Amen throughout this whole video! 1.) I once was like this! She's telling the truth ladies and gentlemen! I used to do so much for a woman and had anxieties whenever I couldn't talk or spend time with her! Yes, it did took away my spiritual occupation as a leader for God! I began to backslide doing other things outside of God's will just to please her! Then, i wasn't spending time to pray to God rather than worrying about how she feels or think about me daily because i thought she was all i needed! Everyday, she became an idol in my life because I always used to put her first before my own responsibilities and goals! God didn't struck the relationship to end but it took her for to reject me on the simplest things we was comfortable doing that made me realized that i was messing up somewhere! God was using her to reject me so i can search within myself to see where am i going wrong at but of course, i thought because she was unhappy! Yes, rejection allowed the relationship to end but there was things i didn't understand at that time why God was using her to reject me? It's because she was becoming an idol in my life! Great video 👍!
@maxine6033
4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing your story🤗 Happy Belated Valentine's Day!💝
@youcantalkyourwaytohealthi8884
4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing! Our priority relationship should always be with God. His love for us is so awesome he gives us plenty of room in our hearts to love others but we must keep Him first👌🏾
@prinscilladugba131
4 жыл бұрын
Wow.. God richly bless you Sir.. Very helpful
@realwayne86
4 жыл бұрын
@@prinscilladugba131 welcome sweetie. Rejection is a healing for your destiny. We sometimes get frustrated when people reject our plans but it happens for a reason. The reason for rejection is to see how much faith we have to endure toward the next plan/option. Relationship rejection works the same. It once said to put that person first but if you do, they will become your idol and God doesn't like idols which means that he will find a way to take your attention off of something or someone who have your attention all of the time. He will allow rejection through other people to let you realized that your attention should not always rely on one person/human being... Stay strong my sister.
@prinscilladugba131
4 жыл бұрын
@@realwayne86 thanks so much again. I once faced that and I have learned to move on... Yours was another confirmation of what God is doing in my life... I must get a life first before thinking of another person joining me... Focus is the key word
@autisticheadscarf
4 жыл бұрын
NEEDED THIS!!! 🙌🏻 I’ll try to keep the story short, but my partner and I just decided to become best friends to focus on our walks with God, our friendship, and grad school. We struggled with all of the boundaries you mentioned, especially since we rushed into a serious relationship without really being friends first cuz we felt so meant to be from the start. Like...became a couple 2 weeks into knowing one another...a week into dating he tells me he’s leaving for a law school in a month and will be moving 1.5hours away...I definitely began taking on the wife role and started idolizing him as my future husband, especially since he started talking about marriage reaaal quick. It’s been tough because I love him SO MUCH and am so used to how serious our relationship was, but I know our personal relationships with God are the priority as well as getting through school. When we’re ready to get back into a relationship, God-willing, we’ll be even better partners for one another. I also believe that God brought us together at such an inconvenient time as a way of testing our faith. I especially love how you mentioned, “a single woman is able to be dedicated to the Lord”...that was so comforting to be reminded of. God bless you, sister! 🙏🏻❤️
@trishiscute
4 жыл бұрын
Love this story and this actually helped me so thanks for sharing! My current situation is something like this.
@amiaknight8663
4 жыл бұрын
Claire Belle Thank you for sharing. This is so similar to my situation. God is so awesome how He does things. Testing our faith and building character in us.
@realwayne86
4 жыл бұрын
1.) Yes! Without the discernments of God, you will let your emotions get into the way and it will make you think that you are making the right choice when it's wrong. 2.) We have to remember that single, widow, and married people are in two different worlds! When you are single and widow, you are free to do whatever you want as a free will by your own choice because you are no longer under God's vows/covenant! When you are married, you have to remain under God's vows/Convenant since it was shared unto him unless physically or emotionally abuse are involved, you are free to divorce. 3.) Dating- It can be difficult at times when you are trying to please your mate and serve God at the same time. This really needs to be talked about with your mate. If you are trying to please the person in the relationship just to make them happy is the wrong idea. Happiness is a choice and it have to be in them. God want us to be focus on him first so he can give us the ideas how to maintain boundaries for the relationship. If not, you will began to feel confuse and make the wrong choice or he will use your mate feelings to sense something wrong about you. I like your comment 👍.
@ivynnivana
4 жыл бұрын
ooh I love this!
@autisticheadscarf
4 жыл бұрын
Bitch Please 🙋🏼♀️
@rebeccaoprea9917
4 жыл бұрын
Sin separates us from God and does not bring blessings , rather is brings death.
@sweetman5249
2 жыл бұрын
Are you single?
@1985tmc
3 жыл бұрын
Great subject and insight Karolyne! I have been celibate for many years as a single woman and enjoy growing in living by the verse: If you walk after the spirit, you will not fulfill the lust of the flesh as mentioned in Galatians 5:16. This has been such a life changer for me because God won't lead a person astray. I think this applies to marriage as well. If married couples honored God as you have stated in this, then their marriage unions will thrive and will be cultivated fruitfully for God's Kingdom. Especially since it's by the Holy Spirit that people can have power, love and a sound mind. So key! Thanks for sharing sis!
@cryptoairdroplover7172
4 жыл бұрын
Focus: Even when we are married, we still need to focus on God f8r only him will perfect that union. Status: √√√ however I wonder if a Christian should be in a relationship if he/she is not even close to ready for marriage😞😞 Physical boundaries:√√√ Great Karolyne!👍👍
@kristellebeauboeuf3917
4 жыл бұрын
Girl you preach that gospel!!!
@CatandCook1989
3 жыл бұрын
That's not the gospel lol. But that's words of wisdom
@rebeccaoprea9917
4 жыл бұрын
It’s harder to stop a fast moving train . So don’t go fast in any of these boundaries because they won’t lead to blessing . We want what’s God not only what’s “good”
@ephesians6139
4 жыл бұрын
Physical and status boundaries are conducive to self respect and all round complete protection, thanks Sister Karolyne.
@leahnjoki6662
4 жыл бұрын
I like the status boundaries concept because it's easy to cross them. And that can set the relationship on the wrong path. It's best to wait until the person earns that title.
@Its-sarahj
4 жыл бұрын
Omg just 2mins into the video and you spoke directly to my situation. Most of the men I’ve been with could have been a blessing but i get so focused on them and idolize the relationship and God needed my focus to be on him and my purpose. Thank you for sharing i just realized this now! God bless you!
@rebeccaoprea9917
4 жыл бұрын
This is so much harder now with all the single parents out there looking for “love” again . Not having been focused in their marriage and now taking that mindset to the next relationship. It’s bound to crumble just like the first if they don’t focus or lose focus again .
@besssbabyyyyyy
4 жыл бұрын
I’m glad I watched this...learnt so much 🤗 thank you 😊
@glittertomlinson7311
4 жыл бұрын
Learned
@GodlyInspirationChannel
4 жыл бұрын
True ma Setting a focus boundaries is quite important for you to keep growing even in courtship. Don't put someone in the category of what he is not in your life yet. Guarding one's heart is quite important ma. I love this powerful words of wisdom ma. More of God's wisdom ma.
@leximakeupful
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you! God bless!! God is so good! Glory be to God!
@jacksonv1965
4 жыл бұрын
Wow, I’m so glad I came across your channel about a month and a half ago and I have been diligently watching your videos ever since. You have taught me so much, I’m new in my Christian walk and I love the way that you are very realistic while still honoring and glorifying God. Thank you for your videos they are truly helping people, God bless you always!
@youcantalkyourwaytohealthi8884
4 жыл бұрын
I agree! I enjoy uplifting and positive content and I try to focus on putting out that kind of content as well!
@prinscilladugba131
4 жыл бұрын
More grace to learn more Ma'am
@mitchellemavesere7563
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you very much Karo. I will keep this advice inside my heart. Thank you Lord for using her🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
@KenH0442
4 жыл бұрын
Thanks sweetheart, you’re always on time!! Blessings to you 🤍🙌🏽
@amiaknight8663
4 жыл бұрын
Thank you karolyne. This video was awesome and so true. That’s exactly what I did. God brought the man, whom is my husband. But I started devoting most of my time to him and compromising my Christian walk. Things happened with his mom and God allowed him to move to the city where she lives. We still talk and are together, but I’m so now devoted to God and my purpose in Him. I’ve truly fallen in love with God. I’m having so much clarity. I’m truly on a faith journey with the distance. I have vowed to stay pure until marriage. God is a jealous God, but He’s so awesome in how He does things. Thank you again for this awesome video that came right on time. Also, I got your book, He Told Me. I got it yesterday and couldn’t put it down. Read and meditated on it all day. Thank you for your obedience to God❤️
@shaybuttersbm
4 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing this.... I was having a difficult time starting over "attempting" dating as a believer. 💞
@candacedawn357
3 жыл бұрын
I would like to hear of the specific boundaries you & your husband set.
@zoe.mackade
4 жыл бұрын
Just got into a new relationship and i was so unsettled the other day because i felt like it was consuming me and i just wasn't as in tune with God. I know God is a God of peace, but this relationship was not bringing me peace at all especially because ive just been recently saved and i honestly cherish my relationship with God and don't want anyone or anything to separate me from him. So i prayed about it and this literally popped up on my timeline, thank you so much for this. ❤
@fayblessed1705
4 жыл бұрын
Im really thankful for this You've shared it the time i needed to hear this most God bless you
@fearlessandfocused6747
4 жыл бұрын
You are so beautiful Karolyne, Thank you for this video May God bless you
@mistydawn4615
4 жыл бұрын
This is what I was looking for even though I didn't know how to word it!! Thank you! 💖
@norulesjustvibespodcast9716
4 жыл бұрын
Literally necessary for the season of life I'm in right now! This was soooo good.
@kcole5177
4 жыл бұрын
Peace and Blessings sis💙🙏🕊. Thank You.🤗
@TheRealReservedRuky
4 жыл бұрын
Wow! I love this video. This is actually what a good and christian relationship should be like.....Thank You, Karolyne Roberts, for your videos, keep it up 👍
@daniiej7266
4 жыл бұрын
Ooo Jesus this convicted my soul!!! Thank you so much Karolyne I needed this soo much!!
@JustyLynn
4 жыл бұрын
This is so key! God wants the best for us and giving a man or woman all of our time is not of God. God is a selfish God and HE wants us to honor him first before any man.
@Bronwnie85
4 жыл бұрын
God bless you for this message 👏🏻
@lizlizzy2755
4 жыл бұрын
You are such a blessed woman! May God be Always a part of you're life.
@joelynnhill8684
4 жыл бұрын
I love this video, but what if it's long distance, . Funny how I discussed this with my boyfriend before considering a trip to go see him. Making it clear what the purpose and focus will be and is. I'm so grateful you made this video, this gives me assurance that I'm doing something different and right
@rebbecahisrael2631
4 жыл бұрын
Hi Karoline Amazing Video 💜 You
@naomiakuako
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you, I needed that! May God bless you sister.
@FavourVictoria
4 жыл бұрын
Thanks for always Sharing loving words
@juniorkabana7776
4 жыл бұрын
We have to be careful (singles myself included) boundaries and rules... we shouldn't jump in and forget God in the process. With God, the way is opened and it is up to us to follow
@ruthabigail4915
2 жыл бұрын
So happy I came across this, helped a lot Thank you sis , God bless you ☺️❤️
@memiieme3788
4 жыл бұрын
Girl I just love your videos
@kryssydlacy
4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this message🙏🏾😇
@MichealJm3luv
3 жыл бұрын
I watched this just in time. Ive been on the phone w the man I believe God wants me to marry almost every night & we'd talk through the morning. This spoke to me. Thank you!
@becomingkea7759
2 жыл бұрын
Am in the same situation, thanks for sharing
@unknownshorty8699
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this. The video I needed 🙌🏾
@chailofamia1468
4 жыл бұрын
SO GRATEFUL FOR THIS VIDEO!!! Thank you Karolyne! Please make more of this and inspire and encourage people--all for God's glory! ♥️♥️♥️
@andrewwalden7180
3 жыл бұрын
I really needed this! Thank you so much!!
@bychinnysmenu
4 жыл бұрын
You are always on point my dear.
@itsjesussdaughter
4 жыл бұрын
Thankyou, this open my mind😇 God bless you Karolyne❤
@KekeMoloto
4 жыл бұрын
Amen to this video! You’re 💯% on point
@joannadaly6863
4 жыл бұрын
YES! So important!! Thanks for sharing your take on this.
@HondaImpossible
4 жыл бұрын
This was very helpful!! Thank you so much!! God bless you
@lakraabraham9253
3 жыл бұрын
You're a real inspiration
@miadicristo4576
3 жыл бұрын
1. Focus Boundaries - Don’t lose focus and get distracted. This means it could become an idol and something that could be a blessing turns bad and gets taken away. While we are single and dating we need to focus on God. You are still single until you’re married. It may mean you need to finish the assignment God has given you first. There is no rush, focus on what’s important and communicate with your partner. 2. Status boundaries - We give people statuses sometimes that they should not have. Enjoy the courting season, don’t just throw labels on someone just because you think they might be that one day. You never know what could happen, and you may act like whatever statuses you set which may cause you to fall into temptation. 3. Physical boundaries - You can get to know people beside physical contact. You can share ideas, have conversations, etc. to get to know each other. If you don’t put up boundaries you will fall into temptation.
@pierrettembock
4 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing this. It has helped me in a great way ! 🙏
@jjmac5712
4 жыл бұрын
Very helpful! Thank you Caroline!
@ninasilva42
2 жыл бұрын
Hallelujah
@victoriaehibe2214
3 жыл бұрын
Love your hair style, can you teach us how to make it? More grace sis, I love you🥰
@astridahphiri3324
4 жыл бұрын
Nice video💓
@reeseault8976
3 жыл бұрын
This was so helpful, learned a lot some of which I knew, and some I didn't
@peggyokelly2118
4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for speaking the truth in love
@ronethajohnson9615
4 жыл бұрын
I’m new to your channel!!! Thank you for this video much needed for me. I can’t wait to hear more of your teaching and positive vibe. Ase
@calisahardy4845
4 жыл бұрын
Awesome, awesome- thank you!
@ChosenDeeDee
4 жыл бұрын
This sis so helpful as I start dating! Thank you🙌🏾
@paulamugabi7320
4 жыл бұрын
Beautiful skin tone
@loustv5241
3 жыл бұрын
thank you for sharing this sis😊 your content is very helpful, Godbless you😇
@briannasiali7413
4 жыл бұрын
We still honour purity🙏❤
@aoiaaon
4 жыл бұрын
Hello wonderful lady, thanks for sharing this video. I like your hair here and would like to my hair like yours. Please share tutorial how to make your style of hair. Thanks 🙏
@amirdavis9075
4 жыл бұрын
Jesus loves us he is our only channel of grace. Our focus everyday should be on pleasing our heavenly father. My sister u are always on point. Thank you we love u and yr family very much.
@luphelelemavuso9882
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you sis☺☺☺☺♥️
@Godscreation20
4 жыл бұрын
This is good!
@Fastlady237
4 жыл бұрын
Thanks so much
@jessiedamour9116
3 жыл бұрын
So pretty 😩😍
@Faboulas5
3 ай бұрын
Amen
@fromdheart1
4 жыл бұрын
Amen!
@divinelovelove
4 жыл бұрын
What do you use for your hair please. It's so lovely
@naledimagnificent5535
4 жыл бұрын
🙌🏾🙌🏾🙏🏽
@tchagnamorelle1302
4 жыл бұрын
Should we talk abt our Future, like our how we want our home or life shld be like with a boyfriend?
@NnalueIfeoma
4 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing But a quick question,what if she's already staying with him for the main time before getting married?
@attorneyreid7
4 жыл бұрын
When you say "staying with him" do you mean living together or dating a man you don't like or someone or God never told you to date? Either way, Christian dating does not involved sex. Christian dating is simply getting to know the person to make sure you are compatible. However, even before you go on your first date you should've spend quality time seeking the face of God in fasting and praying and asking Him if this man is the one for you. Once God answers you clearly then you begin spending time getting to know each other, praying together and studying the Word. This is when you set boundaries Luke no kissing, no going to his house, not inviting him to your house, things that you know can lead to temptations or fornication. Honestly, if you fast and pray and ask GOD if this man is the one for you once God answers then you court, get to know each other and get married. We make this process complicated because we want what we want and we don't obey the voice of God. That's why so many Christian marriages ends in divorce because too many Christians don't seek the face of God as to who to marry and they end up marrying the wrong person.
@Bronwnie85
4 жыл бұрын
Please try as much as you can to avoid being a co-habitant it is wrong in the sight of God and it breeds disrespect, disvalue and doesn’t end well... I pray God gives you the provision to get your own place Amen 🙏🏼
@prinscilladugba131
4 жыл бұрын
Ma'am please God loves the lady so much and has created her for the brightest future.. She needs to move out immediately... Truth is truth... God will provide for her. Our father is a responsible FATHER! She also needs to confess her mistake by admitting that what she's doing is wrong and seek our Helper,the Holy Spirit, to do the right thing..
@oma7766
4 жыл бұрын
Hey I'm 18 almost 19 and I am currently in my first relationship. I am a virgin and have not done anything with him I feel this immense guilt. I feel distracted my grades are dropping and things are becoming hectic with my life. I haven't even had my first kiss. I am just freaking out. Can someone help. I just need someone to talk too
@lovepower4899
4 жыл бұрын
Brittany Dasilva amen. Protect your body and protect your mind . The right person will respect you and wait
@monikaballah931
4 жыл бұрын
girl you are young..please take your time.. I had my first boyfriend at 17 and this is not standard in the US but i wish ive waited. dont feel pressure into anything, dont let anyone force you to do anything you dont want to do.
@oma7766
4 жыл бұрын
@@monikaballah931 Thank you. I took the initiative to break things off and focus on my faith and myself. We remained friends though. I appreciate your advice and you have genuinely made my day. Thank you so much.
@brbinamara1778
3 жыл бұрын
Gal focus on God pliz pray for urself and Ur boyfriend . don't focus so much on these fleshy things because at the end of the day our relationship with God is what matters.dont make the holy spirit sad
@bonnieadams5516
4 жыл бұрын
❤️🤗🌹
@simplylisa8859
4 жыл бұрын
Plz notice me.!!!!!!!!!!!! Great video. I have a question There is this guy at church that recently confessed his feelings towards me...I took time to pray about us being in a relationship and slowly I've been feeling at ease with this thought of us getting to know each other. But my mom is very judgmental and says he isn't my type. It feels right for me to get to know him cause I know it's right before God. But my mom is holding me back from accepting this proposal from him I really dont know what to do. I want to make my mom proud but I still don't want to end up in a relationship that doesn't make me happy or that isn't glorifying God any advice on what to do? Pls
@naturallymemarie9650
4 жыл бұрын
Live your life for God for yourself. You are not a slave to your mother. If she loves you she needs to let you go your own way. The root problem is that she's afraid to lose you. Reassure her that she's not gonna lose you but ask for the respect to be your own person.
@simplylisa8859
4 жыл бұрын
Thanks I'm not much open to ask my parents to let me be....even tho I'm 22. But sooner or later they'll have to accept that I'm growing and need to make decisions myself. Thanks a lot for the advice I'll work on it
@whyin3ver206
4 жыл бұрын
Yeah, no keep praying and don't disregard the warnings of parents, they see things we don't because of experience. Just keep praying and ask your mom to pray too. This tells your mother that you honor and respect her, because TRUST ME, you DO NOT want to do courtship without a parents blessing. It sucks. Yes, you're your own person and blah blah but they really love you and they see things that we might not see. So my advice is pray with your mom. Don't be guided by "it FEELS right". You're 22, its okay if you have to keep praying for a year, lol cause that person will wait if they're meant to be yours. What's truly yours cannot be taken away from you and if you're afraid of that, then it might not be for you. Now i don't know the situation, if the man went to parent or to the church authority, but you want to make sure that spiritual authority knows about his intentions so that they can pray WITH you to make the right decision.
@whyin3ver206
4 жыл бұрын
BTW i know tone texts can be tricky but i meant what i said very respectfully. GOD bless you sister and good luck.
@simplylisa8859
4 жыл бұрын
@toyosi I see what your saying. It's also hard cause I cant really approach my mom especially when it comes to topics like this cause she always thinks that it's all I will focus on (relationships) and neglect my school and spiritual life which isn't the case. But if it has to take a year or two to get her blessing then it will be. Hopefully I dont stress too much about it cause I'm still single and i need to put God first. Thanks you so much tho I appreciate it ❤
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