如果让你为了另一半改变多年以来的饮食习惯,你会愿意吗? 在一段感情中,你曾做过最大的牺牲是什么?一起来聊聊吧! Would you be willing to change your eating habits for the sake of your significant other? What's the biggest sacrifice you've ever made in a relationship? Let us know down below! ❤
@kongxincai1698
Жыл бұрын
没事,做出点改变会令生活更有趣。加油💪
@TheGLOSSette
Жыл бұрын
Yes and no. I like seafood and my husband doesn't. So at home we don't eat it. But when we go out or if he's working late i may eat it. He likes super spicy food i only like a tiny bit. He's white btw and LOVES Lao Gan Ma chili oil
@PierreWelbec1
Жыл бұрын
At some moment in life, I had to give up a very nice and lucrative job to be close to her, which I have never regretted. 😊
@WangJames-zj8yz
Жыл бұрын
Me (American) and my fiancee (Chinese) have been together for more than four years. We changed our eating habits almost immediately, but it's not a sacrifice for either of us. She introduced me to delicious Chinese food, and I introduced her to the best American food. Personally I think anyone who doesn't like Chinese food just hasn't had the right food. We both make a lot of sacrifices, but her more because we live in the US.
I deeply relate to Susu being split in half for the sake of pleasing both sides of the family, having lived as the hot potato passing between divorced parents. I was fortunate that for the most part, family gatherings would try to plan around each others' schedules to make sure I could attend all of them (like christmas eve at one household, and christmas day at the other). It got rougher as I got older and had to throw work into the mix, forcing me to make more harsh decisions. Ultimately, everyone got used to hearing how I would be stuck at work for various gatherings, and with how the family has grown so much that it's impossible to reschedule the way they used to, they don't take it personally if I can't make it. Now with one parent remarried and the other parent having moved very far away, we've had to come up with happy mediums so that even if we can't "spend time with family" in a traditional sense, everyone can still be included one way or another, even if it boils down to a quick conversation over text. When I can find a way to spend the time and money to get myself a driver's license, maybe it'll get easier, since I won't have to rely on people driving me around (Canada is a biiiiig place and it's not uncommon having to drive as much as 45 minutes or more to see relatives).
@fleaveeee1159
Жыл бұрын
Luckily your family understands the situation. For me, the divorce between my parents was really ugly, they basically hate each other and because I grew up with my mom, every time when there’s a traditional event my dad’s side would just be very salty about me preferring staying with my mom’s side. But like I don’t even know some of my relatives at my dad’s side, and I don’t really feel that I am part of that family, every time spending time with them just makes me feel so uncomfortable. 😢
@jimmyhu4259
Жыл бұрын
我喜欢你们讨论跨国恋爱或婚恋的视频,希望你们多拍点类似的视频。
@sinkeonglew5359
Жыл бұрын
好喜欢你们2个,好自然很真实
@PORT.design
Жыл бұрын
Cons: 1. Communication: We are the typical couple where the Chinese person studied abroad. This is important because her English is quite good making communication a non-issue, but also it means that she has more progressive values that align with mine and is familiar with the frustrations that come with living abroad. 2. Food: We don't really have disagreements about the food itself, but there are differences in cooking habits, such as which meal should be considered the most important family meal. 3. Parents: Yeah this is a big one that we have to discuss constantly. It isn't just about being able to visit them occasionally, but we worry about what we will do as our parents start to have health complications from old age. We sometimes joke that we should just move to a third country so that neither side is happy. Stuff you didn't include 4. Etiquette: Living in a cross-cultural relationship you start to notice how a lot of things you do to be polite are natural habits. Wanting to not offend anyone but also needing to do stuff that isn't habitual can be really stressful. For example, I am used to saying thank you for just about any action, but that is weird for Chinese people to say to people you are close to. On the other side, my girlfriend is used to things like China's gift-giving culture, but I just never know what to get or how expensive it should be, or who should get what. 5. Marriage: The processes for getting married in China vs America are really different. Trying to navigate what to do when is really difficult. Also, the Chinese "requirement" to buy a home before you get married has been a pretty hot topic for us. We also are likely going to have to have two weddings, in two countries, at similar times, so that no one gets offended. One wedding is expensive enough we don't really want two. 6. Political Fallout: I am from America, she is from China, enough said. Edit: 7. Cleanliness: We have both been raised with some very different ideas on what is considered clean, good hygiene, and healthy. Pros: Language Exchange: This isn't really true for us because my girlfriend never wanted to be my language tutor. My Chinese is still pretty poor and the type of conversations we want to, and you need to, have as a couple can only happen using English. She is willing to speak to me in Chinese with me a bit more now since no one in her family can speak English and she has realized how important it is for me to be able to communicate with them. CNY: We have never really talked about this one before. On the one hand, it is cool for us to be able to experience more types of celebrations, but I think it can be a con as well because then you feel obligated to do twice the number of traditions instead of using your time off to go travel. Stuff you didn't include Global Perspective: I have a view of China most Americans will never have and she has a view of America most Chinese people will never have. We have seen the pros and cons of both places and don't believe that either country is superior to the other. Summary: Relationships are hard. Cross-cultural relationships are even harder. But if you can get through it, your relationship will just be that much stronger.
@kongxincai1698
Жыл бұрын
Very well said 👍
@TheGLOSSette
Жыл бұрын
I never wanted to tutor my husband. I might as well say that my English is my native language cuz i use it like 99% of the time cept when I speak Chinese with my parents. And my Chinese is only conversational. He knows a few words but nowhere near able to communicate in or understand Chinese.
@jaredfaa
Жыл бұрын
Lots of great points, thanks for sharing!! Also a couple things that you mentioned we haven't ran into yet, but I'm sure will have to face in the future.
@PierreWelbec1
Жыл бұрын
Really nice list here, although every cross-cultural couple (involving a Chinese) will experience things more or less differently. From my own experience, I would tend to say that things boil down to open & respectful communication, then the ability to learn from each other and to compromise, and finally to find an individual balance between change and acceptance from both sides, which needs quite some work, too.This is particularly important for cross-cultural relationships of any kind.
@gulviraalican7118
Жыл бұрын
每次国内的亲朋好友问我为什么不考虑外国人的时候,我就会说i don't want to explain my cultures in whole of my life.但是现在认识了好多外国帅哥,他们都不需要我解释,有一些都是在中国待过。慢慢的,我也开始接受外国人了。不过 还是得看缘分啦!
I love your videos, they are a great help for Chinese learners, would it be possible to put the cc on video this way more people can combine it with various tools for learning and the your videos would be more recommended since KZitem prioritizes videos with cc. Thanks for you help man.
@jaredfaa
Жыл бұрын
Yeah, no worries! Just added the cc to this video, and will continue to do so on future videos as well! =) Thank you for your support !!!
@keniceeunice2644
Жыл бұрын
Thank you. 跨國婚姻好處是有新鮮感
@Maggie-pw9bx
4 ай бұрын
哈哈哈好完美的方案,十二月飞去加拿大过圣诞,新年又可以过春节哈哈。
@TheGLOSSette
Жыл бұрын
I consider myself CBC (Canadian born Chinese) though I'm technically not (long story). And my husband is a couple generations Canadian. One of his grandma's came straight from Russia and maybe a great grandma from England. Luckily my mom can converse in English cuz she lived abroad for 35+ years including Canada. My dad's English not as good maybe Susu's level (just saying as a reference). So communication with my husband's side of family and my mom isn't an issue. I know a lot of interracial couples the issue is talking with in laws.
@thesoftwareman
Жыл бұрын
how did you 2 meet? we've watched dozens of hours of your videos and still never figured that out!
@PierreWelbec1
Жыл бұрын
I'll definitely second that!
@user-vk6ne6uv1y
Жыл бұрын
Hope you and Susu make this into a series!
@madster01
Жыл бұрын
6:30 My reaction when Jared uploaded this video: Jokes aside! Jared, THIS very topic feels important to me because I am in similar position. I wish you guys could cover more questions around cross-cultural relationships. I loved the way you carefully covered this topic and would love to hear more about it (like how you used to cope with distance in the beginning of relationships or learned to understand each other)! 谢谢你们💚
@jaredfaa
Жыл бұрын
😂😂😂 Really made me lol! Sounds good, we'll definitely do our best to do a video about it in the future! If you have any other questions let us know! 😆
@yixuan9213
Жыл бұрын
会不会因为文化习俗问题有误会发生
@bubuaju1668
Жыл бұрын
Down side is definitely we are both away from our parents, as my boyfriend and I are in the third place outside of the cities where our parents are. Advantage is the CNY thing, totally agreed, and the mixture of culture is fun as well.
@phng8316
Жыл бұрын
Come on...I want more of this kind of topic..I csn stick all the way of your marathon chats...❤❤❤❤❤😊😊😊
@藤原由紀-n5b
Жыл бұрын
无论国籍种族宗教信仰有何不同,只要在一起是幸福的,那就是最好的👍
@PierreWelbec1
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing your personal pespective on (cross-cultural) relationships. I can relate to it from my own experience, so would be surely interested to see you guys discuss how you resolve conflicts and misunderstandings at various levels (incl. "balance of power" issues). You seem to be enjoying quite a harmonious "cross-cultural" togetherness, so might have some nice resources to share with us, I believe. 😊
hey, I was waiting so long to watch these types of videos, hahaha. My question is, How do you Jared deal with the residential stuff in China? Do you need any visa to stay in China with SUSU or you have already gotten the permanent residence ? How is that stuff?
@PORT.design
Жыл бұрын
I do not know about them personally but it is really difficult to get a permanent residence permit. The easiest path (assuming that you aren't stupid rich, an athlete, or something else that makes you extremely desirable to the government) is that you need to get legally married, live in China for 5 years without leaving the country for longer than a month per year, then you are allowed to apply, and if you are lucky it will be accepted after a year or so. It should be noted that even with a permanent residence visa you still need to apply for a work permit every year.
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