rosarossa.0_0.
3 ай бұрын
Lol I tried app blockers, they don't work for me 😂
@Lisa.B.808
2 ай бұрын
😂 Until today, I wasn't aware of app blockers. I DID set a reminder for when I should stop viewing KZitem, but I just turned off that reminder the first time it went off.🤷🏼♀️ Lol I've always had issues with authority and being told what to do, even since I was a child. So, when KZitem told me it was time for a break I said "F that." and turned off the reminder. 🤷🏼♀️
@fs3743
9 ай бұрын
I order takeaway. I don't like takeaway 😭
@Dontcareaboutusorry
9 ай бұрын
The adhd urge to just turn off the app blockers after a day or 2.
@SergioBlackDolphin
10 ай бұрын
So, the question is: have your friends eaten your food?
@pb2689
Жыл бұрын
Yeah, that's what happened to me last night with a Döner Kebab 🥙😵💫
@cosmikgazer
10 ай бұрын
Adhd and alcoholism is such a bad combo :(
@Rasheens-Story
10 ай бұрын
Do you take medication and does it help
@mrsmacca126
10 ай бұрын
Do you take adhd meds, please?
@johnvl6358
10 ай бұрын
Why don't you wish you knew before?? LMAO
@piworower
11 ай бұрын
i will stop scrolling now
@user-wq9ej5wx3b
10 ай бұрын
Um also like everyone else?
@geekchick4859
10 ай бұрын
Please don’t stack rocks.
@rachhayward8435
9 ай бұрын
Are you on messenger? Sorry 🙏 personal x
@189HK
Жыл бұрын
U know your videos make me feel it's more of a lack of discipline n effort v put in than....labelling THESE ACTIONS OR RESPONSES as ADHD......(Ure videos r good...nothing against u)
@Guarionex5501
10 ай бұрын
Obviously you don't suffer from ADHD.
@PiercedPixie
8 ай бұрын
Not me crying watching this because I made a very impulsive bad decision a mere couple of hours ago. 🥲
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