I'm also going through a divorce and I can relate to majority of the mistakes you made and I'm also guilty of them. Thank you for these conversations, you are "holding my hand" through my journey. There are just some conversations you can't have with your family and friends regarding the details of your marriage and your videos continue to assure me and comforted me.
@OwamieEntertainment
2 жыл бұрын
I needed your comment, thank you😭
@vuvumofficial
2 жыл бұрын
Love and light to you both…. In God all is well…
@sinelizwinkwali9845
2 жыл бұрын
@@OwamieEntertainment You are doing a great job about being vulnerable to us, you are helping ALOT of women by so doing. Keep strong babes.
@Moyawethu.
2 жыл бұрын
Sisonke sisi lento yebegezela ayikho... We need happy peaceful loving union for ourselves and kids. You've got this sisi ❤
@nomusabuthelezi5792
2 жыл бұрын
Owamie...
@TJ-my9nh
2 жыл бұрын
Owamie my wife started loosing her dreams and ambitious fews yrs after we married and i had a very big problem with that and we fought a lot about it. I pushed her big time to get back to the woman I was dating; the makeups, hairs, studying, and just finer things in life... I gave her money and forced her and today she is now "slay" queen of note 😁, doing her masters, bought herself Jeep and am still pushing her. I want to see her excel all the way
@basanjena6424
2 жыл бұрын
Yhini le ndoda😝😝😝🤣
@melmel7011
2 жыл бұрын
wow this is so beautiful
@jackeyklow4029
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you Sir,this world need more man like you 🙌
@pamellayantolo3797
2 жыл бұрын
Ncoooh ❤️❤️❤️
@cebisa93
2 жыл бұрын
That's very nice because it's so uncommon with our African brothers
@kamogelontsewa58
2 жыл бұрын
“The only reason why you kill yourself is because you love that person more than you love yourself.” - Owamie 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
@MrsL
2 жыл бұрын
“Men prioritise self care. Women talk about it.” When men don’t want to do something, they just won’t. It’s time women learn to do the same. Don’t ever over extend yourself. My two cents.
@Lebzzza1
2 жыл бұрын
Ladies please take her advice. I did the same exact mistakes in my marriage. I gave up my dream so he can feel like a man. I let him lead even though I knew he was an idiot! Now I’m 35 and divorced I’m finally doing what I was supposed to with my life. I lost a lot of time but I’m happy to alive and healthy. Most of us don’t make it. We end up under ground.
@fruitypopwhickle6806
2 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂 I'm laughing at "I knew he was an idiot!", because I relate. Insane how we go through so much crap for men who aren't even on our level. Flourish and shine, Sisi!!!
@Letstalk_915
2 жыл бұрын
I'm not married or in any kind of relationship but I'm glad I'm watching this now. Learning without any emotions clouding me. Thank you, ninja.
@KagoM
2 жыл бұрын
Facts.
@elizabethletsoso2558
2 жыл бұрын
Facts 💕
@nontoncube8450
2 жыл бұрын
I'm about to get married and I am happy to be seeing this.
@coconutwater4531
2 жыл бұрын
This is pretty much how it goes. Married people don’t tell the truth about marriage until they’re getting divorced.
@nyikobridgetchabalala819
2 жыл бұрын
Yesss🙌
@kgomotsohlaka7755
2 жыл бұрын
True, but only because no one wants to air their dirty laundry...
@moithekithaeli1658
2 жыл бұрын
I remember how perfect everything was in her marriage, she didn't mind sacrificing and dropping standards then. Hai us women sometimes
@kanyanemaja3443
2 жыл бұрын
Y vele
@tshegomsomi7685
2 жыл бұрын
Even in dating/relationships people only talk honestly after it’s over, I don’t think it’s about marriage
@jabulileskosana848
2 жыл бұрын
Unfortunately one only realises when they are at the end of the road that those good acts were mistakes, actually they only become mistakes when that sour end is reached. You have been sharpened by all you’ve been through and now we have hell of a strong ninja. As we learn from Owami’s journey may we not forget to love fully and may we allow ourselves to be crazy in love and remember that our men are not “Big guy”. Big ups to you Queen 🥷! Thanks for sharing
@reginamarike1112
2 жыл бұрын
Very true girl and very sad.
@swazi4769
2 жыл бұрын
I'm a married woman and I believe my husband and I love each other a lot, but the one thing we are open and honest about is that, we must never ever make each other our forever. My husband pushes me to be great, alone and sometimes I would feel the need to cover for him or give him the card to pay and he'd always tell me to never ever do that. There is nothing wrong in taking that card out and paying for dinner or expenses. I thought I was respecting him, but he didn't see it that way. He taught me that there is absolutely nothing wrong in being a successful woman and owning it with pride. We have our problems like every marriage does, but I so appreciate the fact that we both know that we can leave each other should shit hit the fan. This is not to say that we got married for convenience or got married to divorce, but we understand that we are human and life happens. We trust in God to bless our union and do best for each other in this union, but there is that human element and we can never run away from it. This is to our sister's, please learn to love yourself. The Bible makes it clear that Love each other as you love Yourself. If you love the other person more than yourself, then you are not loving in the first place. You are doing it out of fear, guilt and probably out of gratitude for what they've done for you in the past. You must be a priority and always teach a man how you want to be treated. Don't look for a man that will tick boxes for you. Make your own, tick your own boxes, let him know that when you are there, it's not out of necessity, it's out of choice and committment.
@refilwetlhaselo
2 жыл бұрын
Wow... 👏👏👏Well said. May God richly bless your union 😇❤️
@neomalete5832
2 жыл бұрын
❤️❤️My 18 year old will forever cherish this words from you
@TJ-my9nh
2 жыл бұрын
What a gent
@mgabimpiloh
2 жыл бұрын
Really love your perspective on marriage! Thank you for sharing
@swazi4769
2 жыл бұрын
@@mgabimpiloh Thanks Mgabi
@naumiyomi15
2 жыл бұрын
Some of the stuff you mentioned as mistakes, I feel they are purely part of your love language. Your acts of love were just not appreciated and taken for granted instead💔 So don't be too hard on yourself and stop doing them even in your future relationship and marriage. Lots of love
@Ms_Mshengu
2 жыл бұрын
Having watched your videos from marriage to being single , I can honestly say we are seeing the real Owami, not the one that lived in the shadows of her husband. She is confident , loves to live to the fullest is happy and is very Fancy not forget Business minded. Welcome back to yourself we love you .
@skylarrouge3466
2 жыл бұрын
❤❤
@reginamarike1112
2 жыл бұрын
Yes rather b single and become a hustler than live in someone's shadow.Been there i know the experians .
@HluLanie
2 жыл бұрын
I enjoy both Storytimes and Entertainment… I’m really learning from you Queen Ninja ♥️
@reneemat9181
2 жыл бұрын
One thing about men they never cease to put themselves first which is what most women fail at, so relatable ninja thank you for sharing your story with us ❤
@thatobaloyi6194
2 жыл бұрын
Even when they're nothing. But in their heads they're everything 😆
@anitatumeka1466
2 жыл бұрын
Eish I refused to be the fixer in a relationship, I relate when I was forced to land a bf money so he can send it to his mum. Haibo njani sana. Where was he landing from before me. I refused. Being selfish helps me in most love scams
@blossom6235
2 жыл бұрын
Girl I'm really feeling you on this one, this is how I became my ex husband's doormat, by catching him everytime he falls, lying to people to cover up for him, in the end I realized that I was lying and hurting myself in the process, I had to walk away from that toxic relationship, he was a sinking ship and I could see he was taking me down with him, and I could not allowed that, the worst part was he took me for granted and did not appreciate anything I did for him, he went on and moved on to his next victim like I never existed while we were still married, It took me a long time to figure things out and to get on my feet again, but through hard work and prayer I succeeded and got to where I am now, which is in a much better place, I even manage to moved to a different country far, far away ex thought I was not gonna make it without him, but low and behold here I am still standing strong, enjoying my life, you remind me of myself Owamie your work etiket speak for itself, you will go far in life just watch, as for your ex only one thing I can say "BOY BYE"!!!!!!!!
@omphilelegoale
2 жыл бұрын
don't beat yourself up, life is about learning and your never stop learning hey. just acknowledge the lesson and improve on it next time that's all. stop regretting cause regret might also pull you back
@lesley_lezley
2 жыл бұрын
Almost all my past relationships failed because of the “reasoning capacity” differences. It’s soo hard coz most people don’t even see it as an issue but it’s a BIG issue.
@toolietools1316
2 жыл бұрын
Well said Silindile. It is a very big issue indeed. Have gone through the same road and my ex thought I was being disrespectful but I realised his reasoning capacity was way way below mine, and so I left. I told myself that never in my life will I date or get married to someone who isn't at the same level with me intellectually. My Sociology University Lecturer also mentioned the same thing. Gal, we all laughed and he mentioned that years down the line you will realise what am saying. Tell you what?,I experienced it and called the damn relationship quits. M really in a good space, I now have standards as far as relationships are concerned. I said No to every Tom and Dick. I finally met someone who can reason like me and I am in a good space. I dont even regret upping my standards. I should have done it a long time ago.
@zamamaduma7424
2 жыл бұрын
From Owami's experience I'm learning to embrace my singleness. Looks like most marriages are really not worth it. Thank you for sharing.
@portiaphiri2682
2 жыл бұрын
Is it really safe to base your life plans on other peoples' situations? The men in my life are gifts. By men i mean my grand fathers, uncles, cousins, father, brother, husband and my son. I tell them all every single day. Yes my first call of the day is my father, next call is my brother. Husband and son - It depends on where they are.
@zamamaduma7424
2 жыл бұрын
@@portiaphiri2682 I'm not basing my life's plans on anyone's situation. I'm saying. MOST marriages are not worth it. You are one in 10 million to genuinely say you are happily married. I personally haven't met a married couple who has the type of marriage I DESIRE its always the woman going an extra mile to force the marriage to work. I haven't seen a married man who hasn't cheated on his wife at some point including my dad. For me if there's cheating involved that's not a marriage it's a joke. You are blessed if you husband is treating you well... most wives are holding on to the title with no real marriage. I would still get married if i find the right man but i would definately divorce him if he can't be the husband I need. You are the exception to the rule and I'm talking in general terms. Most people are suffering in marriage. I have nothing against men. I have great relationships with the men in my life too. Even my loving brothers are not great husbands to their wives... nothing to be desired.
@moithekithaeli1658
2 жыл бұрын
Seems like that's how Owami wants people to view marriage. I wonder what's she's going to say when she gets married again with all the dos and don't that's she's narrating. Unfortunately the guy will never "boldly" come onto KZitem and story time like she does
@portiaphiri2682
2 жыл бұрын
@@moithekithaeli1658 Eish... My skat
@zamamaduma7424
2 жыл бұрын
@@moithekithaeli1658 it's the truth thought. Not only from Owami, if you are being honestvery few marriages are really loving and satisfying especially for the woman. Owami has only shared the truth many women choose to turn a blind eye to because we all dream of being MRS even when it kills us. I'm yet to see a genuenly happy wife who is not trying to hide her husbands "abusive" ways. A real marriage is when two people are committed to each other without sidechicks involved and you hardly get such relationships. We can't refer to that mess as marriage
@oarabileshange3162
2 жыл бұрын
Maybe it's time we get a weekly segment called Ask Owami! You are so wise and your advice is on point 👌🏾 please consider this. People can send you there questions and you advise accordingly ❤️
@_molebogeng6281
2 жыл бұрын
She has started a segment already called Dear Owamie
@Elizabeth-uz3le
2 жыл бұрын
Yes 👏
@GFC45
2 жыл бұрын
Shuuuu, I saw myself in this video....i noticed some of the mistakes owami made in my previous relationship and that's when I decided to end things between us.... He was faithful, caring and basically everything a woman would want but I realized that I had to unlearn certain things I was loosing myself.... Didn't exactly know what I wanted. It was getting to a point that I would subconscious make decisions based on how I thought he would feel and not based on how I felt...... It's very easy to loose yourself in a relationship especially if you are not emotionally strong..... I had to choose Me.....
@LethoHali
2 жыл бұрын
Most of us have done this! 😢
@Padie_Mataranyika
2 жыл бұрын
Theres something i read where this guy said he lost respect for his wife the day she lent him money for her lobola. He said it felt like she was desperate for marriage and would do anything to keep it. So i think that was definitely the first mistake. I think you gave him an impression (like you said) that you will be there no matter to always clean his mess. I’m glad i came across this video and i hope you’ve healed and found better❤️
@marthasiabukandu3572
2 жыл бұрын
The "lower reasoning capacity"one had me rolling!!! You hit the nail on the head for me 😂👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
@TheeKanyeMsi
2 жыл бұрын
Those who need to receive this cautionary tale will, I appreciate your truth and sharing this with us ❤
@swazi4769
2 жыл бұрын
This was a deep and reflective video which I totally agree with. In as much as I feel so sad that you are going through this, I am celebrating the lessons that it has taught you. My late mother would say, either you learn from my mistakes or you will experience yours. This scared me a lot, but I appreciate people who have been bitten and are teaching us what they've seen and experienced so that we can do better. Thank you Owami for being so relevant and honest about your life, not necessarily the divorce only, but the transparency, I applaud.
@neomalete5832
2 жыл бұрын
Well said ❤️❤️
@sibongilesitshabane7843
2 жыл бұрын
U said it dear
@omphymoremi4770
2 жыл бұрын
ninja please don't punish your next partner because of your ex's mistakes. it is possible that u will meet a genuine guy who will love you like you loved Mr B... you are a good woman don't let such situations change how you love and the goodness in you, you just have to be careful gore who you share your good heart with.
@elizabethletsoso2558
2 жыл бұрын
Facts
@thepriestess5969
2 жыл бұрын
There's nothing genuinely beautiful than a Woman who tells her story, and own it ✍️📚
@Pula732
2 жыл бұрын
Many women go through what you are going through but very few are brave or honest enough with themselves to admit it .
@makgoxidee5266
2 жыл бұрын
That's why we say experience is the best teacher Ninja. We can never change the past BT just keep your head held high and move forward. The only thing that is permanent in this life is change. Keep on shining.
@aceentertainment5186
2 жыл бұрын
When a woman goes through z divorce they become wise, Owamie & Madam speaker are the best examples.
@florencembele1944
2 жыл бұрын
I was in the same boat all i did was think of my husband first put all his needs first then mine aside ,the worst part is when you not appreciated .I relate to your story in so many ways as for the decision making and picking up the pieces 🙆🏽♀️Owami I feel like we lived the same lives.
@anastasimankesemokgobu1724
2 жыл бұрын
Owamie what you went through is the situation of most married women in our country, and it is normalized by the family that continuously glamorize marriage even when it's hard. The bekezela should really not happen with our generation. The lying for husbands should stop, the taking care of kids alone even when you are married should stop. I really feel like it is a societal curse that needs to be broken, thank you for being open and honest about your experience.
@naumiyomi15
2 жыл бұрын
One thing I have learned is that at times we seem to want to believe that whenever we get our loved ones out of the troubles they caused, we are fixing. Truth is, at times we are the enablers. We need to know when to step in and when to step aside. Otherwise they never get the lessons and stop, simply because they know someone is there to bail them out!! You probably served as both. The fixer and enabler, at times. Anyway Shibubu, we learn and we move on ♥️✌⚘
@violetmakhafola
2 жыл бұрын
God will never put you in a situation that u can never get out..this marriage made you grow faster and the divorce made u wiser and ninja the hand that give receive more if you look at your life now wow we learn from our mistake especially the one we made while in love 🙏
@Therealjowi
2 жыл бұрын
Is your honesty and vulnerability for me 🙌🏾
@elizabethletsoso2558
2 жыл бұрын
🙌🙌🙌🙌
@lifedocumentaries6940
2 жыл бұрын
Owamie, have you watched Benjamin zulu ke? He's a psychologist and advices young people (18-24)to buld themselves 1st before dating or marrying. . Coz you might marry someone and you may not be compatible, hence you'll regret things you missed during that age range. You're comfirming everything he said about premature dating
@nolumsuthwana9969
2 жыл бұрын
He is so good and I like how he advises the under 25s
@noxolokhanyile205
2 жыл бұрын
He has help me so much👏😊
@_molebogeng6281
2 жыл бұрын
Not you buying him a play station to keep him distracted so you can work😂😂😂
@8moseema8
4 ай бұрын
I also found that part hilarious. She was literally in a relationship with a sucker. He was such a child.
@gabazamathobela5714
2 жыл бұрын
Never settle for less... Never compromise on your principles, belive in your instinct and always take red flags seriously...
@zandilezabengunigumede3069
2 жыл бұрын
I hate it when you decrease your standards but because of being in love we end up compromising too much in the name of maintaining peace😢
@nellyburu7322
2 жыл бұрын
Believe me we've all been there hey.
@reginamarike1112
2 жыл бұрын
True .Idid that but if u can c me now 😭😭😭too late and i regret big tym🤞
@nombedeshombangwa4523
2 жыл бұрын
@@reginamarike1112 same
@Theteaplug
2 жыл бұрын
I sooo relate to this, while I’ve never been married, I’m ambitious, I’m a dreamer , I want more out of life, I want the finer things, I often say my ambition haunts me at night I’ve noticed in many of my relationships that it’s either the guy becomes intimidated by that and low key wishes u don’t succeed, or u slowly become the fixer. Many are times guys have passed comments like “I know you are definitely going to be more successful than me” , I would take it as a compliment only to realize later that it was nolonger coming from a point of love. It’s not easy to meet someone with the same drive as you if are born ambitious
@noziphokhumalo2963
2 жыл бұрын
This is a POWERFUL video! We often see the red flags from a mile away but chose to hang in there all in the sake of love and hiding shame. Your journey will inspire and heal alot of women. 🙏
@lesegot8222
2 жыл бұрын
Strength to you Owamie❤Forgive yourself first babe.thats part of healing..Ive also made so many mistakes.Increasing credit cards limits only to transfer money to him..i neglected my friends too because he didnt like my unmarried friends&i took on more"family responsibilities" than i was supposed to, was actually playing husband&wife roles...and now i see that it was BS!
@tshilidzinegota8917
2 жыл бұрын
This is true. Married women tend to love their partner more than themselves. The Bible says love your neibour AS you LOVE YOURSELF NOT more than you love yourself. It's a mistake that we can't even justify. I've learned a lot Wami, thanks for the real talk.
@tumelomothoa2860
2 жыл бұрын
Omg he sounded like he was a big baby🤐🤭🤭…we ladies we tend to ignore the red flags from the beginning of the relationship cos we think they will change in marriage..WHICH IS DANGEROUS
@this_is_nyeleti
2 жыл бұрын
I remember going through my divorce last year around same time as you and I was in awe of how we were going through the same thing. Then this video. I swear it’s like watching myself speak in your body.
@phenyokgatla1131
2 жыл бұрын
So true hei, sometimes we worship marriage and we think without God and putting him above everything and our husband's we can make it
@this_is_nyeleti
2 жыл бұрын
@First 4 Ladie's B Camp I just felt like what we wanted in life and how we were navigating was nolonger in the same direction. It was a big dealbreaker for me because I literally had given up my personal goal to start something with him, something he'd claimed to want as well. After 3months, he started changing his stories, behaved oddly, basically the red flags were waving I'd have been stupid to ignore. I mentally prepared myself for what was loading because people were gonna talk about my decision. At some point, I wanted to keep trying but feared how I would end up stuck coz I'd eventually fall pregnant so I alerted myself again to stay focused. One event changed my life when he confessed that he wasn't ready to get married but had done it because he was scared of being alone, (we met in a foreign land). However, now that we had returned home, he basically had human resources to keep him entertained hence acting brand new. After that, it was clear that I had been used as a pacifier and was nolonger needed. I had also had countless arguments with him as we were disagreeing on the loss of direction and figured I was tired, fell into depression and one day without notice, I packed and took the most gracious L in my life. We'd been married for 8months only but I was like nahh let me go home. Thank God my family supported my decision and noone judged me. Above all I was at peace with my decision so noone was ever gonna make me feel some typa way. I Thank God I hadn't rushed to certifying the union so I walked free without unnecessary drama. The day I left he wasn't home. He just came home and found me gone. That's what a tired woman does. You stop preaching that you are gonna leave. You just leave and never turn back.
@lahiya92
2 жыл бұрын
The pain and regret in your voice says it all owamie.
@thepriestess5969
2 жыл бұрын
And the sadness in her eyes. But she's a very strong woman.
@suziebol9524
2 жыл бұрын
Never lose yourself in marriage/relationship; us women tend to do that and that’s one of mistake you would ever do to yourself.
@keleseeco9210
2 жыл бұрын
As a fellow KZitemr myself,your content is authentic and a lot of people are learning from your experiences.Keep up the good work of being impactful in the society.❤️
@anitaentertainment7847
2 жыл бұрын
In a world where men are not faithful anymore most ladies will overlook every other quality because the guy is faithful. There is more to marriage than that, yes he is faithful what else....? As a single woman l learnt a lot
@kutlwiok7083
2 жыл бұрын
One of the most candid videos ive ever watched on KZitem. Thank you for sharing Owamie and love and light to you.
@katlegoportia7575
2 жыл бұрын
I believe that's just how us women are when we are in love..... We give up on our life and dreams and focus mainly on our relationships or marriages.... As women when we are in love our life evolves around our partners
@nokulungamanqele4037
2 жыл бұрын
That's so true...That's how we are
@tebogomokobane8094
2 жыл бұрын
I am a woman i have been in love deeply. Mostly my pride made me to pause before i do some things Itz hurts a lot pretending. Bt deep down pride stopped me.
@TheOneWhoGotAway569
2 жыл бұрын
You never cease to amaze me, I love you from Kairo to Timbuktu Mama Ninja. You are so on point with the reasoning capacity shanday, especially when you have more education than him the argument always end up about you thinking you are better
@paulinamqoma6799
2 жыл бұрын
Yho ninja the truth in this video🙆🏽♀️ this is a reality for a lot of women and it’s sad that at the end of it all, we are the ones who look down on each other. Thank you Sis for your honesty, all you went through it’s not in vain. God bless you Ninja, and I know he has already started 🙏🙏💐💝
@isabelherold8857
2 жыл бұрын
In a nutshell the masculine and feminine energy in the relationship was very out of balance.
@nelzg5819
2 жыл бұрын
Your honesty is so appreciated and it will teach others some valuable life and marriage lessons. Thanks Owamiiie
@PowerHouseTalk
2 жыл бұрын
Heeeeeyyyy! The "yoh's" I kept exclaiming while watching this videos? Yesses! Owamie today you are preaching!
@neosefudi8785
2 жыл бұрын
Have good reasoning capacity Be ambitious Be consistent Set boundaries Prioritize Honesty Have open and transparent conversations
@tshimangadzomalinda2147
2 жыл бұрын
I'm getting married soon, this was worth my time. Thank you nwana wa mma
@PhindileNdimande
2 жыл бұрын
There is nothing as painful as a woman who loves a man and lowers herself and subjects herself under a man who has no goal and no vision. I have been there. That’s why I divorced my ex- husband at 24. I knew that I will not live another second in such. I was not willing to allow him to take me down to his standard and compromise my destiny No marriage is worth it when your spouse compromises your future and purpose. Marriage is suppose to elevate you not regress you. Keep soaring Queen Owamie ❣️❣️. Thank you for sharing , you are raising great awareness!
@zenelenhleko3010
2 жыл бұрын
As a person who wants to get married one day, I found this video very informative so much so that I went and I prayed on it. The answer I got wasn’t expected but so true that I had to share. The Holy Spirit told me that we as women tend to make men our gods and love and worship them more than God. They occupy the space in our minds and hearts that was supposed to belong to God. Then when they fall short from that glory because they are humans we are heartbroken and devastated. What we are doing is idolatry and it’s a sin. God wants us to love Him more than we love ourselves, so when we start loving men more than we love ourselves we’re setting ourselves up for failure.
@mathapelomakane840
2 жыл бұрын
Cheating is such a deal breaker for me too. Growing up with my parents, I saw and felt the devastation and damage of cheating. Their marriage really shaped my view on love
@cebisilemabaso8445
2 жыл бұрын
Owamie I'm so happy for you no matter what you are going through. I feel like this situation forced you to step into your Godly purpose and be the woman God created you to be. You are healing a lot of women through your story. Married and unmarried
@tinkotee6370
2 жыл бұрын
Hallelujah ❤️❤️
@unicahmanyapelo4356
2 жыл бұрын
You’ve over extended urself!you have mothered him ! U became his puppet although you outdone yourself in all aspects to see him happy’ you have sacrificed your time‘your own future‘you even moved away from your parents for him . NOW BABES it is ur turn 🙏 happy u had the courage to move away from that 💥 you are the best hun “u loved him .
@basanjena6424
2 жыл бұрын
I think i understand you. I was in a relationship for so long but i supported him more than i did for myself. That now um only concentrating on building myself.
@cyliamotsoenengzengele
2 жыл бұрын
What you are saying is so true, families tends to think that teachers are earning lots of money. Hence, whoever women gets involved with a teacher in particular, gets to be labeled by family as a gold digger.
@wendideliciousdivinethwala3191
2 жыл бұрын
It pains my heart to see the pain, sadness and sorrow in your eyes because of the memories you are sharing with us. I just want to thank you endlessly for sharing your experiences even though you didn't have to and even though your haters are now using your truth against you to satisfy their own agendas but please never stop telling your own truth bcz its yours and yours alone no one has a right to tell you how and when to tell it. I love and appreciate you Owamie. Sending you warm and tight virtual hugs 🤗💗
@napemogotsi9910
2 жыл бұрын
As married women tend to put our spouses first before ourselves, i had to choose myself and realize i can't dish from an empty cup. Which made him realize that marriage pr relationship is a union
@xoliemashaba6890
2 жыл бұрын
Owami, i feel you!! unfortunately as women we do this mistakes, even when we not married!! believe me... even emjolweni we do all this mistakes you are mantioning!
@nancyromencia2875
2 жыл бұрын
I love your story time cause one can relate to them and one can pick one or two things and apply them in life.. I learn from your story time..
@lucricia_mokgolo
2 жыл бұрын
I love how Owamie is comfortable to share her "lows" in life.❤❤❤
@Just_Mishi
2 жыл бұрын
I have made these mistakes so many times. I have recently been trying to live outside my relationship.
@lifewithqueenSolo
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much Ninja for your honestly and allowing yourself to be vulnerable to help other women out there. Coz WOW, we really made big mistakes as women when we are in love. I pray that you heal fully from all that you have been through and all that you are still going through.
@nondumisomthembu2112
2 жыл бұрын
this video deserves to be on tv yeses I've shared it o my platforms because its so educational
@cyliamotsoenengzengele
2 жыл бұрын
Ninja, let's start by celebrating 190k subscribers. Here come 200k🍾🥂🍹🍸
@bernardethg
2 жыл бұрын
I believe that because your mom died you were vulnerable he took advantage of this and I can relate because 5 years after my mom died I had a nervous breakdown, so I can totally understand and I must say I am grateful that I was not married and had no children because I was not in a good place in my life and I will pass what you are going through now. Let me tell you something I had money and I was critically depressed so I think sometimes mourning is necessary but I am happy to see that you growing and becoming the person you are suppose to be and as always great advice ☺️
@magogesenong7912
2 жыл бұрын
you are right many women in marriage suffer from "good daughter-in-law" disease.
@botlemooa8502
2 жыл бұрын
I really love the intro...bathong a bit of Tshivenda here and there! I love it.
@makuyandivhudza1416
2 жыл бұрын
Nia divha nachi mufuna munna wanu sesi tjoo ha noo.. This man was definitely ur world sis tjo...am glad you've healed babe 💕
@phuti_leblomo9000
2 жыл бұрын
i am just so happy that after the cheating scandal you chose yourself and that this relationship taught you so much about self worth and self importance. we love you sis and we wish you well through your divorce process.
@isabelherold8857
2 жыл бұрын
I think you have raised very valid points,. they assist also in identifying what makes a decent partner. I don't think they are mistakes per se though but perhaps overextending yourself even if you didn't have too. I think in the mistakes next time you could incorporate perhaps things such as stuff that you wish to have had done better for him, such as perhaps participating in activities he liked more, cooking more etc.
@naledindlovu976
2 жыл бұрын
Admitting faults to self is a bumpy ride...I could tell this was difficult for you to do and worse admit it to the world too but you are more the wiser now 💖
@faithsibisi9988
2 жыл бұрын
WE HAVE ALL BEEN THIS WOMAN I HAVE BEEN THIS WOMAN
@sinelizwinkwali9845
2 жыл бұрын
I don't care what other gossip pages are saying about Owami, I believe her. The way Owami articulates her story you can see it's coming from a genuine place and she does have disclaimers that she doesn't wanna embarrass Mr. B but telling her story, I fully agree. Women have suffered a lot in silence trying to protect the men in their lives, It's time we address everything that makes us uncomfortable that little girls can learn from us.
@thatobaloyi6194
2 жыл бұрын
This was one of her best videos
@TheOneWhoGotAway569
2 жыл бұрын
I don't even go to other gossip pages, there's no need😁. This woman is every woman I swear everything she says resonates with me whether I've had that same experience or not.
@pelomk9022
2 жыл бұрын
Those females seem to have a personal vendetta against, Owamie. They always try to make everything her fault
@thandimokgalagadi8722
2 жыл бұрын
Tjoe Owamie… you hit a spot always. This happens all the time. I’m not for the broke life either… I feel you
@jabulindelwa9601
2 жыл бұрын
I been there shem gal so sorry, this pain you feeling i dont wish to anyone, not even to my enemies....
@nitamagwira5089
2 жыл бұрын
God bless you sthandwa sami thank you so so soo much for bring so deep and open. I have definitely absorbed everything you just warned us about. It's very hard being a woman, an African woman. I really wish you nothing but the best❤❤🥺🥺.
@unathikave548
2 жыл бұрын
YESSS Ninja I am also not for the broke life soze. Someone once called me greedy because I was asking for money that was due to me. So if you don't know my experience don't judge me based on your perceptions.
@tatsohrams
2 жыл бұрын
I’m not married but I did those mistakes in a fake relationship that I thought wasn’t fake and I thought it’s leading somewhere😂🤣🤣😅😅 you not the only one Ninja 😍😍😍
@faithfulmeditation7290
2 жыл бұрын
You said some powerful things in this video especially about standards. Thank you for sharing and being honest and seeing your faults.
@nolwazimlambo1045
2 жыл бұрын
This video is so refreshingly candid, was definitely worth watching. Lessons anyone and everyone can learn from! Keep your head up high Owami!
@nashiehun9141
2 жыл бұрын
It's your father's wisdom for me 👏🙌
@ellahnokane4536
2 жыл бұрын
I’m gonna share this video with everyone who has data🤭 Girl this content right here is the one, keep it 💯 👌🏽… you just took a different turn.. soo real 🤗
@Cleo.N
2 жыл бұрын
I know we've never met but I just wanna give the biggest hug cause yhoooooo... ma'am 🥺
@DearLisa
2 жыл бұрын
Ninja you've learnt from your mistakes and we take notes from such and thank you for your honesty
@hlawulekoingrid2649
2 жыл бұрын
Kiwanis this as A 22 year old who's trying to build my life you are teaching us a lot and i hope not to forget this lessons love you ninja is so nice getting to know the real you
@evalekgothoane6078
2 жыл бұрын
SESI Owami, how about a podcast where you invite women that are still in marriages, those in relationships , single (old and young women) who can also come and advice on how to self correct once one realises that they are making this mistakes. As well as a platform where woman can come share their experiences and help each other grow
@zelokuhlegina5886
2 жыл бұрын
Owamie I really understand all that you say about poverty .I have a university degree and good paying job but my husband in unemployed. We are really struggling and I do not wish thi life for someone else.
@glorymasuku4583
2 жыл бұрын
This feels like a sister to sister talk🤍🥺
@sinethembamagasela1833
2 жыл бұрын
You are one strong woman Owami, I bow down to you 🙇♀️🙇♀️
@thabiledladla7424
2 жыл бұрын
It seems like we all went through this, lowering our standards to make our partners feel comfortable to be with us. Yoh!!! Never again mntase.
@portiampatiramoshayi8899
2 жыл бұрын
Everything happens for a reason. There is something about you Lady O. You are destined for greatness. GO FIND YOUR PURPOSE IN THIS WORLD . And don't let anything or anyone destruct you I SALUTE MY QUEEN 💯 BEHIND YOU 💓💓💓
@theo-doll_masuku
2 жыл бұрын
This sounds exactly like my ex, I'm so glad that I realized and got out before we even got married, let alone having his child. We tried having one the whole of last year and nothing happened, I THANK GOD!!! I have no doubt that he loved (and Still does) me but I was gonna suffer financially. He couldn't take the breakup, he lost his mind. I don't regret my decision
@fumaneleketa7968
2 жыл бұрын
Ur story as the same as mine..but I am 8 months pregnant...work for 12 hours a day on my feet..while he stays at home and write songs and dream on becoming famous one day
@theo-doll_masuku
2 жыл бұрын
@@fumaneleketa7968 so sorry to hear that.. it’s gonna get tough now that baby is on the way 😭
@theo-doll_masuku
2 жыл бұрын
He better be daycare when you go back to work. Good luck ♥️
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