I'm not Catholic, but I admire how seriously marriage is treated in Catholicism. I think it would save a world of pain and heartbreak for many people if we all took the commitment of marriage that seriously. Too many people marry for the wrong reasons or without really thinking about what they are doing.
@carolynkimberly4021
Жыл бұрын
Perhaps you would like to look into the Faith more?
@cherrypinkblue
Жыл бұрын
As a Catholic myself, every subject of Catholic teaching always has such a high standard and deep thoughts, even becoming a Catholic has a long process. And that's why many Catholics, including myself, fail everyday. Because how hard it is to live the faith and to have such self control. The same reason why I choose to stay, despite the skepticism or scandals, it's because the Church take everything seriously.
@ianaudenaert5850
Жыл бұрын
@@cherrypinkblue don’t lose hope or stop trying to live like a son of God because He loves you for who you are, don’t forget that. It’s okay to sometimes make mistakes and in the eye of God they are forgiven no matter what, as long as you put Jesus first. Have a blessed day! ❤
@econdude3811
Жыл бұрын
I agree that it should be taken seriously, but as an example, I worked with a woman who literally divorced her husband after being married for less than a year. She married in the Catholic Church and the preparation didn't make a difference. Also, as someone who has never married, I realize how painful it must be for divorced Catholics who still want to practice (I am a cultural Catholic and do not practice at all)
@carolynkimberly4021
Жыл бұрын
@@econdude3811 Divorced Catholics, as long as they don't attempt to remarry, are encouraged to live a full sacramental life.
@karenkushla3975
Жыл бұрын
I am divorced and received an ecclesiastical annulment because my ex-husband didn't tell me he was gay. He was not faithful to me in our marriage and was emotionally and verbally abusive. Annulment was supported by several priests I know, and was granted about 18 months after I submitted my application (Covid interfered and added about 9 months to the process).
@johnm5928
Жыл бұрын
He's not your ex husband because you were never truly married. I am very sorry and will pray for you!
@karenkushla3975
Жыл бұрын
@@johnm5928 thank you.
@sasi5841
Жыл бұрын
How did you end up in a relationship with a gay man?
@karenkushla3975
Жыл бұрын
@@sasi5841 we were next-door neighbors in the college dorm and were friends. Our friendship developed into love.
@ml7245
Жыл бұрын
Sorry to hear that, God loves us, may your heart find peace
@JenniMeer
Жыл бұрын
I know that this is off topic, but my son was baptized into the Church on Saturday (May 27, 2023)!! My daughter is asking questions and is considering joining RCIA this fall. Also, please pray for her because she fell at work Sunday and had a seizure. She is at home and in good spirits. Thanks!! 😊
@joantreadway7557
Жыл бұрын
Prayers being sent
@myriamkanga8518
4 ай бұрын
May she receive complete healing.
@JenniMeer
4 ай бұрын
@@myriamkanga8518 I just realized how long ago this was!! She fully recovered and is living a normal 20 something life!! 🥰
@dawnlapka3782
Жыл бұрын
I am divorced. Our family went through annulment. If I am ever given the opportunity to marry again, I would not want to leave the Sacraments. I am grateful for the grace of staying close to my Faith. I still pray everyday for my kids and my former spouse that things will work themselves out. ❤ Thanks for covering this topic, Father Casey.
@erasmusflattery9799
Жыл бұрын
I’m really grateful you’ve been making Catholicism in Focus videos again. They’re really fun and informative, and you fit the teacher role really well!
@anthonyw2931
Жыл бұрын
hear! hear!
@maaxt
Жыл бұрын
Well done,Father. I heard a priest once joke that marriage is the only vocation without a period of discernment. During our pre-Cana session 42 years ago, the priest said that marriage was not a 50-50 relationship, but that we must give 100%. All the time. Wise words over the years
@retiredgamblers3517
Жыл бұрын
Exactly the same thing we heard 43 years ago. That one thought melded our hearts 🥰 together. That one thought got us through some tougher times. Now we stand on those times hand in hand, looking forward to the rest of our lives.
@anna-katehowell9852
Жыл бұрын
This may be a level of insider baseball that most viewers wouldn't be interested in, but I'd love to see a Catholicism in Focus where you go through the list of reasons for annulment and break them down.
@christinacole7019
Жыл бұрын
I would be interested in seeing that too!
@finarentz3814
Жыл бұрын
Same here. I’m curious as to how we could we could expand the ability to receive them
@lordrefrigerator
Жыл бұрын
I’m for that! Topics like these are so complicated and expansive that it would probably take more than an 8 minute video (despite it’s great quality) to cover.
@kevinwillems8720
Жыл бұрын
Reasons for annulment. Plays Tallahassee by The Mountain Goats.
@jimpagano2343
10 ай бұрын
I don't think it's possible to encapsulate all the reasons for an annulment, but an easier one to address is the "freely". When I was in high school we were discussing marriage and annulment in our theology course. One classmate mentioned how a friend of his (that didn't go to our school) got his girlfriend pregnant and the girlfriend's dad was telling them "you will get married." The teenagers could decide "we'll get married," but considering what the girl's father said, they are making the decision under duress, so they are not truly entering into marriage freely. One of the other requirements -- openness to children. You do not have to have children for a marriage to be valid (think of an elderly couple that marries after childbearing years), but you do need to be open to that possibility and promise to raise any children in the Faith. If you have willfully acted to end your fertility (eg tubal ligation beforehand because "I don't want kids") that would be a cause for annulment.
@JosephMichaeloftheCross35
Жыл бұрын
Being one who has gone through the annulment process. Fr. Casey, you did great in explaining. If only I had the capacity of having this knowledge in the previous relationship. Thanks to be God, that it was declared annulled, I am making sure to discern carefully this time. Hope future spouses watches this video or Bishop Robert Barron's video on marriage. Really eye opener.
@sienkiewiczmonika1161
Жыл бұрын
May I ask how many months or years (and money) your annulment cost?
@JosephMichaeloftheCross35
Жыл бұрын
@Sienkiewicz Monika sure, mine through the Diocese of Tucson, which they charged $25 for the process, and mine actually took approximately two to three years to make a decision
@kristofedetakacs4197
Жыл бұрын
Can I ask which one of Bishop Barron's video are you referring to? Would very much like to watch
@c.m.cordero1772
Жыл бұрын
@@sienkiewiczmonika1161 it used to take $200 and about a year, sometimes less, here in California. Not sure now.
@whatsup3270
Жыл бұрын
@@sienkiewiczmonika1161 please understand the conditions very greatly as do the costs, many parishes will allow the process to continue regardless of money and most people never pay enough to cover actual costs. For example someone married once civilly and divorced (invalid criteria illicit form) it "may" be simple. Others with
@bcgarrels
Жыл бұрын
This is such a prescient video for me. My wife had an affair which I discovered, and she left me to be with her adulterous lover. I begged her to reconsider and not divorce me, but she insisted on it. She eventually told me I had to sign the papers or the judge would make a decree. Over two years after she told me she wanted the divorce, I relented and signed the papers. We were not married in the Catholic Church, but I recently completed RCIA and was confirmed in the Church and attend Mass regularly and partake in the sacraments. She is an avowed atheist and always has been. I know I came into the Church of my own free will, so I fully understood what it meant when I came into full Communion with the Church. Even though my wife committed adultery and forced the divorce upon me against my will, I am now forced into a life of celibacy unless I pursue an annulment. I am not going to lie, it is extremely difficult to contemplate living the rest of my life alone in the earthly sense (I always have my beloved Jesus and the Angels and Saints). It is a struggle every day. When priests take their vows, they know what they are signing up for. I guess I did too when I heeded the call to join the one true Church. But I definitely did not fully appreciate how hard it would be. Please pray for me. O my Jesus! Forgive us our sins. Save us from the fires of Hell. Lead all Souls to Heaven, especially those who are in most need of Thy Mercy!
@whatsup3270
Жыл бұрын
typically an annulment based on form is issued when this occurs. Form meaning the grounds of the earlier pledge were insufficient.
@bruno-bnvm
Жыл бұрын
Ask for annulment if they don't want ti do it go to another parish
@lantran8967
Жыл бұрын
You are very strong. Please focus on God and your rewards will be great.
@sammig.8286
Жыл бұрын
I thought marriage was only sacramental if it was between two baptized Christians. If your wife is atheist and not baptized, then it wasn't a sacramental marriage. You should ask a priest about it, though.
@rosaritamaria4414
11 ай бұрын
Did you become baptized after you were married? Look into the Pauline Principle. It would cover this scenario.
@alexabihabib8215
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for the explanation and for your compassion! As someone not yet married, learning about this just makes marriage even more beautiful
@christinehenley9017
Жыл бұрын
I am newly divorced but am opting to not seek an annulment. I knew exactly what I was agreeing to with God. He's already remarried but that's not my problem. 😊
@dellchica2373
Жыл бұрын
Same
@wickedhenderson4497
8 ай бұрын
Same also
@Lancer-y5g
8 ай бұрын
Good for you people. There are thousands of invalid annulments and people are going to find this out when they face God. Shame on these tribunals
@daviddsouza735
6 ай бұрын
What happens when civil divorce is not new, like 3 years and following a period of about 8 years separation?
@nbenefiel
Жыл бұрын
My great aunt married and moved from Detroit to San Francisco, away from her family. He beat her, pretty much isolated her, and brought his mistress home and expected her to wait on both of them. Finally, my great grandfather and grandfather went out and brought her and her baby home. She was in her early 20’s. She lived to be 90. She never divorced him, never dated, and lived alone for the rest of her life. She married in the church. There was no chance of an annulment. It seemed a pretty grim life to me. I BTW married in the church and have been married for 45 years. We’ve gone through some very difficult times but never considered divorcing.
@kp9894
Жыл бұрын
Just had my finals in Theology regarding marriage in the Catholic context, and I am so glad all of the studying I did lead me to understand fully all parts of this video. Thank you Fr. Casey! ❤
@leonunez8335
Жыл бұрын
Question... My Mom and her husband got married in their early 20s... marriage only lasted like 1 year.. they've been separated ever since... she is almost 50 now and has been with her BF for 20+yrs... my mom filed for divorce, but her husband never wants to accept her divorce.. If my mom gets divorced would she be able to marry again or no?
@tasiaflynn3549
Жыл бұрын
Thank you is the word of God Almighty
@glimmeringgirl
Жыл бұрын
I'm getting married in December in my church. I'm 36 so a little older, I am happy I waited for the right one and we are going through the pre-cana classes now
@StAlphonsusHasAPosse
Жыл бұрын
Congratulations! May your marriage be blessed
@anthony1776diaz
Жыл бұрын
Congrats!
@joncarsello7987
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for explaining the meaning of the marriage covenant. The clarity you bring to this and other issues is fantastic. I never finish watching one of your videos without learning something new about my religion.
@macdisciple
Жыл бұрын
In 1978 my father, Catholic, and facing the shame of divorce, took his life.
@bman5257
Жыл бұрын
I’m very sorry to hear about that. I will pray for him tonight.
@icarojose6316
Жыл бұрын
Thats terrible to hear, the good news is that if he repents from all his heart there is still hope for him
@Lancer-y5g
8 ай бұрын
Your mother was abandoning the marriage?
@daviddsouza735
6 ай бұрын
More conversation can we have please?
@frankrault3190
Жыл бұрын
Thank you father Casey, your words mean a lot to me and some of my friends!
@deusx.machinaanime.3072
Жыл бұрын
In the Philippines 🇵🇭, a mainly Catholic nation, it is still illegal to get a divorce. The Catholic Church in the Phillipines will have to go back to the Vatican in Rome to “annul” a Catholic Filipino marriage. The country of the Philippines 🇵🇭 is the last country in the world to still prohibit divorce. The second last was, as far as I know, was Malta 🇲🇹 ( in 2011)
@andrear7181
3 ай бұрын
And my country, Chile, was til 2004 one of the 3 countries that did not allow divorce. We approved the law and 20 years later it has been a total disaster. Half of married couples are divorced now.
@Angel-il4er
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for clarifying this. It probably will help a lot of people. I am a catholic and got married in the faith. When I became disabled and medically retired my husband left me for my best friend who i discovered he had been having an affair with for years. He was an alcoholic for many years and so could not support our children. Eventually I instigated a divorce. I was banned not only from all sacraments but from even going to mass or entering the church. I have never even thought about having another relationship; Yet he was allowed to marry his latest girlfriend in the same church. Since moving to another area where I was welcomed back into the church, I know realise that the decisions made where not Gods but mans. Anyone in the same position should seek out another parish and forgive the people involved. I understand now It is their will and not Gods that they are undertaking.
@Rikkoshaye
Жыл бұрын
I'm so sorry you went through that, it sounds absolutely awful
@Angel-il4er
Жыл бұрын
@@Rikkoshaye Thanks! One thing it taught me was how precious the gift of faith is. I used to walk my dog at sunset or sunrise and look up to the sky and pray and read the bible. I realised then that this beautiful world we live in, that he created for us could become my church and no one appart me could take my beliefs away from me. So in a way it made my faith in God deeper and more personal.
@dellchica2373
Жыл бұрын
So sorry😢
@ModernLady
Жыл бұрын
I’m going through an annulment now as a preparation for coming into full communion in the Catholic Church. So far it has been a pleasant experience. I only wish it could go a little faster, especially since my case is quite simple and I really, really want to take communion and get confirmed.
@AnABSOLUTEBarbarian
Жыл бұрын
You shouldn’t need an annulment. If you don’t have communion and confirmation, you couldn’t have had a liturgical service wedding and therefore weren’t married in The Church. Since the marriage lacked form it wouldn’t be considered valid and you wouldn’t qualify for an annulment.
@ModernLady
Жыл бұрын
@@AnABSOLUTEBarbarian unfortunately not true. Non-Catholic marriage are automatically considered valid. If I had been Catholic, it would be a lack of form, but since I wasn’t my case don’t go under that. My ex is not validly baptised, so it’s not sacramental, but it still have to go through the whole process of annulment.
@rosaritamaria4414
11 ай бұрын
Good things come to those who wait. Patience is a virtue
@ModernLady
11 ай бұрын
@@rosaritamaria4414Absolutely! I got my response about a month ago. Marriage is annulled. Waiting for my confirmation now.
@deborahcopping4513
Жыл бұрын
Thank you Father Casey. I converted to Catholicism when I was married in the US. I did grow up catholic here in Australia and even catholic high school. I assumed my marriage was great. I loved my husband and gave up a lot to come to Ohio. So when he ended it, as I found out later he had been cheating for 2 years. He sent me back to Western Australia. I had been in Ohio for 13 years. I had to rebuild my life over. I found my local parish and was enjoying it. This is until a sermon one Sunday talked about divorce. It was stated that the husband is free but the wife will always be committing adultery. I met with the priest for clarification, and was told this again. I’ve stayed away from the church for 8 years as I was made to feel horrible. My two grandkids are now in the local Catholic primary school. I found your channel and Upon Friar review. It’s definitely been a sign from god to go back to church 🙏 so a very big thank you from Western Australia.
@whatsup3270
Жыл бұрын
Something went terribly wrong on two different issues. Its sad the husband left and you now join a huge group of Catholics abandon by the spouse and treated roughly by the Church. Second the communication that marriage treated men different than women is simply wrong. That is not and has never been a catholic teaching rule or law.
@deborahcopping4513
Жыл бұрын
@@whatsup3270 what’s worse is the woman he cheated on me was a “mutual” friend. She’s catholic and cheated on her husband. My ex and her announced their engagement 3 weeks after our divorce was finalised. They married 5 months later. He was abusive to me, but I was in love.
@c.m.cordero1772
Жыл бұрын
Priest needs re-education. And most likely therapy.
@hismajesty6272
Жыл бұрын
As a Protestant in a heavily Catholic community, this was very helpful.
@isaksitorus8498
Жыл бұрын
Dear Father Casey, thank you for this video. God bless you ❤🙏
@RobertTLongway
Жыл бұрын
Just proposed (and she said yes) over the weekend, so this is the wildest video you could have posted today
@nikki27ish
Жыл бұрын
Congratulations
@rosaritamaria4414
11 ай бұрын
CONGRATULATIONS!!!🎊🎉
@daytimestudios3678
Жыл бұрын
I think I have the same catechism! Great resources but it’s little bit hard to understand. I have traumatic brain injury a long time ago but it’s frustrating because I have aphasia. All kinds for this book, catechism! I got it 2022 December for Christmas, our lord and savior!!!! Thank you friar/priest!
@steveciccarelli3609
Жыл бұрын
My only comment: I wish we had social media and Father Casey decades and generations ago. I was clueless as a young adult (at least I was able to get an annulment while they were uncommon).
@gray-stans-chihiro
Жыл бұрын
Good video! I hadn’t considered that divorce without remarriage might not be a sin or incur excommunication. I worry a little that this might confuse separation and “no longer married,” though a charitable interpretation of what people mean by divorce could allow for the former. Keep up the good work!
@gomerpyle7721
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for your litigious breakdown of marriage. It was helpful.
@steveciccarelli3609
Жыл бұрын
Decades ago I thought that I could NOT end the marriage BUT if my spouse left I could get an annulment. NOT THAT SIMPLE!!
@jajuanurisantos2040
Жыл бұрын
First and love your vids I pray that you grow in wisdom each day and that you may be blessed by the lord every day
@tomnenos9461
Жыл бұрын
I received my Declaration of Nullity in 1987. My current spouse was also granted an Annulment from her first marriage the same year. We have been remarried in the Catholic Church for 35 years. The process in 1987 was very daunting. Pope Francis has made significant changes to this most misunderstood process in the Catholic Church. In our archdiocese, the Archbishop has told the Metropolitan Tribunal that all cases should be completed within 1 calendar year of their submittal. Thanks for this video, especially the part about receiving the Eucharist and other sacraments.
@Fiat.Voluntas.Tua22
Жыл бұрын
I am divorced and Catholic. I now know we have no authority to break this covenant. I now live a chaste life. This is God's law. Even if the church decides divorce is ok...well they can't.
@Michellesvintagelibrary
3 ай бұрын
Oh good lord. You people and your legalistic nonsense are killing me.
@alphacause
Жыл бұрын
In a culture where everything is treated as disposable, it is nice to have institutions like the Roman Catholic Church, that remind us that certain things, like the bond of matrimony, should not be treated so flippantly. It comes as no surprise that as society has become so cavalier about the bond between a man and woman can also see human life, the very product of this bond, as nothing more than an inconvenience that can be discarded.
@c.m.cordero1772
Жыл бұрын
I think marriage has always been disposable (at least in spirit )and I’d love to see a time in which human life is cherished at any age.
@justanotheryoutubefan8070
Жыл бұрын
Well done Father. Off topic, will Upon Friar Review ever come back? I miss you and Fr. Patrick!
@Noone-rt6pw
Жыл бұрын
This is very good topic. Modern knowledge of relationships can head off problems before they start. Mother Angelica knew the feeling of walking in on an argument, evidently she was not skilled in relationships! Which the Bible tells us what to do, not how to do it. But we have plenty of knowledge on relationships, social interactions, conflict resolution, etc. Just like eating swine when we have such a huge wide selection to choose from, where it's a choice to eat a pig, not necessity as it was a 1/2 century ago and prior. Same with marriage, family life, etc.
@fan.80s_90s
Жыл бұрын
Father, can you do a video in relation to visit Orthodox Church, Coptic Church as well as visiting Catholic rites Churches like Alexandrian rites and Byzantine rites in communion with the Catholic Church.
@sftrick
Жыл бұрын
Hmm my great aunt was married for probably 40 years and was always a stay at home mom, when her husband announced that he had a girlfriend and he'd be moving in with her. They never got divorced but I absolutely think they should have. He never filed for divorce because then a judge would have awarded my great aunt 1/2 of his money plus spousal support for the rest of her life. She spent the rest of her life alone and with no money to do anything.
@c.m.cordero1772
Жыл бұрын
She should have filed.
@jacquelinewinter7312
11 ай бұрын
she still had a right to financial support, could have sued for that even without the divorce
@andrear7181
3 ай бұрын
That was her choice. I don´t know if she was catholic, in order to get some justice with the money. Now, even if the get the divorce for finantial reasons, the thing is we can´t get married again.
@brianfarley926
Жыл бұрын
My understanding is I can have what is called a secular divorce but under the eyes of God we’re still married and if I want to get married again one should see if the previous marriage can be annulled if it was lacking in some way. When my wife and I got married she had to have her previous marriage annulled and for reasons I won’t go into it fit into that category to be annulled. Once that was done we got married in the Church
@annarosales1491
Жыл бұрын
I live in the only predominantly Catholic country in Asia, divorce is not allowed here, the bill on divorce was shot down in congress a few years back. Annulment is allowed. And I have almost memorised the prerequisites as one of my friends went through and one of my siblings is a lawyer.
@anthony1776diaz
Жыл бұрын
Philippines?
@alexsullo9855
Жыл бұрын
Divorced people can receive communion, but not those who are divorced and remarried without an annulment
@whatsup3270
Жыл бұрын
the "remarried" can not be a Church marriage which is another issue. In the eyes of thh Church there is no "remarried" state.
@angelaspielbusch1237
Жыл бұрын
Great explanation thank you so much for sharing
@maryhildreth754
Жыл бұрын
You could also just break with the Church, declare yourself the head of the Church in your country, outlaw the practice of Catholicism, seize the monasteries, and then marry Ann Boleyn anyway. ;-)
@Eye_of_a_Texan
Жыл бұрын
Not to mention all the murdering.
@paulcooper8818
Жыл бұрын
It worked out well for the last guy, so 👍
@rfs103
Жыл бұрын
I had an annulment. I’m Byzantine rite, and according to byzantine canon law - if someone reaches their third annulment they are not permitted to marry again.
@pyrovania
Жыл бұрын
That actually makes sense. It is a "you are not good at this so stop trying" edict.
@aaronsiebold114
Жыл бұрын
I am critical of church doublespeak where in the text that prohibits remarriage after divorce also prohibits what God joined together let man not SEPARATE, but the church tolerates separation and “civil divorce”
@andrear7181
3 ай бұрын
Separation does not mean divorce. And the Church can´t put at risk the life and health of the innocent spouse and the kids. But you can´t remarry of you are separted.
@taurinenrgy
Жыл бұрын
But in my Bible it says in Matthew 19-9 “unless for fornication” not unlawful. Can someone explain?
@Jesusandbible
9 ай бұрын
Why are you erasing comments about the great division among Catholics over annulments?
@pbrgamer8003
Жыл бұрын
Brilliant video.
@marvind7807
Жыл бұрын
My girlfriend and I agreed to get married next year and this video really helped me a lot to understand more about marriage and matrimony. Friends pray for me. Lord Jesus have mercy on me.
@anthony1776diaz
Жыл бұрын
Congratulations and Godspeed.
@gomezjkv
Жыл бұрын
I’m unable to find the words, “unless the marriage is unlawful”. Where can I find this?
@manub.3847
Жыл бұрын
It is quite interesting that in my country, even a legal marriage can only be annulled for a valid reason. Otherwise there is only the official divorce. For example: -One spouse was unconscious at the time of marriage or had a temporary mental disorder. This can be caused, for example, by heavy alcohol or drug consumption. - At the time of the marriage, one spouse did not know that it was a marriage. -A spouse was fraudulently deceived in order to enter into marriage. If the other spouse had known about this deception, he might not have entered into the marriage. However, this point does not apply to fraudulent financial circumstances. Basically, it is all about serious contagious diseases such as HIV or concealed impotence. -One spouse was forced into marriage by threats. -It was already agreed at the time of marriage that both spouses did not want to pursue their marital obligations. This is what is known as a sham marriage. ** Sounds almost like the rules of the Catholic Church, just more explicit
@c.m.cordero1772
Жыл бұрын
There are civil annulments in the US as well.
@johns1834
Жыл бұрын
@@c.m.cordero1772 A civil annulment is not the same as an annulment by the Church.
@c.m.cordero1772
Жыл бұрын
@@johns1834 I understand that. Both institutions can annul marriages, though.
@johns1834
Жыл бұрын
@@c.m.cordero1772 Suggest you ask a Priest and not guess.
@c.m.cordero1772
Жыл бұрын
@@johns1834 I don’t have to ask a priest. I know. Civil marriages can be annulled under certain circumstances. It’s secular law. Marriages in the Catholic church can be annulled according to church law. Two different things. Don’t know what point you’re trying to make.. I suggest you go see a divorce lawyer and find out for yourself.
@lukebrown5395
Жыл бұрын
Amen, great explanation.
@shawn6157
Жыл бұрын
Perhaps I'm selfish. Nonetheless, when are you and Fr Patrick going to release another upload?? ❤ 👍🏻
@RamoneCelso
Жыл бұрын
Going through one... it's horrible, a sad waste. I'm not the one trying to destroy it and I can get an annulment, for sure... so that's "good"
@c.m.cordero1772
Жыл бұрын
I’m sorry you are going through that.
@AnnulmentProof
6 ай бұрын
If "divorced people are allowed to receive Communion," then it's never unjust because there's never a guilty spouse. Then how can it be a "grave offense" if no party is guilty?
@maddief775
Жыл бұрын
I am preparing to become engaged to my boyfriend and I have been watching many videos about Catholic marriage to prepare my heart for this major step. Are there any resources you recommend for Catholic women preparing for marriage?
@francikeen
Жыл бұрын
Archbishop Fulton Sheen wrote a good book titled, "Three To Get Married."
@steveciccarelli3609
Жыл бұрын
I have my theory of marriage and children: i think of a triangle with God at the top and a single person at the bottom, but the triangle is incomplete. Then that person takes a spouse and they become one. BUT now the triangle is incomplete again. Then come children and the triangle is complete: God, husband/wife and children.
@a.o.1993
Жыл бұрын
Emily Wilson here on youtube is a Catholic writer and speaker and has a series on 'Navigating Engagement'. It's a paid course, but she has videos on her channel related to engagement and marriage
@DarkAngel-cj6sx
Жыл бұрын
I hope the person you are going to marry understand that it is until death
@garrettstephens91
Жыл бұрын
"Ask Your Husband" by Stephanie Gordon "Marry Him and be Submissive" by Costanza Miriano "Habbits For A Healthy Marriage" by Richard Fitzgibbons and "Three To Get Married" by Archbishop Fulton Sheen
@njodzekadzelamonyuy2766
Жыл бұрын
I’m a single man and I am in love with Jesus as His true follower and nothing on earth will make me leave Christ, for inasmuch as I spiritually experience Christ, I must one days see Him in his eternal glory. Jesus is my only prize and His Holy Name makes me cry so much, tears of joy and longing for Christ always. Christ is my only 🏆 prize!!!
@archsword2446
Жыл бұрын
Philippines the only country that do not have divorce laws only annulment.
@windsongshf
Жыл бұрын
I was looking at the Catholic church, but then the marriage thing scared me. I've been married 3 times. My husband is the love of my life and If we had met when we were younger we would have had a bunch of kids! But alas.
@c.m.cordero1772
Жыл бұрын
At least you found the love of your life.
@kspencerian
Жыл бұрын
The video's great. A deep dive into the two special exceptions where one or both parties are not baptized--the Pauline and Petrine Privileges--would be a great addendum here.
@pikachuuprising637
Жыл бұрын
One question. Can I as a catholic marry a person who was divorced and whose marriage was only a civil one?
@whatsup3270
Жыл бұрын
The non-catholic has to be found free to marry which can be easier via "form" and there is more as in a dispensation for the catholic. So to the local volunteer marriage ministers you go.
@Murph_gaming
Жыл бұрын
So if two Catholics marry and one of them cheats on their spouse does that qualify for annulment?
@nathanbanks2354
17 күн бұрын
As a protestant, I find the interpretation of "porneia" as "unless the marriage is unlawful" curious. I've usually thought of it as sexual immorality including adultery, prostitution, & fornication, which is somewhat unusual because it's different than "moicheuo" the word used only for adultery. (Note that porneia is a noun whereas moicheuo is a verb, and though both words have an equivalent noun/verb form, porneia is usually a noun whereas moicheuo is usually a verb in the NT.)
@TheRoseCat6_11
Жыл бұрын
thanks for the Catholic content!
@sammagowen1448
Жыл бұрын
Is anything considered differently if a person already divorced and remarried by the state and their own knowledge converts to Catholicism? Or if the previous marriage wasn't between two Catholics? Like a Catholic and a Protestant or catholic and atheist
@BreakingInTheHabit
Жыл бұрын
If a non-Catholic Christian is married in a Protestant Church, the Catholic Church recognizes it as a valid marriage, meaning that they cannot get divorced and remarried in the Church. The somewhat ironic situation is that if a Catholic gets married in a Protestant Church or civilly married (without permission from the Church) this is considered an invalid marriage, and so getting divorced does not take an annulment and they are free to marry.
@AdrianSpencerElizalde
Жыл бұрын
The only thing that confuses me is why can’t they start anew and form a healthy and loving relationship with another person after getting a civil divorce or legal separation. I know the bond is unbreakable, but still.
@hollistantang9469
Жыл бұрын
Nice explanation, Friar Casey!!
@psychology4psychos
Жыл бұрын
Father Casey, can you do a video about what this part in the creed means: He will come to judge the living and the dead. I have a catechist friend who thinks this means we'll have two judgments. One personal and one as part of mankind. I don't think that's quite right. Please help us clear this up 😅 many thanks from Phoenix Arizona!
@whatsup3270
Жыл бұрын
not 2 judgements for you, one judgement at year death, and a wait until the resurrection when the living (at that time) will be judged but it is their earthly death so really the same judgement just at god's time. Saints ( humans who god accepted at their judgement) will join together then.
@ramona283
Жыл бұрын
I never really understood divorce when I was young because where I grew up (the Philippines), divorce does not even exist. There is no law for it. When you're married, you're married forever! Im more familiar with the concept of annulment than divorce.
@jacquelinewinter7312
11 ай бұрын
what happens to victims in abusive marriages?
@andrear7181
3 ай бұрын
In Chile it was the same til 2004 we passed a a law to get divorced. 20 years later it has been a total disaster, half of married couple end up in a divorce.
@andrear7181
3 ай бұрын
@@jacquelinewinter7312 Before the divorce law of 2004, here in Chile you could get legallly separated, and file for child support. But you could not marry again.
@cinnamondan4984
Жыл бұрын
My grandfather left the church because of this issue as I was told. Ironically his Protestant wife decades later became a stalwart Catholic
@user-ub7hm2cg9o
3 ай бұрын
I am a Catholic, my wife and I have been married for over 12 years. I love her deeply but our marriage has severely declined in recent years. My wife filed for divorce and told her lawyer she is not interested in reconciliation. I am unsure of what to do, only communication is via our attorneys.
@johns1834
Жыл бұрын
Used to be episcopalian, where marriage/divorce/remarriage is just fine, along with homosexuality, and murder/abortion. The episcopal church of today basically completely ignores what the Bible says. Luckily, we found our way to the Catholic Church and are currently in the process of completing our annulments. It is definitely not a simple process and has taken over a year. Our Priest is really GREAT! Yes, we are openly living in sin, do not recieve the Eucharist yet, actually refrain from sexual intimacy, pending the annulments, and hope to be in full communion soon. Please pray for us. We decided to take Mary's advice and simply, "Do whatever He tells you." Thank God for the Catholic Church.
@NAJALU
Жыл бұрын
Imagine waiting on an old man in a silly hat to tell you who you can love and under what circumstances?
@c.m.cordero1772
Жыл бұрын
Are a man and a woman living together as basically brother and sister “ living in sin”?
@johns1834
Жыл бұрын
@@NAJALU Not aware that God wears a silly hat.
@whatsup3270
Жыл бұрын
fyi - Living in a Natural State of Marriage outside the Church is not a sin, however you should not receive communion ( it is actually participate in Eucharistic celebrations ). If you live celibate you can complete your other sacraments and take communion.
@johns1834
Жыл бұрын
@@whatsup3270 True, no argument there. Marriage outside the Church natural or otherwise is not a sin. Divorce is not a sin either. It is divorce and remarriage that is the sin per Jesus's own words. Mark 10:11 And he said to them, “Whoever divorces his wife and marries another, commits adultery against her; 12 and if she divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery.” The only way around that is to show the 1st marriage was never a valid union in God's eyes, such as a 'shotgun' marriage' for example, hence the annulment process.
@abc123fhdi
Жыл бұрын
Even though I'm not Catholic, I wanted to comment that there is someone in my church who got divorced and likes judging people who aren't married. He is seeing another woman, so arguably this is a sin and he shouldn't be judging people who aren't living in sin, just as Christ and most of the apostles were single and Paul teaches that marriage isn't for everyone, perhaps he could learn something from this before being a judge of others.
@stevekopcial129
7 ай бұрын
My wife had a 2 and a half year affair,during our separation she became Catholic, after our divorce she married her boyfriend, Does God recognize the marriage?
@AnABSOLUTEBarbarian
Жыл бұрын
4:55 AMEN!
@faithoverfear1722
10 ай бұрын
I am a convert and remarried my husband in 2019. We married at our baptist church and about two years later in 2021 became Catholic. He has had a mental breakdown at the begging of this year and ended up in jail. I waited fpr him to get out woth the hopes that we could figure out how to make our family work. He got out and is still very much out of his mind. He is not the same person he was. To make matters worse he is very angry at me and tells me we are not married. Right now i am worried for the safety of my boys because we do not know what je would do if he saw us. I have thought about divorce just so that I could have a custody agreement in place until he is willing to seek help. But I was not sure if that is allowed.
@Michellesvintagelibrary
3 ай бұрын
“Allowed”. Do you hear yourself? You and your children’s safety is at stake and you’re worried about legalism? Consider what Jesus thought and said about the legalism of the religious leaders of his time. And apply that to today. Jesus is not a fan of legalism. He is concerned about the fact that you’re throwing your precious life away. You’re not a martyr. You’re an enabler of sin. Leave that marriage immediately.
@matthewjohnson4623
9 күн бұрын
For an annulment, does it have to be agreed upon by both the husband and the wife? If one party was coerced into it so they entered into it under distress, and the other party won’t let go, can it still be annulled?
@BreakingInTheHabit
9 күн бұрын
If that can be proven, that’s enough
@justsayin5609
Жыл бұрын
Question Padre. If a marriage takes place but not in the church (ie with a Justice of the Peace) and then ends in divorce for a practicing Catholic, what is their status then?
@violet18
9 ай бұрын
That's a good question. I wonder if there are different rules because the marriage did not take place in the Catholic Church. I've been researching but I don't have a clear answer.
@opencurtin
Жыл бұрын
Pray for Fr Casey he is a shining light in a world that seems to have gone astray .
@maximilianomadrigal6661
Жыл бұрын
so if you're abandoned, your spouse leaves you, stops being catholic, moves on and wants nothing to do with you, is the abandoned spouse just suppose to remain faithful to that spouse? even if you did nothing wrong, trying to win back an ex when they aren't interested is basically stalking, is the abandoned spouse just supposed to never move on and be happy?
@whatsup3270
Жыл бұрын
Yes, that is correct and thus the great error. The scripture teachings are about preventing this and once it happens the current teachings achieve opposite the desired results. The Church imposes exactly what it is against. The good catholic that played by all the rules lives alone in perpetuity hoping one day the spouse will return. A change is needed, the Church should but will not recognize the self evident state of abandonment. Even a decade later the Church refuses to see the two are not one. And there is more, to seek an annulment on the grounds of one spouse misrepresenting their desire to be married, that spouse which did the abandonment must cooperate which they often don't desire to do since they are hiding from their responsibilities and are often catholic and don't want to address the multigenerations in the family who are upset about the actions. . For millions of Catholics in this state it is a painful way to live.
@bruno-bnvm
Жыл бұрын
@@whatsup3270You are not promised a happy life. You go to die in Christ. Even if things go south.
@Michellesvintagelibrary
3 ай бұрын
@@whatsup3270This is the fruit of legalism, friends. It’s not pretty. It’s like living in an alternate universe. No thanks. I’ll take common sense over legalism any day!
@c.m.cordero1772
Жыл бұрын
My parents’ marriage was a sin. We all suffered from the commission of it.
@whatsup3270
Жыл бұрын
maybe the actions of your parents were the root problem.
@c.m.cordero1772
Жыл бұрын
@@whatsup3270 their actions were definitely the root problem.
@daviddsouza735
6 ай бұрын
We say its a covenant and with this usually is a blood sacrifice. Im leading to the issue of being virgin when marrying and 8 think the church is missing on something or possibly not telling.
@BenSmith-jh2ms
Жыл бұрын
This was really helpful
@lemonprime7889
Жыл бұрын
Sorry Fr. Casey Cole, but I'd like to have a bit of fun with this one. What about if, a person divorces, and then remarries, but the marriage is a "Josephine" (i.e. virginal) marriage? What if they marry, but choose to never consummate it, living instead like brother and sister? Would the remarriage still be sinful?
@christiandpaul2022
Жыл бұрын
Just a reminder - First Friday is today and First Saturday is tomorrow AND the Feast of Corpus Christy is coming up!!!!
@Danny-nd1hh
Жыл бұрын
I am Protestant. I am currently married. I was married twice before. I was married thru a justice of the peace the first 2 times. Which were short. I am married to my third wife. We were married through our pastor and church. My question is. If I was thinking of changing to become Catholic. Will there be a major issue to achieve that?
@marktapia8327
Жыл бұрын
I would suggest there could be a 7th criterion for a valid Catholic marriage… that actually (at least traditionally speaking) takes place after the ceremony… and that is consummation. Or could this be apart of lifelong vows?
@BreakingInTheHabit
Жыл бұрын
I think that's probably implied in the part about being open to children. If you never actually attempt or do what's necessary for children, it's not a valid marriage.
@marktapia8327
Жыл бұрын
@@BreakingInTheHabit completely fair. That makes sense.
@whatsup3270
Жыл бұрын
@@BreakingInTheHabit maybe a "Pauline Marriage" review
@owenfulkerson7291
Жыл бұрын
If you read JPII’s theology of the body, a point he makes again and again is that marriage is a full gift of oneself to their spouse. In order for it to be a full gift, you must give your body in the conjugal act. This of course helps show that you have become one flesh. I would definitely agree that consummation is part of the marriage and you are not fully married until the act is done
@c.m.cordero1772
Жыл бұрын
@@BreakingInTheHabit if you’re both 70 that will likely not be an issue. I think the marriage is still valid.
@themobbit9061
Жыл бұрын
That was very clear and concise. Thank you. I learned that the Catholic translation in Matt 19:9 for unlawful marriage “porneia” meant incestuous as described in Lev 18. Did the new definition you described replace its meaning at some point? Maybe I’m understanding this wrong
@carolinpurayidom4570
Жыл бұрын
Porniea just means immoral or unlawful sexual relations just in general.
@themobbit9061
Жыл бұрын
@@carolinpurayidom4570My Catholic concordance says this about Matthew’s reference to “unless the marriage is unlawful”: Matthew gives as a reason why a marriage must be broken refers to a situation peculiar to his community: the violation of Mosaic law forbidding marriage between persons of certain blood and/or legal relationship (Lv 18:6-18). Marriages of that sort were regarded as incest (porneia).
@icarojose6316
Жыл бұрын
@@themobbit9061my bible is in portuguese and it says unlawful too
@themobbit9061
Жыл бұрын
@@icarojose6316 I’m curious, is there an index in that chapter of Matthew which explains what “unlawful” meant to Jews - incestuous relations as described in Leviticus 18?
@seranonable
10 ай бұрын
Okay, so I have a question... I got married young before I was religious, and it was literally a court room wedding with no fanfare. We literally just signed papers and went home. The reason for this was because I had just joined the Army and I was shipping out to basic training the next day. The military doesn't consider "girlfriends" to be a thing. This was during the height of the Iraq war and if I got deployed (which I eventually did) I didn't want her to be without support from the system. The eventual divorce was about as anti-climatic as well. 1.) Is that even a valid marriage as far as the catholic church is concerned? 2.) am I not saved if I remarry? (I wouldn't even ask if it weren't for there being someone I loved who I expressed my intent to out of a desire to do the right thing by God... but now I feel even more trapped than before) I have bad anxiety and scrupulosity and this stuff just tortures me to no end.
@Michellesvintagelibrary
3 ай бұрын
I’m a Catholic and I think these restrictions as you describe are legalistic rubbish leftover from the Middle Ages.
@awesomelipe8396
Жыл бұрын
Thank you father.
@angelosusa4258
Жыл бұрын
I’m Catholic and not married but I feel the only time a marriage should be annulled is from adultery or unfaithfulness also I feel some couples divorce because they aren’t ready for marriage life, divorce is harsh on men a relative of mine is divorced while the former wife doesn’t need to pay child support. Ridiculous
@sammig.8286
Жыл бұрын
Annulment also make sense if two people didn't realize they were closely related when they got married. If a marriage is incestuous, then it should be declared null. Another reason would be if one person was forced into the marriage unwillingly. If they didn't freely consent, it was not a valid marriage.
@rosaritamaria4414
11 ай бұрын
Let’s add abuse and addiction
@rickdockery9620
Жыл бұрын
We take marriage extremely seriously in the LCMS church. No annulments. Just what the Bible teaches. I worked for the judicial vicar in college and rubber stamped annulments. I wouldn’t say the church takes it overly serious. It does depend on your diocese though. Just simpler to follow scripture in my opinion
@Michellesvintagelibrary
3 ай бұрын
Wow. Legalism is definitely not “easier”. You know what is easier? Common sense.
@generalyousif0
Жыл бұрын
I want one about dating, Fr Casey. That topic is controversial, because some tend to be extremely rigid towards it, so I want your opinion
@BreakingInTheHabit
Жыл бұрын
I think you need a comma in that first sentence 😉. As for the video idea, it's not my forte, but let me think about it.
@generalyousif0
Жыл бұрын
@@BreakingInTheHabit 😂 oh no, that made me burst out laughing. But jokes aside. I’m really interested in your take about what’s appropriate and isn’t. I asked my priest and he tended to agree with my own opnion on how to go about things But I seen ppl online even condemning hand holding and hugging, to even claim it’s a mortal sin,which I disagreed with strongly.
@PedanticAntics
Жыл бұрын
My devout catholic grandmother divorced her cheating, abusive husband when he refused to stop sleeping with other women. _The church excommunicated her for it._
@whatsup3270
Жыл бұрын
99% of the time the word "excommunication" is used incorrectly. Nothing in that post would qualify for a review on excommunication.
@BreakingInTheHabit
Жыл бұрын
I'm sorry to hear about this situation as it is seems like there was a lot of trauma and then misunderstanding stacked upon it. The Church does not excommunicate for this, and it never has. As I said in the video, she has no right to remarry, but leaving that relationship is supported by the law of the Church. (And frankly, it's situations like these that inspired me to make this video. There is so much misunderstanding.)
@whatsup3270
Жыл бұрын
I would encourage you to read a newer comment by maximillianmadrigal6661 whose question and answer would likely help understand your grandmothers condition.
@PedanticAntics
Жыл бұрын
@BreakingInTheHabit Then it would seem somebody in a position of authority in her church had grossly misinformed her.
@davidandrews4454
Жыл бұрын
I have a question for anyone with knowledge. I was baptised when i was 14 but not fully submerged, the priest poured water on my head 3 times is it a legitimate baptism or was it not enough water? Its a fear that i have had come up in my thoughts many times in my life and it kinda scares me as i want to be with God both in this life and when I enter his kingdom.
@whatsup3270
Жыл бұрын
The post begs the question of "Why would someone think total immersion was needed?" There are several parts to a valid Baptism being submerged is not one of them. There are also forms of Baptism without water. Since you wrote "priest" licit is presumed and even an error (illicit) would not block a valid baptism. licit is church responsibility to perform correctly, valid is the responsibility of the (person) penitent.
@davidandrews4454
Жыл бұрын
@@whatsup3270 appreciate the answer even tho I struggle with understanding some of the more difficult wording you used. So you are saying its the church and priests responsibility of performing it correctly and my responsibility to get baptised?
@whatsup3270
Жыл бұрын
@@davidandrews4454 As an adult it is your responsibility to understand the sacrament, request the sacrament of your own free will, be qualified for the sacrament, and live the sacrament. The form is on the Church and the Priest.
@rosaritamaria4414
11 ай бұрын
If you were baptized in a Catholic Church, you are not going to be “submerged.” It’s a baptism, not a swimming lesson.
@shelbysteverson4841
7 ай бұрын
So what if the girl I want to marry was married once, but left her husband on the grounds that he refused to give up drug abuse, lied, and mentally and verbally abused her? They were never catholic, but their marriage was still a religious one. Is she eligible for annulment?
@Michellesvintagelibrary
3 ай бұрын
If you have to even ask such a thing…you are definitely in a highly legalistic church. Obviously that marriage is invalid. The fact that the RCC makes you jump through legalistic hoops to “prove” it is ridiculous.
@cathybishop2916
Жыл бұрын
Where did upon friar review go???????
@noni-ayannaroach8180
5 ай бұрын
This sacrament is leading me back to the Church. (Raised protestant and it is not honored much )
@AnnulmentProof
4 ай бұрын
How is marriage leading you back to the Church?
@Michellesvintagelibrary
3 ай бұрын
There’s a huge difference between the two extremes of not honoring the commitment of marriage and the other extreme of seeing it as so permanent that you must accept abuse. To accept abuse is to enable and encourage the sin of the abuser. This is another legalistic extreme.
@AnnulmentProof
3 ай бұрын
@@Michellesvintagelibrary 100% of marriages are permanent. The church has due separation process (c 1151-55 and 1692-96). Every spouse who files for divorce is guilty until proven innocent.
@manuelvargas467
Жыл бұрын
Thanks father ✝️🙏🛐
@user-ub7hm2cg9o
3 ай бұрын
My wife of 12 years recently filed for divorce. We were married through the Church. She's only communicating via her attorney and we no longer live together. I love her deeply, but her attorney has stated that she is not open to reconciliation.
@andrear7181
3 ай бұрын
I am sorry to hear that. Pray for her, so that she will change her mind. Pray for you so that God will help you to be a faithfull husband. Don´t take your wedding ring off.
@user-ub7hm2cg9o
3 ай бұрын
@@andrear7181 She was arrested for hitting me in front of our kids. Her Mom also hit me and was arrested the same day. Now, we have a custody battle and my wife no longer wishes to continue this marriage. She reaffirmed through her lawyer that she wishes to be divorced. I am not sure there is any possibility of reconciliation but I do hold onto a little bit of hope.
@Michellesvintagelibrary
3 ай бұрын
@@andrear7181Prayer and hope for reconciliation is foolish if someone is physically violent towards you. You’re only encouraging them to sin. It’s completely unacceptable behavior and he should make that crystal clear to her by leaving the marriage, not hoping for reconciliation. People who are violent do not change. It’s a pattern that they keep doing it. The church needs to come out of the Middle Ages and understand psychology.
@user-ub7hm2cg9o
3 ай бұрын
@@Michellesvintagelibrary I completely agree that it is unacceptable that my wife has been physically violent towards me, I pray she gets treatment, lots of therapy, and addresses the underlining psychological conditions that led to the violence. Only then would I be open to reconciliation. She's a good woman that needs to face her demons. I saw her today when we did a children exchange. In front of her, my son asked me if I loved her, I said yes. He then asked her to hug me, she complied. My younger daughter asked her to say hello to my eldest daughter (her step daughter) and she did.
@gypsydonovan
Жыл бұрын
My husband was raised in another faith, married & divorced before we met. It’s my first marriage. His ex has since passed away. Is he divorced or widowed or both? As a widower, is his marriage to me valid or would we have to remarry after her passing? Does it matter if he’s converted to Catholicism ? I actually have a lot of thoughts & questions about marriage. Including lack of children. We tried for years & we’re unable to conceive. I know procreation is not a singular reason for marriage, otherwise partnerships could theoretically be devolved at menopause but it is important. Children were something we both always wanted and we’ve raised my niece & fostered two other kids to “fill the void”. But really my question is if he might not be able to marry despite civil divorce until his first wife dies? Would that make the marriage valid or do vows need to be renewed? Does he remain connected to his first wife in the next stage? When he passes which of us would welcome him? In his former faith, he’s clearly locked into his first marriage forever. Death doesn’t part them.
@BreakingInTheHabit
Жыл бұрын
All of these questions can be easily answered in your interview with the priest or marriage counselor at the Church, but in general, marriage only lasts until death. If his previous wife died, he is no longer married, regardless of the circumstances.
@joejackson6205
Жыл бұрын
I would add, if you two married before the first wife died, then she did die, through no fault of his, then you two should consider a sacramental marriage.
@rmdodsonbills
Жыл бұрын
@@joejackson6205 This scenario applied to a couple I knew in my hometown and as I understand it, as soon as her first husband finally passed away they both hurried to the sacraments with all due haste.
@whatsup3270
Жыл бұрын
@@joejackson6205 Free to marry is the standard, once he became a widow assuming no other marriages he would be free to marry.
@whatsup3270
Жыл бұрын
Marriages are Temporal ( only during earthly life)
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