Teacher sitting there with a smoke. Times have changed.
@susanivy3619
2 жыл бұрын
omg...it's almost a culture shock to see. lol
@spindleswift8667
2 жыл бұрын
Yes, it really brought me back to when I'd visit the HS where my mom taught History and Government. I'd sit like a nice, grownup little lady pretending not to mind the teachers' smoke.
@davidsiracuse6672
2 жыл бұрын
I caught that immediately
@dotdotdot1985
2 жыл бұрын
She looks like she's had a fkin hard life
@unapologeticella4540
2 жыл бұрын
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@natestradamus
Жыл бұрын
The way the child looked at the doctor and said "you love me?!" damn near broke my heart.
@l.k.1111
Жыл бұрын
Right. The mom was a little distant looking. Never know what happens in private...image doesn't equate to reality all of the time.
@daleenamdowning1555
Жыл бұрын
That's because he's not getting the love at home just an opinion course I'm in the middle of this will see what they say
@__enarkive
11 ай бұрын
what's the timestamp?
@sunwayne
10 ай бұрын
@@__enarkive3:17
@user-vw6bk4pb4l
9 ай бұрын
After 3:10
@TicketAirline
Ай бұрын
this doctor is amazing. he understood right away the real problem is his parents.
@hSquaredSunshine
Ай бұрын
That's because 99.9% of the time, when a little kids behaves poorly, it's due to inconsistent parenting & poor boundary setting.
@silverfoxchain
Ай бұрын
He is/was an angel on earth.
@qua7771
29 күн бұрын
Maybe he discovered how messed up the world is early in life.
@postoronniy007
23 күн бұрын
Unfortunately, he would be imprisoned our days. He has touched the child!!111!!! Oh, God11!!
@howard1beale
20 күн бұрын
It's ALWAYS the parents. That's not rocket science
@medano
2 ай бұрын
Notice the doctor didn’t prescribe him with medication. He simply had loving, human interaction with him.
@StinkyWetRat505
Ай бұрын
I wasn’t born in the 60’s or anything, but I have a feeling they likely couldn’t since he was a little boy and the medication wasn’t as.. advanced? Unsure, really
@crystalyn2855
Ай бұрын
@@StinkyWetRat505either way love is a more effective form of medication.
@LazarusMorale
Ай бұрын
This one’s rocky, sure the whole throwing opioids at mental instabilities only works on some occassions, the power of love can only go but so far for suffering individuals
@hatefulcrab8515
Ай бұрын
Yeah the kid definitely needed support from his parents.
@Im_a_Chill_Panda
Ай бұрын
@@crystalyn2855Nah, I’ll keep my drugs thanks. 😂
@giggles2302
3 ай бұрын
This poor baby was starving for love and affection.
@ThecouncilOf8
2 ай бұрын
So if I broke your nose punching you in the face you would think I'm just looking for love and affection? Sometimes I know it's hard for most people to grasp but people give into the monster that is human nature rather than fight it... Even in loving environments this can happen and has
@nathantorres8352
2 ай бұрын
Did u watch the video? Obviously every case is different and what u said is a possibility, but we just watched a 30 minute case study on this child. How can u compare that to ur dumbass walking up and punching someone and argue that anyone would call them similar situations??
@artvandalay6386
2 ай бұрын
@@ThecouncilOf8yes but only if you were in your development years .
@masqueabsurdo
2 ай бұрын
@@ThecouncilOf8you told the truth but this is only revealed in adolescence, when puberty arrives that shows that love and affection were in vain
@oleeshanorris5343
2 ай бұрын
She doesn't realize she is the issue.
@cleoldbagtraallsorts3380
2 жыл бұрын
Beautiful but emotionally repressed woman, with an emotionally distant husband. The child wasn't loved because the parents had not been loved themselves. All of them needed help.
@belle3055
2 жыл бұрын
You just described African parents
@Gay-Icon
2 жыл бұрын
@@belle3055 lol yes! 💯
@AntonioPerez-xo4hm
2 жыл бұрын
Some Hispanic aswell
@hiitsme6639
2 жыл бұрын
Well said.
@yin_xing
2 жыл бұрын
Why do you have to say the women was beautiful or not?
@---kx1xc
Ай бұрын
boy must be near 70 now, wish we could hear an interview of how his life turned out, memories,if he noticed mom/dad trying. I ask God to help me as a parent, He always comes through for me.
@mindysmith3683
27 күн бұрын
Why hasn't anyone made a profit off that yet ? Someone could make alot of money doing that !
@L.OVE.heart.
19 күн бұрын
Yes very interested in how he is doing now
@effiahalhumbhra3755
14 күн бұрын
Precious Little One had bio-energetic 2.5dimensional field dark attachment picked up. Since mother had similar behaviour if innerstanding correctly family dynamics most likely picked up in utero. Bio-energetic field (auric field) protection is a must. With this said mother most likely has same field attachment picked up lonnng ago. These type attachments have been common in various ways, some more serious than others, for most now being discovered more so in these Times of Transparency, Awakening & Juvenation. Time to Heal. A-Gain KEY POINT is to have ones energy fields protected preventing situations similar to this from happening. Kicker is if field attachment healed not then field attachment can come to be an Entity of its own overtaking body and original conscious. Bliss Us All as we are in times of change realigning with truth.
@GisleVanem00
14 күн бұрын
@@effiahalhumbhra3755 Spam!
@PaulGurney-un5hi
11 күн бұрын
@@effiahalhumbhra3755 stop being weird.
@beautymarxx4690
2 ай бұрын
"They punish me for feeling sad for them" 😢 wow such a deep emotional understanding
@jennidzikowski772
28 күн бұрын
Heartbreaking 😢💔😢
@etiennevcr9276
2 жыл бұрын
3:19, when he asks “ you love me?” to the doc…..that’s a very telling moment
@XanderHage
2 жыл бұрын
Damn, if the child would be an adult asking that, the adult would scream it out. What a heartbreaking silent scream for affection and (parent) love.
@GrantTarredus
2 жыл бұрын
I came here to make that exact comment.
@jacquihurt4843
2 жыл бұрын
Yes. Absolutely, that’s the core /cause of his bad behavior.
@handcrafted30
2 жыл бұрын
A child that fails to feel the warmth of his village, will burn it down just to feel it’s warmth.
@thetrintarianmessianicyahw589
2 жыл бұрын
I'm probably stepping on a landmine by asking this, but what is Telling about the lad?
@dycinnagy
2 жыл бұрын
Aww, how the child's face lit up when the doctor said he loved him. ❤
@nonenone4219
Жыл бұрын
I caught that to..That is a telling sign that he doesn't hear that said to him very much I thnk.
@mumof3625
Жыл бұрын
The problem right there .. doesn’t feel loved by either parent, acts out negatively to get attention .. poor love ❤
@dianatheiss7055
Жыл бұрын
And suddenly there was extended eye contact too...he searched the Dr's face to see if he really meant it!
@katherinefielder3415
Жыл бұрын
❤
@katherinefielder3415
Жыл бұрын
Another thing is he is receiving punishments. And physical punishments at that but then the poor boy is being rough to others
@user-mt6dw7vu4q
Ай бұрын
Doctor is teaching the mother that her son needs more physical touch and closeness that all children need.
@sarahg2653
Ай бұрын
Ngl, Doctor seems pretty awesome. I tend to look back on mental health and behavioral practices from that time period with a bit of horror. But I was pleasantly surprised by this interaction.
@briancolwill3071
Ай бұрын
Seen The Madman and the Professor? (Just for the odd kind doctor in a 19th century asylum that are usually portrayed as inhumane...). Decency is decency, throughout time
@sarahg2653
Ай бұрын
@@briancolwill3071 Sounds interesting. Thanks for the recommendation, sounds right up my alley
@briancolwill3071
Ай бұрын
@@sarahg2653 oops. I'm back to front. It's the Professor and the Madman. Dunno where you're at with Mel Gibson but I think he's a good actor despite personal difficulties... Creative arts are full of people with problems, sometimes it's tricky. Like, I loathe Polanski personally but I can't boycott his films! Rotten Tomatoes slayed Professor and the Madman but I found lots to like in it, plenty indeed....
@Zoi18
Ай бұрын
Me too
@briancolwill3071
Ай бұрын
@@sarahg2653 I set you wrong, it's the Professor and the Madman, but I bet ya got it
@voraciousreader3341
2 жыл бұрын
“The CHILD.” “The CHILD.” “The CHILD.” “The CHILD.” You gave THE CHILD a name, MOMMY.
@karaamundson3964
2 жыл бұрын
Evidence of emotional distance
@brolly414
2 жыл бұрын
She's highly stressed and in an unfamiliar situation - and this is also a much different time to the one we live in.
@nim7117
2 жыл бұрын
The child is better
@ranstxx
2 жыл бұрын
Thats what they called them in those days
@Mr.Feckless
2 жыл бұрын
I was the child until i was 4 and they knew i was gonna be around a while
@thatguyjoe007
8 ай бұрын
The boy was so preoccupied with his toys, while the doctor spoke to him. But when the boy heard the words... "love you", he stopped what he was doing, looked the doctor in the eyes and asked "you love me?".... this poor kid probably never heard anyone say that to him, his whole life. Now we see the root cause of his aggressive behavior.
@msch7620
7 ай бұрын
It’s called fidgeting. Some of us need to have busy hands to focus when someone talks. He was actually paying attention the whole time.
@sowhatdude111
6 ай бұрын
The way his face lit up with the affirmation of love 😭😭😭
@Aquarius444K
6 ай бұрын
He was listening the whole time
@linds17
6 ай бұрын
His mother referred to him as 'the child'. Very impersonal. I was a child in the 50's/60's and had a very kind & caring mother. We were working class so didn't have much in the way of possessions. Love is free. Myself & most of my close friends were not disciplined in a physical way so had a good childhood. School however showed us a different side to life. Corporal punishment was prevalent. Watching 'rude' children being struck with a leather belt did not help them or those of us that had to watch. The usual recipients ended up getting in trouble with the police or dying young due to taking drugs. A long time ago now but never forgotten. Violence can begat violence. At least it did in our school 😢
@Pulsonar
5 ай бұрын
@@msch7620Correct, he paid attention the whole time, but it seemed as though he wasn’t, especially when juxtaposed against his reaction to those magical words.
@Hellena_Keningale
19 күн бұрын
It is so clearly to see where that child’s anger comes from, the mother is so angry herself.
@RoseDreamsinger
20 күн бұрын
The mother needs therapy even more than the boy. Seriously. So does the dad, most likely.
@9000ck
14 күн бұрын
That's more often the case than not. That's mostly what child psychiatrists do - educate and change the parents.
@JoshxIZ
9 күн бұрын
Everyone basically needs therapy
@Aimercesttous
4 күн бұрын
Did, a long time ago.
@anitatencer6848
2 жыл бұрын
Everyone is placing blame on Mom, but Dad didn’t agree to seek help!
@DR-nh6oo
2 жыл бұрын
So sad and typical, when it takes a village…
@lemonstealinghorsdoeuvre
2 жыл бұрын
He didn't want to be in the film, you can't know he didn't go privately after
@sakuranovaryan9261
2 жыл бұрын
@@lemonstealinghorsdoeuvre they are mentioning this cause this happens a lot in real life as well..a lot of the blame of emotional education is placed on the mother..not always just I see it happen a lot
@audas
2 жыл бұрын
Yeah - she was consistently beating the child. "lEtS sOmeHow blAMe tHe mAle !" Wow Anita, just wow.
@lemonstealinghorsdoeuvre
2 жыл бұрын
@@audas she doesn't suggest blaming the father for anything. Your personal bias came up with that. All she said is there is only one part of the story visible and that everyone tends to be blaming the extremely attractive mom, and for all we know the father could be far worse of an influence. All we know is that the kid is annoying, the mom is hot, and you are easily triggered. Anita applied thought, you applied prejudice.
@netomeds
Ай бұрын
It's always the parents. Not everyone is meant to be parents.
@nica900
7 күн бұрын
It's not always the parents. ADHD and ASD are genetic.
@Saffronelle
5 күн бұрын
no it is NOT always the parents ffs. Horrible comment.
@SarahBelal-ro1jm
2 күн бұрын
@@nica900 genetics are not what you think. Kids who have adhd also have a parent with adhd... they just picked up on the behaviors. Read gabor matè
@SKYCHICK__
20 күн бұрын
I've been a psychotherapist for over 30 years and I absolutely love seeing families and children heal from the pains of the past and move forward. ❤️
@margochanning6868
34 минут бұрын
Yeah, and I'm a rocket scientist.
@dnl1120
2 жыл бұрын
His mother seems very cold and detached. When the boy's face lit up and he said "You love me?" You can tell he doesn't hear that word very often.
@karaamundson3964
2 жыл бұрын
111%
@ginavv2092
2 жыл бұрын
She probably is tired of dealing with him . Remember depression is real
@phantompizza
2 жыл бұрын
@@ginavv2092 its more likely that he is like that because she is like that and not the other way around
@farangisehsani592
2 жыл бұрын
You cant blame her. The child is psychopath!
@robinluich6626
Жыл бұрын
My thoughts exactly. He wants to be loved. Gentleness goes a long way. He needs patience, and hugs.
@kathyhayevsky4703
2 жыл бұрын
She never refers to him by his first name. It's always this child or the child. Speaks volumes.
@geminiwriter8875
2 жыл бұрын
My mother is an early childhood teacher. In behavioural reports that go to parents I’ve seen that they use Initials or ‘the other child’ or ‘Other’ for safety reasons - protecting that child from identification by strangers - an example was a choking incident like the video, the mother of the choked child was extremely protective and threatened to sue (can’t sue in New Zealand) the parents of the child when they found out who they were. To avoid the whole mess and others like it, my mother used fake initials, ZT, to which the mother was looking on the birthday wall for the initials. Her plan apparently was to find the child, wait with them, and threaten the parents. Nut jobs are why nut rules are in nut place.
@kathyhayevsky4703
2 жыл бұрын
@@geminiwriter8875 this child's name is all over the video. But it's the mother who never uses it.
@geminiwriter8875
2 жыл бұрын
@@kathyhayevsky4703 this is the 1960s, I was giving you a modern option and showing parents went from undercaring to overbearing.
@natalie9884
2 жыл бұрын
@@geminiwriter8875 Yup Licensed k-12/special ed teacher k- 8 over here. Written a fair share of IEP's. Parenting/environment is huge on the development of a child....fu**ing obviously...but, neurology/brain structure is a large part of "dysfunction"/(abnormalities as well), too. Pardon poor grammar, as I am talking to text on the go..., obviously. I will say that in homacidal cases especially, when the *past tense* is used/not the names etc, that is a red flag for sure, as mentioned.
@KIWI-un8fs
2 жыл бұрын
@@natalie9884 well, the kid its aggro because his mother beat the sht up of him everytime he behaves like a child, he is just mimicking his own experience
@dk181
Ай бұрын
When a child gets labeled as “trouble” how he is treated by adults changes. He’s “trouble” and it follows him everywhere. Sad because children need LOVE. Love cures a lot! ❤❤
@jamiec6417
Ай бұрын
It’s the labeling!!!!
@a.walters123
Ай бұрын
This sweet boy. He is so obviously neurodiverse, there’s nothing wrong with him other than a lack of love and acceptance. And this doctor, my God, what an extraordinary physician. A doctor with this wisdom and innate understanding during this time period was so rare, what a fantastic person living his Hippocratic oath. I am so grateful that in our modern age we have a better understanding of this. This doctor’s approach is the common and accepted approach.
@azimuth5620
Ай бұрын
how does lack of love and acceptance cause neurodivergence? Or are you speculating?
@atablevendetta1429
22 күн бұрын
@@azimuth5620 I believe they are saying that he needs love, as well as acceptance of his potential neurodivergence, to solve his behavioral issues
@Wretched90
19 күн бұрын
Neurodiversity comes after the trauma
@nica900
7 күн бұрын
Yes I agree, as a parent of a neurodiverse child and also 2 partners in my life, it's so obvious to me. But alot of people don't understand it so they will put their uneducated 2 cents worth in. People also need to understand this mother had 6 years of being expected to conform to a stereotype of a parent which was impossible for her to achieve. Fortunately now if you understand neurodiversity you know that punishment is futile, and love and understanding can do amazing things.
@lorenzasammut9377
4 күн бұрын
@@azimuth5620Hai ragione, neurodiversi si nasce e non si diventa! E le cause sono ad oggi sconosciute...gli scienziati di tutto il mondo stanno tuttora studiando le possibili cause della neurodiversita'. Saluti dalla mamma di un bambino con sindrome di Asperger (autismo di livello 1).
@goawayandlearnsomedamnmann1391
2 жыл бұрын
Man… I just love how people spoke back then.
@12484uespicysvideo
2 жыл бұрын
Wonder if it will ever come back
@moyo6606
2 жыл бұрын
The Trans Atlantic accent
@JDarrylSSS
2 жыл бұрын
@@12484uespicysvideo you've read my mind.
@LuisAngel-mu4zv
2 жыл бұрын
Yeah me too and i still dont know what it is, maybe its because it sounds natural
@lostcitybird
2 жыл бұрын
@@12484uespicysvideo I hope man
@AH-wp7lw
2 жыл бұрын
It broke my heart how quickly the boy calmed down when the therapist hugged him…. All he needed was empathy, kindness and patience but his parents and even teachers failed him :(
@robinluich6626
Жыл бұрын
When he looked at the doctor with excitement and " You love me!?"
@ssQ2U
Жыл бұрын
Yes
@I_Kan
Жыл бұрын
Which annoys me because the mother towards the beginning said "" He has everything he wants and needs "" its a Shame some parents fail to see the very thing the child needs is love, attention, kindness, empathy etc. She sometimes refers to the child as "" IT"" 🥺 hurt adults going on to have hurt children
@stephaniepiazzese2602
Жыл бұрын
Yes. They did.
@katrinakarena
Жыл бұрын
@@robinluich6626 glad you saw that too. How fast he looked at the doctor and asked “you love me?” So hungry for love.
@Gary-pogi
2 ай бұрын
A fine, patient Doctor, sure to have helped a lot of people in his career.
@UNIXSOLJASysadminSyndicate
25 күн бұрын
That doctor was so ahead of his time.
@GuitarSolosInc.
8 ай бұрын
I'm a step dad to a boy that has aggressive tendencies at school. This video has opened my eyes to many things I didn't know. His dad wasn't there. He craves male companionship so much. But he also needs male kindness and love.
@Tina-Trinity
8 ай бұрын
Being a parent is hard, being a step parent is harder. Blessings to you and upon your journey as you try to heal that which you did not hurt and in breaking those cycles.
@GuitarSolosInc.
8 ай бұрын
@@Tina-Trinity thank you so much!!! We've definitely made a lot of progress. I've definitely noticed that being tender with him and very soft spoken has helped. Him seeing a big man be sweet and kind is not something he is used to. It's opening his eyes to how he can be too if he tries.
@janetsides901
8 ай бұрын
I was a step mother to a boy like this. Nothing I said or did made a change. My ex expected me to change the boy. I had a 3 year old,this kid was 6. Never had any consistency in his life. He was aggressive with my child. Yet the boys father never spent time with him or showed genuine affection. It was a living hell.
@GuitarSolosInc.
8 ай бұрын
@@janetsides901 spending time with them and showing genuine affection is the key. I'm sorry that you had to live through this. The task of raising a young boy should have been more on him (the dad) than anything. I'm sorry if this sounds wrong, but it's a man's job to teach his son (or step son) how to be a man.
@enry898
8 ай бұрын
Have you considered introducing him to martial arts?
@sage6269
Жыл бұрын
"Daddy hits the mummy, and then mummy hits the baby"... Ouch, my heart! 💔
@marilyncantrell4954
8 ай бұрын
😥 yes
@angelafeldman5903
8 ай бұрын
@marilyncantrell4954, and then the baby grows up, and the cycle repeats itself.😮
@lizardking5210
8 ай бұрын
PAIN
@anastarbird2160
Ай бұрын
Philip said daddy hits mommy and mommy hits baby at the end. I think that was the real problem at home
@IKFKSwitch
29 күн бұрын
This was me. I was very similar to Phillip. My parents didn't change, however. I found the love I needed from other caretakers. Babysitters, tutors, teachers, psychiatrists. I knew that I couldn't be all bad if at least some people who knew me well loved me.
@SKYCHICK__
20 күн бұрын
It wasn't that they didn't love you, they didn't understand you and felt like failures. People who feel like failures but lack coping skills often behave aggressively and/or distant from the child because they feel helpless. And helpless people develop apathy.
@mstina7346
18 күн бұрын
Sounds familiar. I was the black sheep and my mother seemed to not like me. As you say, if other people liked me I figured it must be my mom who had the problem. Still painful though.
@mstina7346
18 күн бұрын
@@SKYCHICK__good insight. Thanks!
@AMadd3RHatt3R
16 күн бұрын
Thank you for sharing that. I am the warmth and love for my grandson. My daughter, his mother, is cold like this. He has no father around at all. I often wonder if all of the affection and care I give him will be enough. Your comment gives me hope.
@xerlon8111
8 күн бұрын
Good for you, I was taken from my destructive mother at the age of 8 and instantly put on medication the minute she left the hospital, been passed around my whole life since then, never attached to anyone. I'm turning 28 this year never worked & have no friends I did try for the past years and clawed my way threw my trauma with the help of social workers. Became more stable and able to live on my own for about a year now. Sadly I see no way of ever being a productive part in this society. At least I'm not bothering anyone and manage somehow. can't say the same about my siblings. People shouldn't be allowed to have children without a license IMO.
@jayfermin7449
2 жыл бұрын
That was very telling when he was worried about getting paint on his hands and said “uh oh, I’m afraid, cause mommy’s gonna give me a hit”. then right after he says “the mother is going after the baby, she’s gonna spank the baby” then says “the father is going to spank the mother, then the mother is going to spank the baby”. A cold household where everyone tries to impose their dominance over the weaker members. No wonder the boy is aggressive. He has to be when the whole family dynamic is based on a power struggle. The weak get spanked. Then submits to the aggressor. That’s how you get what you want. The poor boy didn’t invent that. He learned it from his empathetically bankrupt parents.
@seeker8097
2 жыл бұрын
No doubt the parents were raised by emotionally bankrupt parents themselves, just as their parents before them. It’s an abusive cycle.
@I_Kan
Жыл бұрын
No wonder why the little boy had so much aggression because he was shown that by his mother. Alongside no love and healthy attention
@WindTurbineSyndrome
Жыл бұрын
Families often used corporal punishment it was much more common than today. Getting that child help for his behavior probably saved that kid.
@moniqueengleman873
Жыл бұрын
@@seeker8097 Yes.... Oh as we live, we learn. Or supposed to anyway. My parents were never parented. But they did a decent job considering. I have found so much compassion for people now.
@donnajarvis9542
Жыл бұрын
What a compassionate therapist.
@manifest4everything222
2 жыл бұрын
My mum was very emotionally cold and everything was about her......I remember as a child a babysitter hugged me and showed me the first bit of affection I had ever experienced. I remember my sadness and how I clung to her when she had to leave. It made me realise what affection was. I remember the pain of her leaving was all consuming!
@derinok9833
2 жыл бұрын
Your mom might have had the same experience from her parents. Sometimes we need to learn to forgive and forget
@manifest4everything222
2 жыл бұрын
@@derinok9833 I'm not like that with my children though....you can change the pattern so if I can change why can't she?
@Bella-gj6wc
Жыл бұрын
I was married to a man like that. He worked two jobs to avoid the difficult job of raising our kids, and was highly critical, of the limits I set. He often let the kids out of punishments and the limits I set. I tried many years and once the kids were grown (which definitely felt like a prison term), I divorced him. My second husband was the exact opposite of my first husband! I was a full time step mum to two of his four kids. This experience was so enjoyable, I almost hated to see them grow up. So, I learned then, it wasn’t totally “me”, it was the lack of “us” that was the problem. Sadly, the people we love, sometimes ARE NOT the people we should have kids with. 😞
@georgiahernandez2423
Жыл бұрын
Yes . We’ll put . Mine was very course towards me . And I’d beg her to not go to work but I know she had to . I lived with her but I didn’t see her much . I stay with my grandparents a lot . And I love them all to this day but I strive to be more like my Nana . She was a sweet soul and made sure we had grocerys . She was my fathers mom . He was in prison his whole life so she and my granddaddy tried to make up for his absence . My father was adopted . And I’m so thankful he was ♥️
@vickilawrence7207
Жыл бұрын
Me too. I didn't know how to act on rare occasions when anyone showed any affection..i was NEVER hugged or told i love u! Never heard my mother say it & when i told my dad once that i loved him his response was.."i know" ! 😂😅😂! Unbelievable! No hugging, or ur amazing, talented, pretty (&i was very pretty once i hit about 17) nothing at all to validate me as a worthy human being..needless to say i had a lot of problems growing up..
@nikki8947
Ай бұрын
@ 3:18 "You love me?" That innocent little face...my heart absolutely sank 🥺💔 It's obvious that what he's lacking is affection, and protection. Wrap your arms lovingly around your children, they are the most precious jewels you will ever have.
@kg28577
Ай бұрын
Phillip completely changed when the doctor started holding him. He just wanted to be loved like the sweet baby he is
@dawndoliber2663
Жыл бұрын
This therapist was probably the best dad ever. When he rocked the boy in his arms my heart melted. 🥹
@RikkiTheFool
8 ай бұрын
The Doctor turnt out to be a child 💀 PREDATOR
@americasmomloveeveryonenoe7517
8 ай бұрын
Proof?
@loonylinda
8 ай бұрын
@@RikkiTheFool did he?..how do you know that?
@pablobrad100
8 ай бұрын
@@loonylinda Ignore that clown
@kcrot2566
8 ай бұрын
I have worked in early childhood education for 40 years and the look on a child’s face at 4 years old when you say you are a clever kind ,good boy is priceless. It like they have never heard these words before heartbreaking
@erindunebuggy9772
7 ай бұрын
Sitting in her Kindergarten class with a smoke in hand......Classic😂
@iselaRodriguez-xf5vr
3 ай бұрын
It was so normal back in the day 😂. She wasn’t tryna hide it either it’s so funny and weird how Normal it was back in the day . Knowing she could smoke at work is crazy
@kateashby3066
3 ай бұрын
I used to work at Trader Joe’s and my boss told me about how the checkout all used to have burn marks on them from employees placing their cigarettes down to bag the groceries (back in the day) 😂. Times have sure changed!
@stephenpmurphy591
3 ай бұрын
Oh yes, vaping is so much more healthy & lovely.
@Teufer2
3 ай бұрын
@@stephenpmurphy591 Vaping wouldn't be allowed in Kindergarten either.
@user-yw2pr5xw7d
3 ай бұрын
@@stephenpmurphy591не курите всякую дрянь.
@nicelydone9776
Жыл бұрын
I had a little boy at my school, who was overly aggressive and I told him since he was so much bigger he was like one of the teachers, and told him instead of hitting someone, to come to me, and tell me what was going on, and we could come up with ideas on how things could be better. It worked. Also he never wanted to clean up the class, so I would ask him where things went and he helped me put things away.
@meganwalker27
Жыл бұрын
Nicely done, nicely done.
@dodgyyoutuber9560
Жыл бұрын
Great tip!
@suzymaxwell8028
Жыл бұрын
Brilliant, thank goodness for natural and intelligent teachers like you 😢
@dawnoftherock
Жыл бұрын
Brilliant!
@JeffMcDuffie72MeridianGate
Жыл бұрын
Using brainwashing methods is evil.
@sebastianward324
13 күн бұрын
What a child WANTS and what a child NEEDS are two very different entities
@teamhunley
2 ай бұрын
I recognize the chilly aloof mom...just like mine, and so hard to heal from. I'm 62 and still scarred
@juliz2500
Ай бұрын
She looks hurt and desperate to me.
@blackswan1983
2 жыл бұрын
The psychologist was using collaborative problem solving! That's an excellent technique for oppositional and violent children. He was ahead of the time.
@honeybunch5765
2 жыл бұрын
I dont think he was ahead of the times, these types of treatments have been coming on way longer than we realise.
@Beckysinlondon
2 жыл бұрын
I thought he was brilliant - a natural at it.
@Optim40
2 жыл бұрын
@@Beckysinlondon Yea I think so too.
@DR-nh6oo
2 жыл бұрын
That is an excellent technique for about anything one can think of.
@meowlodiculous
2 жыл бұрын
What does collaborative problem solving mean?
@katythepsychiclady2342
2 жыл бұрын
His face when he said, "you love me?" OMG 😮😥😥😥🙏🙏
@karaamundson3964
2 жыл бұрын
The lightning moment
@Sara-dp5dg
2 жыл бұрын
If I was that therapist I would have taken him home immediately 🥺
@iknowwhatimtalkingabout
2 жыл бұрын
I just want to give him a big hug.
@simplecommentify
2 жыл бұрын
I struck seeing his action. He wanted to be loved.
@biskjsk2513
2 жыл бұрын
Where is this part
@Fnafplushhome
Ай бұрын
I would love to see Phillip now…. Interesting what kind of adult he had grown into
@user-ye2ge4zo5lhennypenny
23 күн бұрын
Hi that's what I was thinking
@TheSaltyEgo
18 күн бұрын
After such an edgy mother, Phillip Went on to have the most successful razor company., Phillips Razor's.😏
@user-ye2ge4zo5lhennypenny
18 күн бұрын
@@TheSaltyEgo Wow 👌 thankyou so much for this information!
@kerllyperez4566
6 күн бұрын
@@TheSaltyEgoReally?
@elizstinebarcelos1651
2 сағат бұрын
Me too
@ArtJourneyUK
Ай бұрын
Hurt people, hurt people. He knows his mum & dad love him and they beat him (the mum's words) so he shows affection to other children in the same way.
@Jacoe413
4 ай бұрын
This Dr. way ahead of his time. He understood more than most of his time. He was compassionate and wasn't harsh with the little boy here.
@duhsunnyday8590
2 ай бұрын
He understands more than those now
@coppersulphate002
Ай бұрын
That's the normal way to be
@cassandrakemara8755
Ай бұрын
@@coppersulphate002 not then it wasnt
@meelodeshmeeelo2034
2 жыл бұрын
Wow, can you imagine a therapist being able to cuddle these days... I trained to be a counsellor for a couple years and that was one of the things I found regretful, that we couldn't even give an adult, some of whom sorely needed human touch, a (brief) hug of sorts. I understand why it's not possible but firmly believe that in some situations it would do a world of good.
@DrFeelGoood
2 жыл бұрын
do you mean "these days" as in because of Covid? :0 cause if not I surely hope there isnt a rule against hugs for therapists
@meelodeshmeeelo2034
2 жыл бұрын
@@DrFeelGoood no, I mean therapists/ counsellors are not allowed to touch the client in any way covid or not (UK)
@astridparanormalscotland7434
2 жыл бұрын
@@meelodeshmeeelo2034 this is so sad to hear, that brief hug embrace can change someones week
@dreamdiction
2 жыл бұрын
@@astridparanormalscotland7434 A therapist is trying to get the patient/client to THINK.
@honeybunch5765
2 жыл бұрын
True it is sad but nowadays you can be charged with molestation etc.
@Kokoro1987
2 ай бұрын
“You love me?” The way he responded with the word “love”, he responded like he doesn’t hear it often…
@LubzPratic
Ай бұрын
He has everything a child would want. Oh 😮 does he have love, affection, and compassion? Where ?
@carnicavegirl7214
4 ай бұрын
You can tell the Mother was raised in a very strict family, poor woman is lost. I’m happy to hear her admit that what she’s doing doesn’t work.
@victorhugo3952
4 ай бұрын
The type of woman that shouldn't have reproduced, but at least her offspring was used as a lab rat so that we could acquire knowledge
@faustopacheco120
4 ай бұрын
You can tell she's a single mother.
@gamesahsv862
4 ай бұрын
@@faustopacheco120 she isn't single mother, it's common situation where parent don't know how to raise a child becauce they are busy
@VITAS874
4 ай бұрын
@@gamesahsv862true. Even they lie to itself...
@beaglemanzzz
4 ай бұрын
She seems like a stereotypical WASP
@nikkimaloney2759
6 ай бұрын
When the doctor held him, and was rocking him. Philip was so happy and content. He was feeling love and compassion. Honestly so touching.
@orafranc
3 ай бұрын
he really did calm down after that.
@phillippereira6468
3 ай бұрын
Yup.. The parent was the problem
@taraalan1131
3 ай бұрын
@@phillippereira6468He felt that the father got the show of warmth and affection , that he craved, She could show it to her husband, but not to her child.
@alh1863
3 ай бұрын
I think this boy wil be a good man, he has to much energy doest know what to do with it. I see these children are sometimes agressieve but that comes that people and other children become always angry at such childeren till now you see they are most atta. by other children or adults who cant handle the way those children act. Then you see someone intelligent and nice comes and take time to talk in a smart way with them or love to play with them you see them become like a totally different child a happy and quit child . You see it when the dr hold him he is just happy and play like most childeren.
@flipptom
2 ай бұрын
Thank you for spelling Philip correctly!
@e.b5911
2 ай бұрын
He calmed and looked happy when hugged from the physiologist. If love cannot fix something, nothing else will.
@elizabethperlman6392
4 күн бұрын
This dr and all involved with helping are outstanding spot on . Such love , patience and smarts
@annasnotabanana
Жыл бұрын
That therapist was absolutely amazing. I hope Phillip grew up to have a good life ❤
@shawnaclarkson9401
8 ай бұрын
That's what I'm wondering, how he is now , I mean I respect their privacy but I'd love good news
@mochiraka6579
8 ай бұрын
@@shawnaclarkson9401 same! he is probably out there living his life, and even the mother could be still.
@SDU2023
8 ай бұрын
He sat waaay too close.
@bobbyd6680
8 ай бұрын
@@shawnaclarkson9401 Me murdered his mother in 1975.
@amandahendrix8533
8 ай бұрын
@@bobbyd6680 what?! No way! How did you find this out? Or are you joking?
@lizzibizzioni7478
8 ай бұрын
One of the best templates for raising kids: If a child lives with criticism, he learns to condemn. If a child lives with hostility, he learns to fight. If a child lives with ridicule, he learns to be shy. If a child lives with shame, he learns to feel guilty. If a child lives with tolerance, he learns to be patient. If a child lives with encouragement, he learns confidence. If a child lives with praise, he learns to appreciate. If a child lives with fairness, he learns justice. If a child lives with security, he learns to have faith. If a child lives with approval, he learns to like himself. If a child lives with acceptance and friendship, he learns to find love in the world.
@humajilani888
6 ай бұрын
Agree.
@garyakirsch
6 ай бұрын
If I had to bet on who has that brat figured, I would bet on you! How did this 1960's story end? Serial killer?
@jackripper5270
6 ай бұрын
Needs to lose a fight... that's all. This is normal boy behavior to an extent.
@ElwynnForest
6 ай бұрын
What’s the difference between ridicule and shame?
@modzpdx559
6 ай бұрын
This is all common knowledge but everyone is different. This isnt accurate all the time.
@saracowles2722
12 күн бұрын
There are dozens of these kids in all schools these days. With far more violent tendencies and anxiety. This kid was an angel compared to some kids I've worked with.
@KJ-vc3sw
9 күн бұрын
“A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger” (Proverbs 15:1, TNIV)
@KatAdVictoriam
Жыл бұрын
It dawned on me that the mom says the dad is European. This is 1960. Which means this precious little boy had one parent coping with the trauma of growing up during WWII. My husband's grandmother lived through the Battle of Berlin. My mother in law was raised in a very abusive, emotionally cold, distant, household. A traumatic household in its own way because of what her mother lived through and never got help for. I just imagine that must have played at least some significant role. Never underestimate generational trauma.
@pommiebears
8 ай бұрын
Well, that would be all of my great grandparents and grandparents. My grandmother was evacuated from London during the Blitz. My grandad was in the Royal Navy. They weren’t cold and horrible!
@philima
8 ай бұрын
@@pommiebearsit depends on the people but generally speaking, times were insane and abuse pretty normalized, sadly. It's a whole generational trauma thing.
@theodorcosminvoicu9240
8 ай бұрын
Philima, I tend to consider it depended on the family. Different families , different stories.
@KatAdVictoriam
8 ай бұрын
@@pommiebears I didn't speak for all of the survivors of WWII. My grandparents were in the USA, were well off in adulthood and my maternal grandmother had 6 kids that raised themselves essentially because her career and social life came first. She was just selfish, no trauma. Some people who go through actual warfare trauma might become emotionally stunted at the age they were damaged, thus having Children of their own... They're unable to connect to them in a mature, nurturing manner you'd expect from a stable adult.
@KatAdVictoriam
8 ай бұрын
@@philima Right! You didn't have the widespread understanding of trauma and abuse we have today. Your average person didn't get therapy. So trauma and abuse got passed on, sadly.
@sarahs2288
6 ай бұрын
The moment the therapist said he loved him, something magical happened: He started getting through to the child. The child began to listen and to learn. Amazing.
@tomekalee4948
27 күн бұрын
This is the kind of psychiatrist we need today. Not one, to quickly push meds, to be understood.
@MP-mo4ys
16 күн бұрын
Yeah, or trying to change your gender.
@reallythere
28 күн бұрын
He had more calm and love from the doctor in that hour, than from his trauma inducing family. Poor little guy. 😢
@KarmasBite
Жыл бұрын
What a surprisingly sweet doctor for the time period, very well educated and gentle but mature approach with the child. Would've loved a doctor to talk to me the way he did, when I was the childs age.
@SerpentinePleasure
8 ай бұрын
That's some solid training and understanding of psychoanalysis and relational therapy ❤
@EphemeralProductions
8 ай бұрын
There's always been sweet doctors that cared and knew what they were doin. (In all medical fields) Problem is they're the exception to the rule. And there has to be the luck of the people needing their particular style of caring and relating actually finding them.
@SilentAttackTV
8 ай бұрын
He almost seems like a time-traveler, he's so wise and empathetic.
@bobbyd6680
8 ай бұрын
When I was 11 years old, I was seeing a psychiatrist, had toys, there were other kids there also. I went through all kinds of hearing testing. I recall the doctor and staff all very nice and caring. This would have been about 1963. Of course, I only realized what was going on later in my teens after asking my mother about it. I wasn't an aggressive student as here, but I was acting out in class and under performing in spite having high scores on intelligence test for the time. Turns out it was due to my relationship with my father. He got involved and apparently all worked out for the better.
@KarmasBite
8 ай бұрын
@@bobbyd6680 That is a super interesting story! Thank you for sharing, and I'm glad it worked out well for you!
@cmorgan7851
Жыл бұрын
Referring to your own child as “This child” “the child” “a child” is heartbreaking. She has disassociated herself with him, most likely long before his misbehavior.
@cecileroy557
8 ай бұрын
I had twin boys. One of them sometimes drove me crazy but we always had fun and he always felt loved. I don't think the Walk a Mile in Her Shoes fits in this instance. That being said, at that time children often got spanked and sent to bed without dinner. I was brought up that way but broke the cycle with my sons.
@shamteal8614
8 ай бұрын
Yes I noticed the 'this child' 'the child etc. Putting a distance between her and her son who therefore became an object to be controlled rather than a son to be loved.
@matthews852
8 ай бұрын
It was the 60s. Things were different. Parents were stricter and more detached. Good parenting back then was considered making sure your children were fed, clothed, and educated. A whole generation grew up like this.
@shamteal8614
8 ай бұрын
@@matthews852 And you think parenting is better nowadays. It's easy to make generalisations, my parents weren't overly strict and I'm pretty sure none of my friends parents were either. The woman in this film came across as cold and it seemed from what she said her husband was much the same.
@matthews852
8 ай бұрын
@@shamteal8614 It’s not a generalization. It’s based on a study conducted by California-Irvine, and the evolution of accepted discipline between the 1960s and today. Also the amount of time parents spend with their children has increased on average from 54 minutes a day in 1965, to 102 mins by 2012. I’m giving you facts. You gave us an anecdote about your friends.
@lauranglover521
2 ай бұрын
The kid was so much calmer when being rocked and loved by the doctor...it was such a change! What the kid needed- positive, loving attention. It's what most people need!
@alexjos79
15 күн бұрын
Parents and child are very natural actors.
@mirnadoherty7767
8 ай бұрын
I have always said “ many parents are the worst bullies to their own kids” it leaves so many emotional scars that many times take a life of healing 😟
@kingy002
7 ай бұрын
Not everyone gets healed!
@humajilani888
6 ай бұрын
And sometimes it doesn't go healed
@peach7210
5 ай бұрын
And, for many, it's a healing that never comes.
@TCTALKSTCFITNESS
4 ай бұрын
🤒💯🤕
@IfoundTheAvocados11
4 ай бұрын
So true! I've spent a boatload of money on therapy to try to undo my childhood. It's been money well spent. My parents were the worst bullies. I wouldn't treat an enemy the way they treated me and my sisters. Horrific things went on behind closed doors. It is stopping with me, though. The generational trauma ends here. Too bad I'm too scarred to want children 😂 🙃.
@pearl3026
8 ай бұрын
Look how that little boys aggression melted once he got a hug and told he was loved .. the mother also recognised where she was going wrong and got the help she needed 👏🏾
@deenad3562
8 ай бұрын
Its not just a hug but a hug from a Man. He wants Real attention from his Father, not just the dismissive attention he gets by quickly getting his way.
@delishme2
8 ай бұрын
@@deenad3562 Take your blinders off. This wasn't all about the boys father, in fact as a primary caregiver his relationship with his mother was likely more important at that moment.
@theresawolford9000
8 ай бұрын
@@delishme2Nobody said it was ALL ABOUT THE FATHER. SMH
@delishme2
8 ай бұрын
@@theresawolford9000 Are you mentally challenged ? Read the comment above mine. 🙄
@mrgringo7289
7 ай бұрын
And sedation lol...
@phdnursepractitioner
13 күн бұрын
Little Philip responded immediately to the word love, to cuddles, to being allowed to speak about the things he needs in his 6-year-old world. Children respond to love and affection!
@AvreeL89
14 күн бұрын
Some people are not suited to be parents and some children are just very difficult.
@jjgems5909
2 жыл бұрын
I feel like his mother deep down cares. I mean she agreed to seek help. That’s a start. I see her smiling as she was watching her son play. Parenting is not easy. I hope she got the help she and her son need. And hopefully her marriage as well.
@lemonstealinghorsdoeuvre
2 жыл бұрын
I'd argue the evidence you give supports the idea of the mother caring about her appearance. When she was smiling, it looked like relief that the kid saw the parents as loving and showed people that. Did she care? I think so. Was she more selfish than caring? I can definitely see it being possible. Was she more focused on herself when she was under stress? After the kids description of the birds he painted, I'd say likely. Is there a second appearance of the blobfish? Yep 25:54
@helenacorreia7613
2 жыл бұрын
@@lemonstealinghorsdoeuvre Selfish or not selfish, self focused or self conscious, what matters is that the channel she has with the child works such as providing love, assertive communication, limits, etc.
@lemonstealinghorsdoeuvre
2 жыл бұрын
@@helenacorreia7613 agreed
@rubydazzler
2 жыл бұрын
She was probably treated the same way by her parents. Very sad.
@robinluich6626
Жыл бұрын
Every child is an individual. It was an era when children were corrected.
@carolinadelgado349
2 жыл бұрын
The "you love me?" Broke my heart. 😭
@serendavies7375
2 жыл бұрын
😭 Me too, honey :(
@marinavasquez8813
2 жыл бұрын
😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
@karilynn8825
2 жыл бұрын
Poor thing. Hope he found the love he needed. He stopped what he was doing and questioned the doctor. Sad moment
@mariacazares80
2 жыл бұрын
HEARTBREAKING 💔 I HOPE HE GOT ALL THE LOVE HE DESERVES 🌻
@HealthHelpChat
Ай бұрын
To the father, his wife is his own mother, and he's vicariously punishing her for lack of attention and love. Deeply disturbing on multiple levels
@ovishen9523
2 ай бұрын
The change was tremendous and beautiful. The boy became a different person. In touch with his emotions, more calm.. it's just so moving. That's the power of love! 🙏
@foo_tube
11 күн бұрын
The teacher with the cigarette did mention that they used sedation on them
@farangisehsani592
2 жыл бұрын
This 60s psychologist is 100 years ahead of these so called modern psychologists.
@faithskoczylas6492
2 жыл бұрын
I don’t necessarily agree or disagree with this. I’m very curious as to why you think that?
@farangisehsani592
2 жыл бұрын
Many people become psychologists with out any love, or understanding of it. but this doctor is so keen and obviously loving what he does.
@Slazerable
Жыл бұрын
Also I believe there is too much pressure for easy solutions. Might not be the modern psychiatrist's issue.
@faithskoczylas6492
Жыл бұрын
@@farangisehsani592 Yes I definitely agree with this, as an aspiring child psychiatrist myself :)
@gracelessnesss
Жыл бұрын
Just for clarification, he is not a psychologist. He is a psychiatrist. Psychologists get doctorates in the science of psychology to become therapists. Psychiatrists are physicians who go to medical school and then concentrate in the treatment of mental disorders through medication alongside therapy. This difference could also be why you're impressed with him, he has had much more extensive training than a psychologist.
@charlotte5372
6 ай бұрын
The way one speaks to a child, becomes their inner voice.
@juliwang3751
2 ай бұрын
Very profound observation. I never thought of that.
@andreya9776
2 ай бұрын
Wow!
@janiceannecle8965
2 ай бұрын
That's so very true ....It took me decades to realise that it was my mother's voice in my head, always disapproving of me.
@CJ-ft9yo
15 күн бұрын
I love their soft low measured way of speaking in this era -much easier to listen too
@KainsFleshlight
Ай бұрын
I am going TO CRY .....AFTER THE DOCTOR SAID HE LOVED HIM ......THE EYE CONTACT .....
@rachelpayne8497
6 күн бұрын
That’s very sad and also disgusting at the same time
@KainsFleshlight
5 күн бұрын
@@rachelpayne8497 it is very sad .....and I think I know what you mean ..like disgusting as in..imagine if the doctor was being a perv and how simply this kid could prob be groomed ?
@MathGPT
7 ай бұрын
Man that psychiatrist immediately identified the mother as the problem and started working on her
@MargaritaMagdalena
6 ай бұрын
I wish someone had identified my paranoid schizophrenic mom as the problem when I was growing up. But they just focused on me.
@Byp-hh9vc
6 ай бұрын
The mother is the “problem”. How typical. Always blame women. WHERE is the father? HE is the problem the shrink can’t access, so blame the mother is the go to solution.
@MargaritaMagdalena
6 ай бұрын
@@Byp-hh9vc Good point.
@MathGPT
6 ай бұрын
@@Byp-hh9vc well back then fathers basically weren’t involved in their sons lives you need to understand the era
@FearfulMutt
6 ай бұрын
@@MathGPTWhich I think proves that person’s comment even further. Having a parent at home who is very little involved in their life as a child, can make children act out and do “bad” things for the attention of the parent neglecting them. Kids know doing something bad will always get a reaction and attention. It’s sad that some kids feel disconnected from a parent to turn to being violent and/or a bully.
@Jade12568
2 жыл бұрын
I just love that little boy's therapist. He is so sensitive, and so helpful for this child. I do hope that these sessions help him so as he grows, he is able to leave this behind.
@mariagonzalez4136
2 жыл бұрын
That little boy is about 61 years old if he is still alive.
@CrystalM1917
Жыл бұрын
Lol
@dawndoliber2663
Жыл бұрын
He is in prison now.
@orientacionvocacionalyestudios
Жыл бұрын
@@dawndoliber2663 que eres malo jajaja
@ntal5859
Жыл бұрын
@@dawndoliber2663 Running cell block D and has all his bitches in a row so he can punch them for getting ink on their hands, mind you his cell block is the cleanest in the whole prison system.
@LoveLightLiberty3
23 күн бұрын
This child lives in an abusive home and is admitting all the physical and emotional abuse happening
@DM-ym9jh
17 күн бұрын
When we adopted our son at 3 1/2, he was full of aggressiveness and hyperactivity. He would hit our other children just to get what he wanted. We did a lot of holding and praying. It took time, but he truly transformed. When he was older we changed his diet to a gluten free one. We never did meds with him. I was told by one psychologist that he was one of the most well adjusted adopted children she had seen. Glory to God! It’s not easy, but love and attention are so essential for every child.
@Don.tKillTheMessanger
Жыл бұрын
The mother seems cold and detached. Calling her own son "the child" is a major red flag.
@Alfred5555
Жыл бұрын
She sounded British to me, if this is the case, her phrase "the child" could just be a typical sarcastic tone. It is entirely normal and comical in Britain when speaking to children, say when they're being cheeky but playful, to start referring to them as "child", replying to their taunts with phrases such as "listen here child". It's a sarcastic way of joking about how in the situation they may of gotten the psychological upper hand, with a witty comment or joke, but that by reverting to a luddite style of speaking in nouns rather than proper verbiage, I am as an adult congratulating them admitting they have gotten the upper hand and made me look a fool, but that if we strip away our civilised façade I am the older, bigger, stronger participant and can with authority overrule them, that their quick wit wont save them from the natural order, and that while they've done well to master their sarcasm, they should respect their elders when employing it. The same thought process is on display but in a more matured stage, when the younger would use the phrase "old man" when speaking to someone who is old age and past it, but has similarly taunted them with a sarcastic remark.
@alexxxO_O
Жыл бұрын
@@Alfred5555 foolish comment
@norahfitzcharles1957
Жыл бұрын
She is the parent who sought help- she owned up to her failures. Blaming the mother is a very simplistic approach to complicated family dynamics.
@Don.tKillTheMessanger
Жыл бұрын
@Norah Fitzcharles I'm not "blaming" her for anything. Like all things in life, the back story is complex. I was merely making an observation. After all, she is the only person there. If I could observe the father, no doubt I'd be critical of him also.
@THEHORSELOVER235
Жыл бұрын
Disassociation, probably suffer from some sort of trauma and abuse.
@cpg8000
2 жыл бұрын
The therapist is very good. I don’t think the mother really enjoys being a mother which is at the root of his misbehavior. His misbehavior functions as a way to keep his mother involved with him.
@shelleyoxenhorn833
2 жыл бұрын
Mother is focused on herself: "there's something that makes you feel like a failure." Bad behavior may be an attempt to get mother to focus on the child.
@melgrl8858
2 жыл бұрын
And what about the father ?
@LeventeCzelnai
2 жыл бұрын
@@shelleyoxenhorn833 well, if it were the only "project" in your life and it failed, you would feel similar as her. and if on top of that she had inferiority complex, than it makes even more sense.
@nadjak3410
2 жыл бұрын
@@shelleyoxenhorn833 I know it's easy to look down upon her but has anything changed today? Mothers are still under enormous pressure and I know a lot of them who routinely ask themselves those self-centered questions of "Do people think I'm a bad mother and a failure?" despite having their kids best interest at heart. It's hard to shun other people's opinions when it comes to emotionally loaded topics of family and raising children.
@Kshipss
2 жыл бұрын
Well it shouldn't be her burden. Where is the father?
@martolomew956
Ай бұрын
That mother is so cold, its no wonder her kid was like that
@miriamgourley6278
8 ай бұрын
This therapist is so amazing, especially for the 60s. He's so sweet with "the child". The mother was just like my mother. No love, no affection, only screaming and abuse. I thought every family was like this 😢
@wingnut71
8 ай бұрын
Sorry to hear that you felt unloved. My folks were a bit like that too, no hugs ever. They were good parents in other ways but lacking in affection. Even now at 82 years old if try to hug them they tense up and get embarrassed. Grandparents were the same. I mean I knew they loved us kids, but they just never said it or showed it. I remember one day my Aunt (not a blood relative) hugged me for some reason. I kinda just froze and thought "this is weird" but maybe that was because I never really liked her that much. Anyway, I try to do better with my daughters because I realise now how important it is for kids to know they are loved.
@BlackJack-sx1jw
8 ай бұрын
I don’t know. I have to say the therapist kind of creeped me out. He kept invading the boy’s personal space and getting way too close. I think the boy probably suffered from ADHD.
@theodorcosminvoicu9240
8 ай бұрын
Similar , in a way, but we can't blame them as they didn't have when they were babies!
@ZosiaSamosiaOo
8 ай бұрын
I thought that's the way they spoke at the time. I actually thought the mother was a good mother for seeking help and taking advice so well. The therapist is brilliant, I wonder who he was.
@BlackJack-sx1jw
8 ай бұрын
@@ZosiaSamosiaOo Actors, I’m thinking.
@boomtao
3 ай бұрын
Let's give the mother credit for her humility and willingness to take responsibility and her commitment to do anything for the boy's future.
@Ingi-Natura-Renovatur-Integra
2 ай бұрын
She's projecting her past on the boys present. It'll impact his future. You're clueless. Please don't have kids yet.
@rakrega
2 ай бұрын
I don’t think the mother asked for help voluntarily. I think she was ‘forced’ to accept any help, because otherwise Philipe would’ve been expelled from school. For sure she ‘s not the type who would be cheerful about that outcome. Home schooling Philipe or sending him to a special school would only made her feel more like a loser. My guess, she just had to take the advice of his teachers.
@scottblack7182
2 ай бұрын
I have a feeling what she should have done for his future was leave her husband .
@HonestlyHolistic
2 ай бұрын
To me it seemed like it was very painful for her to even admit
@ms.gordon3802
2 ай бұрын
Let’s also wonder why the father isn’t there to take any responsibility. It’s sad how the parent that shows up is the one that’s solely blamed.
@amandaquesenberry4637
17 күн бұрын
The boy had never been told “I love you”….EVERY psychopath or murderer has had a tumultuous relationship with their mom….NOT ENOUGH LOVE…..I will never forget psychology class & everything it taught me…..you can really mess a child up when they are small by not showing love, abandonment, shaming….its deeply rooted in all of us…IF we experienced any of those negative emotions & feelings at such a young age…..has life long effects…..you can literally make or break someone just based off childhood trauma or lack there of…..😢 kids who didn’t have trauma flourish in life…..visa versa 😢
@Success4u247
Ай бұрын
When she says “ THIS CHILD “ Is very telling.
@jessicakorubo2807
Жыл бұрын
His mother is emotionally distant from her child, so he fights other kids and disobeys authority to get attention since he's getting little from his parents. Hence, the curious interest on his face when he asks the doctor, "do you love me?"
@jillianlea9690
Жыл бұрын
That is what they want you to believe . ..that was the faulty idea of psychology at that time ...but I'm sure she feels on gaurd with all these men . Her child is special needs .
@VioletJoy
Жыл бұрын
@@jillianlea9690I can't make sense of your comment.
@VioletJoy
Жыл бұрын
His little face when he asked if the therapist loved him. 💔😥💔 He clearly was not getting his emotional needs met at home. His mother is cold as ice.
@HollyMurphy3
8 ай бұрын
@@VioletJoybecause her husband was unsupportive and boys are more difficult. Stop blaming women.
@VioletJoy
8 ай бұрын
@@HollyMurphy3 It's simply not true that boys are more difficult. He wasn't getting his needs met from either parent. Your bias toward women is showing. This is about the child, not the mother being a victim.
@noraramos3798
8 ай бұрын
This doctor is so kind and affectionate; so gentle with this angry little boy. This was so touching. It’s clear Phillip is missing out on basic affection and gentle loving and tender care. So sad!
@michaelfornell4467
7 ай бұрын
That wa very disturbing. That guy was way to close ti that little boy. He's definitely a perv.
@user-dw2xu2pf7w
7 ай бұрын
@@michaelfornell4467 Did you miss the entire point of the video?? The child was missing affection so he addressed that issue perfectly and helped him. I hope you don't have any children because they will turn out just like Philippe. A man showing affection to a child is perverted??? You're an imbecile.
@highmay3590
7 ай бұрын
@@michaelfornell4467why is hugging and holding a young child inherently sexual? He didn’t have a healthy experience of parental love, so it seems like the psych was trying to show by example what love feels like. children NEED to be held and loved for neurological development.
@springsummerwinterorfall
7 ай бұрын
He gets paid to be gentle and affectionate it’s part of the manipulative. Actions with the doctor is taking.
@angelemeana2754
7 ай бұрын
Please don’t make sexual jokes or advances or swear God wouldn’t like that and there are children here May God bless you and your family and help you Give your life to Jesus Christ and repent. I pray that God will lead on the path to Jesus Christ and send the Holy Spirit to be your helper. I pray this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ I pray Amen! Jesus Christ loves you. Give your life to Jesus Christ and ask for forgiveness for ALL OF YOUR SINS. Even the ones committed in the past and repent. He’s coming soon. Please pray and repent. GOD IS ALPHA AND OMEGA!!! THE BEGINNING AND THE END!!! GOD SENT HIS SON DOWN TO DIE ON THE CROSS FOR OUR SINS. PLEASE GIVE YOUR LIFE TO HIM!!! PRAY AND REPENT AND GOD IS COMING!!!!!! THERE IS NO TIME. FELLOW CHRISTIANS GOD WILL BE COMING DON’T LOSE FAITH!!! PLEASE!! PRAY FOR STRENGTH AND DON’T DOUBT HIM!!! Romans 10:9 “That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved.” Romans 10:10 “For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.” 2 Peter 3:1-18 “1 This second epistle, beloved, I now write unto you; in both which I stir up your pure minds by way of remembrance: 2 That ye may be mindful of the words which were spoken before by the holy prophets, and of the commandment of us the apostles of the Lord and Saviour: 3 Knowing this first, that there shall come in the last days scoffers, walking after their own lusts, 4 And saying, Where is the promise of his coming? for since the fathers fell asleep, all things continue as they were from the beginning of the creation. 5 For this they willingly are ignorant of, that by the word of God the heavens were of old, and the earth standing out of the water and in the water: 6 Whereby the world that then was, being overflowed with water, perished: 7 But the heavens and the earth, which are now, by the same word are kept in store, reserved unto fire against the day of judgment and perdition of ungodly men. 8 But, beloved, be not ignorant of this one thing, that one day is with the Lord as a thousand years, and a thousand years as one day. 9 The Lord is not slack concerning his promise, as some men count slackness; but is longsuffering to us-ward, not willing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance. 10 But the day of the Lord will come as a thief in the night; in the which the heavens shall pass away with a great noise, and the elements shall melt with fervent heat, the earth also and the works that are therein shall be burned up. 11 Seeing then that all these things shall be dissolved, what manner of persons ought ye to be in all holy conversation and godliness, 12 Looking for and hasting unto the coming of the day of God, wherein the heavens being on fire shall be dissolved, and the elements shall melt with fervent heat? 13 Nevertheless we, according to his promise, look for new heavens and a new earth, wherein dwelleth righteousness. 14 Wherefore, beloved, seeing that ye look for such things, be diligent that ye may be found of him in peace, without spot, and blameless. 15 And account that the longsuffering of our Lord is salvation; even as our beloved brother Paul also according to the wisdom given unto him hath written unto you; 16 As also in all his epistles, speaking in them of these things; in which are some things hard to be understood, which they that are unlearned and unstable wrest, as they do also the other scriptures, unto their own destruction. 17 Ye therefore, beloved, seeing ye know these things before, beware lest ye also, being led away with the error of the wicked, fall from your own stedfastness. 18 But grow in grace, and in the knowledge of our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ. To him be glory both now and for ever. Amen.” concerning his promise, as some men count slackness; but is longsuffering to us-ward, not willing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance. 10 But the day of the Lord will come as a thief in the night; in the which the heavens shall pass away with a great noise, and the elements shall melt with fervent heat, the earth also and the works that are therein shall be burned up. 11 Seeing then that all these things shall be dissolved, what manner of persons ought ye to be in all holy conversation and godliness, 12 Looking for and hasting unto the coming of the day of God, wherein the heavens being on fire shall be dissolved, and the elements shall melt with fervent heat? 13 Nevertheless we, according to his promise, look for new heavens and a new earth, wherein dwelleth righteousness. 14 Wherefore, beloved, seeing that ye look for such things, be diligent that ye may be found of him in peace, without spot, and blameless. 15 And account that the longsuffering of our Lord is salvation; even as our beloved brother Paul also according to the wisdom given unto him hath written unto you; 16 As also in all his epistles, speaking in them of these things; in which are some things hard to be understood, which they that are unlearned and unstable wrest, as they do also the other scriptures, unto their own destruction. 17 Ye therefore, beloved, seeing ye know these things before, beware lest ye also, being led away with the error of the wicked, fall from your own stedfastness. GOD JESUS CHRIST AND THE HY SPIRIT IS ALPHA AND OMEGA!! 18 But grow in grace, and in the knowledge of our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ. To him be glory both now and for ever. Amen.” GOD, JESUS CHRIST, AND THE HOLY SPIRIT IS ALPHA AND OMEGA.l
@donnellehall6093
17 күн бұрын
1964 -one aggressive child in one class. 2024 - at least one aggressive child in every class.
@fabiennejauncey9746
17 күн бұрын
There’s more than that now 2024 , with all the autistic children , the ADHD children and the Trans children and the children who identify as animals in the same class !! So it’s much much worse now . Teachers aren’t allowed to discipline anyone, if one child throws a tantrum or has a violent episode, the teachers have to vacate the class with all the other kids , leaving the problem child alone in class until he comes down . Hence disrupting the whole class curriculum , for all the other children. The Minority seems to control the majority !! This isn’t normal snd it shows , as our children are awfully behind in academia , no writing skill , no reading skills , their knowledge has been dictated by the disruptive few !!! Doesn’t happen in private schools . But not EVERYONE can afford private school . Time to stop mixing the disruptive children with children who want to learn . Separate classes , and different teachers ! The Majority of regular kids are suffering bc the minority call the shots . Not acceptable!
@cheryl71000
2 ай бұрын
He is a very intelligent little boy, he knows his father and mother do not get on. That his father beats his mother, and then she beats him. Child needs one percent discipline and 99 percent lovingkindness. To know he is loved . As a child he cant leave home, he has to put up with it, he knows no other way. He is a clever a little boy, he knows the problem is the parents.
@jogordon1530
2 ай бұрын
There was a whole generation of kids who grew up without fathers/mothers, abusive and alcoholic parents, narcissistic parents and most of us were beat when we were disciplined! And guess what? The majority of us grew up just fine, raised families and busted our asses working for a living!
@cindyj5522
Ай бұрын
And you have what legitimate research to back those incredible claims up?@@jogordon1530
@arlenehalpenny9472
8 ай бұрын
We owned our own preschool for 45 years. Each child was given a warm hug when entering their classroom each morning. Hugs were always welcome throughout the day.
@katrinaglanville3612
8 ай бұрын
that sounds so lovely! You aren't even allowed to comfort a hurt child today - it is heartbreaking.
@nanipanini
8 ай бұрын
why on earth wouldnt you be allowed to comfort a hurt child today?@@katrinaglanville3612
@DSDaly
8 ай бұрын
@@katrinaglanville3612at my kids' school they are absolutely allowed to comfort them. it's a small private school though. My oldest just started public school so I'm not sure of the difference yet. I'm sure they are allowed to offer some comfort. Maybe not physical (I'm not sure) but definitely with words.
@user-oo8ei4lj6s
8 ай бұрын
Today the child enters, the teachers not even greeting.
@katrinaglanville3612
8 ай бұрын
are you in the UK? A friend of mine who ran a nursery for 40 years, told me recently how things used to be.They could kiss children's knees better, if they had a fall but not anymore! If a child needs a plaster put on, they have to phone a parent for permission!@@DSDaly
@dyllansimpson4909
Ай бұрын
That kid comes off as highly intelligent. It's as if he's just missing a different kind of mentor to guide him.
@nomaddaemon3967
23 күн бұрын
Wow. The poor kid lit up when he heard he might be loved. Very sad, however, the parents are just dealing with the issue As they were taught. Great doctor, illustrating that the child needs affection.
@robbietrout6316
2 жыл бұрын
All that little boy needs is someone to hug him and tell him they love him.The way he reacted when the the therapist said he loved him.smh he acted surprised that anyone could love him.The problem Was the parents not the child
@sakuranovaryan9261
2 жыл бұрын
I imagine no one ever said that to him...I feel so sorry
@onthesecondhand3551
2 жыл бұрын
Finally someone says "parents" not mother only!
@WhisperedDelightsASMR
2 жыл бұрын
And the way he calmed down after being held… I have no idea how this was recommended to me but I’m glad it was. Very interesting.
@LLLL-jq4ix
3 ай бұрын
Heartbreaking to hear the parents would punish him for feeling sad, when he is only feeling sad because the parents are fighting
@aljosapogrcin8769
19 күн бұрын
Only time he has with parrents is when they correct him. So this is the way he learned to communicate. Only way for him
@1otterlover
15 күн бұрын
The psychologist who showed affection to Phillip reminded me of Mr. Rogers. He even had the same way of speaking to Phillip.
@Voyager23B
2 жыл бұрын
I am impressed with the professional knowledge and skill of the therapist. He is an excellent orator who explains his points concretely, and all the while engaging the parent in thought-provoking conversation.
@Essenceofbeauty-
Жыл бұрын
Yes, this was very good. It helped me learn.
@sickbastard151
Жыл бұрын
i agree that. greetings from the Netherlands
@mccartyzoe
8 ай бұрын
People are saying the mom is closed and cold. Buts she’s open and honest and she’s willing to participate in all of this. Such a good episode. I think she just didn’t know better.
@Bowie_E
8 ай бұрын
That's a really good way of seeing things and I'm glad you pointed this out.
@sharontinsen334
8 ай бұрын
I agree, she was trying and trying to learn to correct behaviors. Not one sign of the dad trying here.
@MD-gw4rk
8 ай бұрын
Well, here's what's going on and it happens today, It's domestic violence, the father is beating the wife. The child is showing that the alligator is his father, he's showing how dad loves on mom but turns into a beast. The child wants love from the father ...the doctor is what the child wants because he affectionate, the mother is angry at the father and taking it out on the child because she sees the father in the boy.
@SpicyGramCracker
8 ай бұрын
She’s very vulnerable. And clearly never felt safe herself as a child.
@MD-gw4rk
8 ай бұрын
@@SpicyGramCracker That child is going to grow up beating on his own wife. The father is not present in this scenario, where's the father?? He's absent. This is a good example of why children need a loving FATHER in the home. If we can recognize domestic violence, we can stop the cycle of it. BUT the cycle continues til this day.
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