Before I knew I was autistic I took up yoga (which I continue to practice off and on). But back when I first started yoga, I told my sister I liked yoga because it grounded me in my body. My sister informed me she had no idea what I meant because we were always in our bodies. And it was chalked up to me being weird.
@sarahferrell5458
Жыл бұрын
Yes, I liked yoga because you’re grounded in the moment… not having that brain-body disconnect. Whole. Oneness.
@annienamaste8283
Жыл бұрын
Same! I was drawn to how yoga connects the mind and body I remember telling people how I love how yoga brings me into my body and so few people seemed to understand what I meant
@sarahferrell5458
Жыл бұрын
@@annienamaste8283 my sister one time told me, “I admit my body is mostly here to carry my head around, but YOU are only in your head.”
@angelal5485
Жыл бұрын
I'm just starting to consider whether I may be autistic, but this is exactly how I describe why I like yoga.
@mariezguitar5029
Жыл бұрын
I find this experience when I rock climbing. Part of the preparation I do is check in with my body and choose my objectives based on how I and my body are feeling. One aspect that I like about yoga is that you can adapt it to where you are and that is perfectly valid.
@MamaEvaUSA
Жыл бұрын
I feel that as an AFAB, we are conditioned by society to always put others first, sacrifice our needs for that of others (younger siblings, kids, men). Knowing now at 43 that I am AuDHD, I never really realized how out of touch I am with my physical self. My health is shot, everything hurts all the time, and words/phrases like “disabled” and “chronic illness or pain” are now in my vocabulary. The disconnect is real. Thank you for putting all this into words and helping me find the language to use to tell others my story.
@MomontheSpectrum
Жыл бұрын
You’re welcome. Thanks for sharing your experience here. 💓
@Truerealism747
Жыл бұрын
Do you have fybromyalgia nwith it
@ZeatherMusic
10 ай бұрын
Autism does often coincide with connective tissue disorders and autoimmune disorders so do be gentle to yourself. I already feel like an old lady at 34 because I have both!
@johnrice1943
10 ай бұрын
A carnivore diet will fix all of these problems. Hope that helps someone as much as it helped me. I played the Uno reverse card on my fibromyalgia with beef, and cutting out all plants.
@ZeatherMusic
10 ай бұрын
Maybe let us know how you’re getting on in 5 years. Personally, I believe we need antioxidants, vitamins (such as Vitamin C) and fibre in our diets!
@ironfirehorse
Жыл бұрын
This is the story of my life lol totally "clumsy" always wiping out and bouncing back pretending I wasn't dying. As a kid everyone called me Gumby lol as a teenager it changed to Iron which is a play on my name, Irene. As an adult I actually just started breaking. My best defense has been working out or dancing daily. The body awareness and developed muscles has helped. But I still have accidents when I get stuck in my head. Great topic. Thanks for this ✌️❤️⚔️🔥🐎
@MomontheSpectrum
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for your comment and sharing your experience.
@Onthe9thlife3730
Жыл бұрын
Might also be dyspraxia playing a part in this. Edit: nevermind, she mentioned this further in the video 😅.
@sarahcarson811
Жыл бұрын
Hahahaha this!!!! A few months ago I named that clumsy part of myself… she’s Clumsy Clarice. Even my husband will shout C!C! now when I have a clumsy moment (very very often!) It’s been a fun way for me to embrace it.
@sarahcarson811
Жыл бұрын
And be aware of it, to add!
@ironfirehorse
Жыл бұрын
@@sarahcarson811 Lol it's better to have fun with it than to be embarrassed. I enjoy seeing others laugh even if it is at my expense lol 😅😂🤣
@jeffreypollan308
Жыл бұрын
Taylor, back when I was your age, I only knew that I was depressed, was told that I had PTSD, and was starting to see a therapist three times a week. It is great that you have a much better understanding of what is going on, and can help others.
@dabordietrying
Жыл бұрын
i relate to this so much. i was diagnosed with depression and anxiety and PTSD but its only recently that ive realized i'm autistic. i thought for so long everything i was experiencing was just what i was diagnosed with, and it made sense to me. some symptoms still do for certain disorders. I've always wondered if someone went through the same thing. tho, i am much younger, thankfully i got diagnosed when i was 13 because the state did some court order thing and paid for me to do therapy and get diagnosed. im 20 now, and no longer have that court order unfortunately. getting diagnosed is expensive
@byamboy
Жыл бұрын
here I am, in the middle ground, having just come out of depression because I have realized that a big chunk of that was just undiagnosed autism. My therapist doesn't understand and says that I found a way to avoid looking deep by always saying it's autism, that I should not think in categories. She has no clue. I'm ending therapy on Friday as I no longer need it, even tho I know my therapist thinks I've gone crazy, which is so ridiculous.
@byamboy
Жыл бұрын
@@michele0324 I know!!! It sucks, but it will be over soon, thank you!
@michele0324
Жыл бұрын
@@byamboy oh dear, just realized I sent a response to the incorrect post! Oops.
@thewellnesswarriorsa
5 ай бұрын
Yes me too in my 30's it was bipolar, depression and CPTSD.... Then medicated and everything just got worse. Today I am actually getting worse with my Autism and not better, somedays I cant speak, in very stressful situations or with an abuser I loose the capacity to speak.....
@plushieangela
Жыл бұрын
This is so so accurate! For so many times as an autistic person I've felt like a floating head moving around the world, and I have to focus so hard to avoid things like falling down the stairs and spraining my ankles (I've injured them so many times that my physio realised that they weren't repairable with movement).
@vivianstewart7523
Жыл бұрын
Before I knew I was autistic, I used to describe my body as something that just carries around my brain.
@gigahorse1475
Жыл бұрын
That describes my spatial awareness really well. 😂 I commonly try to walk through doorways, then my shoulder hits the side 🤦♀️
@mikaelangeloh2316
10 ай бұрын
This is exactly how I feel. But since I also have ADHD, and that side manifested as a really athletically gifted body, I’ve done sport and especially extreme sports my whole life. Like really really hardcore stuff. And even though I’m really good at the sports, the clumsy autistic side is always there as well, so I’m both really fluid with my body and also clumsy at the same time, and this has caused me to crash, and crash, and crash, and injure every part of my body.
@johannabjorkell4226
8 ай бұрын
I went to therapy years ago and we had one session of art therapy. I drew myself as a head with hands and feet. I was in my head ALL the time… can so relate. I am undergoing assessment now for AuDHD
@vaasnaad
Жыл бұрын
WOW! I knew my freeze and shutdown responses were due to Autism but you really framed it in a way I hadn't heard before! A lot of things just clicked, including my ability to go competely emotionally numb when I'm in a situation that I should be crapping my pants in.
@MomontheSpectrum
Жыл бұрын
yup
@lavendargooms2056
Жыл бұрын
My most helpful tool in connecting with and working my body: my dog. Having to help him with his needs makes me way more aware of my own. I take him outside and realize that I actually really need to go to the bathroom, he needs his walk everyday so my body gets the exercise that it needs when I totally wouldn't have realized that the lack of exercise is why I was feeling bad/weird in the first place, I fill up his water bowl and immediately fill up my giant tumbler for myself. He also though is amazing at telling me when I'm having emotions in my body that I may not realize, whenever he is up in my face worrying about something but not showing me anything that he wants I know - I'm being weird and he's worried. Unfortunately there's not really anything he can do about me dropping stuff all the time, but he definitely benefits from it so maybe he wouldn't even if he could!
@ArtyAntics
Жыл бұрын
When you described fawning I suddenly realised that’s what masking is and I’d never thought about it like that before.
@julen2380
Жыл бұрын
Same here! I only knew about flight, fight or freeze. But fawning is absolutely what I do and it takes so much strength and energy. More and more puzzle pieces...
@ArtyAntics
Жыл бұрын
@@julen2380 I knew about fawning I just never thought of masking as a fawn response 🤯 I guess it’s because it’s a type of people pleasing, but I never saw it that way as it is more of an avoidant strategy for me.
@lrwiersum
Жыл бұрын
I thought I dissociated, now I understand it's AUTISM.
@NoLies17
4 ай бұрын
Dissociation is a stress/trauma response and I think Autistics are more likely to use Dissociation as a coping mechanism. Just because you dissociate, doesn't mean you're autistic and just because you're autistic, doesn't mean you dissociate. So if you are experiencing Dissociation, you are in fact, dissociating, regardless of whether you're autistic or allistic. I'm just trying to clarify so that others don't assume because they dissociate, that they must be autistic.
@DiscordBeing
3 ай бұрын
It could be both! Trauma often comes with autism.
@sueannevangalen5186
Жыл бұрын
I'm so happy I was able to make a video suggestion that's sparked all this discussion. I've been thinking a lot about this topic lately because (like so many of us), I'm looking back over my life and realizing that I've been doing and saying things in order or please other people, or live up to other people's expectations all my life, and this has become the default setting for me. I don't think I even know who I am anymore. And it feels pretty physical at times. It's not just "who I am," it's also "what's going on in my body". It's like a switch got turned off and I'm trying to flick it back on. Learning how to pay better attention to my stims has been amazing. But it's uphill work.
@andreaswesterlund-db3rm
Жыл бұрын
I am in a very similar place it seems. Same default setting. One of many things I struggle with regarding this, trying to make sense of things, is I barely have any memories from when I was a child. Trying to look at old photos, but I have a hard time to relate. I wonder if the disconnection has something to do with this. I had a good "ordinary" childhood, that maybe makes it even harder when trying to figure out if this selfdiagnosis is real. This year (i am 47), I discovered that I what I am feeling sometimes is actually anxiety. My whole life I considered myself being a calm, quiet person with no anxiety.
@sueannevangalen5186
Жыл бұрын
@@andreaswesterlund-db3rm ME, TOO! I've always been described as quiet, calm, and patient. If someone had told me that sometimes, an anxiety attack can look like getting quiet and withdrawn, I might have cottoned on sooner. I'm also 47 (almost -- my birthday is less than a month away).
@andreaswesterlund-db3rm
Жыл бұрын
@@sueannevangalen5186 Thanks for sharing. Desperately seeking for validation and trying to decide what is what, and what is important in the search. What to tell the psycologist about my childhood in the upcoming evaluation that is relevant. I have a couple of months left in this neverending deep dive into autism/adhd rabbithole, so hopefully the fog will clear a bit.🙂
@shga7897
Жыл бұрын
@@andreaswesterlund-db3rm I have a very similar experience. I was always described as calm, quiet, laid-back, compliant. And my childhood memories are foggy-I didn’t realise how foggy until I started on my autistic self-identification journey. Unlike autistic people sharing their stories here I could barely draw up a single childhood memory to confirm diagnosis. But when I took a step back, I knew everything I struggle with as an adult was there as a kid-and even more disabling because I didn’t have the coping skills I acquired in adulthood. My body remembers even though I can’t draw up many anecdotes. I also learned that not being able to remember your childhood is often a symptom of childhood trauma. I grew up in a “normal” loving family as well, so I didn’t understand my childhood trauma symptoms for a long time. I was always told when I was 2-5 years old I was the most “rebellious” kid my parents had ever seen. I got multiple spankings a day because I absolutely refused to do what I was told. Then at age 5 I became the extremely compliant, withdrawn girl I’ve known myself to be most of my life, but i still felt awful inside. When I first hear pathological demand avoidance described it was a jolt of lightening through my body-I suddenly understood my trauma symptoms. I was having anxiety attacks multiple times a day as a preschooler (very common with pda) and punished for them. Until at age 5 I learned to freeze/fawn instead of fight. So behind my quiet demeanour there’s always been a shit ton of anxiety that makes me more withdrawn, and within my normal family I lived out a story of trauma. I don’t know how much of this lines up with your story, but I know for a lot of autistic adults the statement “I had a happy childhood” is a masking statement, meaning “my childhood looks like it would be happy from an onlooker’s perspective because an NT child would have been happy, but my needs were not accommodated so there’s actually a lot of unspoken trauma there.”
@andreaswesterlund-db3rm
Жыл бұрын
@@shga7897 Your reply is very much appreciated. It seems you have come a bit further on your self identification-journey than I have and I need stories like these to help me. Very much a work in progress.
@OneCatShortOfCrazy
Жыл бұрын
The thing about being on high alert and almost in a trauma situation explains so much to me. I could be at work all day without peeing or feeling thirsty, or hungry or tired, just go go go, focus on work and nothing else. (actually got stressed if there was no work to do at any given moment, like why else am I here lol) I literally never felt any bodily needs. Then come home and be completely flat and dead and broken (and after 3 years burned completely out and no longer able to work) Talking to others they get horrified that i go a whole workday without using the bathroom once or grabbing a drink or anything. I see now why I do this. If I am out of the house I have always done this. I have called in being in "go mode" and that I don't feel things before I can relax.. but I didn't realise how not normal and unhealty it is until I worked myself completely sick in only 3 years :( (not diagnosed with autism fyi, just have very many traits and don't know if I am or not)
@MomontheSpectrum
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for your comment 💓
@pmwehrle
Жыл бұрын
I will drink from my water bottle at work and eat... but I go the whole day without using the bathroom. It's normal for me somehow. I also come home completely shattered. I just come home & crash. I have ADHD & possible autism.
@universaltruth2025
Жыл бұрын
@@pmwehrleThat sounds like my daughter - she is at high school. Won’t go to the toilet, eats v little then comes home & crashes and sits in a darkened room all evening.
@TheDomina
Жыл бұрын
That sounds a lot like me. I force myself to eat and drink, but instead of going to the restroom never, I go as much as doesn’t make the teacher suspicious just to get out of class and away from annoying children. But besides those few differences it’s the exact same.
@user95395
9 ай бұрын
i don't eat or drink the whole day and honestly get weirded out when guys say they have to go to the bathroom at work. We have a huge bladder compared to women, so i always thought they were just trying to get out of work. As far as the OTHER bathroom function, if i don't go in the morning I will not even feel the urge until i'm done with all my tasks. When i was young and very addicted to video games, i could stay up 24-36 hours at a time without even feeling the need to use the bathroom.
@lottevanderzanden5045
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for talking about this interesting topic. I experience the strongest mind/body disconnect when I'm intimate with my husband. It makes it practically impossible. It's a shame that this topic is rarely discussed in light of autism although I get that it might be too personal for autistic KZitemrs to discuss. In my case I think it's the combination of a social setting and too much sensory input that results in the disconnect. It's something we are working on and hoping to better understand.
@MomontheSpectrum
Жыл бұрын
I’m not afraid to go there! 🙃 just had a session over this this morning with a group of neurodiverse couples. We were discussing sensory overwhelm in the context of physical intimacy. I hope to make a video soon!
@lottevanderzanden5045
Жыл бұрын
@@MomontheSpectrum What a coincidence! I always assumed that more autistic people would struggle with this but never really found a good resource on it. Really looking forward to a video about that topic!
@vivianstewart7523
Жыл бұрын
@@lottevanderzanden5045 That would be great.
@tracik1277
Жыл бұрын
Too late for me in life I have recently realised that what you describe is exactly what I was always experiencing.
@HH-ig3ck
Жыл бұрын
Completely relate to this Lotte, thanks for sharing, I’ve never heard it described outside of my own mind before.
@hannalengeling3362
Жыл бұрын
We mask so well, that when we’re told to listen to our bodies and then when we do, we’re told we were wrong about our body’s messages and that’s really confusing. It took me too long to realize no one else knows my body’s signals and I’m the only one who can interpret them.
@MomontheSpectrum
Жыл бұрын
exactly!! we also unfortunately tend to experience a lot of gaslighting and we sometimes train ourselves out of listening and responding to our body's cues... it can take time to create space for them to speak to us again.
@johnrice1943
10 ай бұрын
When I was young, when I needed to poop, the soles of my feet would hurt. Strange, huh? I knew if I said my feet hurt that I needed to poop. Teachers didn't understand. They didn't realize that that I didn't want to announce to everyone I had to poop and was trying to hint. Clearly those things weren't connected with normal ppl. So I'd hold it until next bathroom break. Hope that makes sense
@thewellnesswarriorsa
5 ай бұрын
sooo true, sometimes I think we are the normal ones on the planet and everyone else is something seriously wrong with..... 😂
@passaggioalivello
Жыл бұрын
Hi Tay. I often feel disconnected. The sensation is like I'm in the middle of sleep/awake status, just like an interrupted dream, but when you still can't realize the difference between the dream and reality. I can relate to most of the traits you listed in this video. I'm a living stereotype. I didn't know the fawn response was common in the autistic community, I always thought it was related to CPTSD.
@MomontheSpectrum
Жыл бұрын
It can also be related to CPTSD for sure. But still helpful to talk about in the context of autism as well, in my opinion.
@joob40
Жыл бұрын
I'd love to know what your brain waves are doing during these phases. I spent weeks in that state after my last bout of COVID, so that was fascinating to see how physical inflammation affects it as well, not just stress. I also trained myself years ago to stay in that state for a long time while waking up. So I've been intrigued by brain wave states for a long time, but never had mine studied! I do know, from the doctor who developed prTMS brain wave therapy, that Autism had a specific brain wave pattern supposedly different from cPTSD, though I suspect their very similar.
@tracik1277
Жыл бұрын
It’s also very common for autistic people to have developed cptsd as a result of how they have been treated by others over the lifetime. Differentiating between the two is almost impossible.
@tracik1277
Жыл бұрын
@@BipolarCourage I think you make valid points there. I would say that autism carries with it positive traits and enjoyable experiences, along with other things that can present difficulties in life, whereas cptsd/ptsd have no positive or enjoyable features whatsoever.
@tracik1277
Жыл бұрын
@@BipolarCourage I would view the examples you describe as a way of ‘escaping’ the trauma and a way of healing the trauma, respectively, not the experience of the cptsd/ptsd itself; that experience is 100% unpleasant as far as I’m concerned.
@virgofairy88
Жыл бұрын
As a kid I really had a hard time with body awareness and I was kind clumsy-especially in sports. I struggled in gym class and wasn’t exactly the kind of athlete anyone wanted on their team (except field hockey-that was the one sport I was okay at lol😂). Getting into theater, dance and doing more movement activities I enjoy has been helpful. I’ve developed a good sense of balance and have rhythm. Still can’t throw or catch a ball though.
@chrismaxwell1624
10 ай бұрын
Same here, i found with enough practice, not nearly enough time that I can become really good like insanely good at specific tasks. I think once it become muscle memory and I don't have think about it is when that happens. Take very long time, longer that most to get the muscle memory.
@danadavis3647
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for being here Taylor! Thank you for making this content. I really can't thank you enough.
@MomontheSpectrum
Жыл бұрын
You are welcome Dana! Thanks for your comment.
@Jaswe5027
Жыл бұрын
As a teacher, I am always tripping over desks, chairs, students, or nothing at all. Lots of neurodivergent staff at my work.
@57K
Жыл бұрын
This really resonates with me. I often feel like my Brian and Body are two different entities. I often feel like I'm like a robot or AI that is functioning on multiple plains of existence. That sounds weird and dramatic but can't come up with a good description.
@caledoniansmurf3691
Жыл бұрын
Just wanted to say thank you for your description, I'm waiting to see if I can be assessed and for so long struggled with this. Then today read this. [sigh of relief] Thank you 😢
@jahbloomie
Жыл бұрын
I don’t have a diagnosis yet, but I SO relate! I never thought I could be autistic because eye contact is easy and natural for me, but watching your videos got me to take some online quizzes. The results encourage me to pursue it further. The thought that the things that have always made me feel different could be rooted in autism blows my mind, especially since I’m already 76.
@agrotta1650
Жыл бұрын
I relate more to older autistic women your age than my own age. There's a KZitem video of late diagnosed elderly women that Really hits home for me. My grandmother had children Very young and my parents also had me when they were just out of their late teens. so I grew up with my parents having the mindset of their grandparents. One set of my great grandparents were born in 1901 and 1895. I was spanked a Lot. Late diagnosed with ADD at 30, and Autism level 1 (formerly known as Aspergers) at 43. I went through a Lot of testing throughout my school years and was never diagnosed with anything. I wasn't allowed the freedom to "be myself" like kids these days. I had to obey the rules of the house. I made sure I wasn't the only one that had to follow them too. Everything had a correct way and a wrong way. Minding your p's and q's, beeing seen and not heard (I never obeyed that one). I don't remember everything.
@gocelotspice5766
Жыл бұрын
Not sure if I’m autistic but I can definitely relate to a lot of these things, I spend so much time in my head and I often ignore or don’t notice cues- like using the restroom in a conversation, remembering to eat/drink, ect. I also have trouble with misjudging distances and spaces and walk into things fully thinking I’m not going to hit them all the time.
@bobross6802
2 ай бұрын
Diagnosed at 80. Truly enjoying your videos .
@jo-lesley9590
Жыл бұрын
Very interesting perspective. I work in a call centre, so very busy and noisy, lots of people around me, lots of calls. I can only manage 3 days a week. I've noticed that I can go a whole shift, 8 hours without getting the pee message. Even when I'm on break and having a drink. It seems like I switch it off or I'm too busy being too stimulated to notice. It's only when I get home that the message comes through, often urgently. Something I used to get when I was really stressed in a toxic relationship was wakeful dreams/nightmares. Not sure if this is more prevalent on the spectrum. Being in a semi dream state, so eyes open, seeing things that the brain is still creating until I put a light on. Once I saw things coming down from the ceiling, I bolted out of bed and hid in the corner of the room, watching and terrified. Then there's the food messages. I'm quite good at dieting, can do quite restrictive healthy plans, for between a year and 18months. Then suddenly with the snap of a finger, my brain says no more. There's a definite disconnect or delayed reaction there. I'm trying low carb at the moment, and I'm trying to foster a more mindful approach. Actually trying to ask my body what it wants, e.g: are you hungry or just peckish? After years of denying it, you can imagine the amount of cake images I'm shown. It's been a bit challenging. I'm still trying to work all this out. Every piece of the puzzle helps though. Thank you.
@pmwehrle
Жыл бұрын
I do the same thing at work where I don't use the bathroom at all. I can only manage 2 to 3 days a week, also.
@LisaAnnOberbrunner
Жыл бұрын
I started learning about autism because a friend has 2 autistic children. The first time I watched one of your videos, (it was about female autism symptoms) it felt like you were talking about me. Thank you for explaining things so well. I love your channel. 💜
@LisaAnnOberbrunner
Жыл бұрын
I don't know what that is. Is there another way I can message you?
@hartandsoul8
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for making a video about this. I used to have frequent meltdowns because I didn't realize I was uncomfortable (physically, socially, emotionally) until the discomfort had become unbearable. It takes a lot of effort to pay attention to what is happening in my body/mind/heart while simultaneously paying attention to anything else-- especially social situations. I have fewer meltdowns now but it takes so much time and effort to pay attention to what I'm experiencing, and then it takes time to process what I can do to make myself comfortable again; still, sometimes by the time I've figured out what I can do to make myself comfortable again, I'm on the verge of a meltdown or already having one.
@LWeOAreVOneE
Жыл бұрын
So *this* is why I've felt like I'm in a dream for almost as long as I can remember. I can remember the first time I triggered the feeling as a kid, but I can't remember when it became my normal or even what it felt like to feel connected to my body. Maybe this is why my sensory issues have "gotten better" since I was a kid.
@TheDomina
Жыл бұрын
Maybe you should try a hike. I know when I get like that, some time in nature and music makes me feel me again.
@LWeOAreVOneE
Жыл бұрын
@TheDomina I'm too physically uncomfortable to do any sort of exercise thanks to my sensory issues and my chest curses. And the outdoors in summer in Oklahoma are a sensory nightmare with the heat and bugs and noises.
@s.b200
Жыл бұрын
Great video! For me, all emotions and body functions have a "resistance threshold" before any feeling can be felt. But after that boundary is passed, emotions are often too strong for the situation. Hunger and thirst are not felt until the need for food/drink becomes extreme. When and how much to eat is tricky and Im just winging it. When hanging with others, my internal joy often doesn't come until after the hangout is over so I feel very "flat" and have to mask when I am with others. If I would find a joke incredibly funny right away, my laughter breaks out into an explosion of dopamine and I have to hold back. When I listen to music theres also a big burst of dopamine and music is an incredible inspiration. Music is also my way of stimming when outside and it helps keep me stay focused, e.g. when Im shopping for groceries. It takes a lot to make me upset, but when when I'm triggered it often bursts out into a meltdown of uncontrollable crying. Even though I dont feel that much emotion about what made me sad, and I have to explain to people around that "Im not as sad as I look" xD After the meltdown I am completely fine and happy, but very tired. My boyfriends in the past have found this a bit weird, but noone ever suspected it might be autism. Shutdowns are a more common response when Im stressed and slightly upset, and it can last for days...but then all other emotions are numb instead. Im in one right now because I feel so bad for being on a long sick leave for burnout. I feel frozen in place and it is very crippling. Other than that I am quite "high functioning" and work as a PhD student. But yeah, these are some fun, weird and annoying quirks of being autistic :)
@Dancestar1981
Жыл бұрын
Ballroom Dancing and Yoga absolutely vital for those with the ASD/ADHD dual diagnosis for reducing the disconnect between brain and body and better spatial awareness, balance, proprioception and more
@yelodoggie
6 ай бұрын
Common experiences for me: not having a good sense of my body in space and banging into things like doorframe, furniture, other people. Walking through a doorway, and my arm flies up and the back of my hand hits the doorframe.
@RosemaryWilliams49fruits
Жыл бұрын
Describing my life, and definitely made me realize I am almost constantly ignoring my own needs when in public spaces because I have anxiety about what is happening. As a teen and preteen for a long time (while also related to some kind of disordered eating/body issues), I wasn't able to eat in front of people outside of my family, so I'd go the whole day without eating. I have finally recently found that I am able to eat in front of new people, which is a huge improvement, but I still have trouble with excusing myself to use the toilet etc. But yeah, your description of how much is being thought about/processed during a social interaction, especially in regards to thinking about the other person's experience and trying to be polite, honest, and kind...it's just like you took the words out of me without me really knowing they were there. Delayed processing of emotions and fawning is also something I struggle with/do a lot in social situations because I can tell I'm not safe otherwise, and I've been able to for a long time. I have distinct memories of intentionally doing it, and of being grateful I managed to do it naturally, and that I wasn't feeling my feelings about what was happening (due to delayed processing) so that I could get through the encounter safely.
@jodyboehs4545
Жыл бұрын
This is so me! Thank you for this video. Especially the part about not being empathetic. For the last while, I’ve been told that I don’t have empathy like a neurotypical person does, or that I don’t know how to ‘be there’ for my partner. I can relate with the fact of feeling all these emotions but not knowing how to ‘express’ them into words. Alexithymia is exactly what I deal with. I want to ‘be there’ and deeply connect and support my partner. But it’s going to take a lot of learning for me. Loved this video! Would love to learn more about emotionally connecting with a neurotypical and how to keep that connection alive.
@MomontheSpectrum
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for the feedback! I will keep it in mind for future videos.
@ripped2fcuk1
11 ай бұрын
I have Aspergets syndrome.. I can relate to having Alexithymia.. for me it has gotten better (reduced) as I have aged and I am more feeling deeply rather than systemizing with surface emotions. Regarding empathy I do believe is autism it is the 'emotional contagion' part of empathy that is primarily impaired, with the affective and cognitive components upstream fully intact. If you think about it, if you are like me when I can't 'connect' emotionally with somebody else.. I automatically build a mental.nap of their feelings and empathise with that (emotionally).. this explains the delay in processing/reading others' emotional/bodily states. Not condoning drug use, but MDMA was life changing for my Alexithymia. Allowing me to fully experience emotion within myself and empathise in a seemingly NT way. The shades of grey, faintly coloured emotional landscape within me became technicolour. A marvelous experience. I also had the sensation of a physical 'knot' rattling around within my rib cage and then being undone.. bursting out of my eyes with empathy/feeling. This actually felt like there was a solid object in my chest violently rattling around.
@ripped2fcuk1
10 ай бұрын
TLDR.. the autistic brain does not lack empathy (it may even be hyper expressed), however the 'Emotional Contagion' component of the very complex limbic/cognitive/somatic experience that is Empathy is impaired in those with Autism. Research back this theory up.. however unfortunately they chalked it up as a lack of overall empathy rather than just the singular step of Emptional Contagion which is what is really happening. So there is some truth in the NT perception that at least some autistic people lack a neurotypical experience of empathy. Empathy is a complex process and experience, and autistic people certainly do not lack it as a whole. We are, in fact generally very pro-social and caring people.
@awakened3651
Жыл бұрын
Excellent descriptions. Perfect for understanding why chopping off healthy body parts of pubertal adolescents who are disconnected from their bodies is not in any way appropriate or beneficial.
@Jynxedlove
Жыл бұрын
If you can make a little labyrinth in your back yard, or maybe on a rug in a room in your house, it can feel so good to just walk, jog, dance, crawl, roll, whatever, through the pattern. Yoga, rubrix cubes (if you can manage to learn the algorithm), those folding cube toys, and a lot of stim toys can all be meditated with! I personally love the swing for meditation.
@jrbp33
Жыл бұрын
Yet another video where ive learned more, i never knew about freezing and fauning i never knew why rather than fight or flight i just freeze or faun (in many different instances). It is also very difficult for me to tell what is normal in my body and what is a symptom of other conditions i had/have...for example i had(or have still?) Myositis when i was 10. One morning when i tried to get out of bed for school i fell to the floor cuz my legs just were not working and im still not sure if my legs ache because of that or if its not enough water, sleep, exercise ect. Im always learning more small but important details from you that keep somewhat reassuring me that im not faking and indeed (or very very likey) am autistic, thank you for your channel❤
@MomontheSpectrum
Жыл бұрын
You’re welcome. Thank you for your comment.
@loniwilliams82
11 ай бұрын
Bogged down in the factory. Said that perfectly. ❤
@michaelalarsen2467
Жыл бұрын
Yes. So good to hear words for something I didn't know was atypical because it was so normal for me, then learning it was not typical and feeling weird about that reflecting on the ways it has some made things difficult for me and feeling frustrated, but then hearing other people describe it so well and relating so much that you feel nestled in understanding and self-compassion-- a whole journey. I hold my pee way too long, unwilling to transition out of the task at hand. Often, until it's absolutely necessary, the nudge is disregarded, if it's even felt. I can (because I have to, because I'm so sensitive to it) turn off my ears to shut out my children or other out-of-the-ordinary noises that alert other people because I am tackling the world's bigger problems in my head. And during a "meltdown" it is the most apparent-- almost like I'm underwater and can only move slowly and can only hear things faintly, but my brain feels like it is moving through water in trying to reply to people's questions as well, though other things I am thinking through are clear-- disconnect to physical surroundings. It makes you look from the outside like you are "slow" sometimes, but really you are just... in a different realm. I could relate to Walter Mitty somewhat.
@ZeatherMusic
10 ай бұрын
I definitely struggle with Alexithymia. I know I don’t feel happy about something but it takes a long time to identify what that is. I shut down, then I get angry then I cry. As a 3 yr old child, a study was done on me (they didn’t know I was autistic even through the signs were there!). I was described as ‘sulking’ when in fact it was shutdown due to overwhelm.
@locomademoiselle
Жыл бұрын
100% absolutely agree! 💯🙌 Also, I know its not relevant, but i cannot get passed that your room/frame is flipped compared to usual! 😅
@BeeWhistler
Жыл бұрын
Hey, I have a topic that I’ve had no success finding help with. My whole family has to move three states away and my husband and I are buying a house for the first time, and I’ve had my first really noticeable meltdowns in years (I’m 50 so I’ve had time to work out ways to channel stress a lot of the time) due to the whole process of finding a house and learning about home buying and worrying about the fundamental change for myself and my kids. Now, that said… my kids are 16, 21, and 25. The oldest has Ehlers-Danlos and has a sort of diagnosis of Autism/ADHD from school. My son is on the spectrum and my youngest feels she is, too. And I am self-diagnosed Autistic/ADHD. Getting diagnosed has been a failure to date so we’re kinda on our own here. So finally, the issue… I looked up ways to help deal with the stress of moving when you’re Autistic… and of course, it’s all tailored to parents helping Autistic kids kids cope with moving. Now, short of buying myself more stim toys (and y’know what? gonna do that anyway. something sparkly that moves) I don’t know how to deal with all this adulting. Yeah, I drive a car and buy groceries and dealt with IEP meetings for years, but none of that is moving three states away and buying a house. So yeah, that. How does Autistic grown-up deal with huge shift in fundament? The whole big green LEGO square is being relocated and I have to pick a spot and pack all the studs into little boxes and I am losing it.
@TaniaSeabock
Жыл бұрын
Hi Taylor, Six years ago I began doing research on women on the spectrum on youtube. There wasn't too many autistic women with KZitem channels at time (or at least i couldn't find many). The few women that i found, i kept noticing that most of them had either a britsh, aussie or other "non-American" accent when they spoke. One day I ended up finding a women on youtube that didn't have an accent but it turned out that after following her channel for a while i found out she was Canadian. I was puzzled and then it dawned on me that the reason i was only finding women on youtube that were "not" American was because it is too expensive for Americans to get a diagnosis (bad health care). In time i moved on to other topics and stopped researching women on the spectrum. That was about 5 or 6 years ago. Recently I started looking for women on the spectrum on KZitem again and found your channel!! THANK YOU BTW! I have been enjoying your talks and learning about your journey. My brother is diagnosed and so is his son. But they are VERY autistic so it wasn't expensive to find out about them. I suspect my mom is deep in the spectrum. I suspect i am on the spectrum but I am not sure. I can't afford $5000 to get an official diagnosis so i was wondering if you know of a less expensive way of getting an assessment ? I have many of the traits but sometimes they go away and sometimes they come on strong (like stimming). I don't think anyone would be able to tell if i was or wasn't. I don't have anxiety, or maybe i do? I kind of don't know if i have it. Thanks for making these videos!! I always look forward to hearing them & learning when a new one comes out. :)
@elizabethf8078
Жыл бұрын
I am forever parked in my head. I get restless BODY.. like RLS everywhere.. and things like hot flashes but they actually burn like acid instead (yes..I also get hot flashes). Anybody else get that?
@L0rneUnborn
Жыл бұрын
Not long ago I had a major realization that the term "feelings" is synonymous with "emotions" because you can feel them in your body in various ways. It seems obvious now, but my whole conception of myself has always been mental, and the body never made much sense to me except as a kind of vessel.
@avilalovee
Жыл бұрын
I am very happy that you mentioned yoga and meditation... THose Two ARE the new age Medications for Any And All Labels on the Human Condition!
@MomontheSpectrum
Жыл бұрын
🙏🏼
@cammie49
8 ай бұрын
I’m diagnosed ADHD and ASD. I take a photo-walk where I walk around my neighborhood hunting for interesting things to photograph…shadows, things out of place, tiny flowers in a lawn that nobody sees or just a beautiful color combo of a plant next to something else. It grounds me in “now”, grounds me in my body due to visual sensory data and fresh air regulates my nervous system somehow plus it’s “moving meditation” since I’m moving but sort of in a flow state not thinking anything much.
@tkjfreedman
8 ай бұрын
I’ve been thinking about doing this for a while now-glad to hear it worked for you, and so glad to be reminded of this idea that I didn’t really do anything with at the time.
@whitneymason406
Жыл бұрын
Great topic SueAnne! Thanks for chatting about it Taylor! 💞
@sueannevangalen5186
Жыл бұрын
❤️
@MelliaBoomBot
Жыл бұрын
and you are an incredible person...brilliant. informative. engaging. comforting.
@marjiecroston100
8 ай бұрын
I think living in Seattle (and other grey cities) can be more challenging in the winter for people in general, but maybe more so if you’re already socially challenged. Feeling alone in a crowded stadium is a real thing 🥺
@lizhyink5636
Жыл бұрын
Yeah, this was great. It expanded on what I thought it would be about, which (*The Dysautonomia Project* website might explain further what I thought it might be about in some ways, but I am not disappointed). Interception, proprioception, alexithymia, and more, ( autoimmunity, neurological, and/ or mental health challenges,) can also coexist with neurodivergence. Each can affect the other categories, too. Even so, better understanding of these dynamics can gain more effective coping and management of the challenges they bring. ( The moving meditation could be walking a labyrinth path drawn on the ground outside, or in the pattern of a rug if indoors, for instance).
@aaafiddleplayer6511
Жыл бұрын
Oh my gosh! I didn't know these were autism things! These videos are so helpful, thank you , thank you!❤😊
@oooosala
Жыл бұрын
I think this is one of your best yet. The stream of consciousness method seems to be the perfect blend of informative and authentic. Thank you. My brain is going to do me in. I’m just hoping I can cut it off at the path.
@cindyriehm7411
4 ай бұрын
Thank you for covering this. Its eye opening.
@janewanderlust9668
Жыл бұрын
I love that you're speaking about this. I have SUFFERED with this and not really had a name to put to it- I'm kind of shook at how intense it can be when I pull back and look at it as if I'm someone else. (That is always my go to- if I get stuck, i pretend it's for my best friend, lol.. i am very good at helping people out of their own binds, but terrible at myself, and i think that this issue is a huge factor along with a lot of trauma I've experienced, probably also very connected with this issue also, to be fair to myself.) I'm definitely going to seek out more info about this and I cant wait for a deeper look. I never really thought about the connection between masking, ignoring my body's responses and the fawning response and why I end up soooo decimated and shattered when I finally burnout or have a meltdown. It takes a long time for me to recover and I have started to experience just pure avoidance completely to particular situations and people because of the effects and consequences I suffer in certain situations. I'd happily prefer to take action and support myself in those situations, but I'm still learning how and this has helped me greatly. Thank you for this video.
@avalivs
10 ай бұрын
Great video just started learning about this myself! I've been ignoring my body queues for years and just thought it was what you had to do to get by. Recently got diagnosed at 27. Thank you so much for your content! :)
@kellyschroeder7437
Жыл бұрын
Relate “factory that never stops” 💞👊
@chelsead6054
Жыл бұрын
Oh, my gosh. This is what I have told my best and only friend for years! That I live in my head! I have so much going on in there ALL the time, even if ai just look like I am spacing out. It's like I have 100 tabs on the computer screen open!
@MomontheSpectrum
Жыл бұрын
Exactly! 💯
@jazzminmitchell8793
Жыл бұрын
Thank you!
@MomontheSpectrum
Жыл бұрын
You're welcome!
@saltoftheegg
Жыл бұрын
The body no longer sending certain signals reminds me of the MyFitnessPal app "These reminders don't seem to be helpful. We'll stop them so they don't bother you"
@Kapplerartbloomingdale
Жыл бұрын
I have adhd, asd, ed, and ptsdc. Unless you have money, here in Bloomingdale, providers don’t care what happens to you. With Va and ssdi - good luck getting the right help. I wish. ❤
@marisa5359
Жыл бұрын
Yep. Much of this. I am constantly on alert in social situations between the struggles in my brain and the physical struggles of EDS. The two together are sometimes overwhelming. Often, body is brushed aside long enough to feel like I pleased the social side of things. This Is also why I am learning to measure my outings and how many I commit to. I am still not there on not apologizing over and over for not being more available, but better than it once was.
@shirleyshantel32
Жыл бұрын
This was so useful. I resonate completely. Thank you for starting the conversation and helping me understand that I’m not the only one feeling this way ❤
@MaryKDayPetrano
8 ай бұрын
I'll tell you what's really hard, Autistic burnout with cancer meds fatigue on top of it.
@bryanmerton5153
Жыл бұрын
Hi Taylor. Another excellent video. I have tried to explain what is going on in my brain for decades and your description is spot on. Trying to stay in the moment is difficult for me as I am constantly in my head.I have never made the connection that it has caused me not to be in concert with my body. I typically bump into things, I am the one is falls for apparently no reason, and the one who drops things. This is going to be great for me to try and listen to my body now. thank you for this!
@MomontheSpectrum
Жыл бұрын
You're welcome Bryan! Hope you're doing well.
@yuriklaver4639
2 ай бұрын
Breath more deeply and continue to do so. That's how you connect to your body.
@kristenbroad7749
Жыл бұрын
Wow so helpful!!! ❤💙💜💚
@ElishaChineza
Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this Taylor, this is such a helpful summary of everything as I seem to constantly forget, haha! I think mindfulness is the key with intentional body check ins because I don't naturally want to move or stretch or exercise much and I bet that is related. Also find consistency hard from ADHD with exercise.
@MomontheSpectrum
Жыл бұрын
You're welcome! Thanks for your comment.
@EpicKate
Жыл бұрын
It's awesome that you are providing these resources and being open about things that are so tender and difficult for you. You're doing a great job.
@claremfrench
Жыл бұрын
Yes!!!!! Such a great articulation of all of this. Thanks Taylor. ❤
@MomontheSpectrum
Жыл бұрын
You're welcome, Clare! Thanks for your comment.
@cowsonzambonis6
Жыл бұрын
So many great points!! I’m definitely going to come back to it more as I continue to unmask/reconnect with myself. ❤
@oneeyedphotographer
Жыл бұрын
I stopped off in the middle to consult with Professor Google. Here is what I think. Apraxia is a result of injury. Dyspraxia is a developmental disorder by itself. I didn't see a suggestion that either is linked to autism, BUT,,, I have read in the past day or two that an MRI scan shows physical differences.in autistic brains compared with neurotypical brains. One of the areas affected is fine motor control and consequent clumsiness. I regularly bump door frames etc, for me this explanation is sufficient. UCLA is one party involved in the research.
@ladonnabby
Жыл бұрын
Thank you. This helps me better understand myself as an adult with autism. I believe the shift of quarantine and isolation helped me to stop masking and see myself more clearly. I already identified as a Highly Sensitive Person but your videos really hit the nail on the head of challenges I’ve been struggling with.
@ladonnabby
Жыл бұрын
I very much relate to using movement meditation, yoga, dancing and other physical activity to help me feel more in my body. I did not grow up in a safe environment and I think my body learned to disconnect at a young age. I am very curious if self medicating is common amongst undiagnosed people?
@cinthiagoch
Жыл бұрын
When I start talking and get even slightly invested in a conversation, I simply stop doing anything I was doing physically. If I'm doing the dishes while talking to my husband, I just hold things in the air until I finish my argument. When I was teaching, I couldn't write things on the board as I was explaining them, I had to do it before or after the explanation, or I'd just stop one or the other midway. And I'm so used to powering through physical discomfort that more than once I ignored my hypoglycemia signs and just kept teaching until the hour was done, because I didn't want to interrupt the class for some minor thing like personal discomfort - only later I found out I could have passed out and really hurt myself from ignoring hypoglycemia, not to mention seriously freaked out the students. I learned to prevent the more work-related stuff: always prepared the board 5min before classes, made sure I ate some sugar or cabs before long periods of work, etc. I never thought all these things could be related to a bigger thing, I blamed it all on a "mono-core" brain that couldn't multitask. I'm not diagnosed yet, but I've been thinking about getting diagnosed for some years now. Though I've learned to cope with a lot of stuff already, it doesn't mean I'm not screaming internally all the time from these things. I guess this video just added to the signs I should try and get diagnosed.
@just_.b.
Жыл бұрын
this is so interesting because ive always said “the two responses are fight or flight but i have a third called ‘freeze’ “ and no one really understood what i meant by that when id mention it but this whole video totally verbalized a lot of my sentiments. thank you, taylor!
@Kitofthearts
7 ай бұрын
Hi Mrs Heaton Thanks, that is very kind of you to be so calming. I think that you are an incredible presenter & enjoyably articulate too. Would be positive for you to create an episode, to consider the neurotypical things which you find hilarious? Kind regards, Kit
@dawnlivingston6236
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for getting to this subject on your video. It is so true I can look back at my whole life and see how this rings true for me. I'm 61 years old now, and spent my whole life not listening to Q's on my own body and putting everybody else first. Even when I needed to use the bathroom I put it off and put because of others. I could list hundreds of things that has happened to me in my past. Even when I'm walking I could feel my hands clenching up, and I was walking crooked and I would have to tell myself now walk normal! LOL anyway thank you for the video please do more videos on this subject. All these years I just thought I was just weird. ❤️
@Tirsai
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for starting this conversation, even though its a topic that drains your mental energy! I hope to see more discussion about this, and more resources. Just in the past few years I've started having a bunch of injuries just walking around the house, leading to invasive surgeries, long recoveries, and frequent pain. It just means I basically feel afraid any time I'm moving my body, which means I, you know, don't. It's that terrible mind-body disconnect where you know intellectually that you have to move to be healthy, but movement just feels terrifying. I think autistic people are the only large demographic who understand what it means not to feel safe inside their own skins. How can we live genuine, fully realized lives if we're scared all the time?
@Heyu7her3
Жыл бұрын
This is why Descartes made so much sense to me 😅 _(but I also never read him as extremely as, apparently, other people have?)_ I don't know if I'm autistic? But I was diagnosed for ADHD a year ago.
@user-us3cb2oq9c
Жыл бұрын
Lions mane is helping me at least to see how differently I feel and act with boosting right brain side
@cindyriehm7411
4 ай бұрын
Yes in my head!
@JohnNathanShopper
6 ай бұрын
I hate how true this is. Absolutely we train out our bodies’ emotional cues because they’re often telling us to get out of stressful situations. This explains why adult autism can mimic trauma recovery.
@slevinchannel7589
4 ай бұрын
I cant stand Mobbing. Mobbing happens so i ask-around: can anybody show basic solidarity by showig up and siding with the victim?
@slevinchannel7589
4 ай бұрын
@JohnNathanShopper ?
@JohnNathanShopper
4 ай бұрын
@@slevinchannel7589 Trauma survivors often have a leaned habit of ignoring their fear response because they couldn’t fight back in their traumatic experiences, in childhood for instance. So those survivors tend to deny their own good instincts and red flag detectors, and get into more a shive situations in adulthood. As autistics, we tend to deny our true emotional reactions from having spent all our lives covering. So stopping that, by coming to terms with our diagnosis, is like meeting ourselves in the mirror for the first time.
@slevinchannel7589
4 ай бұрын
@@JohnNathanShopper All intresting points but how is it a reply to my request that you show Soldarity in a certain plae or2... maybe veen 3 places
@electron2601
Жыл бұрын
Hello 🙌
@catalystcomet
3 ай бұрын
Ohhhhhhh wow okay. I once in my life have felt a sensation 'in the first person' as I call it. It's the best way to describe what it feels like. It's almost like I experienced sensation second hand. I believe that my therapist and I are not wrong to think It is related to trauma I went through as a child, but I've always wondered why every other survivor except for one whom I've spoken with about it does not understand what I'm talking about.
@sake343
11 ай бұрын
For me, I definitely have Alexithymia, I don't "feel" deep depression or anxiety (I'm sure it's there, but I don't know it). I have internal sensations, but I don't understand what they are. I've also been in situations that would normally scare people, but it didn't affect me at all (that I know of). I went through an official ASD evaluation on 10-17-2023.
@simongore29
Жыл бұрын
Another really good video - thank you. I'd would be really interested in a video on managing post meltdown/post trauma bodily pain and muscle tension. Something I have continuously struggled with all of my life
@IExpectedBSJustNotThisMuchBS
Жыл бұрын
Yeah, this has been huge in my life. All sorts of odd ways that it’s played out.
@zrienkersh1475
Жыл бұрын
I feel this too
@maddy6496
Жыл бұрын
I relate to this so much!!! I found this channel a few months ago and it’s really changed my perspective on myself and others. One of my brothers has autism, and I suspect a couple other family members might as well. It’s hard for me to differentiate what’s from my upbringing (growing up homeschooled in a house with other neurodiverse people) and what might be my other diagnoses/differences (dyslexia, ADHD, and cPTSD)… Does anyone else struggle with feeling “not autistic enough” to seek a diagnosis? It was already difficult to “convince” my family I have ADHD because I don’t present the way my brothers do. How do you determine what might be trauma or cultural differences, and what is autism?
@HappyHawthorn
Жыл бұрын
Are you sure you need a diagnosis? It can be helpful ~ or exhausting, especially when you're high functioning. (Like I've been for decades in the eyes of others. Whilst all that time I had a burn-out. I still have.) I mean: psychiatrists don't take us, females, seriously when we express the suspicion of ASD. What about listing the traits you recognize and work with that? Best wishes 🤗
@jahbrianawilliams7326
Жыл бұрын
Anybody else feel like they have to consciously try to walk right so you don’t look like a new born baby giraffe trying to take their first steps?
@voxoftenthousand
Жыл бұрын
LOL yes
@kuibeiguahua
Жыл бұрын
Connecting to my body is what I’m working on too
@MomontheSpectrum
Жыл бұрын
It’s a lifelong process for me!
@PaulThronson
Жыл бұрын
This is such a great video. Thank you for normalizing what feels shameful to even entertain.
@crabyshackonabudget4137
Жыл бұрын
After a day of appointments and or paying bills and doing arens I end up feeling like my mind won't stop and I can't get my body to come down off the mountain of stuff I just did, any suggestions I can do to better learn how to regulate my mind and body?☺️
@mariet3242
Жыл бұрын
The brain/body disconnection brings a lot of issues to us, but it can be a huge advantage in some cases: I struggle with chronic pain due to other conditions, and this disconnection actually helps me tune out the pain when I can't have medications or even when meds are not enough. This way, I've been able to stay functioning
@Dancestar1981
Жыл бұрын
Also coordination
@keithgrainger8797
Жыл бұрын
Ive recently described myself as there in body not in mind when playing golf with other people. When im playing on my own i dont get it as much. Im 45 and wasn't diagnosed with aspergers until i was 40 so there's alot of other issues as well.
@Charlie-re9ok
8 ай бұрын
I have that thing when I feel bad in my body and not in my heart/brain, but really it's the opposite, or it's supposed to
@RuaLuithnire
8 күн бұрын
I think girls are raised to put everyone else first and not to be “selfish.” I often feel like that is why I am, personally, such a heavy masker. I can’t handle these sensations, I’m overwhelmed, whatever it may be, but I’m needed for this or that… a parent or grandparent needs help, the boys are happy so just act happy so you don’t ruin it for everyone else, etc. I think this is a big part of why female autism still gets missed so much. I feel like this is a big part of why female autism is far less accommodated (at least in my experience). To stack on top of that, the fact that there higher rates of autoimmune and connective tissue disorders among autistics and females, it’s no wonder we’re disconnected from ourselves and our bodies. It’s almost a survival mechanism.
@Jas-zzz
Жыл бұрын
Very insightful how you work by talking with others. This is really good😳! All my life I depended on my highly intelligent mom and brother to communicate for me but with this video or feels like you are articulating my experience mot just for others but for myself. Maybe I will be able to be more balanced with more knowledge of what is taking place. I am so used to having body discomfort. Has any one else been told by doctors that you have a high pain tolerance? Right now I don't understand if I am in meltdown or shutdown ? But I am not functioning I feel fried like everything is to stimulating. Everything I see around the house, feel I don't know ... I have to go now
@cindyriehm7411
4 ай бұрын
Right! I am upset but it takes me awhile to process what the heck is wrong!
@nellapatella
Жыл бұрын
Door frames are my enemy. I think my mind is way ahead of my body. I've already poured the glass of water in my mind, but by the time I'm actually doing it, I've walked into several things on the way to the kitchen. And once I'm drinking the water i'm already thinking about a different task and then mess the water all over myself.
@JoULove
Жыл бұрын
Thanks so much for talking about this! I thought it was just me lol
@Dialethian
3 ай бұрын
I'd been thinking of this as handing off my stress to system 2, I don't notice early on when I'm high strung and nearing burnout, but it messes with my autopilot and I start dropping things.
@Gwenx
Жыл бұрын
Huh, there are certain situations where i am just unable to eat because it will stress me further, i do not drink near enough water because I'm never thirsty.. When i visit other places or peoples homes, i rarely go to the toilet, not because i don't want to or dares to, but the need first show the MOMENT I'm out of the door.. I sometimes have to remind myself that its a good idea to pee before leaving bc we might have a 40 min walk home. I have been working with my therapist in trying to recognize my feelings, give them the appropriate reactions, and taking care of my needs, like eat, drink, go to toilet, sleep, all because we noticed that i most often do not take care of myself when i get stressed. I would mean that, i did not eat or drink before going to school, and i might forget to use the toilet until i came home again, i went to school on next to no sleep, and i was never thought to regulate my feelings by my mom, so my feelings where simply extremely out of control..
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