Episode Transcript:
Hello again. Many of you have studied and you are aware of child birth order. First, children and being very, very morally minded, difficult on themselves, never feel good enough. Third children being the funny little mascot, Little children being the lost child. We've we studied all of those things. And that you can't be rigid about that because there's too many factors that come into that.
However, what I do want to share with you today is the fact that in a functional family roles, the role you play is chosen and flexible. In the family in which I grew up, I was the family hero. That was never going to change. There was nothing I could do to not be the hero, no matter how many mistakes I made, no matter how many things I did wrong, bad choices.
I was always going to be the hero of the family. Well, if I was the hero, what did that make my brother not the hero? And what did that do to my sister? It meant there was no hero for her role for her. And since she was female, she didn't quite get the consideration that the males got. In a healthy family, there's not that sort of rigidity.
In a healthy family. One day you can be the hero, the next day you can be the scapegoat. One day you can be the funny child, the next day you can be reclusive. One day you can be the athlete. The next day you could be something else. That roles are chosen, not given to you in a manner in which you cannot get out of it.
And they are flexible. You can change. Everybody can be successful. Everybody can be funny. Everybody can be independent. Everybody can be the good child. Sometimes everybody can be the one that's in trouble. But keep the roles chosen and flexible. Don't pigeonhole a kid in a place in which they cannot escape blessings.
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