Leave she clearly doesn't care about you the same way you care about her
@animefangirlj6073
4 ай бұрын
I agree run op
@Munchkinnn.
3 ай бұрын
Frfr
@robertb9321
3 ай бұрын
Agree
@uniquleyinhuman309
4 ай бұрын
Nta. Once you cool down, you guys should have a serious talk about this and decide if you want this relationship
@electricalfenc3
4 ай бұрын
I like this response. Instead of just leaving her straight out, calm down first. 👍
@edwardjohnson4172
3 ай бұрын
How does that work when she won't talk to him.
@ericanguy1
3 ай бұрын
Talk about what exactly? Her actions already spoke for her.
@justpassingby2932
4 ай бұрын
she sounds like she's immature and clearly doesn't appreciate someone who cares abt her doing kind things for her... judging by her reaction to the confrontation i doubt anything would change in the future
@angelinunu
4 ай бұрын
NTA. It's okay if she really can't afford a gift, but if she can do it with everyone except her BOYFRIEND, then she clearly doesn't appreciate what you do for her as much.
@charzemc
4 ай бұрын
Walk away man, her actions speak volumes, considering she decided to attack you instead of apologizing.
@luzkelley4234
4 ай бұрын
Yeah! well done Some People will use you Just because you are nice.
@atlasVor
4 ай бұрын
Good sir, please run.
@heatherward5053
4 ай бұрын
That’s gaslighting!! She’s good and damn well you wasn’t fussing about her having friends. Changing your words and the subject with one statement
@Aaron-qe9ms
4 ай бұрын
Absolutely NTA. You should be with someone that reciprocates your feelings and doesn't see you as optional. Baring that, you should at minimum stop getting her gifts. She'll notice really quickly, and either apologize or she'll expose her hypocrisy even more. Godspeed sir!
@OneWeekRainisu
4 ай бұрын
I was in a relationship like this recently, spent nearly $100 on him, he gloated to others about his gift. He bought me $9 shoes. No socks. Just shoes. Then when my friend gave me a gift that was an illustration book of my favorite book series. He complained to my friend about how I owned too much from the books and it was clutter. We broke up shortly after Christmas.
@legendarybubbles4567
4 ай бұрын
You know, they were right about one thing, the space needed decluttering- Glad you took out the trash! Didn’t need a garbage person like that in your life. Hope you continue reading books, and enjoying what you love! Books filing space is one of my favorite aesthetics. 🤩📚
@mahek_art
4 ай бұрын
OMG! I spilled water all over me. I'm still cracking up and my parents are sleeping in the room besides mine, so it's one of those silent laughs, LOLOLOLOLOL.@@legendarybubbles4567
@dannikamidgley
4 ай бұрын
That's gaslighting
@avres13
4 ай бұрын
You’re just an accessory for her
@avisbizzle9460
4 ай бұрын
Ok, you see the problem, Soooo are you gonna stay in it. If you do then it's on you Valentine's day would have been my cue that she don't give a shit. RUN !!!!!! She is about material thing's.
@bossman13666
4 ай бұрын
But the guy is the one upset over material things like gifts. My gift was spending a wonderful time with her and hers was bath n body works. Like people want different things and I value affection and acknowledgment over any material thing. Fuck I was literally beeming with joy when she bought me a monster energy drink. Get your priorities straight.
@leogachi-
4 ай бұрын
@@bossman13666when your partner makes it clear that they enjoy giving gifts to the people they value in their lives you're allowed to feel hurt and disregarded if they never get one for you. Gift exchange is obviously important to the op and his gf, but it seems like the gf doesn't care for op enough to get him a gift while she gifts everyone else in her life
@fast9963
4 ай бұрын
@@bossman13666you have low self esteem that’s on you, not everyone wants to be in a one sided relationship lmfao
@Mcc_obsessedfreak
2 ай бұрын
@@fast9963 exactly!
@kscanlan5442
4 ай бұрын
Leave...she's not that into you!
@AGuyLol1
4 ай бұрын
He is being used and the gifts could be given to her friends.
@tovemagnussen4423
4 ай бұрын
NTA! Drop her!
@justaperson8385
4 ай бұрын
Good she should feel bad
@joshhobs9257
4 ай бұрын
Likely she doesn't really think you'll stay and holds on to her friends in case that is the case or she's just using you and taking the money she has to do as she pleases cuz you'd always let it slide thinking you didn't want anything anyway.
@NighDarke
4 ай бұрын
She's using you dude. Stop buying her stuff and paying for her and watch how long it takes her to whine about it.
@IsildursBaneOfExistence
3 ай бұрын
Nta. She’s just abusing the “controlling boyfriend” card to get what she wants and not reciprocate those feelings with gifts in return. She’s just attempting to guilt trip you into doing whatever she wants
@1nk_edd
4 ай бұрын
ya the usage of false equivalencies to guilt trip someone into backing down about a complain is textbook manipulation tactics red flag
@hotbread1004
4 ай бұрын
He is literally not the asshole. She literally does nothing for him and takes all the stuff he does for her then goes off to hang out with friends, shes like definitely fucking someone else
@annecyarchibald3640
4 ай бұрын
this hits way too hard. i think i’m going to end my relationship with my girlfriend for the same reasons. she didn’t get me anything for christmas and i understand because she’s going through hard times. we were supposed to do things for valentines day but she wasn’t even able to see me at all. i understand her situation, but i don’t think it’s fair for any one to be in a relationship with someone who doesn’t reciprocate anything when they continue to give and give. i even got her flowers and a gift, but she can’t even make time to see me. i just want someone to give to me as much as i give to them. in literally any love language. i’m just so tired of giving with nothing in return
@Ro-chan1
4 ай бұрын
remember bud, relationship is supposed to be two-way thing, both should receive and give. If they put more effort on someone else other than family and work, may it be time or gifts. Run. In today's world there's more people whl take advantage of others in the pretence of "relationship" but never really contribute to the said relationship.
@StormAxels
4 ай бұрын
The cake in the background looks so good
@andii.e2081
4 ай бұрын
Sounds like he should b leaving leaving
@Alexander31290
3 ай бұрын
If someone has made it pretty d@mn clear through action or inaction that they don't care about you on the same level that you care about them then it might be time to end the relationship
@Get_Grimmed
4 ай бұрын
My gf is obviously wrong and is an ah I raised concerns like an adult She threw a juvenile tantrum AITA? No you are not love
@friedchickeniszesty
4 ай бұрын
lol
@mckellwolf3389
3 ай бұрын
Valentine's is for couples, NOT friends.
@LauraFunFunFloweries
3 ай бұрын
Sounds like my husband & I; I buy him presents, here & there/bday/anniversary, & he buys me nothing. The last present he bought me was books in, 2014 for my bday, that I was buying for myself, but he offered to pay.
@elliee219
3 ай бұрын
She’s a gaslighter “Am I not allowed to have friends?” Run. Run as fast as you can.
@owljoe5890
4 ай бұрын
This is how my last relationship ended
@YouDoNotKnowWhoIAm
4 ай бұрын
I wouldn't want to stay with someone who receives but never or rarely gives
@emilyevans7642
4 ай бұрын
Nope i would have been upset too and called her out as valentine's day is supposed to be relationship especially your partner.
@VergilTheLegendaryDarkSlayer
4 күн бұрын
NTA She's using you as a meal ticket and those "friends" are likely her other boyfriend
@karasiutakasiu8298
3 ай бұрын
If you made her feel bad, that means that she knows what she did. She just doesn't want to admit. She knew that you were getting her something, but she purposefully did get you something. Either this relationship needs a long talk or a break up because she doesn't care about you the same why that you do
@Pipers_Version
3 ай бұрын
Just don’t give her something next holiday.
@k.a.89
3 ай бұрын
He made her feel bad because she did an effed-up thing. The reason she was so angry was because she knew she was wrong and went on the defensive. It was Valentine's Day! Her boyfriend should've come first, but she was too busy playing with her friends to even think about him. She knew, or at least should've known, that her boyfriend who had gotten her presents for Christmas, was going to get her something for Valentine's Day. And even if she didn't, maybe VDay would've been a good time to pay him back...?
@lookup6207
3 ай бұрын
Sorry you are dealing with this. Don’t settle. Find someone who reciprocates your enthusiasm for the relationship.
@ConorCondor
4 ай бұрын
Nta, while I think he didn't handle it in the best way, the fact that in the end she made it all about herself really shows how cares less about the relationship. Sure they sould talk, but with people like that, you rather just get away, they're not worth it and in most cases never change.
@validanonymous3954
4 ай бұрын
Wow she's really gaslighting him
@Imamotherfreakingavocado
3 ай бұрын
NTA, it's obvious that you're not a priority at all
@Max12753
4 ай бұрын
This seem like a red flag. Get in a gift for your family and not for your partner it fine,but get in a gift for your friend and not for your partner is not okay.
@cheshirerose2001
4 ай бұрын
NTA! Don’t get my wrong I love my friends very much but at the end of the day my boyfriend comes first and if she can’t prioritize you she’s not worth having then
@Ro-chan1
4 ай бұрын
bruh the fact that she was thinking more about her friends... leave. run. This is just a one way relationship which shouldn't be for an intimate one is supposed to be two way
@badpokemonplayer3380
3 ай бұрын
This story reminds me of a personal experience, where i spent (and this is the actual price) $356 on a Aizawa body pillow for my gf, who broke up with me because i was to affectionate. We are still great friends and now her mom has since stolen the pillow for herself, but christ, all that money down the drain. I also spent $40 on a movie date.
@silvermoon2281
3 ай бұрын
“I got them gifts because they said they’d be getting ones for me” 😶 Yeah, the priorities are pretty obvious here.
@kathylutz5461
4 ай бұрын
You ought to walk away now while you're not into deep, she's not worth it. She's self-centered and a self-proposed queen😂
@patriciatoomingtheplantpar2558
4 ай бұрын
Oh man, if thats not a malignant narcissist, nobody is! My last Ole' man did almost the same thing...see ya!
@madmouse1016
4 ай бұрын
Id say I'm in a similar situation, but not really- my partner lives in a different state and job opportunities for them are low, the job they have doesn't pay much and so the most they can do is wat until they have enough saved to purchase a one way ticket to the state I live in. I'll end up sending them gifts and they always feel awful because they can't afford to get me anything, which I say is fine, I don't even mind not getting a card. I remember even last year around the start of December, I had sent their Christmas present early in case of delays. Watching them open it, they ended up getting so overwhelmed they started crying, saying how they don't deserve any of it because they can't get me anything- which I reassured them that it was fine because I just like getting them things. Gift giving tends to be my love language, when there's something I just know theyll love I can't help myself. Honestly, I really don't need more stuff until I finally give in and get rid of some things 😂 so in the meantime I'd rather be the only one giving gifts.
@rennywomanlucifer
3 ай бұрын
While she definitely likes to gas light you and change the subject.
@kambatgirl5305
3 ай бұрын
No leave her NOW before it gets worse
@princessgalaxsis9728
4 ай бұрын
Its sad how good people like you are stuck with person that dont care about them,but themselves
@Prettylittlebasilplant
3 ай бұрын
In any good, balanced relationship with mutual respect, both partners need to be getting something out of it. It sounds like she’s getting everything out of it, and you’re getting nothing. She does not respect you. Red flag, it’s time to re-assess your relationship.
@amirfarooq8369
4 ай бұрын
It's not valentines It's galentines
@Andy01833
4 ай бұрын
Find a new girlfriend! This one is a taker…
@notsoanonymous5786
4 ай бұрын
NTA the love is one sided
@phantomgray9196
3 ай бұрын
NTA... thats a grade S narcissist
@QuillStroke
3 ай бұрын
That's the kind of woman that makes the rest of us look bad. I'm always giving things when I can to my bf, he does the same, if she doesn't give and only takes, she's the kind of girlfriend who is going to keep doing that.
@earacloud1878
3 ай бұрын
She shouldn't have to give her bf anything if she doesn't want to. I don't see the big deal. It seems like she doesn't like getting his gifts.
@GretgorPooper
4 ай бұрын
NTA for real. She's clearly not into you, she should just admit it instead of continuing to be with you just to reap the benefits. Also, her strawman argument was pathetic. "hur dur so i can't have friends'.
@essieK97
4 ай бұрын
Yeah. Leave her
@hellokittyandcinamarollplays
2 ай бұрын
She is prob cheating
@sirletanedd1771
4 ай бұрын
Let it go bro. She doesnt value you at all.
@glamgirl5212
4 ай бұрын
Nta people like this absolutely suck and i wish i would have taken that hint in my last relationship. He made a big fuss over how you shouldn't have 1 day to do something nice for your significant other but be doing things all the time for them, he didn't btw and didn't do anything for me for valentine's day that year at all. However, he bought his work friend, an older female with a boyfriend and kids about his age, a big bad of sour patch kids. I was upset and brought it up to him, but i got swept under the rug. Please leave this person now that she's shown her true colors. I wish i would have, but im in a happy relationship soon to be marriage now.
@cintaminbunny
3 ай бұрын
Its time to break up. She clearly doesn't consider you very much in her life while you're serious about her. She also put words in your mouth by trying to make it seem like you were being controlling and trying to stop her from seeing her friends. You two don't have equal feelings.
@sfocus9406
4 ай бұрын
instand broke up
@UnnamedHumanOnEarth
4 ай бұрын
Yikes she got really defensive.
@sleepybirdcitrine501
3 ай бұрын
Nope, OP is not the bad apple at all.
@saramccormack3025
4 ай бұрын
I think its time 2 acknowledge that this relationship isn't workin 4 u. Break up n find a girl who reciprocate ur feelings n makes an effort in the relationship.
@JayNich96
3 ай бұрын
Not the A hole. If she’s constantly giving to other people and always come up with an excuse of why she cannot give to you while you’re giving to her, as you should, you are not her top priority, so don’t make her your top priority. Break up.
@youandmeh3410
13 күн бұрын
stop giving her gifts make her feel what it feels like
@Jonthekiller9
3 ай бұрын
Honestly sounds like you’re being taken for a ride
@Jay_dbl
4 ай бұрын
Leave her bruh she doesn't even care Abt u
@dontworrydehappy7104
3 ай бұрын
NTA - you should come first
@grimm8402
4 ай бұрын
You should get out. Cause that's the one side of relationship, bro. And you're not happy.
@nishiruma
4 ай бұрын
Break up with her already damn
@Motta474
2 ай бұрын
Is… is she like actually serious? She buys gifts for her friends on Valentines Day, but it’s literally a day for you and your significant other. NTA, and dump her
@LuckyMommy0710
4 ай бұрын
Let her go
@leslieteafatiller3607
4 ай бұрын
She is a gold digger
@KelliDee23
3 ай бұрын
Nope; NTAH!!! Get out now while you can!!!
@da_real_one
Ай бұрын
when i finally do have a bf i will never act this way to him. i will make him feel appreciated (if he does the same to me) and even if he doesn’t i won’t just be mean and bratty and a selfish spoiled brat. i have made a vow. ntah btw
@melodyqueen1223
4 ай бұрын
Ok, so she definitely should have gotten you a card or smth. The issue is that for alot of girls, or at least me and my friends, valentines day is acc galentines day for most of our lifes. Yr definitely nta tho
@why_all_the_username_taken
3 ай бұрын
she is
@appiemohamud2721
2 ай бұрын
Dang wait so is the person making the vid a she or he
@Ladyinrosered
4 ай бұрын
No but you guys do need therapy❤
@Dolshadow
3 ай бұрын
No, you're not
@user-ve8fw3mi7e
4 ай бұрын
Break up
@TheChanelcupcake
4 ай бұрын
Shes still your girlfriend??
@princesslaiya__
2 ай бұрын
Nah leave her
@liadmirr4460
3 ай бұрын
No
@imgabiireyes
4 ай бұрын
just because you buy something for someone doesn’t mean they have to buy something for you. it’s a gift not a trade.
@Nyx_But_Mortal
Ай бұрын
“You made me feel bad” Idk maybe you’re actually supposed to feel bad about being a shit person?
@requiemagent3014
4 ай бұрын
Pretty typical women moment. I would say she behaves out of the ordinary but this really isnt the case. She doesn't appreciate OP and takes him for granted. She also has a very high opinion of herself. Again pretty standard these days. OP should just leave her. This is going to get progressively worse. Not better.
@Kochablusta
4 ай бұрын
Currently in a 8 month old relationship, dated 5 years ago for about 3 months in high school. I’ve had a crush on this girl for 7 years she’s gotten me one gift when I’ve gotten her many never once’s have I felt jealous or betrayed for not receiving something. When being with someone I think it’s best not to always expect something in return, she understands me very well and knows I don’t need or want material things. I enjoy just spending time with her and that’s better than anything she could have ever bought me. I guess I’m just trying to say is womp womp stop crying losers. L P.s. story is real I’m a big simp
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