cursed at for hours at a time andberated then ordered to get happy. EXTREME mind screws with Narczilla while being robbed blind
@aquateal384
2 жыл бұрын
Oh yes---the verbal abuse in the car. Then we have to stop at a scenic rest for a smiley happy photo!
@dakoderii4221
3 жыл бұрын
Michelle, you've reached a whole new level of clarity with your last few dozen videos.
@GLeon-ov9yu
3 жыл бұрын
Cptsd symptoms are all here for me after spending a year with a narcissist
@brittanywhitehurst3103
3 жыл бұрын
I was diagnosed with this and Im still struggling with it. I met someone who is completely different... But i still struggle with my symtoms and projecting it onto him. Thankfully he is very patient, supportive, and understanding but i feel shameful bc he doesn't deserve that projection. Can you make a video about overcoming this while in a new relationship and what boundaries to have and what talks to have to work on it alone AND together?
@simplecitizen8161
3 жыл бұрын
I am in a similar situation. Trust is very difficult
@tyrefryer6884
2 жыл бұрын
Yes! A video on this issue would be fantastic 🙏✨
@cajuncrackerranch7990
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for posting this video. I am currently going through this with separation from wife of 17 years who was clinically diagnosed with Cluster B-BPD / NPD / DID / MPD / MST / SAD. It’s been 5 months since she discarded me and immediately started a new relationship and we are still married. I have been emotionally, mentally, verbally, physically, and financially destroyed. I’m trying to find my way out of this cave inside of me.
@corporaterobotslave400
2 жыл бұрын
My sister and her entire family have CPTSD after her narc husband abused the family for decades. But none of them recognize it, or deal with it. They used me as a scapegoat for a while until I noticed what they were doing. I've got my own CPTSD to deal with after raised by a narc dad / co-d mom then all my relationships were with covert narc women. Happily single, don't even mingle. Makes me wonder if there are ANY "healthy" people left anywhere.
@johnpaul2285
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you beautiful Michele 🙏
@dollpartz4u
2 жыл бұрын
All of them applied to me
@ladyoftheveil8342
2 жыл бұрын
My ex narcissist boyfriend punished me . He had everyone devalue me and while he flirted and had a bunch of female friends also devaluing me . I have CPTSD and chronic pain, chronic fatigue and fibromyalgia.
@paultitus7569
2 жыл бұрын
I so wish I could. I'm on disability, I barely make ends meet.
@leeannebrownfield2455
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much!
@kcole5177
2 жыл бұрын
😩😞😥😔🤦INDEED!!!🎯 THANK YOU Michele❤✨.
@greenman5555
2 жыл бұрын
Malignant narcissists choose to be evil.
@ppe8488
2 жыл бұрын
Michelle you are just the best, so helpful thank you.x
@annettedillon3233
3 жыл бұрын
Lack of safety in the world is how I feel now
@msdemeanour
3 жыл бұрын
My mother told me life was not for enjoying, it's for suffering & that's how you get to heaven. Even as a ten year old, I knew she was one miserable, screwed up woman.
@areuarealman7269
Жыл бұрын
Old school Gen before baby boomers if it didn't kill you it was good enough yeah that fire is hot my face is melting that's cuz u got a weak face boy be a rock quit screaming ....
@LevelUpYourLife
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for shedding light on this, it is so scary what narcissistic abuse can do. Stay strong and remember there is hope.
@Marketsolo
2 жыл бұрын
My parents were abusive and my mom especially never wanted me and couldn't even bear to nurse me. She barely took care of me, but was distant and harsh. She never ever stood up for me or protect me. She would forget about me if she took me somewhere. I learned to hide my emotions. I married a man who turned out to be just like my mom. I wasn't good enough. I wish I could afgord your program.
@Marketsolo
2 жыл бұрын
I have a brother 8 years younger and he was celebrated and nursed and loved. He was my mom's favorite. In fact, when my dad died in 08, I had been designated as the executor of their estate when mom dies. However, my mom favors my brother so much she couldn't stand it. Now, bear in mind that he got everything denied me. They bought him cars, they bought his home for him paid for his college, paid off the lady he got pregnant and paid for the medical care. I was told I would get their house when mom died. But instead they gave one house away, my mom sold the other one. She can't see that she never loved me. When my dad was alive they used to talk about selling stuff, and whst did I want. Well, I would tell them and never get it. I stopped telling them what I wanted when my mom asked me ehat jewelry of hers I wanted, and I told her..her reply crushed me " oh, you only want the good stuff"..and proceeded to tell me her pearl necklace will go to my brothers wife ( her parents gave her one for her 16th birthday) and I quit. My brother sexually abused my daughters, and she defends him and claims he is different now. My ex knocked me out the last day and I decided next time he would kill me. Yet, my mom doubted my " story"..still talks to him and lied to me about the one thing she did give me- that he hid from me.
@clairejohnson6522
2 жыл бұрын
@@Marketsolo Your story is horrific but sadly mirrors mine in a lot of aspects. Please go no contact. You don't deserve that treatment,it's appalling and you deserve so much better.Cut all contact and concentrate on you and yours.If people love you they wouldn't hurt you and make you miserable. Forget about them and lead a happy life with the ones you love and who love you.Dont waste anymore time on those awful,abusive people.Heal yourself and realise you are worthy before letting anyone into your life,otherwise the treatment you've suffered all these years may seem like the norm AND you are so used to abusive behaviour Narc red flags will be missed.Take care,you deserve so much better.Sending you a hug.
@HaleyMary
3 жыл бұрын
I get emotional flashbacks occasionally and yes I did suppress a lot of those emotions when the initial event happened and sometimes years later I will get the flashback and not even realize that it's happening. I think it is difficult for other people to witness because unless people have gone through something traumatic, it's like they don't understand why I am reacting the way I do.
@greenman5555
2 жыл бұрын
When you attempt to coparent with an extreme narcissist, CPTSD creeps into the mind of the parent who is trying to raise their child safely.
@philsmith3842
3 жыл бұрын
Hits home with me...I've been doignosed with this..and I'm stuck
@cindy7733
3 жыл бұрын
OMG! I can relate to every single thing you mentioned. Finally, a video that explains what I've been experiencing for years. Thank you, Michele! xo
@beverlyorlando8040
2 жыл бұрын
It's been 9 months since I left my 33+ year marriage to a covert narcissistic man. I'm STILL buried in toxic shame which causes me to ruminate all scenarios I lived through. Then I wonder if there was something I could've done differently. I also have pretty awful nightmares. They aren't nightly as they were the first few months after leaving. But I still have a couple every month.
@Papalovesmango
3 жыл бұрын
Michele you are a godsend 😭
@catherinepraus8635
3 жыл бұрын
This shit never goes away you try to just learn how to deal it not easy I've heard of a therapy called EMDR therapy that deals with PTSD,CPTSD going to try to check it out
@peterknyk1942
3 жыл бұрын
I had PTSD coming out of the military....after repeated marital narcissistic abuse I was diagnosed with C PTSD! Military trauma can give us PTSD....narcissistic abuse gave me a new CPTSD diagnosis..... your description of CPTSD is didactically 100% accurate 🙌 from a person who has lived and is living the consequences of narcissistic abuse and CPTSD....Thank you so much Michele....💞 I am so so pleased that you are exposing this information! I am looking forward to, very much, your next videos on this subject....
@anna_ulrike
2 жыл бұрын
Big hug to you ❤
@kimtaylor1534
2 жыл бұрын
God Bless you ♥️
@peterknyk1942
2 жыл бұрын
@@anna_ulrike Thank you so very much!💞
@peterknyk1942
2 жыл бұрын
@@kimtaylor1534 ❤️🕊❤️
@jessicapeebles
2 жыл бұрын
Keep healing.
@lindamoore9729
3 жыл бұрын
I have it and am stuck with the narc. Stuck. I can try my best to avoid him but have no money to leave. He made sure of it.
@christinafreefromnarcs5948
3 жыл бұрын
I’m so sorry, be strong in this dark place! I’ve been stuck financially many times, I have no advice but to stay strong and have faith that one day you’ll come up with a plan to get out and provide for yourself. Until then I’m sending you a hug and hope for a better day.
@sadibarry
3 жыл бұрын
Try calling a women’s domestic violence shelter and see if they can help you. Good luck!!
@lindamoore9729
3 жыл бұрын
@@christinafreefromnarcs5948 Even if I left, he wouldn't leave me alone. I'm not moving to another town because my 4 kids live nearby and I babysit my youngest grandkids. It's just easier to stay and keep the family intact and he's stuck paying ALL the rent and bills because I won't contribute a dime. I'm almost 70 and I just can't move at this stage of the game. Thank you so much for the encouragement. I appreciate it!
@lindamoore9729
3 жыл бұрын
@@sadibarry I would NEVER be rid of him. He wouldn't leave me alone. At least this way he can keep paying ALL the bills for the crap he's put me through over 50 years.
@dakoderii4221
3 жыл бұрын
I was told I can't get sick and feel pain because I'm too young while also being told to walk on eggshells for my younger cousin because he had allergies. I've had many injuries where I kept going because I thought it was "all in my head" even when I had symptoms such as a swollen ankle from a sprain. Or when I broke my rib crashing into a tree and told I was to young to break bones at the same time my friend was wearing a cast on their arm. They wouldn't even have a look or take me to a doctor. Every time I sneezed for the next few months it would bring me to my knees but I would get punished for being "dramatic". I literally almost destroyed my body as an adult because I felt I should be invincible in order to receive love from my family. They even told me "bombs don't hurt people" when I came home from Iraq with a back injury from an IED blast. I believe they enjoy telling outrageous lies knowing it will get a reaction that they can label as whatever to justify attacking you again. And of course, they were the victims. Good news is there is a way out. They have reaped what they've sown and I'm the one who has grown mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually thanks to Jesus Christ. Be you and time will tell the truth. The Judge of the whole Earth shall do right. Vengeance is mine, saith the Lord, I will repay.
@trudiswanson9855
3 жыл бұрын
🙏❤
@user-us7vw3yq8p
3 жыл бұрын
I had it to the point of psychotic depression. My stomach started digesting too slowly, I was seeing hand sized spider shadow on the wall and nasty faces in round lampshade. And in my mind, I was regularly seeing a mouth with very clenched teeth but no skin like a skeleton, and also a ball coming towards my face. I was seriously ill and am still agoraphobic now. This was because it was going on at work aswell as home, by younger colleagues who befriend then mistreat, recording ppl and everything imaginable. Terrible. I left work and have never worked since.
@kaystephens2672
2 жыл бұрын
Bless your angel heart. I hope and pray you get through this phase in your life and Remember there are good people out there Remember the good person you are and Never forget to play. Yes play. Just write it out and journal it. You have to purge it out of yourself. I do it everyday. Do whatever you can do to take precious care of yourself.
@user-us7vw3yq8p
2 жыл бұрын
@@kaystephens2672 thankyou xx I'm OK in one way, that I've got a lovely partner now. Every time I got insecure and even very unpleasant, he managed to say straight back that he loves me. He's a bit wild in nature but has brought out his inner gentle pensioner for me to feel safe 😂
@kaystephens2672
2 жыл бұрын
@@user-us7vw3yq8p I'm so glad you have someone. We all need to talk about what's happening with us when we know that's not who we truly are. Never forget who you are and Never let anyone or anything change you or try to mold you into what they want you to be to survive. And always have something to look forward to. I wish the best for you and I understand how you feel. Thank you for sharing your story. K
@ladyfreedomsrawnarratives
3 жыл бұрын
It’s like you told my story word for word. I am blown away by that.
@clinicallydepressedcat3497
3 жыл бұрын
Just over 4mins in after a friend suggested i might have this and im really relating
@sarahsmile8518
3 жыл бұрын
You explain vital info for me in such a clear way! Thank you so much for all you do Michelle!
@Warrior-grandma
3 жыл бұрын
I was just diagnosed with that
@brittniehughey7334
2 жыл бұрын
This video has put alot of light into what's happened in my life. Put tears in my eyes listening to this video.
@SavedByJesusHeimatLiebe
2 жыл бұрын
Michelle, i disagree with you. My own did go away over Time, but i also did Psychotherapy aimed to heal the PTSD. The better one treats Oneself and allows Oneself to be and happy, the more PTSD heals.
@LittleBird888
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video.
@garycordle5295
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you Michele, very good topic everyone is normally talking about the narcissist but never on how to heal and deal with the damage they have done to us, this is so much needed to a lot of us that have trauma regardless of what it would be 👍🙏 for everyone to get over and on with our lives.
@tyrefryer6884
2 жыл бұрын
This is super scary Michelle! I don't know you but you have described me and my inner self and struggles to a tee!!! 😳 I have multi level CPTSD all of this. THANK YOU for making these videos and revealing a path through this mess 🤕💕
@maryri
3 жыл бұрын
My adult daughter has this she has not been stable since even becoming violent is this c ptsd too?
@maryri
3 жыл бұрын
I am so afraid of my own daughter and don't know what to do. This has destroyed my relationship with her
@FromSurvivingToThriving
3 жыл бұрын
IF someone has a strong fight trauma response they can become violent! I'm so sorry to hear this, I hope you have healthy boundaries down for yourself!!
@dianevanderlinden3480
2 жыл бұрын
I'm moving along, but the weird thing is this. I feel very lonely now, because I am no longer clinging to the things that were swirling around in my head. It's like taking baby steps. I know this is a vulnerable phase, so I have to be extra cautious. This is my latest encounter with this. It started with dear old mom, then I stopped dating because I was attracted to men who treated me the same. Unfortunately found a female ""friend" to replay it all with instead. I can't imagine why I stayed friends with her. That should have tipped me off that I wasn't healed, and hadn't dealt with the past yet. Then a few years ago, I got into a relationship with someone who must've seen how vulnerable I was, what good supply I would be. Ups, downs, love-bombing, disappearances till the final discard. The rest of the world exists for him, but I don't. Now I really, really have to work on how I got this way. Thank you soooo much for this. It's really crazy when the trauma chemicals start to calm down. But it's not over yet!!
@martaszyszka7654
Жыл бұрын
Exactly! The rest of the world exists, but we don't, we don't matter. :((
@RLH_ITALIA
3 жыл бұрын
Good video Michelle
@AlchemicCass
3 жыл бұрын
I have this even years later
@karenholtzclaw3135
3 жыл бұрын
👍
@IzabelaWaniek-i1x
Ай бұрын
We have to combine cognitive and behavioural healing mechanisms. Self care and self love and patience are key.
@jakestown1952
25 күн бұрын
You nailed it here. It's me. For a very long time. ❤ thank you
@izawaniek2568
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you Michele, everything you are talking about is true. CPTSD is no joke. We must realise we suffer from it to start healing from it. You are saving people’s lives.
@LittleLulubee
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you. You have the best videos on these topics. So insightful 🙏💕
@ramazankokur650
2 жыл бұрын
Well i have fully recovered and healed from the abuse after i had a confrontation with the narcissist, the rematch has finished her off completely, i have prepared all my equipment with your videos, and i have healed my identity completely, what has happened she freaked out, compltelety in full rage against me, what happened then she used children against me, all the flashbacks dissapeared , i have so much energy i have fully completely destroyed her, and she has destructed in full destruction, she is seeing me happy, everything turned against her, even the smear campaign, there is a litte group left of the smear campaign , the people are now seeing that i am innocent, i have exposed her completely, she doesnt now what to do know, i have recorded everything sent to the justice, she is now finished
@jeanlanie1
2 жыл бұрын
It's really hard to concentrate. It keeps coming back.
@LarryPanozzo
Жыл бұрын
Wow. For that part 10:30-11:00 where she said “but that’s a topic for another video”, did she ever do a video on that by chance?
@TAMTAM510BAYLUV
2 жыл бұрын
Just diagnosed with this wow.hurts he gets out of jail today im freaked out for sure.
@mywaveinwoodswoodperfumes
2 жыл бұрын
strange this is coming to my feed, i was thinking of this last few days, and watched a scene in a movie showing this thing. life is strange
@LittleLulubee
2 жыл бұрын
You look gorgeous. You seem to get younger every year 💖😍
@Justjewels8436
2 жыл бұрын
This was so helpful thankyou
@olive0eyes0
2 жыл бұрын
Hi Michele, i like that you focus on cptsd. some survive luckily some get annihilated by narcs permanently.
@nancychandler768
2 жыл бұрын
Membership?! Geezzzz
@ameliawilson8593
2 жыл бұрын
Yes absolutely
@hanix13xd
2 жыл бұрын
Michele, please do a video on if we should tell the covert narcissist that we are entering therapy/go see a therapist. What's your cients' experience on this, what is your opinion?
@BigHeartNoBS
2 жыл бұрын
Don't tell them. They'll use it against you.
@jalopenogardiner5323
2 жыл бұрын
Being determined to not underestimate & allow my narc to send me to prison on a lie TWICE. By trying to anticipate my narcs next angle of attack. Im becoming a little paranoid. Or am I ? I wont underestimate crazy ever again ☠
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