Really cool to be on one of these. Thanks for having me!
@Anthonythewonderchild
2 ай бұрын
Sending all my love to you and support for you, AJ! You're always in my heart --Anthony
@metalfacebingo
3 жыл бұрын
One time, my mom was face timing my cousins in the Philippines. She handed me the phone to say hi to them and the first thing they said to me was "you're too fat". I tried to pass it off jokingly but it did get to me. Another one is with my little brother. He was big kid growing up so at parties my older cousins would always joke about his weight every time he gets food. Couple years ago I noticed he doesn't eat food during our family parties, I asked him about it and he said "it's because they used to make fun of me". Smh.
@sophialoren7855
3 жыл бұрын
The first time I talked to my long lost sister when I opened the camera she said "anong nangyari sa mukha mo? Bakit ganyan? Para kang si ante choochoo noon anlalaki ng pimples nya antaba pa, alam mo sa ating magkakapatid ikaw lang ganyan". How do you like that? 🙄 She seems more excited to meet my pimples. Even more annoying is some pabida relative, especially an old one, suddenly gives an unsolicited half cooked advice "don't eat fatty foods you will get fatter", like wow, what a new discovery! Lol
@paoloarnibal2303
3 жыл бұрын
Sorry i’m late but i hate how some filipinos family including mine always talk and make fun about weight and skin color or generally face features and body types.
@paoloarnibal2303
3 жыл бұрын
As a guy growing up my Mom always compared me and made fun of me saying “if only your white you will look more handsome” if only you had a high bridge nose you will look more handsome” and that started my insecurities
@beatricemarie826
3 жыл бұрын
@@paoloarnibal2303 Same palaging kami kincompare ng kapatid ko because magkaiba kmi ng skin color. One time, pumunta kami sa mga relatives ko (in my mother's side) at inapproach kami ng babae . Sinabihan niya ako na "Ang puti mo at maganda ka talaga" pero sinabi niya sa brother ko ay "Gwapo mo talaga pero maitim ka." It just make my blood boil😤.
@christine3314
2 жыл бұрын
trauma trauma
@swordpegasus4032
3 жыл бұрын
I am 17 years old and I'm half Filipino and Canadian and I hate body-shaming it's annoying.
@janjanplayztv1878
8 күн бұрын
True and its kind of dissapointing with the fact that they dont ask how are you feeling. Some people are just judging the cover
@bgdomingo
3 жыл бұрын
One trait I do not follow is the pakikisama, I consider myself as an individualist.
@blazingfire_0712
3 жыл бұрын
Good for you that you’re independent, but unfortunately not everyone can be like you. Some people really want to be part of something, unfortunately they’re joining with the toxic folks.
@sophialoren7855
3 жыл бұрын
That trait is sometimes cancerous
@midnightstarlis6405
2 жыл бұрын
thisss!
@dr.peanutsheesh6176
12 күн бұрын
@@sophialoren7855better than being with of them.
@jellodizon872
Жыл бұрын
Yes, this video is crucial for us to understand that not everyone is fine if we make comments about how their bodies look, and that body shaming is unacceptable. I hope this video serves as a wake-up call for people who consistently shaming people even when they didn't mean to.
@barian7093
Жыл бұрын
Tama tama
@zachanthonyjenkins8137
Жыл бұрын
Truly a profound comment!
@kaylajaneraizalee2465
Жыл бұрын
hayss lakass
@irishasinas2357
Жыл бұрын
Well body shaming ,just like what we heart from this video, its the action or practice or humiliating someone by making mocking or critical comments about thier body shape or size Pilipino often perpetuate this idea that to be beautiful is to be the size too, they dont think that not all lightweight is good cause sometimes they force thier self not to eat just to maintain lightweight, ,but stil reinforces this idea that skinnier is beautiful Iwhat can i also say is that please people around the world , let's stop body shaming cause we dont know how those words hurts someone , ,stop saying "you become more fat ,you not goodlooking anymore" "you become more thicker" "hey pig" please stop saying those words as a joke cause jokes suppose tobe funny not offensive and cant cause anypain, stop toxic attitude , stop body shamming, start to love and appreciate. Each other.❤️
@barian7093
Жыл бұрын
Oo nga naman
@aprilamisola4217
Жыл бұрын
Body shamming is an issue that is very controversial. Giving a comment about a person's body weight or size is humiliating. It is a big pressure on their end and it can make them feel bad about themselves. It can lower a persons self-esteem. Body shaming is also considered discrimination it can lead to stress especially among teenagers.
@Hiding_204
3 жыл бұрын
Omg I didn’t know others were also body shamed when they were younger, I’m half Filipino and was born and raised in America so I just thought my was mean and had a horrible sense of humor. I always took it to heart, I want to seek therapy, in fact I’ve asked for therapy but no one‘s gonna believe their 13-year-old daughter when they say “you’ve been body shaming me for years you think that wouldn’t have any affect” I also have other reasons that also have to do with my childhood but again no one’s gonna trust 13-year-old do you know how they feel
@melissap9710
3 жыл бұрын
you how no idea how much I relate to you
@jaminavestajugo3456
2 жыл бұрын
The fact that you can recognize that this is wrong behavior shows a lot of calm and maturity. I am sorry to hear that your family can't understand. Are there others from whom you can get support and understanding on this issue? A trusted counselor, etc.?
@gingfreecss3808
2 жыл бұрын
hope you get better soon! God bless! All the best and take care! -random 16 year old
@lizasplaylist
3 жыл бұрын
It’s very true. We’re the ones who choose what kinds of traditions we pass on as the future generation.
@cathy947
2 жыл бұрын
I feel like this vid deserves more recognition. Thank you for pointing this out.
@Jade-ns5dm
3 жыл бұрын
just listened to this video while my family member who body shamed me was nearby. to yk, subtly call them out ✨
@baesanaliawao3996
2 жыл бұрын
Very interesting and informative video! I totally agree we can change our reaction when our family body shaming us. And we need to break the cycle and body shaming ends with us!!
@aquixza
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for bringing out content that provides value ! Hopefully the fixed mindset and the toxicity in our culture vanishes in the future, also im living in Germany being a lil white washed is difficult for me to understand both worlds and also I always wanted to find a channel like this about my country and finally succeed ! ✧ more power !
@johnnymacanasjr.1383
2 жыл бұрын
I shared this to our relatives Group Page.
@Jade-ns5dm
3 жыл бұрын
here before this channel blows up 🤠
@precious_sales
2 жыл бұрын
i dont know what to feel rn. ganitong-ganito pamilya ko, lagi nila sinasabing mataba ako so nagstruggle ako to lose weight dumating pa sa point na hindi na talaga ako kumakain. nasanay na ako na hindi kumain like sumasakit ang tiyan sa gutom. pumayat naman ako and hoping na hindi na ulit nila ako mapupuna pero mukha ko naman ang pinansin. kesyo andami ko raw pimples haha ang sakit lang kasi sa kanila kopa naririnig yung mga ganung bagay. hindi tumigil ang pamilya ko sa ganong habit, ang lagi akong husgahan kaya kalaunan nasanay narin ako. pero masakit parin talaga no? ngayong quarantine tumaba na naman ako, ito yung dahilan kaya ako walang confidence. kung sino pa yung taong malapit sayo siya pa talaga yung nagagawa kang saktan ng sobra. nagpapasalamat nalang ako dahil nagagawa kong pigilan madepress.
@pinkgreenmelon2209
2 жыл бұрын
same mataba ako dati noong walang pang quarantine at lagi sinasabi sakin “taba taba mo” pero hindi naman ako mataba masyado then when quarantine came sobrang tumaba ako and that’s when i felt like “tinawag ako ng mataba dati but i was not” and i look back at my old photos and realize i wasn’t even that fat and i remember being so insecure at that time.. pag lagi narinig mo na ang taba mo o ang panget mo the more so you will think of it 😢
@____-zk1iq
3 жыл бұрын
Lalo na yung mga tita at yung mga lola diyan. Kada may family gathering, sinasabihan akong mataba. Pero bakit kung Pasko wala daw diet diet at kain lang daw? Hay nako naman.
@Wesssyde_LB-78
Жыл бұрын
A lot of Filipinos have a severe identity crisis more in the States. Skin bleaching etc.
@Exodus26.13Pi
2 жыл бұрын
Turn the music up even louder because I kept hearing someone mumbling. They do like it loud though.
@billyingles
3 жыл бұрын
I'm a white guy married to a Filipina. Whenever I meet Filipino friends or family that I haven't seen in a while, they always tell me how fat I've gotten. White people often say some false pleasantries, like that I look 'healthy', and I hate that. Me being fat is the elephant in the room, I know I'm fat. I respect the brutal honesty of Filipinos.
@loveforkeiko2751
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you. Oh my God. I am a Filipino and watching this video makes me feel judged as a true blue Filipino. We sometimes say things as it is. When we see a friend who has been to the beach/vacation, we say his/her complexion darkened. We are not saying it to destroy his/her self. We are simply referring from an observation in the past vs the current. It hurts me when "Filipinos" who grew up in other countries label us "FILIPINOS" so many things just because we don't align with their foreign Filipino culture.
@Xexuxa
3 жыл бұрын
All the Filipino girls in school used to make fun of me for being too skinny in school, even their Moms would make rude comments about it. Now they all have weight problems. You would think with all the nasty rude shit they said to me growing up that being fat is beautiful in their country.
@marquitaatkinson9621
27 күн бұрын
Body shaming isn't just a Filipino thing. My family is Jamaican and talking about people's weight is a thing🤦🏾♀️
@cathoderay305
2 жыл бұрын
Whatever happened to "Judge not, lest ye be judged"?
@RamonPerez-ih8re
3 жыл бұрын
Medications can make gain weight uncontrollable
@luna_soleil
Ай бұрын
What about dambuhala 💀 I got that one a lot growing up.... It's no way affected my mental health at all. I grew up to be a personal trainer and bodybuilder. And I still think I'm fat 🥴🥴🥴🥴
@sharmainee.3845
2 жыл бұрын
The thing is " Joke lang" is often more than just a joke.
@dr.quinnzel7284
3 жыл бұрын
OH PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE MAKE A VIDEO ABOUT PINOYBAITING
@LeeVhogh
3 жыл бұрын
Buti kayo pinaglalaban niyo yung, no to "Fat Shaming", samantalang ako sa sobrang payat ko kahit mas bata sakin kayang kaya ako ...ewan di ko naranasang tumaba buset.
@MisconceivedPancit
8 ай бұрын
Simple.....skinny is beautiful to the old dominant Western ideal.
@all4Dorian
3 жыл бұрын
No not every culture does it!
@dannaasmr8020
2 жыл бұрын
I lost pounds and flab skin and still body shaming 🥺 i cant wear bikini 👙 and sexy dresses i look like w bumblebee and a pig 🐷 I take expire slim pills 💊 lose wait i have eating disorder and pressure because of commenting my weight 🥺🥺
@spurgeonwrightjr.3115
3 жыл бұрын
Sorry PO I WILL BE NICE? ???
@aaroncarr8972
3 жыл бұрын
Is the boomer that r doin it even also older gen x too. The sooner those generation r dead from these world the better world well became really progressive of being egalitarian the younger generation will enlighten for universal values!
@noodlehoppa7212
3 жыл бұрын
try showing this to your filipino family and nothing changes anyways lmfaooo
@ASMR-rt7ie
3 жыл бұрын
I mean I get how it can hurt your feelings but is it a big deal? Just tell them tumaba ka din
@user-op2zr2if4t
2 жыл бұрын
they even fat shame people they barely know. 🤮
@loveforkeiko2751
3 жыл бұрын
If you grew up in America, maybe you will be sensitive AF. We just say it as is. Some people are indeed fat, people say it without thinking let us body shame this person. Stop judging us as well. You did not grow up in the culture. Returning your advice to you, STOP THE JUDGEMENT. So sick of filipino americans being so critical of us Filipinos.
@decem_unosquattro9538
3 жыл бұрын
Shaming the fat shamers is hypocritical.
@andrewdelarosa2114
3 жыл бұрын
I think the intention of this video is good, but this feels like a FilAm's point of view and comes across as westerners trying to change the Pilipino culture instead of understanding the Pilipino culture. This is from someone who has lived in the Philippines and came to the US at a young age, I can see how a westerner can see this as fat shaming, but if you are a true Pilipino this is kinda laughable and I've actually had conversations with my nephews and nieces that grew up here and think the same. Maybe try to understand why Pilipinos are this way and understand the culture a little more instead of trying to change it because changing it actually make Pilipinos less Pilipinos and more American.
@sophialoren7855
3 жыл бұрын
Body shaming. Acne shaming. Work shaming. Filipino culture is all about shaming! Even when I was riding on a jeepney, I heard a middle aged woman made a remark "tabi anlaki laki ng dadahan hahahaha!" yes you heard it right. Someone who should be more well behaved and a model to the young ones about good manners said that to a stranger.
@hesdam4935
3 жыл бұрын
Not just shaming. It's also more about jealousy, disrespect, hatred, and murder. Sorry to say this but I've had enough of this toxicity.
@EllssBellss19
2 жыл бұрын
@@hesdam4935 For real, Filipinos are some of the most jealous people. My family are so competitive and always have to be better than the other, I can't stand it why can't we just be happy for each others successes?
@ygolot1013
2 жыл бұрын
@@EllssBellss19 that's called crab mentality
@EllssBellss19
2 жыл бұрын
@@ygolot1013 100% crab mentality.
@streetplaya23
Жыл бұрын
i lol'd visualizing the lady saying "step aside people, we go a big one coming thruuuuu" LOLOLOL. too funny
@Jade-ns5dm
3 жыл бұрын
tbh this video should be played on every filipino gathering
@jolisaramos4215
Жыл бұрын
When you see a family member, they never ask how you're doing; instead, they always start a discussion by saying, "You've gained some weight."And as a result, I constantly check myself in the mirror after eating because I'm terrified of gaining weight.
@clinto32
3 жыл бұрын
this video reminds me of something Lizzo said: that these comments that are critical of our physical appearance are like 1 mosquito bite. it's just a sting, something small. but over time they do add up and can really hurt us. thanks again One Down for another insightful video!!
@jolexhopealfanta7658
2 жыл бұрын
Nope! When a person says "You gain weight" that doesn't mean they are humiliating you... it can also mean a positive thing... it's just now that people get so over sensitive that they react on this things 🤣 and when someone said "you should lose weight" that doesn't also mean they want you to look beautiful it means that you don't look healthy and we all know that obesity is not healthy.
@iki2288
2 жыл бұрын
@@jolexhopealfanta7658 FINALLY!!!!!!!!!!!
@madezalenecierte4339
2 жыл бұрын
Criticizing someone and expecting them to appreciate it as a form of love is very unsympathetic. A true caring person would think first and assess the effects of his/her words before saying it out hence, I definitely agree with this video. Furthermore, “normalized” action does not equate to being ethically appropriate. Being done by the majority of the society does not mean that it is the good thing. It is so easy to be just swayed by what is common, but it is our moral responsibility to stand up for what is right. We should be aware on what words are appropriate to tell other people considering their current situation and personal circumstances. Also, criticizing other people and being judgmental are projections of your own insecurities and lack of fulfillment in life. Hence, always be mindful of your thoughts and to always show respect to anyone. “Is losing weight key to acceptance?” ,“Do I not deserve to be complimented?”, “Am I not doing enough?”, these are questions that arise when someone receives a lot of comments about her body shape or weight. He/she would question his/her self-worth because those words are hurtful in nature no matter how good the intentions may be. Imagine being forced to wear layers of clothing where each garment corresponds to a single comment. The more layers it become, the more suffocated you’ll be. This is just like how cumulative opinions affect an individual. It makes the person feel suffocated on the things he/she needs to qualify or fix. As a result, he/she would feel mentally exhausted and could even acquire psychological health problems. It is a fact that we can’t change other people’s perspective to us, but it doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t do anything. If we just let them do it continuously, the cycle wouldn’t stop and most probably they would also do it to other person hence more victims of body shaming. Thus, in order to minimize the victims at the same time eliminate the toxic body shaming trait, we must have the courage to tell them the truth about body shaming and how it negatively affects a person. Instead of giving out our personal thoughts on other people about their weight or body shape, we should opt to giving out compliments. Telling them their strengths, good personality and other positive things. In this way, we do not just avoid body shaming, but we also spread good vibes and help them build their self-confidence. #BodyShamingEndsWithUs
@rumeladichoso1151
2 жыл бұрын
Very well said. The Psychological, emotional trauma that victims of Body Shaming is like a deep wound that never heals! We need to draw a boundaries, respect to one another.
@kcnarfprospero8540
3 жыл бұрын
this youtube channel is so underrated this deserves millions of subscribers💞
@gel6478
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing this. I was so anxious to go to our family reunion today because I know my relatives will make fun of the weight I gained this holiday. Huhuhu.
@barian7093
Жыл бұрын
We have different sensitivities when it comes to our body, so it would be best not to mention anything about their body appearances at all.
@jellodizon872
Жыл бұрын
sige po barian
@kaylajaneraizalee2465
Жыл бұрын
tama tama
@zachanthonyjenkins8137
Жыл бұрын
woah! galing tama tama
@gabrieldelasalle4748
3 жыл бұрын
I mean pano tayo hindi tataba Filipino food is a ✨BOP✨ with rice. #NoToBodyShamming
@graciousdel
3 жыл бұрын
I'm sharing this with Everyone! I'm loving the videos, please keep them coming! Thank you for shining a light on Filipino issues and sharing knowledge about our culture. I feel seen and I feel heard. 📣🙌🇵🇭❤
@mobycat33
3 жыл бұрын
This is so damned true! Family members used to pinch the fatty part of my upper arms to point out how fat I was getting.
@hannah7904
3 жыл бұрын
people often give comments on my body size and whenever I feel kinda offended by their brutal words they would easily tell how sensitive I am. Also, during gatherings I could sense my relatives looking at me while silently criticizing my physical appearance in their minds🙃 and some "titas" would make jokes that aren't really funny but are actually offensive most of the times. Really this kind of toxicity in our "culture" must put into end. and by saying this, I'll let these "titas" watch this vid by sharing this in fb😆
@loveletters77
2 жыл бұрын
my parents are always bodyshaming me, and it hurts. one time one of my sisters said “you eat everything you see” which was supposed to be a joke but wasn’t funny. i’m always hearing” you’re eating again?” “you’re the size of an elephant” “go on a diet” my dad compared me to a 7 year old before, and said that i couldn’t swim because i was too big & the 7 year old is learning faster than me because she’s skinny. but he didn’t say things like that to my older sister who can’t swim either? (by the way, i eat healthy and drink plenty of water. i run and exercise when i can.)
@ligayaannawi4779
3 жыл бұрын
That is true. Unfortunately, it had become normal in our culture. I am one who'd been body shamed by my relatives for being dark and short then when I became fat, for being fat.
@angelp7772
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for bringing this topic up.. this is so normal in our culture and I freaking hate it!!
@marieloumandl
3 жыл бұрын
This show is done so well. Thank you!!!! I was that kid that would talk back with a ‘and what about you’ 😬😬😬it never turned out well
@jennyaguilleon3169
3 жыл бұрын
My co workmate today body shamed me saying "You are too thin, terrible and you need to eat a lot to gain weight or s*x or get married to do so". Those are some vulgar words that almost makes me had a heart attack. If only he knew that it hurts so much that it shatters my heart and that I cried all the way home.
@gretelrodriguez1842
11 күн бұрын
It’s not just Filipinos. I’m Cuban and my family thinks it’s “just part of the culture too”. The commonality in all of these cultures that do this is that they’ve been colonized and brainwashed into Eurocentric beauty standards. It’s very sad. 😢
@xtragum6810
2 жыл бұрын
This is so true and I hate it. I used to struggle with an eating disorder and would binge eat every night until I got to my heaviest weight. And one day my mom's friend who we haven't seen for a month came to visit, and the first thing she said after seeing me was "tumaba ka" then she would constantly question my mom on why/how I got fat, I felt like crying... that is the WORST thing you could ever say to someone with an eating disorder, and it just triggers them into binging and starving themselves more. But luckily I got out of that mindset and am now binge free for who knows how long, I'm now fueling myself right and slowly losing the extra weight without restricting.
@melchantz
Жыл бұрын
Sometimes it becomes bullying because they do the shaming as a group.. and you cannot throw the question back at them because then they will say that you are disrespectful.. shaming applies to the person only.. not to the person/s who are shaming the fat one..
@angeltiffanybundalian9027
Жыл бұрын
I can’t stan this kind of toxicity,a lot of filipino have a high standards even if its about educational background and body. Here in Philippines if you’re fat they keep saying “ang taba mo!buntis kaba?” And also if you’re thin “ang payat mo,may sakit kaba” that’s are some examples of their lines everytime they’re trying to shame the body of other people.Living in this toxic environment is not easy for me they keep mocking about the appearance of others while they don’t even know what is the reason why that person is fat or thin. If you’re plus size here in Philippines you don’t have the rights to wear croptops,shorts and swimsuit they keep saying “you’re too fat to wear that kind of clothes”. Shout out to those Filipino Citizens that keep shamming other people. Can you please wake up!! It’s already 2022.. Being plus size and thin size is normal, you don’t need to listen to those people dragging you down! No matter how your body type is speak yourself!!
@shalomangela12
3 жыл бұрын
I have been told I was too thin because of cheekbones. Sometimes I’ve been told I’ve been gaining weight. I experience this usually in family gatherings. Sometimes I let it pass and sometimes I answer back. I remind myself that some people are not worth draining your energy for.
@MichaelJRSasuman
3 жыл бұрын
I read some book, Verbal Aikido... applied it and I def remember I answered my tita when she told me "uy tumataba ka na naman" with "Oo,naman, basta't may love life na okay, tumataba ka talaga sa pagmamahal"... well, I knew, things were rough with her and my tito then... Mean but NEVER did she comment about my weight or smoking ever again LOL!
@Krystalling
2 ай бұрын
I just don’t get why they like chubby kids because they’re cute and “healthy” but when they grow up and still have on weight now we’re fat 🤦🏽♀️ like you made me this way
@katherineserrano763
Жыл бұрын
That's True, There's many Filipino Experiencing the body shaming that they can interfere with self image and make feel extremely self conscious. It can cause depression, eating disorders, reduced self-esteem, and an increased risk of various other mental and physical problems. And Yes, I am one of those who experienced it but somehow I guess I can handle my mental health not to listening to them. filipino culture is somewhat quite toxicity. Sometimes the joke is not funny for other people and they take it seriously.
@TheKentai15
3 жыл бұрын
pag napunta ung mga tito saka tita ko sa bahay.. lagi nila sinasabi na "tumataba ako" o "ang laki-laki mo na".. ganun din sa mga pinsan ko.. medyo may kalakihan kasi kami dito sa pamilya namin.. madaming malalakas kumain eh.. pero pag ako sinabihan ng ganun.. ewan ko.. di naman ako na-ooffend o kahit ung mga pinsan ko.. para saken pag nagtatanong sila ng ganun parang sign yun na nag-aalala sila sa kalusugan ko.. na hinay-hinay lang sa pagkain.. na dahan-dahan lang sa kanin.. ganun din kami sa mga tito o tita namin.. magsasabi rin kami ng ganun.. usually pag sinabihan ako ng "tumataba" ako.. sasabihin ko na.. "eh masarap kumain tita eh" na may kasamang tawa.. hindi ako o kahit sino naman ung na-ooffend.. para saken hindi siya pagpapahiya dito.. kadalasan nag-aalala lang sila.. hindi ibig sabihin ni-nonormalize nito ang body shaming.. kasi hindi naman ganun ka aware ang mga Pinoy dito kung ano ung salitang "body shaming" madalas kasi biro lang yun.. saka mataba naman kasi talaga ako eh.. :)
@schubert06sebastian39
3 жыл бұрын
Mga issue lang ito ng mga FILAMs masyado silang influensa sa lugar nila, kaya nagkakaron ng topak. Pinapalaki nila ang isang issue isa pa dito ang paggamit ng FILIPNX which is bulls*t
@eellejaee
3 жыл бұрын
So well done 👏🏼👏🏼 it’s about time we get some confrontational work done on our culture
@melissap9710
3 жыл бұрын
It’s worse when your parents are saying that stuff to you :(
@streetplaya23
Жыл бұрын
because they trying to help u and build better eating habits, be active and diet while you still can before its harder at older ages. lol cut the rice in half every meal or so and get moving baby
@AZHOLEN1
2 жыл бұрын
Y u so pat now? Omg u hab 2 many tigidig! U don’t look ur age, u look older ha?!! Y u only send 20k pesos? What kind op job u hab ha?!!
@ppangirang976
3 жыл бұрын
I went to a family gathering and my lola said “im worried about you because you’re kinda chubby and you might be like your mom” i quickly ran to another room and cried no one knew except my sister who actually doesn’t know why i was crying. Can someone give me advice on how i should respond to situations like this??
@midnightstarlis6405
2 жыл бұрын
Me too! My relatives here would call out for me being thin and my face being too shallow, my eyes being dark, my hair being too long that I look to old like what can you just mind your own businesses. lmao sigh.
@billliealim
2 жыл бұрын
I’m not really in the overweight nor the underweight category, but I still have body image issues because I feel like there is an imbalance in my proportions and have worked hard for it despite having the average weight. And whenever someone in my relatives tell me that I gained weight, I feel like my hardwork is not enough to improve myself and thus, make me feel crappier than I already am. So my response to this is that I just don’t say anything and give them the unpleasant look that says “hey, I am not comfortable at anyone commenting about my weight” without coming across as arrogant but rather upset
@ailleenvargas23
10 ай бұрын
Don't listen to her u do u. Ppl like that r haters!
@paulreubenliboon5510
Ай бұрын
talk to yourself and find out why it bothers you when it shouldn't. Yung lola mo kasi iba yung standards ng health and beauty nila sa time nila so you should consider where the mentality comes from. A lot of hardships in life is still on your way and these things you should be able to deal with. Remember, problems like these will never go away, we just need to toughen up sometimes
@GinoGabriel-t5c
4 ай бұрын
I don't get this, can't we just say "Hoy, kamusta kana?".
@stevefreedom2469
Жыл бұрын
It's a great trait. We use to have it in America and stopped. Now we are the most overweight nation in the world and there is nothing good to look at anymore.
@frap4506
2 жыл бұрын
ooof, the toxicity is still very much there. The older generation are so outdated and refuse to change even to their detriment, the younger generation tend to be too much of a strawberry at times who need to toughen up as well. A good balance is needed. Funny how the 'ikaw din, taba taba mo na' reply was actually in my head the entire time. And I would still say it back, I'm petty like that.
@jaminavestajugo3456
2 жыл бұрын
I still struggle with the concept of self-acceptance generally, and not just about weight. It sometimes feels like giving up on self-improvement. And if people tell me I'm fine the way I am, it feels like an insult to my ability to change/improve. But your point that we can make the chain of hurt stop, also for future generations, is well-taken. Love doesn't have to be about carving ourselves or others into a cookie-cutter shape.
@daviddanielastrero5000
Жыл бұрын
Having a sexy and beautiful body is the standard that Filipinos set but nowadays the phrase or sayings “Chubby is the new sexy” is widely used right now in every social media platform. These days we should empower everyone no matter what our body type, we should be an example to each and every one.
@barian7093
Жыл бұрын
oo nga
@jennydelacruz2291
Жыл бұрын
Everyone should 'say No to Body Shaming, some people can relate to this video, and I know that many of us experienced it. Be nice to everyone and don't judge them by their appearance. you can’t judge people by their looks because you don’t know what people going through. Why don't we just support each other and be the reason for other people's confidence
@Nowhatsgoingon11222
3 күн бұрын
The fact that Filipinos care mostly about being “handsome” or “beautiful and sexy” instead of changing the mindset shows how our country is so superficial. As somebody who’s from Europe we have a different mindset. We know the boundaries we need to have in order to respect others. They expect you to respect them because they’re older than you but they don’t know how to respect you lol
@fileshere4391
3 жыл бұрын
Just sharing, I used to be really skinny,, like stick skinny and got called out being skinny then i really work my way to gain weight i did everything to gain weight until i really gained weight...I was so happy at first being called fat or "tumaba ka na ah" but as time goes by, it kinda hurts me now,, being called fat... I'm 70kg,5'9, 19y/o male...seems fairly an average weight based on BMI right? Now I'm struggling to lose weight 😣 and shit affecting my mental health
@joshuadavidromero5835
3 жыл бұрын
then work on it as you worked on gaining weight
@Sasajayyy
3 жыл бұрын
Its a pinoy thing
@LouisLuzuka
3 жыл бұрын
It’s beyond hurtful
@mysweettsumelody
3 жыл бұрын
Im experiencing this now :((( my mom wont stop bringing up my weight to the point she shared it to my aunties and lola, i hate it, but my friends say i look ok, it hurts so bad
@cmelnik6567
2 жыл бұрын
i can see this trait in like immediate family sometimes, but in my extended family it's never like that at least. whenever everyone would come around, especially as us kids in the family got older.. none of my aunt's, uncle's or cousins said anything about our appearance, if anything, we were all encouraged to put more pancit and lechon on our plates! but I've definitely heard hints of body commentary attitudes from back in the day and how it was more normal to joke about. But since everyone on my dad's side came to the US I feel like they changed on this topic.
@fleamarketcameras
3 жыл бұрын
I absolutely love this video. When I would to come home for the holidays in college I would be greeted by my aunties some years as “oh hi Valerie you lost weight, now eat. You can leave the dining table when you can’t fit out the door” and other years as “oh Hi Valerie.... *long pause*. “ I 100000% agree that it must stop with our generation and not to body shame our younger generations Thank you for this video
@idselseno2306
28 күн бұрын
I view this differently. I grew up in a tough environment. A healthy dose of hardship is good. As the saying goes, diamonds are made under pressure. Without challenges, one becomes weak. Like the newer generation that has been handed all the comforts and convenience, they unknowingly play the victim card. Don't get me wrong, body shaming is awful. But in other occasions it's just a joke. Counter some witty sarcastic remarks and you may become the light of the party. I've had a chubby classmate in college where he is quite popular. Witty and funny were his tools to sweep girls off their feet. 😂
@Annartforms
28 күн бұрын
When i was younger, i was often being called fat in our family. But older me looking back at younger me pictures i would say "Omg she is soo gorgeous yet has low self esteem, she is not actually fat, just a natural medium sized body." I wished i had the confidence then of what I have now, and just enjoy life more not being ashamed of who i am.
@zachanthonyjenkins8137
Жыл бұрын
nice
@Nowhatsgoingon11222
3 күн бұрын
Actually the only shame about the country is people’s mentality
@twixie__5651
3 жыл бұрын
The ones that like to do that are usually the not good looking ones themselves also lol i swear. They want to make others feel bad like them
@DanPocketRocket
Ай бұрын
Now that I am middle aged I just and give an F I say to my Tita "Who made you Miss Philippines?" or if I know my Tito is always broke I just brag and say Im making too much money and go out to eat too much.
@alken4668
Ай бұрын
Not a credible source interviewing western filipino or rich people. If you have deeply influence by the western you will feel body shaming. BUT if you are trully a filipino who were born and raise in the filipino culture you will not feel ashamedbut you will laugh each other..there is no body shaming culture thing in filipino culture. Geez... Try to interview in the locals, to the province and you will understand what i mean.
@tal2985
Жыл бұрын
Good content. The fact that this form of body shaming has persisted for so long around the world is heartbreaking. I'm hoping that talking about this subject will be widely spread.
@Sharq7
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing! I am glad that your channel is open to addressing this topic. It is saddening that most people take body shaming as a joke, and it’s not a big deal to be sensitive about. Unknowingly, it affects others more than the “joke” had meant to. How it greatly impacts one’s emotional and mental health is crucial. It is unavoidable for society to take our sizes as “too thin” or “too thick”. On the brighter side, we can support loving our bodies by encouraging a positive outlook on our own, and understanding that there is an existing variation of body types. For me, as long as you are feeling healthy, proud of your shape, and kind, that’s what is “sexy”!
@jennyhateseverything
4 ай бұрын
Notice how it’s the big titas who say this like worry about yourself 💀 talking about me meanwhile you looking like you’ve been downing a few lumpia’s and Kare-kare’s
@cskeete390
Жыл бұрын
To address question about body shaming being a toxic trait amongst the Filipino community or if other cultures do it too, unfortunately….other cultures do it too and just as bad if not worse. Case in point…the Caribbean community. Where do I start…there’s not one name my Dad hasn’t called me over the years to insult my weight. In front of family, my friends, my parent’s friends, strangers….no occasion was off limits. One time at a dinner party my parents had at our house, one of their friends was asking me why I didn’t have a bf yet as I was 19 at the time, in university and, according to her, very pretty. My Dad, overhearing our convo, pipes up and says, “Who told u she wants a bf? U think any man in his right mind would want her looking like that?!?!??” I’ll never forget the deafening silence that fell across the room of 15 guests only to be broken by my father’s incessant chuckling. Immediately their friends began to scold my Dad for what he said and though I appreciated their efforts my embarrassment was palpable. I left the room under the rouse of getting my mother a serving spoon and spent the remainder of the evening by myself in the kitchen watching tv. And though I don’t agree with embarrassing, shaming or hurting someone’s feelings, I do feel that obesity is a problem in North America that has rapidly gotten out of control due to society constantly praising obese individuals and criticizing people who try to bring awareness to the issue and myriad of health problems obesity causes not to mention the billions of dollars it costs the government and insurance companies each year to care for these individuals. Something definitely needs to be done to address this problem but what exactly it is/they are that needs to be done and how to do it/them in the least offensive way possible is a slippery slope.
@chloeaesthetic_sss
Жыл бұрын
Found your videos everywhere on my recommend page while my dad recently name-calling me "Lechon" and it not funny because he didn't know what does 'bodyshame' is and for a while he kept judging me and my brother's looks. If i was older than my father, i could just bodyshame him although he does that to me. Speaking of my looks and my body shape, All he wanted was just attention and he thought that it was funny and it's NOT. As an filipino, it's not normal.
@carlospangelinan4193
4 ай бұрын
Really could care less if my relatives and filipino acquaintances feel offended whenever I call them out on the fat comments. It’s rude. Plain and simple. So get with the program if you want to live in the states.
@johnkiernormanfernandez3872
Жыл бұрын
Personally i find this 'Filipino Mindset." Very toxic, i myself had experienced bodyshaming almost all the time since i'm thin, my aunties and uncles will often ask me "kumakain kaba?' or "tignan mo mukha ka ng tingting." i sometimes wish i was not born in this time hahahaaha.
@tal2985
Жыл бұрын
Good content. The fact that this form of body shaming has persisted for so long around the world is heartbreaking. I'm hoping that talking about this subject will be widely spread.
@aroundtheworld1692
2 ай бұрын
Is Chinese culture too. I like it in some way and hated it in another way. I like it when my mom or family commented on my weight, I see it as an alarm to lose weight but if it is about my skin color or my face features, that hurts because there’s nothing I can do about it. 😢
@Ping8176
2 ай бұрын
I call my self fat and laugh at it. My friends call me fat.. and we all laugh..and whenever we gather..everyone comment on their own fatness actually hahaha
@MarcRitzMD
Жыл бұрын
Yea yea. It's real and whatever. Manila stinks too. I don't get over it, but nothing's gonna change.
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