Hi guyss, sorry for the low quality vids 😭imma try to up my production value (??) soon, just been busy with schoolwork n stuff (and finals that are coming up 💀) but anyways enjoy !!
@word-w4c
5 ай бұрын
your videos are always so comforting, thank you sm!!
@winkle_twinkle
5 ай бұрын
Could you please provide the name of the book?
@CHADMicDUP
5 ай бұрын
your quality is superb! far better than my webcam 🤣 btw are you using ai to assist in your edits or straight editing software?
@peterarbeitsloser1746
Ай бұрын
@@winkle_twinkle Its called "The Mysterious Benedict Society" i read, and loved it when i was a kid. (Hope you mean that book lol)
@Coldwheat660
5 ай бұрын
I think the existence of pretty privilege is the result of our own behavior toward looks , social media is obviously a big reason for this , when you're scrolling everyday for hours you'll unconsciously care more about the way you look and be more insecure for sure, and it's all normal considering the impact of the repetitive videos about pretty privilege , you unconsciously just get those messages "good-looking people have more friends, higher chances in relationships, are treated better , are more confident......" and you'll start to waste a big amount of time, effort and even money to fit in the beauty standards, well , the halo effect exists but it's our responsibility to let pretty privilege manipulate our lives, I get you point about "women are more concerned about looks than men " and I agree at some level, since masculinity isn't about looks but about other things like strength, courage etc... , I can relate to you at some point, like I didn't care about the way I look when I was younger but I was more "rich" as a person, like being the kid who's "good with electronics and video games, academically smart, good goalkeeper,good at drawing...." like I had my own interests and features and people had their unique colors too, but currently it's different , I stopped using social media (except KZitem) a long time ago and I'm much better now , but I think even if it's not affecting me directly, it still has an indirect impact on my life , my surroundings are all affected by social media and I can't remember the last time I had a good conversation or a real experience with them , like their interests and talks are all about clothes, hairstyles and topics that are trendy in tiktok ... it's really annoying tbh , so what I think about looks is , your style is a way to express yourself , and your personality, but when you're obsessed with looks, you spend all your time trying to fit in the beauty standards trying to express your self as a person while you spend no time in building and being yourself, it's like designing a cover for a book with no content. Thanks for the interesting video btw :)
@ScapeGO4T
5 ай бұрын
this is so accurate. after reflecting on myself before and after using social media alot changed. Right now I have my socials deactivated, because I want to be happy like before again.
@someiggashit8654
5 ай бұрын
Tbh true, even without social media u have such thoughts. Why? Well let’s use the person who uploaded this video as an example. Few weeks ago she uploaded a video on how she is single, now frm this she must be wondering why. She searches for answers and boom she runs into beauty topic and then she all she think for now will be beauty or am I good enough. Also even without social media the world and people will still be insecure cause it’s not social media makin itself bad but the people who use it. So this basically shows that people will make anything hard or bad. It’s just human nature. What to do to avoid this mental exhaustion by thinking so much? The ans I think is social isolation or by being you no matter how hard it is.
@adrianna.christina
5 ай бұрын
This ate !!
@Coldwheat660
5 ай бұрын
@someiggashit8654 well, you're not totally wrong, I agree that everyone will always try to look better , and it's normal , humans naturally have the desire to attract the other gender because of the survival instinct, it's okay to have that desire, but what is not okay is making that the purpose of your life , here multiple factors come into play, like social media and being bullied by family and "friends", social media breaks your confidence and ruin your mind, no matter where you look, people are always good looking, actors are good looking, famous athletes are good looking and people are being treated in a good way just because they're good looking, almost no one brings a bad looking person in his advertisement,not to mention the amount of plastic surgery performed by celebrities, it's just a repetitive message that gets ingrained in your subconscious "you must look good " , and i think this is what creates the "pretty privilege " , sure , there're more factors pushing it , and sure, the pretty privilege will always exist with or without social media, but not as much as it is currently. Of course, social media isn't bad by itself, its impact on the world is the result of how people are using it ,and the internet in general will always be a dark place, a place where people express feelings and say things they can't express In real life, they judge other people who don't meet their own extreme standards, and you'll always find extreme opinions and thoughts in the internet, and that's a result for several factors but that's not our topic. When you spend too much time on the internet you're unconsciously affected by all those thoughts and standards, and it affects the way you think for sure, and that leads to an extreme and unreasonable solutions or just leads to another complex problems , you've said you think that social isolation can be considered as a solution ,personally,I don't think so , but I respect others people's opinions and reasoning, and I'm aware that there're always different angles to a problem, I think that a conversation with you can lead to an interesting conclusion, that's why I'll ask you to go off social media for a week and do some outdoors activities during this week then rethinking this problem, I believe this method allows our brains to refresh and function differently in a good way of course, if you think that this experience worth your week then reply after a week, if not I'll be happy to hear what you have to say. Thanks for letting me get a new perspective.
@someiggashit8654
5 ай бұрын
@@Coldwheat660 oh lmao I haven’t used social media for 4yrs lmao, yeah we could have a good conversation if we went all out but KZitem keeps shadow banning my comments so yikes lmao but we should talk more abt these things. Also by social isolation I meat that sedating yourslef from people or things u disagree aka black sheep. So you can be yourself and know the “different path” instead of the main unchanged path people seem to follow. Example; Let’s say if you grow up with people who have a linear way of thinking such as they believe and preach that women are witches lmao (1600 era sheet) but then there is one person who doesn’t believe that and goes against these people cause they feel this is wrong( So they are technically indirectly socially isolating themselves by going against the majority ). One more goofy example, Luffy wouldn’t be FREE if he always listened to others, his brain socially isolated himself which makes him “HIM”. Last point if the person who uploaded this video makes a discord Chanel, we can discuss such topics all day. I like to know everyone’s point on how they see the world even though it will end up with each of us disagreeing with each other Xd.
@JonahNelson7
5 ай бұрын
Yeah, focusing so much on looks takes anyone down because it's so egocentric. Anything egocentric comes before a fall; thinking about yourself and misery are the same thing. Like look at animals, at no point are they thinking about themselves (they don't even know what self is), and they are clearly so much happier for it. All we can do as people is focus outward, serve humanity, and good things will come
@JonahNelson7
5 ай бұрын
And like you tend to allude to, kids. Kids are barely self-conscious, and it's obvious that that lends itself to just being okay. There's no point seeing us as individuals, look outward
@sub-fivessurvival
5 ай бұрын
As an Asian Man, I've been rejected by every Asian Girl for a taller and often White guy because they are conventionally more attractive. The pretty privilege is real.
@AhidoMikaro
5 ай бұрын
You sure there wasn't a single other reason?
@kingdoge69
5 ай бұрын
@@AhidoMikaro Probably not. There is data out there that shows how common white male and Asian female relationships there are. You don’t even need data to know this, it’s kind of already known in Asian communities. I’m not Asian, but I’ve heard many stories of Asian moms telling their daughters to go for white guys, and Asian guys telling stories about how all or most of their Asian female relatives are dating white males.
@CHADMicDUP
5 ай бұрын
you guys really think white males are *more attractive?! i've heard this before - it's hard to relate to *until* you hear about it - would never have thought . . . i'm sorry ; / i don't think the same at all - love asian pacific peoples films, culture, food, climate, history & people - so much! so rich!
@sub-fivessurvival
5 ай бұрын
@@CHADMicDUP They are, meanwhile K-Pop is all artificial. Finding an attractive "Asian" guy is rare unless he is half Caucasian and even so they are still conventionally shorter their pure blooded European counterpart.
@serenitysubs933
5 ай бұрын
@@AhidoMikaro fetishisation is real
@ambusherlol2740
5 ай бұрын
My experience of pretty privilege as a guy: 1. No matter how nice the personality/ other qualities of the girl is, I do not make romantic advances unless I am physically attracted (is it the same for girls?) . 2. I act a bit different when pretty girls talk to me (flustered?). 3. It only bothers me when girls actively try to take advantage of being pretty, ex: acting cute just to cut in line, acting cute to get favorable treatment (idk why, it just makes me uncomfortable).
@someiggashit8654
5 ай бұрын
Most of you questions can be answered by just know one ez fact lmao, That girls are just the same as guys only different things abt us are out G E N T A L S S. Cocky people will be cocky and nice people will be nice. Girls and guys nowadays complain that opposite people only care abt how cute I am but deep down even they know they would reject someone who they don’t find attractive Xd. Most of us as humans are shallow
@Melancholymadness62
5 ай бұрын
Take care man, I also posses ticks to almost every boxes of conventional beauty set by the society. As an attractive guy, I've had some awful really bad experiences. Once me and my friend was talking at a pub, there was this two girls constantly trying to hit us. Later when I was so drunk and drowsy, these girls taken advantage of me. Jeez I can't think of that, I was woke up by seeing.... Letting you to imagine rest of the stuffs happened there. This was happened inside a public transport. An old man aging around 50+ sitting aside me shamelessly grabbed my private part. It's the day I realised, how traumatic sexual assualt can be. Being a male, I was succumbed to forget it without informing it to the cops. I believe attractive or unattractive comes in cost of disadvantages as well. Meanwhile ofc being attractive is still better than being invisible for the world forever.
@Ponyo_020
5 ай бұрын
@@Melancholymadness62why it’s always mid aged and old men 😭hope u are better now
@Kurz-v5w
5 ай бұрын
As a girl that has grown up in Asian household i feel like even as a kid jokes and comments abt our body is normalized which is toxic as hell like i remember aunties joking abt my lips when I was 6 and then relatives saying i had a disease coz i was too skinny at 9??wtf and then as i grew up and yk acne and weight gain tehy started fat shaming me like u will never be pretyy in their standards but at the same time you'd always see someone pretty to idealize which is sad coz i feel like as teens we alr have so much more to worry abt but pretty privilege is so obvious that unconsciously we drift towards making ourselves pretyy
@user-nh1sb3wk3y
5 ай бұрын
its a constant battle balancing between well maintained and presentable and spending all your time and effort on fitting beauty standards
@pinkballetslippers
5 ай бұрын
As a Vancouverite, the sky is pretty blue out here.
@harsheh
5 ай бұрын
vancouverian sounds better.
@pinkballetslippers
5 ай бұрын
@@harsheh 😭
@swankyhabi
5 ай бұрын
ur so real ngl "mysterious cumberbatch" was the cutest thing ever😭😭
@gachamisty3827
4 ай бұрын
There is a guy who is a 10 year old conveniently attractive chinese boy who got away with being a violent rapist. They would always justify his behavior by saying "Oh he is just a kind and sweet boy" "Oh he is just a cute boy". I am so done with society.
@bissycream
3 ай бұрын
Oh wow that’s horrible. Is there any way I could learn more about this?
@feitantherapist9271
2 ай бұрын
10 year old??
@LewisLeePhotography
5 ай бұрын
From the perspective of a 32 year old male, I definitely agree that looks matter and beauty privileges exist. But I wanted to acknowledge your other point and highlight how much it matters for your self esteem. The fact that having other things to pursue and care about and focusing on those not only can help one to focus less on just looks, but can also bring a stronger sense of self and thus more building blocks of self confidence. If you have something you’re passionate and knowledgeable about, you’ll have something more than just looks that you can be proud and happy of.
@Jessi-44
4 ай бұрын
Pretty privilege exists and it is very much a double edged sword. Especially for women. When you’re a conventionally attractive woman, men treat you like you’re incapable of anything. When you’re not conventionally attractive, you have to work harder in the world of men.
@afrofaeries
5 ай бұрын
I’m autistic so usually people see women who have autism as the Manic Pixie Dream Girl to their “I can fix her” guys (not all of them to clarify) and it’s….annoying to say the least. On the other hand, working out and taking walks have helped my weight loss a lot. Also doing dance routines to your favorite songs. ❤
@Xixihahahehe
5 ай бұрын
The thing about losing weight is so true, just a few months ago I weighed around 125ish at 5’6, and the people at my school legit pretended to like me because I was ‘fat’ (I have also been called fat by other students but it never really bothered me). I won’t lie, the whole ‘pretending to like me because I’m fat’ shit did really stain my mental health and I lost a few pounds, my face is a lot more slim and the kids started to leave me alone and treat me better. Idk if it’s completely related to me losing weight or it’s just them going away because I didn’t give a shit about them but either it still sucks ass. People have began to be nicer to me though, been getting compliments lately. Don’t know whether I should be happy or be disappointed. Thanks for making these videos, they help me understand myself a lot.
@Niloillustrations
5 ай бұрын
I really like how you discuss both perspectives! I think think it’s important to consider our own preconceived biases and assumptions in thinking that all pretty people are like “this” or “that” it’s really refreshing to see someone on the internet not try to categorize people or make over generalizations! Thanks for sharing!
@Jarvis_d.s
5 ай бұрын
Being pretty on the inside is the real privilege kid 😇🕉️
@Neon-o4e
3 ай бұрын
Even as a man, I've experienced the way pretty girls are treated on some level. Had this beautiful girl that should've considered modeling at one of my jobs with insane RBF that turned out to have a very warm smile and was genuinely a nice person. I didn't even try to impress her or go out of my way to talk to her, I just greeted her and sometimes asked her how her day was. Problem is, pretty girls damn near constantly have their guard up because people are more often than not either trying to get in their pants or underestimate them and only think their looks are all they have to offer. It causes them to be somewhat cold at first and others mistake this for them being shallow or conceded.
@Day2NoLean
5 ай бұрын
I'm black and I used to do the thin lips thing in the mirror too because I got teased about the size of my lips 😅
@xxursolovelyxxX
5 ай бұрын
i know this wasnt the point but i was also so addicted to the mysterious benedict society series as a kid!!! TWINSSS
@AclimaAlternate
5 ай бұрын
Always have mixed opinions about a pretty girl talking about pretty privilege, but I think you do make some really good points here.
@yush4673
5 ай бұрын
I think sometimes the definition of beauty can appear very shallow from the perspective of a man hearing women speak on it. This is probably going to sound corny but the character and personality of a girl is the only thing that has truly drawn out my heart to love a girl. Looks will get my attention but if I find you to be someone who is stupid or has weak character you are below the level of a girl I don't find physically attractive at all.
@AhidoMikaro
5 ай бұрын
The book is Invisible Planets by Ken Liu, for anyone else that was trying to read the title.
@rzh3518
5 ай бұрын
Hey so, I’ve been following/subbed to you for 2months + and even commented long comments on your channel before, the point I wanna lyk is that I’m glad ur growing both in speaking about interesting and relatable takes on topics that are more real, as well as channel wise. just wanted to say that ur doing amazing, so rly just go at ur own pace, there will always be people that care about you. (This comment is addressed to u btw) u rly gained my strong support lol. As a guy that is younger, 17, it feels like I’m talking/listening to an older close friend who also knows those topics and like shares with us. Idk what else to add on, but I can say the in terms of benefit for you is maybe reflections or knowing yourself and what you know better. I dunno I’m prob yapping.
@IanV777
5 ай бұрын
I’m Filipino American and considered to be physically good looking which I thank god and my parents for. Because I grew up overweight and had external influences that were not good for me my mental health was pretty negative and low vibrational. It taught me overtime that your internal state will always reflect to your external reality and physical being. As a kid all my friends were multicultural so the idea of race did not really mean anything I just saw them as people. Up until college and frat life. I’m not saying I’m the greatest looking guy, but I will say I have enough to get certain jobs done easier and people treat me with more respect compared to when I was out of shape and had the roody poo mindset. I can only imagine what good looking women go through lol. If there’s anything Id tell anyone, it’s that you should be working on your self as a human being in all aspects. Regardless if you’re conventionally attractive or not, you’ll become attractive if that makes sense.
@alexaviafara.888
5 ай бұрын
i would really like to have a friend like you. You seem really chill and wise.
@Thesmashconnoisseur
5 ай бұрын
I really respect Cole for disregarding this online chatter and doing something that’s really tough and they didn’t even really have beef
@Jay71k
5 ай бұрын
I don’t think I’ve ever seriously thought about this since I’m a guy and I don’t think it matters as much so this video made me reflect a bit, basically my view on this for guys is that because most men don’t care what other men think of their looks, they focus more on where they expect women to rank them in comparison to other guys. In other words the vast majority of women are going to be interested in the same top 20% of guys, and so the bottom 80% that pretty much don’t have a shot are less and less likely to care about their looks at all as they rank further down on the conventionally attractive scale, and try to make up for what they lack in looks with personality. I’m pretty average looking and have gotten a pretty average amount of attention from girls throughout my life so I think for most guys it’s just a matter of making the best of what you have to work with, or making yourself valuable in another aspect. Most guys that are a 5/10 are aware that the 8+/10 women probably won’t want anything to with them, but their confidence will increase if they’re making a few hundred thousand a year.
@marvnch
5 ай бұрын
Kinda hit a point with guys not really caring about other guys' perception of their looks. I've been improving myself and I'm personally pretty happy with how I look, but I want to just ask some girls how they honestly think... Though I guess with gym-oriented people guys enjoy showing off their muscles to other guys, lol
@JIELI-lp8wd
5 ай бұрын
As a uni student in Shenzhen, I don't agree that most of students focus on their appearance prior to their grades. I think students in china pay too much attention in their study not their habit which is a rabbit hole
@mattvigurs6945
5 ай бұрын
I get how people treat people differently based on the way they look. I acknowledge. What you mention is applicable to guys too. Did you know 'pretty privilege' has caveats? Many 'classically-attractive' girls complain; -They attract people who're only interested in their looks -More likely to not be taken seriously for feeling lonely (too many guys think; 'she’s pretty, she has no excuse') -Not getting approached/having guys talk you (due to many guys assuming being shallow, judgemental (assumption too many guys are approaching) & have too many options) These are major cause of loneliness You're quite right that not all classically pretty girls are shallow and dumb.I've met a fare few pretty girls who're lonely for the reasons you mention & for reasons mentioned above. Being overlooked & awkward at high school. Many folks have had that experience. Hope this helps You seem really sweet and humble
@chadvagbuster6580
5 ай бұрын
I wouldn't know I am 6'6 235lbs 12% bf handsome and fluent in 3 languages but I never leave the house so I can't give my two cents
@nelyyisoppy6509
5 ай бұрын
This topic get's often over used , but ultimately it is a real psychological fact .
@amia_sora
5 ай бұрын
I like what you say and i like the chicken.
@eustaquiozambrano2974
5 ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing girl. Have a nice day. ❤
@night_xylo
5 ай бұрын
I don't have social media...I don't care about about how I look much...and I've only known the single life...is that why I'm depressed all the time? XD I think all of your points are pretty accurate. As kids, we tend to not care about how we look. As we get older we're taught to put more effort into our looks (some more so than others) from outside means. I also think that the people/culture we grow up with influences who we're attracted to at least physically (to some degree) which becomes more refined in, like, our 20s (my hypothesis). To add to the topic of how some people caring more about their looks, I have a male coworker who seems really into his presentation (colone, fashion, hair, etc.) And he seems to care a lot about it...even though he's already has a girlfriend. Compared to me, who only looks at "am I presentable? Do I not look bad/look okay?" I don't try to "maximize" how I look or smell. As long as I don't smell bad or nothing is off, that's all I need. And he was constantly telling/suggesting me different things regarding my outfit, lack of colone use, wanting to change up my hair style (I have dreads), and being more (basically) extroverted to increase my chances of getting a girlfriend...and I took a few of the suggestions, but overall...it's just not me. I would be changing who I am and how I act and that would drain my social battery way to much and I'll crash (which will ironically end up being the opposite of his goal). To add to the hobby bit, it tends to feel like that same coworker doesn't have a lot of hobbies (yugioh, fashion, cars...)compared to me, (card games, games in general, anime, drawing, hiking, music, fanfiction...), which honestly is an interesting thing you pointed out.
@Janxiv91
5 ай бұрын
I believe you're a combined with 'Pretty and Smart' because you talked about this kind of stuff.
@Jarvis_d.s
5 ай бұрын
Well in us boys more than looks it’s our skills that gets us felt like that :) so yeah I get you gal .
@siegfreidx1633
2 ай бұрын
your room looks so cozy
@samihakhondoker2456
3 ай бұрын
you ae naturally super pretty
@Jarvis_d.s
5 ай бұрын
Not all relationships are dopamine hits , there are some serotonin happy buds too alright .
@sulije
5 ай бұрын
Pretty privilege is real in every single part of the world and in every single thing. Prettier people have easier opportunites at success, like modeling, just because of their face and body. Streaming, being a youtuber, especially attractive women. Attractive guys can do it too but it takes more, like being really funny, instead of only just attractive. Pretty privilege is real everywhere.
@Jarvis_d.s
5 ай бұрын
Beauty is a beautiful curse :)
@AhidoMikaro
5 ай бұрын
Maybe you became more conscious of your looks once you started to care about what others think of you, as you think more of them? Especially when becoming sexually active. Young people will often get a bit too extreme, not just girls, boys too. The hope is everyone will outgrow the extremes, though. You became more adult, more socially aware. At the end of the day, it is not just society pushing you in some way, you yourself decided you want to find a certain space for yourself in that society. Maybe you neglected reading more books, but you simple were pursuing a different kind of value at the time. It has its positives, and its negatives. Sure, social media might make some of the negatives express even more strongly, but let's not forget before social media there was simple social life. You talk about finding a balance, that sounds good.
@Newjeans5752
5 ай бұрын
Plss try to do a video with a ghibli vibes you know, hope you try make a video like that😅❤
@augustgirl2905
5 ай бұрын
FR. Never seen a lonely pretty girl
@Maxywaxychickenpaxy
5 ай бұрын
its unfair..🙂↕️
@user-nh1sb3wk3y
5 ай бұрын
chicken
@Jarvis_d.s
5 ай бұрын
After hearing the waiter thing … I’m sorry have nothing else to say .
@Sophia-ic6ry
5 ай бұрын
❤
@loveamara.
5 ай бұрын
first❤
@jaeminok8544
5 ай бұрын
DUNDUN!!!
@Mezzacorona550
5 ай бұрын
First 🥇
@uunknownuserr
5 ай бұрын
if ur not attractive what am i😭☠️
@yummydougie
5 ай бұрын
Dun Dun the chicken
@yummydougie
5 ай бұрын
I saw the chicken which reminded me to do my 62 day steak in to Duolingo 💀
@EvictJr
5 ай бұрын
Lol, you sad chaps make this a whole lot easier.
@stilliiiiiii
5 ай бұрын
Try hard at 14 is a little too real 💀
@NB-lx6gz
5 ай бұрын
UUghh spreek je dus Nederlands? :D
@T7d534
5 ай бұрын
Huhh serieuess haha zou wel grappig zijn
@goldengamingmonster7401
5 ай бұрын
don't take this the wrong way but all the stuff on your channel is so serious, I feel like u should lossen up a bit. Do like a vlog or something. Just a suggestion. Too much serious talk provides imbalance to one's character.
@MusicGirl1096
5 ай бұрын
if the inspiration hits it hits. but don't worry too much about what others want you to make . just do what you wanna do
@Jarvis_d.s
5 ай бұрын
Sure half your subcrisers have subscribed coz you’re a pretty privilege:)
@durr2740
5 ай бұрын
bro just how many comments do u have in this video 😭
@Jarvis_d.s
5 ай бұрын
@@durr2740 😅just being real durr :)
@Melancholymadness62
5 ай бұрын
@@durr2740Hahaha lad trying so hard to impress her lol.
@siege8467
5 ай бұрын
No they subbed cuz female privilege not pretty
@yummydougie
5 ай бұрын
@Melancholymadness62 she does got pretty privilege though 💀
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