I be confused when ppl try to make fun of our African features..... FOOL I'm AFRICAN who the heck else am I supposed to look like ‼️🤦🏾♀️
@israeliana
3 жыл бұрын
Right, when you expose their anti Blackness they just leave you alone.
@kennedyjojackson1202
3 жыл бұрын
@@israeliana Or they label you at 'too emotional' as if being insulted is something I'm supposed to just take.
@sadianur7001
3 жыл бұрын
Goodness, and the texture discrimination as well. It is truly sickening the way so many African countries have been brainwashed to thinking that one must have Eurocentric features. So many people lighten their skin, relax their hair, and even wear contacts. It is so sad!
@persom7824
3 жыл бұрын
It’s so sad! How could make fun of such beautiful people
@niecylanae33
3 жыл бұрын
🙌🏾 okay 👏🏾
@kristineilochi4615
3 жыл бұрын
The self-hate is SKRONG in dark skinned Black men unfortunately.
@sequoyah5656
3 жыл бұрын
Amen... These men really need to heal. They pass these ideals on to their children, and ruin perfectly good relationships. SMH
@blackdragonnation5579
2 жыл бұрын
No they hate black womans no themself.
@kissit012
2 жыл бұрын
@@blackdragonnation5579 poor thing. That’s how self hatred works, they project it onto others outside of them selves to try to distract from their own self hatred.
@coltrached4601
Жыл бұрын
As a mix haition, that goes for dark skin black woman as well!
@lordpeeps1
3 жыл бұрын
I just want to add usually when darkskin black women are praised they are usually all oiled up with an hourglass figure and are either nude or wearing revealing things (bikinis, lingerie, crop tops, etc) and while im not one i dont think that type of praise helps the cause in my opinion
@KhadijaMbowe
3 жыл бұрын
Truuueee
@MrGhanasbest
3 жыл бұрын
Facccttttssss
@alphacharm
3 жыл бұрын
Facts
@DoraWinifred
3 жыл бұрын
Darker skinned Black women have to look like supermodels, goddesses or video vixens to be noticed. Corrective promotion is needed, we need the awkward, sweet girl next doors to be shown because we EXIST!!! We are multidimensional like everyone else.
@shani4688
3 жыл бұрын
There was a video I saw on IG where a dark skin black women mentioned that men will except the most basic women from any other race but when it comes to BW (especially darker skinned ones IMO) they have to look like an Instagram baddie to be considered desirable. As a dark skinned BW you have to be a solid 10 to be considered anywhere as beautiful as a 5-6 of other races. At least as far as society is concerned
@malibo1000
3 жыл бұрын
I read a quote from the Ewe people and it said, "until the lions have their own historians, the history of the hunt will always glorify the hunter." If we dont tell our own stories, we will only see what they want to show.
@pisceschic32
3 жыл бұрын
I have always loved this quote. That part 👆🏽💯
@cometmoon4485
3 жыл бұрын
Where do the Ewe people live?
@malibo1000
3 жыл бұрын
@@cometmoon4485 I dont know much about them but wikipedia says that they are primarily along the coastal regions of West Africa. Covering Ghana (the largest population), Togo (second largest population), southern parts of Benin and Nigeria.
@ananorman1532
3 жыл бұрын
so true... and we must TELL our stories, because they ARE out there, we must pay attention to those who VOICE them, such as this young lady on this KZitem video...
@dannymawn9193
3 жыл бұрын
Omg I’m Ewe .This made me so happy skskskdkdks
@treanishajackson2295
3 жыл бұрын
My mom use to tell me this poem/quote and it went like this. "When she is told she is too dark, i do not hesitate to offer that the sun loved her so much, it kissed her more than the rest of us". the hatred for darskin has been around to long and i think it stems from jealousy and the need to feel superior
@babyblue3717
2 жыл бұрын
Your mom is amazing for teaching you that. Bless her heart
@jessilovely
2 жыл бұрын
Love. This.
@dakuten7883
2 жыл бұрын
Oh wow, that's a beautiful quote
@queennoluthando2269
2 жыл бұрын
This is beautiful.🥺
@octoberflower6943
2 жыл бұрын
That's so cute. I have heard that so many times. I'm a coincided dark skin women because my Senegalese father told me constantly that I was beautifuly made by him and my mother. My midnight skin is flawless!!
@kria9119
3 жыл бұрын
Colourism in India predates European colonialism actually, but yes, Europeans sure did take full advantage of it
@sarantoure7233
3 жыл бұрын
Wow. One never stops learning
@douba_plusa
3 жыл бұрын
@@hollyx5772 I don't think it's weird. That's the case for the Americas so an uninformed American (not U.S., just American) would assume the same applies to other countries, especially ones like India that were colonized and oppressed by white people. It just makes sense. Honestly, part of my family is from Pakistan (Pakistan has a LOT of colorism) and I only learned where eastern colorism comes from unintentionally by learning about Chinese colorism. So, I wouldn't think of it as narcissism, just an educated guess that's wrong.
@eidolonicentipede
3 жыл бұрын
@@hollyx5772 It did help though. God I hate living in south asia, the amount of people trying to tell me how to make my skin lighter is insane and I hate it
@sarithajagajith6568
3 жыл бұрын
Colourism is there in East Asia as well.
@liberablu
3 жыл бұрын
@@eidolonicentipede Their mindset is the problem, not you, your skin is beautiful
@rainbow_sparkledelights5984
3 жыл бұрын
Representation is so important and the fact that the black community is still fighting this fight is frustrating to say the least. When it comes to colorism, I truly believe that the black community isn't doing enough. Dark skin women are divine and the world can't handle it. 👑
@Charnmycharm
3 жыл бұрын
yeah and everyone accepts the ish that mixed =black. like naaaawwww. And the majority of us black people are represented as light to white skinned when we mainly brown to darkskinned
@limellama1490
3 жыл бұрын
@@Charnmycharm RIGHT😭😭 like gat dammit I wish I was dark skin
@Cng215
3 жыл бұрын
You guys will continue to fight forever until you learn nepotism and to love your own more then everyone else. Good luck lol.
@kennedyjojackson1202
3 жыл бұрын
@@Charnmycharm Oh GAWSH the mixed= black argument gets on my last nerves. It's just willful ignorance at this point 🤦🏿♀️
@cinnamonpirate5294
3 жыл бұрын
@@kennedyjojackson1202 Take your 23andMe - no matter how dark you are especially in the Americas you are mixed.
@naomikingori8164
3 жыл бұрын
The foundation thing isn't a joke.. I legit had tears in my eyes the first time I found my shade in foundation.. and I don't even wear makeup
@mrswieauchimmer2983
3 жыл бұрын
That goes both ways. I'm as light as it can get, and just recently i see more brands that carry my shade. For the looongest time i had no foundation...
@christinaguilfoy100
3 жыл бұрын
@@mrswieauchimmer2983 I’m the same way. I think Kat Von D was the first shade pale enough for me (ofc the lightest one she offered) but like I’m not the palest in fenty! (I think I’m like 3rd or 4th). I just always had to wear darker foundation and then for a while I just mixed it with some white stage paint I had to lighten it
@Mondscheinstaub
3 жыл бұрын
Same goes for me as a totally white and pale person. If not for Korean brands I couldn’t even find a bb cream for me. And as a super fair westerner I always got teased for looking sick and unhealthy, even my grandmother forced me to sunbathing. I do have so many sun damages now due to this absurd obsession over skin complexion.
@azaria4447
3 жыл бұрын
Honestly it's extremely hard for me as a mixed person to find shades that fit me correctly because most of the medium shades are like "white girl tan" very rarely do I find a shade that has the right undertones for my complexion. I don't even bother with makeup anymore
@Mondscheinstaub
3 жыл бұрын
@@azaria4447 Have you ever had a look at Fenty foundations? They‘re said to carry a huge variety of shades.
@estelleg.7922
3 жыл бұрын
Frankly, As a French Black woman from the West Indies, I really have felt what you describe. On the one hand, I mostly didn't feel desirable as a teenager growing up in a predominantly white environment and I came to understand through various remarks that is was mostly because Black women were not seen as potential partners at the time, even by my friends. And on the other hand, I recently had the displeasure to hear a guy that I was interested in tell me that his fantasy was to bang a Black woman. I don't think I have ever felt so sullied and commodified in my life. To this day, I don't really know why I feel so disgusted by racial fetishism.
@KhadijaMbowe
3 жыл бұрын
I don’t at all want to tell you how you’re feeling but for me, hating being fetishized boils down to wanting to be seen as a whole person. I love being a black woman but it’s not all I am. Stay strong sis 💕
@estelleg.7922
3 жыл бұрын
@@KhadijaMbowe You're definitely right about that. I felt profoundly dehumanized. When I told him, he told me that I should have felt flattered. A real winner, this one! Thank you :)
@charles1413
3 жыл бұрын
@@estelleg.7922 Ca craint, je suis désolé pour toi :(
@XQN-R
3 жыл бұрын
@@KhadijaMbowe could do a video on Afrocentrism theory and black people being made from stardust. I think that’s a very uplifting and lovely video. Also Ethiopian beauty.
@avj6033
3 жыл бұрын
@@estelleg.7922 I‘m sorry that you had to go through such an experience and if it‘s any consolation (it’s probably not): Just be glad you found out before you wasted yourself on such an idiot.
@NoRiceToEat
2 жыл бұрын
11:58 I literally gasped at this picture...it's stunning. I come from India so we have this goddess named "Kali" she is dark skinned like the night sky and she is like this fearsome warrior goddess and I couldn't help but think of her when I saw it. Absolutely gorgeous
@iateyursandwiches
2 жыл бұрын
Which part of india are you from? Just curious.
@171_indranildutta6
Жыл бұрын
lol lies again
@jessiet4427
3 жыл бұрын
I’m so glad you mentioned colorism on a global level! It’s terrible in Asian culture sometimes. I am half Chinese and half Cambodian, and when I was younger I was always rocked a much deeper tan than what I have now that I’m older and I was a lot more exposed to Cambodian culture, which is almost unfortunately nonexistent in my life anymore. I was always told by my grandparents and aunts, even my mom, who are on my Chinese side, consistently that I was “too dark” and as I got lighter as I approached my age now, my grandma has started telling me I am “prettier” and it’s always disgusted me and honestly just hurt lol. And it always bothered me that I was never able to truly embrace the southeast Asian in me because it is not really “popular”. When considering Asians its always Chinese, Japanese, Korean, etc and no one ever knows about Cambodians, Laotians, Thai, etc. Idk it was always weird to me.
@ananorman1532
3 жыл бұрын
i know about cambodians, laotians and thai :( I want to be educated in everything
@felmargego2534
3 жыл бұрын
As a filo i've witnessed this... i was so privileged compared to my other classmates bc they were shades darker than me... they would even ask me if i used glutathione or what my tips for lighter skin were...
@lemongrab9487
3 жыл бұрын
Filipino here. Yeah, colorism is really prevalent here, too. There were people I've met who literally said to me that darker skin is "ugly". The amount of demand of skin whitening products is rampant and overwhelming. The amount of people who are willing to inject glutathione to their bodies just to make them look white are high as if having darker skin is a some sort of disease that had to be treated. The amount of people stigmatizing darker skin people is terrifying. There are literally people on social media getting some clout or popularity just because their lighter or having eurocentric features. And some of them had showbiz careers even though they were untalented. It is disgusting
@eklectiktoni
3 жыл бұрын
Where I grew up (southern California) I was mostly used to dark-skinned Asians. Most of the people I knew were of Cambodian, Laotian, Filipino, or Vietnamese ancestry.
@thegreatdream8427
3 жыл бұрын
I actually think Southeast Asians are the hottest... I will admit to having a thing for Thai guys... however I've noticed that when you see pictures of them online it's mostly lighter skinned people... really annoying.
@Madi-dt7bo
3 жыл бұрын
Legit the first thing I thought when I discovered her channel was “Damn, her skin is gorgeous.”
@chrigael5911
3 жыл бұрын
YES GORGEOUS! INDEED!😃
@annt.7785
3 жыл бұрын
It's so smooth. Darker people are flawless. I'm not dark and people see ALL my blemishes and spots, it's so embarrassing.
@chrigael5911
3 жыл бұрын
@@annt.7785 don't feel bad baby just take care of your skin the best way you know how
@dharshanization
3 жыл бұрын
Exactly! She needs to drop her regimen.
@jewellcurry3468
3 жыл бұрын
Same!
@jmz1736
3 жыл бұрын
"Get better lighting!" Exactly! How is it your fault that the photographer took a bad picture?!? If someone took a picture of me and my pale skin with too much flash, it would wash out my features too, why do people have to be all racist about it?
@jonasisnumba1
3 жыл бұрын
Growing up darkskin was so hard especially for women. I used to feel anxious the second skintone was brought up in school even when I was quiet people would go out they way to insult me. Im glad you were able to gain confidence in yourself
@KhadijaMbowe
3 жыл бұрын
It' truly is traumatizing
@eventplanner461
3 жыл бұрын
Yeah I was a quiet kid too and people still went out of their way to say they couldn't see me whenever they turned off the lights.
@kaisolomon5187
3 жыл бұрын
I feel like as a man being dark skin was not so bad. I see lighter skinned men in my area getting less respect because they are seen as less masculine or gay
@user-eo9to7wd2t
3 жыл бұрын
@@kaisolomon5187 Society says light=feminine and dark=masculine. That’s why dark skinned black men don’t face as much ridicule for their skin color and light skinned women don’t face as much ridicule.
@kaisolomon5187
3 жыл бұрын
@@user-eo9to7wd2t except through the legal system. Darker skin men are less likely to get the Job and more likely to get death penalty
@akumamakima2280
3 жыл бұрын
I see Lupita and I click. You can't tell me she's not a goddess.
@esemusic8294
3 жыл бұрын
This is the reason I'm here 😏
@hillxry1354
3 жыл бұрын
Lupita is everything 🤩 from her skin to her personality
@itznia_ok8069
3 жыл бұрын
Agreed ☺
@danford7827
3 жыл бұрын
There is only one God
@maddfinn11
3 жыл бұрын
@@danford7827 and that’s god is lupita. Puuur
@dinakisa1049
3 жыл бұрын
There's the issue of mixed- baby fetish. I feel like in my country (Kenya), people marry white people just for the sake of having light- skinned children. It's so annoying how mixed race and light skin babies are considered cute, while babies with dark skin are disregarded. Its not that mixed babies aren't cute (of course they are), but the complete disregard of dark skinned babies being cute too (and I do find them to be really cute) is so hypocritical and says a lot about black self-hatred. Another issue- black men not appreciating dark skinned women. But some white men (either due to fetishization of dark skin or genuine love) marrying women of darker skin tones. Honestly, most dark skin women get more compliments from white men than black men. The end result is these dark women being called gold diggers (because white people have higher status here) for marrying a white male (who are usually older). While many issues are intertwined in colorism, there's a lot of double standard.
@dianallhh
3 жыл бұрын
I am not black (Afghan) but omg since I was little I LOVED black baby’s. Honestly I think they are even the most cutest baby’s (as you well said of course all baby’s) but really, for me personally blacks are sooooo cute ❤️
@wilma6229
3 жыл бұрын
True
@char6081
3 жыл бұрын
I’m Kenyan but live in America and it sucks. European beauty standards ruining the world
@gloriaklein4706
3 жыл бұрын
@@char6081 the world is gonna change somehow...and beauty is subjective
@lyndachalker3430
3 жыл бұрын
Hello there someone from Kenya. Well you got that right. And as part of the light community ( my skin is as light as they come) its often confusing to people when i say i dont have white blood. Its as if i must have it to fulfill the preconceived notion. Now im not complaining. The light skin privilege surely comes with perks. But just like masculinity it is constricting. Light skin shouldnt be smart, light skin is like a ping pong. She has no specific place to belong because she aint white enough or black enough. Light skin is expected by the black people who hold a grudge for the privileges she gets, to pay for a system of overt opression she didnt create. It is complicated and when you fight against the norm youre seen as not genuine enough because what could you be complaining about? You're light. A bright future lies ahead of you.
@TouchofShunshine
3 жыл бұрын
I met a man from a dating site. I took my profile picture with good lighting. My intention was to highlight my real looks and not to be fake. It turns out that he thought that I was light-skinned. When we met in person, he was instantly unattracted to me. He even left me standing in my front yard to run after my light-skinned neighbor. She did the right thing, she walked off and ignored him. He was from Ghana and darker than I am but I was not light enough. Light-skinned and white men are more attracted to me than brown or darker-skinned men.
@13auroraborealis13
3 жыл бұрын
I burst into tears (seriously ugly, snotty sobbing) when Khadija said her mother bleached, but later stopped and allowed her natural complexion to return. I am in awe of the strength she found to turn away from the pressure the comes from colorism in that moment. And I think about how much of an inspiration her daughter :) must've been for her. This essay was super insightful. Thanks so much for sharing.💛
@fable3625
2 жыл бұрын
When I was in middle school we had a new student from Inida. Her mother became friends with mine and I remember her mother constantly going on and on about how beautiful I was because I was so pale. I could see how it made her daughter feel. And she brought some of that bleach for your skin to school to show me once. Her mother had bought it for her. I had no idea at the time that girls with dark skin went through this and it was so incredibly sad. I'm so proud to say she overcame alot of this and embraced her beautiful skin tone. She was Ms. Washington at one point and I love seeing how great she is doing.
@katharinar.4463
3 жыл бұрын
So many white people never think about those topics. They just don’t know how privileged they are. I loved your video so much. Of course I don’t know how it is to be black. I’m in a wheelchair and I know how it feels like to get stared at or to have less job opportunities, just because your legs don’t work. And dating is another issue. There are ppl who wanna date u just to be with someone with a disability, and the majority is just scared. Thankfully I found someone, who doesn’t care. I think nobody should be discriminated against, because of their outer appearance. And the media should represent all those differences, because that is what makes us humans interesting and special. ❤️Katy
@katharinar.4463
3 жыл бұрын
@Isabelle Ivask I’m sry, but I don’t really see how that fits to my post 🤔 maybe I just understood you wrong 🙈
@mammoneymelon
3 жыл бұрын
@Isabelle Ivask they didn't say anything about any continent lmao
@rpk5216
3 жыл бұрын
You should make videos about your experience. If you don’t tell your story, people will never know.
@nataliealves3889
3 жыл бұрын
Yes, i didn't knew. We don't think about cause we dont need to 😔😪 just as men don't thing about misogynism thing of daily life
@juliaj7939
3 жыл бұрын
@@nataliealves3889 Women are sexist against men too.
@soph3378
3 жыл бұрын
“Too black” is disrespectful.
@moona3206
3 жыл бұрын
There is no such thing as "too" black
@cinnamonpirate5294
3 жыл бұрын
I've heard it used by darker people on someone slightly lighter just to insult them or claim they're not as dark as them. I think too black should be put on the shelf of slurs & should be made unnacceptable. How can you be too something that God made you?
@hillxry1354
3 жыл бұрын
It's always "Too Black" and never "Too light" Don't get me wrong both are beautiful but if one is gonna be considered ugly then give the other side the same energy.
@adnannguel787
3 жыл бұрын
This pisses me off soo much. I’m from Germany but my ethnicity is afghanistan meaning I’m brown probably considered light-skin. But I know what racism feels like and I know that every person of a darker shade has a life much harder than mine when it comes to racism especially black women and it pisses me off that black people get treated and taught like they are not desirable and I’m just like WE ALL CAME FROM BLACK WOMEN SHOW THE GODS OF CREATION SOME RESPECT BITCH
@moona3206
3 жыл бұрын
@@cinnamonpirate5294 Yes it's used to insult black people. Why would someone talk like that? Being dark skin should not be a bad thing.
@dufie_
3 жыл бұрын
imagine having your whole shade discontinued... just throw the world away. people just don't understand how damaging this things are. im so glad i found your channel🥺
@yuzan3607
3 жыл бұрын
I'm not black. Your skin is honestly gorgeous, the way the light reflects from your skin is so beautiful. I don't understand why would anyone hate your skin tone !!!
@mizoreroxy5139
3 жыл бұрын
I was literally watching Grown-ish yesterday and looking at the black people like damn, they black, but they mostly white skinned. And then I started thinking about how to lighten my skin to look like them...😭 BTW you are so black and beautiful and you give me confidence. And your routine be like the 7 step Korean routine.
@pretapeacenamasaba4393
3 жыл бұрын
True (about Grownish) Most of these "black" TV shows don't really have black people. Most of them are mixed or light skinned. It's as if dark skinned people don't exist in the US.
@mauve9266
2 жыл бұрын
I watched a video on how integration of media or something in the US led to a centring of the white gaze and subsequently the ‘erasure’ of darker skinned representation in media- it was pretty interesting to see the trends as the years go by
@gatodeluvas
3 жыл бұрын
i'm brazilian and just adding that in brazil the government used to "encourage" mixing races so people would look lighter, and that's why here we only say that someone is black based on their look not on the ancestrality, because most of brazilians have black and indigenous background.
@MariaIsabel-tp3iw
3 жыл бұрын
ala achei uma brasileira oi
@kowrtuy2996
3 жыл бұрын
@@MariaIsabel-tp3iw opa!!
@ariadne4097
3 жыл бұрын
@@MariaIsabel-tp3iw oiee
@anapereira7970
3 жыл бұрын
Aee tá certíssima
@capsulamental
3 жыл бұрын
Yep
@MariaMariaDantas
3 жыл бұрын
I’m light skin Brazilian and I work in Asia for 20 years. Before I came here people used to tell me to not get a tan, cause if my skin looked darker I wouldn’t get work. Recently it down on me how every opportunity i had in life its because of the tone of my skin. It’s pretty crazy and sad that in this day and age this shit is still going on. Thank you for making these essay videos, I love your channel.
@KaytchC1790
3 жыл бұрын
It’s so crazy how people can have such different experiences even within the same culture. I’m a fair Brazilian as well, and I grew up in the USA. And all my life I was made fun of by the other Brazilians in my schools for being “so white”. So much so that they would always challenge my claim to being Brazilian. They would test me on Portuguese words and keep me out of their friend groups. Sadly this made me feel really horrible about my heritage for a large part of my childhood because I didn’t feel accepted by my own people. So it wasn’t until I got older that I even knew colorism was also a thing in Brazil. Globo ran a really well-done report on colorism/racism in Brazil that really helped me to understand it better.
@davidcox3196
3 жыл бұрын
Interesting
@Jujuba-wh3xc
3 жыл бұрын
@@KaytchC1790 o colorismo no Brasil funciona assim: te zoam por ser muito branco ou te zoam por ser muito escuro
@Jujuba-wh3xc
3 жыл бұрын
@@KaytchC1790 aqui tem muito colorismo entre pessoas negras também , sao situaçoes bem parecidas. Ja esteve no Brasil?
@jitkasuarez
3 жыл бұрын
You're insanely attractive! Yes, your skin is to die for-- friends have been hinting masks to me for years but I'm too lazy. Great topic and I'm surprised it doesn't have more views. Scary world we live in, but thank goodness for dolks not afraid to be themselves
@amandawright7533
3 жыл бұрын
When you showed the before and after pictures of Vybz Kartel, I nearly fell over😂. But on a serious note, I love your videos and this is excellent. I especially loved that you plainly, unemotionally stated your own experience with colorism. These video essays are pure excellence. Can't wait to see your TedTalk!
@Itri_Vega
3 жыл бұрын
As a light skinned mixed person living in Europe it's extremely interesting to hear your perspective on this. I've wondered for a long time about why there are so many light skinned pop stars and so few with really dark skin. Colourism being one, if not THE main factor in this makes a lot of sense.
@myshtshow680
3 жыл бұрын
When my sister was 8 years old she told me if you really want to know if a light skinned person really is beautiful to people or not just picture the person dark skinned. I didn't realize what she meant until years later. The minute you are light skinned you are deemed more beautiful or attractive than your other darker skinned counterpart even if you have more "beautiful features"
@vl3525
3 жыл бұрын
Wow i still do this and also tell people this. Just because its so deeply embedded in to your subconscious mind.
@karinalumen9722
3 жыл бұрын
I feel like darker skin people have to be “ extraordinarily” beautiful-to be called “beautiful” while lighter skin people only have to be average to be called “beautiful” , agreed
@jeanetteh.8393
3 жыл бұрын
Is it bad that I do this with people with long hair?? Like I feel like there's still this ideal about long hair but to me I feel like people with long hair are seen pretty because it blocks from their faces or whatever... But would they get the same treatment if their hair was shoulder length or shorter. Would they even look as put together? Me personally I'm scared to cut my hair but when I see someone with shorter hair especially if they dye it too I'm like dang that person is courageous lol I could never!!
@ariatnar.1708
3 жыл бұрын
As a mexican I can tell you the colorism here is really bad my whole childhood I've been the butt of the jokes because of my skin tone and yes the phrase "mejorar la raza" it's really used in mexico and the funny things is that the people that have light skin in mexico act like they are the oppressed ones so yeah it was a really interesting video
@mcchilde2903
3 жыл бұрын
It's the same in India, I feel you
@Unveranosinmi
3 жыл бұрын
Colorism is so bad in Latin America. And Latino community.
@ariatnar.1708
3 жыл бұрын
@DezeraeN well like you said it's exhausting having people pointing out your appearance but i don't think it compares to the amount of mockery dark skin mexicans receive on the daily by their own people also idk if you actually live in mexico or the us because in mexico people use derogatory terms to refer people with dark skin such as priet@ and use words like güerit@ or blanc@ to compliment someone so yeah I don't think is the same thing like you said before
@boniboni4912
3 жыл бұрын
@@ariatnar.1708 yes, and calling you indi@ and plenty of derogatory terms is so sad, making dark skin and indigenous sound like is a crime to be born this way
@boniboni4912
3 жыл бұрын
@DezeraeN well at least they aren’t treating you bad, dark skinned Mexicans receive plenty of judgement and problems, they are seen as less than, as inferior, the only comments I’ve heard about light skinned Mexicans is some US friends who thought that my friends where too white to be Mexican nothing derogatory, but you know Mexicans come in every color and it’s ok, I hope this can change slowly for the better
@CfoLala
3 жыл бұрын
I can remember when I watched K.C. undercover for the first time, I was so confused as to why zendaya had two black parents.
@ariannavillegasrosas591
3 жыл бұрын
Hahahah it's a little funny xdd
@itshk9427
3 жыл бұрын
I didn't question it at the time bc I didn't know Zendaya was biracial
@AlatOnDemand
3 жыл бұрын
@@itshk9427 They fed us this lie that she was our black girl representation , she doesn’t represent people who look like me at all 🤷🏾♀️
@itshk9427
3 жыл бұрын
@@AlatOnDemand she's not even black lmao
@kylanicole7552
3 жыл бұрын
she had two black parents on shake it up as well.
@dvffYT
3 жыл бұрын
Looking at all your photos throughout the years I'm in shock by how gorgeous you've always looked!💖
@anitamoseka7197
2 жыл бұрын
I am ever more so grateful for Rihanna for including different foundation shade for everyone every skin tone,and also Khaija you look amazing you seem to have a glowing skin which I love 😘😘😘
@KD-CD
3 жыл бұрын
Yall that washing machine commercial haunts me 😭😭
@JulianSteve
3 жыл бұрын
Same here. It makes me cringe 😬
@adamcanbuild9172
3 жыл бұрын
Making youtube video is hard, but making great/educational youtube video is on another level! You did the latter! Respect!
@caramelkisses8857
3 жыл бұрын
There is a book called “my kind of people” about the continuation of the the blue vein society and social circles that are built on that idea.......it’s a great book.
@alesiawilliams1371
3 жыл бұрын
Interesting book. Lawrence Otis Graham is the author
@charismao5515
3 жыл бұрын
Thanks...I’ll definitely be reading that!
@juliet1495
3 жыл бұрын
28:05 spoke to my soul! A white dude actually said "I've never been with a black woman before 🙈" to me on a dating site. When I asked him what he thought the difference is between me and another race of woman he had no answers. I promptly unmatched after that. I get so much of that shit and people who see me as good enough to pursue for sex but not good enough to pursue for a relationship. I'll stay single forever if I have to, I refuse to be fetishized or objectified.
@larapohrsch9789
3 жыл бұрын
im mixed so for me, sun exposure and wearing sunscreen can make a hell of a difference regarding the shade of my skin even without any skin whitening products. i live in a country where the vast majority of people are white. when i was a teenager, i developed an eating disorder that lead me to go from a normal weight to a bmi between 15 and 16 and i also started to be terrified of wrinkles so i avoided the sun like a vampire. as a result, i was a lot skinnier and whiter than id ever been and it reflected in the way i was treated. my family and close friends who knew my old me got worried and said that i looked pale and sick. people that didn't know me well and strangers treated me a lot better and at my whitest and skinniest i got called attractive for the first time in my life. it scarred me for life and i still don't really know how to cope, i know that my dark skinned sisters have it a lot worse than me and my lived experience will never compare to their struggles ;im also aware that being racially ambiguous, albeit not white passing, comes with a lot of advantages and privileges in a lot of places, but given my personal environment where i was being treated as either less than or an exotic alien to be fetishised messed me up real good. thank you for this video, it made me think and change some toxic views I've had for a really long time and i really appreciate that.
@belenlg5978
3 жыл бұрын
@lara pohrsch I really identified with your story. I wanted to write you a short answer but it ended up being a looong essay. I am going to post it because typing it felt therapeutic but feel free to skip it haha I live in a white european country and was bullied as a child for being black. Despite being lighter skinned, racists figured my ancestry before I knew myself. School children insulted me, parents constantly asked where I was from ("I was born here" "Ok but were is your mum from?" "also from here" ). I deeply hated my skin since I was 6. At 7, I had anxiety so I binged for comfort. I started dieting at 9, because if I couldn't control my skin color at least I could control my weight. I bleached my knees from 13 and never ever wore shorts or skirts. When puberty came and kids started flirting, the first message I received was an insult from a popular kid at school, and when I asked why, as he didn't even know me, the dude answered "you're black". I became wary and unfriendly as a shield and never dated because I was sure that whenever a guy asked me out it was to make fun of me (had happened more than once, so I ignored a few innocent proposals). Never told my parents, so I was in class with the same bullies from 5 to 18. When I entered university I was studying so much I rarely saw the sun for 4 years and my skin got much lighter. I also lost weight due to heavy dieting. I thought if I was superthin I could fit the beauty standards, even though I was never really overweight. While emotionally I was sick and my binging/diet cycle was worse than ever, the difference in treatment and male attention was ridiculous. At some point in my 20s, thanks to yoga and meditation I realised how the bullying had soured my character and started to be more kind and trusting. I even managed a few (crappy) relationships. I learned to love my skin, but my trust issues with men and the fucked up image of my size is still work in progress. Like you, I also feel my struggles are mild first world problems compared to darker women's issues, but at least I feel they help me understand a bit more their fight. Eating disorders are no walk in the park either, so please take care. Lots of love from this random girl on the internet
@enquiringmindswanttoknow699
2 жыл бұрын
I feel weird writing this but one of the reasons I clicked on your videos is because you are beautiful. It is refreshing seeing dark skin on a screen. I am white but have also noticed how there is this generic colour that is neither black or white that everyone seems to be in the media at the minute. It is sad because very pale and very dark are beautiful
@FishHatFish
3 жыл бұрын
My boyfriend is Hispanic mixed with Native American, and he has stated how alienated he had felt when he moved to the San Antonio area, how he’s been confused for middle eastern, Samoan, and even sometimes black, all just because of how dark he is. He’s gotten over it and is looking forward to getting darker as he ages, his family gets darker instead of getting liver spots, but he still to this day struggles with being recognized by any community.
@marquelabruce1880
3 жыл бұрын
Most of these male celebs are not with dark skin women
@tw6873
3 жыл бұрын
Or even Black at all, nowadays. It almost seems unusual to see a Black celebrity couple. Heck, even in real, everyday life.
@itsbeyondme5560
3 жыл бұрын
@@tw6873 It's their right.
@tw6873
3 жыл бұрын
@@itsbeyondme5560 Agreed...
@tw6873
3 жыл бұрын
I've never dated a black male before, so I'm indifferent, just stating an observation.
@itsbeyondme5560
3 жыл бұрын
@@tw6873 Same...
@cynthiapadilla3881
3 жыл бұрын
I’m so glad I didn’t know about lightening skin creams. I grew up in America and I’m Mexican American and I was luckily never exposed to those products. I struggled with my skin color especially in my early teenage years and I just thank god I didn’t know it was an option and saved myself from the skin damage. Colorism is very prevalent in Mexico and I’m glad you mentioned it. I wouldn’t even blame someone from using those creams due to all the light skinned privilege received from it.
@indigo903
3 жыл бұрын
So I'm Chinese but I'm more of a medium-toned tan than dark. I was adopted and emigrated to America at 5 but even at a young age, I would always complain to my family that I wanted to be white. I wasn't bullied to a horrible extent because of my different appearance among the sea of white people but there was like, one other Asian person there and I felt so alienated. People either thought he was my brother or my boyfriend. I did not know about colorism till now and I thank you for this eye-opening video. I'm not even that dark and with the things I've gone through, I couldn't even begin to imagine yours. I'm so glad you're gaining confidence because honestly you're gorgeous and I just want you to know that.
@johannabagelius4177
2 жыл бұрын
12:36 when you talked about foundation etc. The first day at school this year we had like “an opposite world” game, so homosexuality and not being white was the norm(I live in sweden) and one of the scenarios was that there were no band-aids that matched a white persons skin, only darker ones. And this white, blonde, blue-eyed boy says it’s silly that people even care about that stuff because he has never cared what his band-aid looks like. And I’m so proud of myself because I spoke up and said “well that’s because you have never had to worry about finding the right color because you ARE who they’re made for” and he continued trying to explain but I know I won that argument because the whole class went silent.
@duaasabah4048
3 жыл бұрын
I have a friend from Eritrea and we both live in Switzerland. She's in my school and she wanted to work for a hotel and they accepted a Swiss girl instead of her for no reason they didn't say why they didn't accepted her and when she told me that she said that happened to her many times she said I'm sure it's bcs of my color and like she's such a hardworking nice person her language is good and she can't find a job the only place she worked at was a shop that is owned by a black woman I was happy that she found this opportunity but still what happened to her was awful and should change
@Fonnsterify
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for calling out Latin America. It's so prevalent there. And so rarely discussed
@corneliuspride6742
3 жыл бұрын
I just love your perspective and how absolutely stunning you are 💕
@dianelegoff2613
3 жыл бұрын
I went to Gambia 9 years ago for Outreach!!! I loved it!! It's a great place and I love the people over there.
@mayraz5625
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for including Mexico/ Latin America. We had the Spanish castas system which we still follow by tradition/ subconsciously. I'm trying to get my family to change their perspective but its so deeply imbedded in them :(
@imfalena9600
2 жыл бұрын
I'm also from Mexico. And yeah, people it's not that aware/conscious of how we are not only classist, but also very racist. :(
@imfalena9600
2 жыл бұрын
Te recomiendo el trabajo de Yasnaya Elena. Es una lingüista mixe de la sierra de Oaxaca, y habla mucho sobre el racismo en las estructuras lingüísticas y muchos otros temas sobre la politización de algunas cosas. Tiene un artículo sobre el huipil como la antítesis total al capitalismo que también habla sobre el amor al cuerpo y es muy bonito.
@mayraz5625
2 жыл бұрын
@@imfalena9600 gracias por tu recomendación, la voy a buscar 🙏🏽
@achocot
3 жыл бұрын
listening to your personal experiences brought tears to me eyes. I listen to/read black women's stories all the time and they never cease to amaze me. You are beautiful. You skin is beautiful! So majestic. I wish I had the means/influence to effect change for women of colour.
@Hope.endless
3 жыл бұрын
Most of us have heard: don’t go in the sun you will become darker.
@Purple-ur2sc
3 жыл бұрын
"Don't be out in the sun too long, you'll make your skin dark." A very common thing said in India, I don't know about other places. This, along with many other colorist and bullshit nonsense is what I deal with on a daily basis. I'm not incredibly dark skinned for a south Indian but I've heard this being said to so many of my friends and the above line to me as well. It doesn't make sense and I've recently started responding to these things in my house, to relatives who spout this kind of shit. And it feels good to stand up for once tbh.
@fidelisforhirex
3 жыл бұрын
As a white woman who struggled with self acceptance all through high school and college (shout out fellow opera singer!) it makes me so upset to see people lighten their skin for any reason (i.e. not love themselves in some way be it personal or social). I know this isn't about me or my journey, this isn't about my pain. This video has been eye opening and very educational about how colonialism and the white standard of beauty is warping and twisting people in ways that I find terrible. Thank you for doing this research and sharing this knowledge in a safe and accepting space. You're a inspiration. Thank you.
@christinaguilfoy100
3 жыл бұрын
@Youmna Ahmouch I’m also not her but depending on how pale you are, you can also kinda deviate from the norm. I’m very, very pale (Irish ancestry and anemia) and I got compared to milk, paper, porcelain, ghosts, dead people, and at one point I was given the nickname “Glowstick”. (Also why is the whole “how visible you are in the dark” such a weird theme with that shit?) And when everyone around you is talking about tanning and being like “ugh gross I’m so pale” it can be hard to find beauty in yourself that way. Being pale hasn’t effected me in many of the ways colourism is detrimental to dark skin people (systemic racism being a biggie) nor am I saying I’m the victim of really anything on a macro level, but kids can be real shitbags and it can sit weird with you and feel like you need to change to fit in or “look better”. In the same way skin lightening is pushed on darker skinned individuals, at least in America, skin darkening (tanning beds, spray tans, self-tanning, tanning oils, etc) is pushed onto lighter skinned white people. It can be hard to accept yourself and your skin as you are when you’re told a different shade is more desirable, and I think that can happen on a smaller scale to white folks too and even though it’s not as systemically harmful, it can still hurt.
@davidcox3196
3 жыл бұрын
Kool
@americansunshine777
3 жыл бұрын
Imagine a young girl comes across your video and is inspired by YOU and your confidence. This is a great video & I'm happy you're happier gorgeous!!!
@berryzem
3 жыл бұрын
Gosh...this just opened up a can of worms from my childhood. I went to a predominantly Middle Eastern middle school but there was definitely some kind of sentiment about darker skinned students even from the teachers that I was too young to understand but....oof. So many stories came rushing back to me that I had to pause the video. I had heard of the term colorism before, but thank you so much for explaining it the way you do. You honestly make me feel like with each video I watch of yours that I am becoming a better person and that is invaluable to me. Thank you so much for the work you do, Khadija. ♥ Also side note: I simply must try the under eye mask because I am in desperate need of something to improve my dark circles. X'D
@amyxdarling3013
3 жыл бұрын
I'm whiter than white...... but your hair is EVERYTHING! I can not see anything wrong with your skin. You are BEAUTIFUL !!!! All the best from Europa
@groooah
3 жыл бұрын
I once accidentally purchased a skin cleaning product from Korea that had bleaching agents in it. At first it looked good and skin looked a lot smoother (which was the reason why I got it in the first place). After a few uses my skin broke out like crazy. There was a weird slimy layer on top of my skin and it took months for my skin to return to normal. I can’t imagine what happens with long term use.
@ndanacarter3270
3 жыл бұрын
You are phenomenal ..you are probably one of the most exciting fudge colored beautifully draped in the most radiant brown skin...I think you are brilliant and the numbers are as real as they were in the 1970s when people pretended that black was beautiful...thank you
@sophiajimenez2950
3 жыл бұрын
Feeling representated by the breef mention, greets from Mexico
@PM-dq7pe
3 жыл бұрын
9:06 let's say a prayer for the plant RIP 🙏😟
@toneo8385
3 жыл бұрын
Colorism also exists in west africa. Historical reason being that rich african female merchants had enough connections to sleep with the Portuguese and Dutch traders, in order to have mixed babies as a prize. This made lightskin people seen as royalty to an extent.
@belenlg5978
3 жыл бұрын
I didn't know that! My ancestors were portuguese colonists in Sao Tome and a few married african black women (including my great great grandma). I always feared she was forced to marry or was a slave. If it was her choice in order to have "respectable" mixed offspring, I guess she kind of succeeded. The family side that stayed on the island are still to this day considered upper class. I'm from the family side that moved to a white country, so I got bullied for being black at school (I'm very light skinned but to racists black enough)
@kahundetheafricangirl
3 жыл бұрын
I did not know that..
@kahundetheafricangirl
3 жыл бұрын
@@belenlg5978 Really. you must be close to white. Anyway i do not have any friend that is outside of the black race so to me, you either white, black, Asian or just Mixed.
@toneo8385
3 жыл бұрын
@@belenlg5978 Exactly.. it is what it is. Its just how people popularly thought at the time, so no surprise when we see it trickle down to colorism of today.
@okpaekhama9543
3 жыл бұрын
This is a LIE
@selflovediaries
3 жыл бұрын
Girl... honestly now I am like confident about my skin tone after people like you pop up in my KZitem feed screaming that having dark skin is okay and u are beautiful toooo...... I don't even remember how many home remedies I used as an early teen to lighten my skin...goddamn...
@rinehardt6837
3 жыл бұрын
Apologize I know I'm late did this video just discovered your Channel and I think it's a great. I am a 52 year old cisgender black heterosexual man. I have encountered colorism more times than I can count. My brothers and I are all dark-skinned our father was dark-skinned and our mother is very light skinned. I remember from a young age my aunts who are beautiful just as my mother is they are darker skin and people actually treated my mother differently. My mother also told me a story of how someone said that my aunts black Back then Black. My mother told the lady theses are my sisters you're talking about she was in High School. My mother is 74 years old and my aunts are 68 and 69 so as you said this has been around forever. In my life I dated women of all Races and all colors. I ended up marrying a black woman from Jamaica my wife is light-skinned. She told me her perspective that people sometimes thought she thought she was better than they were because she was light-skinned when in actuality she was just shy. This has always made sad me that we had this going on in our community until many years later I didn't realize it went on in Asian communities and Hispanic communities. I had a friend from childhood to becoming adults. He was a light-skinned black man and he hated it. He would actually lay out in the sun to try to get darker. Sadly I don't see this going anywhere anytime soon.
@tammi67able
3 жыл бұрын
I know i notice so many women that love dark skinned men in my state, many women of all Races eat the dark skinned black men up, so the black women have a lot of competition if they want a dark skinned black man in Cali, lol
@Peachblazze
3 жыл бұрын
Honey, I feel you. I gave up makeup when I came to Japan. I came here to study all the way from Uganda. And when it comes to make up. I gave up on it. Because even with international brands like Mac still don't offer items for my skin colour in the stores. Most annoying thing though is that they display photos of people like me on the posters. This is really sad.
@13579hee
3 жыл бұрын
It's important for people to understand that enslaved individuals weren't given preferential treatment because they were light-skinned... They were given preferential treatment because they were of white descent and their white genetic admixture deemed them more worthy of some level of civility
@DS_M
3 жыл бұрын
That *points* . It's not people liking then in general, they came about due to fetishization. They weren't seen as people, more like an anomaly. And then also treated according to how much they resemble a white person. And then looking at lighter skinned people, I've seen some day that they were in the house because it gave the white plantation owners/workers easier access to them
@13579hee
3 жыл бұрын
@@DS_M Idk for that matter all the Black people were fetishized. And I seen pics of very White looking people who were enslaved. Its just always been my understanding that the master's children or grandchildren where in the house for that reason
@irmaadyatnimawardi
3 жыл бұрын
I'm Indonesian and colorism is real here too, feel you my fave internet aunty, also got bullied based on my skin a lot.
@lilysbox2139
3 жыл бұрын
gurl.. same
@maddiedesjardins2355
3 жыл бұрын
Late to the party but I just wanted to say how much I absolutely adore your energy and authenticity - love the masks (magnaminty is one of my faves too!) and how you naturally inject humor here and there in your videos without ever taking away from the gravity of the topics. Thank you for sharing your stories and being the gorgeous, intelligent, talented woman you are. Love watching you! ❤️
@plantmama7442
3 жыл бұрын
Even though I’m a mixed “light-skin” girl my family would make fun of me saying I’m “half-white” (I’m not) because I’m the lightest in the family or my Mom recently said me & my siblings are not very “black” because we didn’t grow up with a lot of black friends. I’ve had non-black people say I’m “whitewashed” or judge me for liking things like anime or rock music. Basically grown up never feeling black enough or that I fit in anywhere because I wasn’t black enough for the black kids... Sometimes I’d wish I was darker to fit in... sad how no matter what you’ll always be judged. Thank you for sharing this. I now know MY black is beautiful and I’m not ashamed to be ME! Sending love to everyone ❤️❤️❤️
@israeliana
3 жыл бұрын
I know many people who wish they were your tone. It is so gorgeous and your skin is clear. Stay blessed because that deep melanin is the envy of the world.
@helenegraham
3 жыл бұрын
my jaw DROPPED at 12:21 when you said you weren't wearing foundation in those pics........literally insanely gorgeous glowing clear skin
@1Godsgift777
3 жыл бұрын
When you took the mask off 😳 you're skin is beautiful like an Angel 😇🥰
@elizabethheyn5365
2 жыл бұрын
I remember there was this ad for whitening lotion that was circulating in my country and it basically said: "Have a hard time getting on to public transport? Whiten your skin and the jeeps and tricycle will stop and take you where you need to go." Colourism in the Philippines suck. My aunt, whose family was fair skinned/chinita also told me to scrub my skin with white soap and a cloth, bc I guess she thought I didn't shower enough.
@R33MiiRules
3 жыл бұрын
Listening to your experience with colorism made me so emotional, you’re such a sweetheart, You remind me of all my friends, I couldn’t imagine someone being mean to you, but it happens, I dont know any DSW that haven’t gone through that growing up 💔 I’m glad you didn’t let any of that deter you from being the Genuinely awesome soul that you are today, continue to flourish auntie 🥰
@MsCristea
3 жыл бұрын
For me, a "white" person from a country with almost 100% "white" population, the issue of colorism is pretty unfamiliar, however I am devouring your videos now since your content and your style are so good! You are also very charismatic!
@No1PlutoSupporter
3 жыл бұрын
I’m nowhere near considered dark I’m a nonblack Mexican/Native American but in my family, especially on my dad’s side that that has a lot of white passing/light skin folk, growing up my brother & I were the “dark ones” in the family & we were definitely different. I have an older sister who looks like a white girl, she hasn’t experienced what my brother and I have & thats wild like we come from the same parents but just bc one of us is darker or lighter, our experience is already different like we already know this but just thinking about it sometimes it’s fcked up
@JO-hn4vn
3 жыл бұрын
Yeah, but she gets to experience all the wonderful sexism and misogyny you don't have to deal with, so...that's fucked up too.
@evaosirus6055
3 жыл бұрын
Khadija sweetheart, auntie, my beautiful sister. Thank you so much for sharing so vulnerably. The context of your lived experience makes me look up to you even more. It’s so fucking hard growing up black in white spaces. My mother is light skinned and my father is darker. My sisters and I have kind of gradient skin with mine being the medium and my olds sister being the darkest. Our mother would straight up bully her for her skin color. Calling her blackie and shit like that. It always made me feel sick and ashamed. Even now my sister is pregnant and married to a light skinned man and is raving about how beautiful her daughter will be. It sucks how this shit perpetuated.
@FancyAlly
3 жыл бұрын
I love how you mix the education and facts with entertainment and comedy 🧡
@optimisticsmyle4559
3 жыл бұрын
You’re so beautiful! So happy I found your page. Im dark skinned and have for sure experienced colorism and thank goodness I love the high heavens out of my skin tone now bc Im still so young! So many more years to walk with my crown 😍
@imanimagotsi1617
3 жыл бұрын
I recently found your channel and love your energy so much
@lily0985
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for talking about colorism in México, is so prevalent and obvious here but everyone turns a blind eye is frustrating
@Anne-wf1vo
3 жыл бұрын
When you showed Turner's painting for a moment there, this reminded me of another one (I'm an art history student so yea). His painting shows a slave ship (I think sinking) during a horrible storm which happened a lot back in the day. Another artwork from the same period, The raft of the Medusa, features a bunch of survivors of low class (so lots of slaves) of a shipwreck that happened. All the rich white people got off early, but these people weren't so privileged. The hero of the painting is a little black slave boy who spots a ship in the distance and waves a white flag. The entire painting is this evolution from desperation to hope, from the dead in the left lower corner to the hopeful black boy in the top right. It was hella controversial back then because the academy said that only prestigious genres could be portrayed on a canvas this large (religious, mythological or historical) and since this is neither of those, they really didn't like that. Also the fact that the black boy is the hero of the story and people were hella racist. It's quite interesting really. Géricault (the painter) is also one of the rare instances of old timey artists painting black people (there is a portrait of another black shipwreck surviver, he's portrayed in a beautiful way imo) and he also portrayed the mentally ill in a very thoughtful way. Art history is often drenched in white supremacy, especially when it comes to Greek/Roman classical art because for some reason Western people tend to believe all art from that period was made by white people. But really, Greek art was heavily influenced by Egyptian art which you can see in heavy similarities between early Greek statues and the way the Egyptians made their statues and painted their characters as well. I'm still glad that my art history teacher dedicated an entire semester to teaching us African-American art as well, though. This is all super off-topic but hopefully someone found this interesting, lol.
@sachagee
3 жыл бұрын
“Get better lighting!!” 😂👏🏽 Loved this video, thank you! Also editing skills off the chart 👏🏽
@ayewcee
3 жыл бұрын
And here I am sitting mad because your complexion is EVERYTHING, and you saying you struggled being dark in the beginning is crazy to me. I looooove your skin and complexion
@CfoLala
3 жыл бұрын
In Nigeria, it's quite difficult to find creams that help enhance your color rather than whiten or "tone" it. In an average cosmetic shop, more than 90%of the creams there are whitening.
@gicandathomas606
3 жыл бұрын
Thank the Goddess for you and your channel topics. Finally, somebody that tells it like it is and gets it.
@writingacrime1897
3 жыл бұрын
I am Brazilian and live in Romania. My grandmother is black and we have indigenous blood in the family. Because my hair is curly, and my nose is a little more big - and my, I have even the indigenous eyes! -, I wasn't considered “pretty enough” in primary school. What they truly meant was that I wasn't “white enough”, even if my veins are so blue in my arm. What shocked me is that we where only eight and they called me “exotic”. Sad, because I love my hair, my grandma's nose and my ancestors eyes!
@Nicoleashley1991
3 жыл бұрын
I first heard of you in a video Tee noir made. I'm subscribed.
@chentymutala
3 жыл бұрын
Oh wow. Though you are very dark, I can clearly see how smooth your skin is. Girl, you have got to give me your ENTIRE skin care routine.
@lillyfeilke7076
3 жыл бұрын
Wow that hurts to hear, you are so smart and beautiful and have such a charming personality you are really amazing and strong!❣
@gnat3061
3 жыл бұрын
i found ur channel through Tee Noir n i’m OBSESSED i love your content so much it’s so smart, fun to watching, and educational plz plz keep doing this forever hehhe much luv sent from california
@MindfulManiii
2 жыл бұрын
I actually got bullied alot when younger for being light skinned and not being seen as black enough. Having the name Imani wasn't enough in its own. I totally agree with your essay video but I will say, if you don't act a certain way being lighter especially being a humble down to earth person and standing up for your people/culture. You can get talked about even harder than before. I realized that no matter what I'm going to stand up for my self and who I am , no matter if I lose friends or not.
@user-pv3ut8os3o
3 жыл бұрын
Just dropping in to say that colorism also has to do with anti-indigenous, native, aboriginal ideology. Countries in Latin America often view the combination of darker skin, hair, and eyes as features of the poor, ugly, and uneducated ~insert Spanish slur for indigenous people~ in their respective countries. This also applies to other physical features perceived as stereotypically native. My rejection of colorism further solidified my love for my indigenous features and natural olive skin tone. 💕
@burnteffigy87
3 жыл бұрын
Yes! Exactly I'm of Taino descent on my father's side and I've gone thru a similar journey to accepting my skin and non eurocentric features
@Adelynoir
3 жыл бұрын
Random tip: there are small, thin cotton squares you can buy at Asian markets which you can soak in your favorite toner and serums and then place on your skin. It is the same as a face mask but much cheaper, less waste, and you can do it every night!
@janiyamolina9107
3 жыл бұрын
i’m mixed race with black and mexican, but my mother (who is mexican) is on the fairer side and is often passed off as white. i grew up in the poorer part of an extremely affluent and white city. in high school i was one of 8 black people where only 3/8 were dark skinned. in school i never realized that i was treated differently than my darker sisters. we all experienced ignorant microaggressions and sometimes blatant and direct racism but now that I am older and am learning more and more about colorism i’m realizing that I was way more palatable to the white boys in my school then they were. I got ALOT of attention (it was often bad attention because i was hyper sexualized as early as 12) but nonetheless, boys (black and white) were way more interested in me and the other light skinned girls then they were my dark skinned friends. it makes me sick because they are such beautiful and wonderful people, some of my best friends, but they have insecurities now that i’m sure would not have been there if it weren’t for societies negative stigmas against darkness...
@VirgoLunaKnight
3 жыл бұрын
That part about india is so true...as a person with wheatish complextion I am not even the darkest skin tone in india and i cant get foundation or concealer in my skin shade in drugstore..i have to get expensive brands from Sephora We were said from childhood..lighter is better My friend was called crow because he was dark skinned ... nothing i say makes him feel better about it 🥺
@xiuolo8116
3 жыл бұрын
It's so freaking ridiculous. I have a lot of friends from India and on of them saw my profile picture on social media. She texted me saying "your skintone is maida type". She explained to me what it means and then I was so sad that I couldn't even text her back for a couple of minutes. The world is so cruel: people should feel ashamed of their own skin.
@TheNoirTrap
3 жыл бұрын
I'm a Chinese girl from Singapore and I love your videos. It teaches me so much. Also, your skin is gorgeous ♡♡♡
@naomiyilak7959
3 жыл бұрын
This is actually very prevalent in Africa as well. I'm from the east so most of us (at least most of us represented) are light. But when you go a bit south there are very dark skinned people and its just jarring to see how they are perceived when they come to the city. There is also a thing I noticed where they say 'yetikur konjo' when ppl see an attractive dark skinned person which is the American equivalent for ur pretty for a black\dark skin girl. Also the term 'barya' which literally means slave is used to describe dark skin ppl. So it rly is a global phenomenon and I'm tired of that shit.
@KhadijaMbowe
3 жыл бұрын
👏🏿👏🏿
@zebibtekle4889
3 жыл бұрын
yea, it's gross and sad. I'm Eritrean and there's this singer named Yemane "Barya" (he passed away in 1997) and I just thought that was his last name but his last name is Ghebremichael. I know not to call him that anymore. Anti blackness and colorism is a global thing. I've experienced both and it's just disturbing. And of course featurism is a thing because a dark skin, Indian women would be deemed more attractive then a dark skin, Black women like Viola Davis. East African women are deemed beautiful because of their features being close to White women. I used to be teased about that and it used to bother me a lot because I'm Black. I'm not a Black woman with European features, I'm just a Black, African person. We don't control our features, well some of us don't. I just learned to accept my features; they are what they are and that's that.
@picklenick7104
3 жыл бұрын
@@zebibtekle4889 As a fellow East African, I can completely relate...😒😑😐😤💔
@naomiyilak7959
3 жыл бұрын
@@zebibtekle4889I am sorry you have to experience this. The ignorance is on another level. You are beautiful not despite of but because of your skin. Color nor shade should not determine someone's worth and beauty. I hope things will change. Thanks for sharing.
@ingleward
3 жыл бұрын
I just found your channel and you are hilarious and entertaining in delivering your point of view, lived experience and details about colorism - I’m south asian so the times I heard of when I got sun burnt and aunties telling me why i got so dark is just comical at this point as well as irritating
@dagmarbeeke6163
2 жыл бұрын
Your skintone is SO beautiful. YOU are so beautiful. My insides are crying hearing what you went through.. you're a Queen 👸🏿💜 Just the fact people of colour feel the need to bleach their skin makes me feel so sad. Black is beautiful 😍
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