Nice way to put it. I have adopted the approach that I do not have to justify who I am. I am a gay man, I have learned to love who I am, and I am free to enjoy the person I choose. Shorty after I came out once and for all, I even wrote myself a little love letter. It was so exciting and empowering to put down all of the things I realized about myself and how happy I was to finally love who I was. It was quite liberating.
@KellyRMinter
Жыл бұрын
I love the love letter idea! It does sound liberating. Thank you for sharing the idea, I hope someone else reads this and takes this step of radical self love as well! 💜💜
@governingbodylanguage2025
Жыл бұрын
Great vid! I'm a cis het with a Lesbian friend who helped me exit the cult of our birth. She is the greatest. Poor thing dealt with so much in the cult, cos they of course hated gay people. :(
@KellyRMinter
Жыл бұрын
I am so glad that you and your friend have each other, because support is so needed when people come from those types of environments and try to find a new way to do things. Thank you for watching! 💛💛
@watsonandbscuriousdays
Жыл бұрын
hold straights and queers to the same standards!! say it louder for the people in the back!!!!👏👏
@KellyRMinter
Жыл бұрын
💗💗
@capitanace
Жыл бұрын
I use the first response all the time. The stunned confusion on their faces makes me smile. I recently came out to my grandma as Queer/Ace and I thought she was cool with it but on later realization she’s proven to me that 1) she didn’t take me seriously (*yawns in asexual*) and 2) she just thinks I’m confused despite all the responses I gave her which were similar to your’s. I still think these are great answers!! I’m just realizing that not everyone will find them as plausible as I do. :/ nonetheless thank you for this video. It’s been quite healing to remember not everyone thinks “ close-mindedly. 💜🏳️🌈✨
@KellyRMinter
Жыл бұрын
Great point. If people are closed off to the chance to change their thinking/understanding, there's nothing you can do. We can't change people. Then it is up to us to decide if we want to stay in relationship with that person. 💚💚
@452xi
Жыл бұрын
The question, "Are you sure?" Really depends on who its coming from as if its a parent it might be just because they know due to how society is that your life won't be as easy due to other people's issues and opinions with your sexual orientation. So it comes from a place of concern of your wellbeing and not rejection of your sexual orientation. That said, I've learnt from coming out to people that it's about gauging your audience and not making it a big deal. I usually just answer questions that relate to my sexual orientation honestly and casual and if they ask me more directly afterwards I just simply say "Yes I'm gay" and more often than not people have a positive response and if not you know not to waste your time on them.
@KellyRMinter
Жыл бұрын
I absolutely get what you're saying about the question possibly coming from a good place. I will also say, though, that no matter what place it comes from, it very rarely lands that way to the person who has shown the vulnerability to someone. Instead it typically sounds like "validate your truth before I take the time to invest in it." Which can feel pretty crappy. 💛💛
@Etherealvioletco
Жыл бұрын
Yes to bare minimum as a parent is accepting and validating a child as they present themselves! 👏🏻 thank you for these videos on healthy queer love ❤️
@KellyRMinter
Жыл бұрын
Thanks so much for watching!! 💜💜
@maketheworldabetterplace5624
Жыл бұрын
Wow. Really thankful.
@KellyRMinter
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for watching! 💚💚
@jerismith8989
Жыл бұрын
I am in a heterosexual but non sexual relationship with a man. For decades he was straight. No he says he might want to be gay.. I thought orientation is something we knew from birth pretty much. I have know this person for decades. He has been married to a women, had biological children, now he seems to be turning a new leaf but hasnt acted on it other than watching gay porn. Help me understand what is happening. I have forever thought this man was my forever and now idk what is happening!
@KellyRMinter
Жыл бұрын
First of all, thank you so much for watching and commenting. I am sure this time is on of confusion, maybe anger or frustration, and pain for you. Because I don't know you or your partner I can't answer specifics, but I can say that many people don't know who they are until they know. For some that is early, for some later. Because our world is set up for heterosexual people, it is pretty common for people who are heterosexual to know that from birth, and to expect that of others too. But since the world is put up that way, it becomes problematic for people who are NOT cishet and have to find their way to figuring out who they are. I will tell you, though, that when someone has told you who they are, you need to work on believing them. They know once they know, and they handle that in different ways and with different timing. This week's video is an answer to a letter I received from a woman who came out as gay and wants to know how to leave her marriage. I am open to doing a video from the other side also, if you think that may be helpful to you or others. 💜💜💜
@CharleyHays
Жыл бұрын
Another thought provoking video to challenge the way I think.
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