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@jennifers5560
Күн бұрын
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@dianelipson5420
Күн бұрын
Thank you so much for the special excellence with which you produce content. It’s really gratifying and fun to watch. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
@lowbrass.spirit206
Күн бұрын
Lovely video! I'm a bit confused why a little trans girl is featured in your thumbnail? (themcleodfamily, Diana is openly trans)
@Familylawgroup
Күн бұрын
The product sounds interesting but the free plan only gives you 100 note cards and 10 uploads. I would likely use that up in trying to reset one project. The other prices are really high for what it is offering but I will watch to see if their structure changes because it does look very interesting.
@RPdyke
18 сағат бұрын
Because transphobia exists and they get comments asking why their "son" wears dresses. The whole reason why people don't want boys in dresses is because they're afraid he'll become a trans girl. That's why it's important to feature trans girls!@@lowbrass.spirit206
@desperatefortuneproduction3296
Күн бұрын
I turned 20 in 1977 and wore 70's print shirts, floral ties and flares. At 67 yrs old I get infuriated by the depressingly drab state of menswear departments. A couple of summers ago I wrote to Marks & Spencer and suggested someone wake the designers up. I feel male-bodied people are compelled to wander around in a constant state of funereal dullness.
@WatashiMachineFullCycle
Күн бұрын
Right!!! I'm a tailor by trade and I love looking at high fashion - men's fashion overall has gotten so freaking boring. At least in the 90s there was some remnant of that 80s camp and colour, but post 2000 all your clothing looks the same. I don't just want kids to be free to wear whatever they want without shame, I want y'all to be free to browse whatever clothing section you want and get your sense of style back! It's gotta be stifling as hell.
@pjaypender1009
Күн бұрын
Or you could just shop in the other department. Junior sizes (odd numbered women's sizes) are generally cut so they will fit assigned male bodies.
@SirThopas3
22 сағат бұрын
Not just fashion. There seems to be an increasing obsession to perceive anything too comfortable or visually interesting as too feminine for men. Sleeping with a pillow? GIRLY! Wearing a jacket when its cold? WHAT ARE YOU, A DELICATE GIRL? Your birthday is in spring or summer? YOUR ASTROLOGICAL SIGN IS GIRL! REAL MEN ARE BORN IN THE COLD, DRAB WINTER MONTHS! These are all things I've seen with my own two eyeballs as being too "feminine"
@Imbatmn57
21 сағат бұрын
Yeah i feel like designers are deathly afraid of putting men in actually different clothing.
@desperatefortuneproduction3296
17 сағат бұрын
@@pjaypender1009 Yep. I mostly look in both departments and often buy trousers and sometimes tops because of the brighter colours and softer/lighter fabrics. I'm heat intolerant and find a lot of male stuff too heavy. I feel most people don't actually notice any difference in appearance anyway.
@marianneshepherd6286
Күн бұрын
Someone who says "but it'll confuse the children" has never spent time with any child.
@staceyhunt6769
Күн бұрын
I have 3 kids (Nearly 4). My oldest recently decided they're non-binary after being painfully conflicted since they were 2.5 and a book asked "Are you a boy or a girl?" Resulting in years of crisis whenever it came up. We weren't prepared for it at all but handled it as well as we could by teaching about gender identities. My daughter and my youngest (Son) are the same size, and youngest will happily wear his sisters dresses, just as daughter will happily wear her brothers construction-vehicle outfits which are apparently "Too boyish for such a delicate girl". They USUALLY opt to go for their gender stereotypes, but are very happy and confident to just opt otherwise when they feel like it. Oldest has a mix of whatever. Whenever my kids are developmentally ready for it I tend to let them pick whatever the heck they want from wherever in clothing stores until I have a good grasp of their individual choice and can get some of it online and just get their approvals before I order it so I don't have to drag everyone around. 😂 As long as my kids are dressed appropriately for the weather, I honestly couldn't care less what they wear.
@dasha_ucko
Күн бұрын
You sound like a wonderful parent and I think your kids are lucky to grow up in such an accepting household. As a non-binary teen myself, I might just say that it would be more accurate to say your oldest realized they were non-binary, as saying 'decided' makes it sound like a choice. ❤
@staceyhunt6769
Күн бұрын
@dasha_ucko You make a fair point there. Kiddo just tends to people that they "Finally decided" what they are. So it's the way my brain tends to go about it. I'll talk to kiddo tomorrow and ask how they'd like me to go about that. 🤔 We kept it quite flexible for a few years and just waited for kiddo to find what felt right fully understanding it was clearly not birth-assigned gender. Tried to use name instead of pronouns wherever possible whilst in that unknown phase. And now we're working on trying to accommodate kiddo to have their own room as to not need to share with other gender-identities because we know it can be quite hard on NB kiddos and teens. We try, and just have to hope along the way that even if we don't get it right our littles know we've always listened to them above everything and tried our best with what we have. 😅
@dasha_ucko
Күн бұрын
@staceyhunt6769 That totally makes sense, and in that case I stand corrected. I wish my parents were more like you!
@sarahmacintosh6449
16 сағат бұрын
Amazing 🌈💖
@ceilidhblackbird6290
Күн бұрын
I love that you tackle ignorance and prejudice with knowledge and comedy. This is the way!
@jessicaoutofthecloset
Күн бұрын
Thank you 🙌
@dianelipson5420
Күн бұрын
Superb point.❤
@victoriaeads6126
Күн бұрын
@@jessicaoutofthecloset Indeed. It's part of what I've always liked about your channel.
@logo9470
23 сағат бұрын
Yes!! And it helps the ignorant to actually absorb the information
@rishtopia
Күн бұрын
Non-binary teen here, thank you, just THANK YOU! This shall be my go-to edu video for my family from now on. Thank you so increadibly much!. Like, damn! This is simply BRILLIANT!
@charlespentrose7834
Күн бұрын
I know a guy who gives of very strong 'male vibes' who dressed his son in 'girl clothes'. This had nothing to do with any sort of so-called 'gender ideology', his first child was a girl and he saw no reason not to re-use clothing that was in good shape.
@pjaypender1009
Күн бұрын
I was a child in the 60s, and my parents dressed all three of us in Buster Brown shirts and slacks that were sold as gender neutral. That way, I wore them, passed them down to my sister, who passed them down to my brother.
@QueenMegaera
6 сағат бұрын
Absolutely valid reason. 😊
@carly6107
Күн бұрын
Thank you for mentioning people with intellectual and cognitive disabilities in your discussion of infantilization-it’s so important and often gets left out of disability discussions on the internet.
@zigzagperson
Күн бұрын
When I worked in an institute for children->young adults (ages 3-21) with "heavy" disabilities (doesn't translate well) the first thing I was told was to: always speak to them as you would someone in their age group, because we have no idea how much they understand (non-verbal), and we're not going to be disrespectful Will admit I had an easier job of this because I was placed with the 3-5 year-olds, who were a lot more in line with my brain's idea of how this age behaves. That attitude was a big part of why I decided to work there
@conlon4332
Күн бұрын
@@zigzagperson Doesn't it make far more sense to follow the people's interests or what they seem to engage with more than treating them as per any age in particular? I would imagine a non-verbal adult might get bored or frustrated if you tried to have an intellectual conversation with them the same way you might with a neurotypical person their age. I'm by no means an expert in the care of people with intellectual disabilities, but I would be inclined to talk to them more softly and slowly at first, and then gauge their reaction and meet them where they're at, more calm vs excited as they are, and follow the subjects or activities they seem to like. I don't really see how it should vary by age, but more so vary by how they interact.
@zigzagperson
Күн бұрын
@@conlon4332 this wasn't a rule for how to treat each individual, it was a reminder that we don't know what's going on in anyone's mind so we need to act as though the mind is at the same level as anyone else at that age. I.e. don't talk at people or to the caretakers when you can talk to them, and don't treat the 21 year-olds the same as you would a toddler just because their body is there in a lot of other ways (diapers, special wheelchairs that somewhat resembled strollers, bibs because of drooling...) This was an institute for individuals who needed full-time assistance, so you only got to know what interested each one after caring for that person for a while and getting to know their slight signals
@hannahnohlgren989
Күн бұрын
My oldest Nephew got obsessed, like many other kids, with Frozen (Frost in swedish). So he wanted Elsas dress for christmas last year. He did indeed get one and put it on at once to run around with. And I felt so proud about him not being restricted by feminine or masculine ideas. Granted he spilled ice cream over it like ten minutes later and had to change, but he was still happy lol.
@11orana
Күн бұрын
Years ago, at our pre-school, one of the students really really wanted to be Elsa at a costume party. Before the event, his mom had us to read everyone a book about a boy who wore a dress, and any of the people who laughed at him were turned into nuts. His dad came as Anna. Little sister was Olaf and mom was the reindeer. I'm so glad it eventually got easier for kids to be whoever they are, but now our culture seems to be switching back to a time where there is no respect for anyone.
@VirgoLunaris
Күн бұрын
At 3 years old one of my twins shouted, "I'm a birl" randomly while i was driving. I asked what's a birl, and they said, "I'm not a boy, I'm not a girl, I'm a birl..." I just thought this was so beautiful, they were creating language to be seen and to be true to themselves. Kids know who they are, it's the world that tries to tell them otherwise. Also, just cant stress more how wonderful it is to be here in likeminded space especially considering the chaos that is the internet 💜✨️
@Nino-xp5df
Күн бұрын
That's so sweet! Love the term birl!
@Lia-zw1ls7tz7o
18 сағат бұрын
I love it when queer kids come up with their own terms! We should make birl official!
@pielittlepony
17 сағат бұрын
I was trying to explain to my 7 year old that I don't consider myself non-binary, but I don't feel strongly about gendered terms and don't mind however she chooses to refer to me. She now tells everyone I'm "re-genderless" (because in her logic, babies don't really have a gender identity either)
@Mary-cw4lf
3 сағат бұрын
Yes, let's trust the self awareness of the 3 year old...
@joanlaws9975
Сағат бұрын
@@pielittleponyAwesome.
@manifestationsofasort
Күн бұрын
Adults see clothes as signifiers of race, gender, class, cultural affiliation, religion, etc, while kids just see clothes as just that: clothes.
@GhostIntoTheFog
Күн бұрын
Excellent point about the infantilization of the disabled (particularly the intellectually disabled). Although not intellectually disabled myself, I am developmentally disabled (AuDHD), and the way society has conditioned people to see Autistics as eternal children is revolting. That’s why it’s important to have zero tolerance for saviorist hate groups, like Autism Speaks, which thrive by portraying Autistic people as without voice or agency. Unfortunately, those in power still (and will probably always) listen to them and not us, because of how ingrained in society that infantilization is.
@KatjeKat86
Сағат бұрын
As someone who's disabled physically but not cognitively I get this a lot. It was worse when I was younger. I have learned to hide my disability, make it less obviously, I can't sometimes, which is part of why it's easier now. The other component is that as a small female when I was in my twenties even if people didn't realize I was disabled still got some of that infantilization.
@amillionago4466
Күн бұрын
Ohhhh youre so right that its not just kids. Im middle aged, afab agender, and have experimented with wearing dresses and suits in professional situations, and i get treated with so much more respect in trousers, it's shocking. And yeah dresses are often more comfortable so i have to choose physical comfort v gender expression comfort v being perceived as a real human being. Sigh.
@arianevieira2252
Күн бұрын
I liked very much when you mentioned “the right of autonomy” for the kids. I absolutely hated when I was a child and my mother would dress me with a dress or a skirt. I disliked it so much that now that I can buy my own clothes, I do not own a single dress or skirt (cis straight woman here). And it’s not that I don’t find dresses gorgeous, they look stunning in many people, but they are just not for me 😊
@lilianafinocchiaro1505
Күн бұрын
Honestly, my experience is really similar to yours! The only exception that I do about skirts or dresses is if they are made by me❤ I like to sew (I learnt mostly because I like "fashion" and cosplay) and when I create a skirt or a dress by myself I feel more willing to wear it because I'm proud of my own work and I like to wear something that I have put energy on. But overall dresses or skirts are not for me too!
@coolchameleon21
14 сағат бұрын
unfortunately, a large percentage of people view their children as property. children have very few rights and very little autonomy (legally speaking)
@lexa2310
10 сағат бұрын
Same. I tried to wear one once because it was a special event and I thought it would be the perfect justification to at least try. The hem got stuck on stuff and I almost tripped down the stairs. Plus, it didnt feel comfortable. Sooo.....mission failed.😅
@michaelnewton5873
Күн бұрын
Somewhere before WW2 all babies wore dresses before school days.
@steadynumber1
Күн бұрын
Even into the 50s.
@terryenby2304
Күн бұрын
My granny brought my mum white dresses for her first baby, because that’s what she said babies all wear dresses until they are older!
@AstridSouthSea
Күн бұрын
We have a gorgeous photo of my grandad as toddler in a dress and with long ringleted hair.
@rishtopia
Күн бұрын
is this meant to be negative or positive? i genuinely do not understand tone...
@jaekae13
22 сағат бұрын
@@rishtopia I don't think it's meant to necessarily be positive or negative, it's just pointing out a fact. It reinforces the video's point that boys wearing dresses is not a new phenomenon, and used to be considered quite natural and normal. My personal opinion, for what it's worth, is that it CAN be a positive thing. I think it's probably best to dress children in whatever's practical while they are infants and toddlers (meaning, clothing that makes diaper-changing easy, is generally easy to put on and take off, and is easy to clean whenever it inevitably gets dirty). And when a child is old enough to express their preferences about what they want to wear, and what they feel comfortable in, we should try to accommodate that. There's no need to shame children for wanting to wear whatever they feel comfortable in, or to shame parents for allowing their children to do so. I think that forcing children to wear certain clothing styles, against their wishes, is a lot more harmful than letting a little boy wear dresses if that's what he wants to do.
@jennifers5560
Күн бұрын
Seeing all those unkind comments in the video really makes me appreciative of this online community. Most people make the most insightful supportive comments. ❤️
@victoriaeads6126
Күн бұрын
Yes, this. I have no interest in fomenting anger and hate, nor in supporting channels that do so. Jessica is a clear example of the fact that it doesn't have to be like that, and it's one of the many things I've liked about her channel for years. We've been following her journey for a long time now, and the way that she handles life with quiet strength and how her family has grown in closeness and love has been lovely to witness. Whoever keeps track of the comments for her does a great job of keeping the discourse positive and civil.
@purple-cho
Күн бұрын
Loving the historical context here! And as a woman who predominantly wears trousers/shorts because I find them more practical, it's fun to hear the opposite perspective: that for some people, skirts/dresses are the more practical option. Absolutely each to their own! In my case, I tend to find that a) my preferred field of work can involve a lot of going up ladders and/or crawling around on the floor underneath desks, so trousers mean I'm not worrying about any risk of accidental flashing, and b) I really like having large, functional pockets and the only category of clothing I can generally find with those are trousers/shorts sold in the men's section (provided they're available in a small enough size for me) - while skirts with pockets absolutely exist, they're just that much more difficult to find in the first place and I rarely feel like putting in that effort for a garment I'm not going to wear often
@amethyst_cat9532
Күн бұрын
I've found that it really depends on what kind of skirt you get, I liked skirts as a kid until I (a) started needing pockets and (b) started developing "chub rub" friction burns every time I wore something that didn't fully cover the area where my thighs rubbed together while walking or running. (I now wear athletic shorts underneath to prevent this.) I also started disliking how skirts looked on me because none of the loose ones had any structure and the tight ones made me feel like I was on display for anyone who wanted an eyeful. My current favorite skirt is a big wool one that completely obscures my lower half and has MASSIVE pockets!
@KatjeKat86
Сағат бұрын
This is the reason why even though I love skirts and dresses and I wear them all the time, even to do all my housework in when I am outside doing gardening or home repairs I am wearing overalls. I like them better than trousers because a trouser can actually slip down around your waist but overalls can't and they always have pockets and I don't have to buy from the mens section. My body shape does not suit the mens section.
@makeminemonsters
Күн бұрын
One very practical aspect that's always struck me about breeching, that I appreciate you discussing, is the fact that it generally occurred around the time a little one is most likely to be able to use the toilet (or historical equivalent) independently. It makes sense to introduce a bifurcated garment that isn't laundered as frequently as a white frock would be when a caregiver is confident that a child isn't going to regularly have accidents! People can stop clutching their pearls, it's practical!
@rhokesh4391
Күн бұрын
That makes a lot of sense actually...
@rruthlessly
Күн бұрын
Do you think that 7 was a normal age for toilet training when it was a normal age for breeching?
@makeminemonsters
Күн бұрын
@@rruthlessly So, quick note, I said that the ages for breeching (as Jessica said in the video, usually between 4 and 7) are the ages kids are most likely using the toilet *independently,* not when toilet training would begin. Different kids are able to take of basic bodily functions without needing help from an adult at different ages, so yes, I do think that achieving independence in that area was a contributing factor to determining when a child could or should be breeched. Could happen earlier, could take a little longer, just like today. Another thing to keep in mind is the way clothes were made; clothing for toddlers and preschoolers today are likely to have elastic waistbands and few closures, meaning younger children can dress themselves with relative ease. Buttons, ties, and hook closures are tricky for little kids to manage. So for me, that reinforces the idea that children would be breeched when they had not only been toilet trained, but also had the manual dexterity needed to manage their clothes' fasteners as well. Again, all of this tradition can be seen as largely practical, but also ties into this idea of "maturity" as a time of increased physical independence, the ableism of that way of thinkin Jessica addresses in the video as well.
@KatjeKat86
Сағат бұрын
@@rruthlesslyOne thing you may not realize is that the clothes in those eras was much harder to undo and redo yourself quickly which is something that a small child might not have the dexterity to do. So they might be toilet trained for years before they're able to be fully independent like that and be breached. This allows them to actually be independent in their little dresses versus requiring assistance every time they needed to use the bathroom.
@iGotBulletproof-Insomnia
13 сағат бұрын
I did not realize that gendered toys was a thing that started/resurfaced in the 80s! That's so recent. Gendered toys bother me so much because it limits what boys/girls are "allowed" to be interested in. It also creates a lack of variety and creativity in their toys too. There's no reason why the "girls" aisle is literally pink or the "boys" aisle is black and blue.
@JustYourAverageGirl2002
Күн бұрын
There is actually a lot of photography of young children in the late 1800s and early 1900s of boys and girls, toddlers, wearing "dresses" with curls. It was a common practice even then because it had to do with practicality and cleaning.
@victoriaeads6126
Күн бұрын
When my littlest saw Encanto, he fell in love with Mirabel's style and we got him a skirt that he wore multiple times to school, etc. Ya know what? It was fun.
@victoriaeads6126
Күн бұрын
I showed him this comment, and his response was: Oh, yeah! I should wash that and wear it again! We are very fortunate to be living in an area where the schools are very intolerant of bullying. They are taught acceptance and compassion from early on, and it definitely shows. My high schooler, who is queer, has had (in his words) almost no negative repercussions from his peers from coming out. It's even more impressive when you consider that there are an almost equal number of Harris and Drumpf signs in our community, disturbingly enough.
@EtamirTheDemiDeer
Күн бұрын
Encanto went crazy with the cloth simulation. The skirts were so beautiful
@GhostIntoTheFog
Күн бұрын
Interesting bit about He-Man and She-Ra. As an AMAB child (who now identifies as nonbinary as a middle-aged adult), I watched both shows and played with both toy lines. My parents even bought me both the Castle Greyskull and Crystal Castle playsets. I also watched and played with “My Little Pony” toys. I’m glad my parents were progressive in that way, although it still took me decades to realize I wasn’t cisgender.
@seabirdcj7442
Күн бұрын
Jessica, I love how you always make videos filled with education so much fun to watch too!! As a trans person I’ve always thought the gendering of clothes was ridiculous and I’m so glad we’re breaking it down with/for the next generation. Your videos always make me feel so comforted when I’m having a flare up or not feeling good about my identity so thank you for making these amazing videos!! All three of y’all’s outfits are always absolutely on point!! Much love 💜
@DieAlteistwiederda
Күн бұрын
There is this one lady online that had 5 boys. Only two of them have long hair amd the youngest likes to have pretty bows and such put into his hair. The comments are mostly supportive but there are of course also always some assholes who have to share their unnecessary opinions. My "fave" was a person saying that long hair isn't a problem for boys but the bows just make them confused and possibly trans or at least gay. These people have clearly never been to any metal concert or goth festival where a lot of attendees have long hair and a few always wear kilts or something otherwise dress or skirt like. A lot of goth men also wear make-up and style their hair. None of these things are problematic, clothes are for whoever fits into them. I don't care who wears or doesn't wear dresses as long as they feel comfortable in them.
@jaekae13
22 сағат бұрын
"Clothes are for whoever fits into them." I absolutely love this! It's such a simple phrase, direct and to the point. I wish everyone had this mindset. ❤
@sarahtooldtocare8561
Күн бұрын
The modern fashion industry has a lot to do with how we dress as it pushes the next season styles and fashions on to us
@rruthlessly
Күн бұрын
I have fraternal twins, they are both girls but I discovered when they were very young that many strangers would try and figure out "which one's the boy", I found it fascinating the cues that these people would latch on. Not just skirt/trousers, pink/blue but also pictures/stripes, blue/neon. In fact I think there is a whole stupid complexity of what colours and patterns are seen as more feminine - e.g. is pink camo culturally more feminine than blue flowers I don't know but I bet if you dressed 3yo fraternal twins in them and walked around a park you'd find out strangers are pretty consistent in which they decide "is the boy".
@lizzygreenhood9631
Күн бұрын
I'm one of a pair of fraternal twins, born in the early70's. My parents bought unisex clothes because it was easier with a pair of "hyperactive" twins to just grab a shirt or pair of pants into which they'd stuff the first wiggly child they were able to catch, regardless of whether it was me or my brother. They avoided dressing us "twinny" except for family photos, but my chronically ill mom did not often waste her rare spoons on gendered clothes - again, except for special occasions.
@minkg8178
Күн бұрын
My grandparents didn't have many photographs of their children because of the cost of a camera but I do remember them having one taken of my uncle by a photography studio, at the age he was able to sit up and toddle about. He was absolutely wearing a dress. I think he was born in the late 1930s. Also my grandad loved fashion and menswear has become so incredibly boring since he was a young, to middle aged adult. He was the one that taught me the importance of looking for a really good print, ideally silk lining on waistcoats, how to tie different knots in ties, the value of a really good pair of shoes and how to walk with a cane (for fashion, not disability). He was quite the dandy!
@jaekae13
22 сағат бұрын
That's so lovely and wholesome! I love fashion in general- not necessarily high fashion, but just clothes that make you feel confident and comfortable in your own skin, and clothes that are, well, FUN. So I feel kind of sad when I see menswear departments these days. There never seem to be any bright colors, even for summer fashion, and everything looks so... drab. I would be depressed if I had to shop there, tbh. 😂 (My parents used to force me to wear frilly dresses that itched, and pretty shoes that hurt my feet, to school and to church. I had so much resentment over that, that I became one of those ""not like other girls"" when I was older. There was no pink or purple, or dresses or skirts, allowed in MY wardrobe! So I didn't start to feel comfortable picking out what I actually LIKED to wear until my mid 20's. Now I have FUN picking out clothes, and I pick out whatever I think looks good! I almost always wear dresses and skirts, and I have a decent collection of jewelry with which to accessorize. It makes me feel so much more... myself. 😊 )
@minkg8178
21 сағат бұрын
@@jaekae13 My mother was so determined to make me act and dress "girly" that I avoided the colour pink for years and yes, same with the scratchy dresses 😬. I did find if you climb enough things even my tenacious mother would give up at least on the frilly dresses, lol.
@jaekae13
21 сағат бұрын
@@minkg8178 Yeah, thankfully I was at least allowed to change into something more comfortable when I got home! I don't think my parents would've been too happy about the state those dresses would've been in if I'd worn them when I went to go play with the neighborhood kids. (And when I went to horse camp in the summer, which was somehow seen as a "girly" thing despite riding horses and mucking out stalls all day, they immediately saw the necessity of practical clothing.)
@YellowFreesias
Күн бұрын
I used to work at a museum with dress ups, and many of the boys wanted a fairy costume (flying! Magic!). Some parents would panic, tell them off, and find a more "masculine" costume like an animal...?
@KatjeKat86
Сағат бұрын
There have always been boy fairies at least in the Victorian paintings I used to be obsessed with as a kid in my fairy books. Yes technically they had little fluffy bloomers on but it's not that different.
@nathanielraefraughton5218
Күн бұрын
I am currently reading a book about Leonardo Davinci and practically everyone in his paintings look androgynous to my uneducated eye. I have been surprised more than once to find out that someone who looked very feminine to me was actually very clearly a man actually. Although in one case in his Last Supper painting apparently there was some debate whether one of the people was actually Mary or John (turns out it was John), so even the people who study this stuff aren't always sure.
@Charlotte-hv6ll
Күн бұрын
Leaving a comment for the algorithm. Absolutely amazing video
@TukikoTroy
Күн бұрын
Back in the day both boys and girls wore dresses up to the end of infancy (that's up to age 6 btw. 7-13 you were a juvenile and 14 - 20 you were an adolescent). Way back in the day infants of both sexes were called girls; boys sometimes called 'knave girls'.
@plovergrrl
7 сағат бұрын
"You know that little thing with no fur that goes around your estate making humanoid like noises. That little thing might want a biscuit and a belly rub and words of affirmation." 😂😂😂 Best quote ever!
@nataliasclarandi8204
Күн бұрын
The major difference now a days is some adults have the stereotype sherly temple image in their head about girls in tutu dresses showing their diapers instead of "its just a baby, it's loud, it's messy. Put it in a long shirt they can keep using till they are 2 or 3." No, instead they have puffy annoying dresses made of the worst itchy rash induced fabrics for girls & boys get comfy soft cotton clothes.
@amanofnoreputation2164
Күн бұрын
Meanwhile in Scotland . . . "Son, this is the day you become a man." * Presents his boy with a kilt *
@kayemveeable
15 сағат бұрын
My new plan is if my son wants to wear a dress to say yes - but only if he also carries a drum 😊 Really, though, as queer parents I worry we'll get judged a lot more harshly for letting our son dress 'feminine' than cis and straight couples do. There's a narrative of 'pushing an agenda' which puts me in a place of paranoia when it comes to letting my son do what he wants in case someone accuses us of abuse for my son having pink socks.
@jeannebrdt
Күн бұрын
My art history bachelor was all for that game at the beginning of the video, full mark !
@annajackson9001
Күн бұрын
As someone who was brought up in the 70s, all I remember is the colour brown for clothes, I don't think I thought of clothes as either boys or girls, and I'm sure my brother had my hand me downs.❤
@smarmar400
Күн бұрын
70's child, here. Everything was either brown or dark colors mixed with brown: clothes, cars, wood paneling, furniture fabric, appliances... Good times.
@justynmatlock8873
Күн бұрын
There was WAY too much brown, often paired with orange, but I also remember a lot of yellow t-shirts. In fact, if ever I see a yellow t-shirt, it takes me back to my childhood. As it was my favourite colour, I had red everything, if I could get it.
@jennifers5560
Күн бұрын
I remember lots of orange and brown striped clothing.
@justynmatlock8873
Күн бұрын
@@jennifers5560 And furniture.
@pjaypender1009
Күн бұрын
@@justynmatlock8873and appliances. Everything was brown, orange or green in the 70s.
@UMProf
22 сағат бұрын
Thank you for doing such a fabulous job translating my work into a lively and entertaining video!
@snapdragonslair
Күн бұрын
I've never understood why a person feels the need to police what another wears. As soon as your child is able to talk and walk, they should be allowed to make their own decisions on what to wear, be that a skirt or shorts, feminine or masculine.
@martianpudding9522
15 сағат бұрын
I'm an autistic woman and I have a friend who is an autistic man and we both have quite similar sensory problems with pants. He has taken to wearing jeans outside and then changing into payama pants inside whenever he comes over, but we've talked about how he would probably also feel much more physically comfortable wearing skirts like I do. I think he wears pants not just because of societal pressure but also because it suits his own gender expression better, but still it feels unfair sometimes.
@zomgmolly
Күн бұрын
“Like the sims … we spin around and are suddenly… a foot taller” - when I tell you I screamed 🤣🤣🤣 excellent video, Jessica!! (and co.!)
@Fragmented_Mask
Күн бұрын
Same here XD I'd only just closed the Sims as well which made it all the more relevant
@quiestinliteris
Күн бұрын
Tragically, all infants in my family look like Winston Churchill at birth and only begin to look like babies at about 3-4mo.
@jaekae13
21 сағат бұрын
That is a hilarious mental image, but I can picture it so well. 😂 Honestly, most babies that young never look nearly as cute to me as they seem to look to their parents. I've always thought they look a little weird until they get older, so whenever someone proudly shows off their newborn, I always struggle to come up with an acceptable compliment. 😅
@maaikebouwman1168
12 сағат бұрын
Hey Jessica! I saw the title, and my mind was like ''My dad is an androgynous male, he wears dresse and skirts all the time'' He feels good in it, so why do (some) people make a problem about it? I'm female, and i dress in a masculine way, because that's what i like! I'm very open minded, everyone is welcome! Whatever you wear!😉💞
@cariiinen
Күн бұрын
Who knew boys AND girls enjoy freedom of movement, comfort and colours?!
@essendossev362
6 сағат бұрын
Every outfit you wear SLAPS. (Yes, I'm also paying attention to the content of your words, but it's also a pleasure to be immersed in such impeccable fashion)
@emmablake1913
Күн бұрын
A really good video! As someone who works in childcare, I have conversations about clothes and gender fairly often. Nice to have some more historical references for reflective thought.
@megdelaney3677
Күн бұрын
💜Jessica's dress & bonnet look so lovely!
@MissBlueEyeliner
7 сағат бұрын
I just want to scream at people “IT’S FABRIC! IT HAS NO MORAL OBJECTIVE!”.
@katefriend4085
23 сағат бұрын
27:40 oh, this bit brought back an ambivalent memory... I, like Jessica, wear a lot of vintage style dresses and skirts, and I like to change into something more comfortable the end of the day in between my carefully chosen outfit and my pajamas. I have 2 boys, and when they were little, I introduced the concept of "dishbill," a word we use to this day, which I picked up from a letter from one of Fanny Burney's sisters quoted in a book about that author... (the word is based on what I assume is loaner from French, _dishabille_ . Fanny Burneys's family couldn't pay for a fancy French-speaking governess, so I presume Fanny's sister prounced the word in her head phonetically based on English, and then spelled it the way she said it at home in her letter... also, I feel I should apologize for writing the name of that historic female author in a UK KZitemr's comments section so many times, so, sorry about that!) In our house, "dishbill" means clothes that are covering the body and are comfortable, but are either the wrong style or insufficiently under-garmented, or in some way too casual to wear out of the house. I bought my boys "dishbill pants," ie leggings from the girls' section at the big box store down the road, because I wanted them to be able to layer jeans on top as additional warmth when necessary, and to have something soft to put on after being out in the rain. Well, at about three, my younger boy decided that he'd found his go-to garment in "dishbill pants." I bought them for him for years. He went to kindergarten in public school, and showed up on his first day in black dishbill pants and matching long sleeved black t-shirt and rubber boots w dinosaurs on them, and wore that basic outfit for the whole year no matter how cold or hot it got, and no one said sh!t, thank G-d. Unfortunately (in a small way) for me and my younger son, other forces in our life and family prompted me to move both my boys to the local bilingual Catholic school in the neighborhood. That was mostly a good move, however a Catholic school means uniforms. My younger boy adopted the khakis and plain polo uniform pretty readily, only wearing dishbill pants underneath for a few days before determining that looking like the other kids to this extent was all the armor he needed to face the world... Then I invited his entire class to celebrate his birthday at the local park, and obviously, no one wore their uniforms. My 2nd son was there to greet his guests in his usual personal uniform of black dishbill pants and matching top. Honestly this could have gone worse than it did. Adults were polite, the kids had a great time; but every single guest of my younger son greeted him when they arrived with "[younger son], why are you wearing girl's pants?" I don't remember his answer, but every time I heard it, I just died a little. I know my son, and I knew this was not going to be good for him. My boy is in 6th grade now, and I think there have been probably 2 days in his whole school career that he has _ever_ worn anything but his uniform to school. No free dress days, no spirit theme outfit days, no Halloween celebrations, it's always been, "can't I just wear my uniform?" I don't think he was ashamed of "being dressed like a girl," so much as he didn't like the feeling of his classmates failing to understand him and not knowing what to say. I know it sounds over dramatic, but some people are like that: one memorable incident re-writes their perception of themselves and the world that much, at least for a time. My son is at a soccer game right now-- another activity where he can distinguish himself while wearing a uniform so his clothes don't enter the conversation! And he's obviously fine, and flourishing as dearly loved children tend to do, but I wish, I so wish, that kids' clothes were not so gendered, that people weren't so uncomfortable about kids wearing what they wanted. Figuring the world out and coming to understand and make your own place in that world is already hard work, if gender is irrelevant to that work because you're a child, do adults really need to project their own politicized gender anxieties onto kids? And why do boys get it worse with the geder policing too?! Jessica's mean tictoc comment quotes are all from people horrofied by boys in skirts and dresses, but I bet most of those commenters who were women were wearing pants while they wrote them! Summary, I'm not a fan of gender policing kids' clothes, and also, although I don't personally wear "dishbill _pants_ ," (2 9lb babies in 2 years was not kind to my middle, and the mirror showing me myself in leggings is depressing to me! Don't wear stuff that depresses you when you look in the mirror, life is too short!) I do want to promote the concept of "dishbill" for clothes that are "decent" but not for being in public (is there an actual English word for this concept? I don't know it if there is!). And as an aside, I _don't_ mean that we all get to decide for someone else who is comfortable going to the post office in her pajamas that she is wrong, I just mean a linguistic shorthand for, "you can stop by, but I can't leave the house like this." I'm not interested in policing other peoples' idea of what is 'decent,' I'm interested in efficiently explaining why it'll be at least an hour or whatever before I can go out to the grocery store, I thought my day was almost over. More importantly than a word I've found useful, I would also like to promote, if possible, not putting kids in the position of performing so much gender while they're still very much kids. Thanks if you real this whole thing, it's a small story told in a lot of words, but I feel like, even though my boy is basically fine, it does in a way illustrate the harm of gender policing kids (and evidence that boys want to be comfortable too!).
@angelawossname
11 сағат бұрын
We just call them "house clothes". I am visually impaired and I have limited mobility, so I live with my 29yo and my dil, who are both Autistic. My son has house clothes that are women's clothes. I bought him a pair of pink pants with pictures of little corgis on them, because he likes corgis. He also wears women's t shirts. We only wear house clothes at home because we want to preserve our "going out clothes", and because we want to be comfortable.
@lexa2310
9 сағат бұрын
Ah yes, peer pressure is the most insidious thing growing up. It makes one pretend to hate things they dont actually hate and like things they dont actually like. And it takes even longer to admit to oneself that that really severe dislike might just be them continouing to pretend, even when nonone is looking anymore. And I get why you worry about the adults words. Its the same thing with people talking about appearances. The more its mentioned the more it sticks in your brain. Words dont need to be overly aggressive to worm themselves into your subconcious. And in a world where girly things are bad, asking why you have girl-anything will stick with any kid who wants to be part of the peer-group. Sincerely, a woman who grew up surrounded by male cousins and turned into a "not like other girls" teen to feel respected by them.
@angelanice
Күн бұрын
That's what I love about Lolita fashion, it was started in Japan by feminists reclaiming femininity ❤ Today people of all genders are welcomed by the community, whether they dress in the feminine or masculine (ouji or dandy) versions
@madebymaryssa
Күн бұрын
I did not score well on the game. I figured it was going to be a "trick question" where all of the children were boys. Reduced cost of postage, which lead to the widespread sending of Christmas cards, lead into the celebration of birthdays? I would watch a video on that topic as well!
@jennifers5560
Күн бұрын
That was news to me that birthdays weren’t always celebrated.
@mrtnsnp
Күн бұрын
Yup. I think I have a picture of my father in a dress. Or rather that picture is still at my mother's place. That would have been somewhere from 1934 - 1940.
@queenofdramatech
Күн бұрын
I just got a book for the kids at the library where I work called UPSTAGED. It is a graphic novel and the main character is non binary. It is interesting to see how they dress and what choices they make to express their gender. I love it and the kids do to. I always want to show the kids, mirrors, windows, and doors to the world.
@Chibi-kittenplays
Күн бұрын
loved it..although maybe you should look up abby cox and the real history of the corset? You can breath in corsets just fine. There are tons of clothes historians on youtube that has done a lot of great work on this.
@Shikohon
Күн бұрын
Just found out a KZitemr I used to follow is transphobic. I needed this video after that nonsense. Hope everyone is doing well
@snapdragonslair
Күн бұрын
May I ask who? I want to unsubscribe if I'm subscribed
@Shikohon
12 сағат бұрын
@@snapdragonslair BlackBeltBarrister
@dinahnicest6525
Күн бұрын
I grew up in the '60s. When GI Joe came out in around "65, us kids were somewhat shocked to see a doll for boys. It was meant to be played with the same as one would with a Barbie. Years later, I thought it was really weird hearing my friend's kid ask if she'd seen his "He Man Doll".
@evilgingerminiatures5820
Күн бұрын
My sister who is not a doll person used to dismissively refer to my younger brothers action man collection as his dollies, & that was half a century ago so I find all the pearl clutching by people with fragile identities both perplexing and amusing
@jennifers5560
Күн бұрын
I loved when my Brothers GI Joe dolls got passed down to me. He had the best accessories! And my Barbies needed brothers. (It never occurred to me to make couples with my Barbies and GI Joes.)
@BrennanYoung
7 сағат бұрын
@@jennifers5560 I had older sisters. My ActionMan (UK's GI Joe doll) inherited loads of pretty accessories. Only trouble is they were quite a bit smaller in scale, so most of the clothes did not fit. I can confirm that the ActionMan accessories and clothes were generally far better made, with much more detail (usually "militarily accurate", because of course the army dad nerds would notice and might even complain if a Ka-bar or a Hussar's cartouche was not period-correct in any way).
@lisalove8532
6 сағат бұрын
“I let my son wear a dress because women are worth emulating also” I love that text on screen. In general, gendering clothes is ridiculous. People should be pushing for proper sizing based on standard measurements instead.
@elektra121
Күн бұрын
In my early 80ies' childhood in the GDR, all children in first kindergarten year (3-4 years old) wore pinafores. In second and third year, they were required to wear either a skirt or trousers under the pinafore, but if you didn't wear long trousers, all children alike looked like the wore cute little dresses. We didn't look like small adults in small adult's clothing - we were children in children's clothing which was way less gendered than it is today. Bright colours and little flowers, cars, balls, animals or abstract patterns. This changed not until the nineties and nowadays children's pinafores are nowhere to be found, which is a shame in my opinion. Pinafores are so practical and cute. But, what I wanted to say - this "little boys wear "girl's clothing"" isn't a thing of as far back as you maybe think. We didn't regard it as "girl's clothing" - it was "children's clothing".
@MiljaHahto
Күн бұрын
I was born in the 1970'ś and of course had a lot of clothes of my older siblings. For me the "we used to be able to distinguish boys from girls" feels so ridiculous. I have pity for the kids these days - it seems difficult to find pretty colours in the midst of the excessive gender coding.
@dianelipson5420
Күн бұрын
Would they try and stop a Roman Soldier or a Scots mercenary from wearing what they pleased? 😂 I think not. Oh for the time humanity rises above its ridiculous garbage. Let people be. And they dressed little boy like girls for certain pictures when I was a child too.
@meganharding5100
Күн бұрын
Exactly. Honestly, like just where? What makes you comfortable and if anyone has a problem with it, they can build a barge and get over it. That is exactly how things should they and my people can murder what they want, where whatever makes them countable, and if anyone has a problem with it, then get over it.
@larissabrglum3856
Күн бұрын
I live near Amish country (you know, the most old-fashioned people around) and they dress their kids in tiny versions of women's clothing until they're at least old enough to walk around. It's so ignorant of history to claim that dressing children in a gender-ambiguous manner is a new thing!
@melissarmt7330
Күн бұрын
I've never understood the problem. Men can wear kilts and I find it a nice look. A friend of my son's is responsible for the school handbook saying boys can't wear dresses because he wore dresses and looked smashing! He had style. If young boys, especially, want to wear dresses, let them. If my daughters wanted to wear jeans or overalls, I let them. It's just a specific group of people telling everyone else how they want us to dress, because they've always gotten away with it. Now that their apple carts are being upended, they're getting testy.
@BrennanYoung
7 сағат бұрын
your son's friend was not responsible for that stupid school handbook rule! I hope it gets removed.
@sparklymadamjojo
Күн бұрын
They need to check out the Korean groups Ateez and Stray Kids.. never met a crop top they wouldn't wear.. Seonghwa from Ateez wears dresses in the regular and they all wear dresses... Tbh if people have an issue with it I always assume that they are not secure in their own skin!
@Malik-n5x
19 сағат бұрын
I'm transmasc and i wear dresses and i rock it
@ellouisebadger849
Күн бұрын
Clothes are just fabric, no need for people to judge 😊
@catherinejustcatherine1778
22 сағат бұрын
Thank you so much for pointing out all this.
@theplussizecostumer
22 сағат бұрын
Something to consider with all children wearing dresses is that it was easier to change nappies. These parents that put their little ones in pants and desperately trying to hall them off because the nappy needed serious changing. Wearing them up till about 5 or 6 was also good as the child learned good toileting habits. My mother and her twin brother, both born in 1915, wore dresses. My father was born in 1926 and also wore dresses. Correct me if I'm wrong, but I believe the practice of all children wearing dresses had stopped by the time of WW2. (Or did you say that and my mind just glossed over it.)
@sams1982
Күн бұрын
I find the ‘mom’ character in the playroom to have a really interesting aesthetic. She’s wearing a t-shirt (modern) with a vintage-looking skirt, which together nevertheless create a cohesive look.
@juls_krsslr7908
7 сағат бұрын
I was a child in the 1970s and it was infuriating to me how some adults _hated_ anything "feminine." I went to non-traditional schools, so a lot of my teachers in particular were on board with the "gender neutral" trend and actively discouraged girls from wearing dresses or pursuing feminine interests. Although, on paper, they said "anyone can be/wear/do anything," in practice, "neutral" was indistinguishable from "masculine." In retrospect, I think my teachers meant well and only wanted to liberate me from patriarchy, but it was very frustrating to me as someone who gravitated to more traditionally feminine things. I wasn't the type of child who kept my feelings to myself, so I was constantly butting heads with adults who saw feminine things as inferior. My perspective at the time was, if I was forced to wear pants/trousers and play sports, then boys should be forced to wear dresses and do ballet, too. Now, as an adult, I don't believe anyone should be forced to wear or do anything they don't like, but I do still believe dresses and ballet should be presented as acceptable options for boys, just like jeans and sports are acceptable options for girls.
@annabeinglazy5580
Сағат бұрын
Sounds a Lot Like my mum. Im Sure she meant well but her seething disdain for anything feminine is.... A Lot. It took my a few years of getting into Feminist theory (and Not Just Slogans and laughing at silly Girls) for me to realize how unhelpful that was and that liking pink doesnt actually make me a bimbo. I mean now i disappoint her by wearing feminine clothing and Nail polish but hey, she'll get over it. Eventually.
@ixchelkali
19 сағат бұрын
My dad grew up pre-WW1 and I have a photo of him aged about 3 wearing a child's white gown, sturdy buttoned boots, and adorable, long Prince Valiant hair. I was told it was customary for little boys not to have their hair cut until they were in what here in the US were called "short pants" or "knickers." That is, respectively, above-the-knee shorts or trousers that ended in a buttoned cuff just below the knee, worn with over-the-knee stockings. I have another photo of him dressed as a pirate for Halloween. Still wearing a white gown, but with drawn-on goatee and mustache, wearing a rakish ostrich feathered hat, and brandishing a wooden sword. That would have been about 1916, in California.
@fatladyfarmer2025
Күн бұрын
I have a picture of my dad when he was a small child wearing a dress. It was just a thing. And as a young girl, I was never allowed to wear slacks because people would tell my mom what a well mannered son she had. geesh
@kittycheshire5099
Сағат бұрын
Thank you! I’ve been saying this for years. Gender neutral does not mean masculine.
@kwowka
22 сағат бұрын
Can confirm that my brother wore dresses as a small child, and is still an insufferable heterosexual. Dresses aren’t gendered- we would just constantly act out different ends to Disney movies, so we’d put on the princess dresses and steal dads tools and pretend we were princesses who decided to leave the kingdom and become a tradie 😭😭
@NaomiJameston
Күн бұрын
My MIL and I got in a huge row when she insisted that my children "must wear pastels!!" Boys, she continued, must wear light colors until they are 3, and girls until they're in school, though "you could keep your girls in cute pastel dresses until they're adults, you know. Girls look so cute in pastels!" So I did the only logical thing and kept my daughter in a black onesie whenever possible. It took MIL several years, but she eventually bought my daughter a black shirt (and I made sure to praise her thoroughly). My daughter is goth now (as was I at her age), and my MIL has learned to keep her eye rolling mostly to herself. 🤣🤣
@bellablue5285
Күн бұрын
* laughs in elder sibling * My brother got most of my hand-me-downs, which, lucky for him I guess, was probably helped by the fact that I had been basically raised shopping in the boy's/men's clothing department. I had a bunch of granny dresses and whatnot from the thrift store (and a legit Gunnysax in like 1993), but jeans and jackets - usually from the men's dept 🤷 Some folks are just ridiculous - if the person is in clothing fit for purpose/environment, who cares 🤦
@Theao-dore
13 сағат бұрын
Honestly I love wearing dresses they are so comfy and pretty
@Izelikestea
Күн бұрын
My parents were pretty progressive for the 90s. Let me have whatever clothes or toys I wanted, so I treated gender as a suggestion not a law. I love pink but hate dresses! As an nb person I’m extremely grateful to them for that. Everyone should have the right to pick and choose. They are just clothes in the end after all!
@Luubelaar
23 сағат бұрын
At sone point, all babies look like either Winston Churchill or Vizzini (from The Princess Bride).
@zigzagperson
Күн бұрын
Unfortunately the relatives we have that think clothing should be gendered don't really care about the history, so this was just fun for me to watch. Fortunately they do care about us in general, so they don't say these things directly to our kid, so that's good
@arcticpossi_schw1siantuntija42
15 сағат бұрын
Clothes are just clothes SOOO, what you're saying is that boys wearing dresses is both freedom and tradition. Thanks for this extremely valuable history lesson. - - - I'll go and rub this in so-called murican "traditionalists's" faces the next time I see them complaining about boys wearing dresses and then salt the wounds with the fact that this makes them hypocrites /j (that would be extremely rude and unproductive, I won't actually................. unless.....)
@thelostremainunfound
17 сағат бұрын
As a trans person I really am always confused by how much some cis people over complicate gender. To me it is very simply "what do you feel? What word for yourself makes you happy?" The annoying 'what is a woman' question that some people think is a gotcha just makes me want to throw a heavy book at their head and tell them to read about history for once. You rarely ever see the people around you naked and yet you generally know who is what gender (generally speaking, I think we need to become more comfy with androgyny and just not knowing), so what makes them think body parts you almost never see in your day-to-day are what defines gender in people? Sometimes I just want to respond to that stupid question with "a woman is usually someone who uses the pronouns she/her" because really at the end of the day, all I care about is how to properly address someone and the language needed for that. I know they'll just pitch a hissy fit with hearing that and call it a non-answer but at that point I've answered their "question" and they can take it or leave it. Anyway, great video! Always nice to hear new perspectives on the topic of gender presentation that take a sensible and historically conscious look at the topic.
@JustAChannel_13
Сағат бұрын
I found this definition recently when that question came up. It's the Cambridge dictionary definition. "an adult who lives and identifies as female though they may have been said to have a different sex at birth:" There's also the old "someone who covers their drink when you walk in" 😂
@GabiAPF
10 сағат бұрын
Whoa! I had the toy house shown on that magazine!
@anonx2747
Күн бұрын
Boys not playing w “dolls” but action figures! The same thing really
@jennifers5560
Күн бұрын
Yep!
@amanofnoreputation2164
Күн бұрын
I remember stories of my own father being, "made to wear a dress as a child," as though it were some kind of tradgic backstory. (The only genuinly tradgic part is that I never got a change to ask him personally about it or anything else because I was an infant myself when he passed away.) In reality, my paternal grandparents simply had a fixation on the aristocracy and wanted to appear upper class, so they observed the (now truly archaic) British tradition of clothing young children in dresses regardless of gender.
@JoyWeeseMoll
6 сағат бұрын
I was a 70s girl who bought men's clothing -- mostly shirts because the sleeves were actually long enough to reach my wrists and shoes because they were large enough. This video helped me see a number of other ways that I was part of a short-lived zeitgeist and didn't even know it. It impacts how I dress to this day. In the modern world, I can buy tall women's clothes and women's shoes in larger sizes (yay! because they fit better!) but I still choose mostly masculine styles, albeit with lots of color.
@maggiemacha5552
21 сағат бұрын
Really exceptional video Jessica‼️ I enjoyed it so much‼️ I can’t stand that it seems we have slid backwards regarding gender! We really were really figuring things out regarding clothing and toys in the 70’s! Then I just couldn’t believe my eyes how poof, it was like it never happened!
@meganharding5100
Күн бұрын
That's what I main people should just be able to like what they like. anyone who has a problem with that they can get over it
@Brooke_Corbyn
Күн бұрын
Thank you for the historical painting section i have so many people to show this to
@ItsMzPhoenix
21 сағат бұрын
I don't get gendered toy marketing being helpful for businesses -- wouldn't that drive down sales if kids felt pressured to avoid toys not associated with their genders? Also, I can relate to feeling pressured to not like pink. When I (afab zoomer) was a kid, I avoided pink because I saw it as associated with "girly-girls," and I didn't want to be seen as a "weaker girly-girl" or whatever. As a nonbinary adult, pink is my favorite color after black, and I care more about garment fit and style than the gender whatever clothing is marketed toward.
@arceusinsanity301
19 сағат бұрын
28:42 unfortunately this is also when Nintendo moved their games to the kids aisle and had to pick a side, they went with boys, and that's where video games are for boys came from
@fighttheevilrobots3417
Күн бұрын
My father was born in the mid 1940s in Ankara, Turkey. He was a surprise youngest child. We only have two pictures of him before the age of 5, and in both he has long hair and is wearing a white dress.
@redaleta
Күн бұрын
I remember the X book. I think that there was also a segment in the movie, "Free to Be"(?) I need to look this up later, but Marlo Thomas was the producer.
@esabin-simpson1520
12 сағат бұрын
I got most of them- one good trick is to look at the hair-parting. Centre for girls, side for boys [at least by the Victorian age]
@conlon4332
Күн бұрын
1:15 1: Girl 2: Boy 3: Boy 4: Boys? Oh dear this definietly seems like I'm guessing boy too often... am I overcompensating? 5: One boy. Result: I thought Jessica was saying number 4 were both the same gender, but I would have guessed right if hadn't misunderstood that, so I'm giving myself two points. Also I didn't realise we were meant to be guessing for the standing child in the first picture, so I had no guess for that. Three points so far. And that's three points in total. Or five if it's a point per child in the last picture.
@Sarawinky
Күн бұрын
beatiful paint
@Domon0310
Күн бұрын
Okay, the 1:28 guess was tricky for me because it looks very similar to the childhood portrait of king Władysław IV Vasa of Poland by Marcin Kober. Only further proves the point of the video though
@Familylawgroup
Күн бұрын
I was raised with the X story. It formed my opinions in gender for the rest of my life. I think it succeeded in my home.
@victoriaeads6126
Күн бұрын
The correct answer is WHO CARES, WHY DO YOU CARE??!! Oh, the painter, though, they were BRILLIANT with depicting fabrics.
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