Sadly my brother is a misogynist. You describe the type very well. I know that he was somehow shaped this way, but our father was a feminist. As a woman, I can’t interact with my brother anymore and he will never be able to understand why.
@MichelleHell
Күн бұрын
If you want a good "gotcha" argument, point out the facts. If we tally up, throughout history, the amount of male-on-male violence, it far out weighs male-on-female violence, female-on-male violence and female-on-female violence. Thus, the people who hate men the most are none other than men themselves. Here's a good challenge to pose to your mysoginist brother: be an activist to end male-on-male violence. See how much of his life it takes up to speak with other men to convince them to be less violent towards each other. I grew up as a boy and transitioned because I hated being a men among men. One of the talking points mysognists have is that men do all the warfare and "protecting". This logic is flawed when analyzed through the lense of gender based violence. Men's solution to equality is violence towards women rather than peace towards men. This exposes them as being all around violent and lacking sorely needed social skills, making them weak men who can't control their emotions and behaviors.
@Khaegch-favh
11 сағат бұрын
Yep, mine parades as a feminist but corners me every holiday to sxualy harass me. Just to remind me how much he actually secretly h8s women but resents having to keep it pinned up. He wants to punish me because I'm a women who he can't manipulate but also I'm not married so he knows no man will stick up for a woman who is free spirited or who has integrated her masculine and feminine.
@kiriki4558
56 минут бұрын
Let him be. He is digging the hole and will try to bury you before him if you try to reason with him. I can guarantee that he got it from gamers and Internet in general.
@sunnymountainhoneyfountain
2 күн бұрын
Stoicism is definitely not about being cold and detached from one’s emotions. It’s about living a virtuous and balanced life. It’s therefore crucial to have the ability to be kind and empathetic, to be able to put selfish desires aside so that one may truly love and act for the common good of humanity. And accomplishing that state of living is in itself a pleasure and a freedom from suffering. Misogynistic "alpha males" know nothing of selfless virtue, they only know how to dominate and take. That said, I wholeheartedly agree with what you’re saying and appreciate the video. Thank you!
@kaylynnanson6231
2 күн бұрын
All of this! Redpillers are so inept at introspection that they misrepresent stoicism as cold and aloof.
@jokhard8137
23 сағат бұрын
I think it's a disservice to humanity that the word "stoic" has been hijacked to mean suppressing one's emotions and demonizing them (toxic masculinity, born of spiritual weakness), when historical Stoicism was anything but that. There's nothing stoic about denying your nature and waging an inner war with yourself. Isn't that supposed to be its antithesis, in fact? It's not _being in control_ of your emotions if you _subdue_ them. You're just letting them control you by your denial of them.
@rwdswght4057
2 күн бұрын
As my ex used to say, "you're too soft." Turns out the only men I like are soft men 😁🥰
@Poodle_Gun
2 күн бұрын
My little brother and I were very close growing up, and we both have a great attachment to our animi. He enjoys Pride and Prejudice, I like playing fighting games. He's always been successful with women. Has a wife and kids.
@katharsis5601
3 күн бұрын
beautifully laid out. i gained a deeper understanding thanks to you.
@amandasunshine2
2 күн бұрын
Personality traits aren't gendered. Just be a good, well rounded person.
@danielcrafter9349
Күн бұрын
True But they are perceived to be more likely in one or t'other gender That's the point I'm sorry this needs to be explained to you
@amandasunshine2
Күн бұрын
@@danielcrafter9349 lol what point do you think I'm trying to make here? You're not explaining anything to me. The patriarchy and perceiving these traits more as one gender or the other is harmful to everyone. I'm sorry you need this explained to you.
@EmmaJean-g3v
Күн бұрын
Carl jungs theory is a model of reality.
@amandasunshine2
Күн бұрын
@@EmmaJean-g3v how so? Cuz.. all the science that's been put out since kinda.. proves it wrong.
@EmmaJean-g3v
Күн бұрын
@@amandasunshine2 his theories cant be measured scientifically, they're metaphysical/non tangible/non newtonian
@EyesOpenLegsClosed
4 күн бұрын
Great analysis!
@reignrainstaytoday
4 күн бұрын
Would love to hear more about this but from the inverse. For example a man who's connected to his feminine but not his masculine side
@therapeuticaromatics
4 күн бұрын
I shall post a video about that this week. On the extreme end, it can lead to gynophobia.
@insaynt9924
3 күн бұрын
That usually goes into the reverse extreme, of being a self stalemate. The kind of guys that try a little too hard to be nice, Aren't assertive enough when there's obvious social cues, Keep giving into toxic situations, etc Kind of like how, extreme masculinity can become toxic, Being too feminine or soft can put you at the mercy of other toxic people. That's why maintaining the balance is important. You want to maintain a certain level of general self-awareness and confidence, But without overstepping obvious boundaries. This is also why it's important for women like myself to have a certain level of assertiveness, Because sometimes when we are trying to be a little too feminine, we end up surrendering all of our power to the wrong people, And just suffer because of it. And the truth is, the only people that are going to expect you to surrender all of your power, are probably not the kind of people you want to be around. So that's typically your first cue; If someone is easily put off every time you try to express yourself, that is a huge red flag you should try to avoid.
@theresaandrade5708
2 күн бұрын
Thanks! Unfortunately people with those types of issues aren't known exactly for being the types to seek personal growth or therapy. It's a problem because those types of attitudes are very destructive to us as a society. They are for the most part unconscious of their behaviour and sometimes they are also women who hate other women secretly or just a hater of some type.
@incisivecommenter5974
Күн бұрын
Its beyond me why you dont have 1000s of likes. This is whats happening to men at a spiritual level.
@kikijewell2967
Күн бұрын
It's a shame that Jung assigned traits to genders - and the proceeded to explain both genders have them. 🙃
@saras.2173
17 сағат бұрын
I am really looking forward to the video on animus rejection!
@crazylittlepartytifs
2 күн бұрын
Great video! It took me a long time to really see this in my own life because misogyny is embedded into women one way or another so you somehow wind up empathizing with someone who outright hates you and then doing as they do and neglecting your own emotions lol... I can see half the comments are from disgruntled dudes that have been called out but don’t seem to realize that’s why they’re triggered.
@therapeuticaromatics
2 күн бұрын
Yes I think I hit a little close to home for some haha. Sometimes we internalize hatred because it’s so imbedded into our society. I hope you’ve been able heal and are surrounded by people who are supportive and trustful.
@melissajon2011
2 күн бұрын
Well explained!
@ElenaSemanova
13 сағат бұрын
Thank you! This was super informative! I never thought of it from the Jungian anima/animus perspective
@MrRatMommy
4 күн бұрын
really nice and peaceful empowerment of the man to let happen to jim, what is naturally inside of him (non-violent!). I LOVE :)
@therapeuticaromatics
4 күн бұрын
So important for a man to be able to connect with his emotions, because in turn the love he shares with someone will be genuine and authentic 😄
@Charybdismoon
6 сағат бұрын
Phil Dunphy was kind of a sleazeball. He had massive wandering eyes for a good while there.
@Andi_andI
5 сағат бұрын
Good video, but the constant typos in the captions changing “anima” to “enema” had me 💀
@kikijewell2967
Күн бұрын
Quick feedback: clip your mic and let it do it's job. The sound was weak until you brought the mic closer when you gestured. Great video! Keep it up!🎉
@kikijewell2967
Күн бұрын
You can also reduce "ums" by stopping recording between your points. Also...er, edit your captions. 😉
@therapeuticaromatics
Күн бұрын
Thank you! I will work on this!
@sayusayme7729
19 сағат бұрын
Thank you, great explanation.
@gaia7240
4 күн бұрын
But why do they hate emotions? Why does this behavior afflict most men?
@therapeuticaromatics
4 күн бұрын
They consider emotions “feminine” and foreign, they do not accept he’ll reject anything he considers feminine as a danger to his masculinity. For women, they are already connected with their feminine so it’s a matter of whether they integrate their masculine qualities of project them.
@gaia7240
4 күн бұрын
@@therapeuticaromatics why this focus on being 100% masculine? I don't want to be insistent or anything, just I don't get were it comes from, ok they want also to look better then the other men because they want their approval, but why not wanting the approval of of women also? I sometimes joke their obsession with men seems gay but might be actually be?
@dovahkiin2
4 күн бұрын
@@gaia7240 its not that they hate emotion, its just that they have different emotions and less negative ones. In cases where women start to cry, complain or get hysterical men get angry or dont feel much at all. What you mean by "emotions" is for the most part the open display of helplessness, for women showing weakness is a good strategy because people care. But for men its the opposite, not only no one cares how they feel, people get actively repelled by such a man. Also it destroys the mens self image if he allows himself to be a bitch in front of others.
@dovahkiin2
4 күн бұрын
@@gaia7240 Men dont hate emotions, but they have it different than women. In a cases where women would get sad or start complain men tend to get angry or feel nothing instead. Also men get punished for showing weakness very hard not only by other men but by women as well. Nobody care about their feelings, so it doesnt make sense to entertain them. Evolutionarily Women only utilise negative emotion to such an extent, because people actually care about their wellbeing.
@l.5832
4 күн бұрын
In the case of my now ex-husband, his father was cruel. He was physically abusive and taunted my husband and wanted to 'toughen him up'. I think he bottled up a lot of the rage he had towards his father, plus he somewhat envied his father's lack of nurturing and kindness, thinking that was the quality of a 'man'. I think he also really despised his mother who DID display the feminine qualities and also was unwilling/unable to protect him from his father. So his role model was an unfeeling bully who had all the power. His 'nurturing' mother was 'weak' and he certainly knew what happened to you if you were weak......
@ThaoBui-bd6un
4 күн бұрын
Nice message but work a little on the scripting and delivery to make it a bit more concise without ums and pauses that are a bit too long. Though if this was made all in one take as a quick thing I understand. 👍
@therapeuticaromatics
4 күн бұрын
Thank you for the feedback! It’s definitely something I will work on!
@poyitha21
6 сағат бұрын
So mature and humble!❤@@therapeuticaromatics
@l.5832
4 күн бұрын
I think this is what basically broke up our marriage.
@StayFlowForTheSoul
2 күн бұрын
Wow that makes sense now , thank you
@thelotus3
Күн бұрын
Makes me wonder what happens when a guy has an easy time integrating their feminine but not their masculine on the equivalent inverse of this video
@christinapaterno5585
Күн бұрын
They wouldn’t be able to assert themselves, would be way overly effeminate, they’d have trouble being logical and may be overly emotional, etc….
@therapeuticaromatics
22 сағат бұрын
If a man identifies with his anima from a young age he ends up 💅🧚
@ElenaSemanova
13 сағат бұрын
Please, make a video about animus rejection for women as well, this is very interesting
@WildAntics13
8 минут бұрын
😂 the funny part! Men will get into their anima nature once they get old!! While the women will tend to lean on to the opposite! You will see men becomes softer as they age ! Its like when pencil is not as strong as it is before men will tend to be looking for someone to take care of them rather than taking care of someone! Thats why this old folks then to gravitate to younger women as they age older!
@Lyrielonwind
4 күн бұрын
What a messes up world we live in.
@outis918
Күн бұрын
Feminine protest basically
@rwdswght4057
2 күн бұрын
Can you talk about Animus rejection? Granted that seems a lot less prevalent
@lynnferry291
4 күн бұрын
You pretty much just summed up the "manosphere."
@TheLastMimzie
10 сағат бұрын
I been SAYING
@Mrsgmuller73
2 күн бұрын
Do it on animus rejection, pls?
@spdnb
3 күн бұрын
So this is how straight men see the world...Interesting. I guess then "male" and "female" in the modern social sense relate more closely to a lot of these jungian concepts than the person themself. Or is the fact that they are named after the birth sexes part of the issue? Like: since someone is female, they're expected to embody all traditional female characteristics.
@therapeuticaromatics
2 күн бұрын
Right so society has certain gender expectations. We are born with masculine and feminine qualities (in the archetypal sense). We end suppressing some of the qualities we associate with the other gender (we do this to with social morals and that would be your shadow).
@spdnb
2 күн бұрын
@@therapeuticaromatics Oh! Okay. I didn't know if this underlying assumption was at the base of the info in the video. I mean, in the grand scheme of things related to any jungian work, much less referring to anything related to the anima or animus, it seems obvious. Although, it's surprising how many people go into Carl Jung's work without keeping the social expectation of suppressing one's "opposed" traits in mind. It actually kinda sucks how people are seemingly encouraged not to be fully integrated. I mean, I know they aren't literally encouraged, but the nuance between being a male with integrated anima and a male who is "like a female" is lost on a child. Crazy as it sounds to us (what with having seen both men with integrated anima and "femmy men" with unintegrated anima), I kinda wish adults understood that it's hard for a kid to understand or grasp. Maybe, focus more on that integration first before harping on the whole gender thing.
@sapnapandey5922
4 күн бұрын
❤
@prschuster
3 күн бұрын
Andrew Tate, and his followers, would be a good example of this. You are overgeneralizing the manosphere though. That's too broad a term. "Red pill" maybe be a better word for what you're descibing.
@therapeuticaromatics
3 күн бұрын
Yes definitely, I think Carl Jung would have a field day with that.
@puddin12dt
2 күн бұрын
💎💎💎💎💎
@Eighteen19
2 күн бұрын
Good video…
@00samira00
3 күн бұрын
Andrew Tate 😂
@wintermatherne2524
Сағат бұрын
What a bunch of beta misandrist bs.🤣😂🤣
@jokhard8137
4 күн бұрын
I think a lot of misogyny is explained by un-tempered men taking women's words at face value (as they would do with a fellow man because it makes sense from a male perspective) and then being disappointed with the results, not realizing that a woman's relationship with the Universe is totally different from a man's so her mode of living must be totally different too. Thus, they fail to see how from an intuitive standpoint there's no benefit to a woman to have her word be her bond -- that's a masculine virtue, not a feminine one. Thus, the energies don't match, they compete. Good takes, though you might be giving grifters' words too much credence because ultimately hateful people will find excuses to hate people instead of working on themselves. There's no need to dignify such simple truths with overly complex responses, even if it ticked all the right boxes. Example: You don't need to categorize people as "narcissistic" just because they treat you poorly as a result of not respecting you. Sometimes they can just be a-holes. Good talking points. Glad to see a fellow man getting it.
@jackdeniston6150
4 күн бұрын
You mean women lie
@bobrobert1123
3 күн бұрын
Women do the same shit
@nomoreraisins
3 күн бұрын
That first paragraph is rather weird, and not true about women. If a woman is not meaning what she is saying it is most likely because she feels threatened and is trying to not set off an aggressive reaction towards her. And women growing up in such conditions are very much likely to say what men want to hear instead of the truth. Secure women's word can be taken at face value, i promise you that.
@jokhard8137
2 күн бұрын
@@nomoreraisins Should men expect women to be truthful and factual, then?
@bobrobert1123
2 күн бұрын
@@nomoreraisins feminist nonsense, women also lie to manipulate, avoid responsibility and gain other advantages. Don't be a simp.
@amyapplegate4356
2 күн бұрын
Terrible audio
@adriantepesut
Күн бұрын
Anima or no anima, men and women have conflicting wills greater than the conflict between wills inherently found between individuals of the same sex, and post-scarcity leads to a situation where women are able to impose their will in a way incompatible with the very civilizations that initially afforded them the freedom to do so. Misogyny is simply accepting that women, no matter how well intentioned, cannot be your friend for the same reason it would be unreasonable, ironically even more selfish, to expect you to fight for your enemy at your own expense The more rigidly defined our differences are, the more room we have to appreciate where we are compatible instead of trying to pretend we are somehow equal or ever able to achieve any meaningful, mutually beneficial harmony I am less resentful of women accepting they are inevitably my enemy than pretending they should or would care about me
@obscureanalyst
4 күн бұрын
What do women who reject the masculine look like?
@prschuster
3 күн бұрын
Good question. I think they would be super feminine trad-wives, who judge men by their financial status alone, thinking men are meant to be walking ATM machines. They may also be the ones who see men/masculinity as the sole cause of war and violence (toxic masculinity). They are like the flip side of extremely macho men. There is both misogyny and misandry in the world, but misandry is not recognized as much in the media, and it's easier to get away with making hateful comments about men.
@audy2174
3 күн бұрын
It'll look like holding politeness and extreme feminine beauty standards above their own wellbeing. Like going out of their way to deliberately not assert themselves or take up space, even pretending they don't know something they know, so that someone else can do it for them. Interaction-wise with other women, it'll be like avoiding or changing the topic away from anything intellectual/worldly towards topics of children, make-up/clothing, housecare, shaming other women for not having children or for not shaving their legs/underarms. "Act like a lady" talk, so rejecting gauche/awkwardness (gotta be graceful at all times) rejecting social faux pas, and your tastes have to be aesthetically and socially prioritized rather than prioritizing functionality.
@prschuster
2 күн бұрын
They may be a trad wife. They may also reject anything masculine as "toxic masculinity".
@thetruther954
Күн бұрын
A woman can triangulate the same way a man can. One might argue she's not "showing up" as a woman. I really can't tell, she shows up for me. "This will translate into him straight up hating and being afraid of women". Uh, uh, straight up, so you say. Sounds pretty gay.
@MotocrossElf
Күн бұрын
Try not to shake your head so much when you talk. It's very distracting.
@artemsergeev3730
4 күн бұрын
Why? Why a we even talking about men "hating" women, while it became cultural norm for women to hate men?! This is so hypocritical!
@yusraaa4221
3 күн бұрын
You are incredibly self-centered
@eerokuopio7350
3 күн бұрын
stop the hate
@therapeuticaromatics
3 күн бұрын
Do you feel it is the norm for women to hate men? Ask yourself why you feel this why. Most women don't hate men. This video is on a particular neurosis based on decades of research by Carl Jung.
@ss-ds2dn
3 күн бұрын
Blame your algorithm. Statistics and history paint a different story on who hates who
@SeraYagami
3 күн бұрын
I think you've been living under a rock. Go out into the world and see who's harming who in the majority. Men hating women is whatever he explained. Women hating men is only a reaction to men's hatred towards women. If men stop, the women will automatically stop as well.
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