I keep thinking : Narcissism is a million times worse than anything you hear or read about, you have to have been a victim to understand.
@chrisjames9737
4 жыл бұрын
I understand that. No one will listen long enough to understand.?
@patriciaroysdon9540
4 жыл бұрын
Yes.
@patriciaroysdon9540
4 жыл бұрын
@UCdbFan4t_nY_PdC5kXZNpQw I knew immediately when I first saw the Donald talk on TV many years ago that he was a narcissist. He and my dad may not have come from the same mold, but very very close. I am not afraid to say I despise the man.
@paulaflowing6124
4 жыл бұрын
slow motion Exactly. It’s terrifying the lack of information about this disturb, specially the covert/occult ones.
@publicname60
4 жыл бұрын
@@patriciaroysdon9540 Trump is missing necessary criteria though for experts to apply the narcissist diagnosis.
@warsilver99
11 жыл бұрын
"A pond pretending to be an ocean" well said
@marydrake8982
3 жыл бұрын
@@latoyakalu5596 EVERYTHING
@annekebattenhaussen6535
2 жыл бұрын
A crumb pretending to be bread.
@cherrylane79
3 жыл бұрын
The covert narcissist can appear to be almost normal until something triggers them. It might take a long time. That's why they can hurt you even more than regular narcissists.
@SixRavenEight
2 жыл бұрын
I'm married to a guy either with tendencies or is a covert narc. It's like being stuck in something that constricts but not enough to kill and won't stop taking about itself.
@J3robi
2 жыл бұрын
True, especially they excel in playing the victim.
@ahmadag1820
2 жыл бұрын
@@SixRavenEight NT love culture is interesting I am on the spectrum someone aught to fund autist psychologists to purey study NT's.
@katrinadoiron1075
2 жыл бұрын
Yes very true a d they are much more sneaky ...it like dying of a thousand scratches then they try to make you think your crazy...
@artsyalkalearnandgrowbeaut3731
Жыл бұрын
They have passive air of superiority.
@MsBizzyGurl
3 жыл бұрын
Humility, kindness, empathy and willingness to be open - never in a narcissist.
@derekwfrazier
2 жыл бұрын
There are subclasses and learned traits and ultimately its a decision to accept or ... Not
@Sadism4life
Жыл бұрын
@@NarsMcain right, I‘m an example of a non-abusive npd
@lvt2050
Жыл бұрын
I know one that are really good in pretending to be very kind.
@ElMundoDeSam95
Жыл бұрын
Yeah but we didnt chose to be this way
@amandaherbert9664
Жыл бұрын
I know one who gets away with it by always being nice. Perfect public persona
@thariaxandre8484
3 жыл бұрын
"He is a pond pretending to be an ocean" There are always the most accurate and enlightening quotes on these videos.
@NeuroplasticityReprogram
2 жыл бұрын
Dr. Vaknin is Brilliant.
@heylena24
Жыл бұрын
Я бы сказала не пруд, а лужа
@3240590
7 жыл бұрын
They avoid contact with those who've figured them out.
@Freespiritedqueen
6 жыл бұрын
This seems to be true on a number of levels. People who are real, authentic, honest, truthful.
@enig99
6 жыл бұрын
Or they try and gaslight the person who figures them out into thinking they are paranoid and overreactive.
@starsstripes2393
6 жыл бұрын
Yeah because the mask has slipped,your not a mug anymore!
@starsstripes2393
6 жыл бұрын
@@enig99 a favourite saying my parents would use if i challenged them about their behaviour...."tell your psychiatrist next time your on his couch" as though i was nuts and i was the one who needed help😂
@hannahrosa5485
5 жыл бұрын
Yes, they are scary people. I escaped from one last year without my good reputation.
@TheSinisterPress
11 жыл бұрын
The best way to defend yourself from all sorts of abusers is understanding them and knowing yourself. Knowledge is power.
@Ephesians-xt4xc
3 жыл бұрын
Very good insight. Thank you
@seba4053
Жыл бұрын
This is what I always think in my life: knowledge is power, knowledge save you from danger things.
@KatkaLiptay
Жыл бұрын
and to get there you need have THE EXPERIENCE
@PoeticHeretic
12 жыл бұрын
This should be required material in public schools. So many narcissists and psychopaths out there it is essential people learn how to spot them.
@Bronxlady1
8 жыл бұрын
I was "discarded" by a person who exhibited all the narcissist regalia. Boy was that the happiest day of my life!!
@jbsang54
8 жыл бұрын
+Bronxlady1 Trust me...he did you a BIG favor!
@anniewilliams9317
6 жыл бұрын
Miracles do happen
@tvcasualty1276
6 жыл бұрын
Use it to better your self and shortcomings.
@francieodendahl9351
5 жыл бұрын
I want to marry a boring narcissist.
@thewolf14
5 жыл бұрын
I was glad to be rid of him. Jokes on them. They write a narrative their toddler mind can handle. We live a rich life. :) Lesson learned. Wolves that go baaaaaaa
@sabreezysabreezysea1238
9 жыл бұрын
All of this was my ex. He reeked havoc on all aspects of my life. Calm, aloof, no remorse, grandiose, parasitic abuser
@anniewilliams9317
6 жыл бұрын
You don't need someone like this in your life to play head games with you until calls you mental stress if somebody loves you they respect your feelings and they try to give you comfort and peace and not drama I know from experience talk to someone you can trust and get their point of view and if they care for you they will be truthful with you but you do not need someone like this in your life good luck and the faster you do it the better you will feel cuz you are going to bring yourself down and you show him that you don't have self value and you deserve more and that's what you need to show him and you're not going to tolerate anything other than respect Chris the more you let him get by with the more he will do set up boundaries for yourself and he has already crossed them and he will continue to do more don't let anyone cross your boundaries keep watching these videos
@jameslatimer1432
6 жыл бұрын
Sabreezysabreezy Sea123 hope your ok now
@thepro08
5 жыл бұрын
well you probably humiliated and refused hundreds of good men and in the end , end up with the narcissist always....please tell me how you are a great victim.
@francieodendahl9351
5 жыл бұрын
I like Narcissusts who like doing household chores.
@stugtodd2778
3 жыл бұрын
Narcs are rarely calm - especially with close relationships. In your brief description of your ex I say more on the psychopathic scale.
@pgman5416
2 жыл бұрын
Just wanted to state something from my experience: Female narcissists are surprisingly similar to the male archetype. As a victim it's sometimes difficult to not become LIKE them in order to survive. The best advice I've heard from everyone is to get out, or gain distance, asap, before the narcissist manages to turn the tables for the observers and is able to play the victim when you fight back or establish boundaries.
@abii1131
2 жыл бұрын
Yes. They turned the tables on me. They are seasoned abusers, pre plan everything and numb their victims brain
@Zephyr9810
9 ай бұрын
ON POINT! I deep inside myself know I'm no narcissist, but had a relationship with a female narcissist for about 10 years until the penny dropped for me. Those years turned me inside out, not to mention that this was not the only relationship I had with one. One after some time adapts those behaviors to stand the own ground for the sake of not being loved by somebody. The way out is the hard part whilst the narcissist goes its ways.
@BaebiDoll
4 жыл бұрын
i will never marry a man that reminds me of my dad.. never
@naeemrazaq4882
3 жыл бұрын
@@cross-eyedmary6619 what is covert
@elfglow4557
3 жыл бұрын
@@GuardianAngel.. hahahah
@drafiamateras8469
3 жыл бұрын
Cross-Eyed Mary, You have this understandable wish on a reflective level. However, these decisions are in real life typically taken pre-reflectively. It's, so to speak, another department in our consciousness, which we are or aren't aware of. Therefore it is easily possible that you fall in love with a man who resembles your father without even noticing that he does. I have tried this various times in my life, always with the same disappointing outcome, sometimes after a few months, sometimes after years, just - as a man - in the opposite direction.
@AnimosityIncarnate
3 ай бұрын
You will bang him tho 😂
@auntstacey123
12 жыл бұрын
I've learned one of the best ways you can tell whether or not someone is a narcissist is the way they treat people like waiters/waitresses or salespeople. If they treat people they don't know in an arrogant, condescending way, it will only be a matter of time before they will treat you that way.
@oscarwilliamson1128
Жыл бұрын
Auntstacey123,You look cute 🥰,Hope you are not with a narcissist…
@Kayscastle
Жыл бұрын
Just don’t forget that they also often charm the crap out of as many people as possible. Their sadistic charm can be highly cunning and alluring
@TheBeliever1204
4 ай бұрын
Disagree. They can be such immature assholes they can flirt with the waitrees or waiter instead
@luckystone2293
19 күн бұрын
Aren't they supposed to be intelligent? Wouldn't they act nice?
@transamturdpolisher4070
10 жыл бұрын
I think he just described every politician and celebrity in Hollywood.
@naturalallnaturalwhitepist1789
6 жыл бұрын
TransAM Turdpolisher there's a difference between having narcissistic tendencies (everyone does) and NPD
@mariax3049
6 жыл бұрын
Many of them i believe are. I don't think a "normal empathetic" person can handle the pressure ect it takes to get to the top and stay there.. But that's only my opinion.
@ROCdevelopments
5 жыл бұрын
Actually Hollywood celebrities only score a few points higher than average when measuring narcissistic personality traits. Politicians however; some researchers say up to around 99% of all prominent politicians have severe narcissistic and psychopathic traits.
@francinesmith8109
4 жыл бұрын
@@ROCdevelopments stfu....you've no stats on that. Stop making shit up to get likes. Prove it.
@eyeoffthetiger2691
4 жыл бұрын
@@ROCdevelopments 💯
@Kim-vs4vb
4 жыл бұрын
When confronted and cornered and loosing control they start to shake their head from side to side, stare blankly at you, eyes look black, face somehow changes, defensive body language.......very scary
@johnjcc9884
2 жыл бұрын
They call it the stare
@scottshepard1215
7 жыл бұрын
My sense of self-worth was nearly destroyed due to falling for a narcissist early on in my adult life. Relationships with narcissists are very unhealthy. Remember to never compromise to take a shot at what you think at the time is 'love'.
@ruthorronjak9831
2 жыл бұрын
Beautifully stated
@lauradevi290
2 жыл бұрын
Indeed, true, the love of the narcisist is pure ilusion. It is not real and it will never be.
@Kayscastle
Жыл бұрын
Did you end up finding real love from someone non-narcissistic down the road?
@freya0620
Жыл бұрын
learned that the hardway
@tdesq.2463
Жыл бұрын
"Sadistic Humour" ... yeah, I know what that's about. Oh, yes.
@fionam3735
3 жыл бұрын
The world is becoming full of narcissists 😬.
@onelove8593
2 жыл бұрын
I keep saying that everyday
@libra-beotch
2 жыл бұрын
I noticed that too, sad...
@mitchelmisaki4876
2 жыл бұрын
Social justice=collective narcissism
@fionam3735
2 жыл бұрын
@@mitchelmisaki4876 social injustice
@cybertime4143
2 жыл бұрын
Yep! It seems so
@123asd69123
8 жыл бұрын
I have a Narcissist father. He will always get his way, at times disrespecting his own family allowing outsiders to intervene. I have also realized that Narcissists work in groups assisting each other. There is a collective Elitist thought that keeps them together. Even a psychologist was in on the program it was later discovered that he had been taking social favors for assisting my father get his way. Over the years I have found a lot of solitude being on my own. I might have traits of what you are describing in your video. Thanks. Videos like this help people who come from narcissistic families maintain a healthy frame of mind.
@mimisocks
4 жыл бұрын
Ruby yes it is true. Like in cults, they recruit snitches. I experienced it with the corona virus shelter in place. The weaker member worshipping the team leader and handed out abuses n rules directed at me. I immediately removed myself from the heightened tension. No contact to stay safe!
@greisyfernandez7353
3 жыл бұрын
Same happened to me, the therapist he looked for kept saying I had an issue. They're demons and defend among themselves
@krissikrissi4844
3 жыл бұрын
If you are non narcissistic enough to fear you have traits you are most likely okay😂💗
@KT-bm6qr
9 жыл бұрын
They can also abuse their children, and they just don't care. You are just an object to them.
@annehinde719
7 жыл бұрын
I am
@enig99
6 жыл бұрын
They either don't care, OR feel completely justified in their actions and how DARE you question them... sigh
@pamelawherey4583
4 жыл бұрын
K T How about taking her son to court and gains guardianship over him, which is an adult?
@sarahjones4993
4 жыл бұрын
They often do as they view their children as mere objects part of their own existence. Very chilling to truly understand
@Castro30
7 жыл бұрын
I got fired this past week by someone exactly like what he is saying except for 1 trait...when I walked out the door and challenged him to bully me outside he locked all the doors and called the police...mind you I am 5'11 and he is 6'2...narcissists are the biggest cowards too
@Art-gb5ok
3 жыл бұрын
😂
@globaloffensive-nh3cl
3 жыл бұрын
They develope a scope to measure levels of a target's potential danger. Only cowards are bullies. Never the less they need to either be avoided or seriously challenged to a point of maximum loss for them.
@patriciagaskins5732
7 жыл бұрын
Wow, I just broke up with my ex four weeks ago, he went into a rage when I found out he was seeing his ex. During the five years we been together I knew something was wrong but had no clue as to what. He always shifted blame on me in every negative situation, I was the cause of this and that. After searching the tube I found these videos and what everybody have spoken about hit head on the nail. After paying his rent, buying groceries and giving him a few dollars I was called every name except for a child of God. He could be so sweet at times and I would be happy but only for a moment, he savatage every good thing even when we were around family and friends. I was devastated, hurt angry I even wanted to get even but changed my mind. I'm getting better everyday and I thank God for that. I just never thought that these people existed. Omg he always talked of himself as a third person, I never thought anything about it...I thought it was the new slang, any way I'm happy it's over. I have a few bumps and bruises but I'm here ...Amen
@kelseylouise73
4 жыл бұрын
same. exact same.
@anatmaimon-reznik4501
3 жыл бұрын
WOW, same...so sad.
@patriciagaskins5732
3 жыл бұрын
@@anatmaimon-reznik4501 Yeah, that was a devastating time in my life. I'm still in the healing process, I have trust issues and very sceptical about people. I don't mean to be but that's the damage he left me with. I've been single every since, I know that I shouldn't deprive myself of a loving relationship but I have to continue to work on me. I wouldn't dare carry my baggage into a new relationship even though if the shoe was on the other foot some people would.
@charjose2843
2 жыл бұрын
Glad you got away from that loser. As a woman, remember you’re the prize. Never take care of any men. A real man wouldn’t want you paying his bills. Men are naturally providers and protectors.
@snicksabea
Жыл бұрын
Tis better to be alone than in bad company. 💜🎊
@shoot4thstars
12 жыл бұрын
A very accurate account. I've been on the receiving end of this kind of abuse from a family member for years. You'll find these people in positions of 'care' and health. To all the world appearing the 'saviour' but behind the scenes using the weakness of those they're meant to be caring for, to gain some kind of thrill of superiority and control. Confuses and upsets the hell out of me...
@stardustsparkles22
Жыл бұрын
Yes, going through this right this moment. They love to masquerade in caregiving. They appear one way,yet behind closed doors it's a different story.
@Marjo..
4 жыл бұрын
the sustained and piercing eye contact is definitly a give-away, I noticed that one and creeps me out
@Pfsif
3 жыл бұрын
The don't look at you, they SCAN you like a reptile.
@tonilyons858
3 жыл бұрын
Exactly! The piercing eye contact. My exhusband's #1 trait. Totally abusive narcissist
@P4Eight
3 жыл бұрын
My ex would do that constantly,I couldn't stand it. She would say " I'm objectifying you" as if that's of any comfort lol. Sucks to be duped on so many levels and for so long. Thank God it's over
@lauravintson7753
2 жыл бұрын
Stare them down as well, that you are not afraid, nor will tolerate crap.
@anush3420
3 жыл бұрын
My dad is a narcissist and I've personally suffered a lot*. Thank goodness, I had my mom to envision me these things and friends to share my pain with. These people never change so the only solution for saving your individuality and mental peace is get away from them asap. If it has something to do with maternal relationship, please ignore what they say and focus on your goals and dreams. Never give up on your life or on the people who support you, the world has both good and bad people.
@VelvetGal5
11 жыл бұрын
Hi. I've known some male doctors who exhibited narcissistic traits just as Sam Vaknin described. In relationships/friendships, there were 2 guys who had narcissistic traits. NO analogies, excuses, stories, life history are good reasons for ANY person to treat others poorly. The irony of it all is that narcissists treat their close ones & friends worse than they do strangers & enemies. It's like what Sam said in this video, those who are closest to the narcissist are treated worse. Take care!
@snicksabea
Жыл бұрын
Many doctors have narcissistic behaviors.
@dawnnicolas7617
6 жыл бұрын
Evil and destructive is what I call these individuals. They want everything from you, and nothing is reciprocal. I have never in my life felt as much emotional abuse and pain as loving a narcissist!!! I wish narcissists had to feel what they do to people for a solid day. I am quite sure they would have a mental breakdown. Nothing in life could have prepared me for this! Thank you for the videos.
@greghammond7416
6 жыл бұрын
Always sat in corner away from people fell asleep at parties, made people uncomfortable.
@starsstripes2393
6 жыл бұрын
Yeah..and usually owe everyone an apology the next day for insulting them in alcohol !!
@jackcallahan2719
4 жыл бұрын
Narcissists need people to like them, this doesn't sound accurate
@twohornedpuppet85
10 ай бұрын
Funnily enough dealing with narcissists in the family forced me to adopt some of their traits, just to survive.
@sandyjamison5929
4 жыл бұрын
The "shy observer" while controlling the partner with glances that become glares or the subtle, downward movement of a smile when the victim looks at him. Control is exerted across a room especially if the partner is outgoing, friendly and/or extroverted.
@xpehbam33
8 жыл бұрын
temperment of toddlers
@samvaknin
8 жыл бұрын
+Stasik C. Lack of impulse control? Is the Narcissist Legally Insane? samvak.tripod.com/personalitydisorders49.html
@shwhitebuffalowoman6276
4 жыл бұрын
Don't give toddlers a bad reputation! My toddlers did not have these issues at all!
@johnphillips4874
8 жыл бұрын
there is no cure for narsacistic behavior
@thesoundcouncil3771
4 жыл бұрын
DMT CAN CURE EVERTHING.
@MaggieTheCat01
4 жыл бұрын
The chap in the video has been diagnosed with NPD on three separate occasions. kzitem.info/news/bejne/1ItplmmEqoqFbGk He investigated the condition in depth and has garnered considerable insight. He says he’s not ‘cured’ but does modify his behaviour now. I didn’t think any progress at all was possible until I stumbled across his videos.
@spiritwalker9903
4 жыл бұрын
Yes ...there is...it's the individuation process described by Carl Jung. It's fascinating and the answer. Also a video by the brilliant Michael Tsarion called the inauthentic life. Everyone is npd to some degree. Even this man explains this.
@MustardSeedish
9 жыл бұрын
For years I thought my father in law was a charming fellow until I spent a few hours with him in the car. He just went on and on about himself the entire time. I wanted to jump out of the window. I asked him about his thought about his son and it AWAYS came back to him.
@xxmightyonexx
9 жыл бұрын
+MustardSeedish Yes, that's a big tell and it's more common than one might think. I noticed it too often in certain parents whom I would converse with online, barely talk about their kids (even in life changing events) while they will go on about themselves far longer. They may discuss kids in a way that somehow feeds their ego and in no other way.
@hollypop6335
9 жыл бұрын
+MustardSeedish He could be just self absorbed. Some people i notice have a speech pattern of trying to relate with others by telling others about themselves in hopes that it sparks a conversation. All they have to draw on for conversations is what they've experienced in life. (might mean he's a solitary lonely type without as many friends or something) but it could indicate NPD as well, just have to look for more signs like being crazy good at lying and manipulating people and starting lots of drama and then being the victim in it all.
@xxmightyonexx
9 жыл бұрын
HollyPop That's a fair point. I did think it was strange though, as one quick example, like when a kid has a milestone (types 1 sentence) like an important birthday and they think their mundane trip to the coffee shop is more important (2 paragraphs). However, I do live near a person just like your describing. Living near them and hearing what they say and seeing what they do versus what they state...is hard-core evidence. It is harder with a blog or online relationship. I will bear selfish and self-absorbed in mind though. Thank you.
@herbfelcher4634
6 жыл бұрын
leasrn how to write a sentence.
@prometheuspredator7971
6 жыл бұрын
Herb Felcher, You misspelled LEARN. Do not criticize others when you do the same grammatical error.
@slobomotion
9 жыл бұрын
Psychopaths, for example, often have an unusual, highly identifiable body carriage. Their posture is different and as you said, kind of regal.
@Pfsif
3 жыл бұрын
My neighbor (doctor) N's posture was like a bug/troll.
@MagiMysteryTour
8 жыл бұрын
"Look what you made me do!" Heard that from my brother my whole childhood.
@jbsang54
8 жыл бұрын
+MagiMysteryTour This is the classic 'I must not take responsbility for my action' syndrome.
@MagiMysteryTour
8 жыл бұрын
It took me 50 years to learn that his behavior was not extremely rare.
@pdiddy523
6 жыл бұрын
The day he said that to me, was the day I realized I was in an abusive relationship.... I got tf out. It was hard tho.
@jaritamccully3797
6 жыл бұрын
I have a narc brother too
@RaferJeffersonIII
4 жыл бұрын
This is often what men, who have stronger anger and temper, due to testosterone, say to women who provoked, baited and headfucked them. So that statement doesn’t prove narcissism. It proves one party has narcissism, especially as female narcissists main weapon is to provoke to the point of anger and then claim victim hood.
@jennytaylor2553
10 жыл бұрын
Got trapped living with 2 of these and realized almost too late what they were up to and the nasty games they were playing. Once you shut down contact and anyway for them to play with your emotions, they lose power. Now I can spot a sociopath/psychopath immediately and find them 'Pathetically Predictable' as someone stated. With some research and help from others I was able to rid myself of two of the worst people (family members) in my life. Also I recently dealt with another one of these monsters quickly and painlessly. The most frightening thing is that these freaks that are devoid of empathy are in powerful positions. Until this is made common knowledge this world will continue to decline into an uncaring and humorless society and carry on following these cult leaders.
@toraktorak
4 жыл бұрын
You sound like a very kind person and definitely not a narcissist yourself. >freaks devoid of empathy Oh, irony.
@hermanman8235
4 жыл бұрын
EMPTY STARE.for me that's the sure fire way to detect them
@anatmaimon-reznik4501
3 жыл бұрын
yes, sadly, me too
@ahmadag1820
2 жыл бұрын
@@toraktorak people don't likr there torturers
@stardustsparkles22
Жыл бұрын
I really really need your advice. I'm currently living with a male roommate ( due to having a stalker) there's no relationship,but he is hinting at wanting one. I am not ready , and have been noticing red flags. I want to avoid inflicting major narcissistic injury. How do handle this. I don't want to hurt his feelings?
@yourmostmagnificentlife2791
8 жыл бұрын
You saved my life by educating me on what the hell was going on in my life Sam, thank you. I have had several N's in my life and just asking them if they have ever heard of you sends them into narcisstic body rage even if they claim to have never heard of you. I have learned to pay attention to what people do as well as what they say. Their body language always gives them away even if they say all the right things. Paying attention to the fact that their body language and what they were saying didn't match up was a huge thing for me to understand to deal with the lies and gaslighting in a way that kept me emotionally safe.
@Bonobo3D
8 жыл бұрын
For many of us who have lived with narcissists we learn more fully about this condition after the fact. Learning more about this condition and especially the signs of a narcissist helps to prevent another one from taking advantage. Thank you for this most informative video.
@anniewilliams9317
6 жыл бұрын
I think it's good for all of us to educate ourselves on this issue especially for young people and I would encourage young people to read this I wish it was out years ago on these videos they are great
@georgesimpson1406
6 жыл бұрын
Yeh why is EVERYTHING confirming my suspicion. Why was everything benefit ofbthe doubt back then, i guess i knew but was naive and too pourous to accuse
@williamgrant8043
7 жыл бұрын
I had an experience like this with my oldest friend. After school we barely kept contact. Then he moved to Australia, and then all over. He came home a few times and we caught up. He was different but not in a bad way. Mainly just his accent. The last time I met up with him, we all got really drunk. And that's when this side of him came out. As I held the position of his dearest friend. He has high pronoun density. All he talks about is how he has landed jobs all over the world and how much money he makes. As soon as the conversation becomes introspective he goes silent. He is glib, gregarious. He really wouldn't accept that people view me as an intelligent person. He insisted how dumb I was. I couldn't get away from him and he followed me when I was trying to get a taxi after I'd had enough of his bs. He ran the same routine in front of as many people as possible. It was that out of order I was being refused taxis as it looked like I was going to be in a fight. When I finally got a taxi he peered in through the drivers window and asked me something in a caring way and secretly payed the taxi. I was suicidal for a week after this. Because I was so humiliated. There is more to the story involving an incident from my past. Which he made very public. Then would go from wanting to talk about that to saying how stupid I am. He was toying with my emotions. I have had deeply vengeful feeling since then. And have been really irritable ever since and it was over 6 months ago. I'm not the same and I think I would go into a rage if I was treated the same again. So I need to learn how to spot people like this so I can avoid them and not do something I regret.
@trees915
4 жыл бұрын
Ugh!
@MiteslayerPlantsprayer
3 жыл бұрын
I'm sorry this happened to you. I share the experience of holding on to an experience for far too long. I believe it's a reaction to *not* having spoken out at the time. My plan is to never allow unacceptable behavior and to call it out immediately, if not instantly corrected, walk away. I think there is a problem that occurs for us later, as a result of not wishing to cause a scene or seem rude. I think the instinct works against our healthiest interests in the long run. Go ahead and blow the jerk out of the water!
@jackcallahan2719
4 жыл бұрын
Will not apologize for their actions.
@JCGQNY
8 жыл бұрын
This completely describes my father who other family members cannot seem to grasp the idea that he has a personality disorder. My mother was the psychoanalyst who projected all her fears onto other people which became self fulfilling prophecies. They are so full of toxic negativity the only successful way to deal is no contact.
@cynthiaseavers1444
4 жыл бұрын
I unmasked my brother during an extended "visit" he tossed me out and I thank my lucky stars for that. His wife and kids enable him fully to their own detriment. He can really put on his"game face" as I call it. His wife and I promised to remain friends and keep in touch but almost the minute I left for the airport I was "unfriended" When it was clear I would not become his narc supply and started avoiding his company he became enraged ... he "expressed" his feelings to me...then I expressed mine to him and to say the least he did not like that one bit. I admit that I let myself get angrier than I have ever been. I WAS WARNED ABOUT HIM ... THAT HE WAS SOMEONE I WOULDN'T LIKE BUT WE HADN'T SEEN EACH OTHER FOR ABOUT 30YEARS AND AT OUR AGES TIME WAS RUNNING SHORT ...I'M GLAD I WENT IF ONLY TO SAY GOODBYE...HE IS THE SAME NINE YEAR OLD BOY I KNEW THOUGH IS ALMOST 70. THE ONLY THING THAT HAS GROWN IS HIS NARCISSISM. I FEEL LIKE I "DODGED A BULLET
@FreedomandRights4US
Жыл бұрын
Nobody alive (that I'm aware of) understands more about narcissism than this man.
@BuddAlden
11 жыл бұрын
Now knowing that 20 years trying to please and hold on to "the love of my life" was all a narc's cyclical repetative need for NS from me I am stunned that this destructive abuse is not widely known. She was so expert in maniplulating at least 10 cycles of idealization through abandnment that I even left a wonderful woman to return to her after two years of no contact. I "knew" what was happening but with no knowlege base I assumed it was my unique hell. Sam's videos DEFINE her. If only I knew..
@elizabethfreer1948
4 жыл бұрын
I have lived with two abusers..the worst manipulators ..deceitful and everybody is an object to escape responsibility accountability or clear and honest communication..everything is a “strategy” to get control resulting in getting what they want need or entitled to.. Passive aggressive and narcissistic behavior destroy lives..dehumanize intentionally..it’s the worst “ crazy making” of any human mind..it almost cost me my life! I survived but it was brutally hard work!..GODS grace!
@estherbunny8781
11 жыл бұрын
For anyone thinking of trying to outwit, outsmart or outplay a psychopath in a relationship, forget it. You won't win. These people are mentally competitive & resilient. A good fight amuses them. No matter what you say or how you say it, they will turn it back on to you. Even if you keep notes on your interactions with them, they will lie about those interactions & fight you tooth & nail to try to prove you wrong every time. Fighting with them will exhaust you which is their desired outcome.
@robinmansfield7044
8 жыл бұрын
MOTHER! Had to cut contacts or she'd drive me nuts.
@soldierside365
7 жыл бұрын
Jayne Eyre are you sure it wasn't depression? Outbursts like those are some of the lesser known side affects of depression..
@Pfsif
3 жыл бұрын
@@soldierside365 Why second guess an adults hard life decision?
@soldierside365
3 жыл бұрын
@@Pfsif well, I’d probably have meant that giving up on a narcissist and giving up on someone with depression/anxiety are two different things. One needs to reassured, understood and assisted, the other’s to be as far away as possible. I was raising an alternate possibility
@melissacarl2002
10 жыл бұрын
wow. wish I would have known this 15 years ago.
@vassilurumov5110
8 жыл бұрын
First of all, I want to say "Congratulations and thank You!" for such a well-defined description and explanation of the thinkingg and acting behind the NPD. As a doctor beginning my career in psychiatry this is one of the most valuable and accurate depictions of such behaviour. I am looking forward to more educational videos in the future :) Keep up the good work!
Thank you for your kind words. As to your question, please refer to the title of the video.
@mohaglade4892
4 жыл бұрын
perfect ! exactly the person i spent most of my childhood and early 20s , and i was wondering why i always feels my life is better away from him
@countrygirl4213
3 жыл бұрын
Me too,when my bf went out of town..My chronic pain felt better and I felt like me again.3/4 exit plan ready.Life is too short to waste it.
@Valkyr13713
7 жыл бұрын
Ugh, it's like his battle stance when we interact. I'm so glad I'm educating myself. the condescension and the lone wolf. the special privileges and the entitlement. and the shifting of responsibility.. everything is my fault. Idealization and devalue. but he doesn't even idealize. he just devalues.
@jonsmith3574
7 жыл бұрын
Sam, this describes my boss. Just quit after years of abuse. Feel better than ever! Thanks
@luvtocmoon
7 жыл бұрын
Thank you , I'm recovering from one year 1/2 have of sheer pain . The greatest pain I have ever felt in my life. You are doing a great service to help the public understand and what to look for so we don't fall victim ever again.
@alij5709
7 ай бұрын
You have literally just described my ex-husband... After he drove me to a mental breakdown, I was lucky enough to have an amazing therapist who helped me realise what was happening to me and thankfully I gathered the strength to leave. I owe that therapist so much as I couldn't have done it without her. Unfortunately, I'm still coming to terms with the fact our marriage and those 10 years of my life were a complete sham and false reality. But, I am so grateful not to be on his sadistic merry-go-round of emotional torture anymore 🙏🏼
@Nindrhu
10 жыл бұрын
I will agree with him on the prolonged and quite frankly creepy level of eye contact that Narcissists typically bring to bear to throw people off balance, but I would beg to differ in terms of this alleged physical distance. Those few I've encountered who showed real Narcissistic tendencies more seemed to enjoy flaunting personal space boundaries and standing entirely TOO close to others, most times almost seeming to be putting real effort into looming over people even if they were physically shorter than who they were trying to intimidate. It is a bizarre thing to see and very off-putting, as at that point you are often still bewildered and trying to figure out whether the person is really acting in this domineering way or whether you are just imagining it. This nasty little manipulative tactic is where Narcissists get their trademark trait of making people question their own sanity.
@kelseylouise73
4 жыл бұрын
AGREE. my ex would do the most bizarre things while invading people's space. it was so cringeworthy. it drove me nuts. one time, he kissed our waiter on the cheek. i almost died inside and the waiter felt so so awkward. so inappropriate.
@snoopsie
12 жыл бұрын
This is my mother totally..the frustrating part is that my reactions always seem uncalled for, to her, and others. It's as if her actions are invisible to the world, and I'm caught suffering the consequences for them. Narcissists have such a low sense of self, (they actually get rid of it, totally) that no one notices that they are just acting in life, there is nothing sincere about them. They use whatever they can about you, to boost their image.
@Nikora373
9 жыл бұрын
:/ My face when I find out that I've dated a narcissist.
@natesmates8936
11 жыл бұрын
I am a victim of Narcissim and so is my son and daughter. He is an awesome Drama queen, manipulator and the kids ARE (but not fully) brained washed as they physically abuse me and his mother gets abused daily I don't like my kids abusing their nanna. Thank you SAM VAKNIN. Life will get better now with all the research to devour, i am excited, I won't be crying rivers anymore.
@sandysparacino5830
8 жыл бұрын
Yeap, this is my 'ol man that I have been with for 21 years. Great to know that I finally figured it out. Thank God for you tube.
@AccredPros
7 жыл бұрын
Dr. Sam. Many people are on here providing information on NPD. Some victims some others narcissists reading like a story. While some are factual and some entertaining your work is intellectually the best. Personally I prefer the delivery to be provided in an academic format as I am not looking to be entertained here, but rather educated. I've learned the most from you. Your work is very much appreciated. Thank you!
@doombuggy123
10 жыл бұрын
This had almost nothing to do with body language specifically.
@RaphaelCoulter
4 жыл бұрын
doombuggy123 lol but it's still a good video
@jessicajoy4403
4 жыл бұрын
I was waiting for him to say something like , a look of enjoyment, or inappropriate smiles. Waiting to hear examples of body language
@ASentientPlant
3 жыл бұрын
He mentioned the way they STARE you down during a conversation but yeahh you're right
@RavenSong11
11 жыл бұрын
Very good insight. Best to walk away from this kind of personality disorder. You can't help them. They are extremely convincing liars. They can harm you badly.
@zg6045
Жыл бұрын
Oh I can't believe it. You nailed it. That is the perfect description of my husband and how he acts towards me and others. I was never able to explain that to anyone. And they wouldn't believe it anyway. I am right now searching for a Psychologist, but I don't know how to describe all the things I went through. And a lot of them may not be aware of that condition. And since the pandemic, it is hard to find someone. I hope I can find someone finally. Until then, I will watch vidoes like yours to build myself up. Thank you so much! ❤
@puppetstringscut4792
5 жыл бұрын
Crying as I watch this in 2019. Thank you.
@debsoliver432
10 жыл бұрын
Actually, I know a psychopathic woman who loves hugging everyone...absolutely everyone. That is part of her charm act. Is it possible for a psychopath, to be secretively a very insecure person? Thanks.
@samvaknin
10 жыл бұрын
Psychopaths are said to be fearless and sang-froid. Their pain tolerance is very high. Still, contrary to popular perceptions and psychiatric orthodoxy, some psychopaths are actually anxious and fearful. Their psychopathy is a defense against an underlying and all-pervasive anxiety, either hereditary, or brought on by early childhood abuse. More here: samvak.tripod.com/personalitydisorders16.html
@debsoliver432
10 жыл бұрын
Sam Vaknin Thanks. What a complex discussion.
@slobomotion
9 жыл бұрын
When people do that to me, I tell them immediately I find it offensive (I do) and I push them away. They get the message. That is one of the most obnoxious things I have ever encountered. I feel better in a non-hugging country and culture, ha ha ha!!
@tuleybee2425
5 жыл бұрын
debs oliver my mother does this she always wants to hug all my friends .
@elderherrera2238
4 жыл бұрын
Hell yeah. My ex had a weird fascination with Charles Manson. This goes back over 25 years ago. Ugh, I thought it was cute. Shit, I guess she's up to date. She has admitted curiousity in Epstein and Maxwell. Anybody see s pattern. I just figured her out as a covert narc. She tried gaslighting me recently. It felt ridiculously weird. I took her attempt as a baseline for behavior I observed recently. Gaslighting, poor empathy (selective), poor validation (delayed), poor accountability. Etc. Yuck. Once I figured out the covert narc plus her interest in psychopaths, I started making plans for no contact (again! her mom died). But I have to start with grey rock and fade out. I hope this shit helps.
@renzokata
11 жыл бұрын
If you ever directly confront them with their actions-they either manipulate their way out of it-or they will very coldly, shamelessly, and bold faced look you in the eyes and tell you they have no idea what are you speaking of. their eyes are dark pools of mystery-you are dealing with one for sure. they are out there and they're are more than you think.
@HipHopAn0n
11 жыл бұрын
All healthy people have some narcissistic traits, but a true narcissist has all or most of the traits without empathy, which is the biggest difference between healthy narcissism and malignant narcissism. There are plenty of people who are not true narcissists who still make the world a less pleasant place to live in.
@patriciayoung6361
11 жыл бұрын
Absolutely right on info concerning my soon to be ex husband. Sam, this is further confirmation to me that my instinct and reactions to my husband's rigid and crazy , demeaning behaviors were correct. I AM GETTING OUT OF THIS MARRIAGE AFTER LEST THAN A YEAR ..... But not without major resulting trauma and psychological soul snatching. I will revover and I thank you for such valuable info to me . Your videos have been reassuring and proof positive that I made the right decision to get out.
@chippyjohn1
7 жыл бұрын
throughout my life i have been labeled as a psychopath or schizo, mainly by my family as my father was diagnosed with these terms, i know in my heart that im not. i have great empathy and compassion for people but have also developed a low self esteem and depression because of being called this! i am very introverted and do have some traits as mentioned above, the main one is superiority. to explain, its not that i think im better than others, i just have a passion for learning and i do lose respect for others that dont have any interests in learning or improving themselves. i also get torn between two expressions of emotion; i hate lying but when honest, (and i am most of the time) i am said to be to blunt or emotionally detached, rude etc. i hear a lot of lies in day to day communication and i feel being honest is a better character trait than not hurting someones feelings. Example, a girl asks how do i look (referring to her fashion choice) i reply "its not the clothing i would wear, but if you feel comfortable in it wear it". Now obviously i wouldnt wear a womans clothing but she is offended by my answer. so should i lie and say she looks beautiful no matter what or should people respect and appreciate honesty more? i am not easily offended and criticism doesnt bother me, however i am aware that it does bother many others, is this a trait of a psycopath?
@MoPoppins
5 жыл бұрын
chippyjohn1 - Are you a Capricorn or Aquarius? It’s just part of your constitution to be blunt, but it’s helpful, at times, to be able to turn it on and off. Since you say that you’re empathetic, observe empathetic people who are excellent communicators, and have diplomacy down pat. Emulate the qualities that you feel would still be in line with who you are, and you can then become your better self. I like to be honest, 100% of the time, so I empathize.
@delilahhart4398
2 жыл бұрын
I think I once encountered a religious narcissist. Within minutes of meeting me, she tried to convert me to her religion. I politely declined. She tried converting me three times altogether during a period of between 45 minutes and an hour. And each time I politely (but firmly) declined. She clearly thought she was entitled to breach my boundaries! Several years later, I saw her in a public place. Our eyes met, and she glared at me! She apparently remembered me as the terrible woman who dared to say no to her!
@remkojerphanion4686
4 жыл бұрын
In 11 minutes and 18 seconds you described exactly a man that was once senior to myself in a company. It was a living hell. After leaving that company, I learned that this man had left a trail of destruction anywhere and everywhere he went, and in just one year, he had moved on to no less than 4 different jobs. Each and every job was a management role, and every time he failed so badly, he got kicked out. But it was never his fault, you understand.........
@carmenperez3191
8 жыл бұрын
My daughter as a men like this I hope to God that some day soon she can get away from his life .... Peace.
@mariahconklin3765
8 жыл бұрын
A guy I just met not too long ago shows signs of narcissism. He says he's my friend but I know better. I cut things off with him today. I deleted his contact number and am trying really hard not to text him.
@samvaknin
8 жыл бұрын
+Mariah Conklin Narcissists have no friends www.narcissistic-abuse.com/journal85.html
@mariahconklin3765
8 жыл бұрын
Wow this guy claims to have friend's but I think he uses a lot of them. I don't know him too well though and I don't hang out with him often but I see a lot of red flags in him. When I first met him he came off as interested in me acted as if he enjoyed hearing about my interests but the funny thing is that when he gave me his number to text he actually asked me out over text and I told him a guy calls. So he calls me, asks me out and literally 2 seconds after I say yes he picks the place to eat and then says he has to go. I ended out only going out with the guy as friend's instead telling him I'm not ready to date. We hung out he was distracted by other people when we talked, he did not reciprocate my feelings and every conversation went back to him. He would always put himself down so that I would validate him. He'd also say bad things about his friend's ex girlfriends saying that they were all stupid. I could literally play his little game, keep validating him and pretend to be interested to prove to people that I'm right but it's just too exhausting. I mean, if I wanted him I could literally have him but I've decided to not be in contact with him any longer it's just that everyone things I'm wrong when I feel and know in my gut that I'm right about this person. The other weird thing is that his friend is supporting him and giving him rent money because this guy doesn't have a job but yet he is extremely intelligent and can't find a job. He's also claimed that he's a "romantic idealist" but I haven't seen any signs of romance what so ever. lol!
@douglasparker8663
8 жыл бұрын
+Mariah Conklinomg i think i know this guy lol, what a scammer, i bet he is gorgeous, omg good job!! he never called and just ghosted me today its cool i was ready for no contact
@jbsang54
8 жыл бұрын
+Mariah Conklin You must always be on the 'lookout' and truly protect yourself... I deal with this 'nightmare' everyday... Give them NO info on what you're doing or what's going on with you. The less, the better!
@mariahconklin3765
8 жыл бұрын
This is so very true. I'm staying single and I'm actually pretty happy and content about my choice. :)
@estherbunny8781
11 жыл бұрын
4. Record the times/dates of contact/what's said if you later have to prove harassment, 5. Tell everyone you know who this person is/what they're doing in case he/she contacts them to get yr contact info, 6. KEEP ignoring them. In my experience psychos stop contact if they get bored or find a new shiny, sparkly toy (ie victim). IMPORTANT: in pt 1 I forgot to say that when you write to them, tell them NOT to reply to your request to cease contact (b/c they'll use that against you) Hope this helps
@Lp-vw1lf
3 ай бұрын
I am so grateful I found your channel! Thank you for everything you're sharing. I'm speechless with what I've learned from just 2 videos...incredible!
@arakaran9667
8 жыл бұрын
one of the best video in explaining this terrible condition. Big help!
@TheMoonrise007
6 жыл бұрын
This is my ex to the max. Especially the part about trying to sound like a "renaissance man" or "genius" when they are simply as deep as their facade 😂
@Tilly236
11 жыл бұрын
My mother disowned me 10 years ago, and expected me to chase after her and beg forgiveness. I didn't, after some counselling from a wonderful woman. It's been hard, but I now feel more 'myself' than I ever did. I feel for my mum, but I can't change her and won't allow her back in. You don't need someone like that in your life, make the most of her now being gone. It could be the best thing she's ever done for you.
@theswisswereright
11 жыл бұрын
This man is brilliant... These are things I've always seen in someone but never put together.
@vera1887
11 жыл бұрын
I strongly believe that's true! It works best for TEMPORARY encounters. In longer term relationships they are unrelenting. And now matter how smart or strategic the "victims" are, it becomes far too mentally tiring to keep up defenses constantly at ALL times. Actually, a true narcissist wins just by knowing that the other person has too be on guard, ALWAYS. Just having to watch your back and never relaxing means the N has total control
@athomas11000
7 жыл бұрын
OH MY GOD. This is my dad exactly.
@CassandraBornAgainLove
8 жыл бұрын
I can't believe how helpful this was, thank you so much! I have had a hard time understanding the seriousness of my situation, and have been searching for more information. Because he has never hit me I was not sure if I would fit in the category of being in a Domestic Violence situation. Trying to explain to others how life with him has been, is sometimes difficult to explain. I kept hoping he would get better, He says AGAIN that he was blinded and now see's what he was doing and if I just will let him back into the household I will see that he is better, It's going to be a long road of healing I have a feeling, It's been four years now with him. He never stopped talking it seemed plus he didn't work so we were with eachother 24 hours a day. He not only does everything you said but also has a spiritual twist to manipulate. Thank you for your video, it helped me
@Leanyse1976
12 жыл бұрын
I am sorry to hear that...RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN!!!!
@shinycat01
8 жыл бұрын
You Sir, have just described my ex husband!! there was only one thing that he didn't do - abuse or belittle a waiter. His behaviour is becoming more and more apparent now that I know what to look for, and all the time I thought it was me being overly sensitive and judgmental. Thank you for this most enlightening insight into that evil bastard's mind. Now he's trying to belittle and undermine me behind my back, to our children. But they're old enough to see what's going on, and they tell me what he says.
@audrEYheart21
11 жыл бұрын
so accurate video.. narcissists hurt their closest, their dearest; deceiving the rest of the world bout their reality. spouse & children turn out to be your normal depressed dysfunctional family.
@Trista1983
4 жыл бұрын
This is my sister! My mom always treated her as she could do no wrong. I'm scapegoat now because I call them out. My mom is covert narc. My sister seems to be borderline too.
@marshamcdonald1475
4 жыл бұрын
Stay away from them. Go no Contact. They ( sister and mom) are jealous of you and Will torment you, trying to Ruin your self esteem. They together or alone are Mean and treacherous . Find loving friends. Discard Them before they hurt you Mentally and emotionally.
@Elizabethselby
Жыл бұрын
Dr. Vaknin amazes me with his insight regarding characteristics of those he's discussing. It's almost frightening how accurate he is with the behavior analysis
@libertythicket6207
6 жыл бұрын
As always, this data is appreciated. However, as a long time researcher of body language, I'd hoped you were going to delve into actual facial expressions, etc. I often told my husband when he displayed contempt, anger, and disgust, yet he always denied, saying he was incapable of feeling those things. He said that I would never be able to read him, I could only read others well. Yet there they were before me, the universal expressions.
@KT-bm6qr
9 жыл бұрын
My brother has a creepy, sleazy giggle when spying and being inappropriate, which people don't seem to notice. He is not only abusive, but thinks he is entitled to be abusive.
@maryriley6163
7 жыл бұрын
You have described my father to a T. I was 58 years old before I would admit to myself that my father was manipulative. If it weren't for your writings and videos, I would still be wondering if my mother, my sister and I were truly the ones who were crazy and would still believe that he was almost God. He never walked on the street with us but always at least ten paces ahead. He used to demand "solemn promises" out of us for inconsequential things, but you couldn't pin him down to his waffling statements with a pick axe. Us women never discussed his behavior or manipulations, it just wasn't permitted. My mother's excuse for him was that he was "tactless". When I was seven he sat me down and gave me a lecture on the many ways that women are worthless and rotten, he did not spare the invectives, and it was more than tactless. Thank you for your many insights that saved what sanity I had left after he hounded my mother into an early grave and then expected me to take the abuse.
@pamelabegay9241
10 жыл бұрын
For the most part you were correct. No time for family or friends but psychopaths always have time for intercorse, the best s.e.x you will ever have will be with a psycho, Also no matter what people say or do the psychopath will always keeps the mask on they will never show their anger or hatred. Psychopaths will always keep a smile on thier face no matter what.
@slobomotion
9 жыл бұрын
Unless they are the "never smile" type who only wear black.
@CJW0056
9 жыл бұрын
I think maybe my last relationship was with a narcissist... There were sort of conflicting traits. There was definitely a mental illness present, but I hadn't figured out what. She would feign passing out for attention, conveniently landing in a way that avoided injury. She often acted suicidal, to the point i suspected she enjoyed me comforting her and me fearing for her safety. She fed off drama, almost every day brought some new conflict, even if she had to create it herself. I read your website, the part about "twisted and tragic relationships" being a staple of the narcissist really hit home. I won't forget me crying and her lying right to my tear stained face about not cheating, I just don't think anyone without something wrong with their brain could pull that off like she did, that made me suspect psychopathy... Yet I truly believe there were moments of genuine affection, and sweetness...when she didn't know I was looking. So I dunno. I found myself addicted to the anxiety drugs that I took everyday just to function, but have since been to a therapist and have stayed clean. When someone asks me about the relationship in person I don't even know how to describe it or even where to start. I guess I just want to know what I dealt with.
@CJW0056
9 жыл бұрын
Guess I should add that she was definitely proud of her looks, bragged about herself to me, and threatened me by purposefully gaining attention from men, even flirting right in front of me. These actions were never in proportional response to anything I did, I think she was just often bored. I feel like I can't explain to anyone why I stayed in the relationship for as long as I did, I feel ashamed about that.
@drewmandan
9 жыл бұрын
Charley What you're describing is textbook Borderline Personality Disorder. It's the self-victimization variant of narcissism/sociopathy, and it's much more prevalent among women for cultural reasons.
@CJW0056
9 жыл бұрын
drewmandan Histrionic Personality Disorder seems like a strong possibility too.
@dw3403
9 жыл бұрын
Charley Yup, thats sounds like it, histrionic. But believe it or not all of those so called mental illnesses have at the root of them narcissism. After all it seems to be a failure to mature.
@HealingandHypnosisTracks00
9 жыл бұрын
Charley check out my channel.
@caribind3
11 жыл бұрын
My god!! This explains my ex perfectly! He controlled us with his angry outbursts and was an emotional and physical abuser too. It took me 5 years after we split up to finally get rid of him.
@Conniejoy6168
11 жыл бұрын
Sorry to hear that. I am 36 and going through the same thing! :(
@estherbunny8781
11 жыл бұрын
You're so welcome! :) OK, as you're moving also do this: 1. Get an unlisted residential tel #. 2. Don't get your new address listed in the white pages. 3. Get your mail delivered to a PO Box instead of to your new house. 4. Tell your friends, etc NOT to give him any info about you, or even the area/state/county/borough where you'll be living. I suspect he keeps contacting you b/c he knows he can get in your head...he's waiting for you to break. Don't break - stay strong & protect yourself :)
@mlhebel
7 жыл бұрын
you just described most alcoholics, even/if after they stop drinking.
@samvaknin
7 жыл бұрын
Substance abuse and narcissism www.narcissistic-abuse.com/journal67.html
@trees915
4 жыл бұрын
@@LindyLooo99 It's not a disease! It is a choice people make for various reasons!
@francinesmith8109
4 жыл бұрын
@Sunflower Shine no, you're the wrong one for sure on this. Stop helping abusive alcoholics and druggies feel it isnt their fault. Its ALL their fault for making super bad choices and being extremely weak ppl. You're weak too.
@newmn1564
7 жыл бұрын
OMG are they demons ?!
@robertwhite1181
5 жыл бұрын
Spiritually this is the Jezebel spirit.
@zubaidasmith4551
4 жыл бұрын
In Islam Allah (God) tells us that shaytan (satan) only has the "power" to whisper in our ears he does not possess. To suggest and mislead and the rest is left to mankind. That is why Allah tells us to seek refuge in Him against shaytan. A great movie I recently watched shows this all too well. "The house that Jack built" Check it out.
@zubaidasmith4551
4 жыл бұрын
Q@Desiigner Well, I would block her in every way. As Allah says in the Quran If you sit with those who are off the path then you are upon what they are upon. Quran 4:140.....And it has already come down to you in the Book that when you hear the verses of Allah [recited], they are denied [by them] and ridiculed; so do not sit with them until they enter into another conversation. Indeed, you would then be like them. Indeed Allah will gather the hypocrites and disbelievers in Hell all together - Since you are not physically involved (married) with this disbeliever it is easier to just block and move on. InshaAllah And be thankful that Allah has put so much physical distance between you. A lot of believers are being subjected to this evil in their very own homes. Adhubillah! And ONLY ALLAH can protect them. Allahu akbar!
@marthaokelley9360
4 жыл бұрын
Demon SPIRITS.
@violetab3750
4 жыл бұрын
New Mn yes!
@RingJando
8 жыл бұрын
FABULOUS! A real treatise on a subject that lies hidden in plain sight! Thanks for the insights.
@Raao1
Жыл бұрын
This is so on point. I wished I knew it in 2020, as I became the victim at work. After I dealt with it (escaped) I was shocked by the realization, because I'm major in psychology and didn't see it coming. Please find a way to make your videos more viral. The world needs this knowledge more than ever.
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