I never wanted children, never had them, and I have never once regretted the decision.
@alongreverie
3 сағат бұрын
1: I don’t drink so no boozy brunches. 2: I work in a lab doing science shit all day. I send maybe 2 emails a day and I definitely can’t do it at home. She needs a more diverse group of women to pull from… 🤨
@cindysue5902
3 сағат бұрын
So women 1,000 years ago who were shipped off to convents were . . . My grandmother didn't want kids. She wanted to travel the world as a missionary. Instead she got married to my grandfather, 6 months later had a child, and 6 more after that. She was toxic, abusive, angry and blamed my grandpa for her life. The 5 children who survived to adulthood all had issues and trauma and three of them (Including my Dad) married some very good people who helped them with those issues.
@trollnystan
11 минут бұрын
Same, my grandmother wanted to be a nun. Instead she was married off to a man over ten years her senior and had four kids. She went to mass at least 4 times a week, but I guess she thought also thought going to confession meant you never had to change because she could be real mean, giving my sister ED while she was living with her. The first thing she did after not seeing me for three years was to comment on how 13 year old me was fat and needed to go for a run. She was disappointed when she didn't see one of her barbs hit. Not to mention she forced my mother to give up my half-brother for adoption, afterwards bullied her to the point that my mother left the country and went to live with my uncle, who'd also shamed her for the out-of-wedlock baby but was still a better choice at the time than my granny. My mother and my aunts and uncles clearly had/have PTSD from their childhoods which in turn affected their kids. Thankfully most of us kids have put in the work to be better, although one or two of us are never gonna get there. I myself long ago chose, despite loving and wanting kids, to NOT have them because I can barely take care of myself let alone another human being 24/7/365 for at least 18 years. Cats is as far as I go lol
@b0thers0me
2 сағат бұрын
That woman so angry that I don't have kids... I wouldn't want to be her kid. Imagine the pressure, imagine the judgement they face from her every day, about every little decision. I bet she forces them to have only certain colors in their rooms, only wear certain kinds of clothes, eat a certain way, sit a certain way. Gods, she sounds abusive and exhausting.
@user-ho4nh2tp2i
3 сағат бұрын
I don't understand why is the woman using the phrase "genetic dead end" like that's something bad and all people are ever here for is to procreate. I bet all I have that she's actually very unhappy and empty on the inside. I have never met anyone who thinks that procreating is their only job that's also satisfied with their life. Almost as if people's purposes go beyond just procreating.
@ndeluca77
3 сағат бұрын
Child free here… ive known since I was 13 I didn’t want kids. I love my niece and the kids I work with but being a parent is not what I want. Nothing can change my mind
@bethanypuleo
2 сағат бұрын
Amen!
@stutikhanna987
3 сағат бұрын
Men being childfree world is like wow Women being childfree world is like you're selfish 😂
@bethanypuleo
2 сағат бұрын
I know right!? It's like others look down on you as if you're not an "adult woman" unless you pop out a baby. 😑
@obscurum6
Сағат бұрын
Men are not risking their lives to reproduce. They won't die doing it. Women will die having children: 1 in 5000 pregnancies in the USA and 1 in 80 pregnancies in Sudan for example. And the mortality rate for pregnancy is getting worse globally! 🙄
@Yendor1224
Сағат бұрын
But God have mercy if you are a single mother!
@obscurum6
Сағат бұрын
@@Yendor1224 The attitude towards single mothers is because men want to own women's reproductive rights. It's based on the idea of women as property of one man/slave owner. In nature all females are single mothers.
@ellandecampbell6279
3 сағат бұрын
No one (regardless of gender) should be pressured to have kids, for ANY reason. Period. I personally love being an uncle, but I also love being able to give them back (so I shouldn't be a parent).
@obscurum6
Сағат бұрын
Men are not risking their lives to reproduce. They won't die doing it. Women will die having children: 1 in 5000 pregnancies in the USA and 1 in 80 pregnancies in Sudan for example. And the mortality rate for pregnancy is getting worse globally! 🙄
@kathryn3802
17 минут бұрын
I feel the same way about being an Aunt.
@katinkaraab1964
3 сағат бұрын
Just be pro Immigrants and be Happy with your reproductive choices. Yes Humanity as a whole needs to reproduce but that does not mean every human does.
@obscurum6
Сағат бұрын
No it doesn't. The 'population crisis' is a red pill bs. Humans won't die off. But if they did so what? Also you could breed like mad then a global cataclysmic event happens and it was all for what? At some point people will all be gone. The sun will destroy the solar system. There could be an asteroid. Breeding like crazy didn't save the dinosaurs. 😆 It's funny that people are so worried about human extinction. 😆
@eniggma9353
Сағат бұрын
Conclusion: Times changed for the better for women.. and people who do not want children shouldn't. *Grumpy cat:* G00D.
@darcyroyce
3 сағат бұрын
I loved, worked with, taught, coached and cared for children exclusively for the past 25 years... I think I paid any societal dues to help raise a new generation, I might have had. I'm now doing the biggest job, I'm reparenting my long neglected inner child. Long overdue and enough, for the time being. If I ever found the type of man I'd be comfortable coparenting with, I'd adopt a child or children with him. Otherwise, I'm fine.
@MirageAtPlay
3 сағат бұрын
There isn't a force upon this earth that could make me give birth. I opted out of motherhood in every possible medical way. No regrets.
@EH23831
2 сағат бұрын
Million dollar question: why does this woman care if others don’t want kids???
@bethanypuleo
2 сағат бұрын
Because all parents want others to drink the Kuku juice like them so they complain and have others suffer with them. Misery loves company.
@obscurum6
Сағат бұрын
Narcissists. 1. They think they are right about everything. 2. They see others as an extension of themselves not as separate individuals. 3. They suffer a narcissistic injury when you disagree with them. It causes them shame.
@melissamiller2696
3 сағат бұрын
I love children. The reason I decided not to have kids included: I was still recovering (or not) from childhood PTSD. Had dysfunctional relationships with men who at any rate couldn't afford to raise children. I couldn't earn enough to raise them myself. I'm autistic with ADHD and highly sensitive, living life takes a lot out of me. I'm exhausted all the time. I feared I would hit my kids when overstressed and startled. So I think it was a good thing to stop that genetic line. But, what is it about 8 billion world population she doesn't understand?
@obscurum6
Сағат бұрын
Men are not risking their lives to reproduce. They won't die doing it. Women will die having children: 1 in 5000 pregnancies in the USA and 1 in 80 pregnancies in Sudan for example. And the mortality rate for pregnancy is getting worse globally! 🙄
@obscurum6
Сағат бұрын
She overlooks that her child, grandchild may be infertile or choose not to reproduce. Or they might be gay, might adopt etc. It's ridiculous she thinks HER having a baby guarantees her genetics won't come to a 'dead end' at some point. 🙄
@dorino9057
2 сағат бұрын
Those women back in the day had no choice but to have kids
@annescholten9313
3 сағат бұрын
A truly happy childless lady; love my life!❤
@kellyely9113
3 сағат бұрын
Also happy to be childless, mainly because I myself struggle to maintain a relationship because of a mood/ mental disorder that, in my opinion, disqualifies me from being a healthy and attached parent, so I chose not to be a long ago. I am happy helping with my nephews and engaging with children in my community when I am out with my dog, but otherwise, have no desire to procreate. Society is extremely restrictive to a women's bodily autonomy once she chose marriage and children (and before that, being treated like property and livestock during childhood), and only in the last century has there been ANY sort of freedom to choose the life we want, marriage or not, children or not, career or not or all of the above, and frankly, a lot of women choose to have children for the wrong reasons (need emotional support, need a legacy, need to prove something to someone else or "be the parent" they never had, some dumb bullshit like that). If I had had access to mental health services at a younger age, I may have chosen marriage and children for myself (I actually really like children), but getting into adulthood and realizing I don't adult well without extreme routine and regulation of diet, exercise and regulating environments (which for me, are natural and alone or with my dog), which you do not have in relationships, let alone marriage and having children. It's not a flex to have children if you're having them to flex and demean other people for choosing not to. It's also not a flex for childless people to demean people with children, but I see a lot less of that and a lot more shaming of child free women.
@PotatoChicken-gg1ju
Сағат бұрын
Society should change the expectations it has for mothers. I refuse to work full-time and do 100% of the housekeeping, event planning, and parenting for my family. That's just being a single mother with extra steps, in my opinion 🤷♀️ And no, I don't want to be a stay-at-home mom, either, because I saw the abuse that happened to my mother as a result when I was growing up. I will never trust any man enough to financially depend on him, period.
@sannita2007
Сағат бұрын
Apparently there are many people talking about regret in Reddit posts. My case: since teenager, I’ve known that I don’t want biological children nor I have ever dreamed about wedding and marriage. I’m 51 and still happy with my decision. One big part of my decision is my genetic disorder, I have no good genes to pass on. To the society: childless people, most of us, we don’t hate kids. Most of them like kids a lot. We just don’t want them 24/7 for 18+ years. And to the people who think “childless women have no purpose”; I have help several hundred families raise teenagers during my almost 30 years long career. I think I’ve done something meaningful and apparently I have saved several lives. In the other side was my mums friend. She had several parents who were unable to commit and 7 miscarriages and she was sad about it for the rest of her life. So bashing childless women you are hurting the ones who wanted but never could; not us who chose to live without kids. If someone has or has not children it’s nobody else’s business. Unless the pregnant person and/or baby are in danger, that’s when we all can jump in.
@UnsortedSeeds
41 минут бұрын
I'm a childfree woman that just never wanted kids. I've known since I was a kid. The older I've gotten, the more that decision became cemented in my mind. There isn't anything that could change in society to make me change that stance. I have too many reasons not to, one of which is that I'm absolutely terrified of the idea of something growing in me. These morons bloviating about this online and in person aren't going to change my mind on it either. No means no, and their incessant verbal flatulence on the subject just annoys me and others like me.
@jeansollot6419
3 сағат бұрын
Don't know how I found his content, but he just makes my day. It's brilliant and funny. Good luck, brother!
@FringePrincess
2 сағат бұрын
yeah, his sub count is growing!
@bethanypuleo
2 сағат бұрын
Amen!
@kelseylogas1580
39 минут бұрын
It doesn't matter if anything changes at all. I never wanted kids. That being said, probably the biggest problem I am seeing is the fact that women still do the majority of all the heavy lifting in a marriage and parenthood. Get rid of the desire to be parented, weaponized incompetence, and a refusal to learn or notice details on the part of men and you would fix possibly 90% of the relationships with kids that I see. Men need to be equal partners in raising kids, regardless of who works.
@rach_storm-007
2 сағат бұрын
I’m not child-free but I don’t understand why someone else’s choice to not have kids would be any of my business. Makes no sense. I have quite a few friends who are child-free by choice. Does it bother me? Why the hell would it?? And a genetic dead end? Okay, lady. You continue looking down at women who don’t act like they did 1000 years ago while you enjoy the choices you get to make for your own life. Ffs 🤦🏻♀️
@obscurum6
Сағат бұрын
She overlooks that her child, grandchild may be infertile or choose not to reproduce. Or they might be gay, might adopt etc. It's ridiculous she thinks HER having a baby guarantees her genetics won't come to a 'dead end' at some point. 🙄
@bethanypuleo
2 сағат бұрын
AMEN!!! My husband and I choose not to have children because we are both special education teachers. We are too busy helping the children that are already here to make our own anyway. Then we go home at the end of the day to our pet rabbits and it is beautiful.
@obscurum6
2 сағат бұрын
Not having your own kids because they would "talk back to you" says why you shouldn't be a parent.
@chelsea7755
2 сағат бұрын
I've told my husband since 15 that I wouldn't want kids. I love kids and want them in my life in ways beyond parenting. I have my niece and nephew (and another niece on the way). I also like my quiet time lol 😆, sunrise kayaking or hiking, and having an ability to pay bills without living to work. Who cares who wants kids or doesn't. Learn what you desire in life and fight for it. I'm proud of you regardless.
@obscurum6
Сағат бұрын
15. Wtf. 😱
@kurapika5784
Сағат бұрын
@@obscurum6no no no, they were DATING when she was 15. She just calls him her husband cause they are married now.
@obscurum6
Сағат бұрын
@@kurapika5784 You know her personally? 🙄 Anyway, if she was telling him she wanted to avoid pregnancy at 15 it means he was having sex*x with her as a minor, so not right and not legal. 15 is too young to be getting into a relationship.
@kurapika5784
Сағат бұрын
@@obscurum6 no i don’t know her personally, I’m sorry if I came off as rude. I just thought that that was what she meant. Sorry
@kurapika5784
Сағат бұрын
@@obscurum6also I didn’t want kids when I was younger. I wasn’t doing anything like that. I just thought it would be good to make sure we agree on that so we’re both happy. If that makes sense.
@paulagfsoares
2 сағат бұрын
My parents had a terrible marriage and my mother always reminded me how I ruined her life. Why do you have children just because society want you to have? I really don't understand. I don't wanna have children because I'm bipolar. First, I don't wanna pass this mental disoder to anybody. It's too much pain. Also, pregnancy is super hard and I have high chances to have postpartum depression. And I'm completely scaried to be like my mother. Once, I got pregnant, but I miscarriaged. I got into a deep depression, but now I understand that somethings are not meant to be.
@bethanypuleo
2 сағат бұрын
You are a good person. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise, hun.
@paulagfsoares
2 сағат бұрын
@@bethanypuleo Thank you. ❤️
@katherinemcintosh7247
59 минут бұрын
I don’t see women as “bragging” about deciding not to have children. It strikes me that they are just saying it. It seems to me that these people complaining about the supposed bragging may just be envious of these women standing up for what they want out of life.🤷🏻♀️ I like to point out to our children the spending decisions those who decide not to have children are free to make. We love our children, they know it, we wanted and continue to want to be parents. They also are aware that parenting is an expensive decision to make. And if one does not want to have children, one is free to do different things with their money. Free to buy a lake house and a boat, for instance.
@cammackk
3 сағат бұрын
Great video, people should not be obligated to live a life they don't want to. With that said, if you are a man or woman who has chosen to never want children in your life, please tell your significant other earlier in the relationship, will most likely save you a lot of trouble down the line
@chickadee1607
Сағат бұрын
I don't think anything would make me want kids because at the end of the day, I don't want a kid in my house all the time. I might at least consider it if parents had more support from their community. But since they don't, I've chosen to be that community for my friends with kids, which is a win-win because that's easier and less stressful for me to do when I don't have my own kids to take care of at the same time.
@missouriprideusa6241
2 сағат бұрын
With the price of food going up, childcare going up, rent or mortgages going up, gas prices, plus student debts to pay off, isn't it no wonder most women don't want children. That's practically the whole month's paycheck. For me, I'm a mother of two and have always wanted kids, but in this day and age, especially today, children are expensive.
@obscurum6
Сағат бұрын
The average childcare costs are 20% of people's income.
@serendipityshopnyc
55 минут бұрын
I'm past the age of childbearing but never wanted them. I have cats and friends and a good life. My brother who loves kids has two biological children and five stepchildren and some grandchildren via his two marriages, and a good life in his own style. I figure he's done more than enough for my family bloodline to carry on.
@RiverkeeperEmberStar
Сағат бұрын
I've seen plenty of moms with children having boozy brunches What has to change the society... For me I need my insurance to cover medical procedures that are for my benefit and are going to help me overcome this horrible illness. Some people that have certain health issues it's not so bad having children but when you deal with crohn's disease like I do you just don't want to put that on anybody else. It's the reason why I just stay single. I have the greatest companion in the world is now it's not a cat it's a dog! However I'm still a childless cat lady even though I have a dog and not a cat.
@Yendor1224
Сағат бұрын
It screams "I don't want kids but the society pressured me to have some. Because I am angry about it I hate people who can stand up for themselves and don't do stuff solely because of pressure."
@EcoSailor
3 сағат бұрын
Well said.
@coolkumquats
4 минут бұрын
I am neutral about having children personally, but I strongly believe that nobody should have a baby unless they are absolutely sure they want and can take care of one. Children deserve parents who have the financial and emotional resources to provide them with a good, safe home environment. If the answer to "do I want the responsibility of parenthood?" isn't an emphatic yes, then it's a no. For me to have children, I would need 1) a loving, long-term partner who wants children, and is committed to being an involved parent, 2) a supportive community of nearby friends and family because it really does take a village to raise a child, 3) a government that will not prosecute me if my pregnancy ends in a miscarriage or if something goes wrong and an abortion is medically necessary, 4) a medical system that will support me and my child so I can give birth safely and without going into debt on hospital bills, and 5) a total household income of at least half again what I am currently earning to ensure the child will always be well fed and clothed and can grow up in a home where money is not a stressor.
@rhapzodienpurple
2 сағат бұрын
A better society that includes EVERYONE
@nix2747
48 минут бұрын
If these women want babies they can have all the babies. Nothing is wrong with that. Leave the rest of us out of it.
@kesia872
Сағат бұрын
Most of the people that complain like this are mostly mad that others aren't as unhappy in their decisions as they are. If you were happy with your life, you wouldn't be upset that there are people living their lives on their terms and not hurting anyone. Children benefit the most by having parents that actually wanted to have them. That's just a fact that they want to ignore. I also would love to see how she talks about women that have no children due to miscarriages, infertility, or a multitude of complications that can be fatal.
@Fates1Embrace
Сағат бұрын
I decided when I was 9 that the only way I would have children was if I adopted. I didn’t want children in general, but even then I knew there were too many people in the world, & so many in need of love, so adoption would be the only way if I ever changed my mind. This was before I got chronically ill, before I got a partner, before I faced any hardships at all. I’m 29 now & I still do not want children. Love being an aunt, happy to help out, but have never wanted any of my own. There is not one single factor that could change that for me.
@janmots2829
Сағат бұрын
To be honest, I have never wanted kids and I never will.. But if things were to change I'd say having adults be positive role models in their kids lives by teaching them manners, decency, how to manage and regulate their emotions, behaving responsibly that is suitable for their age bracket, respecting other people and property. Not running around in gangs, being disrespectful, rude, arrogant and self-absorbed by their social media rubbish. Engaging with the world and being a part of a society and living in it...
@AnOpalGhost
24 минут бұрын
I'm so confused as to how my entire existence's measure is whether I have a child? I help watch my friends' kids, I create and share things with people, I'm a support pillar in the lives of many - but just because I haven't ALSO created life none of that counts? That's all that's counted as a contribution to the world?
@obscurum6
Сағат бұрын
If that 'cool' woman is so concerned that her genetics carry on and not become a genetic 'dead end' she is wasting her time on having children. She should just donate her eggs.
@gingerfellah5665
2 сағат бұрын
I always wanted to have kids and had them but the man who fathered them was very abusive to me and neglectful of them. I adore my kids but I’ve got tremendous guilt about their dad.
@andriannajohnson2991
Сағат бұрын
Not everyone should be a parent either, my mom says she shouldn't have been...people like John Cena don't want kids for all the right reasons. He feels his lifestyle isn't conducive to being a dad. Granted that's a man but there a lots of women who feel the same way for the same reasons.
@andromedaspark2241
3 сағат бұрын
Other people carry the same genes as we do. The world doesn't require popping out babies to try to make mini-mes to carry on the "bloodline". I had a baby, but no way would do it for something so arbitrary as the notion of a bloodline. What, she have some noble dynasty she must people through her own loins?
@PeculiarGirlKelly
Сағат бұрын
I only wanted children when I was quite young and still following the prescribed life plan society gave me. What it would take for me to have wanted children later would be a cure for all mental illnesses and most medical ones. No more war and no more politics. Ideally an environmentally stable planet as well, not to mention a stable life partner. So not much really. 😂
@julialostetter8855
2 сағат бұрын
I'd have kids if I didn't have to give birth to them and they could spend most of the time being taken care of by other people. Actually maybe I'll just stick with being an aunt.
@LadyMarigoldWithers
Сағат бұрын
I sometimes wondered whether meeting the right man might have changed my mind but as I never met him and never went gooey over babies or enjoyed being around children much it was a no-brainer to be childfree. More like societal pressure and wishing I could fit in. The other obvious indicator was the military precision with which I took birth control lol and the couple times I did have a scare I ABSOLUTELY DREADED a positive result. I don’t want relationships anymore because of the hassle involved in ‘guarding my womb’; I like my life simple and my stress manageable - neither of which I’ve been able to achieve with a man.
@sardonicrose
Сағат бұрын
Hello, childfree person again! If the child in question has to exlusively be a biological child, then there is nothing society could ever change in order to make me want one. I just do not fuck with pregnancy, for a plethora of reasons. If you need at least one: Nearly every health condition you can have has a higher risk of occurrence and/or severity during pregnancy, and there are many new pregnancy and postpartum-exclusive conditions, too! If it can also be adoption, then shit, there's A LOT that needs to change. Paid parental leave for all, subsidized childcare for all, the minimum wage needs to be high enough to at least comfortably support myself, let alone me + a child, a partner who is equitably as involved as I would be really nice, universal healthcare, a gigantic overhaul to the foster and adoption systems and the education system that have been LONG overdue... just like. A HUGE systemic overhaul in general is what it would take to make me consider it.
@Judep4237
2 сағат бұрын
When did we start thinking that everyone should live cookie cutter lives
@caligrl357
Сағат бұрын
She’s just jealous 😂
@magicturtel
3 сағат бұрын
Honestly i think the idea that me as a woman have to sucrfise everything for my childrens and they come first no matter what. Also that having children and raising a family is my only purpose in life as a woman and nothing else is as important or bring value to me as a person. Basically let me live a life WITH kids not a life FOR kids
@obscurum6
Сағат бұрын
Men are not risking their lives to reproduce. They won't die doing it. Women will die having children: 1 in 5000 pregnancies in the USA and 1 in 80 pregnancies in Sudan for example. And the mortality rate for pregnancy is getting worse globally! 🙄
@SherioCheers
3 сағат бұрын
I can't have kids - but I would want to see no school shootings int he US, there's a start - I'd also want to see the ability to be successful at one job and to have work have meaning in the US... but we're not there either. I also would see the process cost thousands of dollars less in the US... there's another thing.
@faiora
3 сағат бұрын
I would have been childfree. That would have been my choice for myself, all things considered. But the person I love cares about having a family, and I decided that his fulfilment was worth some sacrifice for me (he would have stayed childfree for me; there was no pressure involved in this decision). I love my kids, I’m proud of them, and they bring a lot to my life. But I’m under no illusion that my life would be worse overall without them. It would have been legitimate for me to choose not to have kids. For me that would have meant saying goodbye to my SO, so that he’d have a better chance of having a life that was what he dreamed of. I didn’t specifically dream of not having kids. I just knew my dreams would be more difficult with kids. And I can live with that. :)
@aprilwashington3150
3 сағат бұрын
🎯
@simoansays4820
Сағат бұрын
Why would this woman think her opinion would matter to anyone who has chosen not to parent? Stay in your own lane, ya like seeking bossy Linda! lol
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