Dating standards go both ways. If my chance is gone after one “mistake” on our first date, you were never worth my time anyways.
@363catman
Ай бұрын
That has been my experience when she screws up.There's an endless list of excuses to justify her behavior and actions. When she decides you screwed up no explanation is sufficient. Cut your losses immediately and move on. Because she alrrady decided but will gladly let you grovel and take from you until she finds something better. Then you are on the curb.
@games4us132
Ай бұрын
Иногда "ошибки" не такие уж и большие ошибки чтобы мы отказывались от отношений. Я в детстве не выносил некоторого поведения девушек, хотя сейчас, спустя время, я понимаю что это были просто мелочи и можно было все решить обычным разговором.
@likquidsteel
Ай бұрын
The ethos of cancel culture has seeped into modern dating
@leftclickisbeterthanrightclick
Ай бұрын
Its very true and its really stupid. I hate the "what do you bring to the table" thing because it just means u or both are selfish af like people have forgotten what relationships are, the whole "know your worth" is backfiring becuz turns out that you dont know your worth and people now dont want you. Like if i get dumped because i didnt peel an orange then nobody wants the person who dumped me because they ended a relationship for such a stupid reason without giving it a chance.
@voevodineu
Ай бұрын
But unfortunately the time and effort was wasted, so you're in the loss anyways
@Juggerknot79
Ай бұрын
This skit had me dead.😂😂😂 The sigh at the end is literally what every guy does inside when he starts to hear certain delusions.
@ross.gibson
Ай бұрын
Facts! 😂🤣😂
@DavidZ4-gg3dm
Ай бұрын
What's "the sidewalk thing"?
@DavidZ4-gg3dm
Ай бұрын
Her role in dating is to do nothing other than turn up & eat for free!
@andrewpepper3145
Ай бұрын
@@DavidZ4-gg3dmI believe this will be referring to the idea that when walking beside a lady a gentleman will always put himself on the side where the cars are so he's between them and her
@deathistherevenge
29 күн бұрын
@@andrewpepper3145correct. it is a behavior to guarantee the safety of the woman😅
@marccahill1313
Ай бұрын
Chivalry has very little to do with dating. It was the rules knights had to follow in every part of their lives especially warfare and governance. When you look at the full Chivalry code only about .05% of it is about courting/dating.
@spewky2955
Ай бұрын
Finally someone who actually gets it right
@markwendt3496
Ай бұрын
Yeah, and the version of the chivalry code I read was rather interesting. It put God, King, keep, and horse BEFORE women/courting. It certainly would be an eye opener for people to find out what chivalry actually was. Most people might be confusing it with being a gentleman.
@ma-jp8bf
Ай бұрын
Yep, and it was a way to emphasize the difference between the nobility and the lower classes. The courtesies were extended to women of the noble class.
@barnabusdoyle4930
Ай бұрын
You understand the “knight’s code” was not really a thing. All knights, being born of a higher status, were incredibly spoiled in many ways. Most were taught from birth that they were better than anyone not highborn. Thus knights tended to treat the average person like a servant and some knights wouldn’t allow you to look them in the eye. The knight’s code was just as much of a fairy tale as the stuff written by the Grimm brothers.
@devaughnsalter6264
Ай бұрын
@@markwendt3496 And even being a gentleman had nothing to do with women. The codes, as they were, was how to govern one's self so others knew who you were by your actions. Even during the times of knights, some of their actions would be considered rude or unbecoming by today's standards...but they were getting the cheeks with discretion.
@braveryatitsfinest1569
Ай бұрын
What turns men off from holding open doors is a woman walking by acting like you're a doorman. A simple "thank you" can get you far. Men hold the door open for each other all the time. We express our appreciation and keep it moving.
@daniellarson9810
11 күн бұрын
And the ones that stop and tell you to walk through. They refuse to walk through a due that you are holding open.
@goldenhate6649
2 күн бұрын
Its so weird seeing wacky world from the outside. Where I live, everyone holds doors, regardless of who you are, its just about being kind.
@hathorliderc
Ай бұрын
Chivalry is dead...and women killed it.
@SpazzMaticus195
Ай бұрын
Truer words have never been spoken
@svr7823
Ай бұрын
Not women, feminists
@rm6857
Ай бұрын
How there you open the door? I am independent woman.
@HoneyBee0316
Ай бұрын
Absolutely 💯 you want a chivalrous traditional man then be a regal traditional lady.
@RejectedSpiritX
Ай бұрын
@@rm6857what in the hell did you just say?
@jessicaw8941
Ай бұрын
When I was dating my now-husband, his way of taking care of me was making sure I set up my 401k at work, going with me when I was buying a used car, and doing things like checking my tire pressure and oil. When I asked him why, he said he had a "vested interest." It sounds unromantic, but just because he's not the Hollywood version of romantic, it didn't mean he didn't care. Now, on the rare occasion that he has to be away for work, he checks my car, makes sure I have gas, and texts to ask if I turned the outside lights on in the evening and checked the locks. "Testing" a man on what you think "chivalry" is, is setting yourself up to miss the things he is doing right.
@adrianfisher3349
20 күн бұрын
I've been accused of being misogynistic and worse for trying to be a gentleman and treat a woman like a lady. Women killed chivalry.
@goldenhate6649
2 күн бұрын
Shes a grown ass adult, she can open her own car door. The sidewalk thing hasn’t been relevant in half a century, and pull her chair out for her? The fuck?
@spewky2955
Ай бұрын
As an old woman who is married I'd like to say never let these things be a sign that he’s “the one” a man can do all this stuff and still be a dog and cheat on you. Men were doing these things at a time where they were beating the hell out of Deborah and the kids later on. And the “ideal” women or whatever was playing the good girl part and cheating anyway. There's no real way to check if anyones actually going to be faithful and devoted, a lot of people are deceivers wether they follow your boy/girl dating ideals or not. just date carrying resilience and don't let a few bad apples let you think that every guy/girl is a looney head as you slowly turn into a sexist grinch. Seen a lot of young men in particular hold a lot of hate again these days. Both young women and men today are watching videos online and follow what these influencers say like sheep and they both form incredibly narrow mindsets. Humans are all very complex individually,and not a single youtube video on dating advice is going to be the full truth to go by. Think for yourself and find out what's a good thing while actually going on dates instead of sitting at home letting videos influence you so much. Hope this helps someone young who needs to hear it.
@SaidtheSerpent
Ай бұрын
Translation- put your mate acquisition drive to acquiring a female and not thing not a female.
@snakeburrito2512
Ай бұрын
A brilliant and wholesome comment. Though it reminded me of some long ones I wrote and almost nobody read. Whereas my 9 yo kid's ones get more following.
@goldenpony822
Ай бұрын
What a breath of fresh air!
@gowriwarrier2370
Ай бұрын
As a young person, thank you so much for this comment! I needed to hear it.
@shawnpanzegraf5642
Ай бұрын
Yes, a lot of guys *are* angry. It’s not just being done wrong. It’s how the world acting like a man who doesn’t take it in silence is the problem. Comparatively, the pushback against “toxic” behavior on the part of women is like one grain of sand versus the beach’s of the world downing men literally not accepting with perfect equanimity the many ways we get used these days. It took something like 40 years for women to see serious progress from the point that pushing for that progress began to become mainstreamed at the end of the 50’s, but all of that progress didn’t not occur at all until 2000, to kick in all at once. We’re coming up on twenty-five years that guys have been screaming about how unfair divorce, child custody decisions, the cops automatically believing accusations from women sans evidence, (no matter how many get proven to be 100% liars), etc etc etc, yet the needle hasn’t moved *at all* on these issues. Marriage numbers are in absolute free fall, and they’re not going to get better any time soon, with every man in a younger male’s life necessarily chanting, “Marriage will destroy your life. Don’t do it! If you just have to learn for yourself, though, at least get a prenup signed so the judge has something to throw out during the divorce.” This isn’t adolescent, “Waah! The world didn’t turn out to be what I expected!”whining. Shouldn’t we be angry?
@airbots4789
19 күн бұрын
This is a good point, but i think its fair to also mention A lot of men have gotten yelled at by women for doing these exact things. Getting called a misogynist and whatnot. Sonething along the line of "what you think i cant open a door for myself" or "oh you think i cant pay for my own meal?" And for a lot of us who have experienced that, we'd rather just be alone than get yelled at for being nice.
@98DemonZ28
Ай бұрын
I appreciate that you arent afraid to call out women on how they act and how they are hypocritical. Thanks for being the 1% of women who understand both sides.
@sougotokiwa8439
Ай бұрын
Yup
@poeticeclipse
Ай бұрын
The thing is that her audience is over 95% men (she’s said that in videos previously) so who’s this message really getting to? Its just getting men all riled up in the “anti woman” messaging
@98DemonZ28
Ай бұрын
@poeticeclipse while I agree to an extent, It's refreshing to see that there are women who aren't crazy feminazis. I am not a woman hater at all.
@poeticeclipse
Ай бұрын
@@98DemonZ28 I know a lot of women and pretty much none of them act in that extreme “feminazi” way. I think people portray themselves that way on social media for followers and humor. I know those women do exist, don’t get me wrong. It’s just not that common. Billie panders to men under the guise that she “understands” men, but it’s not helpful to men to just hear about how awful women are over and over again.
@98DemonZ28
Ай бұрын
@poeticeclipse that's fair
@363catman
Ай бұрын
This is why your strong independent self needs to be eligible for the draft. Women tend to confuse equality with preferential treatment that benefits them.
@snidecommenter7117
2 күн бұрын
For some strange reason a line from "Animal Farm" just went through my head. "All animals are equal, just some animals are more equal than others."
@Cha-Khia
Ай бұрын
At least the "airhead" character in this scenario actually learned and reflected on her actions.
@elmateo77
14 күн бұрын
That's how you know it's fake. Try explaining this to 100 women and keep track of how many actually listen vs make up excuses or just insult you...
@BrandonStrugy
Ай бұрын
I've been yelled at by so many women for holding the door open for them, for helping them lift heavy things and for not wanting to have smex on the first date. These issues won't stop me from being a man to women but I can see why chivalry is basically dead.
@goldenhate6649
2 күн бұрын
Theres a reason I only do this stuff for my friends (except for doors, I do that in general bc where I live its still normal). But paying for meal? I usually won’t pay for a womans meal anymore if the date doesn’t go well. But I will pay for a friends meal no issue if I invited them to dinner.
@heathers2581
Ай бұрын
I think it's important to recognize the woman's end of communication. In the past I would straight up tell my (now) husband if I was expecting the doors held open but I also let him know that I'll wait at the door if I want him to open it, but sometimes I just want to open it myself. I communicated desires and we find the happy compromise.
@tesserax8183
Ай бұрын
One of my exes said that her ideal partner would "just know" and she wouldn't have to tell him. Yeah, right.
@gaoxiaen1
Ай бұрын
"Chivalry is dead. And women killed it." Dave Chapelle
@Neoteny374
Ай бұрын
There are lots of things...not just sidewalk and doors, but I take the aisle seat, she gets the inside seat at booths,. In general, it's very difficult to bump into my wife when I'm around.
@solakv
16 күн бұрын
@@tesserax8183 Exactly. If she wants a mind reader, she should put that in her darling profile. Then guys can swipe left and avoid them.
@BRACIAKSERO
19 күн бұрын
I quitted acting like a gentleman. It's not worth it.
@onestok
19 күн бұрын
Sorry to be that guy, but it's just "quit"
@BRACIAKSERO
18 күн бұрын
@@onestok I knew it, I knew I wrote that wrong but it kinda sound wrong in the correct form too because no one will know I did it in the past unless I use "have" before "quit". No problem Bro. Thank You for correcting me
@Haroon4Cesc
16 күн бұрын
@@BRACIAKSEROThis response to someone correcting you leads me to believe you're still a gentleman. 🙂
@annewithane7876
Ай бұрын
On the one hand yeah, you can't write someone off because of one little thing. But these things taken together as a whole tell you a lot about a man and how he was raised.
@allamericanslacker2378
Ай бұрын
Not really. All it really tells you is about the manners he was raised to have and, sometimes not even that. Because of how much women share online, any guy can do a little research to see what women complain about the most, and then make sure to do the opposite of that to get her all starry eyed but, all he's really doing is going through the motions to get between your legs. I know plenty of guys who come off as extremely well mannered, cultured and the like, who I would not piss on to put out if they were on fire, while also knowing men who are extremely crude in their speech, and act like they were raised in a barn who will go above and beyond when it comes to taking care of the things that genuinely matter to the women they're with.
@annewithane7876
Ай бұрын
@@allamericanslacker2378 I think for me, I didn't have to deal too much with men putting up an act like that because I waited for marriage. That's something that might work for a few months, but eventually it would be clear it's not genuine. And as for your second point, I don't think not wanting to pay for your girlfriend's dinner makes you a bad person. But it does mean you're probably not a guy who would want your wife to quit her job as soon as she gets married. That's what I wanted, so that's what I looked for, and I'm happily married now
@allamericanslacker2378
Ай бұрын
@@annewithane7876 Of course it's not going to last long. A guy like that doesn't need it to. By the time the cracks start to appear, he's already gotten what he wants and has moved on. I don't even get why you're bringing up paying for dinner. At no point in time did I mention money. Everything i said had to do with the content of a man's character, and how easy it is to misjudge that if the metric you use is superficial but, I guess that explains things.
@annewithane7876
Ай бұрын
@@allamericanslacker2378 lol a man like that wouldn't gave gotten anything from me. That's my point. I was a virgin up to my wedding day. I didn't marry for money-- it was tight our first year. But I did marry my husband in part because he wanted to take care of me and allow me to give our children my undivided attention. I brought up paying for dinner because it was mentioned in the video.
@363catman
Ай бұрын
Women can write a guy off for one little thing because they know they can. A woman can be sitting in a bar dump her boyfriend turn around say " I want laid" and will get about half dozen people willing to take her up on the offer without needing to even stand up. If a guy did that 99% of women who heard him would be a hard no. The world of dating is not, has not, and will never be a level playing field. And women know that and exploit it on a regular basis.
@BL4CK-L1ST
Ай бұрын
If only these types of videos reached the women of the world that need to watch this.
@danielbaker1248
13 күн бұрын
Alas, it's a pipe dream; and even if they did see it, they would just chalk the video up to the chick kissing men's butts, or some stupid sh*t like that
@M-X39462
Ай бұрын
All we want is to be heard and feel cared about. If we guys make these kinds of videos all hell breaks loose. I'm glad there are women who have loving men whether brothers, husbands or father's in their lives to make these kinds of videos.
@chriswilson7211
25 күн бұрын
"....huh?" Never gets old.
@chiquicat1
16 күн бұрын
Your channel is seriously GOLD, thank you so much for putting these wisdom nuggets out there in such a gender confused/tense world!!! ❤❤❤❤❤
@daltonreynolds7524
Ай бұрын
I assuming the sidewalk thing means throw my jacket in a puddle to protect one your 90 pairs of shoes. Idk though.
@krn2683
28 күн бұрын
Nah, it means you walk on the side closest to traffic. It started in the Victorian era as a way for the guy to protect a woman's clothing from getting splashed with mud and horse manure. Considering a man's linen suit was easier and cheaper to clean than his lady's silk ballgown it made at least financial sense. Nowadays you'd be the first one getting mowed down if some lunatic jumped the curb which yeah I'm not going to ask a guy to do on a first date.
@EmilyW-2000
Ай бұрын
Chivalry is awesome with me and my husband when we was getting to know each other. He hold the door for me and I hold the door for him as well. He paid for dates and I paid for our dates as well. He doesn't have to take me to expensive restaurants, just take me to Panera Bread and I'm cool with that. He grew up in a working class inner city family and I grew up in a upper class suburban wealthy family. It wasn't his money that attracted me to him, it was his personality that attracted us to each other and happy to be married to him and I don't care what others think about our relationship and marriage with each other because he was my first love and I love that man. We enjoy our bike ride adventure dates and walking on the lakefront. Thank you for these videos Billie.
@Mr_Fancy_2674
25 күн бұрын
You are spitting facts. as a man myself. you and other women like you are making the world a better place by helping men a little and to make it easier for us thank you.
@normanquednau
Ай бұрын
To lead, to protect, to provide. Thats chivalry for me. Hilarious😅
@floridaman5125
21 күн бұрын
Equal rights means she opens the door now. And pays, and drives. And picks the place to eat.
@seancoyote
20 күн бұрын
Modern respect of women contradicts chivalry. The original concept of chivalry is that of secret courtly love. So you want love that remains hidden, that is closer to romantic chivalry. Otherwise chivalry is mostly love of God, king and fearless fighting.
@kcraulston
29 күн бұрын
You want chivalry, but you dont even have a handkerchief...
@SaidtheSerpent
Ай бұрын
Develop a mastermind alliance on the date instead
@oldtruckersneverdie3916
Ай бұрын
Chivalry is a gift... Chivalry shows respect.. Respect is earned not given... How can a gift be expected...
@lordpalandus11
18 күн бұрын
Men will be chivalrous for a woman that is worth being chivalrous for and will appreciate it.
@MarshawnCarter
Ай бұрын
Me & my wife appreciated this video ❤️ have a great weekend Billie.
@jacksong8131
26 күн бұрын
I never knew about the sidewalk thing until this fake friend of mine told me about it. Also, I used to do all the chibalry things the girl mentioned, but each relationship like that ended up with me getting hurt with the girl telling me fake shit like, "it's too early," "if you love me, you'll wait," or "I want to know you're not gonna just bang me and leave me riggt after." All while doing it with a guy she just met while I was put in the fake "waiting" zone.
@11Risan
20 күн бұрын
Hey your jawline is beautiful
@DJay157524
7 күн бұрын
Definitely truth here, though in my experience, chivalry is usually met with some variable of negativity. That doesn't mean stop being kind to others, it just means some people don't know the difference between a kind act and actual discrimination. I am chivalrous because I choose to be, it's that simple.
@St1cKnGoJuGgAlO
4 күн бұрын
Chivalry ia like 500 pages of battlefield etiquette and "be nice to women" as an afterthought
@josipbrusic6709
Ай бұрын
To be honest and fair, I've subscribed to your channel some time ago but I've begun to actively pay attention to your content pretty recently. You have a pretty strong stance when it comes to gender-related issues and topics which is great but in an ocean filled with "gurus, wisemen/women, spiritual teachers" etc. I won't lie, I was sceptical at first. I was literally looking for anything, a small dent in your shiny armour and what I found out was shocking to say the least... Because I found out that you are sincere and honest, say what you mean and mean what you say, love your energy and the way you present and demonstrate a new topic/issue with high levels of energy and same intensity with each and every video is outstanding! Love your content! Love that you, as a female, have chosen to speak-up about these issues that are absolutely real and hopefully we will once again find out and/or re-discover that there are few (if any at all) bonds, in the entire Universe, stronger than the one between a man and a woman!
@watersunandlove
26 күн бұрын
Off topic but her outfits are always sooooo cute
@rileyernst9086
11 күн бұрын
My thoughts are that if you do be chivalrous they might think you're being a chauvanist. So be yourself. If she does not like you for who you are it is not a loss. If she likes you for who you are WOO HOO!!
@HansBezemer
23 күн бұрын
A strong and independent woman can open her own door, pull up her own chair and pay her own meal. Since: who opens up my door, pulls up my chair and pays my meal? Me!
@TimostrategytheMoth
Ай бұрын
Ayy she had character growth let's go. And I personally ain't gonna stop her if I miss something, but I'd appreciate feedback so I can improve. Always gotta improve my chivalry and charisma, after all relationships are supposed to help you grow
@rianweston-dodds6247
Ай бұрын
You can also communicate how you’d like to be treated as well. What’s important in the beginning is that he’s showing the intent to take care of you
@93gamrx
2 сағат бұрын
I used to do all these things. Never seemed to make a difference either way. I don't do them anymore.
@canebro1
Ай бұрын
Chivalry is a two way street, if you have a checklist then you should expect him to have a checklist too and you should make sure you are doing all of his items as well.
@SahlaHDP
27 күн бұрын
The last part, it’s so truth…
@joshturner6074
10 күн бұрын
I have been attacked for doing each of those things by all but 4 women I’ve met. One is my wife now, one is my mother who taught me, and one is my six year old who loves “being treated like a princess”.. I wish I had better news to report on this.
@joserezende5609
Ай бұрын
"Chivalry is dead, and women killed it"- Dave Chappelle
@mattvetor616
13 күн бұрын
Ohh...You’re A Deep One..The Depths Of Your Intellect Is Astounding! In The Future I Shall Endeavor To Not Be So Closed Minded! When I Actually Say Thank You! Please Realize That There Is A Definite Shortage Of People Like You Who Actually Take The Time To Honorably Rationalize. .M
@ivanjovanovic7118
Ай бұрын
You have to prove that you deserve such respect
@GypsyCountMatthewA.Zielinski
19 күн бұрын
By the by, I come from a couple ancestors who were knights and found the "Code of Chivalry" both fascinating and something I wanted to connect with as well as live up to. So I tried looking up what the actual code of chivalry was. Turns out, there is no one specific list, requirement or expectation. I even tried by country, it's origins, and differing time periods. What having a "Code of Chivalry" boils down to, is a very personal set of expectations, personal beliefs, set of personal rules, ethics, behavior and values that you as a man (or anyone really) hold to, live or die by. Your own stringent Code of conduct. Which makes you respectable because whether anyone agrees with it or not, shows you hold yourself to a standard you refuse to break.
@charlescannon2469
Ай бұрын
My favourite response is, Chiveraly is for th ñe duties of knights. Even if I was a knight, your still a peasant, not royalty.
@audionmusic2787
Ай бұрын
Try this on. As a man, I have a DUTY to protect every woman and child I see in distress. That’s chivalry. Every day and every night I have to be ready to potentially fight to the death. Now the reality doesn’t play out quite so dramatically. But it’s there. Always in the background.
@geisaune793
Ай бұрын
I do appreciate this channel and ones like it for calling out the absurdities and hypocrisies without resorting to Jordan Peterson and Andrew Tate quotes or throwing around stupid words like “woke”
@hinoron6528
Ай бұрын
The sidewalk thing... came about in London England, because the 2nd floor of houses overhung the street by a bit, and people used to empty out chamberpots filled with last night's "bathroom waste" out the 2nd floor window into the street. Men would walk on the outside of the sidewalk, leaving the lady the inside, under the overhang spot, so that if any poo came flying out the window, the man would get it instead of the lady. It was also a period when wide-brimmed hats were popular for men. It's 2024, we're not in London, and we don't throw poo out of 2nd story windows in the downtown area anymore. You can probably take "walks on the outside of the sidewalk" off your chivalry list. It lost its relevance centuries ago. No, probably no one "taught" him this rule, because it's been obsolete longer than both of you have been alive.
@Chaotic_H3LL
Ай бұрын
To be fair as well. Nowadays most women seem to be a coin flip on weather they even let you do those things to begin with. Seen plenty of times where a man tries to hold open a door and the chick goes ballistic because "she can open it herself". Like with most things modern dating. Its worth the risk.
@crash4x3
Ай бұрын
The sad part is is that half of women will be disappointed if you don't do those things and the other half will call you a misogynist if you do.
@Tom-ut6ky
Ай бұрын
Chivalry didn't die quietly. It was murdered by radical feminism
@Z020852
20 күн бұрын
But why Chivalry when men can follow Bushidó. Get your passports and find someone like Nakano Takeko that will defend the Master's castle in your absence...or if you're already dead anyway she might as well die in the siege taking as many with her as possible. In case anyone can't connect it yet this was one reason for the nukes. These actually masculine Japanese women might actually charge the beach unlike those beer servers that ended up getting passed around by the Red Army.
@mauroaltieri8586
8 күн бұрын
Whatever it is, no chivalry, we are in equality.
@passthegravy7688
Ай бұрын
I had a girl friend who got upset when I opened her door but she never complained when I paid the restaurant bill.
@Snargfargle
Ай бұрын
I dated a feminist in college whose idea of "splitting the bill" was that I paid for the meal while she took care of the tip. Or, at least she made a show of tipping. She always "discovered" that she didn't have any money so I ended up paying the tip too. If I didn't tip enough I'd get an earful because I guess I was expected to feed the waitress as well as her. She always had money for cigarettes though. I eventually realized that I could do better and we went our separate ways. I stopped eating at places where I was expected to leave a tip too.
@geoffreyokrongly916
Ай бұрын
Chivalry is reserved for ladies. There aren’t many left.
@alexanderyakubik2289
Ай бұрын
Most interpretations of the Chivalric code states that such conduct was expected when interacting with anyone, so the polite and courteous behavior he would show his lady would also be the same he would show to a random woman in any setting, the only exclusive conduct would be his fidelity to his lady. Point of fact, the code did extend to women, though primarily the civil aspects.
@davidm6329
Ай бұрын
An important thing to keep in mind is that gender roles have changed. I don't go out of my way to do things for women I barely know. Women asked for this, and now they're surprised that it's happening. That being said, interactions can change over time. Once my wide and I were more invested in each other, we fell into more traditional roles. We take care of each other. You're going to miss out on that if you assume everything a guy does on the first date is how he will act forever. Don't fall into that trap.
@wombat6
5 күн бұрын
My GF's opinion about holding the door open for her: "I can open a door myself" lol
@davidjones8299
Ай бұрын
Married here. And very old school and traditional. If i was dating and my date got angry because I held the door open for her, I'd close the door and look at her and say, "Date's over. This isn't going to work out. I'm saving my money and not spending it on you. Call an Uber for a ride home. Gas is expensive. Bye."
@Mcg8778
Ай бұрын
Men have different ways of showing care, affection, and later on? Love. It's really simple. Spend some time getting to know them and you'll find they're being really generous in their own unique ways 😊
@Fighter_Man-ux7nb
23 күн бұрын
What tf the sidewalk thing 💀
@Randomguy419b
Ай бұрын
Let's not forget that lots of ladies also get upset when men are "chivalrous" and will insult them.
@melenico4512
Ай бұрын
Romance was invented also to balance out as best as possible all the top wealthy men getting the women as opposed to not so wealthier men. So romance was trying to counter balance that as a strategy. Now Romance is a Hollywood movie.
@elishahodgson1635
Ай бұрын
In a world where people are more and more pressured to pick a side and stick to their guns, we don't value admitting we're wrong and changing our minds. Thanks for choosing that ending, I think media needs more examples of this :)
@davidjensen1221
27 күн бұрын
"Ugh. Boys never declare their undying love for me despite my intention to remain faithful to my husband, and they never even seek out my favor for tournaments! Chivalry is so dead!"
@es-br8ck
7 күн бұрын
"I'm strong and independent. Now pay for every one of my whims"
@pale9425
29 күн бұрын
If you want chivalrous man , be someone worthy of him....
@anthonycoca2202
Ай бұрын
I always tell the people who are complaining about their husband/boyfriend/partner’s failure to meet their highest expectations is that just because someone isn’t loving you in the exact way you feel they should, doesn’t mean they aren’t loving you with all they have. On a separate note, I personally feel that expectations that live within the realm of frivolity are just set ups of inevitable failure . Particularly when they are believed to happen on a continuum, with no lull or loss in occurrence.
@boedilllard5952
Ай бұрын
I was raised to do that sort of stuff and several of the women I dated actually mocked me for doing those things. It took me decades to realize women just aren't worth the trouble.
@roastedmarshmallows4859
Ай бұрын
Chivalry requires men to behave like gentlemanly…what is the use of men being gentlemanly when women are not raised to be ladies or be lady-like?
@brandonfeeley514
Ай бұрын
Holy crap she listened...
@rebeccabega3178
Ай бұрын
Chilvary isn’t actually any of those things. It’s about horsemanship and combat and yes many of them also wrote about “how to take care of a woman” but that was only part and many of them actually weren’t the kind gestures people these days associate to “Chilvary” some of the things these horseman wrote where downright terrible and that was still considered Chilvary in that time. Guess what I’m trying to say is yes it’s dead, and that’s not a bad thing. What you’re looking for is a kind and considerate man. Not a Chilvarous one.
@tedferkin
Ай бұрын
It was a code of their paying master, in actual fact. A chivalrous knight would obey his given commands, despite his own moral codes. One code could be, be kind to my peasants and help them out. Another Lord may want him to suppress the peasants, there is no one code
@ottokarl5427
28 күн бұрын
@@tedferkin There wasn't an exact code (though of course people tried to put it into a codex), but there was somewhat of an ideal version of chivalry. Loyalty to your feudal lord was part of that, but not the entire thing. But yeah, it had not that much to do with woman and how to treat them
@ChikaOnyirimba-lj7vo
Ай бұрын
"You actually had a list!!!??" 😄😄😄😄🌄🙂♥️
@johnmkmu
Ай бұрын
Wow these are great! Just watched a handful. Where do I find a woman this astute???
@FNWendigo
12 күн бұрын
Chivalry used to mean that you’d go to war for your lands and your Lady would tie her livery colors (usually a sash) on your arm, and you go off into battle with them. It’s a promise to keep a commitment of morals and protect the weak.
@ollyrl1529
16 күн бұрын
Bro I aint ever paying the whole bill ur crazzyyy. Nor will the bill be split. We pay for we get individually get
@johnroberson8957
12 күн бұрын
Maybe he is testing reciprocity.
@nicholassmith5206
2 күн бұрын
The term "chivalry" derives from the Old French term chevalerie, which can be translated as "horse soldiery"
@JoshWise1010
Ай бұрын
“He didn’t pull out my chair!” “You asked for a booth.”
@chivalrousjack
Ай бұрын
I was taught the sidewalk thing. I teach my sons the sidewalk thing. So glad We are bringing it back.
@oyinz8749
Ай бұрын
Pls what's the sidewalk thing? Can you explain to me?
@chivalrousjack
Ай бұрын
@@oyinz8749 You walk closer to traffic. The idea is to protect her with your life.
@IWasAlwaysNeverAnywhere
Күн бұрын
I like your vids
@Terrx
Ай бұрын
I like your content more and more.
@heatherturner2366
Ай бұрын
I didn't know about the sidewalk thing until I lived in Texas, and even then it depends on where you live
@daddywrx1234
Ай бұрын
Can confirm sidewalk rule isn’t taught it’s just a natural occurrence when the man feels strong connection with the female primal urge to protect takes over and you put yourself in harms way first
@noskalborg723
6 күн бұрын
Please do the "soft no" next. I'm tired of women telling my we can't ever go out without ever sayibg that they don't want me. It's called "leading him on" and is more disheartening then mockery in rejection.
@777_rafael7
Ай бұрын
I agree with the same girl but In black. It’s not hard to learn the basics, I believe every man should learn it.
@molybdaen11
3 күн бұрын
She is a strong, independent woman and can open her own doors.
@SaturdayParker
15 күн бұрын
One of my beige flags is me not being able to walk in a straight so if my date ever walks with me hed learn about the "sidewalk rule" real quick. 😅
@Tsutomu6
Ай бұрын
"Chivalry is dead. And woman killed it!" Dave Chapelle
@ratedg5039
Ай бұрын
How about 'feminine appreciation list'. Show appreciation for the kindness he does by really allowing your femininity to shine through. The more you do that, the more he will respond by taking care of you.
@JWReichert
Ай бұрын
Chivalry is Dead, and women killed it --Dave Chappelle
@darreno9874
Ай бұрын
Much of the problem is is been shouted at for opening the door for a lady and then been shouted at for being sexist, so I slam the door in the woman's face. I still open the door for the next Lady. God bless
@ottokarl5427
28 күн бұрын
"Chivalry" is such a weird concept to use today. First of all it had not that much to do with dating/courting in the first place, but was more of an idealistic corset to describe what a knight was supposed to be. But more importantly, the girl the chivalrous knight was supposed to get was also clearly described. She basically was the prize at the end (sometimes quite literally when it came to tournaments). And of course the pure and dignified woman was...well, pure and dignified aka. a virgin, with manners of the highest order. That's the thing with "chivalry": Yes, the man does all the work, but he gets a "prize" at the end. And what he does when gets the prize is really not limited in any regard. If you actually wanted to go for a historic example of courting that somewhat translates into todays society, you would have to look for the Baroque. Of course women weren't exactly equal there either, but there was atleast a mutual respect, with women actively participating in the court.
@alveusmatryoska
Ай бұрын
There's also plenty of girls that wouldn't want you to pull their chair out for them. And might actually get offended. Because doing so implies that they aren't capable of simple tasks like that. It's honestly something that I would never do because I'm not interested in dating someone that can't take care of themselves. I respect potential partners that don't need me but rather want me as a partner. Partners work together, it's the whole purpose of any partnership.
@cutedogsgettingcuddles9862
Ай бұрын
Next time someone says chivalry's dead, just challenge them to physical combat and see who's the better jouster.
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