This is where I’m at… every part of my day is spent in “overwhelm.” Except at night when I think the next day will be different…
@janepate
Жыл бұрын
Darling get on with Dr. Charles, he's popularly known as charlesmyco_
@janepate
Жыл бұрын
On his Instagram page.
@keltiacallahan
7 ай бұрын
Me too
@michellesouza2110
7 ай бұрын
This happens to me to.
@ViajandohaciaAdentro
7 ай бұрын
Same
@raytry69
11 ай бұрын
Important lesson to me: "Failure is not the opposite of success. It's part of it."
@elissafink6200
9 ай бұрын
Love that !!
@user-id6br7vg8h
7 ай бұрын
Great one
@anyariv
7 ай бұрын
"Ambiguity is ADHDer's kryptonight!" OMG! I never heard anyone say that and it is SOOOOOOO true. I used to have problems with that at work. Whenever there was ambiguous direction in a project I would just freeze, I didn't know what to do at all. My coworker said "just start", and I that made ZERO sense to me. But what happens if you are your own boss and must create fake deadlines and boundaries for yourself? My brain knows I made these constraints up and constantly bipasses them.
@ArheIy
5 ай бұрын
In some cases that freezing is reasonable. You don't «just start» a project that's *really* complicated, as there may be sh*tty consequences. You need to think about them first - it's not bad, it's just a byproduct of your mind warning itself.
@uniquechannelnames
4 ай бұрын
For the last part about creating fake boundaries/deadlines Idk if this'll work for you, but my cheat is I make a to-do list, and then strike off the next thing needed done as if it's done. Makes me feel obligated to complete it. Sounds silly but works for me! so if your list is: -Groceries -Clean garage -Laundry -Dishes And you plan to do laundry next, strike it thru like you finishednit, then start on it right away. Helps me do things, worth a try😊
@linaabojaradehart
4 ай бұрын
I agree, working freelance or being your own boss is very difficult with ADHD. Of you found anything that works please share
@scaracci24
27 күн бұрын
Truth, i don't hold myself accountable and no one else will
@Shooshie130
Жыл бұрын
When you have managed to “overwhelm” yourself with so many resources that you have no idea if you have signed up for Caren’s email list or not…who am I kidding? “You” is me! 😂
@CarenMagill
Жыл бұрын
LOL - I can relate
@SharleneLightbody
Жыл бұрын
@@CarenMagillhi may help me pls got Sam
@SharleneLightbody
Жыл бұрын
I got overwhelmed as well lot know of Kim yes pls
@saffronmccaughna1592
11 ай бұрын
On the button!
@coleyreee
10 ай бұрын
YES
@rosewinter633
5 ай бұрын
When this happens to me, i push myself to do one small thing I'm procrastinating. Baby steps, it motivates me.
@carolsolangyjimenez9020
Жыл бұрын
Girllllll I just went into a 2 week freezing procrastination overwhelmed phase with a mini panick attack
@foxiefair123
11 ай бұрын
Me every day.😂
@andreabateman5096
4 ай бұрын
I ended up at my doctors office after dealing with this. Twice. I ended up avoiding tasks completely, and the work piled up . The first time, she said I had anxiety and prescribe me medication for anxiety. I started it, but didn’t feel much difference(even knowing that it takes time to start working). So I finally went back. she thought it could be ADHD, so now I’m on Adderall, which works instantly. The calm feeling is a bit strange to me, but I am finding myself working through things that I would have stressed over previously.
@jakesexplorationtomotivation
2 ай бұрын
God Bless you All! Amen!
@Dreamwithopeneyess
3 ай бұрын
State - physical & emotional. Get enough sleep, nutrition, exercise, relax and regulate your emotions. Thinking - is my fear true or am I making assumptions. Take a few deep breaths. Examine your thoughts. Interest - spark your curiosity. What is the value or benefit of the task. Get a body double. Clarity - how should things look, what should I do next... Knowledge - do I have the right skills to follow through, how to get them, ask questions, what could go wrong. Structure - to-do list for what, when and how long should be done. Set boundaries on what is possible for you. This gave me a lot of clarity and structure! Thanks, you showed us pure gold :)
@constellations625
13 күн бұрын
To achieve "the state" with excersize and nutrition, it takes organizing tasks into plans. Anything that takes organization is going to fail for most people with ADHD.
@dimitriydashinov
12 күн бұрын
If you are underslept, malnutritioned and lack physical exercise anything will be hard to organize. The advice is on point. Take care of your physical state first. Get enough sleep, take care of what you eat and take a walk or choose any activity you enjoy. It helps with the next steps. Yeah, organisation might be difficult , so help yourself, set reminders, get a buddy for support, make it interesting, etc. Make it a good life ❤
@constellations625
9 күн бұрын
People who don't understand that a disability that makes it almost impossible to organize should stop telling people to "just organize!" It's like nobody bothered to even look up what ADHD is. Yes, the things you said can help. It's the fact you think ADHD people can "just" do those things that bother me! We can't sleep, we have insomnia. We can't just excersize, we have executive dysfunction. We can't just eat, we have forgetfullness. Alarms ans sticky notes don't work for all ADHD people because it litteraly becomes background noise to us!!! The fact that people think ADHD people can "just" do things is ablist as fuck!!! We litterally have to trick ourselves into getting up to do the things we _enjoy_ , wtf do you think adding a whole routine is gonna help!? PLEASE educate yourself before spouting nonsense! I beg you! ADHD people need help from ADHD people, not from neurotypicals who think a neurotypical routine is going to help 🤮
@constellations625
9 күн бұрын
@@dimitriydashinov You are a horrible person.
@dimitriydashinov
7 күн бұрын
Well, I feel like you are being rude to me for no reason. Never did I use the word "just" and debilitated how hard it might be. Also how you concluded I'm neurotypical is beyond me. I'm sorry but hating on people no matter the reason is sad. Seems like no one around is understanding enough of your issues. I hope you'll get all the help needed to feel supported and loved. All the best! ❤
@8no1likeme-infinitestar65
Жыл бұрын
so happy I was led hear...Adhd and Cptsd really interfere with my daily life
@sonja7halcyon
5 ай бұрын
Me too. Either one alone is hard but the two together is completely debilitating. I also have fibromyalgia, chronic pain and fatigue. Yippee! I've been in ADHD paralysis and CPTSD freeze mode all day. I know how to get myself out of the ADHD paralysis but the CPTSD feels impossible. My nervous system is literally screaming that it's not safe to move.
@8no1likeme-infinitestar65
5 ай бұрын
@@sonja7halcyon I hear you ,hard to live this way. no one understands, I'm sorry that you do, I wouldn't wish it on anyone
@sonja7halcyon
5 ай бұрын
@@8no1likeme-infinitestar65 💗
@francessadler6878
Жыл бұрын
I can't tell you how much money I have spent on psychologists trying to explain this problem to them. Spoiler alert: they didn't get it and their advice was useless for me. Not only did you explain what is happening so well that i guarantee that's my problem, but your sticks is such a good problem solver (at least it sounds that way - ill try it out). You listed a couple reason for feeling this overwhelm that causes people to get stuck but for me, it's housework and daily living tasks like errands, bills, making appointments etc. I'm very grateful for this video. Thank you
@doughartley3513
9 ай бұрын
For me it’s giving minimal effort, losing interest in doing things and getting pulled away doing non productive stuff
@uniquechannelnames
4 ай бұрын
Yeah I've found ADHD to be a very wide field with a lot of types and thus many solutions that work for some and not for others.
@ronalddesiderio7625
3 ай бұрын
It was easier to just be crazy ronnie than try to explains to a the wanna be hacks
@starr.kiillerr
11 ай бұрын
I really appreciate the approach you have towards encouraging adults with ADHD. I really dislike the infantilization of adults with ADHD and using having a differently wired brain as an excuse to not act like an adult or avoid adult conversations; I feel I can do the thing !! Dare I say all the things !!
@AnimaOrphei
11 ай бұрын
Unironically: “Resparklize” is my new favorite word and now a permanent part of my life. Also, I dig your channel and I swear it feels like you made this video for me. Thank you.
@kaymack5304
Жыл бұрын
This was great! My son, who is in high school, is having an overwhelming response to trying to organize and accomplish his work. It is so stressful for all of us and disheartening to see him hobbled by executive function issues. He’s such a bright, amazing person whose brain doesn’t easily succeed in this neurotypical world of school. I Can see him already limiting his beliefs of who he thinks he can be. I feel like I need a PhD in psychology to parent this kid.
@kathiejl1
11 ай бұрын
Oh my gosh! Your post really touched my heart. It’s great to see that you’re such a caring parent. Just keep on supporting him and his beliefs and letting him know that he does not have to be main stream. ❤️
@jennymeyer982
11 ай бұрын
I feel this 😢 same
@allisonb.8492
10 ай бұрын
ditto!!! same here!!!!!!!
@ameliarose47
10 ай бұрын
The fact that you're actively seeking out different ways to potentially help him makes you an amazing parent.
@kaymack5304
10 ай бұрын
@@ameliarose47 thank you for your kind reassurance.
@Beastly477
4 ай бұрын
Watching this video makes me sink even deeper into my overwhelm. Feeling incapable in every way possible. I'm useless, seemingly can't be helped, and no will to do anything about it. I've been doing therapy, and I just can't make anything happen. I feel despair in everything.
@ElizabethAbbastante
4 ай бұрын
Don’t worry you have a great purpose . You just have to overcome this obstacle . It’s actually somewhat of a gift to be going through this right now , once you crack the code on this and master it , you will see that you are quite useful and you can even help others in this same situation. I’m in the same boat at risk of failing my courses again , but I know that there is a plan for me I couldn’t even imagine a life without purpose I want it so bad . What I can imagine is overcoming this obstacle and seeing a great blessing that came from all of this struggle . Don’t give up keep your hope for the future , I pray often and make sure to keep my faith above all things. I’ve been considering getting medicine maybe for this issue , maybe that’s a route you might have to take just for the moment . Don’t give up God has a plan though you can’t see it yet , have hope .
@princesscarlton4974
10 ай бұрын
This video made me feel overwhelmed. I couldn’t process all the information. Back to square 1
@tnijoo5109
Ай бұрын
Same. It was totally ridiculous. At every speed I listened to it. Kind of aggravating. So much blah blah blah in such a harsh annoying way. Plus an acronym. I hate acronyms for stuff like this. Not helpful at all. 😢
@bakerbrook1
10 ай бұрын
At 54 years old I am finally looking into this. I would move provinces to get away from things. I feel for you Emily. I could have written this exact statement.
@dianaholbrook
9 ай бұрын
Wow! This is why I “froze” when faced with my mom’s cluttered apartment when I had to move her to a nursing home. Never been diagnosed with ADHD but this totally explains why my 2 cousins were able to thankfully swoop in and help me and I was unable to do much. The clutter, the stress, the exhaustion all added up to overwhelm.
@kittmarie8285
4 ай бұрын
The situation alone is 'freezing' worthy! Hope you're all doing well. :)
@mattjasper9419
Жыл бұрын
Glad to find your content! I've found I keep falling back into the freeze, procrastination, making a big decision, overwhelm loop. Thank you for pointing out likely causes and the best way to tackle it!
@lawontrial
Жыл бұрын
This is excellent content. I am undiagnosed (can't afford assessment) & currently under a mountain of undone work. I have been struggling and I think the big thinking / anxiety piece is important. It's hard to work well with 'I'm about to get fired' playing in the background. Because my work as backed up, I have found the to-do list itself overwhelming. It usually triggers the freeze - I work from home and am drawn to anything sparkly/ stimulating for a boost, news and current affairs is a big one. This list was helpful though, I feel much calmer now, the first step being stop playing the 'I'm about to be fired' theme song... if I am, I am and worrying isn't going to help. Thank you
@cynthiaewing6584
Жыл бұрын
Agreed Many times, we worry about things that never happen.
@kmcq692
Жыл бұрын
When my job was like this, I spent a bunch of time on making systems for myself. Sometimes my favorite “system” was introducing a random operation to “TELL ME” what to do. You can always figure out a way to ask yes or no question of a dice roll, or card draw, or opening a book and pointing. I’ve found that my subconscious mind will help make it clear IF I LET IT.
@doughartley3513
9 ай бұрын
I can relate to that I’m going get fired song
@MeliBsharpe
Жыл бұрын
This video came at exactly the right time! Moving, starting a business, and applying for my citizenship - it's a bit nuts. I started freezing up a couple of days ago and the stress of it all was making me so tired. I'm going to work through this today. You're the best!! Seriously, thank you!!
@CarenMagill
Жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful! Good luck!!
@saragardner4073
3 ай бұрын
It just occurred to me I was better at Self Regulation before I moved back in with my mother(we're 41 and 72). But also hearing stories i'm better at giving advice than tsking it.
@galagainstterror
27 күн бұрын
Same
@chrystalcr3510
Жыл бұрын
I can't even get through this video 😭
@sasimaarika14
7 ай бұрын
That's because she took long time to get to the point...
@user-vq3dy9jf3q
6 ай бұрын
@@sasimaarika14 its only 15 min though
@sasimaarika14
6 ай бұрын
@@user-vq3dy9jf3q yea still i lose patience if people dont get to the point sooner.
@Tsha4Eva
6 ай бұрын
Same. And I didn't finish 😢
@Tsha4Eva
6 ай бұрын
Too stressful
@Jasminecbisme
Жыл бұрын
I struggled with this tremendously the last few years to where I was let go from a job after 5 months because I was so overwhelmed & burnt out from the job prior. I also realized how much I HATE the industry I worked in (Recruiting). Haha Thanks for the info, really helpful!!
@tanyabalentine6193
Жыл бұрын
So very sorry that you lost your job. I sure hope that you found something that fits your interest.
@msdimi01
Жыл бұрын
Had a similar experience in Jan 2022. Got a new full time job in Nov 2022. 4 day home office 1 day office. Previous workplace didn't want to let me go so I stayed parttime. Just started university in Sept 2021. The new full time job suffered and I was let go after 3 months. Almost worked myself to death :(
@Jasminecbisme
Жыл бұрын
@@msdimi01 it is far too common. I made a vow to myself, never again will I self-abandon for an employer. I've gained additional awareness to now know when it’s too much. ❤️✨
@samanthamartin344
5 ай бұрын
I am a complete state of overwhelm for weeks now. It’s so bad that I’m not sleeping because I have so much to do. Yet I can’t do anything because I’m too tired to think?! I’ll start on the worksheet tomorrow. I’m so tired of staring at my phone and wallowing in despair.
@me.lani.momster
4 ай бұрын
I am currently a SAHM with ADHD. Having small ADHD children with me every second of the day is so disruptive. I never know if or when I can complete a task. My high demand, deadline driven career was so much easier to manage.
@Anirossa
Жыл бұрын
Experiencing the same with my studying last year or two. Do enjoy the comparison to the car engine with lacking maintenance. Working on cars a hobby for me, what made me realise I have to do some "maintenance" to myself to function as well. (Before my diagnoses) Always liked maintaining things, everything besides myself ironically. Learned that I can't just try and push through, calling myself lazy and stupid when I fall behind or put too unrealistic targets for myself, from the all or nothing mentality. But rather look at the problems, one by one, give myself recovery time and sleep, fresh air and recovery I need. It's always an uphill battle, but pscyhoeducation sure makes it all a lot more realistically doable.
@asquirrelplays
Жыл бұрын
pretty good advice, and while the one about jobs SHOULD work, I've never seen it actually work in practice. I've had a couple different corporate office jobs that were filled to the brim with meetings. Entire departments approached the powers that be and explained to them just how much time all the silly little meetings were taking and basically asked the same question. "Do you want us to sit in meetings or do you want us to get work done?" The answer was "both". I've even approached management on my own before and explained that you can't do 12 hours of work in a 8 hours shift. Their answer has always been "well you better figure out a way". I know it's really not what the video is about, but man, makes my blood boil.
@JenniferGoode-xx5cm
10 ай бұрын
I've never had anything that I could do, even with decades of therapy, that allowed me to get myself unfrozen and out of an expectation talespin. This video is life.
@Loris-Crazy-Life
7 ай бұрын
This is such a real issue, I have a brand new dream job and for the life of me I can’t seem to get there on time!!! It’s so frustrating because I know this is really bugging people I work with
@ckantrel1977
3 ай бұрын
Same...I live 6min away😢
@tinachristophersen15
5 ай бұрын
Is stück in my sofa for 9 months and is surposed to seek a new job - Next month I have no money and I dont what to do ❗️
@mindfulbynature3418
3 ай бұрын
Oh man - same. I hear you.
@flowersome_
8 ай бұрын
I have to watch this video again because I zoned out lol, but I wanted to comment and say I love the word re-sparklize. Lol
@EricLS
Жыл бұрын
Man, my issue is a mix of overcommitting and too much to do. But a huge amount of my overcommitting has been projects to forever reduce the workload I’m facing. Issue being, now I’m a burnt husk who can’t do anything anymore anyway
@johnpotito
4 ай бұрын
I viewed the "overwhelm" as this singular, universal thing and was too focused on trying solutions; which turns out was half the problem. Always assumed it was just "too many things and no structure". This helped me actually get to the root. For me, it's 100% having this perfect ideal of how I want things to go or how they should be; snowballing the frustration and sabotaging. And of course nothing ever felt "right", so no solution could ever work. So eventually I'll freeze and do nothing. *Even rewrote this comment 20x lol.
@swazer72
11 ай бұрын
This is so relatable. Thank you for posting this! I literally get so stressed because I’m a master-procrastenator, and always fall behind and have to play catch-up with courses because I get so overwhelmed and I just get paralized and end up not doing anything. This vid was so helpful with maintaing awareness, which I think is vital to start the process of remeding paralysis. Thanks again!
@Proffittk001
Жыл бұрын
I get ADHD Paralysis all the time! It sucks!
@Dancestar1981
10 ай бұрын
It does. I actually can’t work due to a lifetime of bullying in primary, secondary and tertiary education and in the workplace I’m on disability support
@leaburns9599
6 ай бұрын
❤ 😊 *** Please keep 🙏 looking at these Great Videos 😊 * they are so very Helpful!
@bperez8656
6 ай бұрын
@@Dancestar1981 A lifetime of bullying as the reason you can’t work sounds like massive insecurity and excuse making
@Dancestar1981
6 ай бұрын
@@bperez8656 it isn’t it’s real discrimination at its highest
@sonja7halcyon
5 ай бұрын
@@bperez8656 said the bully. Jesus. Way to victim shame and blame.
@jonathanberry9502
8 ай бұрын
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: 00:00 😩 *Introduction to ADHD Overwhelm* - Introduction to the concept of ADHD overwhelm, - Karen McGill introduces herself as an ADHD coach addressing common feelings of overwhelm, - Importance of acknowledging feelings of overwhelm in individuals like Emily and providing support. 01:38 🚗 *Overwhelm's Impact and Risk of Burnout* - Explanation of how prolonged overwhelm can lead to burnout, - Metaphor of driving a car with the emergency brake on to illustrate the strain of constant overwhelm, - The danger of not addressing overwhelm leading to burnout. 02:33 📚 *Framework for Addressing Overwhelm* - Introducing a framework to understand and address overwhelm, - Importance of clarity on the causes of overwhelm to find solutions, - The significance of accessing executive function skills to navigate overwhelm effectively. 03:27 🧠 *Nervous System's Role in Overwhelm* - Explanation of how our nervous system reacts during overwhelm, - The impact of fight, flight, or freeze responses on accessing executive functions, - Recognizing and understanding one's nervous system response to address overwhelm effectively. 05:19 📝 *Using the STICKS Framework for Overwhelm* - Introduction to the STICKS acronym for understanding and addressing overwhelm, - Breakdown of each letter in the acronym, including State, Thinking, Interest, Clarity, Knowledge, and Structure, - Emphasis on using the framework as a tool for self-awareness and problem-solving. 06:30 🤔 *Evaluating Emotional and Physical State (STICKS: State)* - Importance of recognizing one's emotional and physical state during overwhelm, - Addressing factors like sleep, food, and emotional state as contributors to feeling overwhelmed, - Strategies to improve emotional regulation through self-awareness. 07:26 💭 *Analyzing Thought Patterns (STICKS: Thinking)* - Exploration of thought patterns contributing to overwhelm, - Recognizing limiting beliefs, perfectionism, and negative thought spirals, - Strategies for neutralizing and reframing thoughts to alleviate overwhelm. 08:37 🎯 *Aligning with Interests (STICKS: Interest)* - Understanding the role of interest in motivation and task completion, - Strategies to make tasks more engaging and meaningful, - Leveraging dopamine and interest-driven approaches to combat overwhelm. 09:31 🕶 *Seeking Clarity in Tasks (STICKS: Clarity)* - Importance of clarity in defining tasks and expectations, - Strategies for asking clarifying questions and understanding task objectives, - Addressing ambiguity as a contributor to overwhelm and seeking clear directives. 11:27 🧰 *Evaluating Skills and Knowledge (STICKS: Knowledge)* - Assessing one's skills and knowledge in relation to task requirements, - Encouragement to seek knowledge and resources for skill development, - Overcoming barriers to task completion through curiosity and learning. 12:49 📅 *Implementing Structure and Boundaries (STICKS: Structure)* - Emphasis on creating structure through planning, scheduling, and prioritizing, - Importance of setting boundaries and managing expectations, - Strategies for organizing tasks, time, and environment to alleviate overwhelm. Made with HARPA AI
@lpfx777
7 ай бұрын
Thank you
@gilliandale4854
7 ай бұрын
Excellent guide -- thank you!!
@aureliiq3248
4 ай бұрын
OMG THANK YOU SO MUCH I was struggling to get through this video
@changjuihsien
4 ай бұрын
Thank you so much.
@ElephantPatronus
Ай бұрын
You totally rock. Thank you! 🙏
@Shellz369
8 ай бұрын
I'm recently diagnosed and my holistic medical practitioner explained that ADHD, PTSD and OCD are all trauma responses. She recommend Somatic experiencing to help release trauma because trauma gets trapped in the body, and when not released can cause a myriad of issues within the brain and body. Has anyone else heard of Peter Levine and Bessel van der Kolk? They're both amazing pioneers in the field of treating trauma ❤
@iLina67
3 ай бұрын
ADHD is a medical condition, not a trauma response. It's not behavioral.
@sharris2118
2 ай бұрын
There are many studies showing ADHD is a lifelong developmental condition. Those who think it's because of trauma refuse to look at the science and just make stuff up to feel like they are smarter than the actual specialists. People also used to think that autism was from bad parenting but were proven wrong. Let's not do the same thing with ADHD. ADHD can cause trauma as others don't understand the condition and expect too much, judge, and shame us.
@uniquechannelnames
4 ай бұрын
A tip for everyone who finds themselves unable to follow conversations because of distraction/whatever. My trick is to find or just plain make up an interesting question about the person. "How did they get this way" or "Why do they behave in this way?" "What was his father like, did he have one? Or.his mother?" "I wonder what he's insecure about and why" "wonder what they think of me, or whether they think about you at all cuz they're so busy". And an infinite number of questions you can hold in your mind ( DON'T ASK THEM THE QUESTIONS FFS) to turn their mystery that all strangers (and even friends) inherently carry. This helps me me the person interesting to me thus I listen well to their words.
@mindfulbynature3418
3 ай бұрын
I love this idea! 👏👏👏
@DeborahDahms
Жыл бұрын
watched video July 12 2023-Caren really has taken off on her excellent instructional videos. I learn SO MUCH AND GAIN PEACE FROM THEM. thank-you Caren !!!!- your student Deborah
@CarenMagill
Жыл бұрын
thanks, Deborah!
@the.keisha.crawford
7 ай бұрын
Thank you for making me feel less crazy 😭
@timp2433
Жыл бұрын
You are friggin hilarious! I ❤it! Subscribed! I just uncovered ADHD in my life...sadly, so late in life!
@MelissaThompson432
9 ай бұрын
Good video. One thing I do if I'm in a "one person department" situation is write down everything that has to happen and then organize it into a timeline. Allowing for scheduling conflicts, prerequisite items, special circumstances. Then I make a schedule and only look at a small chunk of time at once. Go from task to task. And the second one doesn't exist until the first is accomplished. This works out best if you don't have a hard deadline, but it does work, for me.
@Ddal0ceano
11 ай бұрын
Can you provide an example of how to find a colleague you trust? It would have to be someone who has your best interest at heart but also must be accepting and understanding of ADHD.
@JRoseBooks
6 ай бұрын
I found some colleagues I trust, just by having honest conversations and watching their reactions. Also, watching for when they show trust IN YOU. Some simply don’t understand ADHD, because they’re not exposed to accurate representations or education on what ADHD really is. (Can’t really fault them for that) The person I trust above all others at my organization falls in this category.
@cas8410
47 минут бұрын
Wow wow!!! It's the first time here at your channel. The way you explain the steps with the acronym, the questions you use to give me guidance and your overall personality are wonderful. Thank you from the bottom of my heart!❤ You have gained a new subscriber. Looking forward to watch more videos
@iveyd8327
7 ай бұрын
The “clarity” example you gave is so me! I’m working on getting ahead of that but keep repeating the same mistake of going down that rabbit hole. I have to keep reminding myself to stop and ask for clarification.
@LaurenMilla
Жыл бұрын
This is really helpful and I resonate with the STICKS framework for sure. I've hit burnout already, which I thought I was healing last year and I spiraled right back into it. Luckily the one thing it did for me was show me what causes it (isolation and ambiguity) so I'm working with my manager to put me on better projects where I have a larger team and more accountability. Unfortunately because I'm so burnt out, it's still impossible to feel any motivation or have any sort of discipline. I'm realizing why burnout experts claim it takes 3-5 years to fully get out of it. I really feel how slow this process will be to get myself back to my old self. I'm really thankful I came across this channel though for helping me realize exactly how my (recently diagnosed) ADHD is contributing and what factors might help me channel my energy better.
@CarenMagill
Жыл бұрын
Glad it's helpful!
@nicolequezada-castro9650
Жыл бұрын
I feel exactly like you. Wow. Thank you posting it.
@Wasatch_Sasquatch
Жыл бұрын
Well said, thank you also for an intelligent posting. We are all smart ADHD’ers😊…we all just need a little encouragement to keep marching forward and to fully realize that all is not hopeless when we have a framework to work within. Also, address your endocrine systems and hormonal levels along with the structural behavior techniques. 🙏🏻 and let God be your guide.
@saudade9346
20 күн бұрын
I absolutely thrilled that I just found your channel 🥹🌻 I finally feel like I’m going to get to embrace my ADHD and have a better life 😊💞 Thank you so much for caring and being here for us 🥰
@2lovejoy
9 ай бұрын
omg I am so glad I found this channel have been feeling like my mind just has multiple personalities with careers, with my spirit, even with my heart and it is because I try to take on all the things that interest me this definitely speaks my language and makes me understand myself a lot better
@lseh4720
4 ай бұрын
Every parent should watch this, even parents who don’t have kids with ADHD. Thank you very much.
@nishalashay4402
Жыл бұрын
What does done look like? Such a good question. I am swamped with “Tasks” and yet I have not examined what life looks like when it’s done
@drisabelpayne-vanstaden7257
11 ай бұрын
I agree and would really appreciate more detail on this?
@henri_payanbee4919
Жыл бұрын
I often wonder if ADHD adults can experience Flow , that peak effortless productivity experience. It's been so elusive for me.
@CarenMagill
Жыл бұрын
Yes! Flow is a form of hyperfixation. Something we ADHDers deal with a lot.
@JRoseBooks
6 ай бұрын
Yep! When I’m writing books, planning, or doing digital design work I can easily lose hours! It’s not something you can push-because pushing anything with ADHD somehow makes it not work. 🤣
@felitaviegas7703
2 ай бұрын
I have no diagnosis of ADHD, and I have hardly looked into it. But I am more or less in a functional freeze state for the last 4 years and everything you explained is my situation to the T. Thank you so much! I feel grateful to have come across this video.
@soapydanielle
Жыл бұрын
My own notes on the STICKS method 🙂 I hope this helps anyone else to add to their own journaling or to come back to if they prefer to read tips 🩷 S- State: How are you FEELING in the moment? (physical pain, physiological needs not met, energy, mood?) THEN engage in emotional regulation/grounding (small movement, short outdoor activity, socialize, tapping EFT, maybe take medication) this will help you get out of freeze response. T- Think (Mindfulness): With COMPASSION, notice any cognitive distortions/intrusive thoughts (Types: All or Nothing, Mind Reading, Catastrophizing, Labeling, Wishful thinking, Emotional Reasoning, Unreal Ideal, etc.) REFRAME the thought with a response that you would say to a loved one if they thought the same. I- Interest If the task feels boring, is there a way to make it more interesting? (listen to music, body-double, habit pairing, fancy tea/coffee) C- Clarity: CHOOSE what your small, chunked out steps actually are, CHOOSE what "done" looks like. IDENTIFY length of time certain tasks take, IDENTIFY the task giver's expectations are instead of assuming. K- Knowledge: Do you have the research, tools, and skills to do the task? Be honest in order to prevent perfectionism. MEET YOURSELF WHERE YOU ARE. Is there any cognitive dissonance (intentions that don't match your actions like lying to yourself) at play? S- Structure: Routine, Schedule, To-Do lists, Organized Environment, and any other ADHD tools that work for YOU. - ADHD tools work different for every ADHDer! - Explore and discover what external triggers (like a tidy desk) help launch your executive function
@CarenMagill
Жыл бұрын
LOVE this!! thank you
@bettyparker3317
7 ай бұрын
Sticks is a lot to me. I get distracted 10 different ways in the first step, start on 1-2 of those, each of 1-2 leads to another, and pretty soon I’m just wandering in circles trying to recall what I started for, prioritizing all the “new” things, what can I do right now? and where AM I anyway 🤦♀️🤯😵💫
@jackaleope
6 ай бұрын
so much of the solution is just simply being curious and earnestly asking other people questions. but unfortunately so many of us ADHDers are scarred from doing this as children because so many people, both kids and adults, are just willing to whip out the old “what, are you stupid? you really didnt understand what i said?” to a child and this only gets worse as you get older. I became petrified of asking questions or asking for any kind of help. this has been where most of my struggles stem from. i’m so petrified of re-experiencing that kind of rejection.
@jenniferevelynhayes
17 күн бұрын
I am so grateful to find your channel today! Lightbulb moments galore! ❤❤❤
@skeptik-ci5xo
19 күн бұрын
Just found this channel, and I love it. These are useful tips for just about anyone, regardless if they have an ADHD diagnosis. Thank you!
@dianaosei4871
11 ай бұрын
This is incredibly helpful for sharing this! My ADHD brain is thankful for this.
@arestaquilla
22 күн бұрын
I'm just so grateful that I find ur video, like... Thank u so much for helping me not drowing😣 I feel like now I can take baby step to clean this mess step by step
@k8marlowe
3 ай бұрын
This is EXACTLY what I needed today. I have been stuck in overwhelm for about the past 10 years, with the occasional moment of clarity. I’m about to tackle my day with some STICKS. 😉
@Xurelbes
10 ай бұрын
Hey, great video! I feel overwhelmed all the time since forever and after watching this I can finally understand why, so thank you! Btw I love the way you talk about topics and I always feel hope after watching them, while watching other channels give me the opposite effect, since they generally only say stuff like "your brain is just like that, good luck". On the other hand, your content really helps to understand how these situations occur and give tools to deal with them, which I appreciate a lot. So again, thank you!
@roevans777
Жыл бұрын
This video felt like a gift from the Universe. Thank you for all the wonderful insights and tips. I
@sarrahathome
9 ай бұрын
I just found your channel Oh my goodness you speak to so much of what I experience! So helpful to hear, I've never been diagnosed, but I am a trauma survivor (like so many) and freeze mode was my way to survive. Now as a 53 yr old woman I find I have had multiple coping mechanisms for my life to date. I have built some systems to help, but sometimes even those have failed. Some failures have led me to greater things though, so I cannot discount it. This is really making me think about having a therapist review, I've never thought of it before - I only sought therapy at different intervals for depression when I it was rather challenging but never thought about ADHD. I think I need to understand the different attributes of PTSD (which I know I have as a trauma of childhood) and ADHD. I also think I am similar in that I freeze and I have times when I am a massive idea generator like you have described. So many projects I have started and not finished! Like a boater on the lake I leave a bit of wake. cowabunga!
@averyclaire7041
3 ай бұрын
feeling so stuck because im in between jobs and i need to register for classes next semester but because its summer i feel like im in a floaty limbo part of my life and it makes absolutely everything impossible to do i just keep sleeping the time away because i feel so overwhelmed and this is an incredible video that is making me feel so heard and validated and now i know i am capable of literally anything!! I just need to have some boundaries and structure set up for myself! Thank you so much!
@kathy608
10 ай бұрын
“University of Google” ❤😂 I also love your point that most mistakes can be fixed. Give it a try and be willing to be bad at it, right? I remember that from one of your other videos. 😊
@kmcq692
Жыл бұрын
9:28 Ambiguity is my KRYTONITE What do I do? Which way? Which way? I want to outsource my executive function. I spend so much time ruminating about WHY. Even HOW. Like watching this. It’s like addiction. When I had a job and there was an accountability framework, in order to manage myself within it, I sometimes made a cube out of business cards, wrote my various priorities/tasks/projects on post-it notes, put six of them on there, then rolled my dice across the floor of my office.
@kmcq692
Жыл бұрын
Sometimes I’d roll a “dice” just to have the universe narrow it down. Like, “2 choices. Next ten minutes. (Or 50 minutes, or whatever amount of time you want to risk/invest) Should I think about my infrastructure (self, food, money, resources, home) or should I focus on this abstract long term goal that requires my creativity and intelligence? 1 OR 2? Roll the die. What does the roll tell me? It’s not negotiable.
@kmcq692
Жыл бұрын
Yeah. I like using “chance operations” to help me make super small and prosaic decisions. The kind that no one else can help me with. No one. I hand it over to a dice roll.
@kathiejl1
11 ай бұрын
🤣👍
@C_Kava
11 ай бұрын
@@kmcq692 I like random number generators, pendulums, tarot cards and chinese Yijing divination. 😅
@kimpossible6654
Жыл бұрын
This is Fire!!! I do not have ADHD - & this is extremely helpful
@thishumaniscalledsarah
Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much, I’ve been feeling overwhelmed for a while and have been watching a bunch I’m of videos, but this one really helped me clarify things and realise the root of my problem, a lack of structure
@chimakwaprettyboy4186
9 ай бұрын
I was always in fight mode never flight but I’m in freeze mode for almost two years 😒
@exoticbean.-.6830
Ай бұрын
This channel has helped me so much in the last week I feel the most productive I’ve been in a while just by implementing a few of the strategies (especially for my short term memory) and just overall understanding how my brain works
@smellyhelly30
Жыл бұрын
Wow. This sounds like me. I've not be diagnosed but keep hearing symptoms that match up with me.
@phatjbl
11 ай бұрын
Hi diagnosed at age 49. Had ADHD for all my life. Explains a great deal of my life overwhelm, impulsive all the time, hyperfocused, RSD too. Now rolling on Ritalin and having better more stable focus. I still think there is stigma with ADHD with some people. We are all different in this condition I believe. I'm diabetic also so I must eat regularly. My job requires lots of physical exercise so that's a plus but I go at lifting and moving things way to hard and fall in a heap.
@Dancestar1981
10 ай бұрын
Late diagnosed myself Neurodiverse woman with ASD, Combined ADHD, Anxiety, Depression, RSD, CPTSD from bullying and Complex Maths disabilities
@ehealthshop
24 күн бұрын
This is helpful. I also agree that nutrition has a lot to do with it. I saw a comment where someone was eating chocolate, which I also love. Unfortunately most chocolate has lead & cadmium in it…..which is obviously toxic. We can’t escape everything, but just do our best to eat Whole Foods & nothing processed. When we are not well, everything seems harder.
@marastar208
Жыл бұрын
I think my over-whelm is shut down. I usually just want to come home and sleep and stay away from people. Work seems to be a huge trigger -especially if it is a new environment. I recently left a 3 year job. There was a company switch and the new demands were very unrealistic in my opinion. I've never worked a job more than three years and I think it also a pattern. Eventually my overwhelm leads to pretty intense emotional disregulation.
@kittmarie8285
4 ай бұрын
Hugs.
@hollyberry86
Жыл бұрын
I feel understood! These solutions makes sense for “my brain”! (Unlike other videos on procrastination) The handouts are awesome!
@CarenMagill
Жыл бұрын
Glad it's helpful!
@Astrologcomedy
Жыл бұрын
This video is a life changer - I’m feeling overwhelmed right now
@alexandrac591
4 ай бұрын
I need help understanding what is too much work. I feel like the right amount of work for most people is too much for me and then I have a shame spiral. Until recently, I also had a boss who never meaningfully answered my questions or gave me much structure. I would have burning questions and asking him for help just made them burn more. This did so much damage to me over two years. I am trying to recover but it's hard. I'm glad you're here for us.
@sallyeverts2651
10 ай бұрын
OMGe, thank you. I have been in freeze mode. I love what you have shared. Thank you!
@potionprincess1
3 күн бұрын
❤ absolutely brilliant Caren, thank you so much for posting this one. Clarity and knowledge if left unchecked I think are major in the contribution towards feelings imposter syndrome and the paralysis for me. And also not knowing if you have the time to do the task(s), the further compounded when the time is lost due to paralysis. I will definitely replay your post when I need help!
@im_a_passenger
3 ай бұрын
I came across your clip at the right time and am in a similar situation as Emily, feeling like I have done so many things yet accomplished nothing. The project I'm working on is overwhelming me. Your instructions are clear and give me the strength to take a deep breath and sort things out. I'm glad I watched your video. This helps a lot. Thank you
@ayeitsshaygaming3384
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for your existence ❤️ you’re such a life saver honestly, putting what I’ve been struggling with into words helps a lot. As the only one in my household and nearest family with adhd it’s hard no one really knows how to help me everyone gets frustrated and just don’t understand. So I’m here to not be frustrated and understand myself. For me. And to get my mind under control lol. I just really would like to thank you from the bottom of my heart you are very much appreciated ❤️❤️❤️❤️
@meghanakumar113
3 ай бұрын
This is the perfect video that described everything I'm currently going through - thank you for validating my experience and for the great coaching.
@anyariv
7 ай бұрын
You're a natural teacher. So much energy and enthusiasm. by the way, when I worked in the office around 2010 the decided it was a good idea to get rid of cubicles and have everyone sit next to each other in a giant room with computers a foot away from each other. It was a true nightmare for an ADHD person. But no one at work even considers these things. They don't create work environments for neurodivergent people.
@CarenMagill
7 ай бұрын
Oh man - I had to do that for a while. It was the WORST!!!!!
@cokercola1990
Ай бұрын
Thank you so much for this. I always wondered what I could do to I prove my overwhelm
@its_baryl
8 ай бұрын
I needed this. Today was a three meeting day and I'm sitting in the dark trying to recuperate! This gave me language.
@lisaclemmons324
11 ай бұрын
Really enjoying your content as an adult that has struggled all my life. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and positivity.
@bloop6111
3 ай бұрын
I’m a new subscriber, listening through your videos while I take care of tasks. It’s motivating and your advice is so logical. This channel was a great find. Thank you for what you do :) I’ll listen to some a few times so they sink in.
@seb4462
5 ай бұрын
Wow, I can resonate with every single word, both in terms of the stated problem as well as potential solution, as i suffered from pretty much same situation for years which eventually led to / contributed to severe depression and Corona- and home office-induced social anxiety. I began therapy a year ago and was ADHD diagnosed 6 months ago. This enabled me to realize first time in my life that I'm not a lazy, disorganized, parasitic and unworthy piece of s**t (thanks to my narcissistic father). Instead, i began to understand that a better life is possible and that i can take up responsibility for my future self while i'm not at fault or personally guilty or to be ashamed for my past. Sense of shame and guilt remains a huge challenge for me, often getting in my way to successfully adopt and evolve the systems we need to deal and eventually thrive with our ADHD. This video, dear Caren, has wonderfully expressed in a crisp and comprehensive way some of my raw thoughts and learnings about dealing with overwhelm, you have given words to those immature thoughts of mine. ❤❤❤
@IndiratempestST
2 ай бұрын
Now I know why my job stressed me out so much, I would ask clarifying questions and get no answers. So glad I quit.
@CaraHillVoiceoverArtist
8 ай бұрын
I am so glad I found your channel! This was such a helpful video. You provided so many "aha" moments for me just in this one video. I feel there is hope now! Thank you!!
@MaybeThisWillHelp-bg7mm
3 ай бұрын
Thank you for your videos, I really like them a lot! I just don’t have 16 minutes of attention 😂😂😂 I appreciate the chapters so that I can watch one at a time Subscribed!
@jakesexplorationtomotivation
2 ай бұрын
God Bless you All! Amen!
@norrie09
9 ай бұрын
Lack of clarity gets me everytime😩
@liamlynch2115
6 ай бұрын
She’s worried about her job because she cannot focus on her work and get it done.
@NightAtTheOpera3
2 ай бұрын
10:30 whoa I did not need this personal call out in front of everyone lmao
@user-ci4bh5mx1n
4 ай бұрын
Drill down on the difference between exacerbate and exasperate: what exacerbates may eventually exasperate.
@nireeburr
9 ай бұрын
I needed sleep last night , instead I paced the house doing little jobs around house .. all 100 small jobs.. including a bath to relax. Didn’t happen. It’s now 1 pm following day .. Body and mind fighting over what’s to be done and voices of what they would say to me .😢😢echos of family suffering is loud 24/7
@AubreeFusselman
8 ай бұрын
WOW!!!!! Thank you!!!! I didn’t know this was a thing. I have been frozen for weeks and I feel like I’ve already passed crazy. ❤
@damonwallace2392
9 ай бұрын
My biggest problem is that I have ADHD, anxiety, and depression that I'm dealing with for a while. I'm trying to accept constructive criticism, and people in my life don't want to see me get better with my mental health. What hurts me the most, My father told me, Son, You won't be old enough to learn on your own. Honestly, I don't believe that, because deep inside, I do believe that I can and learned something on my own.
@lanne2525
Ай бұрын
I tried to advocate for myself at work explaining to my manager that it was impossible for me to complete my tasks without skipping lunch or working late and she just brushed me off saying that it was a time management issue when clearly her expectations were way out of line with my work schedule and availability
@lynnknutson8600
Жыл бұрын
Thank you! Nice delivery. Very clear ideas, and I appreciated your writing it down. You have a calming manner about you, like you both understand and accept us. Having a traumatic brain injury exacerbates (rather than exasperates 😊) things even further. I've had ADD since before my TBI, but now executive functioning is really in the toilet. TBI fatigue also really slows things even further. My intentions far exceed my output, but I have to keep reminding myself I'm doing the best that I can in this moment, as I fall further and further behind. Heavy sigh. 😮😮is, Clarity is a biggie for me now, as many things I honestly don't know what to do next (when I used to) especially when it comes to paperwork and trying to develop a new working system that's functional for me. I can't find things, as if I don't see it, it disappears off the planet. Have even taken to taping important papers on the toilet seat as I know I'll see it there... Lol Anyhoos, thank you and blessings to you all!
@denisestarr2314
Жыл бұрын
Freeze and burnout ! Wow ! This has happened to me soany times in life , to the point of destroying everthing I worked for . At this moment, I am froze , don't have a job , don't do my home chores. When i get a job ,I quickly burn out . I get bored so quick . I don't know whats wrong with me . I don't have insurance, so I can't get a therapist. I'm not really depressed , I'm just froze , I eat , sleep , and watch stuff like this , running out of money fast . 🙃
@corideleon9732
3 ай бұрын
Oh my goodness... this was for me!!! SOOOOOO HELPFUL!
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