I've been so confused with my sexuality for over 2 years. Now I 'm almost sure - I'm a heteroromantic bisexual😱
@anabelenguijarrocabezas27
6 жыл бұрын
OkMoonShapedLimb same
@acuteprintmusic9551
5 жыл бұрын
What does that mean
@chelsea2169
5 жыл бұрын
Being romantically attracted to the opposite sex but sexually attracted to both sexes!
@HollyScarlett_
Жыл бұрын
@@acuteprintmusic9551😂 attracted sexually to both but romantic to opposites
@Lillyluvsanime
6 жыл бұрын
As a homoromantic bisexual, this was really validating and makes me feel good. Thank you for not going on about, "well, if you only really see yourself with women then you're a lesbian not bi" or whatever else. It means a lot. I am attracted to men as well, I just happen to be more interested in women and non-binary people. Again, thanks, it really means a lot.
@nikolinasvec8682
6 жыл бұрын
Lillyluvsanime same
@viviennebaptiste
4 жыл бұрын
MathildaDee_Lillyluvsanime I’m glad that I’ve found someone like me I identify as homoromantic bisexual but because I feel like maybe I’m not bi enough I’ve been trying to just say I’m gay but I can’t ignore my feelings thanks
@viviennebaptiste
4 жыл бұрын
@@nightskystars0762 omfg finally hiiiii! I'm homoromantic bi as well it's sort of hard to explain that to people
@nightskystars0762
4 жыл бұрын
@@viviennebaptiste I know right.it was so hard for me to figure it out.it's like I'm not a lesbian because I'm attracted to boys but I feel so repelled and sick when I have to date them or when a guy shows interest in me.I wish more people made videos on difference between sexual attraction and romantic attraction.I'm so glad to meet you!!! Edit: I'm still biromantic lol. Boys just give me anxiety
@viviennebaptiste
4 жыл бұрын
@@nightskystars0762 yes it was nice to meet you to I hope you find your way and find your someone☺️
@zafireshadows9060
7 жыл бұрын
I love how you asked "Could a virgin say they are straight?" I have used this analogy so many times to explain that though I am engaged to a man and I have never *been* with a woman, I am still bisexual. I am tired of hearing "But you're with a guy. So you're straight now." or "But have you had sex with a woman? How do you know?" I know because I am attracted to both genders. Me and my fiance even talk about how my type for men and women are completely different. He isn't upset that I like girls, he is interested in knowing that side of me. So if the man I plan to spend my life with can accept that, I don't see why strangers feel like they have a right to judge.
@jlbarstowful
7 жыл бұрын
"If you spend your life hiding, it wears on you. It wears on you hard." Absolutely true. I didn't come out to my wife until I was in my 50s, after more than 25 years of marriage. I struggled like crazy for years. We're still working through my coming out, and charting our course, but believe me, being honest with yourself is way better than denial. Thanks Alex, another wonderful, helpful video!
@marshapple
7 жыл бұрын
Jeff B thank you for that. I too have his my sexuality for 13yrs. I came out to my husband because it was driving me crazy. unfortunately, we are not working with it well. he completely avoids the notion of it's exsistance. :(
@krls6214
7 жыл бұрын
Having to explain to my friends that I'm bisexual but I find guys just sexually more attractive is so hard. They never understand, and they think I'm just gay, which has even made me question my own sexuality (again). But thanks to your video I now understand myself better. Keep up the good work! We bisexuals don't have it easy.
@Jeatti
6 жыл бұрын
Enderman Charlie Please always remember that you know yourself best and only you can label yourself if you want to
@melkidrizzly7390
6 жыл бұрын
Jeatti Yes! ❤️🏳️🌈🙌🏻 ^^ 💗💜💙
@acuteprintmusic9551
5 жыл бұрын
Same here
@HeyItsNovalee
6 жыл бұрын
this was such a validating video omg, like, ever since I sort of acknowledged that I'm bisexual heteroromantic, I haven't been ashamed of it, and i'm lucky to have grown up in an environment where I never had to be afraid of announcing it, but sometimes I do feel like maybe i'm not "bisexual enough" because I'll never have to face discrimination for dating a girl and haven't experienced much discrimination throughout my life. And there's the issue of culture too, because I see all these gay or queer people who make their identity literally their entire personality and their only defining trait, and while i'm very proud to say i'm bisexual and will advocate for bisexuality and representation and headcanon characters as bi and my work will include my experience of being bi, it's still like one of the smaller aspects of who I am as a person. also like, I don't know why but I find male bisexuals, gay men and straight men to be more relatable to me than sapphic or straight women. Maybe it's my experience online idk, but it feels like there's much more gatekeeping amongst women than men who I feel like don't really care what I am lol. Despite the fact that I am very much female. Maybe because with homoromantic men I see the kinds of romantic relationships I want and straight men feel the same sexual attraction towards women that I do lmao idk. I often get annoyed when I hear people tell me "oh everyone's a little bit gay" because I feel like it invalidates my sexuality, but maybe it should be the other way around. it just so happens that bisexuality is more broad than people think, and all the "straight people" who are a little bit gay are really just bisexual. Thank you for bringing up that point, it makes me feel better. like you said, there are definitely people who are truly gay and truly straight, i've met plenty. anyway this turned into me just letting my thoughts out. thanks for the video!
@garlicman82
7 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video! I have struggled with being bi for years because I am so much into men and only into women sometimes. I am very much looking for a boyfriend but sometimes fantasize about sex with women. I guess I am more of the homoromantic type that you speak of. Thanks for helping me to come to that conclusion
@Eruptor1000
7 жыл бұрын
Ok I'm Bi.
@arnas8043
5 жыл бұрын
i’m bisexual but heteroromantic and people think i’m just a straight person trying to be interesting :(
@dianna1243
3 жыл бұрын
I can relate, I'm also bisexual but homoromantic and some people think that I'm just a lesbian with comphet -_-
@arnas8043
3 жыл бұрын
@@dianna1243 turns out i’m bisexual and biromantic i was just scared of dating women lmao 😭😭😭
@dianna1243
3 жыл бұрын
@@arnas8043 oh ok, that's cool (not that you were scared of dating women ofc but that you found your true self) lmao
@arnas8043
3 жыл бұрын
@@dianna1243 lmaooo thank you Hahha
@Stuart2562
7 жыл бұрын
Took me a long time to come out as bi. Since I came out last year I feel so much happier.
@Lillyluvsanime
6 жыл бұрын
Stuart McLauchlan congrats man, I'm glad you got that😊
@NancyLionStorm
7 жыл бұрын
Excellent video. Repression of bisexual pride can contribute to obesity and other long range self destructive behavior.
@TheBontekraai
7 жыл бұрын
Geebus, you have incredibly white teeth!
@BisexualRealTalkNow
7 жыл бұрын
Thanks. :-)
@Oliver-yc5fi
6 жыл бұрын
Wait... so I'm still bisexual? I've been identifying as "mostly gay and/or homoflexible". So I'm bisexual homoromatic. Okay.
@chaaa6828
3 жыл бұрын
i wish there was a word for bisexual homoromantic because this is too long and annoying to explain every time, and just saying i'm bi feels wrong because i don't like men other than physically. i don't think i'll ever crush on, love, date, marry, have kids with a man, it doesn't impact my life in a meaningful way nor how people view me, i basically present as a lesbian but i feel attraction (only physical and with absolutely no attachment whatsoever) to men, so just bi doesn't feel right. i also wish i felt like i belong to a community, but i don't really identify with bi people in general
@manunascimxnto
2 жыл бұрын
im the same as you! im always questioning if im just a lesbian with comphet or if im a bisexual (but most attracted sexually to women) homoromantic...
@Slimpr3tty
4 жыл бұрын
I am a heteroromantic bisexual! 🙋🏿♀️ 🖤🤍 💗💜💙
@Lola-yf6ee
4 жыл бұрын
I was always soooooo confused...now I know that I'm a homoromantic bisexual
@Nhouah
7 жыл бұрын
During years I thought every straight person was attracted to multiple genders, here's why : society told me that as a person who was assigned female at birth (i'm non binary) that being straight was being attracted to guys. And I was attracted to guys, so I just concluded that I was straight. But since I was also attracted to girls, I imagined that every straight person had multiple gender attraction but was not acting on it. And I knew that bisexuality existed, but I thought that bisexual people were "even more attracted" to multiple gender than straight people, which doesn't make any sense but whatever xD It makes even less sense considering I'm equally attracted to all genders, like I'm not even leaning more towards guys. That's interesting that you talk about people who have a different sexual and romantic orientation, like biromantic heterosexual for instance. Technically, they're still bi, that's just a more specific label under the bi umbrella. Even if you are heterosexual and homoromantic, it counts as bi right ? Because you still have multiple gender attraction even if it's not the same type of attracted to the same and opposite genders.
@BisexualRealTalkNow
7 жыл бұрын
Yep, it still counts as bi. :-)
@orcenamina3637
5 жыл бұрын
Thank you *so much*. I've only recently started to realise how much of mental strain and time and energy these kinds of questions have taken from me for YEARS - especially because my romantic and sexual orientations never really seemed to line up. I tried to tell myself that I didn't care, that I might as well just call myself straight. Other times I told myself that I didn't need a label - which is perfectly valid, of course - but none of those things ever felt right to me. This does. Your video helped quell a lot of my dissonance. Again, truly, thank you.
@car_go_vroom_vroom8602
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you, I have been questioning myself lately. I've always assumed I was bisexual even forced myself to fit a straight label but I feel nothing when I kiss men, but my longest relationship was with a man (4yrs). I even married him & had a kid. Well, that relationship ended and I felt I never actually connected I just tried so hard to be straight I pushed myself to love him until he was abusive then left and now it like... Do I even like men? My whole life I just assumed I didn't like kissing. Until I kiss a woman and the entire world melted away. Now I'm asking myself an I homoromantic bisexual or a biromantic lesbian. Some men are hot some women are hot I enjoy sex with both I just feel the most myself when I am with a woman.
@athousandhorses31
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for having such a wholesome channel! The more I watch your videos, the more I realize I'm bi - not a 50/50 split, but I'm still valid regardless. I'm still not very comfortable with my sexuality because I grew up in a very religious and homophobic/biphobic environment, but your videos have been a great help in how to better accept myself. Thank you for sharing your experiences and knowledge on bisexuality; we the bis really appreciate it
@moriahsmith6196
6 жыл бұрын
Wow, what a cool and open minded video! I've never heard the term homoromantic before, but, it makes a lot of sense to me!
@uncagedlearning
7 жыл бұрын
Awesome video! You're right. Just because you're bisexual doesn't mean that you have to walk around, proclaiming it every waking moment of the day. You don't have to attend bi events or Pride, and you don't have to justify a damn thing to anyone. You know what you like and why. :)
@mihaelamars
4 жыл бұрын
THANK YOU! I needed to hear this. I'm a homoromantic heterosexual and I've always felt not bisexual enough. So thank you for the validation - I needed it!
@mustache26
7 жыл бұрын
Very helpful video, thank you so so much
@julietwootton8989
7 жыл бұрын
Thank you for a very positive and helpful video!
@julietwootton8989
7 жыл бұрын
I might also add that working through internalized biphobia is a long and difficult process. Thinking you're "not bi enough" is pretty normal for many people. You are valid, and don't tell yourself anything otherwise.
@witch5878
6 жыл бұрын
Thank you. I´ve been questioning myself recently wether I fall under the bi umbrella. I am heterosexual gray/demi-homoromantic.
@ShawnBloom
7 жыл бұрын
I don't get how could you not be attracted t both genders
@melkidrizzly7390
6 жыл бұрын
Jermaine Williams _I don't get how could you _*_NOT_*_ be attracted to both genders._ *REALLY?* =-O ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ Does it applies to mono-sexual (homosexuals and heterosexuals) people ...? ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
@melkidrizzly7390
6 жыл бұрын
Jermaine Williams Especially those who fall _on either extremes_ on the Kinsey scale. _Kinsey 6_ *(100% homosexual / 0% heterosexual)* 6 Exclusively homosexual, *with no heterosexual* _Kinsey 0_ *(100% heterosexual / 0% homosexual)* 0 Exclusively heterosexual, *with no homosexual*
@melkidrizzly7390
6 жыл бұрын
Mason Weaver _gee I wonder where the saying "being gay is a choice" came from, hmmmmm_ ^^^ I am pretty sure the only reason why this person is saying that they do not understand the rigidity, capacity of fluidity and exclusivity of mono-sexual peoples' sexual orientation: for example they do not really relate to either both orientations (heterosexuality and homosexuality) in that way. If that makes sense.
@yolishanaidoo3491
6 жыл бұрын
My best comparison is you can like the way a person looks but you don't like thier personality, same thing you can like a how a woman or man look and having it turn you on but not being able to like them romantically.
@idkwtibwiok8310
4 жыл бұрын
@Lolik Máté No one asked for your biggoted opinion.
@willneverforgets3341
6 жыл бұрын
It can create complications even if you are not planning on acting on it, but you need to acknowledge what you are and at least if you love your partner, I guess it is fair that he or she knows.
@jojojonine
6 жыл бұрын
This was an amazing video, you explained everything really good, thanks!
@casandrap2809
7 жыл бұрын
i feel legitimate after watching this vidéo, it really helps with self acceptance thanks
@maryb8541
7 жыл бұрын
Thank You so much! After this video I feel so much better about myself and my feelings. You really helped me to understand my feelings and thoughts
@duolingoowo4855
3 жыл бұрын
I’m attracted the opposite gender quite a bit and I’m not not attracted to the opposite gender but I just, can not see myself in a long term relationship with a man. I can see myself dating men and having relationships with them but I can’t imagine said relationships being long term for some reason.
@Biggest_Luisa_Fan
2 жыл бұрын
OMG! I can't even begin to say how much I appreciate this video; this helped so so much!! Seriously, thank you!!🥺💖
@moonvkid
4 жыл бұрын
you are such a great person! thank you so much for putting your time in these videos! you are helping a lot of people!
@GeminiPlatypus
Жыл бұрын
Thank you V Sauce I love you 💖
@MC-gj8fg
7 жыл бұрын
Interestingly, while I can recall one or two spots of what could have been considered bisex tension from age 16-18, I didn't really look at other guys in my early years. It wasn't until around age 19 that I had a bisex interaction that started out as a happy accident during my first multiway sexual situation that I had a "mind blown" moment and truly realized I was also sexually attracted to guys, and have continued to be so for the past couple decades. I then started noticing guys butts and physique when, at least on a conscious level, I didn't before. I mention this because while I do feel that most folks are bisexual to at least some extent, they may not truly yet possess bisexual self-awareness. At least in my generation, when you're brought up, even just implicitly, with certain sexual societal expectations, something specific and jarring may have to occur to open the door in your mind to your own latent bisexuality. Until then it's just occasional awkward interactions that you may dismiss. So when asked on a survey "are you bisexual?" such a person may even feel as though they're answering honestly if they say "no." When they say they don't look at others of the same sex that way...they truly may not. Yet.
@lmcb8447
3 жыл бұрын
So I'm a predominantly homoerotic homosexual...but still bisexual,huh ,who would have known.(gotta stop questioning myself😂 )Anyways I don't care which sex i'd end up married to,but if they were bi too It would be lit,we exchanges experiences and check up hotties together un the street. Thank you very much for tour content,feels close to home and its really helpful.🧡
@Jwet1100
Жыл бұрын
Im bi but have no desire for romance for the same sex… Only some mild passing sexual attraction. I don’t feel bi enough. 2 on the Kinsey scale. Is this normal?
@zoieejai
7 жыл бұрын
Help. I prefer girls over guys like a lot. I see my future with a girl but hshhshsshsjhsaksuogshssh idk wat to do help
@Dodger1104
5 жыл бұрын
Listen~ you are not alone. I feel the same.
@lovepeace9727
3 жыл бұрын
"But hshshshshshsh" moment.
@moelester3062
3 жыл бұрын
I'm heterosexual but homoromantic
@warserver-z5s
Жыл бұрын
Same here..
@SabrinaRosa02
5 ай бұрын
Nah cause this is actually me and thought I was a lesbian but I still very much feel attracted to men LOL
@melimeli5962
4 жыл бұрын
Can't I just call myself bisexual? Heteroromantic bisexual is too long😅
@xoxo.doss_
4 жыл бұрын
I’m a 18 yo male who likes men’s body (and well, what is actually down there actually but it depends ‘cause I’m not turned by nothing rn, it’s strange), but who’s mostly attracted romantically towards the opposite (I wouldn’t say no to a guy but ok) and I think that what attracts me (talking about women) are a pretty face and amazing hair. Am I bi enough? Or is it a phase? Idk alskaosns screw everything
@husband-of-chinggis
4 жыл бұрын
you could be bisexual heteromantic? so like, sexually attracted to more than one gender, but only romantically attracted to the opposite gender. although you said you wouldn't say no to a guy, so you could just be bisexual with a preference for women which is super valid too. idk dude, you know yourself best, just experiment if you want to and you'll figure it out eventually askjaskjjksa
@villageridunggede1737
3 жыл бұрын
Ok,I'm bi
@juncodelrio15
7 жыл бұрын
Sexually and romantic attract to men and women. Not equally. Depends on the day.But I have to conform to attract only men. Because I look very heterosexual and how I like girls ( phisically) are femenine.More like hetero girls , I think. I hate it. I just have to conform to have sexual experience with a girl or girls but with my boyfriend or husband watching later.
@mep6302
3 жыл бұрын
I'm bisexual but more attracted to men. However for now I'm homoromantic because I really want to have a boyfriend. But besides "straight passing" I'm considering having a girlfriend because some women are cute and I like that. But for now I don't think a straight relationship is for me.
@junewern1103
2 жыл бұрын
Am bisexual and bisexual is me 😅😅😅😅forever the blood that runs into my vains....
@93parasol
4 жыл бұрын
thank you
@vanesa4954
7 жыл бұрын
I know this is not the video for it but HELLLLP ME!!!!!!!! I am attracted to the look of guys but I look more at their personality but at the same time a small part of me thinks that I like the look of girls and there personality way more but Idk if it is true. Overall idk if I am pan bi or bi curious or just flat out straight
@BisexualRealTalkNow
7 жыл бұрын
It sounds like what you need is more time to figure stuff out. I know that it sucks to not have answers to every question immediately, but unfortunately that's just life sometimes. And that is especially the life of a bisexual. But, I promise you, once you get more information about yourself by interacting with others, you will get those answers. I know this not the answer you wanted, but it is the best advice I can offer you. That along with the suggestion to watch my 'Are You Bisexual' video.
@vanesa4954
7 жыл бұрын
BisexualRealTalk thank you so much I will look at the video.
@ilovelij
4 жыл бұрын
omg i love you
@matthewbuchalter
7 жыл бұрын
is bisexual attraction to genders or sexes because i think it is attraction to the TWO sexes (hence BI) and that still means you can be attracted to other genders than male and female because we can all agree that biologically, there are two sexes
@TheyreAMess
7 жыл бұрын
Matt It's been coined an umbrella term. Meaning pansexual, polysexual, and other multiple gender-attracted sexualities. The definition has changed over the years.
@matthewbuchalter
7 жыл бұрын
Roxxinout no I'm talking about my specific sexuality not the umbrella term. I don't need you telling me that my sexuality is just an umbrella term. bisexuality is a sexuality within itself
@TheyreAMess
7 жыл бұрын
Matt yeah it is but it is also an umbrella term which stemmed his definition. A pan person is considered "bi" even though they aren't attracted to "two" genders. Which is why the definition was what it was.
@marshapple
7 жыл бұрын
Matt that's the dictionary meaning. I still hold to that meaning.
@TheyreAMess
7 жыл бұрын
marsha okhiria I get that. I was just explaining where the "more than one gender" part came from. But the bisexual sexuality itself is still two.
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