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@davewelbylivinginhistinyti4796
3 жыл бұрын
Interesting, someone can try to be what they're not, but a real authentic person will nearly always notice fake people. To be authentic = knowing who and what you are in life, without really trying. Trying to be what's expected from the society's game of power, to try and intimidate others is only a game. A true authentic person cannot be influenced or intimidated easily. Namaste 🙏
@AngelinaPlantas
3 жыл бұрын
God bless you always. I continue learning🙏🌷with you
@SumedhaManabaranaKandy
3 жыл бұрын
Hi, this is amazing..!
@byronharlem7238
3 жыл бұрын
sorry to be so off topic but does anyone know a tool to get back into an Instagram account? I somehow lost my password. I would love any assistance you can offer me!
@melvinjackson4096
3 жыл бұрын
@Byron Harlem Instablaster ;)
@krishnapriyapb6125
4 жыл бұрын
Inspite of the different comments here.. I think that she is absolutely right. When I was held in a leadership role before .. I was not taken seriously by others... Now I know why
@suhoat307obsessionmv7
3 жыл бұрын
1- smile less 2- Interrupt (accidentally because everyone naturally pays attention to them) 3- Hold eye contact more when they're speaking to you but hold eye contact less when you're talking 4- Stand still, move very purposely 5- Hold their heads still, they don't nod
@philipchampion
3 жыл бұрын
I literally ALWAYS give a like to people who summarize videos. Thank you so much my friend. You are a saint.
@ojc9269
3 жыл бұрын
All of them are nonsensical factors. There leaders that may not exhibit all these
@ivanivanovich5121
3 жыл бұрын
Good job servant! Jk 😛
@cogen651
2 жыл бұрын
@@mlnrvera6173 no, she's right
@drblaneyphysics
2 жыл бұрын
this summary (very on point by the way) made me laugh. I mean, is this supposed to be a good thing? confusing. looks like a remedy to appear robotic and controlling, a recipe to make you very uncomfortable. hmmmm I think the 50's are behind us.
@ShadowFungus
11 ай бұрын
The quality of a natural leaders are those Who just radiates with an authority presence. The one that lifts and teaches others, the one that takes responsibility even if eveything goes south. The one that’s strong enough to be gentle.
@AshtonColby
8 жыл бұрын
Smile less? That is just stupid. Don't waste your life trying for any reason to "smile less". EVERYONE SHOULD SMILE MORE!! 😃
@sylvesterhurt3502
6 жыл бұрын
Ashton Colby you are clearly no leader
@TakedownBreakdown
5 жыл бұрын
😀
@littlemochi1109
5 жыл бұрын
@@sylvesterhurt3502 yeah smile more. but if you want people to take you seriously sometimes you need to look serious.
@elswfew1767
5 жыл бұрын
@@littlemochi1109 and that for higher-up .If you did that in school(smile less ,no eyes contact while other talking) everyone would see you as emo or edgy kid who had problems or anxiety .And smile unconsciously lift your mood ,make you happy ,thus appear more confidence .For beginner, smiling less would be more troublesome than anything(dont smile>people assume you had problem or in bad mood>people stay away from you>lose opportunity for networking) And for leader ,I wouldnt say they dont smile ,they smirk or lips a little upward .
@christopherlopez2491
5 жыл бұрын
"Beta" people use the terms "Alpha" and "Beta".
@charmainefox-simon7710
3 жыл бұрын
My belief is that every person is a leader. Firstly as an MBA graduate I understand that there are different types and styles of leadership of which when tailored to each person can motivate them to become leaders also. This is a process that takes time. Secondly, God is a genius that man himself cannot fathom. Therefore, because he made man I believe he has skillfully designed us (Psalm 139:13-14) with specific/several gifts, that when discovered, people tend to think that it is so special so they deem that person a leader! But, in fact that is God’s own so we should give him the glory! Thirdly, no one is better than the other. Controlling others and bad manners are obnoxious, sick and hurtful. As a matter of reference Jesus stated in Matthew 20:26 "before you become a leader you must be a servant" so give this some real thought and you would be amazed. For me, I can only understand leadership first when I seek God (by studying his word and understanding it). Why? God is a leader. When I do that I truly and realistically learn to be humble, to love, serve and appreciate others. Therefore, I believe that when we seek God we would all eventually become leaders (God manifesting in us) in an individual special way- as was intended by God.
@zaraallysha
3 жыл бұрын
I WANT TO BE LEADERS. SO I MUST DO THESE 1. SMILE LESS 2. INTERRUPT THEY HAVE VOCAL POWER 3. HOLD EYE CONTACT MORE WHEN THEY'RE SPEAKING TO YOU, but less eye contact when people are speaking to me. Deep eye gaze. 4. STAND STILL, move very purposely to conserve energy. 5. DONT NOD MY HEAD
@kozmicre982
3 жыл бұрын
Under all events that will proceed regardless of what or how humans interact with tide and time observing is a vital tool to quickly learn your surroundings at all times as were engaging alone and especially among others. If you interrupt make certain you have given effort to observe and speak with clarity in truth where others will also become aware of what you are asserting firmly, use no anger yet never whisper in front of or behind anyone. Be heard once and baroque. Blessed is for now and evermore would live.
@TheOne-yq6qk
6 жыл бұрын
Firstly, a boss and a leader are different, secondly part of being a good leader is learning how to be a good follower of your followers, sometimes you don't always have the answers so you should not always interrupt subordinates, you should also know how to listen to your followers and then decide which one has the best idea.
@mosobart
3 жыл бұрын
You smart and you wright what you saing evry thing proud of you !!
@yamrokamagar2820
6 жыл бұрын
Namaste...simple but very important ...Thank you for the sharing
@SurviveTheDay
Жыл бұрын
One thing all leaders need is followers. A non leader needs doers. Non leaders also don’t listen and don’t learn from those around them.
@thestoryofo9636
5 жыл бұрын
Whenever I walk into the room I break the ice with a naive or simple joke, and keep smiling and telling jokes, I don't like to interrupt people because I think it's rude,and I keep myself moving around the room and while moving my eyes from side to side to get everyone's attention, and standing still is not part of myself that's why I get so tired so soon!! And keep telling jokes and having people laugh at life!!! I guess I'm not a LEADER, but Oh God it's undeniable how much fun we have!!! Clowns Academy!!!
@joannesmith1175
8 жыл бұрын
but if you smile less doesn't it make other people harder to like you? I thought happiness breeds happiness
@ah5721
6 жыл бұрын
It depends. My father in law is a decisive cut you off type leader my beta mother inlaw is a smiling directive type leader who smiles more. I don't smile as much as my husband and I'm the leader of the house. I personally think it's creepy if someone smiles to much. Seems like they are fake
@knotshardly1036
3 жыл бұрын
The in depth look at human behavior here is impressive. But I would be intrigued to hear this author's thoughts outside of the filter of consumerism. An individual who could be identified as leader through this survey could also be a rebel. But this type of individual would stand out from the status quo in a different way. A rebel understand's what the following statement means. Right is still right when nobody is doing it. And wrong is still wrong when everybody is doing it. Knowing this would make the person more like a prophet (one who see through). This kind of individual invites you to "join me". And for a small sacrifice in comfort, I will help you transition to a lifestyle with significant benefits. Including an increased feeling of empowerment.
@elizamandino4515
3 жыл бұрын
yOur English is so understandable!! (to not native speakers like me)
@AungZawWin-x9q
Жыл бұрын
I've wrong all the questions.But it's interesting.If you don't smile more,how people will communicate with you more?If you interrupt in every situations,I think people would feel disrespected.And if you are holding eyes contact while you are speaking and don't hold it when they speak, doesn't it mean that you are only interested in yours and not interested in them?
@LizT207
2 жыл бұрын
God bless you, ma'am
@Don-tg2nc
2 жыл бұрын
I would rather this is an executive form of leadership , you've just have described here. We need to consider leadership personalities too, every leader is a combination of 4 personalities which determine how they act and that depends on 2 traits that are most dominant However you done a great job.
@chowdhuryquaseed8319
5 жыл бұрын
I think i agree with some comments. These are more the traits of a boss than a leader.
@socialmedia6821
5 жыл бұрын
Agree with what she says. Most successful leaders are like that..
@Andraphile
6 жыл бұрын
Thanks! This video is great!
@sidmonaco8197
2 жыл бұрын
She spent so much time studying other people and trying to emulate their personality traits that she’s completely disconnected from her authentic self. She sounds like an actor or a spokesmodel delivering a performance rather than speaking from the heart. Perhaps dealing with her wounded inner child will help her reconnect
@israilborih7815
3 жыл бұрын
Leader inspires others
@SixPieceSuits
Жыл бұрын
A lot of yall seem to be confusing a leader you personally like being around with an effective leader.
@michellehernane7247
6 жыл бұрын
I like the accent, I hope I'm good at talking or speaking in English. I'm envious! Chaarrr!!
@r.t.dominguez1717
4 жыл бұрын
Great leaders don't interrupt coz they would rather hear everybody's opinion before giving theirs. Great leaders speak last. I'd rather allow my subordinates to relax by smiling more. Almost everyday I get a text from my students saying they missed me. Not sure where and what studies she got this from!😳
@josephtvshow7467
6 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your teaching
@fahkue7793
6 жыл бұрын
Very informative! Thanks for sharing. Vanessa you have the most AMAZING eyebrows btw..
@ayubkhan9844
6 жыл бұрын
Thanks Mam for the video.
@caribaez5711
6 жыл бұрын
A leader is not supposed to be a boss but someone who influences and makes others better. A leader is not supposed to be mean and show off.
@sawan15225
2 жыл бұрын
Actually She's sharing Ron Malhotra communication mastery lessons, exactly same.
@janemiles5905
6 жыл бұрын
leaders eat last from simon sinek watch and learn he is the best speaker on leadership
@hetedeleambacht6608
2 ай бұрын
great,are there differences between female amd male leaders in this?? some things i guess are the same, some perhaps not but it would be interesting to have behavioural/biological background for this great video
@VaraPappas
4 ай бұрын
I can see where the research came in here - but can you differentiate how this does/does not work for women? Some women who exhibit these behaviors will be seen as leaders, whereas others will be categorized as negative and/or aggressive. Same exact behaviors, but receiving very different bias.
@pechadeh
6 жыл бұрын
I naturally do all the 5 habits even before I watched this, but why I’m still in a shitty job until today 😂
@pk56403
2 жыл бұрын
Just be yourself. Respect yourself and respect others. Don't artificially try to act as something you aren't. You are very immature if you even watch the video. I am here to help lost souls.
@rogeriochavier5772
4 жыл бұрын
Good leaders lead by example.
@jenntruong6023
6 жыл бұрын
My husband and I naturally do a lot of these things!
@montserratmuniz1885
6 жыл бұрын
Maybe the question is , who do we categorize as leaders and what kind of leadership are we describing here? Cause B.Obama, Dalai Lama, Steve Jobs and Oprah Winfrey are all leaders for me, but all aproach to people in very diferent way and in need with diferent personal skills.
@Rasheens-Story
3 жыл бұрын
Hey that’s my personality. Make sense
@LazyCrazyCat2
8 жыл бұрын
Thanks, it is very useful
@nicholaskhupsian8529
6 жыл бұрын
My testerone gets boosted every time i watch vanessa
@Seraphim7
4 ай бұрын
The Best Leaders Smile, in my Opinion. 🤍🤍 Smiling means Happiness & Happiness is a positive High Vibration.
@paulbethel9813
6 жыл бұрын
Smile less?...well,maybe not when it's time to be serious.....l smile a lot and l get ppl to do what they wouldn't ordinarily want to do...with utmost ease. Ppl naturally fall under my spell AND l smile a lot....its a charming smile.
@marendimarendikhon4434
2 жыл бұрын
Great
@madelena1234
6 жыл бұрын
i really found this whole assessment ridiculous. A leader is not someone who abides by rude person rules. A leader is charming, original, does things their way. I have known people who "want" to be leaders act exactly like the lady describes, the pretty lady who smiles all the time so she much be a follower. But they were not leaders. Some were even borderline personalities in an office ambiance, scary, overwhelming and unpopular, definitely unpleasant people, who looked around the room when you talked to them, stood still as mountains, and generally got ten out of ten for lack of cooperation. Yes and they did stare like boa constrictors about to strike. Not doing well at all socially and losing it at the negotiating table was a frequent habit of their's also. May be because their rude arrogance put folks off! Leaders are bright enough to know they do not have to dominate their surroundings to make things happen. Many leaders are very smiley people. Think Obama certainly not prone to holding back a grin. Martin Luther King had a benign expression on his face all the time, and it is de rigeur that Prince Harry and his bride to be smile. As is it vital for the Queen to smile if she wants her populace to love her. Folks with any intelligence seek cooperation,if they are positive leaders. This whole thing was daft as a brush frankly. Superficial to say the least. In fact a woman I know, a wannabe leader with as much charm as a bat on heat, acts exactly like the lady describes Nobody likes her, and few want to give her the time of day.
@DennisLottig
8 жыл бұрын
What a fascinating woman.
@helloly
6 жыл бұрын
This is typical of a boss who are leaders. But not all leaders are bosses
@solismasonry1807
5 жыл бұрын
Some one can show all this signs and still not be a leader, is not about looking like a leader, it’s about been a true leader Natural Leaders, just lead They Take risk when they see an opportunity, Take responsibility when their decision lead to bad consequences. Listen to counsel, Don’t believe all they hear Have their own criterion Natural Leaders Are leaders, without wanting to be leaders, they where born to be so, There are leaders leading leaders or working behind the stage, just brilliant people that don’t care about recognition. And finally there are leaders that lead idiots and leaders that lead smart people, and idiots that think they are leaders but turns out to be followers. Thank you very much and have a good night.
@sreeranjani3191
5 жыл бұрын
very nice 👌👌
@chriskim9470
8 жыл бұрын
Disagree with smile less. Google image your favorite president
@heavycurrent7462
8 жыл бұрын
+Chris Kim Maybe how a person holds his face in a picture isn't actually how he holds it all the time
@brielli6393
6 жыл бұрын
It's science, it doesn't matter if you agree or disagree. She's talking about psychology studies, although she doesn't specifically cite any, but you can look them up on google scholar.
@theancientone3092
6 жыл бұрын
presidents of nations are not leaders of the nations at all
@theancientone3092
6 жыл бұрын
+Pandora James of course there are some presidents who are leaders. The Chancellors of Germany too...
@insideanalyst
Жыл бұрын
Just being real, as a guy, pretty sure ‘Gosh I can’t get a word in with you’ to my boss would escalate into bad territory 2:51
@mahirfoysal8759
7 жыл бұрын
That's a quite generalized description. Movie directors do move a lot, they just don't seem very still. Don't believe me see interviews of martin scorsese, spielberg, tarantino etc.
@BoldasaLionMinistries
5 жыл бұрын
These characteristics she’s describing must be something that’s observable. However, these characteristics are not applicable to the highest levels of leadership. She’s describing a leader who’s insecure and putting up a front. Also, these kind of leaders are not secure in their ability to influence others. These kind of leaders find their value in their position and lean too heavily on their titles. People may feel dominated by a person like this, but you won’t find anyone loyal to this kind of person. This kind of leader is at the lowest levels but they will rarely surpass their own industry in influence. By this I mean, the reason these body languages may be so widely observed is because the majority of leaders are not performing at the highest levels. If there were 5 levels of leadership, I’d say these leaders fall within the first 3 levels. And most leaders don’t make it to the higher levels, because they simple lose their influencing power, because they are not humble enough to move towards really connecting with people and establishing trust. Trust requires the walls to come down.
@hellboy6204
3 жыл бұрын
Now many will start copying this, i means they are already doing it. But, when pressure comes they probably start yelling or run away..lol
@TzavaGB
3 жыл бұрын
Just by looking at theyr picture. "So how can you tell that ? By what they wear ?" "-Vanessa :No , its actually by theyr interract with people" 420 ?
@melodicdeathmetal8452
4 жыл бұрын
A leader smiles and lisen and ask for help and show you when youre sad wher to go
@mandykhoo2473
6 жыл бұрын
The question is where are these leaders leading us!!!???
@DharmendraMaanMotivational
3 жыл бұрын
Good
@gauravpednekar7192
6 жыл бұрын
Not Smiling can convey wrong message to others or show some attitude behaviour...
@ArmoniJackson
6 жыл бұрын
These questions and examples are a little to generalized, not every leader acts as either or. Every leader is different, these questions can't be accurately answered with a yes or no.
@oddyzzee
5 жыл бұрын
"A lion doesn't concern itself with the opinion of sheep" -Tywin Lannister
@rabiabanu1633
4 жыл бұрын
I was in the start of the conversation... a lion does not concern abt smile less or smile more 😅 But serious respect to the humble knowledge given
@lms9278
3 жыл бұрын
The only opinion a lion wants to see from a sheep is fear!
@cmack17
3 жыл бұрын
Especially when a arrow in shot into the heart of the lion.
@BlueBeeMCMLXI
6 ай бұрын
Bullshit analogy. You won't be a lion. Leaders LISTEN like thieves.
@lilygarcia5525
3 жыл бұрын
True leaders are confident, smile, actively listen and engage with their team. They lead by example and treat others as they would want to be treated. It's not about power. It's about gaining trust by being a real and down to earth person. I get positive feedback from those I lead on a regular basis. I would never want to lead by intimidation or power tripping. Nevertheless, I enjoyed the video even if I disagree.
@rajeshnair3242
2 жыл бұрын
U r right
@drblaneyphysics
2 жыл бұрын
You are a great leader. in a couple other comments I also tried to say the same thing, but feel I came across as judging the messenger. I didn't mean to. but I feel so strongly and you summed it up very nicely. I also lead teams in the past and was only well-received when I followed your advice!!! I started out as you say, then was told to change, and I tried but it felt horrible and was not useful. then i went back to your way. When asked by "management' why I "included my two team members" in my talk, I laughed and said "women tend to lead by cooperation and inclusion, and it works very effectively for them." wink wink. I think that 'boss' understood and maytbe changed his monovision.
@lilygarcia5525
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much! That means alot to me.
@wolfparkour
2 жыл бұрын
It has nothing to do with intimidation. You are assuming seriousness equals hostility and missing a lot of dynamics. Trust and respect doesn't need to be built on smiles and compliance.
@KamalasCackle
Жыл бұрын
@@wolfparkour Indeed...
@simplemind7
6 жыл бұрын
Micro bosses do not smile, great leaders smile and transmit their charisma to their audience.
@ForTheLoveOfHomes
2 жыл бұрын
Agree!
@PaulBC1981
2 жыл бұрын
Not necessarily, jacinda ardern smiles all the time, but lies pour out her mouth..
@itisabout4313
2 жыл бұрын
yezzz
@nell9400
2 жыл бұрын
poor introvert
@mellowyellow532
8 жыл бұрын
Body Language of Leaders 1. They smile less. >smiling signals subordination 2. They interrupt. (but) > when they speak/interrupt people naturally quiet down 3. They hold eye contact. (but) > they hold eye contact more when speaking to you, and less when being speaked to 4. They stay still, don't pace. > they observe and only move purposely And 5. They hold their head still when talking to you, don't nod. > nodding, like smiling, signals subordination. thank me later boiz
@egyptnz27
6 жыл бұрын
Law D. Klimt haha ur funny fella
@anetarimmer1557
6 жыл бұрын
That's body language of people who want to have things their way. Just because you are socially polite does not mean you subordinate.
@archnaverma9105
6 жыл бұрын
Hahaha....
@abdullah.a.nahyan
6 жыл бұрын
Yes... her description surprisingly matches with that of Kim Jong Un's!!!
@geribrown6927
6 жыл бұрын
Law D. Klimt y
@williamweimian
6 жыл бұрын
There is a difference between being rude and being a leader... try to smile less, stare at people when you talk to them and look away when they talk back to you, stand still, and never nod your head during any conversation, I promise you that you will find everyone left you and you got nobody but your own ego to lead.
@Blackplague689
3 жыл бұрын
I agree. These behaviors are not desirable
@hThorman123
2 жыл бұрын
@@Blackplague689 You must be a flake.
@rudra-o8h1m
2 жыл бұрын
I didn't get it can someone explain me?
@mohamedosama6319
2 жыл бұрын
Harvey specter hate you 😂
@noelmoralde6242
7 ай бұрын
Difficult people hate this kind of boss.😅
@zahraarabiaan7919
6 жыл бұрын
This is a boss behavior. Not a leader
@Smile-og7ic
6 жыл бұрын
Jail stand over tactics.
@ObsidiaBeast
6 жыл бұрын
True. Real leaders know of the power of persuasion and manipulation. So this Video, and maybe even her book, are completely worthless.
@monjier
5 жыл бұрын
@@ObsidiaBeast it's about body language, not your role in society. It's been difficult for me to find work coming out of college, so when I go to networking events, which is regularly, I like to use body language to signal high status. It's a way of appearing important even if you aren't important. If you want people to think you're a leader even though they don't know you, then use the body language. I actually use this to get over my anxiety in crowds. For instance, I never walk on the sides, always through the middle. When entering a room, if I feel nervous I will walk to the middle of the room where I am most exposed, then I'll stand there with a powerful stance. This gives me authority in the eyes of those who WILL see me. In fact I can get away with a lot using confident and alpha body language. The point is that you don't have to be important to look important. Confidence in your body language will translate to real world confidence. You don't have to fake confidence. Those who know what they're doing or know what they do will usually use the same body language, so you might as well do it too, just to signal your own confidence.
@kishorkulli6661
5 жыл бұрын
Their language food great leaders
@manojpatil-my2fi
5 жыл бұрын
That's true
@epicjamaicanjokes8279
6 жыл бұрын
There are different types of leaders. I think she talking about the bossy ones.
@AspergersversusNeurotypicals
4 жыл бұрын
heads up for females: as a professional research scientist I did all the leadership things covered in this video (smiled less, moved less, and stood still, looked away,) and was always told I was too serious and harsh; I was told to instead smile, move, look in eye, and nod to show i understood and was paying attention. this video is just for men. women have different rules/needs because the masses still see women as different. just saying.
@popopopa1719
2 жыл бұрын
True...but even men who do these things are actually considered rude.
@drblaneyphysics
2 жыл бұрын
@@popopopa1719 I hear you!!
@hetedeleambacht6608
2 ай бұрын
@@popopopa1719 pff....it depends on how masculine or macho the culture is you re navigating in. compare north european versus south european men or leadership culture and you know what i mean
@rayshamrock
11 күн бұрын
Women are NOT leaders. Name one female that we can all agree is a leader.
@accuratebodylanguagellc3719
6 жыл бұрын
Leaders with HIGH EQ rather than high testosterone have traits that connect with and respect others.
@tuniom9418
5 жыл бұрын
Accurate Body Language, LLC that’s true
@charlesg7926
5 жыл бұрын
You obviously don’t know shit about shit if you posted that statement. You’re implying that submissive behaviors are helpful for somebody in the role of a boss. They’re not. They might make people like you more, but liking someone and respecting someone are two different things. I agree that a boss should do just enough occasional smiling or joking to be somewhat likable/not hated, but they need to maintain the aura of a boss. Otherwise, nobody’s going to respect them and do their job properly
@dinardinar2657
3 жыл бұрын
I bet you have a low "IQ" lol
@primicerius
3 жыл бұрын
Nobody cares if you like them or not you obviously lack leadership. It's lonely at the top only respect matters. I've known people with high authority and respect is respect love NEVER gets the job done. Nor religion and that's coming from a catholic...
@DAN_ZEMAN
3 жыл бұрын
@@charlesg7926 Lols. The irony of the first line in your tirade is nothing less than phenomenal! Way to go boss man
@Smile-og7ic
6 жыл бұрын
Many ppl want to lead, very few want to serve. The key to being a "good, productive" leader is to serve. God bless. Look at Moses. Look at Jesus.
@GerassimosOfficial
5 жыл бұрын
God bless you 🙏
@amiragraceministry401
5 жыл бұрын
Totally agree
@09Germ
5 жыл бұрын
Very true the greatest among you shall be a servant to all and that what makes great leaders.
@Roy-mk9zl
5 жыл бұрын
Yes.
@estherjohnson6019
5 жыл бұрын
Agreed.
@Chris-ve3me
10 жыл бұрын
Sorry I don't necessarily agree with her views. Yes from a wolf's pack or primal behavior sure. But when it being a leader that actually acts on proper leadership listen more then they would try to dominate the space. Time is money sure this could be an argument nevertheless it does make the person a better leader as a whole.
@omega5040
9 жыл бұрын
Chris Hirschmann subconscious habits, like I do the not look at you when you speak and the interrupt but I have ADD. I still pay attention and heard everything but I tend to look around for something to grab my attention.
@brielli6393
6 жыл бұрын
She's not really saying that these examples are morally right for leaders to display--she even mentioned that leaders shouldn't interrupt. It's just that these are what psychology studies show. In group discussions, the person who is most knowledgeable on the given subject, or who is placed in an arbitrary position of power, will display these behaviors.
@skellymom
6 жыл бұрын
Thanks. We are not wolves, we are primates. While some of the behavioral aspects are similar, we do operate differently because the human language (even physical) is very complex. I think we should also keep in mind emotional intelligence when listening and communicating really works well in our society.
@bobmag5058
6 жыл бұрын
This was for a boss not a leader I guess
@DIVINE16.
6 жыл бұрын
true.For leadership quality.First you should be a good listener. without communication skills and knowledge you're Nothng.
@Makiaveliiste
9 жыл бұрын
Nelson Mandela was a great leader, and he smiled day in and day out....
@laurencejones8763
8 жыл бұрын
No like a dominate leader
@italomiau
8 жыл бұрын
+Makiaveliiste O It was a artificial leader maked by media left political to advance communism on South AFrica. A passive artificial leader.
@wesm2691
8 жыл бұрын
Yeah I would say this list is more of dominate leaders
@EmileSenga
6 жыл бұрын
He smiled a lot in public, but less so in meetings and direct interaction with subordinates or peers.
@ykd818
6 жыл бұрын
Laurence Jones Nelson Mandela was a dominant leader you idiot! You must of just crawled out from other a rock
@FILINEWS
6 жыл бұрын
The characteristics she mentioned may sound rude or un-leader but I agree with her. The leaders may appear very friendly and very accommodating when they interact with the people who are in the very low ranks but what Vanessa said is typical behaviors when these leaders interact with fellow leaders. This really happens in meetings attended exclusively by CEO to AVP level only (no managers and below allowed) as they discuss a new business acquisition, implementation of new business models, partnering with vendors, spending millions and billions of dollars, and other high-level discussions. I can't imagine a CEO of a company nodding excessively while someone in the boardroom is talking about business expansion. But I would expect him to smile a lot during company events or during RnRs. If you come across the SVP of your company in the hallway smiling from ear to ear at you, then you probably are not even a senior manager. Also if you smile softly at someone who is at a low rank and you barely know the person, then you must be at the same level as that person. Surprisingly everything she said seems inherent in a leader and is not done consciously. I have met leaders from the US, Aus, India, and Philippines and they all seem to speak the same body language during high-level business meetings especially when hundreds of millions of dollars is involved as a result of the discussion. Thanks, Vanessa, for this. I should connect with you on LinkedIn -Leadership Development Manager
@JohnM...
7 жыл бұрын
A big difference I've noticed in how well people respond to me has happened just by changing 2 things...the tonality, or timbre, of my voice, and keeping my head still while talking to people
@fidanibrahimova7425
3 жыл бұрын
So true. When I speak a bit deeper and slower people respond so differently.
@vickypatil_
6 жыл бұрын
Leaders must be smile, but some time not to smile to keep seriousness of things, so it depends on situation
@kyram123
6 жыл бұрын
At times, it pays to do the submissive behaviors. It ingratiates a leader to you, especially if you are trying to build trust in a new position as their employee. I stared and nodded in Econ in college the whole class, every class. My professor would let me retake a test or do work for extra credit because he appreciated how much I was paying attention. There’s a time and place for each behavior. Letting someone know you look up to them by being submissive may be a great idea if that’s the actual dynamic.
@engineerm6796
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for the video. Although this is a 7yo video the time I wrote this comment, I assume many is still watching it. Therefore, I would give a small comment here from a strong and successful leader: Body language is not about being stronger/weaker or more/less serious person. It is about COMMUNICATION. Depending where you work and who you lead, you have to use the right body language. For example: a military "leader" would use less body language but more of voice tone manipulation. While a sport team leader would use body language plus voice tone. A motivational leader would use so much of body language, voice manipulation that fit the topic. So in general, there is not a rule-of-thump for how a leader should speak to people. Otherwise, many leaders that exist today should be not considered meeting the specs :)
@LadyBug3314
9 жыл бұрын
Kinda awkward when he made the Bill Clinton comment...."Monica".
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3 жыл бұрын
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@radicarambharat5523
5 жыл бұрын
These qualities do not sound like those of a leader who could use their charisma to get people to buy into their ideas or follow them, but rather someone with positional power who uses their authority to get people moving.
@tylermorris2984
6 жыл бұрын
The best leaders are leaders who make you feel comfortable. I do look people in the eye much more when speaking than I’m spoken to. If someone taps my elbow to get my focus on them it’s fine, but if they stop the conversation every time I don’t make eye contact that’s being selfish, and will definitely bring it up
@tomasbritt4444
3 жыл бұрын
Many of these qualities depend on the context/situation in which they are done. Never smiling seems to be black/white thinking. On the other hand, compulsively smiling to please others or soothe one's self in social situations is also an example of black/white thinking. I have personally found that being direct/straightforward while remaining compassionate (not soft) is the most prominent quality of a leader since the leader's role is to level up those around him. At times, a tough hand is needed to improve others. The intent is not to make them self conscious or overpower them however.
@expressiontree5600
8 жыл бұрын
She is 100% right and practical. Try being submissive to someone, and see the result in return. All 'comment in against to this video' are very true for conceptually great world. Today's world is high competitive and people don't trust to allow subordinates and peers stand equal - taking as threat. We all do many natural behaviors day in and out, try observing every end of day and you will find most of the time it was not good and pleasant to peer and subordinates...think why?.............because domination, push back, knowledge driven hard words...all are side effect of distrust and tough competition. We know its bad...both for a person and a organization...but this is how it is going...to keep surviving.
@gigibakir9728
6 жыл бұрын
Nah darling.. I’m naturally a leader, and I disapprove of this, this is more like arrogant boss than a leader
@michaelscott6216
6 жыл бұрын
gigi Bakir and what makes you think you’re a natural leader?
@Dbulkss
6 жыл бұрын
Natural leader 😎
@LifewithBlessing
6 жыл бұрын
We smile to make you comfortable
@Thereall_sarahi
6 жыл бұрын
Michael Scott because I’m a capricorn
@goosecouple
6 жыл бұрын
What you see a leader in USA is seen a clown in many other countries. Culture thing.
@jeyprosper67
6 жыл бұрын
No one is genetically born a leader, leadership is a skill that some pick up sooner at a young age. It's all in the mind.
@maxharlan2565
8 жыл бұрын
This stuff is accurate and the science backs up what Vanessa is saying but I don't think that you can put on these behaviors intentionally to BECOME a leader.
@lindaharkin1185
8 жыл бұрын
+Collinge Communication Institute Personally, I don't think you can just look at the way leaders behave and think that's how you become perceived as a leader. This stuff is so rude, the only way you'd get away with it is BECAUSE you are a leader.
@helloly
6 жыл бұрын
A lot of leaders are humble nodding smiling...you described a bossy boss , gorlfriend
@elk9414
5 жыл бұрын
When I was a kid, there was a large piece of property just outside of our subdivision of homes. It was wooded and had a few tanks (man made ponds for those who might be confused) on the property. It was our playground at least for those of us who were more adventurous than merely sitting around watching TV. We even had more than our fair share of battles on that property involving bb guns and homemade hand grenades. Out of the corp group of us kids, one of us is a nuclear physicist, one is a police officer, one is a marine and one is a serial entrepreneur. We all took very different paths from our childhood days but that's another story all together. There were other players in our wooded adventure land that has long since been turned into a giant shopping mall. One of those other friends and I were out hiking around in the woods one day. We had met up and taken our bikes and parked them along the barbed wire fence where we crossed over for our day's adventure. During the hike, I let him take the lead because I knew where we were and wasn't concerned about where we went or getting lost. Oh, the days before cell phones and helicopter parenting! I had grown up in those woods and to me they were like a football field is to Tom Brady. As my friend led me through the woods, he began giving me a speech about how he was "a natural born leader" and how he was going to do great things in life. This went on for some time as I simply kept following him to see where he would take us. We had come past this certain point on that property several times from different directions as my fearless leader that day had circled around the winding trails that cattle used to meander their way through that property and make their way back to water. All the time, mind you, he kept telling me about his leadership skills and how he was going to be a great leader. Then, as we were arriving at that spot once again, he stopped in front of me. I noticed his shoulders lurched slightly forward. There was no one else around. He just froze there for a moment or two. That's when he said "I think we've been here before." And I said "this is the fourth time by my count." It must have been an immediate blow to his fragile ego as he whipped around and attempted to berate me for not having spoken up. The sun was getting low and it was time for us to head back to the spot where we left our bikes so we could make it back home for supper. So he told me "if you're so smart then lead us back to our bikes" and that's exactly what I did. I still laugh about that story to this very day and it seems to me it's time to make a phone call to check in with my fearless leader to see what he's up to these days before we get too old and decrepit. The moral to this little story is to always know what you're getting involved in especially if you take the back seat and follow someone else's lead. Sometimes those who claim to be leaders are fairly obtuse and aren't exactly the most knowledgeable as they pretend to lead you through the maze and fog of their own mind. Sometimes those who claim to be leaders are merely talking about their ego. You will find that there aren't many people following them but sometimes it's interesting to watch anyway. I call it cheap entertainment.
@TheSinisterPress
8 жыл бұрын
Here's what she doesn't tell. You can't micromanage body language, it originates in your mind. If you just consciously do these behaviors she talks about you will look like a jackass.You gotta go to the source which is how powerful you -feel-.
@kanta32100
8 жыл бұрын
Well she has to sell the book. I don't think everyone can be like this. Maybe genetics play a role? I was a nice kid, but impossible to control. I didn't accept authority. My parents wanted me to listen them just because they are parents.
@bt7846
8 жыл бұрын
lol
@Kiwinnit
8 жыл бұрын
I agree with you, plus most of these things are just things you'd do if you were arrogant, which definitely isn't something you want to copy..
@mjade1673
6 жыл бұрын
You say this but many have no issues with this sort of acting
@AspergersversusNeurotypicals
5 жыл бұрын
TheSinisterPress, partly true, however think about this: when you open up your body, e.g. spread your arms out, sit up straight, look up, your testosterone level actually goes up. Smiling also puts people into a better mood. Try it, if you are in a terrible mood, try smiling for a solid minute as you think of happy or funny things. Now don't you feel better or at least neutral? Fact is, our body position tells our body what to think, and our thoughts tell our body what to do. If you can 'consciously' move body position into the happy/relaxed/powerful/confident position, your body tells your brain to be that way. breath control also tells your brain all is well. Hope this info is useful to someone out there!
@zeroabol1810
7 жыл бұрын
if smiling is a subordinate behavior why is she smiling herself all the time
@djwhichdoctor
6 жыл бұрын
1.because she's on their show..u don't try to dominate a king in his own castle (so to speak), not a good strategy (48 laws of power #1 never outshine the master) 2. She came on the show to talk about Body Language of Leaders...everyone will expect her to try to be dominant...that might put them in defense mode.. the other lady was slightly in defense mode. Vanessa's body language was saying "im making u comfortable..im a friend..take your guard down". she never directly disagreed with the guy even when he was dead wrong in his answers, lol. that should already tell u what energy she came with.
@inquisitivemind4193
6 жыл бұрын
What book are you reading?
@ghazanhussain2070
6 жыл бұрын
zero abol she is a woman.
@PANKAJSHARMA-sj9gz
6 жыл бұрын
She is..
@yaakw
5 жыл бұрын
zero abol not all smiling is?
@JadenJackson-x1c
10 ай бұрын
Wait, you tell us charismatic people smile but apparently you’re telling us leaders don’t….. we’re confused
@AntoniusLeo
6 жыл бұрын
Outdated concept. Please update..
@aggmyg4230
4 жыл бұрын
Exactly.
@humbertoramirez315
6 жыл бұрын
Vanessa Van Edwards is amazing. However, the characteristics of the person/“leader” she is describing matches a rude person more than a “leader” to me. Interrupts and doesn’t look at people when they are speaking. The leader doesn’t smile. And to top it off he/she tries to impose his/her power in the room through body language. What do you guys think?
@clairewillow6475
5 жыл бұрын
Humberto Ramirez I think it's usually subtle amounts of these behaviours. If you're trying to get everyone to like you, you'll never be a leader
@smartin7494
5 жыл бұрын
It is subtle hence most people won’t really get this.
@linhngo7398
2 жыл бұрын
This is leadership in highly competitive environments. This is not ideal for roles where such as sales and marketing where the customer's cooperation is needed to close the deal.
@letustalk8307
5 жыл бұрын
With due respect, is it descriptions of a leader or a statue?
@kokolanza7543
3 жыл бұрын
This is quite interesting. Thought-provoking. It seems to me (for what it's worth) that Vanessa is really on to something. HOWEVER, a true charismatic (it seems to me, upon meditating on these fascinating insights) follows her or his inner vision, and makes hir own rules. And somehow, it is the psychic power of that inner vision that is communicated and attracts others. Undoubtedly there are different types, or levels(?) of leaders. Thank you VVE for your insights!
@SonyCamry
9 жыл бұрын
i disagree ive seen lots of leaders smile
@NiveusCornix
7 жыл бұрын
Then you've seen a lot of leaders from government positions. Those leaders will smile more out of trained habit to blend with their environment.
@victorespino5650
7 жыл бұрын
SonyCamry the setting matters
@brielli6393
6 жыл бұрын
It's science, it doesn't matter if you agree or disagree. She's talking about psychology studies, although she doesn't specifically cite any, but you can look them up on google scholar.
@Bhiladpy-up9uy
6 жыл бұрын
But it must be genuine.
@raazbabbar5499
6 жыл бұрын
Leaders have an amused face. That's a signature face of male dominance.
@gil-juniorriseabovebetraya5972
3 жыл бұрын
Yes!!! There is a lot of different types of leaders. But, like she said " we found in a study who were the most successful leaders" so the leader u think is way different than the one described is a weaker leader lol
@RealEstateInsider247
9 жыл бұрын
1. What do leaders do? a) smile more? b) smile less? A: Smile less but ... 2. What do leaders do? a) interrupt b) don't interrupt? A: interrupt. What is interesting ... 3. What do leaders do? a) Hold eye contact more? b) Hole eye contact less? A: more when they are talking to you & less when you are talking to them ... eye contact breeds trust ... 4. What do leaders do? a) Pace? b) Stand still? A: typically stand still ... they move very purposefully like a large bear who conserves energy; they tend to be the stillest in the room ... move purposefully 5. What do leaders do? a) Nod as you speak? b) Hold their head still as you speak? A: Still and proud
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