This definitely impacts suicide rates so it's not just a inconvenient reality
@Waywardwindfall
11 ай бұрын
Yeeeees. Please see my comment above. I have been a crisis/suicide counselor for 7 years and the vast majority of really rough calls are ND folks. I have often wondered if the call of the void, intrusive thoughts, and lacking death anxiety is a ND trait for some. I have a colleague who left the field because she said she was scared on every call that the person was going to do it. I don’t have that fear. I hope for everyone to be okay, of course. But I don’t pick up the phone fearing “this will be the time” and she did. Idk how but I compartmentalize pretty well.
@chey7691
11 ай бұрын
@@WaywardwindfallI wouldn't say they are traits naturally at all. It's just that the unknown looks a whole lot friendlier than a lifetime of pain you cannot fully escape after a while. Like most things it is a learned thing, humans are programmed to basically self destruct if left abandoned and in pain for too long some just straddle the edge trying to hold on to hope. I'm speaking from personal experience, and a few others as well.
@SailorYuki
11 ай бұрын
This is an issue we're facing with our son. All the kids in school love him, and he plays well with everyone. But every time we talk to their parents about their children coming over to play, they always have some excuse or another or ghost us completely. My son still misses his best friend. They moved to Singapore without a word to us. He's 8 and has AuDHD and speech impediments. So he has a lot of issues and has expressed feeling lonely already, even if he has lots of friends and easily makes friends with strangers. The prejudice from adults is a huge issue for the future socialisation of our children. All they teach the normies is that NDs are weird and should be avoided. Autism isn't contagious!
@priwncess
9 ай бұрын
I love your son so much❤ I am AuDHD and I understand just how difficult that existence is. Loneliness was and still is such a challenging problem for me especially because I have so much love to give. I really really hope things improve for him.
@storskegg
Жыл бұрын
I was just discussing these sorts of social challenges with a friend, and I completely agree with what you're saying. In addition to other's misunderstanding of how we operate, I think I've identified another, deeper challenge, but one that can be overcome. I think that, as someone on the spectrum (and maybe for many people more broadly neurodiverse), I often fall into the uncanny valley, socially speaking, causing some people to give me a complete miss, while most people allow me "in," but only just--kept at arm's length. I referenced how social circles form with firm boundaries, during the teen years. I, however, was able to intermingle with many different social circles, but was never able to be a part of any of them. In short, I was fine enough to have around, but never enough to belong. This created a "glass wall" of sorts that isolated me then, and continues to do so 25 years later. I think that education on both sides of the glass wall, and as you stated, increasing social acceptance of neurodivergent peoples would do wonders for alleviating the loneliness and isolation experienced by people who are neurodiverse.
@jemk2875
11 ай бұрын
This happened to me too. I can really relate to this experience
@Waywardwindfall
11 ай бұрын
I wonder how much of that is our ability to mask and imitate others behaviors. So we “fit in” but it’s not a perfect fit. Something is just a bit “off”.
@jemk2875
11 ай бұрын
@@Waywardwindfall hmmm yeah maybe. I never really have been good at masking that I know of. I did put up walls though, and only shared parts of myself to people. Which I suppose could be considered a form of masking, but I just wasn’t copying anyone. But I got hurt a lot because I got really attached to people, still do sometimes, so in my head I felt close, while they many times just saw me as as a more casual friend. Several times when growing up, I was told to stop following them around, when that was my way of spending time with them and I couldn’t read their need for space. That’s stuck with me a lot. I feel like such a bother sometimes because of those experiences that I’ve been afraid to get close to people in more recent years.
@jankrusat2150
11 ай бұрын
I suspect that I (56 years old, male) might be on the spectrum as well. I experienced the same throughout my life, and I tend to gravitate to similar outsiders. E.g. back in high school I became close friends with the only blind girl in our school (and to a lesser degree with one of her sighted friends, who was rather the nerdy type. She later became a physicist, my blind friend earned a PhD in a humanities field and is today, working as a historian). I wonder how the blind girl (now woman, we are still very close friends after almost 40 years, the other girl unfortunately died a few years ago from cancer) would have reacted to me if she had been sighted. but she told me that she liked it back then, and up to now, that I accept her disability as it is and try to find ways around it, but never treated her as "the poor lttle blind thing". I always saw her as a person, and at times I was madly in love with her.
@CrowJoestar
11 ай бұрын
I feel this all the time. I feel like I’m always half-accepted into groups and while they like me, I just feel like I never slot in the way others normally do. Like there’s a wall between us. It feels shitty honestly.
@Catlily5
11 ай бұрын
Loneliness is one of the worst aspects to autism in my opinion.
@simpulacra
11 ай бұрын
honestly forcing everyone to be entirely independent is the crux of our social problems today. capitalism wants us to marry, breed, isolate, and consume, and anything not in service of that is deemed a problem that needs fixing. nd people would be just as easily capable of amazing contributions to society if they weren't forced to minimize themselves and tortured into conforming to our broken social behavior.
@Texas-yeehaw
11 ай бұрын
This is what is so heartbreaking for me about my brother with autism. I love him. He's an amazing and kind person, and has the best memory of anyone I've ever known. But he has no friends, and it's hard for me to help him find friends. He deserves a full, happy life, and the fact that he is lonely keeps me up at night.
@amianderson2843
11 ай бұрын
why aren't some of your friends also friends with your brother? do none of them want to be friends with him too? sad.
@Texas-yeehaw
10 ай бұрын
@@amianderson2843 my only friend is very friendly and nice to my brother, but we are very rarely able to see each other. Life isn't that simple. Plus my brother has completely different interests than my friend. My brother deserves true friends, with similar interests to bond with. As does everyone in the world. But thanks for trying to bring me down! Definitely helps the situation a lot 💕
@beIIabeIIa
11 ай бұрын
I'm at such a frustration point with friendships that I've resorted to telling myself that I don't need social relationships to be fulfilled in life. It's such a sad thing I have to tell myself, I wish I didn't feel that way
@allyson--
11 ай бұрын
I hope you can work it out eventually. You definitely deserve friends to support you!
@beIIabeIIa
11 ай бұрын
@allyson-- thank you 💕 I wish the same for you if you struggle with this as well
@chey7691
11 ай бұрын
For your health if you can reach out to people like you, others on your wavelength of the spectrum if you will. Even if they aren't too similar having other ND people in your life improves quality dramatically. Can you imagine having friends that understand you without too much explanation and don't have to mask around? It took me forever to finally find just a few weirdos that didn't hold me at an arms length and would call me weird to my face for once.
@spoonikle
11 ай бұрын
Remove expectations of each-other and of your behavior. Refuse to mask with “friends”, bring to the table your coping mechanisms and make sure they are aware that they are not expected in any way to help you. If you meet other autistic people its a big help, they are generally very happy to try and make a friendship work with “somebody who gets it”. A good spot to find other people on the spectrum is a roller disco or other cool places that adults normally find “childish”. I made all my friends at the local adult night skating sessions going fast and left for hours on end. We are all in our thirties, every week I have a wonderful day with friends to look forward too and if I am not in a good space to socialize I can just zoom about and nobody misses me.
@stevemeters3090
11 ай бұрын
Ive found that having no friends makes it worse. It was a conscious decision, but one i wouldnt make again.
@BombShot
11 ай бұрын
It still baffles me that people think all autism makes you some sort of vegetable. A lot of people treat it like some great tragedy, but the more I learn about it and see the similarities with my extreme ADHD the more I realize how bad the stigma is around it.
@penderyn8794
10 ай бұрын
She has mild to very mild autism. My brother is severe and behaves extremely different
@thevillageidiotyeah
10 ай бұрын
@@penderyn8794that doesnt make your brother a "vegetable" tho does it, he is a conscious person who thinks, no?
@thevillageidiotyeah
10 ай бұрын
@@penderyn8794also Idk if you should be one to say what kind of autism she is, your not her
@maxwellsimon4538
10 ай бұрын
@@thevillageidiotyeahunfortunately, the autism spectrum is such a wide umbrella that it also includes people incapable of speaking or dressing themselves. For people with this level of autism, maintaining any sort of normalcy and independence in their life is the goal of treatment, socialization with the masses is almost impossible or even undesired for some of them. I think the trouble high functioning autistics face mostly come from this umbrella being so wide. High functioning autistics can operate normally in the world without much support, but don’t thrive socially. So considering that the creator of this video is speaking normally, it’s pretty plain to see that her autism is high functioning
@thevillageidiotyeah
10 ай бұрын
@@maxwellsimon4538 I mean to say that it's not really our place to state that about her when we are not her nor her doctor or anything, also btw high and low functioning is not really accurate, instead of low functioning high support needs, and vice versa, And being high support needs doesn't make anybody less human
@kathryn6092
11 ай бұрын
I am currently the most isolated and lonely that I’ve ever been in my entire life. I learned that I was autistic less than a year ago. The isolation that autistic people feel is probably one of the biggest symptoms that effect many of us on a daily basis - because yes, we have many other symptoms in the mix, but ALL of those other symptoms are made worse by the knowledge that you’re alone and have to fix everything by yourself. Knowing that nobody truly understands you is isolating beyond belief. I fully agree with your stance.
@amianderson2843
11 ай бұрын
we are out here. just hidden at home. should start an autistic meet up.
@nikolasaurus6458
10 ай бұрын
@@amianderson2843 YESSS
@ohrats731
11 ай бұрын
Yes I’ve been thinking about our cultural emphasis on independence lately. It’s so isolating! Especially for neurodivergent people. It can be so hard to work in the neurotypical system to begin with, and then we’re also chastised for not being independent enough. I can be independent! But only if I’m using my neurodiverse system, which is so difficult to use in a neurotypical world. I recently got approved for government disability and it’s so frustrating because I’m not incapable of doing things, I just become super stressed and unhealthy when I have to play neurotypical individual all the time. I would love for it to become more accepted and possible for people to live more interdependently and cooperatively instead of every source of livable income feeling like a cutthroat competition
@foxylovelace2679
11 ай бұрын
Whoaaa neurons just connected. Learning interdependence. Basically the ability to work together with a trusted peer group can lead to independence by building confidence and skills in a safe environment.
@butternutsquash6984
11 ай бұрын
Food for thought. I'm going to take this to my work helping those with greater disability than myself. Interdependence is a very different concept than dependence or independence. I hope to teach this concept to my coworkers as a way to bridge that gap between do it yourself and I'll do it for you.
@soniclovergirl2680
10 ай бұрын
I think your point about independence vs interdependence is so important, and I've been thinking about it in my own life. I have learned to be independent in many ways, but there is still sp much that is a challenge. Instead of learning to push through on my own even more, learning how to ask for help, developing support systems, and feeling comfortable with interdepence sounds like a much more reasonable and positive goal for me.
@naomigonzalez-bell6733
9 ай бұрын
I really like how an autistic friend of mine worded it when I was having issues like that with my family. They called it intentional misunderstanding. They said “you’ve given them the tools to “deal” with you, they choose to not clarify or practice and it heavily impacts their understanding of you.” I appreciate my friend like no other❤️
@Waywardwindfall
11 ай бұрын
I have worked for a suicide hotline for 7 years and I swear 90% of calls are people diagnosed or believe themselves to be neurodivergent. There is such a strong correlation between crisis hotlines and neurodivergence. I believe so much mental health info would come from people doing studies on crisis lines.
@lillythehoover
10 ай бұрын
Ive come to a point of being sort of rejected from social circles and not fitting in where ive isolated myself. I feel lonely but i feel i have no choice and also i cant deal with friends atm. Maybe what i need is someone who will understand me and full accept me.
@lekiscool
10 ай бұрын
The issue I have is that I don’t feel lonely. However I do recognize that the walls can only talk so much.
@marleywolfdog
11 ай бұрын
When I had to drop out of school, I faced really extreme loneliness. Over the time I was out of school, I also stopped masking by accident, which made socialising- something that was already extremely difficult for me- even more difficult. But I'm working on it, and for the mean time, I hang out with my autistic friends whenever I can.
@bartlesbee
11 ай бұрын
Social isolation is studied in the senior (elderly) population of the US. And in a NIH study published in 2020, social isolation was found to have the same impact on health as smoking 13 cigarettes per day.
@mascotwithadinosaur9353
11 ай бұрын
This reminds me of how there's certain fossil evidence of adults with disabilities from way back when the human world looked very different. That was when having a disability could very much be a death sentence, but many individuals could live well into adulthood, thanks to the help of their communities. This is just something I've heard of, though, and I don't have any specific examples, but it wouldn't surprise me if it was true
@frozendreams20
10 ай бұрын
As someone who was diagnosed when i was a child as well. I've hid away from social events all my life and i had convinced myself that i would be alone for the rest of it. this is nice to hear :)
@jmaessen3531
9 ай бұрын
Just got dx'd at 33. This is the biggest challenge among many many challenges - the isolation. Its been here all along cuz I've been autistic me the whole time even if we didnt have a name for it. Thank you for making the educational material you make, Kaelynn. 🎉 😭 🫶🏻
@nunyabiznez6381
11 ай бұрын
I cannot remember the last time I sat at a table and ate a meal with other people. I think it might have been around 2009. I think the last time I experienced a hug was probably around 2008, about a year before that and even then both of those were rare occasions. A few years ago someone in a store touched my shoulder to get my attention. that was my last ever human contact and it was the first in several years and was a physical shock to me. Literally it had been so long since I had any physical contact with another human being that I had forgotten what the sensation felt like. I was shaking for an hour afterwards unable to process the unfamiliar sensation. It is not that I avoid physical contact. It is that for most of my life, the vast majority of the time, I am afraid to initiate it due to the fact that most people cringe at the thought of being around me. I have an aversion to invading other people's space or making other people uncomfortable with my existence so I try to avoid inflicting my existence on other people. It's also why I have not had a telephone conversation in about 15 years and why I practically jump out of my skin every time I hear a phone ring.
@amianderson2843
11 ай бұрын
fuk those basterds & what they want! i wish i could be there with you right now and hold your hand. i understand the angry looks just for living. i was beautiful when younger but now people find me fat and old and ugly. people hate me before they even talk to me (i live in a small midwestern town). i hide when i need to so they don't hurt me; but, whenever i feel safe enough: AHHHHH! it's me fukers! normal = bad basically
@AndersAylward
11 ай бұрын
I was so alone I made an entire world of fantasy in my head. But as an adult, I turned that into a fictional world I could invite my friends into through gaming, and after 7 years of strong friendships with the same people, I know we can have community, and no longer feel on the outside so often
@abomb9299
2 ай бұрын
I don’t want over explain my thoughts, like my tendency, rather just give thanks. You’re an ambassador and make a HUGE difference. 🙏
@allyson--
11 ай бұрын
Interdependence. So true queen.
@breadman9211
10 ай бұрын
I've never heard it put into words, I definitely experience this
@kd5tmu
10 ай бұрын
I love this message. Thank you!
@rayraybee8400
8 ай бұрын
You’re so lucky u got diagnosed so young. I got diagnosed this last may 31st and those around me don’t accept / won’t believe it. Not sure I do. I’m glad u seem to be doing well
@betweenthechannels4720
Жыл бұрын
Wonderfully articulated!
@amianderson2843
11 ай бұрын
your comment is gross
@peace5850
2 ай бұрын
You're absolutely right. So well said. I'd love to have understanding, likeminded friends. Loneliness is exclusion, and it does a whole lot of harm, farm from just inconvenient. Less focus on independence, more on interdependence. This is SUCH a good idea.
@SeanAthiestson
10 ай бұрын
I recently discovered your channel and absolutely adore the way you discuss the social impacts of autism. As an older neurdivergent human w/ other intersectional disabilities it feels like finding words I've been missing for a long time.
@elerileigh7926
10 ай бұрын
So I’m 25 and a few years ago my phych major wife who is autistic essentially flat out told me I was autistic. Which… had been thrown around a few times by my childhood doctors however my parent refused to let them officially diagnose me. I have the last few years essentially accepted that I was a little more neuro spicy than I previously thought I was and your videos have been helping me quite a bit in my day to day life, not only to understand myself but my wife too.
@rileylearns
Жыл бұрын
Really well spoken.
@amianderson2843
11 ай бұрын
your comment was so good buddy. good job! you are so good at this. yea for you little guy.
@GreyBobTheSecond
10 ай бұрын
i didn’t have a friend until the 8th grade, didn’t get an autism diagnosis until 21. but thankfully when i got my diagnosis it helped me find friends that i could fit in with.
@baileyellison642
11 ай бұрын
As someone who was diagnosed as an adult, I personally am “independent” as far as this stuff goes but I am just now making a single friend after living in a new town for almost a year, even though I live in the same town as my extended family I was really lonely. I would extremely benefit from programs that would help me learn how to socially interact. Not overthink everything I’m going to say and sometimes become selectively mute because of it, especially when responding to people or holding a surface level conversation. I don’t need a lot, I just want to have 1 more friend if possible
@rebeccasatterley1542
9 ай бұрын
Yes, this is a great one!
@doggytheanarchist7876
10 ай бұрын
I agree with you completely. Community with like-minded people is the single most important thing a person can have. I was undiagnosed through childhood. There is definitely pros and cons to that. I never understood why socializing was difficult for me, I had no support only punishment for being different, but I always connected with the other little outsiders and as an adult, all my little handful of friends are autistic or other NDs and I have real community
@e.w.4677
11 ай бұрын
I love this!
@alisahausgaard973
10 ай бұрын
Thank you!!! 💜
@xaesalyszimpkee
11 ай бұрын
You know how nursing homes or assisted living communities exist for the elderly? I really wish that assisted living communities existed for people with autism. It would be lovely to have community centers or parks with like-minded people who understand how you work and will not judge you for how you stim or exist. A small grocery store with low lighting, and clear aisles and labeling. Or a community garden. It would be a dream.
@priwncess
9 ай бұрын
I'm so lonely and I have so much love to give
@alisabarrett5653
10 ай бұрын
I'm grateful for your videos. I started thinking lately that my dad may be Autistic. He is on hospice. His wife has alienated him from all of his children to varying degrees. I moved home, 400 miles, and tried to see him, but he didn't want to see me. I didn't see him for at all since I've moved home. I think back to how awkward conversations were with him. We never really connected. I'll never know, but he seemed very lonely and I think this made him vulnerable to a dangerous person. I've tried to contact authorities and aging services. There's nothing they can do to help us, his children, see him.
@user-ny4hf3yb1q
Ай бұрын
It took till I was 12 to find a life long friend. They were so patient and taught me how to communicate. I still talk to one of them to this day. She even admitted that knowing me helped her communicate with an autistic kid she was babysitting. She told him he could scream at her and just let his frustration out because he was masking all day. She was able to make him feel seen and understood and that warms my heart so much.
@Destiny-pk8xc
Ай бұрын
I agree with this 100 percent. I would develop drug addictions from loneliness and being unable to regulate stress from autism. All I ever wanted was enough friends to appreciate life and cope with my mental state.
@queenofdaydreams3825
11 ай бұрын
Fully agree 💜
@rowan404
10 ай бұрын
To me, the worst part of being autistic is the guilt of being unable to help my caregivers despite everything they’ve done for me. It makes me feel like a spoiled brat.
@stemwaffle
11 ай бұрын
Im not autistic, im adhd, but I'm really intense, cant handle loud places ("party" atmospheres) and do not process social signals kinda badly. I fall into the category of people who can be put up with for a couple hours, and then everyone gets tired to me. I dont have any real friends, havnt my whole life, really, ive only had acquaintances, who dont want to go any farther. I feel so lonely ao often. Its nice to know its a shared experience.
@liliaartimenia1603
10 ай бұрын
Well said!!
@sarahroberts7374
10 ай бұрын
Well said ❤
@janinas1121
10 ай бұрын
Yes to that!!
@yogevrabl
10 ай бұрын
That's exactly what we are learning in speech therapy
@virginiacreed716
10 ай бұрын
Brilliant 😊
@adan8897
10 ай бұрын
Persistent misunderstanding of how we operate. 👏🏼
@timschultz1928
10 ай бұрын
This right here.. struggled for decades and now I’m finally accepted.. most don’t even get that I’m autistic.. it’s been a long road, but community is the key
@lindsaydiscovers9842
10 ай бұрын
Isolation and lonliness is a very American problem (a few other countries suffer from this as well), which makes this factor especially bad for Autistic people in the US. I've traveled to 40 countries on 5 continents, and lived abroad for nearly a decade. All of the things you recommend for Autistic people, I'd recommend for the whole contry.
@GuyG.KTalesOfAnimals
9 ай бұрын
holly beans you are so wise
@MrsMelrom
Ай бұрын
I am privileged in that I both really enjoy my own company and I have a few probably nd friends. Daughter, however, truly struggles with this specific issue and I feel helpless as I don't have the tools to help her.
@GrannaMary
Жыл бұрын
Love you are sharing this so others can learn from your experiences !
@jamess5415
11 ай бұрын
Very well spoken. See this as a main issue with my oldest.
@weirdhousewivesclub
11 ай бұрын
As someone who was not diagnosed until well into adulthood, I can't even count how many friends I've lost or drifted from due to my difficulty in interpersonal communication. While my husband tries to understand, it can be difficult when he is one of the few people I see with any regularity anymore and our nuerodivergencies manifest in different ways so while he tries to 'get it' he doesn't always.
@omniphoenix6482
10 ай бұрын
❤❤
@jlovesj3335
10 ай бұрын
I struggled when i was young really bad. I got to hs learned to mask. But tired of it and went back to isolation.
@jessicaharris1608
9 ай бұрын
In my experience, as someone diagnosed ADHD in my 30s, I've unconsciously gravitated towards other ND people and had the best friendships with other ND people, ASD or ADHD. In the case of my husband, he's diagnosed ADHD and we suspect ASD also. I have legit learned years after our friendship started that my dearest and closest friends have also been ND. I recall before diagnosis the friend I made in college who stated he was an Aspie. (I know that term is no longer used, but this was 2010-2011 at the time we met.) I recall that despite how vastly different we were, we could openly discuss things and ask highly personal questions without awkwardness. They were subjects that the average person wouldn't comfortably discuss, even with their doctor! Didn't phase us. We asked as kindly as we could, but it would certainly come off wrong/rude/offensive, etc. to a NT person.
@benjijacobs2049
Ай бұрын
As an autistic person working as an rbt I completely get it, teaching community and group skills can absolutely be helpful for any age to help since neurotypical social rules are different to many of our own social perceptions
@LilChuunosuke
10 ай бұрын
I genuinely would not be alive today if I had not made friends with other autistic people by a complete odd twist of fate in middle school. When I was at the lowest point in my life and wanting to escape from the pain, the only thing that kept me from doing irreversible harm to myself was the few friends I had who I actually felt a genuine connection to. The first people in my life who I finally felt like they understood me. The ones who could support me in a way that actually felt effective and impactful. Loneliness isnt just an inconvenience that comes with autism. It can be deadly. Finding community can literally save lives.
@GrayAvian
9 ай бұрын
I am rather fortunate in my ability to be completely fine with being alone. I thrive by myself, and I basically fill my social needs by talking to online friends. Still it would be nice if people were more understanding of my condition
@kathyb249
10 ай бұрын
Being lonely is a main challenge. I have learned to rely on micro-interactions. I derive joy and fulfillment from. Social interactions like talking to cashiers, or social services. It has made a huge difference.
@I-like-dream-smp
6 ай бұрын
This is exactly how I feel in school as I’ve not really got any good freinds
@terriem3922
10 ай бұрын
Have to agree.
@FartRainbows
10 ай бұрын
I love ur shirt
@violetteporyvay539
10 ай бұрын
I’ve been alone all my life even when around people because of this issue. Even now, I still force quit jobs because people don’t understand me and I usually become the laughing stock or I get told I should leave since I don’t fit in with the team. Very frustrating and very debilitating
@indigobunting2431
10 ай бұрын
I can only manage one friend.
@elizabeththomas104
10 ай бұрын
Interdependence is a good goal
@1253mmzz33
10 ай бұрын
🤙🏻
@amandad8899
11 ай бұрын
Yas🎉
@user-qq7mk5ec1o
10 ай бұрын
😎👍
@AshAshAshAshAshAshAshAshAshAsh
10 ай бұрын
I just need a job that I can be lonely. I need less socializing. I enjoy having my one human that I married and don’t want more humans to deal with. It sucks though because you can’t get work unless you someone because “it’s who you know, not what you know” that gets you a job
@JustASleepySloth
2 ай бұрын
Most of the time I have tricked myself by keeping my brain busy with tasks or things I enjoy so that I don't think of feel the loss of being alone. I do live with someone and 90% of the time just Knowing there's someone near by keeps my ape brain happy but there are times where I feel cripplingly lonely because I don't feel completely seen or understood by those around me. I also am too exhausted to keep up with friendships, I find them to be either boring or exhausting to maintain.
@Devin_Burke94
11 ай бұрын
❤
@ecc84
Жыл бұрын
Humans are social creatures.....not me chuck I bloody hate social interaction...it's draining.
@Popers978
11 ай бұрын
People don’t understand this after a traumatic experience I had I have not left my house other than work in over two years no friends no family it’s crippling.
@amianderson2843
11 ай бұрын
i just had one too. was yours the police?
@Popers978
11 ай бұрын
@@amianderson2843 no it had more to do with love ones
@robertforster8984
9 ай бұрын
I am autistic and I am so, so lonely to the point that I want to die. It scares me because I can’t promise you that I will still be here in a year since I might have succumbed to suicide.
@jecicox7605
Ай бұрын
That would make all the difference for me. Pretty sure that loneliness will be my cause of death, long before anything physical will take me.
@jamesmoore5630
10 ай бұрын
I enjoyed being alone as a child.
@Duterasemis
10 ай бұрын
My problem isn't a lack of career skills and academic rigor, it's that I am so lonely I want to die. I have nobody to share my burdens or triumphs with, nobody who understands me anyway, and everything just feels completely pointless as a result.
@JosephVespa-ve6zi
8 ай бұрын
She's pretty
@danielpintard7382
11 ай бұрын
what’s alarming is that neurotypicals seem to be moving away from models of living that diminish interdependence and they way i’ve seen it, it seems like being independent is like the quintessential trait of a normal functioning adult within our highly individualistic western society
@stephquest315
10 ай бұрын
I wish i had friends. The friends i do have live far away from me and the only one i have close to me is very busy and is not good at texting back. I have friends but i don't have anyone that i can call judt to hangout or have more of the same interests. All my friends are horrible at texting back and not just to me but with other loved ones. Iike i know its not intentional but it makes me feel like im not important enough to just reply back even though everyone has their phone on them 24/7 Its hard to make friends as an adult more so if your autistic. I tend to love people deeply but i never get that kind of love back.
@homemanager1724
10 ай бұрын
So much of autism and adhd overlap... as an individual I can apply your videos to my own experience has someone with adhd, but as a whole I wish adhd was given the same global focus on these types of thorough and thoughtful advocacy.
@thatautisclesbian
10 ай бұрын
I have a speech disorder too so I can't be understood as a child very well it's better as an adult but still annoying
@whyfi2749
10 ай бұрын
You, I like you.
@allspice5999
11 ай бұрын
i absolutely agree with this, unfortunately the way capitalism thrives is to keep people isolated and hyper independent. so when people start connecting they realize that the system is one of oppression and that we deserve better and that means the downfall of capitalism. every issue we face can be traced back to capitalism.
@makingmydreamscometrue6872
11 ай бұрын
Very well said.
@catcateyesstrongblood7157
11 ай бұрын
❤❤ treu❤❤
@anatreichman7553
10 ай бұрын
This is why integrated schools are so important
@gracemiller3861
10 ай бұрын
I have RSD so it adds a whole other level of complicated
@kittiwhieldon4329
11 ай бұрын
You are articulate and thoughtful. You have an important voice and compelling message to share. You will do much good in this world. Keep up the great work!
@always0tired415
11 ай бұрын
I was diagnosed at 18 and during middle school and high school I had no friends and no way to explain my behavior to people when I wanted friends, when I figured out it was autism before getting a diagnosis I told people that but then they said you don’t have a diagnosis so you’re lying or one person even said that her uncle has autism and I act nothing like him so I have to be lying (which is wrong on so many levels especially since I am female)
@39ban9
10 ай бұрын
Oh ! Women usually suggest this - “just try smiling”
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