I wont do it, silence is my super power, we have to learn how to not show you care!!
@Different16
Жыл бұрын
the realness of this guy hits home everytime.
@chevy2583
2 жыл бұрын
If you contact them on their birthday, best case scenario you will get a cold text back "thanks" In the worst case scenario you will get no response or even be blocked. Don't humiliate yourself, the humiliation and mistreatment during the break were enough. Three months after the breakup, it was my ex's birthday and I was in no contact. Silly me I decided to send her flowers with a simple message "happy birthday". What did I get back? she rejected receiving the flowers from the carrier. That was an embarrassment and humiliation for me. Don't be that stupid guy like me, you are enhancing their ego and making them look at you down. Stay strong guys.
@TheLoveFix-Nick
2 жыл бұрын
That sucks Chevy. I would’ve felt the same way. We live and learn and are better for it 😊
@lestermatos2989
2 жыл бұрын
at first I had said well he did say happy birthday to me after the DEBACLE (THE DAY BEFORE LOL) but then that didnt stop him from keep going.......on what happened next sooo
@chevy2583
2 жыл бұрын
@@lestermatos2989 well, I think dumpers are to some extent responsible for dumpee's mental health. I know most o people will say no, but when you make some one get attached to you for years and years, and then in one minute this personal mental health or struggle is not your responsibility anymore! That is unfair.
@lestermatos2989
2 жыл бұрын
@@chevy2583 that is exactly what I thought. I remember asking him to please help me or how is he doing it like advise on how he is handling the separation and he said "that is not my responsibility ask your friends" It is sad that we don't actually know the type of person one lays with UNTIL THINGS ARE NOT GREAT OR ROSIE
@chevy2583
2 жыл бұрын
@@lestermatos2989 Exact same thing here, I was so very lonely and asked her, just plz don't leave me in this bad timing, and we will separate in a civil way, not in such a hardcore cut. I said several years of relationship worth a better breakup. Her answer was not my responsibility, go to your family and friends. As a side note, for over 7 years she made me separate from my family and friends. It is just terrible. I hope you are doing well btw.
@baggergurl16
Жыл бұрын
I say gift of silence you can never go wrong with that.
@TheLoveFix-Nick
Жыл бұрын
It’s the best gift of all.
@garycornilles1585
20 күн бұрын
Dude, you give the best advice I've seen. Not just the message but the reasoning behind it. "Accurate and true"...
@TheLoveFix-Nick
20 күн бұрын
Thank you sir. I really appreciate it. I hope you’re well.
@williamdietz6944
2 жыл бұрын
BRAVO NICK YOUR INSIGHT IS INVALUABLE FOR ALL OF US IN SUCH PAIN AND ANXIETY, YOU ARE RIGHT ON!
@TheLoveFix-Nick
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks buddy. I hood you’re feeling better.
@ranelacodacz4046
2 жыл бұрын
My birthday was before my ex, she didnt wish me happy birthday so i didnt wish her too
@BABANUKI212
Жыл бұрын
Holyshit me too she literally broke up with me 1 week before my birthday she ended an 8 year relationship
@sanjeevkumarbagarty3180
Жыл бұрын
samehere
@poemsjones4184
4 ай бұрын
@@BABANUKI212 wow she was heartless
@spiroguru
2 жыл бұрын
i remember didnt call her when i was in no contact.when we met in the summer and go out for a drink {with hopes of reunion}she mentioned that...so if you wanna hurt their ego dont call them...especialy if they are toxic narcisitic manipulators...
@TheLoveFix-Nick
2 жыл бұрын
I would advise against trying to hurt their ego. This is more about the dumpee projecting their ideal outcome onto the dumper. It’s also ensuring the dumpee is in a position not to feel hurt and rejected again.
@KnowledgeQuests33
Жыл бұрын
@@TheLoveFix-Nick so you’re saying to call them? 🧐
@TheLoveFix-Nick
Жыл бұрын
Marley, how did you reach that conclusion?
@KnowledgeQuests33
Жыл бұрын
Spiro: so if you wanna hurt their ego don’t call them Then you said you wouldn’t advise trying to hurt their ego. Just wasn’t sure what you meant by it
@TheLoveFix-Nick
Жыл бұрын
Context is key here Marley. What I’m saying is don’t manipulate and don’t play games. The intention behind what we do is also key. Am I not contacting them to hurt their ego, or am I not contacting them to help myself move on? One of those has a positive outcome, the other does not.
@nicolebiaggini5907
Жыл бұрын
The lve fix thank you! You made me stronger than ever. I thought about it but I have been blocked everywhere for more than a year now so let it be. Theres plenty of fish in the sea😂❤
@TheLoveFix-Nick
Жыл бұрын
My pleasure Nicole, thank you for being part of the movement. You’re doing great.
@roseblack6057
2 ай бұрын
His birthday was on August 3rd. He broke up with me. I decided not to reach out. I wanted to but I didn’t want to re-injure myself - bc I doubt he would’ve even said thank you.
@TheLoveFix-Nick
2 ай бұрын
You did good. 😊 I hope you’re feeling better.
@NathanBarnes-fh3yd
Жыл бұрын
2 months into NC and my ex blocked me on everything 4 days after her birthday. I didn’t send her a happy birthday message. I’ve been blocked for 3 weeks now and it’s my birthday tomorrow. It sucks but I take something in that I feel like I’ve got a bit of my power back now.
@TheLoveFix-Nick
Жыл бұрын
Great, take your power back. You’ve got this! 💪💪💪
@michaelperry1418
2 жыл бұрын
I had to make sure there wasn't anything left. After about 16 months after the brake up.
@ytrewq3510
6 ай бұрын
You don't have to always be a jerk back lol I just wished my ex happy birthday to be civil but also told him were never ever getting back together
@TheLoveFix-Nick
6 ай бұрын
It’s not about being a jerk, my friend. It’s about doing what we must to be okay. If you can say happy birthday to your ex, without any hidden motives, all power to you. Sadly, most people can’t.
@Tonycrossfit
Жыл бұрын
Hi nick, just want to let you know I really like your videos and they have helped me out. I’m in no contact at the moment and my question to you is, should I block my ex or should I change my phone number?
@TheLoveFix-Nick
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for your kind words. The best course of action is to do whatever will help heal you. I don’t think blocking is necessary unless it’s a stalker or something. But if blocking helps with your mental health then that’s what you do.
@fpjhr548
Жыл бұрын
You're so right Nick
@omarpuente157
4 ай бұрын
My girlfriend reached out to me on Father’s Day and wished a good one. Her birthday is coming up in 2 weeks so I’m going to wish a happy birthday. We agreed to give her time. But also agreed to not go full blown no contact. So I think everyone is different when it comes to their break. If you we’re fully discarded I wouldn’t do it. But if you had some kind of talk then it should be okay then you go back in no contact
@ola467
2 жыл бұрын
My b’day was 2 weeks ago and he sent a HBD message. His b’day was yesterday and I simply was reciprocal and sent him just “happy birthday”… without any wishes. Intention was to be polite. I hope it makes sense in this case. Since we are in limited contact because of the child anyway it probably would look a bit artificial if I ignored and did not send it A month ago we had a wedding anniversary- clearly no messaging on that day
@raymanlegy
Ай бұрын
When she texted me happy birthday. She put effort into it. But she was already moved on with someone. I responded well too, but there was nothing more to that. It wasn't worth the text. Cause there was no conversation to go from there. There's no point in texting an ex happy birthday if you're not going to have a conversation. It's just a dead text. Dead conversation. It's her birthday tomorrow. I don't think I'm going to text her. Why text someone once a year just to inch into their lives.
@lestermatos2989
2 жыл бұрын
You read peoples minds auaha his is july 31! And I cant say anything because im blocked everywhere..and I am NOT about to make a grand gesture….for what?
@TheLoveFix-Nick
2 жыл бұрын
The devil inside me says you should say this. “Happy birthday. This message is an investment!” 😈😈😈🤣🤣🤣
@1111spiritualone
Жыл бұрын
I didn’t reach out and say it to them and they didn’t reach out to me not even holidays 🤷🏻♀️ idc. no contact is no contact
@mattwood8659
2 жыл бұрын
They didn't ask me to not contact them. I had to push him out so I could start NC. Seriously he dumped me yet still wanted to live and share the same bed together. Then I asked them to move out and it took him 2 months to do so and he was shitty at me for that. Now I've been in nc for 3 weeks. There's still more of his stuff here that he hasn't bothered to collect.
@TheLoveFix-Nick
2 жыл бұрын
Tell him to collect his stuff within 7 days or you’re throwing it out. Don’t ever let someone dump you, and then use you to get over you. I hope you feel better.
@jasonkey78
2 ай бұрын
3 weeks after breakup she wished me HBD. I responded with a flirty comeback of when can I come get my bday kiss? She Haha’d the message. 2 months later I broke no contact and asked her out for a drink because my anxiety was crazy. She politely declined. Her bday is next month, I will not be reaching out for my mental well being. 6 years out the window. Here’s the gift of silence
@TheLoveFix-Nick
2 ай бұрын
Sorry you had to do through that. But yes, the gift of silence. Stay strong.
@sooticablue1664
Ай бұрын
I get it. I’m female and he literally wasted 8 years of my life. It’s brutal. Sorry you’re going through it. Well done for staying strong in the silence though.
@sooticablue1664
Ай бұрын
If you were the problem and that’s why they dumped you, you should be grovelling. Then yes, you should say happy birthday because they wanted to be with you and your behaviour made it impossible. If they were the problem, they’re right up their own arse right now so you wishing them happy birthday etc will literally make you look pathetic and will lower your value to zero. Trust me! Yes, they might not come back. And it is brutal. But if you really loved them and you weren’t simping all over them and at one point the attraction was equal etc… they’ll miss you. They will.
@mixanikos2
Жыл бұрын
Good talk man thanks
@thegooch3311
3 ай бұрын
Im blocked on all platforms except for her cellphone and no contact has started ever since march and tomorrow is her birthday, and that's the day we became a couple on the last birthday of last year. Last year, i surprised her by showing up because we just started dating, and that's what kicked us off in love. I did almost everything she wanted whenever she wanted. She's on the autism spectrum, so will she miss me tomorrow? Or will she reach out in the future? She mentioned to her mom 2 months ago it was stupid of her to break up with me because she had a lot on her mind. Will she ever reach out?
@blastprosful
Жыл бұрын
Why ? She left you !
@heliopilo2021
15 күн бұрын
She wished me happy birthday 1 month after she broke up with me. Should i text her an happy birthday as well?
@TheLoveFix-Nick
14 күн бұрын
I personally wouldn’t do so. Allow your silence to do the talking.
@whatsik1233
7 ай бұрын
We´re 6 days into no contact on our break. Yesterday was my birthday and she sent a sweet happy birthday message and a gift. Tomorrow her exams starts. Should I wish her good luck or what´s the move?
@TheLoveFix-Nick
7 ай бұрын
I guess you could return the birthday wish. But I would keep it short and sweet and don’t discuss the breakup or relationship, or how you’re feeling.
@vinicardoso3564
Жыл бұрын
She wished me happy birthday 1 month after the breakup. Her birthday is coming in 2 months (5months after the breakup). What should I do?
@TheLoveFix-Nick
Жыл бұрын
You can say happy birthday to her, BUT only if there are no hidden motives are attachments to outcomes. If you feel reaching out hurt you more than anything else then don’t say anything.
@ReigoShirofficial
2 ай бұрын
My gf said she’s going to greet her ex on his birthday. I don’t know how to feel or do about this
@TheLoveFix-Nick
2 ай бұрын
It may be totally innocent and they maintained an amicable friendship post breakup. Have you tried discussing it with her?
@usernamelady8030
Жыл бұрын
I don’t feel all those things i just want to have fun
@TheLoveFix-Nick
Жыл бұрын
Go have fun. 😊
@delgirljackson7034
Жыл бұрын
I didant wish my ex happy birthday. But asks me what would you like for your birthday????
@TheLoveFix-Nick
Жыл бұрын
Do you have a question?
@delgirljackson7034
Жыл бұрын
@@TheLoveFix-Nick my ex left me on the 16th October for another women 😒 but he told me he not coming back home .do you think he will come back home after a rebound?
@delgirljackson7034
Жыл бұрын
@@TheLoveFix-Nick I just don't get it to be honest asking me what I would like for my birthday when he chose to break our relationship up .
@TheLoveFix-Nick
Жыл бұрын
I’m sorry to hear that. That’s heartbreaking. Actions never lie and words don’t mean shit. Respond to his actions not his words, but right now his actions align with his words. It’s better for you to spend this time on yourself and your healing.
@delgirljackson7034
Жыл бұрын
@@TheLoveFix-Nick thank you for replying back 🙂 I appreciate you .oh yes I will have to ignore him when he has to look after his kids. It's heartbreaking 💔 it's so hard not to bite back. But he in a toxic rebound he carnt see it .but I could see it b4 him
@hamchenchume8332
2 жыл бұрын
I want to know why my ex still keep my phone number after she left me. But didn't reach out it's been 2n hlf months after breakup?
@TheLoveFix-Nick
2 жыл бұрын
That’s mind reading and it will only drive you crazy. Only your ex will know the answer to your question. Either way, unless she does reach out, assume it means nothing and focus all your energy on your healing. I hope you feel better.
@rajdeepsingh7928
Жыл бұрын
Hi nick What about if she already reached out on mine and after that no communications and now is her coming in July 2023. Shall I reach on her birthday?
@TheLoveFix-Nick
Жыл бұрын
What are your intentions behind your actions? Are you saying happy birthday just to be kind, or are you secretly hoping it will spark something and lead to a reconciliation. If it’s the second one, then you already know deep down it’s the wrong thing to do.
@starsaroundmyscars
2 жыл бұрын
so it's not really my ex but a situationship that was pretty intense so we didn't technically "break up" it's just that shit went down and we stopped talking and all of his friends told me how he regrets it and wants to talk to me but that didn't mean anything to me because he didn't reach out personally, so my intentions are that i want to be civil and polite and i don't want us to be on bad terms because we were friends after all, i want us to be able to joke about it and not be awkward about it but i don't want to be anything more than friends with him... it's so complicated because he hurt me a lot but i feel like i matured enough not to let it get to me anymore so would it seem humiliating to say happy birthday?
@TheLoveFix-Nick
2 жыл бұрын
I’m sorry to hear that Alex. When you say situationship. Were you guys exclusive and intimate at any point? Who stopped talking to whom first? Who initiated the end of your dynamic?
@starsaroundmyscars
2 жыл бұрын
@@TheLoveFix-Nick it's hard to tell, we knew we were more than friends, we both had feelings for each other and would do relationship stuff together (holding hands, cuddling, sleeping in the same bed...) but it never went too far, we had a big conversation about it and he told me how he wanted to work on it and help me overcome my commitment issues so we could have a healthy relationship and then a few months later when we were at a party he hooked up with his ex and we just kind of ghosted each other, he knew he messed up and i was really hurt and we haven't spoken since but multiple people on multiple occasions told me how he talks about me all the time and how much he regrets it but i obviously didn't want to reach out first unless he apologized. and he didn't. he just kept talking about me without actually talking to me. all of this happened like 7 months ago and your videos helped me so much around that time so i want to thank you for your amazing content!
@TheLoveFix-Nick
2 жыл бұрын
Sounds like this may been codependent which is never a good foundation. “He wanted to help you with your commitment issues” Only you can fix that my friend. Until that’s fixed, it will be hard to have a healthy relationship with anyone. Have you considered therapy?
@starsaroundmyscars
2 жыл бұрын
@@TheLoveFix-Nick yeah actually, I'm working hard on that and i know it's my own issue that i have to fix myself, i never expected him to fix me of course, what i was trying to say is that he was patient with me while i was trying to navigate my own problems and the other way around... until he did what he did
@TheLoveFix-Nick
2 жыл бұрын
😊 good for you. Keep taking the baby steps and you’ll get there.
@lestermatos2989
2 жыл бұрын
Today is his birthday and I wrote a text that was not sent.. to get it out of my system for I am clear he doesn’t care about me or my bdah wishes
@TheLoveFix-Nick
2 жыл бұрын
Good for you buddy, but try not to let your imagination let you think “it’s clear he doesn’t care about me”. That’s projection my friend, and it’s helpful to your cause. I hope you’re well.
@lestermatos2989
2 жыл бұрын
@@TheLoveFix-Nick what do you mean not let it?
@TheLoveFix-Nick
2 жыл бұрын
Don’t let your imagination fill in the gaps I.e. “it’s clear her doesn’t care” that your imagination filling in the gaps buddy.
@lestermatos2989
2 жыл бұрын
@@TheLoveFix-Nick ohh ok got it!
@sreach93
Жыл бұрын
The anniversary of the death of their father ? we were very close
@TheLoveFix-Nick
Жыл бұрын
Hmmm that’s a tough one. But key word here is “were”, as in you’re not close any longer.
@simay5346
Жыл бұрын
what if it's been 2,5 months on their birthday? I apologised to him 10 days after the breakup because I wasn't giving him enough attention in the relationship he says. He didn't want to work things out. And now on his birthday, it'll be 2.5 months of no contact. Should I wish him hbd?
@TheLoveFix-Nick
Жыл бұрын
If he is the dumper, then he needs to reach out to you. It was his idea to leave, it has to be his idea to come back.
@simay5346
Жыл бұрын
@@TheLoveFix-Nick yes he was the dumper and i sincerely apologised to him without disturbing him and in a mature way 10 days after breakup. thank you for your reply i really trust your words i won’t wish him hbd.
@TheLoveFix-Nick
Жыл бұрын
I hope you feel better. I know it’s savagely difficult but don’t invest in people who don’t invest in you.
@simay5346
Жыл бұрын
@@TheLoveFix-Nick thank you❤️ i was feeling better day by day but i watched a video that says if you take them for granted, no contact will make you lose them. so i am anxious these days. actually i didnt take him for granted fully i was just a little bit ignorant first few months of the relationship. but i was trying to fix everything last weeks of the relationship. we were together for 1,5 year. because he blamed me while breaking up with me, i feel guilty. but i know i wasnt the only problem and the problems could have been solved.
@TheLoveFix-Nick
Жыл бұрын
No contact is FOR YOU! It’s to get YOU BACK. Be careful with the content you watch on KZitem. 😊
@sirg-had8821
11 ай бұрын
Never. They're an ex for a reason.
@anismerabet9160
Жыл бұрын
What if the girl broke up because of depression ?
@TheLoveFix-Nick
Жыл бұрын
Not your problem, let them get on with and find someone who isn’t depressed. Don’t make their shit your responsibility.
@aditigoyal
Жыл бұрын
Heyyy I really need your help I have been in love with him for almost 4 years now but it's one sided ....in between these four years for few months he really showed interest but idkw he stopped giving me signs but he really respected my feelings and we were really good friends.... but I couldn't control my feelings for him so I ended everything 4 months back and now we have no contact....his birthday is coming now and I am literally craving to know how is he...should I text him????
@TheLoveFix-Nick
Жыл бұрын
So you’re into him more than he is into you and doesn’t want a relationship? If that’s correct, I’d advise to NOT text him. If you think there a genuine chance and he’ll have then sure, reach out.
@aditigoyal
Жыл бұрын
@@TheLoveFix-Nick no he is not into me anymore.... i mn its a very long story very messy and complicated....also he moved to canada 8 months ago and he is not coming back 🥲
@TheLoveFix-Nick
Жыл бұрын
I’m sorry to hear that. If he’s not coming I would suggest focusing on your own wellbeing and self love. Don’t be the go to person for the person you can’t go to.
@aditigoyal
Жыл бұрын
@@TheLoveFix-Nick yeahh!! Thanks for the concern 😊
@itznuisent
Жыл бұрын
What if she wished me happy birthday first?
@TheLoveFix-Nick
Жыл бұрын
It’s okay to wish it back, as long as you’re not expecting anything in return and it derail your progress.
@itznuisent
Жыл бұрын
@@TheLoveFix-Nick And what if i don’t wish her a happy birthday? What are the benefits?
@TheLoveFix-Nick
Жыл бұрын
Buddy, I think you’re overthinking this. It is about benefits or out thinking your ex. It’s what’s best for you and your recovery.
@ssz8687
Жыл бұрын
she did greet me happy birthday first months after breakup, so will i do it too? she doesnt contacted me a month after my birthday, because i was weirded out that she asked me if i'm now in a relationship and replied a question mark.
@TheLoveFix-Nick
Жыл бұрын
I guess you could send a basic happy birthday message as she send you one. You’re then matching her level. The most Important thing to keep in mind is, how will effect your mental wellbeing? Try not to be attached to an outcome. If you’re saying birthday. say with no intent of getting attention back.
@yaasy77smart1
Жыл бұрын
@@TheLoveFix-Nick leave it alone unless I still want to be with her
@TheLoveFix-Nick
Жыл бұрын
Not sure what you mean. Can you retype that please?
@yaasy77smart1
Жыл бұрын
@@TheLoveFix-Nick what I meant I would not send her a message at all she’s a ex for a reason
@premit83
2 жыл бұрын
Even after 1 year ?
@TheLoveFix-Nick
2 жыл бұрын
That depends. What would your intentions be behind saying happy birthday after 1 year of no contact?
@jorgeriera3337
2 жыл бұрын
Yes never they are dead to you
@iamselfpaid2
Жыл бұрын
She texted me on these occasions, I just delayed with my response.
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