Real talk there are friends and then there are associates. As one gets into adulthood it's not like childhood where everyone you see you want to play with and be friends. Some adults can be very vindictive and demonic
@princessofproductivity
Жыл бұрын
Vindictive and demonic. We’ve really painted a picture there, you’re not wrong though 😂😂
@Ashleyunfiltered
Жыл бұрын
This comment is 1000% FACTS!
@greybun5273
Жыл бұрын
Some KIDS can be vindictive and demonic
@missfefeloves
Жыл бұрын
A lot of girls or women are straight up narcissists! They try to pretend like it’s just men but I’ve noticed that women are more narcissistic than men
@shanelleellis2540
Жыл бұрын
So true I agree ❤
@alexxnelle
Жыл бұрын
Insecure women are unfortunately never good friends. No matter how much they might try or think they are. I wish more women understood the importance of building their own confidence, for so many reasons, themselves, relationships with men, friendships, etc but some people don’t want to grow out of toxic mentalities and you can’t do that for them. And you’re correct that having older women in your corner makes me feel very blessed. I would say my ‘core’ is my mum and her best friend. All of my other friends are people who have truly beautiful characters, even if we only share 1 or 2 things in common.
@BreenyLee
Жыл бұрын
This is wonderful! Thanks for your contribution ❤
@not-even-german4892
Жыл бұрын
Childhood trauma and more.
@houdadakhir9121
Жыл бұрын
💯💯💯💯
@diopfifi4937
Жыл бұрын
Never. Their insecurities and inferiority complex doesn't allow them to be good friends/people. The insecurities always dictate how they behave. No matter how good you are to them it makes no difference.
@kind5244
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for saying this !! I have been feeling something about someone for a while and I think this is it
@LouisaWatt
Жыл бұрын
I’ve learned over the years to see the signs of a “friend” who is trying to rush intimacy and bond with me super fast. It actually gives me anxiety now rather than feeling validating. Those people 100% every time, cause drama and do the MOST to use and abuse. It’s a “hell no” from me.
@hotgirlinbed
Жыл бұрын
I agree, this is why I do consider people trying to connect to me with trauma bonding or trauma dumping in the beginning stages kinda raises a red flag to me. Scares me little and not because of being afraid to opening myself but more so on creating a space to stay in the past or be in a negative place.
@LouisaWatt
Жыл бұрын
@@hotgirlinbed 💯 🚩
@Datb2
Жыл бұрын
Agreed!! Wanna be BESTIEEEEE right away like relax
@not-even-german4892
Жыл бұрын
Nope. Push them back.
@not-even-german4892
Жыл бұрын
@@Datb2 exactly. No beasties. Waste of time.
@gingerhoney4031
Жыл бұрын
I sometimes feel like making new friends. Then, I take a nap and get over it.
@IagainstI.
Жыл бұрын
😂 I love this. Sometimes you just need the clarity of rest
@RLifestyle453
Жыл бұрын
😂 Word !
@ruthtasha3646
7 ай бұрын
Waw 😂💀
@yogyal292
Жыл бұрын
One thing I learned about “friendship” 1. If a girl look at me up and down 2. tryna look like me. Buying same stuff. I will run! 3. If she talks with friends of mine or start following people that I know maybe on social media. Run! 4. If she’s is not opened like me 5. Never trynna listen to what I have to say just telling story’s about herself 6. When she don’t like u for getting more attention from others specially guys 7. If she only talk more with dudes. Big red flag 🚩 8. If I warn you about a guy and even defend you from people who talk shit behind yo back and u still messing with them.. girl Bye blocked forever. I rather be alone. Some women won’t like you because u just carry that good Energy/shine within you. No matter how friendly you are wish pisses them off even more 😮 Don’t be sad just move on and be proud about it 😅 Get a “friend” who’s exactly like you. Someone who will motivate you and whom u can learn from. Be there for each other. If that’s not the case shit won’t last or make sense.
@waitwhat55
Жыл бұрын
The frustrating thing is this list is 8/8 true but i can't find one single person without these traits.
@rachel.shakira
Жыл бұрын
8 is a big one and why i just cut ties with a REALLY close friend. She basically told me my advice would yo in one ear and out the other but in the same conversation said she valued me🚩 I love sis but no
@beatricejjj25
5 күн бұрын
7 is not a big deal because with the way women act, is really so hard to keep them as friends
@nikigracevlogs
Жыл бұрын
This is why I wouldn’t want to connect with an “old friend”. If we don’t talk today, there’s probably a reason for it 👀 …it’s fine that people change but I’m just not interested!
@slayfaee
Жыл бұрын
This! Every old friend that came back only wanted to use and take advantage of me again. You always leave the past in the dust where they belong!
@akilahbatyah6505
Жыл бұрын
@@slayfaee 👏🏾
@fir3ball728
Жыл бұрын
Yeah , I’d be like “ I’m glad you changed but no thank you, but be a good friend to someone else" when I’m done , I’m done done
@ndidindekwu4574
Жыл бұрын
Same
@keyahninaylor4974
Жыл бұрын
Same
@jerellfulton8561
Жыл бұрын
Yes people can be jealous of you because you have nice things that’s absolutely true if you have a nice house if you have a nice car, a partner who loves you, if you have family that love you people can be jealous of that, also they can be jealous of you because you have a good attitude about yourself, a good relationship with yourself, if you are confident in yourself and have good things going for you. People can envy you for many things it’s not just materialistic!
@Misskwu
Жыл бұрын
Gurl you are breathtaking. Thank you for discussing this topic. I have had a lot of failed friendships and have decided to take a huge step back to evaluate the role I played in the friendship and then the other person. I’ve learned to take my time and really evaluate the person’s character before I can call them a friend. I lean heavily on the Holy Spirit to discern if the person is supposed to be in my life and vice versa.
@janicemwangi8560
Жыл бұрын
Amen girl!
@evda4919
Жыл бұрын
Definitely the season I’m in right now too God has really exposed so much to me, now in a time of waiting for him to provide the friendships that he has for me.
@janicemwangi8560
Жыл бұрын
@@evda4919 oh my goodness! Im in the same exact place rn. With Jesus I have everything and everyone I need. Until He chooses to bless me with other people, I’m good. I’ve lost all my friends but I’m at peace and content now.
@mmaya772
Жыл бұрын
Why do you think is the reason you lost all of your friends?*@@janicemwangi8560
@janicemwangi8560
Жыл бұрын
@@mmaya772 It happened mainly because I began to take my life with Christ more seriously. Also, learning and knowing my worth + cultivating self love. I realized I was settling because I felt like people were doing me a favor by being my friend. My standards were so low because I wanted to be accepted and to fit in. I was constantly ignoring my needs and boundaries to keep other people comfortable and when I stopped (started communicating my needs and boundaries), the “connections” just began to fade away slowly but surely. It’s sad but I’m okay and feel free. I’ve upgraded and I wouldn’t have it any other way. No shade to all the people who are no longer my friends. I still have mad love for them and pray for them often. Thanks for asking 😊
@ninawolf2344
Жыл бұрын
I have never had "real" friends which breaks my heart to the core. I truly pray for a deep and meaningful sisterhood friendship. I feel what you are saying 😭
@abottleofRUMtv
Жыл бұрын
Same girl , you're not alone! All the best in finding your sisterhood tribe
@Memkoh
Жыл бұрын
Sis you and me both. At this point, God is my all.
@nataliambenzi7206
Жыл бұрын
Me too i wish i had friends
@michelleadebiyi2341
Жыл бұрын
Literally 🤣😭
@tammiajayi1498
Жыл бұрын
Don't worry about it. Love yourself and God.
@luhenmel
Жыл бұрын
I recently experienced a friendship heart break. Honestly soul shattering. She was my best friend since we we're kids. Our moms we're literally pregnant at the same time with us. I was basically going through a hard time in my relationship at the time and I confided in her. I'd basically cry to her. And when me and the guy broke up. I was so heart broken and sad. She knew this. And still went behind my back and got with him. And they're basically in a relationship now. At first I was in denial. I wanted it to not be true so I was still friends with her. Hoping she would come to her senses. And we did eventually have the conversation. She chose him over me. And I was so sad. This made me think about the friendship. And they we're so many red flags about her but she's all I knew since I was a kid. But I understand now that not everyone is meant to be in my life forever. And she run her course and I needed to let go. The constant betrayal. I had to cut her off.
@lf3554
Жыл бұрын
Wow hope you are or have healed from this. This is so wrong!
@luhenmel
Жыл бұрын
@@lf3554 it recently happened :( it will definitely take some time. But I'm okay 🤍 thank you.
@lf3554
Жыл бұрын
@@luhenmel That It will stay strong 💪
@DeBellanadi
Жыл бұрын
She was never your friend … sounds like she’s been plotting this whole time
@BreenyLee
Жыл бұрын
I’m so sorry that happened to you, when girls go behind your back and take your man (I mean leftovers) it’s usually because they are competing with you and/or want to be with you. You dodged two bullets tbh! Thanks for your contribution ❤
@monabrown101
Жыл бұрын
It hurts when u realise u are approaching 30 and have no friends... and no relationship... and no family (they live overseas) its another level of crippling depression and loneliness I tell u... I may have to try out the better help u mentioned😢
@Ali_delightful
Жыл бұрын
same here
@KatieAJ
2 ай бұрын
I think its all about perspective...what does 30 mean to you? We have so many expectations for 30 as if its the end of our lives...just go out more... you'll make friends. And be your own friend. Be God's friend.
@HALEYTIPTON
Ай бұрын
You’re not alone. I’m experiencing the same thing. Using this time to focus on self development and eventually I believe I will attract people that are meant to be in my life. Sending you hugs ❤ I know it’s tough
@kind5244
Жыл бұрын
When you get a gut instinct about someone don’t ignore it I learnt the hard way 😢 when you know the relationship is expiring allow it too as resentment and hatred grows towards the person which is just as toxic
@Bamgeutcutiepie
Жыл бұрын
i think female friends can be so polite and fake friendly.. and make you constantly question, did she even want me to text her/ call her/ be there? why do i NEVER feel like she makes an effort? .. oh well.. i just let it go.. but then .. my dad died. and she NEVER said anything. so i confronted her.... like a long heartfelt message about it, and *she never replied* !! so in a way i was thinking THANK YOU - i always suspected this, but now i KNOW front and center - you were never my friend. now i know.
@dabest444u
Жыл бұрын
I’m so sorry you had to go through something like this!! On the bright side like you said, you know now she was never your friend and you don’t have to waste anymore time on her! The people you keep close to you are an important factor in your life and the way your life goes to treat it like it’s important!
@mwxyz828
Жыл бұрын
Maybe she had you blocked? Did you try other avenues? Not trying to offend you but you should consider that and reach out to your friend…IF God is calling you to.
@Bamgeutcutiepie
Жыл бұрын
@@mwxyz828 you sound like an absolute joy to be around....
@mwxyz828
Жыл бұрын
@@Bamgeutcutiepie I’ll take that as a compliment. Thank you!
@Bamgeutcutiepie
Жыл бұрын
@@mwxyz828 you should learn to read a room. A friend not being there for you in the worst times, and then you blame the one in pain? I should do more….? … I don’t know what your purpose of writing your comment was, but very much not appreciated.
@MissMimimimi
Жыл бұрын
The worst is when other people say “Can’t you just make amends with them? People make mistakes.” Nah. A mistake is when you ask someone to bring back the top they borrowed and they forget to before coming to your house. Spreading cruel lies, sabotage and throwing shade is intentional. Can’t be friends with someone who’s intentionally mean. Not at this big age. May God remove the jealous, callous and wicked from our lives and make way for kind-hearted people❤
@Isika123
Жыл бұрын
Amen!!!
@unknownoblivion2417
Жыл бұрын
Ameeennn
@nickandchrismom
Жыл бұрын
I agree with every word.
@fir3ball728
Жыл бұрын
Yesssss 🙌🏾🙌🏾
@Bellefanmdjanm
Жыл бұрын
Amen I had this experience with a so-called friend. She was insecure about her appearance and she would throw shade just to make her feel better about herself.
@shelbyauger7236
Жыл бұрын
I recently tried being friends with a coworker, despite knowing the common knowledge never to befriend one, but I thought I’d go against the odds. However, I was humbled so quick. I confided in her that I was thinking of quitting and she went behind my back to our manager pretty much asking to take my place and she was telling me she was going to start training soon. I shut that down so quick and refused to do it as I knew her true intentions. I’m keeping it professional now, but it goes to show you cannot be friends with your coworkers and be careful about what you vent to with them. It’s so hard finding true friends, but I’m accepting being alone is way better than being friends with the wrong people, or someone who is trying to ruin your career in this case.
@NattyByNature-
Жыл бұрын
She could be a supermodel. Her facial structure, skin tone and height. Lawd have mercy, my heart 😍
@MaryEssence
Жыл бұрын
"She" looks like transgender or really is
@NattyByNature-
Жыл бұрын
@nice being the name really don’t suit your behavior. She is a natural born beautiful woman. If she’s not your cup of tea then go find coffee and leave the lady alone 🙄
@karlyk1441
Жыл бұрын
@@MaryEssence Get educated
@rawminimalist9043
Жыл бұрын
I just had a betrayal from someone I called a friend, I think im just happy I dont get to enter another season with such negative energy, In the end, she weaponized everything I told her in confidence and attempted to turn people against me. I started appreciating my true friends more and pouring more of my energy into the people who are truly rooting for me.
@listentotheanimalscreamsha1511
Жыл бұрын
A cousin just did this too me.
@golfstix83
Жыл бұрын
With men there's always an underlying threat of violence. Respect is paramount in male friendships. That's how I became best friends with my bully at school. Only because one day I decided to fight back. A true friend is not someone who just likes you, it's someone who respects you at the core
@BreenyLee
Жыл бұрын
Underlying threat made me laugh out loud I don’t why but I hear that, thank you for you for your contribution ❤
@faithsrealtalk2292
Жыл бұрын
Beautiful truth here ❤
@Itsacamlife
Жыл бұрын
Just because you know them for a long time that doesn’t mean that they are good friends! Let it go and find peace within yourself! And sometimes your so called friends ain’t really happy for you and secretly jealous of you! I’m the kinda of friend that imma cheer for you and rooting for you! Sometimes it’s good to be alone less drama!
@caramelcocoa234
Жыл бұрын
Love bombing into relationships is so good. This happened to me last year and discernment is now my biggest prayer. If it happened to me when I was younger I’d probably be very broken . I was desperate to connect in a new state and ended up hurt!
@hamster_ann
Жыл бұрын
I remember watching one famous russian psychologist and she was talking about male and female friendships as well. So basically men are always trying to avoid some "deep" topics, they tend to think more about the concequences of their actions whereas women tend to be more emotional and open After watching her and your videos i started doubting the "unbreakable bond" between men, the society tells us that women can't be friends with each other and that men are better at maintaining friendships, but the society doesn't tell us that the cost of many long male friendships are the lack of depth
@iamwonderfullymade
Жыл бұрын
One-sided friendships are real and so draining. Free loaders are not your friends! Had to learn that the hard way. You live you learn.
@viciousreasoning504
Жыл бұрын
Had a friend live with me twice and each time she came up with excuses to not pay bills, used all my things and constantly borrowed my car…. Even moved her man in to live off of me but got angry everytime i asked for bill money or asked what her plan was for paying bills or moving out
@maddyG7414
Жыл бұрын
Love this. It’s nice to think that everyone who is in our circle has our back, but the older I’ve gotten the more discerning I’ve become. Many people say they have your best interest at heart but only if you don’t succeed more than them or threaten them in some way.
@modernwomanTv
Жыл бұрын
Beautifully said!!! Discernment is so key. Expectation is only high for my best friend of 18 years
@maddyG7414
Жыл бұрын
@@modernwomanTv Exactly. I have a couple friends who I would drop anything to help them, and I know they'd do the same. One of them is someone who I've been best friends with for twelve ears, and it's because we always care about each other.
@simplyrefinedliving
Жыл бұрын
This was relatable. It's hard to have female friendships the older you get. Some women do begin to view you as competition and become jealous. It can feel weird to call it like that because if you are "normal" you don't go around thinking everyone is jealous of you. It's sad. I do envy men for being able to have drama free friendships and just vibe.
@vanessasmith4607
Жыл бұрын
Had to learn this lesson the hard way. No real friends put you down just to feel better about themselves.
@real_recognize_reality
Жыл бұрын
Hey Breeny, I can relate. I really love females and I value feminine intimacy and connection but from what I've been through I've always had best friends that have really drained me. They either have some mental health issues that cause them to make bad decisions, or insecurity issues that bring down the vibration of the friendship. I've honestly had my share of bad friends and I'm 22 now, with a lot of female 'friends' but no best friend that I feel I can call when things are tough. I feel that I am always there for people, and a million and one girls can call me when things are down and out but I don't exactly feel that is reciprocated which is fine. People can only help as much as they can give so it doesn't hurt me but it does make me go into this hostile distant energy. I don't wanna bring on more friendships because of the traumatising ones I have had. I long for a feminine connection. May not have it now but I pray that God brings that girly/sissy into my life.
@fitmissdarsh7725
Жыл бұрын
I feel you girl! I’ve dealt with the same. I still have hope & I still remain open because I know the right ones will stay & the ones that don’t won’t. Just gotta stay open & i just don’t have any expectations anymore whether I think they are really my friend or they are not. I let time tell with their actions.
@Memkoh
Жыл бұрын
Please seek an older woman asap and make her the one you go to for advise. They will typically look out for you better than your peers can. I was exactly in your shoes at that age and I’m just sharing what I wish I did. It’s draining being the go-to person for everyone. I suffered for it. Sending you discernment and wisdom. And please while you may feel good about being able to help others, understand that by saying “it’s okay, others won’t be there”, you are neglecting your needs gradually and this usually strengthens our need to be there for other people more. Also, make sure no one is trauma dumping on you, let them seek therapy. And if someone confides in you with something that’s too heavy, share it with that older woman in your life or mum so that you don’t take on their burden.
@nickandchrismom
Жыл бұрын
I'm standing in prayer for a best friend. Pray, God hears. Guard don't gate your heart. Loved your comment!!!
@SoleilBlanc11
Жыл бұрын
My mom’s always been telling me “your parents are your only real friends in your life”. She was right all along.
@reegarafat
Жыл бұрын
Not mine lol
@RLifestyle453
Жыл бұрын
Not for all of us x
@ka8155
Жыл бұрын
Facts
@jamiew.6606
Жыл бұрын
My mom is my #1 hater, so idk about that lol
@ohmissbeliever2015
Жыл бұрын
Parents are parents, not friends
@Iamkrystamarie
Жыл бұрын
Girl I don't know whether to cry, scream or throw my phone. You are telling my whole life with your words. This is owed a whole reaction video. Just know I love your spirit girl♡
@BreenyLee
Жыл бұрын
You are so welcome ❤
@mizzgoodie123
Жыл бұрын
This comment definitely resonates with me
@maddyishara
Жыл бұрын
The way you just described my entire life… you’re the bridge, the peace, the wisdom that everyone is attracted to, that everyone flocks to. You pour & you pour into them but they never have the capacity or strength to do the same. I’m grateful for a partner that pours into me and sees me in a way no one else ever has. I don’t have to be the “tough bridge that carries/supports everyone” when I’m with him. I’m safe to be completely me & vulnerable with him. Cherish the ones that love you for you without any hidden agenda
@maddyishara
Жыл бұрын
@@softpinkpeach trust that it is possible because you’re worthy of that too. You’re worthy of being loved unconditionally & poured into unconditionally. Not only in the romantic aspect but friendships too
@BreenyLee
Жыл бұрын
That’s beautiful! Thanks for your contribution ❤
@monicasoyombo3360
Жыл бұрын
This is a Holy Spirit moment ..like, this is confirmation!! Thank you for being obedient. God has really been dealing with me about certain "friends", that where I'm going I can't take a lot of these people with me. I jokingly told my sister today that I'm about to change my number because there are too many people who think I'm their friend, but they are not even FRIENDS to me. The Bible tells us you will know them but their FRUIT. What are the people around you PRODUCING? I hear Lord, I hear!
@Just1Independent1
Жыл бұрын
Love this comment!
@michelleadebiyi2341
Жыл бұрын
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
@malaaka7177
Жыл бұрын
My problem with making friends now after I graduated 3 years ago , Is that the friendship starts light and fun for a week or something , then the "deep talk" starts and the vents etc... And ofc i understand I complain and vent sometimes too but then it becomes the main subject every time we meet and I just want us to have fun too you know , to laugh and have silly moments , have balance .
@venusj2594
Жыл бұрын
Most women are emotional and are looking for someone they can vent to and talk about their problems and that can empathize with them. Men are not as open as women that why their friendships are better. But not because women are bad people we have more feelings and we need be comforted and loved.
@missfefeloves
Жыл бұрын
@@venusj2594 nah that’s unnecessary trauma dump. If you feel that way go get a therapist! also therapists say that when a person trauma dumps on you, they associate you with their trauma and looses any respect for you. They forget about you when good things happen to them , then remember you when they’re in a rut and have to talk about their problems. I’ve just realized that a lot of women if not most of them are narcissistic and women are way more narcissists than men!
@abottleofRUMtv
Жыл бұрын
@@venusj2594 males don't necessarily have better friendships. It's because their friendships are surface level and they never show emotional vulnerability which is why mens suicide rates are extremely high.
@TaylorAhava_
Жыл бұрын
Omg Breeny thank you for sharing your story. I’ve had similar experiences with “friends”. I’ve learned that friendships should be reciprocal. No one should be giving all of the effort. I stopped putting ppl in the friend position who showed me that they’re just an acquaintance or associate. 💯
@saumiakurien5439
Жыл бұрын
“Unfortunately sometimes the ones we have to watch out for aren’t the ones who boldly stand against us but those that stand beside us. Ruined friendships stings! But should remind ourselves to not use that as a reason to never trust again that’s exactly what the enemy wants. To be islands and to ourselves. Instead love harder and realize that the hurt experience is coz you actually cared. That’s strength - don’t be an island but remain vigilant. “ this whole paragraph got me through one of my painful broken friendship last year. We pick our friends but life situations has a way of sorting the categories out for sure! Big believer in solid friendships and community - absolute life changer
@pristinahh
Жыл бұрын
This video was just what I needed to confirm not feeling guilty for walking away from a friend I've had these sentiments & signs about. Discernment and boundaries are sooo important! A huge red flag is someone thinking that everyone is jealous of them, something is definitely off upstairs.
@Scranton0
Жыл бұрын
Glad you spoke on this subject False friends can ruin you life True friends like you are a blessing You are smart and very beautiful Dressed in black and gold today Wearing both without intimates Those are needless for you to wear And you are going barefoot as well
@GomezOrGoHome
Жыл бұрын
It’s been revealed who are real and who are not, I had a spring cleanse a month ago and I had cut off the “friends” that didn’t provide security in the friendship.
@Malligue
4 күн бұрын
What is a spring cleanse?
@dabest444u
Жыл бұрын
Breeny I swear you get prettier and prettier each video!! I love your channel so much!! I’m a young women myself (20) and ur videos help me out so much!! thank you thank you for your time , content , & your overall channel!! It’s very comforting for me!
@sunnni_
Жыл бұрын
I'm glad this came on my feed, I am at the Jaded stage of friendships right now because I truly don't know how to scout friends anymore. I always check up on people, I've walked on egg shells to keep people happy, I try to be understanding of people being busy and having lives, and I will literally change my entire schedule to see people and they wouldn't even do that for me. And I'm just tired of not having a real friend, I finally had to acknowledge to myself that I am generally lonely, so I have been taking this time to just work on myself and learn how to be a friend to myself first and then be a friend to someone else when that time comes. I don't have friends right now and that's okay with me right now. This video helped me alot on what I need to know on how to be in a friendship.
@abkh329
Жыл бұрын
I feel the same way.
@Armelleee
Жыл бұрын
Same!
@Lonelyeco
Жыл бұрын
You gotta set boundaries. Stop being there all the time. Especially when it's hard for you to be. Learn that NO is okay. It heals you. I'm learning that myself.
@sheliseherry
Жыл бұрын
Everything you said here is my experience as well - always reaching out and checking on ppl, always trying to plan things and meet up with ppl. But no one ever calls me, checks on me, tries to make plans to see me. And I just completely washed my hands of it all.
@sunnni_
Жыл бұрын
@@sheliseherry Sometimes it feels you just have to do that. I now have 2 actual friends since making this comment and I no longer feel so Jaded. But still trying to work on it with others lol
@Tosha407
Жыл бұрын
It’s crazy how similar friendships are to romantic relationships. When you have a healthy mindset, boundaries and energy, naturally you’re quick to see who a person really is and wanting the best for yourself is so important. Being the friend you want to have but also knowing when someone is not being that friend towards you. It’s tough when you’ve been hurt repeatedly to let new people in and to not let the past dictate your future behavior. Currently working on being the best version of myself, which I’m hoping will help me attract good friends into my life whom I can trust and honestly connect with❤️❤️
@viciousreasoning504
Жыл бұрын
Just because you have similar interests doesn’t mean they are your friend. I was friends w a girl for 15 years and finally realized she was never my friend… she always put me in dangerous or messed up situations, blew me off for men and never really present as a friend in general.
@wildheart295
4 ай бұрын
My opinion is that it's hard for some girls/women to be friends with someone who is as beautiful as you are. Some women who are very insecure can feel very threatened by other females who are very beautiful. I've seen and experienced this first hand.
@CristinaaStorm
Жыл бұрын
GIIIIRRRRRRRLLLLLLLLL YOU PREACHIN A WHOLE WORD! So many people always tell me how much they "love" me but their actions never show it. People love having access to me without the responsibility of being accountable to me for their actions because i can provide 100% transparency, but thats too much for a lot of fakes.
@melissagitts
Жыл бұрын
I really got struck by that statement of meeting people on the same level as me, Mentally! That's a game changer! Like that statement would actually make a whole topic & conversation 🙌
@Lenlenz21
Жыл бұрын
I was discussing this very thing with my therapist a couple of days ago because I realised and have accepted that someone I thought was a good friend had never been a friend to me at all. I was actually pretty shocked that I could have been love bombed by someone I thought was a good friend…. That love bombing can also occur in friendships, especially since it’s only happened in my romantic relationships. If someone declares that you’re best friends within a week of meeting you; then that’s a huge red flag. I guess this is a nice confirmation that I’m not crazy after all and that it’s not all my fault that I fell for that other person’s intensity and charm.
@lf3554
Жыл бұрын
Woooo glad you touching on this topic. I had to let go of so called gossiping friend off. This whole topic became an epiphany to me last year during my Self discovery journey. I am also learning to pace myself not to falI in love with PERSONALITY but CHARACTER with time. This video needs to be on repeat! The world has changed. They don't make them like they used to.
@a.b5625
Жыл бұрын
Most Female friendships fail eventually because the foundations of those relationships are based on mental intimacy AKA talk, gossip entertainment and a listening ear that will validate my existence.. unfortunately drama and toxic nonsense is the prime stimulant but once your life presents less bs and hype (maturity) or you stop chatting all your business you'll find the women fizzle out of your circle because you ain't feeding their ego and even worse if possible they will create drama with you to keep the wheels turning... And thats the normal standard friendship dynamics..now throw a man in the mix that's a decent looker/ catch and it gets 10 times worse because those friends also enter competition with you subconsciously..for women to maintain most friendships you have to play the role of a fan, suck up and enabler to bs..
@Datb2
Жыл бұрын
Agreed
@shacutehuntyssssx
Жыл бұрын
I agree
@abottleofRUMtv
Жыл бұрын
Sir, why are you interjecting yourself in womens issues as if you're an expert on said issues??. How very male of you ...
@a.b5625
Жыл бұрын
@@Dely-dr8xu thanks 🫶🏿 but no need to respond to such people lol..its just attention seeking they can't challenge my comments because it's beyond there intelligence, they cant attack my looks as I'm handsome, they don't know my profession etc so they'll try reach for shaming 😂.. like I'm less of a man for commenting on a KZitem topic about females but commenting on the wildlife channels about lions doesn't make me more like a lion 🥺🤷🏿♂️
@daintyann1795
Жыл бұрын
@@abottleofRUMtv he spoke facts what’s ur problem?
@Tam974eva
Жыл бұрын
Breeny, u talked about this in ur videos but Id like to reiterate that if you want support and emotional availability from friends in ur down days YOU also have to be emotionally available. That means making time even in the busy days. But if friendships r not ur priority, u must accept also being deprioritized. Shan Boody made a great vid about this. Friendships r like flowers that need to be watered. Sometimes we must sacrifice to recieve. But unfortunately some of us r more givers than receivers which is where self soothing n compassion come in. 🧡
@kind5244
Жыл бұрын
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
@nisakini8762
Жыл бұрын
that's why I say I have 1-2 friends at most. bc all of the others are just acquaintances. So many "friends" judge, gossip and hate these days that its not a flex to say "I have friends" but instead have good healthy friendships even if its 1-2 ppl max.
@nikigracevlogs
Жыл бұрын
“My friends call me a lot and I just don’t answer the phone” …why was this me? 😅 ..now they barely call. They finally understand I’m just someone that likes & needs space 😌
@CreativesSecrets
6 ай бұрын
I get you, relate & empathize. In the last year, I lost a couple friends of two decades. I got red flags they were jealous. But I chalked it up for issues they were projecting on me from their home life partnerships. So I made excuses until they made it crystal clear they really didn't care about me. When Fear becomes a person's best friend. You & me are going to be spaced out. ..the bigger the fears 😨 it really hurts. But it's teaching me to not give so much of myself. I need rocks too in my life. Huge hugs. Your not alone. The stonger, more loving we are - the bigger the fall. But it forces us to shift & evolve to learn more self love. Hearts painted on your Third Eye. Skye
@AdrianaMontgomery23
Жыл бұрын
This was such a healing chat. Thank you once again for sharing your time with us❤ Sending you love and light :)
@BreenyLee
Жыл бұрын
I’m glad ❤
@lizdramalada2446
Жыл бұрын
i love the (risky) honesty about the closeness you have for your current friends. it’s the type of stuff that needs to said out loud but no one wants to acknowledge or talk about it
@arianams6710
Жыл бұрын
This video came right on time. You really put things into perspective when you spoke on placing certain people into certain categories. I truly desire an abundance of love and support and simply don’t have it. I’m the strong friend and I’ve been feeling like no one pours into me the way I pour into them. It has left me depressed and depleted. I will be 27 in a few months and I find it hard to make new friends at this age but I’m yearning for sisterhood, it’s so important to me; I’m definitely looking forward to your video on how to make friends!
@bwm1672
Жыл бұрын
I can almost 100 percent relate to you. Thank you for sharing this. It is always awkward and uncomfortable when I'm asked for an emergency contact. I haven't had one in several years. I have been through some very tough times in life so I had to and managed to build a life to where I don't need anyone close to me to be an emergency contact and I will be fine regardless, but it does feel uncomfortable, also realizing you don't have a best friend. I was just thinking that dating friends the way you date men is an important way to vet friends.
@Candice2211
Жыл бұрын
Wow, this brings me so much comfort to know that I am not alone and I feel the same way about friends. I really needed to hear this. Thank you so much ❤
@BreenyLee
Жыл бұрын
I'm so glad! ❤
@ShaunaShai
Жыл бұрын
Videos like this affirm the reason why my friendship circle is small. You look amazing Breeny ❤️
@hotgirlinbed
Жыл бұрын
Good topic. I do have red flags in friendships but I think it may be an unpopular opinion, I’ll share anyways 😂 1) trauma bonding/ trauma dumping in the beginning or want to create a friendship with me. 2) not letting things go after venting 3) spiteful thinking 4) too involved in celebrities / influencers life/drama 5) non stop boy talk 6) doing the most for validation or attention.
@akilahbatyah6505
Жыл бұрын
Yes, “the tea” and useless talk about men is frivolous
@missfefeloves
Жыл бұрын
I hate number 1,2,3,5 the most ugh
@newid10
Жыл бұрын
Not unpopular at all. I’d agree with all of this
@MANDEE7962
Жыл бұрын
Number 4 is legit my pet peeve lol
@Melissa-zf6sw
Жыл бұрын
I cant stand those women neither.
@TheBlackManMythLegend
Жыл бұрын
woaw still adapting to that new image she is so much better like that. damn. beautiful
@sherianwaite
Жыл бұрын
Awwwww Breny!!!! 😢😢 This video couldn’t be more timely!! I have learned the hard way that some friends do have an expiration date and anything kept beyond the expiration can stink!!!! Sending you hugs❤
@ruqaiyahkhan8145
Жыл бұрын
This is one of my favourite videos you have made! I’m turning 21 and have no friends 😂 a lot of it is my fault and some of fault of theirs as well. However, this video has really highlighted to me the work that I need to within myself to be a better friend.
@Just1Independent1
Жыл бұрын
Great comment!👏🏾
@michelleadebiyi2341
Жыл бұрын
👏🏾👏🏾
@emoizluv
Жыл бұрын
They’re watching your story bc they’re nosy & jealous most of the time actually
@T.Alexis926
Жыл бұрын
Girl I can relate! All of my friends went down the drain between the end of 2019 and 2020. I'm talking about friendships that were 5-10 yrs old. I had to start from scratch and when I attempted to make new friends that bit me so bad in the butt because my guard was down and I was open/vulnerable. Now I just have some really close associates and acquaintances. I would like more closer connections but my problem I don't really feel like telling people what I need. I'm looking for a person or people who have organic traits. I'm kind of a low maintenance friend too, I don't need constant contact or adoration. But my love language is words of affirmation and acts of service which I would prefer it translates as geniune support and reciprocity. Something I've only recieved in spurts that were attached with an alterrior motive. 😫
@newid10
Жыл бұрын
There was one friend I had through my late teens to early twenties. It took me such a long time to realise she was toxic. It has scarred me because with all friendships I have now I question whether my friends actually want to see my downfall which is how that other friend used to behave. She would literally be happy if things were not going well for me. She was also the source of all the drama I had in my life. Be careful out there ladies.
@jecoliasjems2529
Жыл бұрын
You’re absolutely gorgeous! This video resonates with me so much. Im learning boundaries and realize how many jealous women I’ve had in my life. It’s been painful yet, I’m thankful to now know what it was.
@moncheri9165
Жыл бұрын
Everything that you’re stating in this video is so true. I just ended a short friendship the girl only knew me for a month and was asking me to get a place with her and she had a child. I thought this was so bizarre. We were hanging out every day, and when I finally told her that I was not getting a place with her because I just don’t know her like that and I wasn’t comfortable. She immediately stopped hanging with me. The phone calls slow down because she was calling me every day up until I told her that. When we first met, she was just telling me how how easy I am to talk to how understanding I am, how I am not judge mental. She even said something strange about me and the way I interact with her son very weird.
@mistyjordan7147
9 ай бұрын
Your narcissistic friend was trying to make your friends, her friends, so she can turn your friends against you.
@chaichilee
Жыл бұрын
Omg I relate with you so much in being a bad friend rn. Past people and life just created this guard and being alone feels the best in this season.
@ssavanahhh_
Жыл бұрын
this def came at the right time, after all the fakes and pain it’s hard to see clear now, you never know who’s your "actual" friend.
@ssavanahhh_
Жыл бұрын
constantly giving with no reciprocation, being the last option friend, being left out etc, enough is enough
@lucidladyleo
Жыл бұрын
I feel you. I feel like I never had a "best" friend frfr. I feel childish for wanting that at my age. The concept seems so elementary but I do understand that humans are wired for connection. I want to be close to ppl in a non-sexual way. I could go on and on but now I'm just like maybe it's me. Maybe I really don't have the time to build that type of connection 🤷🏽♀️
@oftones
Жыл бұрын
You're not childish for wanting that 🤍
@livelovebeprouddinejoe665
Жыл бұрын
Girl! You spoke to my heart! Its like you read my mind. Your just like me, and I am hurting from being love bombed. I couldn't put all these feelings into words. You validated this dichotomy of friendship that I thought I was crazy for suspecting this was a thing. Thank You. I needed to hear this, you were feeling this same shitty way the same time I was last year.
@BreenyLee
Жыл бұрын
❤
@breesan4446
Жыл бұрын
There are people even friends that may be jealous of something you have in your life and I think that's somewhat a normal part of life however there are "friends" that secretly want your life the want to be you they wish they had everything you have done to how other people admire you. Keep those people away they are unhinged and dangerous.
@tayasha6097
Жыл бұрын
Yes I really enjoyed this talk. This is so true how females will act one way and then switch up when they are with other people or secretly hide their hate. It is so sad but I’m glad you have now gotten a good set of people around you, who understand your needs and boundaries!
@sandrasoueid2586
Жыл бұрын
In Arabic, there are 12 words to describe the different levels or stages of friendship. The 12th level is the type of friend who is so in tune with you, so connected, that you can basically read each other's minds. I've never had a friend like that. I wish I did. I totally understand what you meant when you interjected at 18:50. I admire your ability to take accountability for why you might not feel that close and connected to your friends as you'd like. But I understand what you meant. A best friend will feel natural. It's okay if not everyone is that for you, even if they are a good friend otherwise.
@mynameistee3
Жыл бұрын
Love this! I agree there's a difference between friends and acquaintances, I'm not quick to make friends because you just never know with people since it can be hard to tell who is genuine. We really gotta take our time to vet and get to know people before we can call them a friend
@divinemessenger2030
Жыл бұрын
9:00 damn I had a friend that literally did this after we all took her out to celebrate for a major milestone in her life. It was hurtful and confusing to me. It made me realize she has issues within herself and I started distancing myself from her.
@listentotheanimalscreamsha1511
Жыл бұрын
Always on Time 59 sec into vid I just went through this with a cousin. I was planning to move back to Cali in 6 months but here now. Rejection is protection sometimes bad ish is a blessing in disguise. Everything is so much better now I wasted a whole year in another State came back on track now.
@mariametheexplorer
Жыл бұрын
Girl you did that lie when you said that ages matter in friends groups 😅! I met this girl, but I’m older than her but she’s so boy crazy, always trying to go out and the drama is a lot . Plus you are right on if your friend don’t reciprocate the same energy, I need to hear that because I can be a bit naive sometimes. I don’t have no friends , but my sis is my ride and die bestie ❤
@18QueenHearts
Жыл бұрын
Breenyyyyy, you are gorgeoussssssss as heckkk girl!! Fine like wine.... You spoke pure facts and I experienced the exact same things. The exact same things. I'm born under the Cancer sign too girl and yes at givingggg! We're always there for others sincerely but geeezzz this world is crazy sometimes. I found myself really jaded because literally allllll my "friends" did me really dirty to the point where I started to question myself. Turns out some of them were just seasons of shifting and have managed to reconnect with my best friend in a much more mature way. The others I couldn't care less about lol. One girl used her words to try and curse me because I didn't give her money while she was pregnant and her baby daddy was just around doing the most and the least at taking care of her lol. You are absolutely right about the crazy ones walking around saying that everyone is jealous of them. One of them who always copied me, was intensely jealous and envious of me (I only accepted it about 4 years ago) treated me soooooo badly because I received a compliment from a stranger on her birthday celebrations. She copies EVERYTHINGGGGGGGGG even my words I'd use as captions etc lol. One time I posted a caption in 2018, by 2020 she literally copied my exact words and changed two words (now I'm convinced that she has a dossier of my pics and everything hahahaha). She also loves bomb the heckkkk out of me when she's in a good mood; the girl is crazyyyyyy. Last time we hung out was last year and she just stopped speaking to me lol. Still copies everything I do on social media as if no one will notice it but oh well. I genuinely think she is a narc so no loss on my end at all; I've got my core of women who I pray for and about and still hold space for forgiveness when anything comes up.
@kayamen2021
Жыл бұрын
You described 99 percent of the females friendships I've had 😮. Ive known them either over ten years or since childhood and it was unfortunately my normal. Ive since had to just move away because for years they claims i was just sensitive but as i got older i realized their negative comments within our friendship circle was ALWAYS them directing it to just me. They never did each other the way they did me
@sindypetronella
Жыл бұрын
South African women have warmth with their compliments x
@sunaiya2247
Жыл бұрын
I gone through this 💯 be careful
@sumayaaden1078
Жыл бұрын
I wish this video came out three years ago when I was literally HOLDING ON FOR DEAR LIFE onto a friendship with a friend who didn’t want anything to do with me. Cutting off that friendship and moving solo for a while really helped me heal that need of wanting to have a best friend. It was like I always needed a best friend and didn’t know who I was without one. when I was truly alone, I realized so much about myself. Thankfully now, I have one friend, who I’ve been friends with for nearly ten years and has always been consistent. And I’m happy with it like that.
@eccouture
Жыл бұрын
Watching this actually reminded me of one of my relatives. I distanced myself from this person for the very same reasons you mentioned in this video, jealousy and saying terrible things about me that just aren’t true. Always gave me weird energy since we were kids!
@kiaj.d.5855
Жыл бұрын
Story of my life😢
@sudoqueen5587
Жыл бұрын
I had a friend/cousin who was talking mad crap about me behind my back to a family friend.They didn’t know that individual was going to tell my mother. I confronted them and they denied it. They started saying things like “I’m always defending you when your mother and my mother say stuff about you moving out of home before marriage”. When I never asked that. Anyways, I spoke to her twice about this and she denied it. Therefore, for as a result I got really pissed off and I sent her a nasty text message and then blocked her ass.
@kiaj.d.5855
Жыл бұрын
A lot of my cousins talk poorly about me and always have. Sometimes I’m sad about it. Other times I’m like eh🤷🏾♀️
@Datb2
Жыл бұрын
I hate those party friends that call you to come out when they can’t get their main friends to come out or they ran out of ppl to call so they call you. Smh
@jay.santana
Жыл бұрын
You are GLOWING GIRL !
@mixie.reverie
7 ай бұрын
I had a friend of 9 years, my family helped her when her dad and grandparents passed away and I dearly loved her, we just got busy with life, so we haven't talked much. We used to always talk about when she's gonna get married. I always joke about it saying she should tell me beforehand so I can have time to lose weight. She got married recently and I wasn't invited, I only found out about it on her social media. I wasn't hurt, I just took it as a sign that she doesn't consider me as her friend.
@patriciaalmeida503
Жыл бұрын
The most powerful form of courage is vulnerability ❤
@martikabraidbar394
Жыл бұрын
Strangers are Your Biggest Supporters Brenny! Keep it that Way! That Top Gets Lonelt but it’s Peaceful Trust Me! Not having the biggest expectations in others but getting different needs from different ppl is the best and Healthiest
@bamarealist
Жыл бұрын
I 💛 that part about love not being transactional. I get so tired of people talking about what they did for someone, but didn’t get that in return. Now, I get that no one wants to be a doormat. But, just keeping up with the amount you spent on someone versus the amount they spent on you is so very silly.
@monabrown101
Жыл бұрын
It's so so true about what u say about USA ppl... they are naturally super friendly, (I used to travel there often and have noticed a few things) and I think its a trait tht I wish UK ppl have. I also cannot wait for u to post the video of how to make friends and where to meet them❤
@shanon8747
Жыл бұрын
Honestly it’s a shock when they show you their true colors and hatred for you!!!
@faithsrealtalk2292
Жыл бұрын
Me relating to Breenys mindset and preferring older wiser friends over young people 👏👏👏.
@KMBAPTISTE
Жыл бұрын
Thank you so very much for this one Breeny as I truly needed to hear this. I felt alone in it. Now I can move forward in a much healthier manner. CORE, INNER, OUTER / PROMOTE, DEMOTE, TERMINATE makes soooooo much sense and I will start to really pay attention to that.... QUICK EXAMPLE: I have a younger sister who simply doesn't communicate with me. Doesn't even reach out to check in on me, spend time with me, share anything about her life with me NOTHING. I've sensibly communicated to her my perspective and how this makes me feel but sadly as the years go by it seems to be getting even worse. It has left me distraught, emotional, and over compensating just to see if I do this or say that maybe she'll come around. Growing up I always imagined us being close and being each others best friend. The hard truth is that I will have to pull her out of CORE / PROMOTE and relocate her to OUTER or TERMINATE even though she's my little sis. I have to stop sidetracking myself and continue focusing on self care on every level. Thank you again.
@cindymdreams7757
10 ай бұрын
Watching as I recently had some difficult experiences and trying to understand where the friendship stopped and I kept going. The story shared is harsh but honestly the huge chunks of time this person was missing out of your life and your always having to be silent about it and then go wayyy above and beyond was a big red flag
@cawknee
Жыл бұрын
This just makes me think of that phrase “rejection is Gods protection” wether it be romantic or platonic friends you may be upset at first when you feel or realize the end of a relationship is neigh but fear not for there is no need to be good to people who won’t be any good for or to you.
@inprogress5210
Жыл бұрын
Breeny you're so pretty. I haven't made any friends recently due to people who are like this and it causes me to shy away. Not to mention I'm introverted. I hope one day to make a good friend that cares about me as much as I do. I just turned 23 and sometimes it can be a bit lonely, but I know it will be better soon. I like your videos, please keep posting. - From Britney in JA.
@msalyssamarie
Жыл бұрын
Wow that story is so unfortunate. My rule has always been once we fall out or things get weird, I'll never double back on that friendship again.
@faithrefined2.0
Жыл бұрын
I can so relate to your friendship experience! I’m a cancer as well! I always feel like we’re all here to WIN no matter the current circumstances. But recently I’ve been praying for friends of greater faith in God. I’ve found when we have faith in God and his plans for us there’s no need to compare or be jealous it’s always a “only up from here” mentality 😊
@RLifestyle453
Жыл бұрын
Word 👏
@Hs000_00
Жыл бұрын
Breeny you are looking so stunning and the glitter outfit was made for you. You look like a supermodel. Thanks for sharing these wisdom !
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