No more obsession no more desperation... Only a healthy detachment ❤
@scottferguson9036
2 ай бұрын
Trade-in previous Obsession for Francesca the new obsession LOL. Had your joke. Very good information
@s.k1127
Ай бұрын
All I want❤
@cartoonspace743
Ай бұрын
How? Is this possible?
@DeepaliSingh-cx4sy
20 күн бұрын
I saw u on shambhavi di's channel
@adnan.one8
2 күн бұрын
us core
@goofytunes1
3 ай бұрын
Out of dignity, I will not lose to my fantasy because I am too proud. Even if I'm obsessed, I will behave as though the other person does not exist. I refuse to sell myself cheap!
@Rebecca-GLaines
2 ай бұрын
Tell ke you're a fire sign w/o telling me you're a fire sign 😂 lol, I'm earth, I CAN do that, but, I would rather say how I actually feel, that way, there are zero regrets on my end when they come back, I'm able to stand on my word. That behavior of not telling me the truth at the time I'm being honest will bite them in the ass EVERYTIME lol!
@valleyofthedolls
7 күн бұрын
@@BLESSFUL-Blissomg i am a water sign too! pisces and i relate to the op’s comment more than the first reply. i HATE expressing my feelings and my ego is HUGE lmao
@valleyofthedolls
7 күн бұрын
are you a guy or a girl? i came across some of the comments you left in this video and they’re so relatable 😭
@andreanavrg4415
4 күн бұрын
💯🤝🏽
@Rebecca-vt7rp
Ай бұрын
woah, this has definitely opened my eyes. When you said "i'm sure this isn't the first person you've obsessed over" made it hit home. it really isn't. wow. thank you for opening my eyes. i've done a lot of reading and research and have studied psychology but the way you've explained this has been like a personal therapy session. Thank you so much. i'm going to give you a subcription
@chrishaynes599
Ай бұрын
Are you suffering from Limerence?
@Rebecca-vt7rp
Ай бұрын
@@chrishaynes599 100%, trying my best to cope with the pain and not reach out. It's really difficult but watching yt videos is helping me cope
@KevvaPMcK
8 күн бұрын
It's SO different when you get older though. At this age you might obsess over that one person because everyone else has baggage or is absolutely NOT your type.
@Tclaughable01
2 ай бұрын
I always thought someone will come and save me and I still think. But I am trying to manage it by believing that I am that one person.
@Ida-Adriana
Күн бұрын
🥹
@Ida-Adriana
Күн бұрын
That is beautiful, my darling
@draapulus
Ай бұрын
Summary/ Overview: 0:00 Intro 0:50 Why obsession happens - Escapism 2:02 Childhood trauma - Escapism, Everyone has something 3:03 Fantasy - Idealization 5:59 Everyone is flawed - Projection, goals, meaningful life, take care of yourself, have choices, escapism - savior from bad boring life. Social, connection, community, needs, wants. Validation. Work on your self-worth/ yourself. 14:27 How to stop obsessing 1 Become conscious, its not about them, its about you, your unmet childhood needs, your fantasy. 2 Start seeing reality, get grounded into the present, reality check them and you. Get to know them, 'un-mystify them', 'un-fantasize them'. 3 Meet your own needs, what brings you meaning, solve/ work on your problems, self-development. Goals, work, career, hobby, community. Grow. Get focused. 18:30 Summary/ Repetition of the three.
@carriekaskiw4781
3 ай бұрын
“Shared fantasies” with narcissists are tough to break away from. This is probably why so many of us also develop obsessive trauma bonds. 😕
@push_yourself_
2 ай бұрын
Brooo... This girl literally saved my life😢❤
@nataliagonzalez6745
Ай бұрын
Seriously
@Vener349
Ай бұрын
Same
@knot_kisses
Ай бұрын
For real
@Sam._.8
Ай бұрын
I don't know why I'm crying while watching it😭😭
@celestial5036
17 күн бұрын
Because you are hurt and not ready to let go. You know she is right. You will heal too ❤
@Lavenderfairy1905
16 күн бұрын
Me too I cried for my inner child❤
@IAmMadMattDog
Ай бұрын
I think this is exactly what I needed to hear. Framing it an issue with myself and not another person really helps put it into perspective.
@lbuzzmaroc8944
3 ай бұрын
One of the most subtle traps to fall in is when a person used to be attracted to you while you probably don't feel the same way towards them, but all of a sudden all the interest fades away, if you are not aware you can fall into a big obsession trap that is a mixture of the forbidden fruit and curiosity about why the interest collapsed this way? What did I do wrong? Is there a chance for me to win the interest over? If you start following these thoughts you will fall into quicksand and end up obsessed with that person and that's going to be a very bad plot twist for you..
@SinfulGoddess1
3 ай бұрын
How do you stop it when your stuck in that trap.
@SinfulGoddess1
3 ай бұрын
Cause the want isn’t really coming from the heart or real. Yet cant stop
@lbuzzmaroc8944
2 ай бұрын
@@SinfulGoddess1 The desire is coming from your mind not your heart once you understand there's nothing wrong with you and stop seeing it as a challenge you will not fall, tell yourself that you already won their interest and that's enough the challenge is over nothing left to proof you weren't interested at the beginning why should you be now it's just a doubt in your self esteem you should fix it through your mindset and not by trying to recover the trash you've already thrown and were already picked up by trash truck.
@ashwinisharma7593
Ай бұрын
@@lbuzzmaroc8944 Can you please help me because I find myself in a similar situation. If you are willing, i want to share my situation with you. Please help me as I want to come out of this trap. Pleaseee
@allyzamiesa
Ай бұрын
@lbuzzmaroc8944 wow.. that's rough.. but really helpful.. thanks for the tips..
@noremac0123456789
5 сағат бұрын
I don’t feel like I have to fight for love but rather, because I was mostly ignored as a child, I accept and feel more comfortable with that type of treatment in a relationship. Someone who is unavailable, disinterested, ghosts me, disappears suddenly is immediately on my radar and I “love” them, want to suffer for them…it’s sick, really.
@twinsoul5156
3 ай бұрын
This has been …. Surreal. Every single thing you said was like someone put a mirror to my life and I was made to see it through your words. Every single thought pattern, actions and behaviour matched with what I have been doing all life long. I guess acknowledging it is the first step, then comes the acceptance part and then hopefully I will be able to believe enough in myself to even try to change this. Hopefully 🤞🏻
@twinsoul5156
3 ай бұрын
Also, forgot to say - Thank you. As painful as it was to discover this about myself, I needed to hear it.
@Vener349
Ай бұрын
It was the same for me 😊 … good luck to you in your journey
@emiliaka4179
2 ай бұрын
Oh God, you hit the nail! I used to believe that my ex had this fantastic life that he didn't share with me (because that's how my life is,but I always shared and tried to invite him into it) and then I realised- his life was hella boring 😂😂😂 Now when they act all misterious I just assume they are that boring that they have nothing to say
@user-wd7rw6wf6s
Ай бұрын
This just helped me a lot thank you for sharing ❤
@mohammedadnan9503
3 ай бұрын
Needed this so bad.. Thank you.
@sallytemraz8614
3 ай бұрын
You are very wise and I think your channel is underrated!
@beulahveena
2 ай бұрын
Yes true
@jemimaoduwaiye
2 ай бұрын
I agree
@marcellaoreilly2730
3 ай бұрын
Keep thinking about them until it makes you feel ill you will literally be “sick” of them x
@goofytunes1
3 ай бұрын
This won't change anything in my life. I just have to struggle with this shit all my life. I think looking at myself as the priority is the only way to go for 3 reasons 1. The other person does not care 2. I'm indirectly telling the other person that I have no options and life (humiliating) 3. Their is someone out their that is not on my level the other person is obsessed with but was aloof enough to win. So I cannot afford displaying neediness because I refuse to be a plan B in comparison to an inferior person. It's a disgrace to my ancestors.
@ContentWithNoContext
3 ай бұрын
How do you know if the other person does not care?
@goofytunes1
3 ай бұрын
In every interaction their is always someone that cares more, and the more the interactions go on the more the other looses interest, so it's like a trend that eventually places person A or B to not being interested, one has to always place themselves as the one who truly does not care, and whoever does not care about you cannot be an ally, so looking the other way becomes the only option. imo.@@ContentWithNoContext
@valleyofthedolls
7 күн бұрын
@@ContentWithNoContextwe just assume 🤭
@albertpelletier9415
Күн бұрын
This is the most valuable video I've seen on this topic. I wish I had this knowledge 50 years ago. It would have helped save me a lot of needless suffering and heartbreak throughout my lifetime. It's not turnkey. It still takes conscious effort and work. But my God, this is valuable information. Thank you, so much for producing and publishing this video.
@charade9971
2 ай бұрын
somenone had to put this in such a simple and straightforward way without overexplaining for it to finally register in my traumatized thick brain. Thank you! You have made the next steps easier
@dmegamanful
13 күн бұрын
I never noticed that I was obsessed until I started to think of someone constantly and fantasizing. It made me uncomfortable but also curious. But when it started to make me feel sad, I felt it wasn’t healthy. After watching this video, I know what I need to do now and I really thank you for that. Everything seems so much clearer and also it did play apart from stemming from my childhood. I’m shooked 🤣 we humans are something, huh?
@msbonni3408
2 ай бұрын
This is so clear and true and when you said we look for distance because we didn’t have closeness as a child. It’s not about the other person. #wakeup
@paris_310
20 күн бұрын
You just healed part of me and that is very hard for anyone to do. You’re brilliant thank you 🙏🏼 ❤
@APP6327
3 ай бұрын
Thanks you for explaining exactly what is the root cause of obsession. Thank you so much 😊🙏🏻
@codyfraser3850
2 күн бұрын
I had a great relationship with my wife, we gave each other space to do our own things but also made sure to reserve time for each other so It wasn't like we were joined at the hip or anything. But when she died, I became super obsessed with her and now I can't seem to get her off my mind.
@sahraa.6246
3 ай бұрын
thank you so much for your work! you are really saving lives out here.
@Cherry-mp2qn
3 ай бұрын
Really love how you explained the root cause, needed this reminder. Thank you!💕
@kinxahasan5982
10 күн бұрын
Best video I’ve ever seen… Really needed it
@chaboki
3 ай бұрын
Damn girl talk to me like THAT 😍
@suzuissushii
2 ай бұрын
got real hard reality check 🤦🏻♀️ thankyou I really needed this
@tithi214
3 ай бұрын
Explained well! Thanks
@theunexpressedable
3 ай бұрын
You are amazing thanks for talking about these things they really open my eyes each time to why my mind works the way it does.
@Dpesh.Jadhav
3 ай бұрын
Thank you very much for this wisdom. Truly Life saving. Very much appreciated ❤
@YusufPeeally
11 күн бұрын
Thank u Francesca for opening my eyes, now I know exactly happening to me during many days.
@karenbell9641
2 ай бұрын
Brilliant!!! So true! Exactly!!
@cinamonanderson-ou1ej
Ай бұрын
Omg 😱 absolutely escapism 🙌🙏😍 so glad I found this video thank you 🙏
@user-sr6vu9fk4i
5 күн бұрын
Omg this is literally the best video out there…I really needed to hear all these:)
@TimothySmith73
3 ай бұрын
Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!
@loriestrada.100
17 күн бұрын
Absolutely what I needed! Had to rewatch about 3 times. Thank you!
@Smartartin
3 ай бұрын
Very well explained, true and sincere advice. 👍
@ganeshr4371
21 күн бұрын
absolutely correct. in just one video i could find all root cause of my obsession and solution. you are spot on. Love the way you connected childhood to adulthood
@itslabuhere.646
3 ай бұрын
Resonated with me.Thank you very much for this video.❤❤
@Juan-hd8lh
3 ай бұрын
Francesca, your videos are so good I may begin obsessing over you! 😂 But more seriously, thank you for this and all you do, excellent content and incredibly useful..!!! God bless you always..!!! 🙏🏻
@maplesap
3 ай бұрын
Francesca, thank you sooo much for this amazing lesson
@stefanstrydom3546
3 ай бұрын
Perfectly explained 👌
@theresewihlborg844
9 күн бұрын
This is exactly what I needed to hear! Absolutely great and so helpful ❤️
@Rebecca-GLaines
2 ай бұрын
Nah, I think/obsess even when I've got them, it has nothing to do w the "cant have them" it has everything to do w not knowing what will happen w them that drives me in-fucking sane! 😂 If i knew he felt like I did, even though we weren't talking, I'd be just fine. Its the not knowing that causes me to have them in my head all day everyday. Absolutely miserable. NEXT!! 😂 And I dont want to be saved, its the potential of what we are at our best that I want to progress, but, those drugs are a NASTY thing, and ruining everything that was such a great thing.
@bluestarseed
8 күн бұрын
OMG ! This video just clicked in my head ! It was a turning point ! Specially when it comes to having the need to fight for love when I was a child ….
@flipperlady72
5 сағат бұрын
Thank you for this video. Now I fully understand what my problem is. The last technique to build my own life is very exciting! I will be positive about my life.
@allychar7316
2 ай бұрын
Thank you! This really put my life in perspective for me and it's time I get it together.
@joedonlan2979
2 ай бұрын
Sooo good! This really helped a lot! Thank you.
@supremexz6130
Ай бұрын
God Bless you for this GREAT video!!! You helped me so MUCH!!!! Thank you from the bottom of my heart!❣❣❣
@watermelonmed9778
Ай бұрын
this is a very good video, I feel better now. you're doing a very good thing. thank you so much and keep up the good work ❤️
@mydearisyours
24 күн бұрын
The most useful technique video I’ve ever watched. Thank you.
@lovetippi
Ай бұрын
This is gold. Thank you. ❤ from Beijing China.
@simplyme3492
3 ай бұрын
Thank you so much... Your advice are really helpful🙏❤
@Penelopa1317
6 күн бұрын
OMG, I needed to hear this now ❤ thank you so much, that is a wonderful explanation ❤
@vyshna2906
Ай бұрын
Thank you so much!!!.. I haven't been more touched 💖 Now I really do understand.
@KalShaw
3 ай бұрын
Helped me a lot..thanks girl..
@budayjerang2195
Ай бұрын
Thank you so much ! You're a life saver.❤❤❤
@jeanniemedlock9493
22 күн бұрын
Great advice!!! TY!!!💜🙏🏼
@manounelanglais5260
Ай бұрын
Thank uuuu! You are incredible 💗
@Monika-zp4ci
Ай бұрын
Thank you so much for explaining all the real matter. No more obsession now ❤❤❤
@mohitjain121188
2 ай бұрын
superb explanation.
@celinestuder-bantli8679
2 ай бұрын
So well described! Thank you. U are a genious❤
@Bubbletea_01
19 күн бұрын
Thank you! I really need to see this!
@jaspertanxy5753
Ай бұрын
Thank you for helping me...I've had this problem for a long time,years to be exact.So when I stumbled into your video yesterday,I was saved by all your explanation,so now I'm going to work on myself.Thanks a lot❤.
@Enchantedfairy_
Ай бұрын
Your videos helped me a lot. Thank you so much Francesca
@martynapk7691
2 ай бұрын
Greatest explained video about childhood attachments I've seen 😊Thank you
@vanillabluesky
10 күн бұрын
Glad I subscribed - thanks for your guidance 🙏
@DharsiniS.PPadmanaban
2 ай бұрын
Thank you for making my mind clear✨️
@clementeruizgordillo758
2 ай бұрын
You explain the first subject between 8:18 and 8:58 concisely.
@gods_bruh
3 ай бұрын
also make video for people with great childhood. coz its really hard to find non traumatized person these days
@nehaarora5948
28 күн бұрын
Very well explained.
@symsimmer8640
7 күн бұрын
Thank you for this...very helpful
@donnarakitzis2719
Ай бұрын
Very helpful. Thank you.
@vandanaba2712
Ай бұрын
Thanks for reality check❤
@Happy_soul_A
27 күн бұрын
Spot on !
@zareenkeeton8115
7 күн бұрын
Best video to explain this phenomenon for myself . Thank you Francesca ❤❤❤
@aprillenayre
25 күн бұрын
Thank you! This is so helpful❤
@mithil4812
2 ай бұрын
Had some clarity thanks a lot Francesca
@YB-du1bw
Ай бұрын
Super helpful thank you 🙏 Made a lot of sense
@mubash4861
12 күн бұрын
Much needed one
@reincrafts9326
Ай бұрын
Thank you. 🖤
@ofe2780
Ай бұрын
Most Wise Helpful Clear Advise ever.... scientifically and everything with great personality to really make a difference the way its explained 🎉
@pewpewpew45
3 ай бұрын
Thank you so much
@vishalidass1497
Ай бұрын
Very well explained ❤❤❤❤
@tcharlesrajan
Ай бұрын
Very well connected to escapism and simple workable suggestions to detach
@MandeepKaur-jl6wb
Ай бұрын
Thank u!!!!!! More of this sort of content
@colleensandland4851
6 күн бұрын
THIS completely opens my mind
@lola-ft5qr
18 күн бұрын
Damn this was good ! Thanks for sharing !
@alinagabrielalamah2308
Ай бұрын
Thank you so much, dear Francesca ! Your videos are very helpfull! Lots of love to you! 💕🌹💞😊
@raymundosouza3727
Ай бұрын
Thanks Francesca!
@user-wd7rw6wf6s
Ай бұрын
Thank you for helping me for making my life easier
@JosephineKirby
Ай бұрын
You are brilliant 🙏💪
@glorious6779
Ай бұрын
This was very good 👍 thank you!! I've started to work on my playing guitar 🎸 and singing and writing ✍.
@carmelfaithvirtucio469
23 күн бұрын
I can relate but thankfully I am now doing this recently to cope up , so much better than my past self , so proud of you selfffff
@ContentWithNoContext
3 ай бұрын
Love this content. Definitely subscribing for more.
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