The furry fandom helped me become way more confident. I'm still an introvert, but I have a lot more self-esteem and enjoy hanging out with others and get to know new people.
@abrickfullafist
6 ай бұрын
I'm just weird. I'd call myself a RETIRED furry. I'm too old to match the energy of half of y'all anymore and I'm only 34. I want to but it's.. taxing.
@moondart6963
6 ай бұрын
same
@ThomastheDutchie
6 ай бұрын
same tbh
@Nomstero
6 ай бұрын
@@abrickfullafist same i dont like socialize ngl
@Realmkat
5 ай бұрын
Same
@abthedragon4921
6 ай бұрын
As an introverted furry, we definitely can survive in the Fandom. I'm not the first to say this but the Fandom is what you make of it. I just sit in my own corner of the internet, drawing my characters and chatting with a few people I know. Edit: Oh also, that part where you say you have to pace back and forth in preparation for social interaction, that is SO relatable!
@iamarizonaball2642
6 ай бұрын
I’m an extrovert, but I have a paralyzed vocal cord and ADD. So it’s hard for me to socialize if I want to and know I’ll enjoy it. Gmod, one of my main escapes from this, isn’t working because my mods, though installed, aren’t showing up, and that’s why I’ve been avoiding it for a while, and that’s not even considering the fact that I live in the Sonoran desert, and I’m a furry. It’s a horrible combination for an extrovert for me.
@Cthulhusnet
6 ай бұрын
I'm an introvert and have dared to go to two meetups. Now I've already made more contacts than I thought and have to be careful not to lose track. The community is really welcoming.
@ihatedietcola7920
6 ай бұрын
I was very introverted for most of my life. But shortly after joining the fandom I started opening up more and became a lot more outgoing. I'm still a bit of a loner most of the time but I do really enjoy events and sometimes I host random public furry outings. Right now I'm looking forward to when furballs strike in a couple days.
@noxe_jkl
6 ай бұрын
Personally, I have been able to use the fandom as an introvert as a tool to get out of my comfort zone. The way I see my fursona is almost the way an actor would see his character. I might not go dance, but Noxe would, and he's making a fool of himself, not me.😅
@Emma_952
6 ай бұрын
I think people also forget, that the difference between an introvert and extrovert is not being shy, and the other being outgoing. Introvertedness is when you feel recharged alone, and Extrovertedness is feeling recharged with others. Introverts need more time to regulate before and after social activities to prepare for the toll it can take on their energy level, and can sometimes be easily overstimulated in these environments. I am a very outgoing Introvert, just like you could be a shy Extrovert. In any situation I think it’s important we give grace and understanding for those in this fandom that social situations are very difficult for, and that’s one of my favorite things about this fandom! We definitely aren’t perfect, but just having patience with others and seeing past a little awkwardness I feel is always worth it to truly meet the person behind it.
@OldOp
6 ай бұрын
Don’t even have to watch to know the answer is YES. Considering the vast majority are introverts and/or awkward socially. It’s why it’s such a wonderful community because it allows that safe space for those mindsets. I’m an ambivert so this community allows such a level of comfort for both sides of social need in a close or distant way. Wonderful video! You’ve really been doing well with topics. It’s nice to see a jump in Furry KZitem again :)
@PolskaTheGrey
6 ай бұрын
I ask the same as the person that messaged you. I'm very introverted with some anxiety in social settings. I've been following the fandom for about 13 years and been "in" it with a couple local furry friends. However never been to group functions or a convention once and am now 31. Feel like I'm missing out now but find it difficult to be around or in larger groups. More of a one on one or small group type of person with people I know. I find truly finding new friends with strangers online let alone in person or at group stuff. Thats another good topic to see anothers take on like you. Age. Seems like the fandom favors more those in their early to mid 20s and quite a few i know feel any older if one dosnt already have friends in the fandom find it hard to get in or feel part of the fandom. I know its not neccisarilly true, but it is an often felt opinion for those now labled as "greymuzzles" by younger fandom goers.
@btc_rat
6 ай бұрын
Have you heard of agoraphobia?
@CaphireTheDragon
6 ай бұрын
I'm in the same boat as yourself. I'm an introvert but have been a part of the much smaller furry fandom in the UK for nearly a decade now. I have been to small local meets a couple of times but never a con and I missed registration for the 2024 cons too :( I'm hoping my luck for 2025 is much better but IDK if i'll still be here then. I have been ostracised by people and existing friend groups (others, not mine) for being a 'grey muzzle' who think i'm a creep for being 31 and a furry despite me being a furry longer than any of them knowing what it was. The more I try to engage with the community, the more I feel pushed away from it which really, really sucks as it's becoming steadily more popular but you're right; being older in the fandom makes it that much more difficult to make friends simply because of the age gap and lack of ability to connect with the younger people who are in the vast majority. On another note, this makes dating within the fandom an outright nightmare. You're also correct when you say that the fandom favours people who are in their late teens to mid twenties because it absolutely does. If I could roll a decade off my age now, I would 100% do it, no questions asked. As I get older I expect to find less and less furries around my age, which are already few, and eventually expect to be pushed out of the fandom IRL altogether and returning to being chronoically online where my age is unknown.
@ItsSiebay
6 ай бұрын
I feel that, and I’m 27. Being an introvert is a double edged sword for me. I do enjoy being around people but I also struggle being around others for a long time. It’s a large reason why I tend to talk to myself even in public, and why I find it hard to talk to people even online. I’ve been in the fandom for 10 years now, and while I’d love to finally go to a con or meet up, I know it’s gonna take some work. Even if I never feel completely comfortable with it, I still want to have the experience.
@lastswordfighter
6 ай бұрын
Wrong assertions. The correct ones stop being a furry, furries are degenerates, and furries have no right to exist.
@FreckleShark
6 ай бұрын
@@ItsSiebay Every year a new wave of new furs won't go and this situation will happen to them in ten years time too, we just can't see them. The con experience seems to skew lower since those who are loud, energetic and social media savy are going to be younger and set the narrative for us online. The average furry age is 27, as showed at CFz '21, you guys aren't too old for anything. Maybe you've only just realized what you really want from life, it hits us all at different ages, or only just got a decent car/job, in anycase cons are accessible to all, any fluff, scale or tail. You will feel a tad out of place your first time being at one, personally returning to a con after nine years at the age of 28, I thought I'd be alone most of the time and not have fun. In part, sometimes I was, but I got to know some attendees before-hand so I could at least chat to someone I knew, went to a panel, bought some things and even the concert, it was an alright solo experience without any expectations which I hope to build on, but you can do this too even if it's not this year.
@Snuggles_the_Unholy
6 ай бұрын
Great topic, Finn! As someone with social anxiety, I can say, personally, yes. Being furry, sort of levels the playfield. Surrounded by so many diverse and creative people energizes me. And all the whimsical and playful costumes frees me up to become more outgoing.
@e7yu
6 ай бұрын
So, very true. Your fursuit helps you in expressing other aspects of yourself.😸
@yamahamasterfz
6 ай бұрын
As an extreme introvert myself, I appreciate you covering this topic immensely. Thanks Finn, you're awesome 🥰
@Val-xx
6 ай бұрын
I’ve been a furry since I was a kid so I’m not really new to the fandom. I’ve always thought “when I’m older I want to go to this con and that one” but as I become an adult I’m more introverted and my anxiety is 10x worse. I don’t hv any extroverted friends let alone a furry one 😭 I’m doomed. My dreams seems just as out of reach as they did back then
@SpamBoar
6 ай бұрын
As an extrovert seeing a very well done video like this showing the other side is awesome!
@taylozen
6 ай бұрын
i have social avoidance issues (most likely AVPD but im not diagnosed) and im starting to find my discomfort stemming from what _others_ are uncomfortable with, and now that im challenging these thoughts i found a lot of interests through the furry community. this video gave me some relief because i was worried that i'd never be "fit" to be a part of the fandom, and as im learning to draw i think i'll be less scared of doing fanart for others and whatnot
@chitothelizard
6 ай бұрын
the furry fandom has done alot for me! i used to not talk to enybody and i hade no pals to talk too and i was very introverted but the furry fandom helped me fine good friends and i sill rather not go to big social events and stay home but now i have some frineds that i can talk too.
@ThePanguinator
6 ай бұрын
To an introvert artist like me it's all about the art, which is also a great means to connect with people!
@frostthefolf
6 ай бұрын
Love this video! As an introvert myself, and one who actually still has a bit of a ways to go to get where I want to be in terms of social connections in this community, this is an extremely relatable view into this kind of experience. Another thought -- for me, one-on-one interactions are way less exhausting and can be way more rewarding, with the right people, compared with a big furry gathering. For anyone looking to interact more with other folks in the fandom, it can be a great strategy to find folks you get along with, and then just grab a bite or have a chat or something with that person! Not every furry interaction needs to be a party ^^
@artrob42
6 ай бұрын
I would like to do a one on one with someone in the fandom after a con however people in cons wouldn’t wanna talk to me, I would have one conversation with someone and then they would leave and honestly making friends in this fandom is hard.
@ruckustherabbit407
6 ай бұрын
Due to some very bad past interactions with people, I've become extremely antisocial and introverted in life, and that extends to my involvement in the fandom. At cons I tend to keep out of the way as most I can, I only really go to discover new artists at the markets and watch the live music. If I feel too intimidated, I usually go out into the town on my own, find a pub or something to get away from the stress of people. In all honesty though, I've never felt that I've been struggling in the fandom, I know how I work and I'm comfortable in that bubble. However, I know there must be many out there who want to be more involved, and this video is definitely something these people can learn off
@FioFirefox
6 ай бұрын
Fantastic points all around! As an extrovert in the Fandom, I have a habit of dragging people along with me but I always try to be cognizant of their needs and remember that they experience things differently from myself. Where I am energized by social interaction and will stay up for weeks after an event, I know that my introvert friends need down-time to recover and it’s important for me to respect this. Thanks again for this great vid, Finn!
@dasaniwolf8902
6 ай бұрын
Ah this is very close to my heart. I'm someone who has social anxiety and it's really hard for me to interact with people... even in fursuit. I've ducked out of cute interactions just because I'm worried I'll do something stupid haha. But I'm still trying to improve myself and do better. I'm hoping I'll meet some folks at FWA.
@artrob42
6 ай бұрын
I’m mostly an introvert but I do wish I could make a friend or two in the fandom, the reasons I don’t have one is cuz I mostly put effort to talk to other furries but none would wanna talk back. I honestly I don’t want/need a lot of friends but I would like to go to parties/hangouts with other furries but honestly most people wouldn’t want to talk to me. In the fandom I am generally happy make art in the fandom but I just wish I had other people to talk to in the fandom.
@artrob42
6 ай бұрын
Another thing to add but I used to being super introverted but since joining the and wearing my fursuit to cons I have been more social again my issue in talking to people in the fandom is that when I talk/text one thing to someone they would leave me on read.
@EigenRovak
6 ай бұрын
I was always under the impression that the fandom has more introverts than extroverts
@evilgenius97
6 ай бұрын
90% of my social interactions remind me I'd rather be alone, instead of alone in a crowd
@user-zm1uo8xj9c
6 ай бұрын
A strange fact about me that I think im an extrovert AND introvert, I dont know if the bullying i've been through made me this, but with strangers or even my family im an introvert that dont talk and hate Begin in conversations, otherwise, with my friends, I talk super loud and talk about the most random things haha
@korrafey1044
6 ай бұрын
I'm an introvert who'd love to go to a convention some day. No idea what I'd do, but i love the idea
@ninbendoyt3203
5 ай бұрын
I was at a furry convention kind of recently, and I didn't really hang out with anyone. That was because I'm both an introvert and kind of wanted to be by myself, but also because I have social anxiety, plus I don't really have a lot of friends
@bluegold1026
5 ай бұрын
So relatable! As in introvert, it took me quite some time (at least a year) before I became comfortable socializing in the furry community. Mostly because I literally knew NOBODY in the community personally. Only online. But now I've got quite a few friends after mustering up the courage to break the ice by praising someone's fursuit.
@MyLeoOne
6 ай бұрын
Whenever I give being more active in the fandom a go I end up getting bitten, so I've just given up on being social and just wait for others to come to me... Which doesn't happen much
@artrob42
6 ай бұрын
I’m honestly in the same boat, I can never made a friend in the fandom and I have been in the fandom for years. I would always put effort into text/talk to people but other people wouldn’t put any effort. So now I just put my energy to someone that is worth it.
@russleblackheart6550
6 ай бұрын
I feel like having autism with the combination of being introverted would crumble my mentality trying to be outgoing. I'm just glad some people will be really supportive of you than you realize.
@theskilledfox7394
6 ай бұрын
Your video style has such a calming atmosphere, as well as your voice inflection. Its very welcoming
@Holy_san
6 ай бұрын
Thank you for addressing this topic !
@Des329
6 ай бұрын
As an introverted furry, I can share my experience on this matter. Now, I haven't met other furries IRL yet, but I think I would be able to socialise with them very well if I had something to hide behind. For example, a fursuit. I can hide behind this cute bear mask and be myself without anyone seeing my face.
@FesuFesu
6 ай бұрын
This video is like a pillar to support the introvert. I see both the positive side of a introvert and extrovert and think it’s great. 🙂(the bgm is nice too)
@RodaMoonknight
6 ай бұрын
I kid you not, I am still a bit introverted but when I "joined" and even at MFF I was super shy. After that con I feel like I speak louder, start more conversations. I just needed that bump to get to know others. I was walking around on Thursday before the registration and when I went back to the convention center I was lucky enough some online friendos recognized me from a hoodie I was wearing and let me be around them. I did spend the next day mostly on my own but, we got to spend some more time around dealer's den and other stuff. This year I really want to go to one of the raves just to come a bit more out of my shell.
@artrob42
6 ай бұрын
I felt the same too after going to cons, I would like to go to parties/raves but I haven’t made a friend to go to them.
@panutalus
6 ай бұрын
All of us introverts needs to be adopted by extroverts X3. Btw, what is that dog plushie behdind you? It's soooo cute.
@FinnThePanther
6 ай бұрын
That's a plushie of Andy, the mascot of Anthro Northwest which is my local convention!
@TheDragonsDarknessGaming
6 ай бұрын
Hi Finn thank you for this useful information my friend and listen introvert’s can survive in this Fandom and need great friends to help them out with fur cons and meeting them as well
@maelstromeyre9062
6 ай бұрын
I am also very much an introvert and have never attended any in-person furry gatherings or cons. I'm also an older furry in my mid forties (greymuzzle), and a woman, and just don't feel like I fit in among the majority of furries. All of my furry interactions take place online, either through social media or the virtual world of Second Life, and I am okay with that because I can just hang back until I feel more comfortable.
@andacondanation1933
4 ай бұрын
Somehow I knew the meme of an Extrovert adopting Introverts would come up in this video XD. Used to have a friend in High-school before I got into the fandom that was a huge extrovert and as an introvert myself I often found myself being metaphorically bugged about events or something coming up that would be cool to go to or see with them.
@TogoWolf11
6 ай бұрын
LOVE this video! :D I'm an introvert myself, and I found so much of this to be highly relatable. I really like what you said about how this fandom, and society in general tend to favor and reward outgoing, extroverted people. But yes, you CAN still thrive as an introvert. And contrary to popular belief, being quiet or reserved is NOT a weakness or a flaw. It just means you might need to work a little harder to make connections, and also have time to recharge at the end of the day. What's more, it can really be fulfilling when you do build those connections and make friends. 😊 Thanks for this, Finn! ❤
@HastorPrinceInYellow
6 ай бұрын
Sociology Professor? nah, im good, ive got Finn the Panther
@coficoficofi
6 ай бұрын
Thank you very much! I was struggling with this problem for many years. I found and "invented" my own ways to be active in fandom, but this video is important for me, becuse I was looking for this kind of information (with no success), and also thought that fandom is favorising extroverts. I know that many people would not be able to come up with ideas in this situation, but fandom was also a part of my change, in which I became more opened to people. Again: Thank you with all my heart! And I truly appreciate your work.
@senpai_mangue6141
6 ай бұрын
honestly, i dont know if im introverted anymore im so fluent when talking to people about things i have to do but then i just dont want to socialize with people if it means i gotta come up with topics n crap. i think im just anti social💀💀💀
@MaxxSmiledog.jpg1998
6 ай бұрын
Thx for the great advice. As an introvert both in the fandom and out of the fandom,I usually feel more comfortable having a very few people around me who can understand bout who I am,not only being an introvert is often stigmatized in society,but it’s often misunderstood. Just because I’m an introvert doesn’t mean I’m antisocial or whatever,it allows me to open up to small groups of people who can understand and share my thoughts and opinions bout anything. Even I have anxiety and autism and so on,it takes some time for me to feel adjusted and comfortable to be a group of people who are like me and be more open minded and understanding of what’s it’s like to be different from the rest of the social norm.
@pluckyfox08
6 ай бұрын
Being an introvert made my life really hard when it comes to making friends and communication. I have bad social skills. 😅 It was easier back then as a kid due to my talent being recognized but as an adult it's become difficult. It's thanks to the Fandom that I've become more confident and found kindred spirits in other furries. It relieves my anxiety and I couldn't be anymore proud to be part of the community. ❤❤❤
@apersonontheinternet8354
6 ай бұрын
I’ve been an introvert for my whole life. Through my journeys in the fandom, I feel like it’s opened me up a bit. I still have my introverted side, but I feel more comfortable being out and about with people, talking. Honestly probably the best place imo to start that growth. It’s so nice 👍
@NeatWolf
6 ай бұрын
Actually, I assumed wearing a fursuit or just another identity would help introverts more than extroverts? I think it's an opportunity to get more confident - in a safer way?
@dorkafricska6102
6 ай бұрын
I love your videos so much, and you are SO right! As an anxious introvert person who wishes to be more social, I think I feel the most comfortable in this fandom to try and slowly extend my comfort zone, and be a bit more social. It's really hard but I have faith in this community
@MrMaxRex1
6 ай бұрын
6:02 O! I also do exactly the same kind of “Showtime” preparation. Nice, bro. By the way, I'm kind of a fandom surfer and the furry subculture is actually the most social of all. And here for every introvert like three extroverts all the time. They really always complement each other, so introverts will be fine here that's for sure.
@argot2809
6 ай бұрын
I'm always too shy to get somewhere for the first time. I need to join others to go in together. Yes, I'm introverted too and making friends is not easy, but I'm able to do it.
@Rubi_NTW
6 ай бұрын
I know something about it, my first moments in the fandom were not the best especially because I could not speak another language well and I was crabby in communicating with anyone, now I am managing quite somehow these few years, from Amino I moved to Discord and Telegram or few irl furcons and meets, but when I first tried to enter VR I was too overwhelmed by it all and as soon as someone spoke to me I suddenly forgot the language and got a panic attack X3 so I guess I still have to wait for it until I mentally mature for VR. By the way you talk well about this topic and it made my heart warm ^^
@ShinigamiWolf
6 ай бұрын
As someone that has interacted with the community both online and Irl. There is definitely a larger percentage of introverts compared to extroverts.
@AceAureus
6 ай бұрын
Before clicking on this i would've assumed it would be easier. I consider myself an introvert (as is my bf) but i can be extroverted when i need to be. So while i do think it's easy to be an introverted furry since there's more online activites one can do then most other commuties, it's still pretty hard compared to their extroverted counterparts. I think a lot of the "fun and social furries" the OP was talking about could very well be introverted as well, but only because they met them online and didn't have to speak to them irl that it was easier for them to be social. People often assume i'm an extrovert until they really get to know me. Because the fact is, interacting with people is often easier online for introverts than having to speak with people irl.
@IorekByrnison086
6 ай бұрын
Great video. Thanks fir the lesson. I am an introvert, I have no fursuit at this time. Ever since I've joined, I feel more extrovert eveytime. Thanks to this fandom, I get the courage to come out to make friends. I do need to work on being extrovert some more. The fandom is great! Love this video. Keep up the awesome job.
@SequentialSnep
6 ай бұрын
*raises paw* Introvert here. Started doing IRL furry stuff in 2009 and I am only just starting to find my people in the fandom. Also, I hosted the game developer's meetup at NFC a few days ago and my social battery just died after 2hrs+ of interacting with people! But its great, I had to go explore many facets of the fandom to find one I am comfortable in.
@MaxTheBrawler
6 ай бұрын
Dude you’re my fav KZitemr
@gabbo13
6 ай бұрын
I had a experience with 2 meets I attended, before and after the pandemic. The latter was so embracing after we stayed at home fearing for a terrible virus, while the world became a huge ghost town. I couldn't feel so happy when I hugged 2 folks who I talk to this day with their fursuits.
@ryoukaip
6 ай бұрын
so relatable, props to you
@nightmarishbat
6 ай бұрын
I fully agree with the video. I'm introverted myself and the fandom has helped me find friends, which in turn helped me improve my life by a lot. Has it been easy? Not always, there have been countless of setbacks (mostly my fault :/), but overall joining the fandom was the best decision in my life, socially-speaking.
@birdywren5277
6 ай бұрын
I ran into this introvert issue when I actually saw you at MFF. I wanted to go up and ask for a picture but sometimes seeing people in real life is a lot more daunting than I realized. Not that you're scary lmao just that social anxiety can be difficult to get over. I think a lot of people just gravitate towards those who project confidence more openly and it can make introverts come face to face with their introverted-ness if that makes sense? TYSM for the awesome video Finn!!
@artKaiMerra
6 ай бұрын
I'm an introvert. For instance,, I saw you at ANW and didn't know how to say hi, let alone get a photo. You were sighing, and I figured you were tired. And I've been to a few cons and several furmeets and still have very few photos. But I've still met a lot of people in the fandom, most of us socially awkward. We're all kinds of geeks, and it's great! You explained this very well. From the iceberg metaphor, to the rationalism that the world is what it is and thereby, so is the fandom. You gave hope while remaining realistic. Thanks! P.s. next time, I'll ask for a photo of that's cool with you
@stitchesstarts4984
6 ай бұрын
You read me like a book and thank you for that. I really needed this big boost of confidence and information❤
@tryplot
6 ай бұрын
My fursona, Pandora the panda, takes the traumas that I normally bury deep inside, and brings them to the surface (literally, most of the design choices are visual representations of them). this means that personality wise, he is able to focus on the here and now, enjoying the moment, as opposed to being held back by the past. I am still new to participating in the fandom, as opposed to being a silent observer, but it is my hope that if I focus on, and practice that, some of that emotional freedom will carry over to my every day personality.
@furmedra115
6 ай бұрын
Finn's videos are always a treat, and super informative as well, thanks a lot mate
@haleys_hus
6 ай бұрын
this was hopeful; thank u 4 putting this message out there! like all good lessons, it's something i think i'll need 2 go back & visit again a few times. thank u 4 continuing 2 make videos that help guide folks thru the furry community as it is now
@EthanTheRaccy
5 ай бұрын
3:24 it's me in the gray, black and white suit with white ear tips lmao
@AngelTheDrox
6 ай бұрын
I'm also an introvert, I'm still new to the fandom, but I'm hoping it'll help me with my social anxiety and making friends.
@yingtails7383
6 ай бұрын
As an Introvert the fandom has helped me make new friends ❤
@tarzanventura807
6 ай бұрын
Whaaatt? Another introverted Panther? My brother from another mother!
@Noa15Lv
6 ай бұрын
For me personally, i need to have an drink to make me smile & look silly and positive at the same time. Being sober between folks feels like being lost dog in big crowd. You'll receive looks, so the hoodie & cap what i usually wear, doesn't feels that deep to hide my face from folks.
@cryingforbread
6 ай бұрын
Thank you for this awesome and educational video
@yuuma465
6 ай бұрын
Thanks for the great video Finn!
@AleskisDaFox
6 ай бұрын
Love u Finn, thank you for making this video.
@n0etic_f0x
6 ай бұрын
I mean yeah, in fact, one of the few places introverts can survive. It is literally a meme that extroverts "adopt" us and take us places. It is a meme for a reason, a lot of us are socially awkward but we kind of all understand that. Introverts can easily find small groups with weird interests in the fandom because... a lot of people like that are in the fandom... it is most people actually. Furthermore, they are open to talking about that stuff. People publically and proudly display their interests no matter how esoteric they are. Knowing weird things can make you popular because it means you are interesting.
@swetuski
6 ай бұрын
I’m introverted and honestly in ‘my’ opinion I come out of my shell hardcore at these things
@xdfreewae
6 ай бұрын
Though I’m not a furry myself, I find this community very positive as what I’ve experienced on VRChat.
@BowieBarks
6 ай бұрын
As an introvert constantly mistaken for an extrovert, can confirm 👍
@erebosthemogoreg
6 ай бұрын
This could be how I was raised and dud to the place and situation I am living in, I live in a village, only around 600 people live here as a total. My family in general is all introverts, they do not like interacting with people in general and hate doing so, they actively do it. We live in a farm on top of this further distancing ourselves away from people so it's really rare to see any strangers in general. I have literally no friends at all, there are no people I know who are even around or close to my age. Kids aren't often and there are more older and old people than I can count younger. I had met a furry, I know her, but... The problem is that, I'm 25 years old and she's a 14 year old child. Her family happens to be friends with my family and siblings but I've only managed to speak to her once or twice and she's literally the closest thing to a friend that I have. But I don't push her to talk to me, she's very introverted as I am. Even on the Internet, I have no friends. Just, everyone is very much so... Like peers in a class where they're around you, you speak to them maybe here and there, but never are finding... That connection. Even volunteering at the library and public spaces is awkward but I do speak to the people there, just, they won't really be "friends", moreso again, peers in a class despite having good conversations with them. I just don't really know what to do you know? It's not just... These things, but for the fact that I am both mentally and physically disabled. Not a lot of people want to interact with someone who's disabled, and from experience too. They don't have any patience for my struggles with speaking and overall communication difficulties and with the way I walk and behave, these are things that I simply cannot help myself with even with medication and treatments I am prone to do things that some people, as I heard someone say to my stepmother that I weirded them out, made them uncomfortable with my ticks and odd behavior and speech patterns. I heard that when they thought I was out of earshot when I was just getting ready to leave the restaurant in public and this is me as my normal self, and I further worry about myself being a pokemon furry, a pokefur... Would I even be accepted by others in the furry fandom? It's just... I don't know, if people outside of the furry fandom treat me this way, what do I really expect in the fandom if I meet other furries besides the one kid in person? Would it even be different if at all? How well are people like myself treated within the fandom?
@zelpar
5 ай бұрын
My partner is defo more into the extroverted side than i am. I have sadly not had good times at cons so i have avoided them for the 10 years. Its hard when you have major depression and want to socialize but have a hard time connecting with people.
@nannerpuss9430
6 ай бұрын
Id say, as an introvert, the furry fandom is a wonderful place to become more social. Most members of the community are patient and understand the hardships of anxiety. Takes one to know one, really.
@AbnormalUltimatum
6 ай бұрын
Thank you so much, this video really helped me :)
@ThomastheDutchie
6 ай бұрын
I'm introverted and I'm still here
@Pup_Pleiades
6 ай бұрын
As an introvert Furry, I barely can survive this fandom and with social anxiety it’s worse especially if I go to a fur con, I don’t talk unless in the Dealer Den, then I sit at the con somewhere for a few hrs then proceed to leave with my purchases but me and my Fursona is more social online than in person.
@Boreal_0
6 ай бұрын
I’m an introvert and it’s been a year or two that I follow furry contents but I rarely interact with the fandom ( and you can expand that to any other fandom) by a fear and sometimes it takes me hours or day before posting an interaction. I’m scared about having a bad English, or talking with people that I don’t know I always wait a very long time for me to go talk with someone And after writing all of that I realized that I could have said in two years I’ve almost never interacted with this fandom because I’m scared of human contact
@luckylycan
6 ай бұрын
thank you for this video i deeply needed to hear allot of this to be honest
@InsaneFoxx
Ай бұрын
I honestly had a good laugh at the - quite familar - gag "introverts don't make friends, they get adopted by extroverts" what with being an social introvert, I'm the mid-point of an adoption chain.. extroverted friend has adopted me, and drags me to places, while I have adopted an even more introverted person and drag him around.
@RocaTheFox
6 ай бұрын
Introverted and hella social anxious fur here and still surviving in this fandom :D
@yiffytimes
3 ай бұрын
I am an Introvert and have been active in the fandom for more than a decade. I have been to 10 MFFs
@boenstheskully267
6 ай бұрын
It’s weird, because the majority of people who I know as furies are incredibly introverted but at cons it seems like they just suddenly become extremely overly extroverted for that short period of time. Does anyone else recognize this or even experience it themselves and could you explain why and how? Thanks for sharing your tips, they shall be of great assistance in the future.
@artrob42
6 ай бұрын
I am one of those people that are introverted but at cons I am extroverted or at least a little bit. The reason to me is that wearing my fursuit makes me feel more confident to talk to people.
@tommylap01
6 ай бұрын
Unfortunately I will have to say no. From my perspective, Introverts or even anyone who is neurodivergent or just different in any way can barely survive the fandom. The more different you are, the more you will be alienated and dehumanized in the furry fandom, or at least in my state's fandom. I was always different from everyone and so I could never fit in, and I thought the fandom would be the one place where I am accepted. But once I finally started, it was the exact opposite. They absolutely destroyed me because I was unknowing and had emotional issues. As to where I thought they cared, they instead hurt me even worse than anyone ever did before. And I do recognize everyone has a different story, but I personally do not see an introverted individual being able to survive the toxicity of the fandom, unless they are someone who fits the toxic hive mind mentality. I hate to say this, but socially in the furry fandom, It's kill or be killed, it's agree with the majority or suffer, it's perfection or your life is ruined.
@artrob42
6 ай бұрын
I think you’re right on this, everyone does have different experiences. My experience is that most people exclude you and hang out with people who are a “popy fur” or have a fox/wolf fursona/fursuit. All the people I tried to be friends with never talk to me or even knows I exist. I even hate when people start drama just because they are jealous and these kind of stuff is the reason I don’t like this fandom but at the same time I like how this fandom helped me be more myself though my fursonas.
@foxpresso
6 ай бұрын
As an introvert, I can attest that becoming a furry changed my comfort zone for the better and I became more myself thanks to animals. Granted, I now find myself unable to easily socialize outside the fandom lol
@khgrooms7748
6 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for this video, I really needed it because I'm a introvert by heart, I don't like social situations or really putting myself out there. And I plan to be a part of the furry community, I plan on making my own fursuit, it's gonna be a bat her name is fruitloops. ❤👍💖
@hazelgrunts
6 ай бұрын
It’s hard, because I’m introverted, autistic (Obviously autism doesn’t automatically make you bad at socializing, but it certainly does for me), and have social anxiety. Talking to people is really hard, even after getting help for my anxiety. I WANT to make friends, but I freeze up in social situations (even just messaging people online)
@Arthurfs10
6 ай бұрын
Being an introvert is the best thing in life, I should have a maximum of 3 to 4 friends and that's it I like being alone with nature, listening to the birds, the current of the lake, human beings are pathetic creatures, i dont need them
@mrmou.4893
6 ай бұрын
bro relax
@SimonGaylor
6 ай бұрын
@@mrmou.4893 don't worry! I'm one of his only friends, I studied with him he likes to be alone, and likes to criticize the actions human beings do to nature and i say more! He's gay Né o cabeçudo?
@Arthurfs10
6 ай бұрын
@@SimonGaylor shut up simon! no one asked for your opinion, yes I'm very irritated today so, vai se fu... i am not a gay
@tommylap01
6 ай бұрын
This is the most relatable statement I have heard all day
@DejitaruJin
6 ай бұрын
Huh. I'm an introvert, but I just... never really thought about it. 'Course, I didn't so much "join the fandom" as much as just, like... exist in a state of being a furry, you know? It's weird to even think of it as a thing one consciously does.
@haddles3196
Ай бұрын
I can infer probably yes, from the fact that my brother is a musician AND shy.
@user-uc7vm3wi3b
6 ай бұрын
From this video i have figured out that i am an introvert 🙂🙂🙂❤❤❤
@Koyuki30
6 ай бұрын
And Ambiverts, which is the middle of the iceberg, like myself
@rueagonvyceratops2879
6 ай бұрын
I just seen this tweet earlier this afternoon when i was on there .
@fluffthesergal7640
6 ай бұрын
Good advice lad.
@logancaldwell7813
6 ай бұрын
I'm an introvert too. But sometimes I need to learn how to make friends and socialize them, even though I have autism.
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