I'm 53, now. I was diagnosed as High Functioning Autistic last year. I'd always known that I was different from most other people; but didn't know why. After receiving the diagnosis, I had *so many* lightbulb moments, it was as if I was blinded for a while; and I had difficulty functioning 'normally', until I got past that. It's a work in progress. :-)
@sbsman4998
6 жыл бұрын
Interesting story, I am 72 autistic and after learning about myself clearly remember my childhood differently, entire life really!! Short story ~~ Mom used to drive past the first Mc Donald's drive thru in Downey when it first opened. I hated catchup on my burger, in fact gaged me big time, so if she forgot I lifted the bun to check quickly sent her back to custom re-order my catchup less burger, not easy to do in those fast premade burger days. Good old mom, gave me lots of privacy and catered to my interests regardless. I fear these kids today are "over raised".
@rpt0rman
6 жыл бұрын
The thing Damien said about being put below cowowrkers, despite having a great work ethic rings so true with me. I work as a cook, which i would NOT recommend to any one with ASD. At every job ive had, my managers call me annoying and say that I don't listen. They have no empathy or understanding even though i explained to them I have aspergers. Ive never experienced the negative social symptoms anywhere as much as I do in professional kitchens. Ive already invested 5 years of work experience into cooking and I am struggling to make the changes to do something more suited to me. Thank you for making these videos and making me feel not so alone.
@autismfromtheInside
6 жыл бұрын
You're welcome! Thanks for the comment :)
@ladybirb
4 жыл бұрын
I love what you said about making phone calls; it really resonated with me. How a neurotypical feels when getting up and singing the national anthem in front of a group of people, is how people with ASD feel when making phone calls. I’ve been terrified of making phone calls my whole life. When I was a teenager, I expected I’d just grow out of it and get more confidence. But it’s never gone away. I’m going to use this example in future to help explain to people how I feel.
@wildflowersmilkhoney503
2 жыл бұрын
I have believed I’m on spectrum for a while now. I’m more gifted in arts than math. I have a creative mind but I also have anxiety disorder & it keeps my creativity low & i’m fearful to step out into creating. When I do it just keeps flowing, evolving & changing I can go for hours. It gets better & better quickly. I can pick up almost any form of art & it feels like I already *know* how to do it even if I’ve never tried before. I gain momentum quickly. The things that your guest is describing about self worth & why are people talking to me ect is so relatable. I sometimes think because Im no high IQ, I’m wrong about my (self) diagnosis however almost all boxes are checked. I bet if they had IQ test just for art or psychology that I would score high.
@syberphish
2 жыл бұрын
Damien and I have a ton in common, except he knows what he's good at and seems to have a lot of confidence in that. My perfectionist father destroyed my early childhood confidence and it never came back. I'm incredibly good at very complex things, but I have so little self confidence that I struggle to make headway much of the time.
@caninesaga1547
6 жыл бұрын
Hi Paul, I like your "Aspie interviews" videos a lot. The way you interview people is very pleasant, and allows people to explain themselves without interference but with supportive questions. I like that you are sitting side by side and at a comfortable distance to your subjects, rather than sitting face to face, starring at them. The direct face to face position & starring is a major stressor for me in job interviews, and also psychologist/psychiatrist sessions (so I avoid them)... it makes my mind shut down. The way you interview minimises the risk that people shut down mentally during the interview I think, if at all possible for them
@autismfromtheInside
6 жыл бұрын
I like to do everything possible to make people feel comfortable :) Personally - sitting side by side just feels more natural.
@kb_analytics
6 жыл бұрын
This is probably my favorite interview by far. Everything he said resonated with me.
@paulocl2
4 жыл бұрын
I think this is because he usually picks up females to interview and those on the spectrum have still more issues than the regular ones.
@mauratherese4798
4 жыл бұрын
I was diagnosed at 48, and I definitely recommend finding out. It was cathartic and answered so many questions. Now I can develop my strengths and get support for my weaknesses.
@WhiteFyre
6 жыл бұрын
Awesome video. I have the exact same issue with making phone calls. I think the majority of neurotypicals need to realise that being on the Autistic Spectrum is not a personality defect. It's something we're born with and it is present every day of our lives.
@simonretallick9800
4 жыл бұрын
I’m 63 and recently diagnosed in the UK. Definitely recommend it. Has made sense of my life at last! They have produced a taylor made ‘Communications Passport’ which succinctly lays out how people can best communicate with me. It’s brilliant! Already been a great help. Love this video. 👍
@Lovealchemist4theLight
6 жыл бұрын
I love the interviews you do with people on the spectrum! It is so refreshing to hear other unrehearsed personalities speak about how autism effects them and what they love about themselves, especially from people that might not be otherwise be inclined to share online in this format❤️ I really do love it, keep it coming👏
@heathwilder
4 жыл бұрын
I feel so seen by this. It's like you're speaking my thoughts
@xenedraabourque1393
5 жыл бұрын
Really liked this interview, it's nice to know that adults are diagnosed around my age.
@davidspencer1558
2 жыл бұрын
Great videos they are like diagnostics of the spectrum. I feel a kinship for all the interviews you have done. This being hard wired in a certain way is a revelation that changed my life.
@bmxt939
3 жыл бұрын
I really appreciate the awkardness of eye contact between these two.
@paulocl2
4 жыл бұрын
You guys were having a very good conversation. It seems that all Asperger's should look forward is to find their siblings in the world.
@jumpingjellyfishy
5 жыл бұрын
Over the years, my line of work changed from problem solving to simply satisfying KPIs (and shareholders), to the point where I could not do it any more and had to leave. The reviews also changed from being constructive to being manipulative where one was increasingly needing to communicate/argue one's position and this was also a big factor. Getting close to retirement age - hooray. It will definitely give me a new lease on life.
@Curleymctell
2 жыл бұрын
Screw the algorithm, this is a GREAT interview!!
@JR-playlists
Жыл бұрын
Thank you Paul & Damien, interesting talk.
@user-vg5rv5xf4u
5 жыл бұрын
I'm 41 and 100% sure I have this,Gonna get it checked.
@hisnewlife3543
5 жыл бұрын
You are an excellent interviewer, Paul,
@AspieAnswers
6 жыл бұрын
How I see it with disclosing information about us with autism or aspergers, is to know when is right time and that maybe to help others understand this is that maybe to give some information about it. Like I did at polytechnic a few years back while studying. I have shared on my channel about disclosing autism of when its the right time... Damien had a fair point on how he describes autism. Its all about working as a team along with communication and right accommodations for ourselves.
@EdKidgell
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this. Really resonated with me.
@gavinredeemed3519
4 жыл бұрын
You make awesome content. Thanks so much for the work you do.
@prestonneubert1983
5 жыл бұрын
keep up the good work, really enjoyed this
@BigDog-dw5ns
3 жыл бұрын
super helpful. great insights.
@G4RA
6 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing your point of view in live...
@jagaimo2
3 жыл бұрын
This video is gold
@Crouteceleste
3 жыл бұрын
The attitude of normal people is so arrogant, why do they value more what the person brings socially instead of the work they pay them to do ??? Are they that sensitive to what everyone thinks of them ?
@VCJyJ2010
8 ай бұрын
thanks for sharing ❤
@mikeh2723
6 жыл бұрын
Excellent, extremely helpful video.. thank you!
@autismfromtheInside
6 жыл бұрын
You're welcome! Glad you like it :)
@hisnewlife3543
5 жыл бұрын
Keep doing interviews with people on the spectrum, please!
@sbsman4998
6 жыл бұрын
Great interviews. How can an autistic person take a test grading their autism? If autistic then this test subject has already studied numerous videos books had private conversations, long reverie. Myself I would throw out a negative diagnosis, it would confuse me to death since I already know, so would I not bias each question in favor of my a priori self diagnosis? "social gatherings with strangers is fun." disagree, I know the answer tester seeks.
@ThomasJojo
6 жыл бұрын
Thank you Damien
@azzymj
6 жыл бұрын
Nice! Thanks for sharing
@SocialNomad
6 жыл бұрын
5:35 I think the point of that was to see how well you could defend yourself.
@claradenken
5 жыл бұрын
that's what I thought
@garyharding2012
6 жыл бұрын
urghh.....now i have the task of phoning a doctor ....maybe next week ??..??..??
@hisnewlife3543
5 жыл бұрын
I can put off phone calls for months!
@wildcathawkins
2 жыл бұрын
I've gone over a year without checking my voicemail more than once.
@SERGE_Tech
5 жыл бұрын
Lmao he actually briefly explained what a book is ... as a joke lmao.
@joannaz4585
6 жыл бұрын
Oh, the phone calls are struggle for me;) I get in to panic if I have to make phone call Life made me to phone people so I am slightly better at it but still causes lots of anxiety. My family does not understand it and keep asking : what is so terrible in makeing phone calls;( World would be great if people would accept other poeple as they are! ( In my example, my haouse mates keep laughting at me because I play Pokemon TCG and I am 29 and about to get married...)
@hisnewlife3543
5 жыл бұрын
I agree about phone calls. So I text or there is a wonderful thing called Slydial in the US where you call the Slydial number and enter the number you'd like to call and then they connect you to that persons voicemail box directly without causing their phone to ring. Its genius! But the only problem is, I leave really long messages and hope they never call me back.
@iggytheiguana7013
4 жыл бұрын
Lol yep ROFL
@maddscientist3170
6 жыл бұрын
Thank You excellent video
@garyharding2012
6 жыл бұрын
omg......the telephone.....i am not the only one !
@ozok17
2 жыл бұрын
even before trying to get into an industry, how does someone figure out reliably whether that's actually an industry where they want to work and could actually do well?
@ozok17
2 жыл бұрын
What makes certain management styles better fitted for managing autistic people, and which styles are those (or, what techniques do they use)?
@1mouse3
6 жыл бұрын
for something like software programing its not a bad ideal to get to know what your working with. Coding is not a bad place to start like learning how to build a android os from code and getting it working, fourms and irc can have helpful people. games are not all bad, could learn how the engine works with exploits, how a game can be modded and could build secret areas.
@tiiaj7589
3 жыл бұрын
“Back in my day TV was called books.” Princess Bride
@pamtufnell6751
6 жыл бұрын
Hi can you do a video on zoning out I got told at school I daydreamed
@garyharding2012
6 жыл бұрын
....and now you advise i meet strangers ....perhaps my bed and 48 hours playing online chess is the best solution after all
@aughtist
6 жыл бұрын
Oh my to the manager who has to mark someone low. What a twit. A good manager ensures that the team operates to the highest standard possible for each member. To have everyone meeting the mark is a positive to be celebrated, not a signal to bring someone down.
@autismfromtheInside
6 жыл бұрын
If only the world had more 'good managers' :)
@Tadesan
6 жыл бұрын
In my mind a "team player" follows social rules. What companies mean when they ask for a "team player" what they mean is a "social genius".
@dustyscribe8397
6 жыл бұрын
What can you say on a Wednesday or Thursday?
@blackbird365
4 жыл бұрын
Thur: Got anything planned for the weekend? / Looking forward to the weekend? I'm a bit stuck about Wed though ... Halfway there now?
@powderandpaint14
4 жыл бұрын
Are you having a good week? How's your week going?
@biggringus5499
5 жыл бұрын
stuff like this bugs me, especially when its about the highest end of the spectrum. from wiki, "It has long been presumed that there is a common cause at the genetic, cognitive, and neural levels for autism's characteristic triad of symptoms.[61] However, there is increasing suspicion that autism is instead a complex disorder whose core aspects have distinct causes that often co-occur." this thing isnt like the measles, mayb it is wrong to say it is a thing. its an extremely complex cluster of symptoms somewhat arbitrarily cropped. Symptoms that impact one sphere of human life, the social, while seemingly providing improvements to raw analytical thinking. stream lined analyzers, maybe. an adavantage for any group to have a few of these people, if well integrated. So i dunno its the typical overcooked motherly reaction that the autism label invokes that grinds my gears. ive heard of autism spectrum being analyzed as an overabunance of male-traits, which is interesting. is this a thing that is in part rooted in early childhood relationships? maybe not. There are some very interesting videos on the effects of CBD on autism affected individuals. and considering the effects psychoactive/dellic substances have on the mind, mayb this thing is so deeply rooted as to be inherent, not a living parasitic disease or something, which view it can be tempting to subconciously internalize. anyway, an endlessly fascinating subject as it deals with not only human conciousness at its base leve but how modern science and medicine aren't even close to being as complete as they will be.
@gamerchristina1079
4 жыл бұрын
👍👍❤️❤️‼️
@paulocl2
4 жыл бұрын
14:45 It seems that male Aspies are a perfect target to female narcissists.
@musictravellife392
4 жыл бұрын
this eye contact seem to me very weird beetween people . imean th most lies and insensitive people in the world they look at you in the eye. have you notice? they may search for the deeps the lack, in YOUR eyes i believe
@DrumWild
6 жыл бұрын
If he is a software developer, then he is probably unemployed. I worked in Tech for 12 years. These days, they do not want OLD people, and they define "old" as being "over 34." Experience, number of languages, etc., does not matter in this industry.
@Toffee146
6 жыл бұрын
I can't stand the term 'Aspie'. It's derogatory and cringe worthy. 😓
@autismfromtheInside
6 жыл бұрын
really? I guess it's a matter of personal preference (and association), but I know many people who use that term to describe themselves.
@DrumWild
6 жыл бұрын
I'm with you, in that I also do not like it. For one, it sounds like a little foofy dog who just took first prize at Westminster. Also, it belittles the severity of the affliction. Asperger's has done nothing but get in the way of my entire life, and the LAST thing I'm going to do is give it some cutesy name. It's a monster on my back, not a cute little dog.
@playerb3672
4 жыл бұрын
I work in the tech industry for about 8 years (4 years developer, 4 years designer) and I never resonate this much with someone. What he said about the meeting situation, it happen similar things with me too. It's so hard because you always get compared with the "well adjusted"/outspoken, but in the end of the day you are solving some big problem because only you have the technical skills. I'm not diagnosed and still not sure if I am on the spectrum, but after that I think I'll seek verify that.
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